Love and Friendship

Life is about who you meet?

Name
Class
 Structure
Introduction
 Questions to the audience
Definition

Differences
 Definition
Obtain
 Differences
Behaviour
 How to get?
 Behaviour
Changes
 Changes over time
Keep

Variation
 How to keep?
Conclusion
 Variation between genders
 Summary
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 Questions to the audience
Introduction

Definition What is love for you?

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Questions to the audience
Introduction

Definition What is friendship for you?

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Definition of Love
Introduction

Definition
 number of emotions +
Differences experiences
Obtain  related to a sense of strong
Behaviour affection
Changes  variety of feelings
Keep

Variation

Conclusion
 generic pleasure ->
interpersonal attraction
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 Definition of Love
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Definition of Love
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Definition of Love
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Definition of Friendship
Introduction
 relationship between friends
Definition
 usually not family member
Differences  same interests, opinions
Obtain  understanding
Behaviour  sympathy and empathy
Changes
 honesty
 closer than association
Keep
 3 steps
Variation  both profit
Conclusion  same aim
 spend time without both

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 Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of
love
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Differences between
Love and Friendship
Introduction
 Friendship
Definition  care for a person
Differences
 always ready to help
 share most of the thoughts
Obtain  can always count upon the friend in an
emergency
Behaviour  understand when one acting in a certain way
Changes
 no need for explaining anything.
 Love
Keep  take this all for granted + transcend all this
Variation  attached with a particular person, while in
friendship, one may have many friends
Conclusion  physical element, friendship doesn’t
 can’t stop thinking of beloved one

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 How to get it?
Introduction

Definition
 birth -> family
Differences  kindergarden -> other children
Obtain  school -> first love
Behaviour
 study / work
Changes

Keep
 hobbies/ places of interpersonal
Variation contacts
Conclusion  own family -> birth of child

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 How to get it?
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 Expectations and behaviour
Introduction
 Love
Definition
 share confidence
Differences
 permanent relationship
Obtain  passion
Behaviour

Changes  Friendship
Keep  loyal
Variation  honest
 trustworthy
Conclusion
 supportive

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 How it changes over time
Introduction

Definition
 Love
Differences  when spring fever is gone ->
Obtain decide stay together or break
Behaviour apart
Changes

Keep  Friendship
Variation  grow bigger and bigger
Conclusion

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 How it changes over time
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain

Behaviour

Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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 How to keep it?
Introduction

Definition How to keep it?

Differences

Obtain  Say, "Honey, you make me laugh,"

Behaviour  Communicate.
Changes  Find a common hobby or interest.
Keep
 Follow up your words with actions.
Variation
 Surprise her!
Conclusion

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 Difference between genders
Introduction

Definition
 Love
Differences
 same except one cannot get pregnant
 social tolerance for lesbian but not gay
Obtain

Behaviour  Friendship
Changes
 men talk less than women
 men try to solve problems
Keep
 women try to show sympathy and try to
Variation
cheer one up
Conclusion

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 Summary
Introduction
 Love
Definition  = strong feeling for somebody or
Differences something (in meaning of stronger than
like)
Obtain
 Including friendship
Behaviour  Friendship
Changes  = Relationship between persons that
like each other
Keep
 Share thoughts, opinions, understanding
Variation  possible description through Robert
Conclusion Sternberg’s triangular theory of love

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 Quotes
Introduction
„Where there is love there
Definition is life.“ (Mahatma Gandhi)
Differences
“Beer is living proof that God loves us and
Obtain wants us to be happy.”
(Benjamin Franklin)
Behaviour
„"Your friend is the man who
Changes knows all about you, and still
Keep likes you." (Elbert Hubbard)

Variation "The only way to have a friend is to be one.„

(Ralph Waldo Emerson)
Conclusion

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 Quotes
Introduction
„I don‘t think people are
Definition

Differences
ment to be by themselves.
Obtain
That‘s why you actually
Behaviour
find somebody you care about.
Changes
It‘s important to let go of the little things.
Keep
Even if you can‘t let go all away.
Variation
Because nothing sucks more than to feel
Conclusion all alone – no matter how many people
are around.“ (Zach Braff)
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 Any questions?
Introduction

Definition

Differences

Obtain
Thank you for your
Behaviour
attention!
Changes

Keep

Variation

Conclusion

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