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Gaslighting and
Manipulation: 50
Covert Emotional
Manipulation Tactics
100 FORBIDDEN TECHNIQUES OF MIND
CONTROL
BOOK TWO
Introduction
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elcome to "Dark Psychology and Gaslighting
Manipulation: 50 Covert Emotional Manipulation
Tactics." This book delves into the depths of
human psychology, exploring the often unsettling world
of emotional manipulation within the context of intimate rela‐
tionships. By shining a light on the dark techniques employed
by manipulators, we aim to empower individuals with the
knowledge and understanding needed to navigate and protect
themselves from these harmful dynamics.
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Part One
Emotional
Manipulation
Chapter 1
Tactic #1 Gaslighting
G
aslighting is a sinister form of psychological
manipulation that occurs in relationships,
aiming to create doubt and confusion in the
victim's mind. The purpose of gaslighting is to undermine the
victim's con!dence and make them question their reality,
memories, or perceptions. This insidious tactic can cause the
victim to become reliant on the manipulator for validation and
a sense of reality.
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D ESPITE HER CERTAINTY that the necklace was in the jewelry box,
Lily starts to doubt her memory as Sarah continues to insist
she knows nothing about it. Sarah even goes as far as to
suggest that Lily has been forgetful and disorganized lately.
Over time, Lily notices other items disappearing or being
moved and questions Sarah about it, but Sarah always denies
any involvement, further undermining Lily's con!dence in her
own memory and perceptions.
• M ARK and his friends often hang out at their favorite cafe.
Recently, Mark has noticed that his friend, Steve, has been
making passive-aggressive comments about him in front of
their other friends. When Mark confronts Steve about these
comments, Steve denies making them and accuses Mark of
being overly sensitive or misinterpreting his words.
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Chapter 2
Tactic #2 Love
Bombing
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ove bombing is a manipulative technique often used at
the beginning of romantic relationships, where the
perpetrator overwhelms the target with excessive
affection, attention, and compliments. The primary goal of
love bombing is to create a sense of emotional dependency and
to establish control over the target's thoughts and actions.
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• L UCY STARTS a new job and meets her coworker, Olivia. Olivia
immediately takes a keen interest in Lucy, inviting her to social
events, constantly messaging her, and offering her support and
advice. Lucy feels welcomed and appreciated, quickly forming
a close bond with Olivia.
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1 "Y OU ' RE the only one who truly understands me. I need you."
2 "I've never loved anyone as much as I love you. You're my
everything."
3 "Without you, I'm nothing. You complete me."
4 "I feel like we were made for each other. It's us against
the world."
5 "I can't imagine a future without you in it. Let's be
together forever."
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Chapter 3
Tactic #3 Guilt-
Tripping
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uilt-tripping is a psychological manipulation tactic
commonly employed in interpersonal relation‐
ships, wherein one party seeks to control or in"u‐
ence the other party's behavior by eliciting feelings of guilt or
shame. This tactic can manifest in various ways, including
emotional blackmail, passive-aggressive comments, and veiled
threats. In employing guilt-tripping, the manipulator capital‐
izes on the target's vulnerability, exploiting their emotions to
bend them to their will.
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A LICE MIGHT SAY THINGS LIKE , "You always prioritize your friends
over me," or "If you really loved me, you'd cancel your trip and
come to the concert with me." These statements are manipula‐
tive and designed to make Bob feel guilty for his pre-existing
plans. Alice is attempting to make Bob feel responsible for her
emotional well-being and implying that he is failing her as a
partner.
E MILY MIGHT SAY THINGS LIKE , "You know I've been struggling
lately, and I thought I could count on you as a friend," or "I've
always been there for you, and now you won't help me when I
need it the most." These statements are meant to make Sarah
feel guilty for not providing !nancial assistance, implying that
she is not a supportive friend.
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M ARIA MIGHT SAY THINGS LIKE , "I've worked so hard to provide for
you, and now you're throwing away your future," or "Your
father and I sacri!ced so much for you, and this is how you
repay us?" These statements are designed to make David feel
guilty for not aligning with his mother's expectations,
suggesting that he is ungrateful or disrespectful.
1 "I' VE GIVEN you everything and you can't even do this one
thing for me?"
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2 "I've always been there for you, and now when I need
you, you're not there."
