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Introduction: Welcome To Romance Revealed 4
Who Am I & How Did I Get Here? 6
The Obsession Instinct 9

Chapter 2: Quick Start Guide 11

What you shouldn’t do 12
Examples of Good Texts 18

Chapter 3 - What To Text Him When… (A Look At Various Situations And Scenarios) 26
When you want to invite him out without sounding clingy 26
When He Cancels Plans on You 28
When You Have to Cancel on Him 33
When He Gives You Nothing to Work With 35
When You Want Him To Initiate Texting 38
When He Seems Interested in Another Woman 39
When You Feel Like You’re Being Friend-Zoned 44
When He Takes a While to Respond 49
When He “Ghosts” You 51
When You Want to Flirt in Text 53
When You Think He’s Upset with You 56

Chapter 4 - The Main Question 58

Chapter 5 - The Big Secret To The Romance Revealed Obsession Scripts 83

Chapter 6 - The Intrigue Phrase 96

Chapter 7 - The Attraction Phrases 100

Chapter 8 - Permanent Obsession Phrase 113

Conclusion 127

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 Introduction: Welcome To Romance Revealed

“You've been on mediocre dates with middle-of- the-road men,

on terrible dates with complete jerks, and on decent dates with
dreamy men”

But no matter how many dates you go on, it seems the great
guy you've been dreaming about has yet to show up. At this
point, you're starting to wonder if you'll ever find the right
man who will open up and commit to you.

But before you start doubting your brilliance or your beauty,

I'm here to tell you how you can find and keep any (yes, that's
right — any) man you'd like. And if you're already with a great
guy, I can share with you the tricks you'll need to keep him
happily standing by your side until death do you part.

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The truth is, it doesn't matter if you're a stylish, 6'2" blond with
bright blue eyes or an overweight, 4'8" redhead who can't tan
to save her life; as long as you follow the steps I'm going to
share with you, you'll have a man committed to you like never
before.
Before I get too far ahead of myself, allow me to introduce
myself.

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 Who Am I & How Did I Get Here?

My name is Emily W, and I'm a dating coach and relationship

expert from Boise Idaho. As a relationship coach, I often get
asked why I chose this field of work, and the answer is simple:
I have

a compelling interest in people and their stories, and a passion

for facilitating change — especially in the lives of others. It's a
beautiful thing when a passion and a career can come
together, which is why I can say with a smile that I'm happy to
be helping women build and discover happy, healthy
relationships.

Many people don't realize that a relationship coach is quite

different from a trained therapist. Sure, I have successfully
completed several coaching courses and clinical seminars, and

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I do have a bachelor's degree in Social Psychology and another
in Journalism, but to be honest most of my relationship advice
comes either from my own life experiences or from those
around me. Throughout this program, I would really like you to
think of me as your girlfriend, guru, supporter, challenger,
motivator and personal coach who's seen it all; think Carrie
Bradshaw meets Oprah, if you will.

I'll give you the push to get going, and the tools to keep you on
track. Your interests will be my interests, and I won't judge,
but I will help.

For the past five years I've been helping women build
committed, loving relationships both locally and globally.
While my areas of expertise are dating, marriage, breakups
and divorce, I like to keep up-to-date with the latest research
on relationships, clinical counseling, and of course trending
fads, world news, and Hollywood gossip.

So the crucial question: How did I get here?

The truth is, when I was a kid I fell in love with the idea of love.
I'm

I’m not sure if it was from watching movies like When Harry
Met Sally or listening to the songs of The Supremes, but
something in my childhood gave me this impression that love
was some supernatural force that only a few would be lucky
enough to encounter, while the rest of us would have to settle
for less than butterflies. As I got older and experienced

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my first real crush, my first kiss, and my first date, I switched
gears and realized that love wasn't the superficial idea I'd
understood it to be; it was a burning passion and desire — a
feeling that ignited sparks and made it impossible to sleep at
night.

Over the years relationships blossomed, infatuations came and

went, heartbreak happened and mascara ran. It was in these
years that I realized that love isn't some hot and steamy
experience that over time goes cold and fades away, but rather
an emotional roller coaster and a fact of life. Now I like to
think of love as an onion; it has layers and some stink or will
make you cry, but, if you keep peeling, you'll eventually get to
the core of it.

Today I'm a lover of love, but more importantly, I believe in it. I

believe in its universal strength and ability to create bonds and
alter emotions; its ability to change lives and inspire change. I
also believe that love is a dynamic, lifelong process that needs
hard work and dedication for it to survive. It's these beliefs
that pushed me to make it my mission to help people around
the world cope — and grow — with love

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 The Obsession Instinct

You may have heard about the Obsession Instinct. The secret
instinct every man has… that once activated will make him
OBSESSED with you.

So how can I trigger this “instinct?” ? Well, before I share them

with you it's important that you're ready to use them. Why you
ask? Because unless you're equip with the right tools words
alone aren't going to have the same effect. This is why we need
to build the foundation first!

The good news is that your full artillery is in part one of the
program, so everything you need to know for Romance
Revealed to work is just pages away! Once you've got these
covered, we'll then move on to part two, which is where you'll
be introduced to texts, phrases and seductive signals to

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activate his Obsession instinct. Until then, stay tuned and
attentive. Everything from here on out is setting the stage for
your happy, loving relationship.

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 Chapter 2: Quick Start Guide

In the coming few chapters, I am about to take you on a

journey deep into the male mind…

And once you understand everything I share, you will have a

strange power over any man you desire.

But then I asked myself..

If you’re buying Romance Revealed, you may be struggling with

a man right now.

Maybe he’s started to act distant, different and cold.

Maybe he’s pulling away.

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Or maybe you and him have broken up… but you feel in your
heart of hearts that there is still some unfinished business.

That's why this chapter and the next is going to be your

Quickstart Action Guide.

Here I’m going to lay the groundwork, with the basic laws of
texting.
Some may sound pretty simple, heck you may know them
already - but it’s important we cover them early on.

Because in the next chapter, I’m going to share 6 texts you can
send right this second, to not only get him replying…

…But to covertly sow some seeds in his mind about you.

Seeds that once fully grown will take a hold of him, and have
him thinking about you day and night.

Before I share what to send, let's cover what NOT to do.

What you shouldn’t do

“Hey, how are you?”

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Unfortunately a message like this “box a man in''. You see
society places a pressure on men to be strong, be their best…
and never show signs of weakness.

It's tough for men to ever answer a question like this honestly.

So, 99% of the time, they will reply with a “I’m good” or
something generic like that. Then your conversation goes
nowhere.

Not only that, if you really want a man to be obsessed with

you, you cannot and must not come across as boring. And
sadly, a text like this show a lack of imagination.

Don’t update him on everything you’re doing!

This is something I go into in more depth, later on in the

book…

But I’ll give you a little taste right now.

Real seduction, true obsession… and that slow burning desire

that leads to him craving you on the deepest soul level..

It all begins in his imagination.

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That's right.

It's not what you say, it's what you don’t.

It's the space you give him. It's when you let him feel your
absence… that's when the cogs start turning in his mind, and
he starts truly desiring you.

That's why endlessly messaging him. Constantly texting him or

sharing every little detail does more harm than good - if your
goal is obsession.

So don’t tell him about the meal you just ate or the cute dog
you saw today.

He doesn’t want these details constantly.

Guys are simple.

They want an overall impression of things instead of the tiny

little details. Keep it simple and necessary.

Don’t send “What are you doing/up to?” messages

Here’s the uncomfortable truth.

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If he wanted you to know what he is doing, he would tell you.

You see, over time these kinds of messages begin to feel like a
chore to him. He starts feeling like you're keeping tabs on him
- and in turn… can start to feel trapped.

Again, this is something I will dive deeper into later on in the

book, but as humans one of our deepest needs is to feel free.

Freedom is vital to the human spirit, and unfortunately,

sending these kinds of messages makes him feel you’re keeping
tabs on him.

Not only that, these types of texts don’t serve a purpose other
than to fill up space. This is NOT how to make a guy obsessed
over you.

Don’t sit waiting to reply to him and jump if he texts!

This one is an oldie but a goodie, and I'm sure you’ve heard
everyone say this..

And it's true.

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You see, replying to his texts ASAP will not only come off as
needy. It also telegraphs your interest to him…

And once he knows you're interested, he’s going to take his

foot off the gas.

A sad truth about human nature is we value things that move

away from us.

So the moment he knows you’re interested, he starts valuing

you less.

That's why it's so important to not reply right away, even if you
aren’t busy.

Wait at least 3 minutes or more. Set your phone down and go

put your laundry away or something.

Proofread your texts!

So I'm being nitpicky here, but I feel this is important to

cover…

Don’t send misspelled and confusing texts (SOME guys can get
confused by bad spelling or overused “internet lingo”).

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If you try to be too clever or jokey, you might end up having to
explain it to him, killing the mood you were going for.

Again, remember to keep it simple and use correct spelling

and grammar.

I know it seems nit-picky but sending dumb, misspelled,

“cutesy” texts are not text messages that will make him want
you.

In fact, they could make him want you less which is obviously
not what you want at all!

End things first

Try not to get in a back and forth all day and be the first to exit
the conversation. I know it’s hard to stop texting a guy you’re
really into but you want to leave him wanting more and make
him obsessed with you.

Don’t just end a conversation by ghosting and not responding.

Find a way to say you have to go do something and you’ll talk
to him later.

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And now on to the good stuff. Now that you know what not to
send, I’m going to share examples of how to make him crave
you over text.

Examples of Good Texts

Funny Texts

A man wants to be with a woman he can truly be himself with.

A woman who supports him in all his endeavors… and a

woman that makes him feel good.

Men want a woman to laugh with. They love good humor and
to laugh. Who doesn’t?

Funny texts show that you can laugh and have fun. You’re
comfortable around him enough to joke (even laughing at
yourself).

Don’t make everything into a joke but don’t be afraid to send

him something funny or poke fun at yourself or him over
something lighthearted. Remember, jokes are for laughing, not
picking on people or fishing for compliments.

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Don’t send “I wish we were hanging out lol/lmao”. Using “lol”
doesn’t automatically make something a joke or funny.
Overuse of it can make it hard to know when you’re being
serious.

Use it when being fun and silly to cause ambiguity which is

mysterious. This leads me to the next type of texts that will
make him want you more.

Mysterious Texts

“If you only knew what I’m thinking…”

Teasing texts like this make him wonder what you are thinking.
It’s almost like you’re setting up a puzzle for him that he needs
to complete and find the ending to.

And the more time he spends thinking about you… the more
he invests in the idea of you.

The more his imagination runs wild with thoughts of you..

And the faster he becomes obsessed with you.

Open-ended mysterious texts like this make you seem

interesting and keep him guessing instead of point-blank

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telling him everything like most women usually do.

Keep a little mystery going and he won’t be able to help

himself, wanting to know more.

Ask Him Questions About Himself

The one thing we all love talking about… is ourselves.

This isn't just a male thing, it's a human thing.

So with that in mind, asking him questions about himself is the

way to go.

These will make him feel you are actually interested in learning
about him and understanding him.

Not only that, this is a great opportunity to ask innocent

questions.

The more he feels he can open up to you, the more he will

trust you… and slowly begin to crave you.

“What’s your favorite movie?”

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“What is your favorite thing to eat?”

“What type of music do you listen to?”

“What’s the best thing you've read recently?”

“What’s your favorite cologne?” If he asks why say “just

wondering!”

Positive Mood Texts

Know that your mood is always a secret weapon you can use in
your texts.

It injects light and happiness into his life.

If he’s having a bad day or week, your positive mood = what he

will feel when you text.

If you want to send text messages to make him fall in love,

send fun and happy texts. Keep things lighthearted and
positive.

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If he ever comments on how you’re always in a great mood,
you can say,

“I realize how much I appreciate life. People take life for

granted. Just smile and have fun! Life is too short.”

He’ll see that you’re a positive, upbeat person and who doesn’t
want someone like that in their life?

Tease Texts

How do you initiate a seduction? Texting!

How do you do this? Teasing texts.

“I hate wearing underwear.”

“Is it bad that I’m not wearing a bra?”

