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N aturall y Thin
Bethenny Frankel
with Eve Adamson
A Touchstone Book
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You have come into my life and allowed me to come into yours.
Everything I do is to show you that anything and everything
is possible, and we will get there together.
Introduction
Who I Am, What This Book Is About,
and What You Need to Know Before You Begin 1
Rule 1
Break the Chain: Surviving Childhood 18
Rule 2
Find Your Truth: How I Finally Met My Match 64
Rule 3
Act on It: My Dream Evolves 114
Rule 4
Everything’s Your Business: Finding My Stride As an Entrepreneur 143
Rule 5
All Roads Lead to Rome: The Rise and Fall of BethennyBakes 174
Rule 6
Go for Yours: The Apprentice, Martha, and Me 201
Rule 7
Separate from the Pack: My Life as a “Housewife” 226
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Rule 8
Own It: Bethenny Getting Married? 253
Rule 9
Come Together: My Life Now 276
Rule 10
Celebrate!: The Business of Being Happy 311
Acknowledgments 323
Own It
Bethenny Getting Married?
T his next rule is one of those rules that applies at any stage of
life—as much when you’re first starting out as when you’re at the
peak of your success. It’s a rule I’ve always lived by, and it really
came to fruition at the next stage in my life. It will be your ally and
your greatest defender, no matter what you’ve done. Rule #8 is your
touchstone: Own it.
Owning it is about honesty, and copping to what you’ve done or
said—no matter what. Some people say I take it too far. I am the
queen of TMI. I sometimes overshare or say inappropriate things in
part to entertain people, in part to entertain myself—it’s my strange
sense of humor. In some way, it makes me feel more real, like I’m
really here with my two feet on the ground, running my own show
and not under anybody’s thumb. It’s my way of being myself.
But no matter what I reveal, on my show, in my books, in my
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about the past, I can’t move on from it. I can’t break the chain. Also,
I can’t help people, or even ask them to live a certain way, unless I
can stand up and do it first. I have to tell my story. I have to let you
under the hood of my life, so I can lead by example and help other
people with their own struggles. I have to do it for myself, for my
husband, for my daughter . . . and for you. I’m sorry if she’s uncom-
fortable with how I remember my past, but I have to own it, and I
can’t be responsible for her inability to own what she’s done or who
she is.
She might be angry with me, or maybe she’s not anymore. I
don’t know. All I know is that I’m not angry with her about the past.
I’m deeply hurt by her recent actions, but not surprised. I believe
people shouldn’t complain or explain. At some point, you have to let
it go. Every time I’ve ever talked to my mother, she’s full of negativ-
ity. The last time I talked to her, I told her I was breastfeeding, and
she said, “I didn’t breastfeed you. Maybe that’s what I did wrong!”
Then she told me my husband must be from New York because my
accent was horrible. (He’s not, by the way.) When it comes to my
mother, there is always a dig.
All I can do is stand up for myself and own my own life, and do
everything I can to protect my daughter. That’s the whole point of
rule #8. The truth sets you free, so own it.
This book is about me. And it’s about you. Maybe I take it too
far by wearing my heart (and all my other body parts) on my sleeve,
but I do it to defeat my own childhood noise. It’s my coping mecha-
nism. It’s the way I own it, and it works for me. It helps me be
lighter and not take myself too seriously.
If you want to have integrity, if you want to feel right and good
and strong about what you are doing and where you are going with
your life, you have to own it. Do you feel it? Did you say it? Did you
do it? Did you really mean it? Is it who you really are? Then own it.
Rule #8 is about taking responsibility for who you are, what you
do, what you stand for. It’s about being truthful, not just to other
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