3 "How could you do this to me? Don't you see how much
I'm hurting?"
4 "After all the things I've given up for you, is it too much to
ask for some consideration?"
5 "You're always thinking about yourself. What about what
I want?"
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Chapter 4
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ke's victimization, Sophie might apologize and back
down from the conversation, feeling guilty for
adding to Jake's stress. This allows Jake to avoid
addressing his behavior and taking responsibility for his
actions. A healthier approach would have been for Jake to
acknowledge his tardiness, apologize, and work together with
Sophie to !nd a solution that demonstrates respect and
consideration for each other's time and feelings.
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else, but you're suffocating me." By doing this, Ethan shifts the
focus from his actions to his perceived oppression, making
Clara feel guilty for imposing boundaries.
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Tactic #5 Emotional
Blackmail
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motional blackmail is a manipulative tactic employed
by individuals to exert control and in!uence over
others in relationships. It involves the use of fear,
obligation, and guilt to coerce someone into doing something
they may not want to do. Emotional blackmail can occur in
various types of relationships, including romantic partner‐
ships, friendships, family dynamics, and professional settings.
It is often a subtle and insidious form of manipulation that
erodes trust and can lead to emotional distress, resentment,
and disconnection between those involved.
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or make the target feel guilty for not complying with their
wishes.
1 P UNITIVE THREATS
3 G UILT - TRIPPING
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B EN MIGHT SAY SOMETHING LIKE , "If you really loved me, you
wouldn't even consider taking this job and leaving me behind,"
or "I don't know if I can handle being alone while you're away,
so you'll be responsible if something happens to me." In this
case, Ben is using guilt and fear to coerce Alice into rejecting
the job opportunity. He is making Alice feel responsible for his
emotional well-being, forcing her to choose between her career
and the relationship.
you're just going to abandon me," or "If you move in with him,
I'll be so lonely that I won't be able to cope, and you'll be
responsible for what happens to me." In this case, Susan is
using guilt and fear to manipulate Emily into prioritizing her
needs over her own desires and independence.
T OM MIGHT SAY SOMETHING LIKE , "I'm always there for you when
you need someone, but when I invite you to events, you always
make up excuses," or "If you don't come to my party, everyone
will think you don't care about our friendship, and it'll be your
fault." In this case, Tom is using guilt and fear to manipulate
Lisa into attending social events, even if it goes against her
personal preferences or needs.
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Chapter 6
Tactic #6 Sudden
Mood Swings
S
udden mood swings as a manipulation tactic in
relationships refer to the abrupt and unpredictable
changes in a person's emotional state, which they use
to control or in!uence their partner's behavior. This tactic can
be employed consciously or unconsciously by an individual to
create an atmosphere of uncertainty and instability within the
relationship, making their partner feel off-balance and more
susceptible to manipulation.
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B RIAN ' S sudden mood swings grant him control over Olivia's
actions and emotions, ultimately creating an unhealthy power
dynamic within their professional relationship. This manipu‐
lation tactic can lead to poor communication, a lack of trust,
and emotional exhaustion for both Brian and Olivia.
1 "Y OU ' RE MY EVERYTHING !" (followed shortly by) "I don't even
know why I'm with you."
2 "I can't imagine life without you." (followed shortly by)
"Sometimes I wish I were single."
3 "You're the best partner ever." (followed shortly by)
"You're so frustrating."
4 "We're perfect together." (followed shortly by) "Maybe
we're just not right for each other."
5 "I'm so proud of you." (followed shortly by) "You always
let me down."
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Tactic #7 Faking
Concern or Empathy
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aking concern or empathy is a manipulation tactic
used in various types of relationships, including
romantic, familial, professional, and platonic. It
occurs when one person pretends to care about or empathize
with another's feelings or circumstances in order to manipu‐
late their emotions, behavior, or decisions. This tactic can be
particularly insidious, as it exploits the target's trust and
vulnerability, often leading to feelings of betrayal and confu‐
sion when the manipulation is eventually uncovered.
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Chapter 8
Tactic #8 Incessant
Need for Validation
T
he Incessant Need for Validation is a manipulative
tactic frequently employed in relationships, charac‐
terized by an unending demand for af"rmation or
reassurance. This phenomenon extends beyond the usual and
normal human desire to feel valued or loved; it reaches a point
where the manipulator's self-worth becomes excessively tied
to their partner's approval, creating an unhealthy cycle of
dependency.