“I just got out of the shower. I’m so tempted to just lay in bed
like this now.”

If you want to turn him on, it’s best to do it in the middle of the
day. It’s great to send texts like these when he’s working and
busy to put him in a good mood where he fantasizes about
you.

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Just remember not to overdo it. You’re simply putting the idea
in his head. You don’t have to drag the conversation out over
text, especially if he’s busy at work and can’t respond for too
long.

Another simple tip is to use emojis in your suggestive and

seductive texts. A single winky face will work.

Visual Text

If there’s one simple thing to keep in mind about men, it’s that
they’re visual creatures. Using text to create an image for him
is a great way to get him to think about you.

What to text a guy you like? Send a fun visual of you doing
something like rock climbing, yoga class, a reaaaaaally good
meal you just made, something fun or that shows effort (like
putting together your new dresser that now holds all your sexy
lingerie).

DO NOT send naked pictures no matter how much he might

want you to. Just send fun, teasing pictures and of course
make sure you look good in them!

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This is the perfect text to send and say nothing else, letting
the picture speak for itself. “A picture is worth 1,000 words”,
right?

You’ve probably heard a lot of bad, “popular”love advice on

how to attract men, flirting tips, dating, etc. But the truth is
less is always more!

The key understanding, as I said in the beginning is to start off

by thinking of texting as “getting to know him” and what will
really work well. All the best texts are tailored to his unique
personality. No two men are the same so find out his unique
personality and tailor your texts to him!

For example, is he into hip-hop? Text him asking his opinion

on underground music or what he would recommend
someone listen to if they’re new to the genre.

Is he super aware of “texting lingo” such as “wyd?” Which is

“what are you doing” in case you don’t know (I know a lot of
modern lingo but some are totally foreign to me!).

Or is he more “old school” and creative? For a creative, you

want to text with complete sentences and even use
punctuation and creative emojis. It will appeal to his creative
side and show that you’re on his level of communication.

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Does he like sports? You can take a picture and say “watching
___ game. CANNOT believe ___ is losing/winning”, etc.
Make it into something fun, but do not go overboard with
interrupting him watching the game and expecting an ongoing
text conversation for the next two hours.

Keep it simple, short, and leave him wanting more. This

strategy works great for online dating as well when you’re
communicating through email or website messages.

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 Chapter 3 - What To Text Him When… (A Look
At Various Situations And Scenarios)

When you want to invite him out without sounding clingy

If you’ve been chatting to someone new or seeing them

regularly, it can be tough to now want him to always be by
your side.

However, if you make that known to him, then you risk killing
his opportunity to chase you. That said, there are some classy
ways you can ask him out so that he still feels like he’s the one
doing the chasing.

For example, by mentioning a fun event you’re attending or a

cool new hangout spot, you can then follow it up with
something like “Why aren’t you here?” or “You should be here”

The reason this works so well is because it's a playful message

that doesn't straight up ask him to join you, which means he
won't feel pressured to do so, and he won't get the impression
that you’re being needy. Instead, it opens the doorway for him
to invite himself to join you

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Just be careful not to overuse this kind of text. If every time
you go out you’re firing one of these messages his way, then he
might get the feeling that you’re being clingy - and that's not
the message you want to be sending him

Fore example, there are two ways to indirectly invite him out:

“I'm at an awesome party right now, this place is packed! Why

aren't you here?

“This new nightclub is amazing, they really nailed the vibe, you
should be here”

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When He Cancels Plans on You

You’re getting ready for a big night out with the guy you’re into
or have been seeing. As you excitedly fantasize about how the
evening will unfold, your phone goes off. Picking it up, you see
his name flash on the screen. Giddily opening the text
message, your feelings of euphoria quickly turn sour as your
mind processes his words: “Sorry, I can’t make it tonight.

Perhaps there’s another line or two following those initial

words explaining his reasons for canceling on you, or maybe
he’s cut the message short. Either way, the anguish you’re
feeling is very real and very apparent. When it comes to
responding to his message, there are a few things you need to
keep in mind.

First and foremost, it’s important that you don’t blast off an
emotional or passive-aggressive reply. Even though you may
feel he’s being inconsiderate—or maybe you want to beg for
him to reconsider—do not do this.

Instead, take a few moments to cool your jets. Remember: it

may feel like the end of the world right now, but it’s not.

The next thing you’ll want to do is to compose a positive text

message that lets him know it’s fine that he can’t make it

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tonight—again, this is easier said than done, especially when
you’re feeling disappointed.

The reason why you want him to think you’re okay with him
canceling is two-fold. First, it shows him that you have other
things going on in your life, and seeing him isn’t the most
important thing to you. Second, it shows him that you’re
understanding and levelheaded. This is crucial, because even if
he’s hoping that you’ll be fine with the situation, he knows
there’s still a chance you’ll be upset with him. Instead of being
a Debbie Downer or Sour Susan, be a breath of fresh air
instead by acting empathetically. Believe me, this will take you
far, and you can almost guarantee that your positive response
will make him smile and wish that he was seeing you.

As for your reply, it should be composed of the following 3

parts:

1. Let him know that it’s fine that he is canceling on you.

2. Let him know that you’re busy for the next few days.

3. Wish him well.

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Even if you have nothing going on over the next few days, it’s
imperative that you say otherwise. Giving the impression that
your life is full and exciting is important because:

a) It’ll make you appear more interesting.

b) It will make him want to be a part of your fun lifestyle.

c) It will prevent him from worrying that you’ve sat around

waiting for him to come calling, which would otherwise make
you appear desperate.

Despite how tempted you may be to reschedule for the

following afternoon or evening, don’t. By making him wait at
least forty-eight hours after cancelling on you, you will keep
him interested, and you will stay on his mind.

Be sure that when you do see him next that you have
something exciting to share when he asks what you’ve been up
to; telling him that you’re too busy to meet up and then having
nothing to say when he asks about your week would be
incredibly awkward.

Lastly, if you decide that this isn’t the guy for you (maybe his
cancellation was the final straw in your books), keep your text
positive. Don’t blow up on him or tell him that you’re through
with him; that will make you look childish and dramatic. The

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key is to always leave on a high note, even if you have no
intention of seeing him again.

Here are specific examples of how to reply, depending on the

scenario:

When he tells you he’s “too busy” to make it:

“Hey [insert name], that’s okay, I understand that you’re busy. I

also have a lot going on these next few days, but if you want to
catch up this weekend I’m available. I hope you have a good
night!”

When he tells you why he can’t make it:

No worries! I hope [insert whatever is keeping him busy] goes

well. I have a lot going on this week, but maybe we can catch up
in a few days. Have a great night!

When he doesn’t give you a reason for canceling:

Don’t sweat it! I’m pretty busy these next few days, but perhaps
we can get together sometime next week. I hope you have a great
night.

If you don’t want to suggest rescheduling:

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No problem! I hope you have a great night!

If he’s constantly canceling on you with little-to-no notice

Hey [insert name], I’m bummed you can’t make it, but I totally
understand that you have a lot going on. In the future, please
keep in mind that I’m busy too, and I would appreciate it if you
gave me more notice when you have to cancel so I can make
other plans for myself. I hope you have a great day.

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When You Have to Cancel on Him

As much as you may deny it, chances are there will come a
time when you have to cancel plans on the man you’re into.
Maybe you’ll know days ahead of time and be able to give him
plenty of notice, or maybe a roadblock will jump in your way
just hours before you’re supposed to meet up. When it comes
to canceling plans on your guy, there are a few things you’ll
want to keep in mind.

The first is to be apologetic. You’ll want to make it known that

you respect his schedule, that you aren’t taking his time for
granted, and that you feel bad for canceling on him. Second,
let him know why you can’t make it, or at least give him a little
insight into your change of plans.

For instance, receiving a message like, “Hey, sorry I can’t make

it tonight” is fine, but it leaves a lot of unanswered questions.

On the other hand, a message that reads, “Hey, sorry I can’t

make it tonight, an unexpected deadline popped up,” or “A
friend is in need of my help with an urgent situation,” or “I’m
feeling under the weather, and I don’t think I’d be great
company” will give him peace of mind, and he won’t be left
wondering why you’re blowing him off for the evening. Telling
him why you can’t make it also opens the doorway to an
entirely new texting conversation between the two of you.

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Lastly, if you hope to reschedule your plans then suggest so,
and if possible, set a day to make up for it. Since you’re already
on the topic, it makes sense to talk about it then and there.
Just don’t be too pushy, and remain patient; understand that
he might not be able to give you a straight answer for future
plans at that very moment. Here are examples of texts you can
send when canceling your plans:

Hey, I’m really sorry, but I won’t be able to do dinner tonight. A

new deadline popped up with work, so I’ll have to put in extra
hours to hit it. I would love to reschedule though. How does
Thursday look for you?

Talk about bad timing: I woke up with the worst fever this
morning! Needless to say, I won’t be able to meet you tonight. I’m
really sorry. I was looking forward to our plans. Rain check for
this weekend?

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When He Gives You Nothing to Work With

You’ve probably had a text conversation like this before:

F: How is your day going?

M: Good

F: Mine too! I finally finished that project I’ve been working on,
and I feel so relieved!

M: Awesome

Just because he’s replying to your texts, it doesn’t mean

everything is clear sailing. In fact, keeping a conversation alive
over text can be tough, especially if he’s the king of one- word
responses and doesn’t give you much to go off of.

While getting past these texts and keeping the conversation

alive can feel like climbing Mount Everest, the good news is
that there is a sneaky way to beat around the bush and get
more from the man you’re messaging.

The trick is to ask specific questions that require more than a

one-word answer— or perhaps more importantly, to ask
questions that will keep him interested in the conversation.

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For example, instead of asking how his day is going, you could
ask what the best thing that happened to him that day was, or
you could ask him what he has planned for the upcoming
weekend.

Judging by how he answers these questions, you’ll be able to

gauge whether or not he’s interested in you—meaning, if he
doesn’t respond, or if he sticks to short-nothings, then it may
be time to try a new approach. If he does give you a more
in-depth answer, then you can feed off of that material to keep
the conversation going. For example:

F: What did you do with the rest of your weekend?

M: I went to Rifflandia Festival

F: Sounds awesome, who did you see play?

M: Moby

F: Oh cool! I haven’t listened to him in ages. What music are you

listening to these
days? Anyone I should check out?

Don’t be afraid to strike up a texting game or send him

YouTube links to spice up the conversation.

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Something as simple as sending him lyrics and asking him to
guess the song can build the connection between the two of
you, and it will keep him engaged in the conversation. If you
can tell this is something he enjoys, then you can suggest that
you take turns doing so.

Another great way to pull him back into the conversation if

you feel it’s fizzled is to reference something the two of you
have already talked about, be it a movie, place, event, etc. Just
be sure you have something new to say about it, or he may feel
like your conversation has already run its course.

For example, you could write:

I finally checked out the new bar you were telling me about . . .
You’re right, it’s
so cool!

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When You Want Him To Initiate Texting

It goes without saying that asking the guy you’re into to text you more is going to
make you sound clingy. We don’t want that! Instead, there are subtle things you can
do to show him that you have a busy life, so if he wants to get through to you, then
he’s going to have to try a bit harder.

Believe it or not, by simply making a point to let some time pass before responding
to his texts, or by setting “no response” periods while you work or focus on other
things that are important to you, you will show him that your time is in high
demand, so if he wants to communicate with you, then he’s going to have to put in
more effort when it comes to striking up a text conversation.

This may sound counterproductive, but by giving him space to pursue you, it’ll not
only feed his desire to do so, but it will also let him know that you won’t always be
the one reaching out to him. When he does text you, it’s important that you let him
know what a positive impact his text has made on your day.

Doing so will make him feel appreciated and want to text more. On that note, make
sure you don’t give him the impression that your happiness is 100% linked to him;
instead, mention how your day has been going great, but hearing from him is the
icing on the cake.

For example:

I had a great day today, and hearing from you made it even better.

Just when I thought my day couldn’t get any better, you texted me!

So great hearing from you, I hope your day has been going as awesome as mine.

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When He Seems Interested in Another Woman

This situation sucks—simple as that.

