Executive Coaching

Approach and
Competency Model
 1. Renewal Process

A. Direction and
Meaning

C. Sustainable B. Disciplined
Ecology Implementation
 2. Direction and Meaning

Purpose Direction
Clarity and and
Vision Meaning
 3. Disciplined Implementation

Reference
Focussed Disciplined
and Review Implementation
Planning
System
 4. Sustainable Ecology

Life Long Relationships

and Sustainable
Learning Ecology
Support
5. Competencies
 PROCESS ELEMENT FOCUS AREA COMPETENCY COMPETENCY DESCRIPTION

Practicing mindful interaction,

Clarity Mindful Living eating, exercising, thinking

Develop desired outcome for

Visioning life, work and relationships
Direction and
Meaning Purpose Vales Alignment Align desired values with values
in action
and Vision
Setting achievable outcomes
SMART Goal Setting that are aligned with personal
ecology

Conducting a total mind and life

De-cluttering sweep
Focused Planning
Categorising, scheduling
Action Planning projects and actions

Disciplined Systematically executing action

Implementation Pacing Action steps and recording outcomes
Reference And Review
System
(For Tenacious
Setting up an independent
Implementation) review system and taking
Reflecting While Doing corrective action while
implementing
 PROCESS STEP FOCUS AREA COMPETENCY COMPETENCY DESCRIPTION
Have a healthy awareness of
Self Awareness self, perceptual framework,
ability, and impact on others
Establishing and maintaining
Emotional And Social meaningful relations through
Intelligence balanced interaction, positive
expectations and actions
Relationships
Influencing people and
Sustainable Positive Influence situations towards win -win
outcomes
Ecology
Professional And Systematically establishing
Personal Relationship relationships that will support
Building life purpose and direction

Identifying and implementing

Learning Life Long Learning learning and growth
interventions that will support
And Growing Orientation attainment of purpose and
direction
6. Excercises
 6.1 Mindful Living

Mindfulness is paying
attention to your life, here
and now, with kindness
and curiosity

Dr. Amy Saltzman

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In a randomized controlled trial conducted by Maria

Napoli, Ph.D., first, second, and third graders who
participated in a bi‐weekly, 12‐session integrative program
of mindfulness and relaxation showed significant
increases in attention and social skills and decreases in
test anxiety and ADHD behaviours.

Napoli, M. ”Mindfulness Training for Elementary School Students: The Attention Academy”
Journal of Applied School Psychology (2005) Vol. 21(1)
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A study conducted by Amy Saltzman, M.D., in

collaboration with the Department of Psychology at
Stanford, with 4th‐7th graders and their parents, showed
that after 1 hour of mindfulness training for 8 consecutive
weeks the children demonstrated increased ability to
orient their attention, as measured by the Attention
Network Task, and decreased anxiety

Goldin, P., Saltzman, A., Jha, A. “Mindfulness Meditation Training in Families” ABCT conference
abstract (2008)
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Hi, today I would like to share one of my favorite places with you. It is called Still
Quiet Place. It’s not a place you travel to in a car, or a train, or a plane. It is a
place inside you that you can find just by breathing.
Let’s find it now. If you feel safe, close your eyes. Whether your eyes are open or
closed, take some slow deep breaths. See if you can feel a kind of warm smile in
your body. Do you feel it? This is your Still Quiet Place. Take some more deep
breaths, and really snuggle in.
The best thing about your Still Quiet Place is that it’s always inside you. And you
can visit it whenever you like. It is nice to visit your Still Quiet Place and feel the
love that is there. It is especially helpful to visit your Still Quiet Place if you are
feeling angry, or sad, or afraid. The Still Quiet Place is a good place to talk with
these feelings, and to make friends with them. When you rest in your Still Quiet
Place and talk to your feelings, you may find that the feelings are not as big or as
powerful as they seem. Remember you can come here whenever you want, and
stay as long as you like.
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I. P is for pause. When you become aware that things are