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• L ET ' S consider the case of Anna and Mike, a couple who have
been dating for several months. Mike is a naturally empathetic
person and always seeks to validate and af!rm Anna's feelings.
However, as their relationship progresses, Anna begins to
demand constant validation from Mike for every decision she
makes or opinion she forms.
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Chapter 9
Tactic #9 Excessive
Jealousy
E
xcessive jealousy, a common manipulative tactic in
relationships, is characterized by an overbearing
suspicion or fear of rivalry, often leading to
unhealthy patterns of control and possessiveness. While a
certain degree of jealousy is normal and can even indicate care
or emotional investment in a relationship, when it becomes
excessive, it poses a signi!cant threat to the relationship's
health and stability.
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B EN ' S JEALOUSY also manifests when they spend time with their
mutual friends. If Rachel engages in conversation with their
male friends, Ben becomes visibly uncomfortable. He inter‐
prets her friendly banter and casual discussions as #irtatious
behavior, leading to confrontations later.
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1 "I NOTICED how he looked at you. Are you sure there's nothing
going on between you two?"
2 "I can't help but feel threatened when you talk about
your male colleagues. Are you sure you're just friends?"
3 "Why didn't you answer my call? Were you avoiding me?"
4 "You're always surrounded by men. Do you enjoy the
attention they give you?"
5 "I saw the way you were laughing with him. Are you sure
you're not attracted to him?"
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Tactic #10
Threatening
Self-Harm
T
hreatening self-harm is a deeply troubling form of
manipulation that arises in relationships when one
person seeks to control or in!uence their partner's
actions through fear and guilt. This tactic is potent and
damaging, employing a perverse form of psychological
leverage to maintain power dynamics in the relationship.
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Chapter 11
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xploiting insecurities as a manipulation tactic in
relationships refers to the deliberate act of taking
advantage of a partner's self-doubt or feelings of
inadequacy to exert control or gain power in the relationship.
It is an insidious form of emotional abuse, often dif!cult to
identify, and it can have severe consequences on the victim's
mental health.
M AYA HAS ALWAYS HAD body image concerns and struggles with
her self-con"dence. Alex, who is aware of these insecurities,
starts making subtle negative remarks about Maya's appear‐
ance. He comments on her weight, suggesting she should exer‐
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cise more or watch her diet. These comments slowly chip away
at Maya's self-esteem, making her feel inadequate and
unworthy.
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S ARAH HAS ALWAYS STRUGGLED with her artistic abilities and lacks
con!dence in her creative endeavors. Aware of this, Michael
takes advantage of her insecurities. He consistently dismisses
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1 "N O ONE else would appreciate you like I do. You're lucky to
have me."
2 "You know you need me. Without me, you'd be lost and
alone."
3 "You're not like others. You need someone like me to help
you overcome your insecurities."
4 "Without me, you'll never !nd anyone who accepts you
for who you are, insecurities and all."
5 "You should be grateful I'm here to support you. No one
else would understand or accept your "aws like I do."
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Part Two
Communication
Manipulation
Chapter 12
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ilent treatment is a psychological behavior often seen
in relationships where one partner withdraws from
communication, effectively becoming silent, to exert
control or to avoid addressing an issue. It's a non-confronta‐
tional form of manipulation that often stems from a desire for
control or a fear of confrontation.
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N ICK BEGAN IGNORING Jim's calls and texts. When they met in
social settings, Nick would avoid interacting with Jim, giving
brief and curt responses if spoken to directly. Jim, initially
confused by Nick's behavior, tried to !gure out what went
wrong but was met with cold silence.
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Chapter 13
Tactic #13
Stonewalling
S
tonewalling is a complex and damaging
communication pattern often seen in relationships
where one partner consistently withdraws from inter‐
action, effectively erecting a metaphorical wall between them‐
selves and their partner. It is a form of psychological
manipulation that can have serious consequences for the
health and sustainability of relationships.
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Chapter 14
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rojection is a psychological defense mechanism
where an individual displaces their own feelings,
traits, or behaviors onto another person. As a manip‐
ulation tactic in relationships, projection is used to shift blame,
create confusion, and evade personal responsibility.