On the one hand, you want to be the happy-go-lucky gal he

fell for in the first place, but on the inside you’re sulking and
feeling hurt.

The key here is to kick those feelings to the curb. If you feel
like your man may be interested in someone else, then you’re
going to have to put on some war paint and pull him back
in—especially if he’s worth fighting for!

This doesn’t mean you should send him anything that will give
him the impression you’re thinking he’s into someone else;
instead, you should show him your best self.

When you text him, keep your messages simple and sweet. If
you say too much, then he may start to think that you’re
grasping for his attention—and no man is going to choose a
clingy woman over someone who is fun and carefree. At the
core of your message, you want him to be happy to hear from
you, so send him the kind of text that will keep him thinking
about you long after you’ve hit send.

If you’re still getting to know each other: The secret is to act

unfazed by the fact that you think he may be interested in

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someone else. If you show your feelings of jealousy or act
insecurely, then it’ll only give him more of a reason to stray.
Instead, you need to be your boldest, most life-loving self to
make him feel like he’s the one missing out by not investing
more time and energy in you. When you do text, make it
known that you’re busy living an awesome life.

Even if you have nothing going on, make it known that you’ve
had the best day ever. Positivity is contagious, and it will make
him want to hear from you more often. Of course, it’s easy to
spot a liar, so you should actually make a point to keep active
and practice optimism. Find reasons to be happy each day and
enjoy the little things, like a fresh cup of coffee or a warm
summer breeze. Putting yourself out there and being social
with others is helpful not only for staying busy, but also for
building the type of outgoing attitude that will captivate any
man.

For example:

Him: How was your weekend?

It was good! I went to a great party and met some cool new
people! Yours?

I’m going to grab a coffee with Tiffany after work.

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Right on! I’m hitting a hot yoga class tonight. I can’t wait to give
my body a nice good stretch!

If you’re exclusively dating:

Unlike in the first scenario, at this point in the relationship,

your guy’s interest in other women is going to affect you
differently than if he was still single and mingling. Another key
difference is that he’s going to have a better idea of your
lifestyle and schedule, meaning he’ll likely know if you’re
fibbing about keeping busy when in fact you haven’t left the
house in days.

What you’ll want to do here is genuinely find ways to be happy.

Again, it can be easy to let your emotions get the best of you,
but if you let sadness swallow you, then you’ll find yourself in a
vicious circle: being sad because you can’t get pull him back in,
and not being able to pull him back in because you
are sad.

Yes, you may feel down if you think that his attention is
drifting to someone new, but by being his breath of fresh air,
you’ll keep him hooked and coming back for more. Big Bang
Texts work wonders for pulling him back in if you feel he’s
starting to stray.

Here’s what you can write in this situation:

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Hey babe, I just wanted to let you know how wonderful I think
you are, and how lucky I feel to have you in my life. I was just
thinking about our camping trip to Salt Spring Island. Even
though we nearly got blown away in that rainstorm, I loved
every minute of being there with you. Cuddling in the tent at
night to keep warm was magical.

If you’ve been together for years:

If you’ve been together a long time, you’re going to want to

remind your man how lucky he is to have you. The trick for
doing so is to show rather than tell. No matter how tempted
you may be to cry about how you feel he’s into someone else,
don’t. If you do, you’ll only look desperate, which is not a good
look for keeping him interested. Since the two of you have
likely been through a lot together at this point in your
relationship, it is okay to address the issue if you feel it’s not
getting better on its own. If you do so through text, be sure to
choose your words wisely. You don’t want to get angry or
upset with him, but rather clearly express how you feel and
ask to discuss the issue in person. Be prepared for him to get a
bit defensive, and you must avoid reacting to his shield.

You can write something like:

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 This isn’t easy for me to admit, but I feel that lately you seem
pretty into [insert name]. I don’t mean to come across as jealous,
but I just don’t want to lose you or hurt the relationship that
we’ve built over the years. Can we talk more about this later? I
love you.

I hate to say it, but I’m worried your interest in our relationship
is waning. Can we please talk things through when you get home
tonight? What we have is too special to lose. I love you.

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When You Feel Like You’re Being Friend-Zoned

The dreaded friend zone. This is a place no woman wants to

find herself once romantic feelings have developed. The
unfortunate truth is that it’s not uncommon for guys to change
their minds and feelings towards a person or relationship, and
when they do, they may have a hard time admitting it.

Thus, they take the “easy route”; instead of being honest about
their feelings, they may choose to start treating you like “one
of the guys” or “just a friend” in hopes that you’ll take the hint
and set them free. Of course, this is far from ideal, but it’s a
pretty familiar scenario in the dating world. If you find yourself
in this situation, then your goal is to increase the level of
attraction he feels for you. As contradictory as it sounds, an
easy way to accomplish this is to pull back a bit and give him a
chance to miss you—a taste of life without you.

Instead of sticking by his side and accepting your new role as

one of his pals, you need to set the bar and show him that you
won’t settle for less than a romantic relationship. This can be a
scary thing to do, especially if you feel like he’s pushing you
out the door. But believe it or not, when you stop texting him
and become less available, you become “harder to get,” which
creates a bit of a challenge (or chase) for him. Since you won’t
be as present in his life, he will start to question what you're

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up to, and this kind of mystery will do wonders for reigniting a
spark and making him want you again.

When you’re still getting to know each other:

When you do text him, keep your messages short and

purposeful. No guy likes receiving senseless rambles from
women—and besides, that’s what your own girlfriends are for.
Instead, keep your texts to a minimum, but don’t fall off the
face of the earth, either. You’re going to want to come up with
clever “reasons” to message him.

When you text him, make sure that your message will stir up
some sort of positive emotion in him; maybe it makes him
smile and feel lucky to have you, or maybe it slyly turns him on
and makes him want you as more than a friend. Again, the trick
is to avoid sending him texts that will make him cringe or feel
reluctant to respond to you.

For example:

Hey, I heard tickets for Alt-J go on sale tomorrow morning. I just

wanted to give you a heads up ‘cause I remember you mentioned
wanting to go, and it’ll probably sell out pretty quickly. Hope you
get some!

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Feel like joining me for some adult grape juice this weekend?

When you’re dating:

There’s a fine line between being lovers and being friends. The
good news is that what you choose to text him can play a big
part in defining the relationship you share.

If you’re worried that your boyfriend is trying to get out of the

relationship, then you’re going to want to make yourself seem
like the best part of his life. This may sound like a challenge,
but with the right messages, you’ll have him questioning why
he even considered ending things with you. The secret is to
send him the kind of texts that will make him laugh or feel
good about himself—ones that will urge him to respond to you
and have him checking his phone to see if you’ve replied yet.
Flight Texts work great here, since they give him a temporary
escape from his daily routine and get him to interact with you
in a make-believe world that just the two of you share.
Tantalizing Texts can also be helpful in getting him thinking
about you in a seductive way.

Just be careful not to come on too strongly. If he gets the

impression that you’re grasping to pull him back in, then he
may cut the cord and end things. Be subtle.

For example:

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So, I was just thinking . . . If you knew the world was ending
tomorrow, what would you do today?

Hey handsome, how is your day going?

I’m about to take a nice hot shower. Care to join? 😉

If you’ve been together for years:

Friend-zoning will be really challenging at this stage in a

relationship. If he’s messaging you as a friend, it’s because he
truly sees you as such. Instead of considering this a bad thing,
embrace it. Men want to be with someone they can share all
their thoughts and feelings with, so if you’re lucky enough to
be the one getting texts about the score of the game, or if
you’re the one he’s talking to about the sandwich he’s eating,
then consider yourself honored.

That said, if you feel that the romance has been completely
replaced with friendly banter, then you may want to address
the issue and make it known that as much as you love getting
the scoop on the things he’s into, you miss his sweet, romantic
side, too.

Here’s how you can communicate this:

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Babe, as much as I love hearing about [insert topic], I’m starting
to miss the whole wooing game. Think we can spice things up a
bit?

Oh darlin’, I must say that I love how determined you are to get
me into football. I’ll make you a deal—I’ll genuinely start rooting
for your team if you agree to send me sweet nothings again. I
miss those!

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When He Takes a While to Respond

We’ve all felt the urge to relentlessly message the guy we’re
into. But have you ever stopped dead in your tracks with worry
that you’ll sound clingy, or if he’ll question whether you’re
over-texting him?

If you’re worried about this sort of thing, then chances are it’s
because you’ve been messaging him on more than a 1:1
ratio—meaning, he’s not responding at the same rate as you’re
texting. A good first step is to pull back a bit; as tempting as it
may be, don’t text him. Of course, this is easier said than done,
but if he’s not responding to you, then it’s likely for a reason.
Perhaps he’s busy with other things, or maybe he just doesn’t
feel like responding right then and there. No matter the reason
for his silence, it’s important that you don’t press him with
texts. Consider this for a moment. Let’s say you’re in the
middle of an important meeting, and you feel your phone
vibrate. You glance down and see it’s a text from the guy you’re
into. Unable to read his message, you tuck your phone away
and tell yourself that you’ll check it later. Then it goes off again
. . . and again. At this point, your mood has likely switched
from enamored to annoyed, and you’re screaming internally,
What is your problem? Chill out!

The point is that no one wants to be bombarded with

messages, so if he’s taking a while to respond to you, let him

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be. When he does get around to texting you, it will be because
he wants to, and not because you’ve pressured him into doing
so. However, if you do feel like enough time has passed
between messages, then you’ll want to send him the kind of
message that will grab his attention and give him a reason to
reply. Here are examples based on different scenarios.

If you’re still getting to know each other and days have passed
since hearing from him:

Hey! How’s your week going? Any plans for the weekend?

If you’re dating and hours have passed since hearing from him:

You must be having a super busy day, I hope it’s a good one! I
just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking about you and
can’t wait to see you.

If you’ve been together for a while and he hasn’t replied to

your texts all day:

If you see my man, please let him know that I’m missing him
and cannot wait to
hear all about his day later.

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When He “Ghosts” You

You may or may not have heard the term “ghosting” before,
but as defined by Urban Dictionary, it’s “the act of suddenly
ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating,
but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the
ghostee will just ‘get the hint’ and leave the subject alone, as
opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer
interested.”

Of course, ghosting speaks volumes about a person’s maturity

and communication skills, yet oftentimes people try to justify
it by saying they did so to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. In
reality, however, pulling a disappearing act can be even more
emotionally damaging than simply being upfront and honest
about feelings.

If the man you’ve been texting gets cold towards you, or if he

goes completely MIA, then your natural reaction may be to get
angry with him. However, instead of letting the situation get
the best of you, take the high road and let him be. Yes, this is
easier said than done, and some women need closure before
moving on. If you can relate to this, then you may choose to
text him the following:

It’s too bad our plans never came to be, I think we would have
had fun. It’s been

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great getting to know you, but in truth I’m looking for someone
who has time for me. I wish you the best!

This gives you the peace of mind in knowing that you got to
voice your feelings, but it also shows him that you have
expectations and you won’t be left eating his dust. Better yet,
he may even find your approach admirable and come calling
again. If he does, then you’ll have to weigh the pros and cons
to decide if taking another chance on a “ghoster” is really
worth it to you.

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When You Want to Flirt in Text

When it comes to texting men, flirting is one of the most

important skills you can master. Since you’re not able to use
your body language or tone of voice to your advantage,

you need to craft messages that ooze with an undeniable

sense of flirtation.

To properly flirt in texts, there are a few important points to

keep in mind. First off, don’t be nice. I know this sounds
absurd, but being nice has its time and place, and if you’re
looking to flirt, then texting in this manner won’t pack the
same punch as being frisky and playful with the guy you’re
messaging.

For instance, texting something like “I really admire your

passion for what you believe in” is going to send a totally
different message than, “Can you please stop keeping me up all
night? K thanks! ;)”

Instead, you need to start with some playful banter. Say some
fun things to get you on his mind, and then leave him hanging.
The more creative you can be here the better, and your
opening is what you should really focus on; after all, if you
can’t get him interested off the bat, then you’re going to have a
hard time keeping him engaged.