difficult, pause.
II. E is for exhale. When you exhale you may want to let out a
sigh, or a groan, or even weep. And after you exhale you want
to...Inhale. Just keep breathing.
III. A is for acknowledge, accept, allow. As you continue to
breathe, acknowledge the situation as it is. Your backpack with
all your stuff is gone, your parents are getting divorced, your
best friend is now dating the person who just became your ex…
Acknowledging a situation doesn’t mean you are happy about
it. It just means that you recognize the situation is as it is,
whether you like it or not.
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Accept the situation, and your reaction to it. You are furious,
devastated, heartbroken, jealous, or all of the above.
Allow your experience. Do your best to rest in the Still Quiet
Place and watch the thoughts, feelings, and body sensations.
Notice when you are tempted to suppress your experience by
pretending you are fine, or to create additional drama by
rehashing things in your head or with friends. And allow this,
too. See if you can discover a middle way: having your thoughts
and feelings, without your thoughts and feelings having you and
making you act in ways you may regret.
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IV. C is for choose. When you are ready, and this may take a few
moments, days, weeks or even months, choose how you will
respond. At its best, responding involves some additional Cs.
Clarity: being clear about what you want, what your limits are,
what you are responsible for.
Courage: the courage to speak your truth, and to hear the truth
of others.
Compassion: compassion for yourself, for others, and for how
incredibly difficult it sometimes is to be a human being, and
Comedy: (Actually, I prefer the word humor, but it doesn’t start
with C.) It is amazing what a sense of humor and a willingness to
not take ourselves too seriously can do.
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IV. E is for engage. After you have paused, exhaled, allowed, and
chosen your response, you are ready to engage with people,
with the situation, with life.
Remember, if it is possible, practice with small upsets first. For
extreme circumstances you may have to repeat this process
over and over and receive additional support. The more you
practice, the more PEACE you will have.
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I. Mindfulness in Your Morning Routine

Pick an activity that constitutes part of your daily morning
routine, such as brushing your teeth, shaving, or having a
shower. When you do it, totally focus on what you are doing:
a. The body movements
b. The taste, the touch
c. The smell, the sight
d. The sound etc.
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II. Mindfulness of Domestic Chores

Pick a chore that you normally try to rush through, or distract
yourself from; or one for which you just ‘grit your teeth’ and try
to ‘get through it’. For example: ironing clothes, washing dishes,
vacuuming floors, cooking dinner, making the kids’ lunches. Aim
to do this chore as a mindfulness practice.
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III. Mindfulness of Pleasant Activities

Pick any pleasant activity that you tend to rush through, or take
for granted, or do somewhat mindlessly -- and turn it into a
mindfulness practice. This might include hugging, kissing or
cuddling someone you love, stroking a pet, drinking a cup of
tea, eating a piece of chocolate, having a hot bath, playing a
game, doing a sport, playing an instrument, etc. Engage fully in
what you are doing, through all the five senses. The moment
you realize you’ve drifted off into your thoughts, refocus on
what you are doing, here and now.
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IV. Mindful Listening

Pick at least one person each day on whom to practice mindful listening.
When they speak, be curious about the words they use, their facial
expressions, their body language, the tone in their voice. See if you can read
their emotional state, as well as listening intently to what they say. Attend to
this person as if you are witnessing an Oscar-winning performance by the
world’s greatest movie star, or a revealing confession from your own
personal hero: notice every little detail of their face;
a. Every Flicker Of Expression In Their Eyes, Eyebrows, Forehead, Nose,
And Mouth. Listen With No Agenda Other Than To Understand Their
World; To Get A Sense Of What They Are Feeling And Thinking;
b. And the moment you realize you’ve drifted off into your thoughts, bring
your attention back to the other person.
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Day & Date Mindful Mindful Mindful Mindful
Chore Pleasant Listening Morning
Activity Routine