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T HIS EXAMPLE SHOWS how projection can distort reality and shift
blame in relationships, causing confusion, guilt, and emotional
distress.
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Chapter 15
T
wisting words or facts is a subtle yet potent form of
manipulation, typically deployed in relationships to
wield control and assert dominance. The term refers
to the deliberate distortion, misrepresentation, or outright
denial of information, conversations, or events to disorient and
destabilize the victim. It’s a strategic chess move on the game
board of interpersonal dynamics, intended to create uncer‐
tainty and engender self-doubt in the person on the receiving
end.
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A T THE END of the dinner, Bob insists that they split the bill
equally, contrary to what he had initially suggested. When
Alice confronts Bob about their agreement, he denies it,
asserting that Alice had misunderstood him and that he had
never offered to pay the extra amount. Alice starts to doubt her
memory and feels guilty for the misunderstanding, even
though she clearly remembers Bob's promise.
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L
ying or deceitful behavior in relationships represents a
complex, multifaceted manipulation tactic that
involves the deliberate and purposeful dissemination
of false information to control, in!uence, or mislead the other
party. It is an insidious approach that can drastically alter the
dynamics of a relationship, eroding trust and fostering a toxic
environment.
A FTER SOME TIME , Lucy runs into another friend who happens to
be a colleague of Sam's. In their conversation, Lucy learns that
on many of the days when Sam had claimed to be working late
or ill, they were actually out with other friends.
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1 "I DIDN ' T TELL you about it because I knew you would
overreact."
2 "I promise, I will pay you back next month. I just have
some unexpected expenses this time."
3 "I didn't lie; I just didn't think it was important enough to
mention."
4 "I'm only doing this for your own good."
5 "You must have misunderstood me. I never promised
that.
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Tactic #17
Withholding
Affection
W
ithholding affection is a manipulative tactic
often used in relationships to gain power and
control. It involves the deliberate denial or restric‐
tion of affection, kindness, or validation as a means to
punish, control, or manipulate the other party.
tion in the victim. Over time, they may start to question their
own worth and the validity of their feelings, leading to a
diminishing sense of self-esteem and self-worth.
• L ET ' S dive into the world of Lucy and Mark. Lucy loves Mark
and cherishes the moments of affection they share. However,
Mark has a manipulative side. Whenever Lucy doesn't comply
with his wishes or dares to question his actions, he suddenly
turns cold. He stops hugging her, no more sweet text messages
during the day, no more words of love. He becomes a stranger,
a distant !gure in the house.
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1 "M AYBE WHEN you start acting right, I'll feel more like being
affectionate."
2 "Don't expect me to be warm and cuddly when you're
being so stubborn."
3 "If you listened to me more often, I might be more
inclined to show affection."
4 "You're not making me feel very loving at the moment
with your behavior."
5 "How can I be affectionate when you keep disappointing
me?"
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hifting blame, also known as blame shifting, is a potent
manipulation tactic employed in relationships,
wherein an individual diverts the focus from their own
actions, mistakes, or !aws to the other person. This deceptive
technique is a form of psychological manipulation where the
manipulator attempts to change the narrative in a way that
they emerge as the victim or the innocent party, and the real
victim is painted as the culprit.
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A LICE ARGUES that Karen is too sensitive and that she was only
joking. She asserts that if Karen took the comments too
personally, then it is Karen's problem for not being able to take
a joke. This is a clear case of Alice using blame shifting to avoid
taking responsibility for her unkind words and actions. She
manipulates the situation, making Karen feel guilty for
expressing her feelings.
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Chapter 19
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elective memory, or selective amnesia, is a
manipulation tactic often used in relationships where
an individual deliberately remembers certain events
and conveniently forgets others to suit their narrative or goals.
This strategy can cause signi!cant emotional distress for the
other party as the manipulator effectively rewrites history,
causing the victim to question their recollections and percep‐
tion of reality.
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Chapter 20
Tactic #20
Trivializing
Concerns
T
rivializing concerns is a manipulative tactic
commonly employed in relationships, where one
person downplays or dismisses the legitimate
concerns, feelings, or experiences of the other. This tactic aims
to undermine the validity and importance of the victim's
emotions, minimizing their concerns and leaving them feeling
unheard, invalidated, and powerless.