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To get you started, come up with a message that you know no
one else is sending him; this kind of originality will pique his
interest and be refreshing to read. Maybe it’s a witty remark,
or maybe it’s a quick joke to make him laugh. Whatever you
choose, make sure your message is short, sharp, and saucy.
Another easy way to flirt through text is to tease him.

By merrily poking fun at him, it’ll open the gateway for him to
do the same to you. Just be sure that you don’t go too far with
this one; the last thing you want to do is offend him. Make sure
that whatever you choose to use as your topic for teasing isn’t
too obnoxious or controversial. If you pull this off properly, it’ll
show him that you don’t take life too seriously, and that you
like to laugh. For example, if you can come up with a goofy
nickname for him based on something he likes, then this is the
time to use it. Just be sure to include a winking face at the end
of your message so he knows you’re joking with him.

Lastly, if you can find subtle ways to flirtatiously arouse your

guy through text, do it! Again, keep it lighthearted and fun, and
always leave room for him to flirt back. As frisky as you may
want to get here, avoid sending him anything too sexual too
soon. Leaving something to his imagination will build tension,
and he’ll love the confidence you’re showing. Here are
examples based on different scenarios:

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When you’re getting to know each other:

I just want to be upfront and say that I visually enjoy you. Me.
You. Drinks. Saturday.

When you’re exclusively dating each other:

Can I have you for breakfast in bed today? You’re lucky you’re so
cute. That’s why I keep you around.

When you’ve been together for a long period of time:

Come home and play with me 😉

OMG, you were amazing last night. Round two later?

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When You Think He’s Upset with You

No relationship is perfect. At some point or another, you’re

bound to get under your guy’s skin. When this happens,you
may feel like the entire world is falling apart. Rest assured: it’s
not.

Obviously, the reasoning behind why your man is upset will

play a big part in what you text him, but if you’re looking to
patch things up with him through text, then you’re going to
want to do a few things.

First and foremost, you need to be kind. No matter how

stubborn you feel he’s being, or how annoyed you may be,
sending him angry or aggressive text messages won’t do you
any favors. Instead, you may have to bite your tongue a bit.
Again, depending on your personal situation, you may choose
to address the actual problem in text—or you may not. If you
feel like talking about it through texts is going to open up a
whole new can of worms or make the issue grow tenfold, then
avoid doing so. Instead, a simple apology will work fine here.
On the other hand, if you feel solely responsible for the
issue—for example, say you overreacted or said something
unfair or out of line—then you may want to take the blame and
apologize. Consider the following two approaches:

What not to send:

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I cannot believe you just blew up on me like that. You’re such a
jerk sometimes. Great. Now my day is ruined.

What to send:

Hey, I’m sorry about earlier. I hope you have a great day. Let’s
catch up later on. I just wanted you to know that I’m sorry for
what happened earlier. I’ve been really stressed lately, and you
got the brunt of it. I shouldn’t have spoken to you that way.
Forgive me?

Hey there, I just wanted to let you know that I’m sorry for what
happened earlier. I shouldn’t have said those things to you, and
even though I didn’t act like it, I want you to know how much
you mean to me

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 Chapter 4 - The Main Question

In my line of work, I’ve coached a small group of women who

are each in need of the answer to a very understandable
question that millions of women across the country have
probably asked themselves at one point or another:

How is it possible for simple words to make a man actually fall

in love with someone?

Some of these women even wonder what makes simple words

capable of swaying the feelings of man to make him like them
even more than he does at the current point in time (or
doesn’t).

The answer to this question can be found in the bare bones

makeup of human psychology.

You don’t need to be a licensed neurologist in order to

understand the basic principles that make the human brain
especially susceptible to being influenced by the spoken word.

Before we’re even familiar with what words even are,our

perspective of the world around us is being molded by
constantly hearing them.

We learn to use words as mediators between what we desire

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and what we can feasibly achieve, based in part on the people
around us who are also pursuing and expressing their own
interests with words.

Knowing how deeply ingrained the power of words are in the

foundation of all of our vastly different societies, our status as
the human race, and as members of the animal kingdom, it
should come as no surprise how powerful words can be in the
world of romance.

Here’s one of the most important things that you need to

understand about how words are able to leave a lasting impact
on the minds of people who hear them:

The auditory element of hearing is only a means to an end, but

what’s most important is the image that the sounds of the words
create when you process the meaning itself.

In short, every time you hear a word, your mind turns that
word into a mental image which you see in the theatre of your
brain.

People often make the mistake of thinking that it’s the tone of
the words that we speak or the way in which we deliver them
that has all of the importance, but that’s really only scratching
the surface of the complete truth.

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The cause of the importance of things like tone and delivery is
where we must direct the full extent of our attention, and that
cause is related to images.
Two identical phrases, simply uttered in subtly different ways,
can create entirely different mental images for the person that
those phrases are directed towards.

Think about what the purpose of the first page of a newspaper

is – it’s to catch your attention as effectively as possible with
three things:

1) Heavily-emboldened font

2) A significantly blown-up picture

3) Hard-hitting words.

These three elements all share something in common in how

effectively they can command your attention when you’re
presented with them – each of them are made to appeal to the
parts of your brain that process images.

The dark font and significant size of the headline text

immediately catches your eye, the heavily emphasized photo
sends you right into the heart of the action, the imagery of the
strong words increases the level of immersion into the
content.

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For the sake of only getting you to read something, the front
page of the newspaper attacks your image-processing
faculties from multiple angles simultaneously – this is done for
a reason that hasn’t changed since the dawn of man.

Our ability to perceive the world around us and construct

hypothetical situations before we act is based on creating
images.

When you know that the cognitive process of developing a

mental narrative is based on the construction of and
immersion within images, you can understand what’s
happening on a molecular level any time that you’re
conversing with another human being – it’s a constant flow of
imagined visual stimuli.

Now let’s just imagine that we’re having a conversation, and

eventually I mention that I took my dog to the park for a walk.

Pause and think about that for a minute.

After you heard that sentence, what happened?

Did the line, “I went to the park today to walk my dog” flash in
your mind as soon as I finished the sentence, or a little bit
before that?

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Or did you actually envision a literal park in your mind that I
could walk through with a dog on a leash?

If you’re like most people, then you didn’t literally envision the
words “I went to the park today to walk my dog” sliding across
an empty space in your mind.

The way that our brains can visually consolidate what isn’t
immediately observable is why we can accurately describe it as
an image-processing machine.

The beautiful thing about this image-processing machine in

our heads is that it essentially operates on autopilot.

When you’re engaging in small talk with a cute guy that you
just met in the coffee shop, everything that you’re saying to
one another is creating an image that gives you a hypothetical
representation of what each other’s lives are like – this forms
the basis for a more significant level of attraction than what
appearances alone can do.

After you’ve just had a lively five minute conversation with the
cute guy at the coffee shop, the volume of mental images that
were exchanged between the two of you could potentially
compose a mental narrative that could fill half of an entire epic
novel.

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You may not even be consciously aware of all of the vivid
images that manifest in your mind from hearing just a few
simple sentences uttered in a particular way.

But you see, that’s just the initial step.

Once you hear something and see a mental image of it, your
mind then respond with adequate “Emotions & Feelings” in
response to that mental image.

When the emotion is created, the third stage of word-image

processing begins: our brain releases a surge of chemicals that
send off alarm systems in the body propelling us to take
action.

The emotions that you experience when you’re talking to a guy

that you’re really interested in are literally signs from your
body that are telling you, “Hey! Whatever this guy is doing to
you right now, I like it! Get more of it!”

So if I say to you – “I was crossing the street and had this car
rushing to meet me at 100 miles per hour”, what happens
mentally?

Chances are that you imagined a car coming to meet you at

one hundred miles per hour, and though it may not necessarily

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be an overwhelming feeling, you might have gotten twinges of
slight fear as a response.

On a slightly less dramatic scale, let’s look at the times when

someone says something to you that just rubs you the wrong
way.

Have you ever really thought of what it means for someone to

be rubbed the wrong way?

Being rubbed the wrong way means that even though there
may not be an immediate or objective explanation for it,
something about what was communicated created an
unpleasant sensation.

In essence, what has happened with these phrases that rubbed

us the wrong way is that a negative image was presented to
our brains when the words were processed, and it may be
formed based on past experiences or personal feelings.

Even though the words may not have been intended as

insulting or even objectively negative, at the end of the day,
only the image summoned in the mind of the listener matters.

Once again, in simpler terms, certain words have more of an

emotional impact than others and that’s exactly what you’ll

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learn when I share my “Romance Revealed Obsession Scripts”
with you.

However, before I get to all that, I need to further explain that

in our studies of somatosensory sensation (how our body
responds to stimuli), we have discovered that different
emotions actually do physically register in different areas in
the body when you’re experiencing them.

When you’re experiencing fear, that uncertainty will literally

be creating a tugging sensation in the middle of your chest or
in the lowest pit of your belly.

Understanding this, it may make a little bit more sense that

words could have as much influence over a person as I’m
telling you they do.

When words summon strong emotions in the people who are

experiencing them, they’re not just being heard or felt – they
are literally acting upon the person’s biology in a quantifiable,
scientifically-observable way.

So, here is the most important thing I am trying to convey

with all this scientific explanation…

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The stronger the image that gets created by the words that are
spoken, the more intense the somatosensory experience of
hearing them is going to be.

A person could feel fear, desire & even love based on how
powerful your words are.

Now do you understand where I’m going with this?

When it comes to falling in love, there’s always the concept of

fantasy that has kept us entrenched in the ebbs and flows of
endlessly-repeating love stories since the dawn of storytelling.

These ideas of the people we’re getting to know for the first
time, and the dreams of doing all sorts of hypothetical things
with them in the future, all of these things are the exact kind
of mental images that we’ve been going over thus far.

It’s not really so complicated when you break it down to this

golden and stupidly simple rule: good images are good, and
bad images are bad – not exactly the head-scratcher of the
century, is it?

Despite fact of how amazingly simple this is, you wouldn’t

believe how many women don’t even have the faintest shred of
understanding about just how incredibly powerful mental
images are.

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Because most women usually stick to most basic words & don’t
know how to add more punch to their conversations.

Without even having the slightest clue of how badly they’re

sabotaging themselves, they use no end of weak and negative
words that create no emotional impact on a man’s mind at
best.
And consequently, they aren’t able to get the desired result
from their man.

In fact, here is the kicker…

Sometimes a woman who thinks she’s giving off all of the right
signs could actually be creating an incredibly unpleasant
impact without having any idea about it whatsoever.

Now it’s not to say that none of these clueless women are ever
able to get into stable relationships – quite the contrary.

The problem is however, that these women struggle day in and

day out to get what they want from their man.

Since they fail to take note of the subtle but powerful effects of
their own words, theirs is a life of endless confusion and
struggles with relationship issues that appear to have come
completely out of left field, without warning.

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If you can learn how to see past the smallness of individual
words and phrases and recognize how some words can get you
literally anything you want from a man…

You’ll have slightly better protection against getting blindsided

by unexpected inconsistencies in the ways that a man acts
around you.

Let’s just look at it this way: consider the impact that

marketing has in the first world. The concept of buying and
selling encapsulates our society so completely that it’s what
many people identify as the foundation of their entire reality.

Now consider the fact that simple words, and words alone,
carry the power to sell a product.

With nothing more than words creating an image in your mind

relevant to the use of the product, you are compelled to go out
and exchange a real piece of your livelihood for the chance of
realizing that hypothetical experience relating to the product
in your mind.

We could spend many days breaking into psychological

consumer complexities, but that’s for another day.

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At this point, you now understand the key basics of how words
function in our communicative world.

You know how words trigger certain images and feelings in

our minds to construct a vivid mental narrative that frames
our grasp on reality and the people around us.

So how do you use this basic knowledge in regards to men and

making them fall in love?

Are you ready?

The best way that you can get a man to love you to the point of
just about worshiping you is by using special kinds of words
that can fulfill some of his deepest desires.

The kinds of desires that you’ll be tapping into will be sort that
he goes through most of his day having largely unfulfilled, due
to how much he probably keeps them under wraps on a daily
basis.

Let’s get this out of the way before we go any further:

But when I say “Deepest Male Desires”, some of you ladies are
probably thinking that you already have the answer.

