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A Basic Overview of Japanese Etiquette: Amanda Burden (Yamanashi 2003-2006)
A Basic Overview of Japanese Etiquette: Amanda Burden (Yamanashi 2003-2006)
Language
Do you need to speak Japanese?
Yes:
to establish rapport to show initiative to become part of the team to demonstrate interest in the country to earn the respect of your peers for studying such a difficult language
Language ctnd
Not necessarily
Its all about HOW you say it Actions speak louder than words!
Overview
Consider your role
Are you a guest? Are you a foreigner?
Situations
Meeting people Guest Dining
Maintaining relationships
Meeting people
Supervisor Kocho / Kyoto sensei
Greeting!
Hajimemashite
To shake or bow?
Either is fine: YOU initiate
~ desu.
Say your name slowly If you have a business card, get it ready
Business cards
Your supervisor
Get a meishi case
Other teachers
Probably wont give you business cards
Omiyage
To your supervisor
Tsumaranai mono desu ga
PRACTICE!
Amanda sensei, supervisor Amanda sensei, kocho / kyoto sensei Amanda sensei, home economics teacher Amanda san, elderly neighbor downstairs
As a guest
Be on time!!! When entering a home
O jama shimasu Im invading your space Take off your shoes in the genkan (foyer) If youre offered slippers, remove them and leave them outside if entering a tatami room
If you brought omiyage (which you did!), present it to the host / hostess
Spirits in the States, flowers in France, junk food in Japan (sweets, dessert or snacks!)
Giri / Ki o tsukau
Japanese hosts will go OUT OF THEIR WAY to be gracious, so dont push it with special requests.
Ex: What would you like to drink?
Japanese people will ask what your friend / host is drinking and have the same so as not to inconvenience them Dont worry about that, but dont make special requests to come off as a high maintenance guest The onus is on THEM to offer, and YOU to refuse Let the host know as far in advance If there are food items you cant eat, express deep regret and use the STOP gesture
As a guest ctnd
Sitting
Under kotatsu
If your legs are too long, beware kicking someone Cross legged is best
Position
Least important person sits near the door NOT you
Dining
Chopsticks
Dont play with them, use them to gesture, spear anything, etc.
Family-style food
If you go to a restaurant, expect to share* Dont help yourself the host will serve you Dont hover your chopsticks over a dish
Pouring drinks
Pour drink for your neighbor If at an enkai, wait for the toast to imbibe! If you need more of a beverage, offer your neighbor some and theyll do the same
Rice
Rice is the staple of the meal; all items prepared are meant as complements Its slightly sticky to enable you to grab large clumps, so dont mix it up or add soy sauce You may pick up the chawan (bowl) to eat it
Itadakimasu
Wait after the host is seated to eat If you want more of something, you can comment on how delicious it was if youre shy to reach for more!
Dining ctnd
Table Manners
Eating Noodles
Slurping is fine, but its not sucking, its inhaling Not necessary for spaghetti, though some do it
The aftermath
You dont have to clean your plate Not always necessary to stack plates that are finished Keep your area clean
Paying
If youre invited by senpai, they *may* treat you
Refuse until they seem offended Thank them profusely! Gochisou samadeshita A little thank you note with a one-point English joke or something is a thoughtful gesture
PRACTICE!
At a new friends home
At a restaurant
At an enkai
Be a rude communicator
Dont ask why! Communication in Japan is like bowling, not tennis Complaining or commenting about how something is weird in Japan may be taken personally
Be sarcastic
The amount of care you put into your appearance reflects how much care you will put into the relationship Keep your apartment clean and in good shape for your sanity and to increase your social options Open body language crossed arms vs. folded hands
Resources
Google Japanese Etiquette Big eyes and ears
Books by Donald Richie (Temple University professor) Hokkaido Highway Blues: Hitchhiking Japan by Will Ferguson