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Tactic #21
Misrepresenting
Intentions
M
isrepresenting intentions is a manipulative tactic
often seen in various types of relationships,
including personal, professional, and romantic
ones. This tactic involves one party deliberately obscuring or
distorting their true intentions or motives, thereby creating a
facade of sincerity, goodwill, or benignity. In reality, however,
their hidden agenda may involve exploitation, control, or harm
to the other party.
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reminding her of the times she paid for their meals and
outings.
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Social
Manipulation
Chapter 22
Tactic #22
Triangulation
T
riangulation is a manipulative tactic utilized in
diverse relationships, including romantic, familial,
and professional. At its core, triangulation involves
the use of a third party to manipulate a primary relationship.
The manipulator might use the third party as a means of
communication, a tool of comparison, or a way to create
rivalry, ultimately undermining the primary relationship or
enhancing their own power within it.
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S HE ALSO TELLS Mark what Jake allegedly said about his work,
which is often negative or critical. Emily is using Jake as a tool
for triangulation, thereby controlling the narrative and
creating a tense environment.
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solation from friends and family is a pervasive and
damaging form of manipulation within relationships.
This technique involves the manipulator systematically
alienating their victim from their social support network,
thereby increasing the victim's dependency on the manipu‐
lator and creating an environment where manipulation and
control can thrive unchallenged.
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O VER TIME , Lily becomes more and more distanced from her
social circle, "nding herself relying solely on her mother for
emotional support. This manipulative tactic allows the mother
to control Lily's life to an unhealthy degree.
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he tactic of Comparing to Others in relationships is a
manipulative strategy characterized by drawing
negative or disparaging comparisons between the
victim and other individuals. The intent is to create self-doubt,
lower self-esteem, and establish a power dynamic where the
victim feels inferior or inadequate.
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Smear Campaign is a manipulative strategy used in
relationships, often by those with narcissistic tenden‐
cies or those looking to gain power and control. It
involves spreading false or misleading information about a
person with the aim of discrediting them, damaging their repu‐
tation, and undermining their relationships with others.
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1 "I DON ' T WANT to start rumors, but you really should know
what I've heard."
2 "It's not my business, but I think you deserve to know the
truth about them."
3 "Just between us, I've heard some things that might
change your mind about them."
4 "I wouldn't usually mention this, but I believe you should
be aware of what's going on."
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5 "I was quite taken aback when I heard, but I feel it's only
fair you know."
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Chapter 26
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uilt by Association is a powerful manipulation
strategy often seen in relationships, in which the
manipulator besmirches a person's character,
actions, or beliefs based on their connection to another indi‐
vidual or group. This tactic is typically used to weaken some‐
one's credibility, sway how others view them, and control their
emotions and actions.
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1 "T HE COMPANY you keep says a lot about you. Are you sure
they're the right in!uence?"
2 "Your brother's been in some shady situations. Can you
really say you're different?"
3 "Your department isn't known for its ef"ciency. It makes
me question your work ethic."
4 "Your friend group always seems to be in the middle of
drama. Are you part of that too?"
5 "You're often seen with people who have a bad reputa‐
tion. It's not a good look for you."
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emeaning humor is a cunning manipulation tactic
often observed in relationships. It involves one
person using humor to degrade, ridicule, or humil‐
iate their partner. Under the guise of jokes, sarcasm, or teasing,
the manipulator takes advantage of their partner's vulnerabil‐
ity, causing emotional harm and asserting control.
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1 "C AN ' T you take a joke? I thought you had a sense of humor."
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Part Four
Control and
Power Dynamics
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egging is a deceptive manipulation tactic
commonly observed in relationships, where one
person employs subtle insults, backhanded
compliments, or undermining remarks to undermine their
partner. The aim of negging is to erode the victim's self-
esteem, foster insecurity, and establish a power imbalance
where the manipulator holds control.
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Tactic #29
Controlling
Behavior
C
ontrolling behavior is a manipulative strategy
frequently employed in relationships, where one
person endeavors to establish dominance and
in!uence over their partner's thoughts, emotions, behaviors,
and choices. This tactic encompasses a range of actions
designed to seize power, impose obedience, and curtail the
partner's individuality.
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1 "I' M the only one who truly understands you. No one else can
handle you."
2 "Your friends don't really care about you. They're just
trying to in"uence you."