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Some of you might be thinking, “Oh! Sex, obviously! I already
knew that before I started reading this.”

Here’s the deal: that line of thinking is only a little bit right, but
mostly off-base. Sex does account for a part of the equation,
but in the grand scheme of things, it’s only useful for solving
about one percent of the entire puzzle.

When you’re ready to start working on the other ninety-nine

percent of the puzzle, you’re going to have to move on past the
sex aspect.
Now before we break down into the meat of what I want to
share with you here today, we’ve got to make sure that

Something is understood before moving on even a step

further.

We have to outline what the truth of the matter is with women

who are only desired by their men for sex and little else.

The truth is that when a man desires you for nothing other
than what you can offer him sexually, it means that at some
point, you were not able to fulfill him in some department of
his desires.

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Now that may not be something you’d like to hear, but I urge
you to not take personal offense to it – it doesn’t always mean
that it was your fault.

In sharing with you what I am about to reveal, you’re going to

know how to properly gauge a man’s desires before getting in
too deep to understand exactly what it is that he’s interested
in experiencing with you.

When you fully understand what a man desires from you, you
will be much more capable of getting into the kind of
relationship in which you will realistically be able to have
mutual satisfaction with a man who is right for you.

Now before we get too off-topic, let’s return to the concept of

the ninety-nine percent that I mentioned earlier, with sex
composing only the remaining one percent.

The ninety-nine percent is what ninety-nine percent of

women completely miss.

The thing swooping under these women’s radars is the nature

of what their words have to be communicating in order to
create positive mental images for their men that are congruent
with

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their desires, and that is what I’m going to help you with here
today.

So taking sex off the picture, here are some of the most vital
male desires you must be aware of before you start using my
“Obsession Phrases”.

The first desire that you’ve got to nail down is the desire for
approval.

Male Desire Number One – He Needs Your Approval and

Validation

Have you ever heard something to the effect of, “everyone is

walking around with an empty cup and expecting someone
else to fill it?”

Believe it or not, this saying is extremely true when it comes to

even the most independent men in our lives.

Approval and comfort are what they desire from women in

general.

A man will build an entire empire to hide this fact inside of, but
at the same time, he is helpless to escape the fact that does
desire to feel validated.

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The man, no matter how secure and cool and confident he
appears, is in constant search of something in the form of
approval.

He desires validation because all of us, as human beings, are

intrinsically validation-seeking beings.

Every man is seeking out some form of approval from a female

figure from an early stage in childhood, and oftentimes, it
begins with the mother.

Everything we do is, in a way, based on seeking out positive

reinforcement through the things that we enjoy.

Just like you probably have, I’ve heard a lot in my life about
how it is selfish to seek out validation from others and how the
best thing to do is to make sure that we’re always secure
enough in our own skin to be content without anyone’s
approval at all.

Even though it may be unhealthy to need approval on the

same level that an addict seeks out their fix through alcohol or
nicotine or painkillers, simply desiring some form of approval
is completely natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

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Men crave approval from women to the degree that you likely
have several men right now who want to feel like heroes in
front of you.

The man wants you to be grateful for the fact that he is a

constant presence in your life, and for that to happen, he
needs you to have an honest understanding of who and what
he is.

After you understand exactly what it is that defines him and

how much he wants you to desire him, your choice is whether
or not you make an attempt at fulfilling that desire yourself.

If you can fulfill all of his desires to feel needed and

appreciated, he’s going to feel like the two of you are
legitimately meant for one another.

He’s going to want to seek you out due to the fact that you give
him a feeling that no other woman can manage..

Now let’s move onto the second desire that needs to be

fulfilled…

Male Desire Number Two – He wants you to unconditionally

respect him

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Now this is far from being the easiest thing to do, but if you
can pull it off, you’ll be accomplishing something that a lot of
women really tend to struggle with accepting.

If you want to fulfill this desire, then the only way to do it is to

see your man as someone who is truly deserving of
unconditional respect.

Because so many women wind up getting into relationships

with men who are not worthy of respect, however, this can be
a very difficult subject to explain with them.

Unconditional respect is not only impossible if your man

objectively doesn’t deserve it, but also if you don’t even truly
believe that your man actually deserves the respect in the very
first place.

Be aware that there is a very good reason that I chose to use

the term unconditional respect.

To just about every man that you can imagine, respect is the
single most valuable thing.

In a world where we’re scarcely able to unconditionally hold

onto our own belongings or the people closest to us,
unconditional self-respect is one of the few things that a lot of

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men feel some sense of security in owning, and they like
people around them to acknowledge that.

The universal inner desire for respect makes it so that the very
moment you acknowledge his effort, he’s going to respond
positively. If you acknowledge him consistently enough, then
eventually, it’s possible for him to return it with love.

If your man doesn’t feel respected at all, though, then clearly

the two of you are going to have some serious challenges. If he
feels outright disrespected by you, then all of his attraction,
attention and feelings of desire for you are going to hit the
ground before you know it.

As respect is one of the principal things that a man holds dear,

there are few things that he despises more than the feeling of
being disrespected. What’s more is that you will rarely ever
actually have a man overtly verbalize when he feels that you’ve
disrespected him.

Chances are that if a man really feels like you’ve disrespected

him, what he’s most likely to do is actually just slowly break off
contact until he’s completely absent.

If you aren’t attentive enough, you won’t have any idea where
things went wrong when he’s completely withdrawn.

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Now that you know how to avoid the worst case scenario by
making sure to maintain a consistent level of respect, it’s time
to move onto the third key point.

Male Desire Number Three – Raising a Man’s Emotional

Temperature

When it comes to maintaining a steady and powerful

relationship with a man over an extended period of time, you
can consider it like keeping a small flame fanned and active.

If you fan it too hard, it will die out, but neglecting to tend to it
will make it lose its luster as well. We’re going to refer to this
as raising a man’s emotional temperature, and by extension,
the art of maintaining it as well.

To put it in the simplest terms, you have to learn how to “tune

up” all of the latent emotions that your man experiences when
you’re in his presence. The greater that his emotional intensity
is when he’s around you, the more intense the physiological
symptoms will be in turn.

When his emotions are legitimately clawing at him from the

inside to make him think about you on a consistent basis, he’s
going to be desiring your presence on a level that transcends

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what is purely emotional and legitimately approaches physical
symptomology.

You are literally going to become a kind of “fix” that he seeks in

order to feel more at ease.
In order to even reach the point of having your man actually
want you to this degree, you’ve got to raise his emotional
temperature to the point of no return.

All of the feelings that are conducive to attraction are going to

be overclocked, and when this happens, you’ve essentially got
the system working in your favor on autopilot.

It’s going to be such a powerful effect that he himself may not

even be fully aware of why he’s as attracted to you as he is, but
there will be no denying that he’ll be consumed by an
unshakeable and mysterious magnetism towards you.

Essentially, there are going to be three key events that occur

after his emotional temperature has reached a serious boiling
point:

1. He will Find Himself in the Zone of Consistent Attraction

Simply by raising the emotional temperature to optimal levels,

you’ve left a legitimate carbon footprint on his physiological
composition.

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He’s going to feel a level of attraction to you ingrained so
squarely and deeply in his heart that it will feel to him like his
soul is legitimately dancing in excitement at the simple
prospect of being able to spend more time with you in the
near future.

Whenever he thinks about you, he’s going to feel the

inescapable tug of his feelings towards you in the pit of his
stomach.

You’ll notice that when he actually sees you, he’ll be exhibiting

signs of wanting to be physically closer to you if it’s at all
possible.

He’s going to be experiencing ripples of immense comfort

around you and the concept of your person, and when this
happens, he’s going to be both relaxed and anxious – it will be
the dual effect of a simultaneous push and pull that both work
to bring him closer to your position.

2. He Will Feel Emotionally Safe in Your Presence

You may or may not be aware of it, but just the concept of
emotionality is a very touchy thing for the average man to
come to terms with.

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While it doesn’t mean that he’ll actually feel things less, it
means he’s got to deal with the pressure of not revealing his
susceptibility to emotional fluctuations too often, lest he
compromise the masculine “image” society holds him to.

When you’ve personally raised the emotional temperature to a

suitable level, however, you will have managed to become a
legitimate emotional safe zone for him that he can go to
without fear of being judged or insulted.

All in all, your presence is going to summon within him an

extraordinary amount of relief and safety that he’ll find
particularly valuable in his everyday life.

Whenever he knows that you’re nearby, he’ll feel relief from

the cloud of uneasiness that may have formerly shrouded him
any time that he thought about the horror stories and
sacrifices of commitment.

You absolutely cannot neglect to understand just how much

men value their personal freedoms.

Freedom is probably one of the few thing that come close to

respect when it comes to what a man values among all things
in general, and when he senses that a life with you isn’t going
to stifle or restrict him, he’ll be a lot more at ease with you
than most other women.

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3. He Will Not Grow Bored

Men hate monotony as much as they love the feeling of

freedom, and so naturally, their worst nightmare is to feel like
they’re trapped in a boring life spent with a woman who drains
all of the high-octane pleasure and spontaneity out of his
existence.

When you’re able to summon intense physiological symptoms

within him that raise his heart rate, you can guarantee that he
won’t feel the slightest thing resembling boredom when it
comes to your presence.

You’ll be able to raise his emotional temperature so effectively

that it will actually seem nearly impossible for him to be bored
in your presence, because he will have essentially been
psychologically conditioned to be excited at the prospect of
spending time with you whenever possible.

Putting it All Together

You now understand the three crucial keys to raising a man’s

emotional temperature to a boiling point.

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1. He’s going to feel like he has the freedom to be emotionally
uninhibited with you, in stark contrast to how he has to
conduct himself in everyday settings.

2. He’s going to feel emotionally safe in your presence, turning

every conversation into a valuable zone of security that he’ll be
extremely hesitant to let another man encroach upon.

3. He’s going to be so constantly stimulated by the way that

you can bring his male mental theater to life that he’ll never
grow bored with you, which will make him consider life with
you like an adventure that’s waiting to happen as soon as he
becomes bold enough to embark.

Accompanying these highly desirable effects of dedicating

attention to raising his emotional temperature are the benefits
of fulfilling two other extremely important desires he
possesses – the desire to be unconditionally respected, and
the desire to be validated.

When he feels that you respect him for the essence of all that
he is, he’ll feel a certain kind of compulsion to be near you that
can’t possibly be matched just by seeing another lady in the
store who’s physically attractive.

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You’re going to be triggering all of these momentous effects
simply with the use of powerful words which I call “Obsession
Scripts”.

Everything that we’ve discussed so far may sound a bit

complex, but the beauty of it all is that the complexity is
underlined by extraordinarily simple precedents.

With just the utterance of a well-time or thought-out phrase,

you can set off the chain reaction within a man that leads him
on the path to seeing you in a light that few other women in
his life have the knowledge to match.

Chapter 5 - The Big Secret To The Romance

Revealed Obsession Scripts

Hands up if you LOVE an evening in, where you snuggle up on

the couch to watch a movie?

Have you ever wondered why?

What is it about cinema that we LOVE.

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Sure there’s the story element, and of course - it's a fantastic
escape from the day to day grind. But, if we look a level deeper,
there’s a subtle truth that we can apply to everything.

And this subtle truth is what Hollywood relies on to churn out

blockbuster after blockbuster at record breaking profits.

You see, every movie that we watch causes us to FEEL

something.

These are feelings we have already in our bodies, but the

movie causes these feelings to rise up in us…

And as long as the film can effectively get an emotional

response from us - then its a good movie. If it can’t, then its a
flop.

And thats what we need to keep in mind when we

speak/message men.

We are going to take a page from Hollywoods book, and learn

how to stir emotions within the people we want to influence.

Here’s something interesting to know about emotions – we are

far, far more likely to mentally consolidate an event in our
memory when it’s emotionally charged.

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Even if we don’t remember every detail, if it’s emotionally
charged, it will be branded into our memory and stick out like
a red-hot piece of iron in the snow.

We experience so many diverse sounds, sights and smells on a

daily basis that it would be absolutely impossible to manually
account for them all without going stir crazy.

