Sternberg’s Triangular Theory and the 7
Types of Love
By
Marni Feuerman, LCSW, LMFT
Updated on February 17, 2022
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Aaron Johnson
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Though most have experienced it in their lives, defining love is challenging. Few researchers
have put forth a viable theory on the concept of love. One exception is Sternberg's triangular
theory of love, developed in the late 1980s by psychologist Robert Sternberg.
This theory suggests that people can have varying degrees of intimacy, passion, and commitment
at any one moment in time.1 Research has emerged to confirm the value of Sternberg's theory. A
2021 study offered empirical support for the universality of the triangular theory of love.2
This article discusses the three components of love that Sternberg described. It also covers the
seven different types of love and the components of each type.
Sternberg’s 3 Components of Love
In Sternberg's theory, the concept of love is a triangle that is made up of three components. Some
of these types of love are focused on the love between two people in a romantic or sexual
relationship, but these types of love also apply to other forms of interpersonal relationships.
The three components are:
Intimacy, which involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
Passion, which involves feelings and desires that lead to physical attraction, romance,
and sexual consummation
Decision/commitment, which involves feelings that lead a person to remain with
someone and move toward shared goals1
Finding a balance between the physiological need for sex and the need for love is essential, and
the complete absence of all three components is categorized as non-love.
What Is a Love Triangle?
A love triangle is not the same thing as the triangular theory of love. In a love triangle, three
people may either be involved in a polyamorous relationship or two people may compete for the
love of a third person.
7 Types of Love
The three components of love interact in a systemic manner. The presence of one component or a
combination of two or more components create seven kinds of love experiences.
These types of love may vary over the course of a relationship as well. For example, a
relationship could begin as passionate love, progress into romantic love, and then eventually
reach a state of companionate love.
Friendship
Components: Liking
This type of love is when the intimacy or liking component is present, but feelings of passion or
commitment in the romantic sense are missing. Friendship love can be the root of other forms of
love.3
Infatuation
Components: Passion
Infatuation is characterized by feelings of lust and physical passion without liking and
commitment. There has not been enough time for a deeper sense of intimacy, romantic love, or
consummate love to develop. These may eventually arise after the infatuation phase. The initial
infatuation is often very powerful.1
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Empty Love
Components: Commitment
Empty love is characterized by commitment without passion or intimacy. At times, a strong love
deteriorates into empty love. The reverse may occur as well. For instance, an arranged marriage
may start out empty but flourish into another form of love over time.3
Romantic Love
Components: Intimacy and Passion
Romantic love bonds people emotionally through intimacy and physical passion. Partners in this
type of relationship have deep conversations that help them know intimate details about each
other. They enjoy sexual passion and affection. These couples may be at the point where long-
term commitment or future plans are still undecided.4
Companionate Love
Components: Liking and Intimacy
Companionate love is an intimate, but non-passionate sort of love. It includes the intimacy or
liking component and the commitment component of the triangle. It is stronger than friendship,
because there is a long-term commitment, but there is minimal or no sexual desire.
This type of love is often found in marriages where the passion has died, but the couple
continues to have deep affection or a strong bond. This may also be viewed as the love between
very close friends and family members.1
Fatuous Love
Components: Commitment and Passion
In this type of love, commitment and passion are present while intimacy or liking is absent.
Fatuous love is typified by a whirlwind courtship in which passion motivates a commitment
without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
Often, witnessing this leaves others confused about how the couple could be so impulsive.
Unfortunately, such marriages often don't work out. When they do, many chalk the success up to
luck.1
Consummate Love
Components: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment
Consummate love is made up of all three components and is the total form of love. It represents
an ideal relationship. Couples who experience this kind of love have great sex several years into
their relationship. They cannot imagine themselves with anyone else. They also cannot see
themselves truly happy without their partners. They manage to overcome differences and face
stressors together.4
Love Is a Verb
According to Sternberg, consummate love may be harder to maintain than it is to achieve, as the
components of love must be put into action. Without behavior and expression, passion is lost and
love may revert back to the companionate type.