3 "You're so lost without my guidance. Trust me, I know
what's good for you."
4 "Without me, you'd be nothing. I've shaped you into the
person you are."
5 "You shouldn't make any major decisions without my
approval. I have your best interests at heart."
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inancial control is a cunning manipulation tactic
commonly observed in relationships, where one
person manipulates and exploits the !nancial
resources of their partner to establish power and control. It
encompasses various strategies, including restricting access to
money, limiting !nancial independence, and misusing funds
for personal gain.
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Tactic #31
Intimidation
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ntimidation is a manipulative strategy frequently
observed in relationships, where one person employs
fear, threats, or coercion to control and manipulate
their partner. It encompasses a range of behaviors, such as
aggressive posturing, raised voices, physical intimidation, or
the use of threatening language.
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assive-aggressive behavior is a complex and
multifaceted psychological construct, often mani‐
fested as a manipulation tactic in interpersonal rela‐
tionships. This form of behavior typically involves indirect
resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct
confrontation. It is characterized by a pattern of passive
hostility and an unwillingness or refusal to communicate
openly or directly.
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1 "O H , did you need that done today? I must have missed that
detail."
2 "I totally meant to do it, just slipped my mind, you know
how it is."
3 "It's just that your instructions weren't all that clear, you
know."
4 "Of course, I'll do it, just need to !nd the right...mood."
5 "Well, I promised I'd do it, didn't I? Just didn't specify
when."
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pying and monitoring, in the context of relationships,
refers to the invasive and controlling behavior where
one party consistently surveils the other. This may
involve physically following them, checking their personal
communications or internet activity, or otherwise invading
their privacy to gather information. While a certain level of
openness and transparency is healthy in relationships, this
behavior is often manipulative and harmful, breaching trust
and autonomy. It can stem from a variety of sources, including
insecurity, jealousy, control issues, or a distorted belief system
about the norms of a relationship.
O VER TIME , this constant surveillance and lack of trust can lead
to feelings of anxiety and fear in Jamie. They begin to with‐
draw from social activities and friends in an attempt to avoid
further con"ict. This isolation, combined with the ongoing
invasion of their privacy, can make Jamie feel trapped and
controlled, leading to a deterioration in their mental health
and overall wellbeing.
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Overstepping
Boundaries
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verstepping boundaries in interpersonal
relationships is a manipulation tactic character‐
ized by intruding into a partner's personal,
emotional, or physical space beyond their comfort. It's a
subtle, yet damaging act of control, often leaving the recipient
feeling violated, disrespected, and powerless.
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ostering codependency is a subtle yet potent
manipulation tactic in relationships, where one
partner deliberately induces an extreme reliance on
them by the other. The objective is to create a dynamic where
the manipulated partner feels unable to function indepen‐
dently, thereby placing the power "rmly in the manipulator's
hands.
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1 "Y OU CAN ' T HANDLE this situation without me. Let me take
care of it."
2 "You're lucky to have me. Without me, you wouldn't be
able to manage."
3 "I should handle our !nances. You're too careless with
money."
4 "You don't need anyone else but me. Your friends don't
really care about you."
5 "Remember, your professional success depends on my
guidance."
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reating a sense of obligation is a crafty
manipulation tactic employed in relationships,
wherein one person coerces the other into a sense
of indebtedness. The manipulator leverages this sentiment of
owing a favor to exert control over their partner.
H OWEVER , over time, Robert starts to use these gifts as a tool for
manipulation. He begins to guilt Emily when she doesn't
acquiesce to his demands or wishes. He reminds her of all the
things he's done for her, implying that she owes him. This
creates a sense of obligation in Emily, who feels pressured to
comply with Robert's demands to repay him for his generosity.
Robert more control over Emily and the dynamics of their rela‐
tionship.
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1 "A FTER ALL I' VE done for you, the least you can do is this
for me."
2 "I never ask for anything in return, but this time I really
need your help."
3 "I've always been there for you when you needed me,
now it's your turn."
4 "Remember when I helped you with that big project?
Now, I need your support."
5 "I don’t keep score, but I’ve done so much for you. Can’t
you do this one thing for me?"
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xploiting personal weaknesses is a manipulation tactic
that involves using someone's vulnerabilities or inse‐
curities against them. This strategy is often used in
relationships to gain power or control over the other person.