Our brains unburden themselves of the weight of insignificant

memories of under-stimulating things for a reason – we have
absolutely no use for them, and so it’s only practical to toss
them to the side.

A human is actually about ten times more likely to remember

an emotionally-charged event than an event in which they had
no emotional investment at all.

Remember, the amount of emotion you’re able to summon

within the man’s heart and the level of benefits you’ll be able to
derive from the relationship with him are positively correlated.

So here are the details you must keep in mind before you say
anything to a man...

1) Create pictures in his mind

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A golden rule of this process is to make sure that you prioritize
the mental images created by the words you speak instead of
simply the words themselves.

As we emphasized a great deal in the past chapter, it’s not

really the words themselves that carry any intrinsic value
when we speak them – all we ever did when we created
language was ascribe meaning to sounds, and the impact of
the sound is determined by the mental image formulated in
the mind of the hearer.

If you really want to strike a nerve in the heart of any man,

then the principle of showing and not telling cannot be
overstated in its importance.

Every single one of your words should paint a vivid portrait in

the man’s mind that keeps him up at night.

There are millions of ways that you can paint a vivid picture in
a man’s mind, and so understandably, it can be a tad bit
intimidating to try and think of every single possibility – one
thing that you assuredly can do, however, is make sure that
your words aren’t boring or mundane.

Unfortunately, most people in society are fine-tuned to

constantly speak of the most inane and boring things

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imaginable – on top of that, they oftentimes repeat these
boring things over and over again.

Here’s an example that just might illustrate the principle a

little bit more clearly.

You could very easily tell a guy something as honest and

simple as, “Hey! I like you!”

It accomplishes the basic purpose, but you can definitely do a

lot better than that.

If you really want to knock it out of the park, you’ve got to

make a point of going out of your way to make sure he
understands exactly what kinds of things he does that you like.

Instead of just telling him that you like him and leaving it at
that, what you can do is say something more to this effect:

“I really like it when you hold my hands and hold me really

close to you, it makes me feel so wonderful.”

Doesn’t the difference strike you immediately?

The added imagery here really drives it home that you’re not
just trying to make him think that you like him.

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Remember: the more detailed the mental image you can paint
in his mind, the heavier of an impact you’ll be able to make on
his mind when you’re no longer in the immediate vicinity.

2) Create intrigue

It’s also important for us to create intrigue.

One of the easiest ways to make a man emotional, is to make

him a little uncertain

Your objective must be to force the man to think, consider,

ponder and internally question just about everything that you
say to him.

You don’t have to make it so that you’re outright lying to him

or saying weird things, but a real effort to leave loose ends
attached to the things you say will go a long way.

Most conversations are boring by default, which is why the

most exciting and thought-provoking conversations we have
tend to stand out so much in our minds when we have them.

When we’re able to have a conversation that really leaves us

questioning what is and isn’t true, we hold it in special place in
our minds for analysis until it’s solved, if it ever is.

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Let’s just use an easy example to illustrate the effect I’m talking
about here…

Suppose you want to let a guy know that you like spending
time with him, but don’t want to make it seem like he’s won
you just because he's made a good impression so far.

You could say something to the effect of, “Hey Eric, I enjoy
your company” and be done with it, or you could take a step
farther in order to really engage his curious mind at a level
that you haven’t touched before.

Instead of just telling him that you enjoy his company, you can
both express your appreciation for while still allowing for
some shadow of a doubt.

Say something like – “I enjoy your company a lot but you do

have your weird moments once in a while...”

Now do you see what the critical difference is here with the
latter form of the phrase?

Instead of just leaving your statement of appreciation for him

hanging in the air so that he can take it and use to inflate his
ego, you’ve instead given him something that he can
legitimately think about.

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The first sentence barely requires any thought at all on his
part to understand. Even though it may be true that you do
enjoy his company enough to express it to him honestly, it’s an
incredibly bland statement that he won’t have to roll over in
his head for very long in order to fully understand.

With the second statement, you have effectively opened up

the virtual floodgates for his thoughts.

He would be completely caught up in wondering about what

your definition of “weird moments” is, growing increasingly
self- conscious.

When he starts thinking critically about all of the things he

does that could possibly be interpreted by you as weird, you’ve
initiated the loop of constant conversation he’ll engage in with
you in order to find out.

3) Create open loops

Now this third principle of emotional stimulation I’m going to

share with you is actually the most powerful one of all.

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We’ve already gone over how heavily the movie industry
depends on emotional stimulation in order to stay afloat, and
now I ask you once again to take a moment to think critically
about the entertainment industry.

Have you ever watched the Daily Soaps?

Have you noticed how Daily Soaps are able to maintain a

constant audience by ending every episode on an open loop?

What do you think the purpose of that open loop is, exactly?

The open loop format is a truly genius approach to the

ongoing series medium. When each episode ends on an open
loop, the viewer has their anticipation triggered, which results
in a nervous brand of excitement.

Your primary goal should be to make it so that every time you

two are about to part ways, there’s always just a little bit of
uncertainty left hanging in the air for him.

When you make sure to always leave a little bit of mystery

lingering between the two of you, he’s going to be left
anticipating what you do and say a lot more than he did
before.

Now it’s crucial that before I dive into the specifics of this step,

I clarify something for you:

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While this third step is undoubtedly powerful, it is not always
absolutely necessary. You should use this technique sparingly
unless the situation really calls for it.

You don’t always need to create more anticipation, and we’ll

spend some more time talking about that in coming chapters.

Now if there comes the time when you legitimately do feel you
need to employ the art of creating a sense of anticipation, I’ve
got an example you can look to for inspiration.

Imagine you’ve just finished a picturesque date with a guy who

just so happens to do an astoundingly small amount of things
to tick you off.

You’re feeling a good 8 or 9 out of 10 on the scale of

satisfaction with the night, and you know that you’ve got to let
this guy know he’s done an awesome job at salvaging your faith
in the male gender.

You could very well just say something as simple as, “It was
nice meeting you and I hope to do this again sometime.” and
leave it at that.

It’s short, simple, sweet, and about as exciting as cleaning the

lint out of the dryer.

Ending a night out with a line like this may not exactly push
him away, but it’s highly unlikely to have him chomping at the
bit to come out and see you again.

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Now if you really want to leave your potential lover off on a
serious cliffhanger, all that’s needed is a slight adjustment. Try
to instead say something to the effect, of:

“I did enjoy my time with you, but I noticed something a little

bit strange.”

Now after you say something like this, he’s naturally going to
wonder and be curious about what you thought was “SO
STRANGE” about a wonderful date.

Now when naturally expresses that curiosity, that’s your cue to

deliver the graceful coup de grace.

Instead of just letting him know exactly what it is that made

you think things were a little bit strange, you can instead say
something to the effect of:

“Oh! I really need to head back home. I’ll talk about it some
other time.”

Now after you utter this last sentence, do you have any idea of
what might happen next? I’ll tell you: you’re going to end the
date, right then and there.

Don’t offer any alternative explanation, just head on back to

where you need to go with a sense of urgency and purpose.

From the very moment you leave, you will have effectively
summoned a loop of intrigue and uncertainty in his mind that
he’ll be hard-pressed to escape from.

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His anticipation will intermingle with his feeling of
uncertainty,and more than anything else, he’ll want to clarify
the truth the mystery of your true feelings.

Now to sum this chapter up and put it all on the same page,
let’s just briefly review all that we’ve covered here thus far
about these obsession-generating phrases.

Your obsession-generating phrases will at once build up a

cocktail of comfort and anxiety in his heart – while he’ll be
relieved that you do have something resembling feelings
towards him, he’ll also be a bit wary of what the implications of
your uncertainty are.

The key to creating these effects is really just a matter of

making the words you say create strong, highly discernible
images.

You don’t have to literally create fantastic images off of the top
of your head, but you can benefit simply from taking care to
make specific mentions of all of the things it is that he does
that please you.

Instead of making ambiguous mentions about the kind of

person you think he is, substitute those things with ambiguous
mentions about things that might actually be turning you off.
Never forget that men are, by nature, enamored with the allure
of the chase.

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Everything that we desire is always perceived as most valuable
when it seems as if it’s the farthest out of our reach, due to the
aura of exclusivity.

When your phrases compliment him while still giving off the
impression that your approval is something that he still has to
work for, you’ll be triggering ancient components within him
that kick start the emotions conducive to pursuing you –
frustration, happiness, determination, confusion, and
obsession.

Once you feel you’ve gotten a good grip on whatever I’ve

explained thus far, it’s time I share my obsession phrases with
you one by one. Move on to the next chapter.

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 Chapter 6 - The Intrigue Phrase

Intrigue is a powerful tool in your seduction arsenal, the more

a man is curious about you… The more intrigue you spark in
him..

The more he thinks about you.

His imagination starts running wild with thoughts of you and

him together.

Also, if you sprinkle some uncertainty and some open loops in

there, you’re well on your way to becoming the only thing on
his mind.

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That's why in this chapter I'm going to share some intrigue
phrases:

Intrigue Phrase 1

You can say at the end or in the middle of your first meeting
with a man...

“I was both excited and scared about this.”

This line seems innocent enough, doesn’t it?

As innocent as it is, you’ll notice something pretty fantastic

about it if you pay just a little bit more attention to it.

This innocent line carries a lot of intrigue power within it. It’s
going to make the man seriously start thinking, and his
thoughts may be along the lines of, “I get that she was excited,
but why scared?”

Chances are that he’s going to ask you for just a little bit of
clarification as to what it was that got you feeling nervous, and
that’s when you move onto another intrigue-arouser like the
following line...

“Well, it’s nothing major, maybe I’ll talk about it when I know
you better.”

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It’s imperative that immediately after you drop this line, you
make a point to change the subject.

After you do this, he’ll once again be at the mercy of his own
intrigue.

Of course the line itself is still completely innocent, but at

thesame time, he’s going to be left hanging on uncertainty.

When you do this, you are at once planting a seed that

expresses interest and also establishing a personal boundary
to keep him away from knowing everything about you right
away.

The boundary of course will vanish in time, but the key point is
that the time will be provided by the fact that he still has things
about you to work towards figuring out.

And will be motivated to figure them out due to the fact that
you’ve expressed a clear sign that you’re actually interested in
him.

Intrigue Phrase 2

Now that you’ve established your intrigue-generating

boundary and also indirectly commanded a second date, you
can go on ahead and drop a line like the following anywhere in
the middle of your usual conversation...

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“I am usually the nicest person you’ll ever come across, all my
friends say I am the nicest girl they know, but I have a very evil
and weird side to me. Honestly, if I could tell you the weird
things I’ve done...”

Now just like after the very first line you dropped, after this
one, there’s a good chance he’s going to start wondering just
what it is that you’re so unsure about telling him, which will
likely compel him to ask exactly what it is you’ve done that you
don’t know about whether or not you’d like to share.

When he does ask you exactly what it is that you’ve done, your
next job is to once again change the subject.

Intrigue Phrase 3

“I don’t know if I should tell you this or not, I know it’s funny,
but I have a mental checklist for men. I noticed four really
good qualities in you, BUT...with two not-so- good qualities.”

Rest assured that as soon as you drop a line like this one, there
is a 99.9% chance that he’s going to ask you, in some way,
shape or form, to explain yourself better than you did.

When he asks you to clarify exactly what it is that you’re

talking about, your next directive should be to tell him that
you really need to be somewhere else – but not without

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mentioning that you would love to actually talk about it at
another time.

With this technique, you have basically prolonged the power of

the intrigue boundary and planted a seed of interest.

Unless he’s denser than dark matter, he’ll know for certain that
you are interested in him, but he’ll also be aware of the fact
that keeping you is going to take a little bit more of an effort.

Chapter 7 - The Attraction Phrases

The key to “ Attraction Phrase” is making a guy see you as the

girl of his dreams, and as intense as that sounds, it’s a lot
simpler than you might be thinking.

I’m going to let you know some of the most effective obsession
phrases I’ve found in order to start building that foundation,
but before we dive into that, let’s just go over how you can
believably achieve the milestone of the Everlasting Attraction
phrase.

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Now let me just ask you a question: have you ever witnessed a
man get completely caught up in the thrill of a casino?

Have you seen a man gambling on the same old game,

repeatedly, even though he might be consciously aware of the
fact that he’d probably be better off taking it a little bit easier?

When a man gets into the state in which he simply refuses to

lose, for better or worse, it’s almost like something has literally
possessed him and made him helpless to resist the thundering
cry inside just to win.

You may have felt that sensation once or twice yourself, and it
is that very feeling that we’re going to be capitalizing upon in
order to produce a full picture of what it takes to induce
Everlasting Attraction.

Why do you think it is that a man just doesn’t seem to be able

to stand up and leave that table at the casino that he keeps
pouring his money into over and over again?

He’s aware of the fact that his wallet can’t keep bleeding cash
forever, and yet in spite of this, he continues on his awe-
inspiringly stubborn drive to recoup everything that he’s lost
in the process.

In order to answer this question, I must ask you to think back

to what we covered in Chapter One when discussing the
complexities of the male mental theater.

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When a man is engaging in highly determined or obsessive
behavior, it would be overly simplistic to say that that he’s
doing it because he really, really wants to win – while that may
be true, it detracts from the bare bones nature of what’s
happening in his actual molecular physiology.

When a man is sitting down at the gambling table to throwing

caution to the wind in order to get that profit he’s seeking, he
is experiencing an extremely powerful surge of hormones in
his body that are compelling him to continue on in spite of
anything that may be discouraging him from continuing –
these are what we call “Pleasure Hormones”.

Despite the pleasant-sounding name, Pleasure Hormones have

an extremely forceful and potentially explosive influence on
the behavior of anyone who is momentarily being heavily
influenced by them.

The sensation is so addictive that the person may wind up

actually doing what they’re doing for the sole purpose of
feeling that sensation more than they’re actually invested in
achieving the objective goal of succeeding at what they’re
doing.

However you word it, the end result is that the man becomes
extremely impulsive.

When this happens, it becomes increasingly challenging for

him to consciously come to executive mental decisions to stop

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going after what he’s identified as the source of his compulsive
and impulsive drive.

So you know what the key is to unlocking Everlasting

Attraction towards you in a man is by now, right?

You’ve got to be able to induce that same hyper-driven feeling

within him as described in the example of the man who
refuses to get up and leave the gambling table.

You’ve got to influence him in such a way that he is all but

helpless to resist the relentless force of his own overactive
pleasure hormones.

And this can be achieved by one thing and one thing alone,
which is...

You have to turn yourself into a trigger of pleasurable feelings

in his mind.

Let’s take a look at another hypothetical scenario that you’re

probably more than just a little bit familiar with.

Have you ever seen a guy who is driven absolutely out of his
mind by another girl, even though it didn’t really seem like that
girl actually possessed any remarkable qualities?

Even though she wasn’t extraordinarily smart or attractive, did

you see that guy pursue her like he was a miner after the last
piece of gold on the planet?

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Why do you think this happens so often? What is it that he
sees in her?

What makes her so special that he has to pursue her for

qualities that you’re hard-press to understand if they even
actually exist?

In order to understand exactly what’s behind this seemingly

inexplicable scenario, we’ve got to think from within the mind
of the man himself.

We have to take ourselves out of our shoes for a moment and

try to conceptualize what can seriously spark interest in this
girl that we think is incredibly ordinary.

Even though she may appear ordinary to us, in the mind of

that specific man chasing her, she may as well be the queen of
the universe.

In a psychological sense, chances are that she probably carries

that exact level of influence over him in his everyday life.

You must understand that when it comes to the way that we

feel about our lives, every one of us is more or less living in our
own separate universe.

One person’s influence on another person’s life can alter their

entire sense of being, even if they have absolutely no impact
on another person that’s close to whomever they’re
influencing.

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So long as a woman is acting as a constant source of pleasure
in a man’s universe, it doesn’t matter what she appears like to
us on the inside – the impact levels that she has on us,
compared to him, are entirely separate.

If you want to be able to achieve the same level of universe-

consuming effect on a man that you’re interested in, then what
you’re aspiring to goes a whole lot deeper than just what can
be observed from seeing you and hearing you talk.

Your appearance and intelligence level certainly won’t hurt

your chances if they’re high, but the kind of influence that you
can wield must transcend that.

When you become a constant source of potential pleasure in

his mind, then not only is he going to appreciate your
high-value qualities, but he’s also going to start caring a lot
less about your flaws.

None of us are perfect, that much is certain, but when you

have a man who is as driven to be with you as a gambling
addict wants to win at the slot machine, you can consider it a
total victory.

Now in order to get the man you desire to this level of desire
for you, you’re going to need to employ some extremely well-
tuned and weaponized obsession phrases to get them on the
path to wanting to invest in you more.

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Any time that he thinks of you, you want him to be obsessing
over the possibility of getting to actually see you in person.

When you know what it takes in order to make a man fully dive
into the Everlasting Attraction phases with you, all that he’s
going to experience in regards to you are the feelings of love
and excitement.

He’s going to want and need you more as he spends more time
with you, never quite acclimating to the rush of being in your
immediate vicinity.

At the end of the day, it’s going to be just like when a little kid
craves love from his mother – when this happens, there are
going to be two amazing things that occur as a result.

Amazing Thing Number One – You will become 100 times

more valuable in his world

Something incredibly weird and yet very powerful all the same
occurs when you manage to get a man to this stage of
attraction towards you.

When you become a legitimate source of extremely

pleasurable feelings in his world, he’s going to start getting
taken over by ancient instincts.

When his ancient instincts fully awaken, he’s going to start

feeling an extremely powerful inner drive to literally fight for
you and protect you as if your life is his own life.

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He’s going to be so fixated on you that he sees his own internal
well-being as something entirely interchangeable with his
own, which will make him prioritize you on a level that no
other woman can possibly match.

He’s going to feel like you’re one hundred times more worthy
of his attention than every other woman out there, based on
how closely your own happiness and security are tied to his
own personal feelings of happiness and security.

In a sense, you could say that he’s going to start actually

feeling emotionally hungry for your closeness.

If he’s not able to be around you for longer than he desires,

he’s going to start getting physical pangs – this will be because
you have become a source of legitimate fulfillment for him,
and without you, he will be like a fish out of water.

Amazing Thing Number Two – He will see permanently

committing to you as the next logical step

When you get him to the stage of Everlasting Attraction, you

won’t even need to think about actually asking him to commit
to you.

He’ll be so frightened at the prospect of losing you to another

man that he’ll see no other recourse but to commit to you in
order to prevent himself going mad with fear of you being
claimed by someone else.

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When you’ve become a powerful source of fulfillment in his
mind, he’s going to be driven to protect you as a dog protects
his bone.

Even if he’s actually already committed to you, you’ll still be

able to notice an extremely dramatic shift in his level of
attachment towards you if you can get him to the stage of
Everlasting Attraction with the phrases we’re going to be
covering.

The most obvious sign that he’s been fully driven into this state
will be if you ask him exactly why he’s so driven to do so many
things for you or protect you so fiercely, and he has trouble
forming a clear explanation.

All he’ll know is that, for some reason, going to extreme

lengths to protect you and care for you just seems entirely
right.

Everlasting Attraction Phrases

Now that you’ve gotten a solid idea of just how powerful the
art of arousing everlasting attraction is, it’s time to start going
over what specific phrases can actually be used in order to
start actually moving the man in that particular direction.

When you’re using these phrases, remember that the core

emotion within the man that you’re looking to arouse is his
male EGO.

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You are going to be directly appealing to the ancient
components within him that compel him to be powerful
provider that seeks out fulfillment from his mate that validates
him in return for his strength and protection.

With these phrases, you’re going to be both feeding his ego

and validating him at the very same time. Do this correctly,
and Everlasting Attraction will be achieved in no time flat.

Here are some phrases you can use on him in your day to day

dealings...

“You make me feel so safe and loved, thank you.”

A simple phrase like this will appeal directly to the parts of him
that are designed to make him a powerful and appreciated
provider.

His mission to protect you and keep you safe will be both
rewarded and encouraged with a simple phrase such as this
one.

“Just thinking of you brings a smile to my face, thank you for

being such a special presence in my life.”

This lets the man know that even when the two of you aren’t
within the immediate vicinity of one another, you’re still
thinking of him – consequently, this will lead to him thinking of
you more often when the two of you aren’t around one
another as well.

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You are planting a seed of your affection for him within his
mind that will remain rooted at all times.

“I love how you keep my needs in mind even when I don’t ask
you to. You’re really special to me and I just wanted to let you
know that.”

A lot of men are a little bit unsure of whether or not their

constant little efforts are really being appreciated by the
people they do them for, but with a phrase like this, you are
basically assuring him that he’s on the right track – this will
encourage him to increase the pace at which he works to
please you, due to the security of knowing he’s doing a good
job.

“I really like to have someone like you by my side.”

When you use a phrase like this, you’re letting him know that
you see him as more than just a hot body that can be replaced
– you’re expressing appreciation for him as an ally and life
partner, which will strongly consolidate his security in you as
someone who can reliably be committed to.

“I’ve never ever seen a man who knows how to keep a woman
pleased as much as you do. I am so thankful to be around you.”

This is a pure massage to the ego that just might make his
whole day if you say it at the right time.

Men are not only prone to pushing themselves in order to feel

worthy, but they’re also comparing themselves to other men in

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categories of physical shape, intelligence, salary, achievement,
and the ability to satisfy women.

Telling him that he’s unusually good at pleasing women will

give him a massive confidence boost in his idea of his place
within male hierarchy.

“I’ve been wanting to tell you this, but I’ve been the happiest
since the day I met you. You give me the best feeling in the
world. Thank you so much for being there for me.”

If he’s ever had any doubt about what his presence has ever
meant to you, then this will assure him that every moment
since the two of you have been together has contributed to an
overall pleasant experience.

His doubts will practically melt away!

“You’ve been so good to me that sometimes I don’t feel I even

deserve it! You’re the best man ever, thank you.”

Once again, this is another powerful ego masseur.

Lots of men worry that their women may not be feeling like
they’re getting all they truly deserve, but with this phrase, you
basically guarantee that he knows you’re taking in the full
value of everything he does for you – this is highly conducive
to stirring up his enthusiasm to continue on working to please
you.

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“Remember the time when I was going through a rough patch
and you supported me all the way? I want to let you know that
I don’t think anyone else would have stood by me like you do. I
appreciate you for it.”

If there’s one thing that can trigger love more powerfully than
showing others what we’re capable of at our best, it’s the ability
to stick it out for another person they are at their absolute
worst.

Someone who stands by you when there are the most reasons
ever to not be around you is always a keeper, and he may or
may not know that – when you express just how much he
stands out among everyone else for being there for you in your
darkest hour, he will feel like he holds an extremely exclusive
and valuable place in your heart.

Piecing it all together

You can definitely tweak these phrases to make them as

relevant to you and your man as possible – just be sure to use
at least one of these phrases a day in order to achieve
maximum influence.

It won’t take very long before he starts to notice a shift in his

emotions to a level that he may have never known before.

If there was anything previously holding him back, then after

you’ve employed the full power of these phrases, he will be one

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hundred times more likely to view you as his potential soul
mate.

Chapter 8 - Permanent Obsession Phrase

Once upon a time, I was on a desperate quest to discover all of

the answers in regards to men and relationships.

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I buried myself in psychology books, and eventually, I
discovered something extremely interesting that was called
“Frame Control”.

Now when I learned about Frame Control, something

incredible happened.

It was when I discovered Frame Control that I first became

inspired to start developing “Obsession Phrases”.

Frame Control was what gave me foundation to start building

up these verbal techniques to make any man obsessed with
any woman that knows how to use them correctly.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to put you to sleep with all of the
fine technical details.

I’m going to cut right down to the juicy core of it all – if you
can understand what I have to share with you there, you’ll be
able to apply what you learn to every single situation you find
yourself in which a guy.

No matter who the man is, you will have the necessary
foundation to get the exact results that you’re after.

Now it is imperative that before I actually give you this

technique, I share with you some examples of the most
common situations that you can use it in...