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1 "I DON ' T THINK you should wear that dress. It doesn't really
suit your body type."
2 "Just pointing out, others in your !eld are much more
successful at your age."
3 "You've never been great at decision making. Let's not
repeat past mistakes."
4 "Do you remember what happened the last time you
tried to take the lead? It didn't end well."
5 "No offense, but your ideas often lack a practical
approach."
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Breadcrumbing
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readcrumbing is a manipulative tactic used in
relationships where one person leads the other on
through intermittent reinforcement, providing just
enough attention to keep the other person hopeful, but never
truly committing or progressing the relationship.
control and keeping the other person 'on the hook' without
having to invest signi!cant effort or emotional commitment.
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complimenting her or reminiscing about a past shared
moment. These messages give Emily hope that Jake is inter‐
ested in a deeper relationship. However, after each interaction,
Jake once again becomes distant and unresponsive. He often
makes vague promises about future plans, but never follows
through.
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1 "I HAD such a great time with you last night. We should do it
again sometime soon."
2 "I miss talking to you. Let's catch up when I'm less busy."
3 "You looked so beautiful the last time I saw you. It's a
shame we don't hang out more."
4 "I've been thinking about that trip we talked about. We
should really plan it one of these days."
5 "Remember the fun we had at that concert? We should do
things like that more often."
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ltimatums can be seen as a strategic manipulation
tactic used in relationships, whereby one individual
presents their partner with a !rm demand, forcing
them to choose between meeting their desires or facing signi!‐
cant consequences. This approach aims to gain control over
the other person by exploiting their fears, insecurities, or their
desire to maintain the relationship.
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F EELING TORN between her love for John and her desire for
exploration, Sarah faces an incredibly challenging decision.
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1 "I F YOU don't do what I say, I will leave you and !nd someone
better."
2 "If you want to be with me, you need to cut ties with your
friends. It's them or me."
3 "I can't be with someone who doesn't prioritize my
needs. It's your choice."
4 "If you don't change your behavior, I will make sure
everyone knows what you're really like."
5 "Either you give up your hobbies and focus on our rela‐
tionship, or we're done."
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eeping score can be seen as a manipulation tactic
frequently employed in relationships where one
individual meticulously tallies perceived wrongdo‐
ings, favors granted, or imbalances in order to control or exert
leverage. This strategy involves fostering a sense of indebted‐
ness and guilt within the relationship, with the manipulator
utilizing the compiled score to gain power, validation, or to
justify their own actions.
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1 "I CAN ' T BELIEVE you forgot to do that for me, after all I've
done for you."
2 "Remember that time I stayed late at work to help you?
It's about time you returned the favor."
3 "I've been keeping track of all the times you've let me
down. You owe me big time."
4 "I sacri#ced so much for this relationship, and you can't
even do one simple thing for me."
5 "You always seem to forget all the times I've been there
for you. It's like you don't appreciate anything."
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onstant criticism can be seen as a manipulative
tactic commonly observed in relationships, where
one individual consistently offers negative judg‐
ments about the other person's actions, choices, or attributes.
This approach involves a persistent pattern of fault-"nding
and derogatory remarks, aiming to gain control, establish
dominance, or undermine the other person's self-assurance.
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lattery as a form of control can be seen as a
manipulation tactic employed in relationships, where
one person uses excessive praise, admiration, or
compliments to shape and control the other person's thoughts,
emotions, or actions. This strategy involves strategically
employing !attery to gain power, foster dependency, and
manipulate the dynamics of the relationship.
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1 "Y OUR BEAUTY IS CAPTIVATING . It's one of the things that drew
me to you."
2 "Your talents and intelligence inspire me. I'm grateful to
have you by my side."
3 "I feel fortunate to be with someone as wonderful as you.
Your unique qualities make our relationship special."
4 "Your insights and perspective are truly valuable. I appre‐
ciate the wisdom you bring to our conversations."
5 "Your presence in my life is incredible. You bring so much
joy and positivity."
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abotaging Personal Growth as a manipulation tactic in
relationships is a distressing and harmful
phenomenon. It involves one partner intentionally or
subconsciously hindering or undermining the other's personal
development, achievements, or aspirations. The saboteur may
do this out of fear, insecurity, control, or jealousy. The tactics
can vary from direct opposition, such as overt criticism or
belittling, to more subtle methods, like consistent distraction
or subtly instilling doubt.
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tion, which can make it dif!cult for the victim to recognize the
sabotage.
Examples of sabotaging personal growth:
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1 "D ON ' T you think you're being a bit unrealistic with these
goals of yours?"
2 "You don't need to work so hard. You're !ne just the way
you are."
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3 "Are you sure you can handle all that? It sounds like too
much pressure."
4 "I don't see why you're wasting so much time on this. It
won't lead anywhere."
5 "You're not the same person you used to be. I liked you
better before all this."
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laying Mind Games, as a manipulation tactic in
relationships, is a psychologically distressing tactic
where one person attempts to control, confuse, or
deceive their partner to achieve a desired outcome. This could
range from gaining power, evoking certain reactions, or main‐
taining a sense of control.
• L ET ' S consider the case of a couple, John and Mary. John often
uses a manipulative tactic known as gaslighting to control
Mary. For instance, he might deny saying things he has clearly
said or twist facts to !t his narrative. When Mary confronts
him about his behavior, he accuses her of being overly sensi‐
tive or forgetful. This causes Mary to doubt her own memory
and perception, which in turn, makes her more reliant on John
for her version of reality.
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Devaluation
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evaluation, a potent manipulation tactic in
relationships, involves one party consistently
downplaying, belittling or deprecating the other's
signi!cance, achievements, or abilities. This strategy is often
employed to gain control over the relationship, instilling feel‐
ings of insecurity and inadequacy in the victim, thereby
retaining dominance.
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sing sarcasm to belittle is a manipulative strategy
prevalent in relationships, where one party employs
cynical or scornful remarks to demean or mock the
other. This manipulation technique can be stealthy and may be
masked as humor, making it challenging for the victim to iden‐
tify and counter.
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nsincere apologies in relationships refer to the tactic
where an individual offers an apology without real
remorse or the intention to rectify their behavior. This
manipulative strategy involves issuing super!cial apologies,
typically as a short-term remedy to ease con"ict or stress,
without truly acknowledging the consequences of one's
actions or indicating a sincere commitment to change.
shifts the blame onto his work and downplays Emma's feel‐
ings. Despite his repetitive apologies, Ryan continues to cancel
plans, suggesting a lack of genuine remorse or commitment to
change.
1 "I' M sorry if you can't handle sarcasm, but it's not my fault."
2 "I apologize if it bothered you, but you need to lighten
up."
3 "I'm sorry if you're being dramatic, but it was just a
harmless comment."
4 "I'm sorry if it hurt your fragile ego, but I didn't mean
anything by it."
5 "I apologize if you're too sensitive, but you should
toughen up."
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eigning innocence is a manipulation tactic frequently
used in relationships, wherein one individual
pretends to be oblivious or ignorant of their own
actions, intentions, or their impact on others. This deceptive
behavior serves the purpose of evading responsibility, shifting
blame onto others, or maintaining a façade of moral superior‐
ity, all while undermining the concerns, emotions, or experi‐
ences of the other person involved.
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1 "I DON ' T KNOW why you're acting like this. I haven't done
anything to hurt you."
2 "Why are you always accusing me? I didn't do anything
wrong."
3 "I can't believe you're making such a fuss over nothing.
You're being unreasonable."
4 "I have no idea what you're talking about. You must have
misunderstood."
5 "I genuinely don't recall saying or doing that. Maybe
you're remembering it incorrectly."
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reating a sense of urgency is a manipulation tactic
commonly employed in relationships to exert
control or in!uence over the other person's actions.
This tactic leverages the human inclination to prioritize imme‐
diate concerns or potential negative consequences, thereby
compelling the person to make hasty decisions or comply with
the manipulator's wishes.
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1 "I F YOU wait any longer, someone else will swoop in and take
it. You can't afford to delay."
2 "I can't believe you're still thinking about it. We need to
decide ASAP!"
3 "Time is of the essence. We can't afford to drag our feet
on this."
4 "If we don't act fast, we'll miss out on the best deal avail‐
able. Let's make a decision now."
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alse promises refer to a manipulation tactic in
relationships where one person deliberately
makes commitments they have no intention of
keeping. This tactic is employed to assert control, deceive, or
obtain compliance from the other person.
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