When other women are in the picture

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When you are able to use this technique effectively, you will be
able to get a leg up on the competition if there are any other
women who may also be interested in the man you’re after.

Essentially, you’ll be distinguishing yourself from the herd.

Only a very, very small number of women are aware of the
nature of what I’m going to be sharing with you. This
technique works on a broad scale, but it is not distributed
nearly as widely.

To create massive amounts of curiosity

If you’ve just met a man for the very first time, then there is a
critical period you have in which you can make the strongest
possible impression that you can.

If you want to take the best advantage you can of the most
critical period that you have in order to capture the man’s
interest at the best possible opportunity. If you can make a
killer first impression, then more than half of your work is
already done.

As an online dating advantage

In today’s day and age, online dating is no longer considered

nearly as taboo as it used to be near the beginning of the rise
of the Internet. Online dating, even on Facebook, has become
exponentially more common than it has in the past.

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One of the beauties of this technique is that it isn’t at all
limited to what you’re able to do when you’re face to face with
the man that you’re interested in pursuing.

Because this is a strictly psychological technique, you can use

it whether or not the person you’re interested in is actually in
your immediate physical vicinity. As long as you’re
communicating with the person in question, you can use this
technique effectively.

It’s no secret that occasionally, men are going to try and test
you in ways that you may not immediately expect.

Every now and then, there will be a man who wants to see just
how far you’re willing to go for him – even if he’s not doing it
consciously, you can still very well be tested by cold behavior.

If you feel like you’re on the receiving end of a “playing hard to

get” routine, then following the principles of this technique
will ensure that you never have to worry about not being able
to meet up to any standards that he may have.

This technique is a time-tested and verified breaker of any and

all tests that women may take in regards to men who exhibit
curious behavior towards them.

Any time that you feel a man may be putting you through some
kind of character test, you will have absolutely no reason to
fear. Instead of dreading the character tests, you will be able to

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completely embrace them and dominate them before it ever
even comes close to being a problem.

Now that you understand the gravity of what I’m going to be

teaching you, it’s finally time to get right down to the juicy
meat of all that I’d like to share in this chapter.

This is what you’ve been waiting for – after you digest the full
value of what I have to share here, all of your man problems
will seem like little more than child’s play.

Now, without further ado, here’s the vital secret that you need
to know in order to draw out the full power of all of the
phrases that I’ve shared with you thus far.

“During each interaction you have with a man, your job is to

twist everything he says to make it sound as if he is trying to get
you to like him or trying to win you over.”

Out of all of the techniques that I’ve seen work over the years,
that have been very few that I’ve seen so effective as this.

By making it so that each interaction you have with a man

makes it seem as though he’s going on the offensive, you are
basically ensuring that the ball is always squarely in your court
instead of his.

No matter what he says or does, he will always believe that it

was in fact he himself that came to the conclusion all on his
own. In truth, once you master the full extent of this
technique, you will be able to secretly win the game without

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him ever being aware that it was you who was actually pulling
the strings all along.

The man is going to be thinking that it was always he himself

who was able to bring the relationship to fruition, but in truth,
it will be owed entirely to your ability to control the tide
behind his mental stage.

What we are essentially doing here is completely flipping the

script on what he may have believed was the natural order of
how a relationship between a man and woman should begin.
He’s going to be completely thrown off.

A lot of men are so used to being in control that when a

woman is able to exercise some leverage against him, she will
seem almost unnaturally powerful.

Let’s just take a look at an example here that can shed some
light on how to use this technique when a man is rejecting you
indirectly...

Him – I don’t think we’ll get along.

You – I was thinking the same thing actually! I mean you and I
are so different. It would be weird if were a couple. I mean I
am clearly a little hard to handle for you. We’re much better off
beings friends.

Do you see what just happened in that scenario? Instead of

just going along with what he probably expected of you, which
is to get swallowed up in your disappointment, you instead just

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simply acknowledged what he said and went along carrying
the conversation, indicating that his rejection or acceptance of
you isn’t the center of your entire existence.

Basically, what you did was take what he said and flip it right
back over into something that changed the context of the
entire exchange – with a few well-placed words, you
legitimately made it seem as though it was actually he himself
who was getting rejected by you all along.

Now after you’ve managed to pull off something like this, you
will basically force him to come to realization that he’s never
really understood things as much as he thought that he did.

He’ll be questioning his own subconscious to the point that his

confidence is significantly shaken.

With no more than just a single sentence, you will have given
yourself the power to yank out the rug under any man who
thinks they have it all figured out. It’s so simple, smooth and
smart that it probably shouldn’t even be legal.

Now there are two major reasons why this technique is as

incredibly powerful as it is.

Reason One – You don’t accept what he says.

When you follow the process as outlined above, you are

essentially breaking away from the herd that takes rejection
extremely personally as soon as it happens.

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You don’t have to outright say that you don’t accept his words,
but when you go about things in this fashion, you engaging in
a subversive practice that will befuddle him without cluing him
in on what you’re actually doing.

When you show him that what he said doesn’t really matter to
you all that much, you are establishing yourself as an alpha
female that’s not going to be reduced to a sniveling wreck just
because a man didn’t immediately jump to the idea of being
with her.

There are far too many men out there who seem to have this
misconception that every little thing that they say is
immediately validated by default. Rather than thinking of
exactly what the reason may be why they said X, Y, or Z, they
will immediately jump to assuming that there’s no need to
think about it at all.

Lots of men are extremely used to women taking everything

that they say at face value without a second doubt, and so
when a woman comes along who isn’t ready to just buy
whatever he sells right away, an extremely real sense of
uncertainty is created within them.

Reason Two – He feels the need to justify himself to you.

By twisting his words around in such a way, you’ve made it

seem as though he was the one actually pursuing you all along
– when you push him into this zone, you’ve made it so that
essentially he’s going to feel like he has to justify his stance.

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When you make it seem as though the man has actually been
the one who has been attracted to you all along, he’ll suddenly
feel like he has to fight to justify exactly whatever it is that he
said in the first place.

Here’s the best part about using this technique effectively –

even though you’ll be transferring all of the power in the
equation to yourself, he’ll have no idea that you actually wield
as much power as you do.

He’ll just be so preoccupied with his own feelings of confusion

that it won’t ever cross his mind that you were the one who
orchestrated it all from the very beginning.

Now here are a couple of examples of the ways that you can
use these phrases to your advantage whenever the time may
arise.

First date situations...

Him – (When he tries to kiss too early).

You – “Okay! Slow down tiger, let’s take this one step at a
time...” (And then offer your cheek for the kiss).

As was said before, men love to believe that they’ve got you on
the ropes at all times just because they think they’re being
smooth or smart.

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If you tell him to slow down, it’s going to instantly shatter any
perception he has they he’s the one who has all of the control
in the equation.

Him – So do you like me?

You – “Well, you seem like a safe enough guy so far. But a part
of me doesn’t trust you yet!”

He’ll probably be thinking that the way he worded this

question will just be a great way of baiting you into revealing
all of the reasons why you think he’s great, but when you give
him a reply like this, he’s instead going to be wondering why
you won’t let down your defenses as easily as he expected.

Him – (If he gets a little nervous).

You – It’s okay! It’s cute when a guy gets nervous around me.

Guys can be extremely insecure about revealing anything

about themselves that could be interpreted as weak, and so
when you call him out like this, it may set off a couple of
alarms in his head that make him wonder about how he’s doing
with the impression he’s leaving on you.

Adding in that you think he’s cute when he’s nervous is going
to do two every useful things – for one, it’s going to make it so
that he knows you’ve still got at least an iota of interest in him
in spite of the fact that you got a little bit nervous around him.

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At the same time, calling him cute is also going to add to the
uncertainty factor just a little bit too.

Chances are that he’s going to be slightly torn about whether

or not your remark means that you think he’s more on the
endearing side or the dorky side, and that will serve you well in
ensuring that he doesn’t get too cocky about thinking he’s got
all of the control in the equation.

Him – You are pretty!

You – Thank you, just don’t think anything naughty yet.

Guys are oftentimes wrestling around with ideas about ways

that they can express their interest without coming across as
sounding too pervy, so when you do this, there’s a chance he
might be taken aback by the fact that you latched on to the
naughtiness element without being prompted by anything
explicitly naughty from him first.

Him – We’re better off being friends.

You – I know, I would drive you totally crazy if we were to be a

couple. That would be weird anyway.

He probably expects you to try and find all kinds of ways that
he’s wrong when you say something like this, but when you
simply agree with him, you’ll be showing him that you’re not
like all of those other desperate and clingy girls who can’t last
more than a couple of hours without some man’s approval. You

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show that you’re a person, not an unfinished half waiting to be
claimed.

Him – I know you like me.

You – Yeah I like you, you’re cute but a little annoying.

He’s probably preparing for you to deny the fact that you like
him after he says this, but after you come back by confirming
that you do and calling him annoying, it will be like a double-
whammy blow to his expectations that leaves his head
spinning.

Him – I’m not too sure this is working out.

You – It’s okay, you don’t need to pretend. I totally saw you
checking me out multiple times.

Here you are not even accepting his idea of rejection, rather
you are flipping the tables by letting him know that you never
really thought the two of you could work well together as a
couple anyway.

This would instantly put him in the submissive seat & he would
wonder if you even liked him at all.

Here are a few more quick examples you can use once your
date is over & you’re headed back home (Use these as texts).

“It was a great night; It was cute to see you sneakily checking
me out”.

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“You are a nice guy, I like you and it was cute how you kept
staring at me as I finished my food”.

“You were so nice today, let’s hope you maintain this in the
future”.

“You hugged me like a baby hugs his mother! It was cute. I’d
like to see you again.”

“I know you had a lot of fun...This must have been one of the
best dates you’ve ever had. I hope you don’t stalk me after this.”

If you are in a relationship, here are some “Obsession Phrases”

for various relationship situations...If he is arguing with you
and highly angry, say the following...

“Did someone tell you how cute you look when you’re angry?
Your little nose goes all red.

“I don’t mind your anger as long as I get to see this hot

intensity on your face. It’s so damn sexy!”

As mentioned before, a lot of guys just aren’t too familiar with

the fact that there are lots of girls who are actually quite
attracted to they’re intense expressions.

He probably expects to come back at you by denying that your

nose gets red when you’re mad, but he won’t be expecting it to
get thrown right back at him.

This is just a cute little way to reverse the script and put him
in a role where he seeks your validation.

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If he is acting distant, say the following...

“What’s with all the sudden distance? Actually, never mind! I

know you love me a lot and won’t be able to keep your hands
away from me for too long!”

A lot of men do expect their women to grow clingy and thirsty

for attention when they pull away for a long enough period of
time, but when you honor his distance without even asking
why he’s acting so distant in the very first place, he’s going to
be pleasantly surprised.

If he is lecturing you, say the following...

“It’s so cute & hot when you lecture me like that!”

Guys love to pull the “it’s so cute when you do (X,Y,Z)” card on
a girl when she’s frustrated, but it’s not often that they’ll be
talked to in this way at the same time – let him have it and
watch the confusion run over his face when it happens.

If he wants to be left alone, say the following...

“Okay! Please have all the time you want. Either way, I know
how crazy you’re about me and won’t be able to keep your
hands away from me for too long.”

Knowing the right time to give you partner space is an

essential aspect of any relationship, and so being able to
remain secure in your appeal even when it isn’t immediately
apparent will score a lot of points in your court.

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“Look! No need to play any games with me, I know you already
want me. Why don’t you just ask me out already?”

Lots of guys expect girls to take the backseat and remain

passive when it comes to the progression of a relationship, but
when you show that you’re not about the mind game business,
you’ll snap him out of any misunderstanding he has about it.

He’ll know you mean business.

“I like a man who challenges me, but I can already see how
badly you want me.”

When you make a statement like this, there’s a good chance

that you could actually be making the man fairly nervous about
the fact that he’s too transparent about all of the things that he
wants – this will break any illusion he has that he’s controlling
the momentum.

“Oh so you’re going to play hard to get? Nice! I like a man who
puts an effort into winning me over.”

OR

“So do you always play hard to get? I know you have a cute
side to you which is hiding somewhere”.

Guys love to play hard to get because they believe we’re

clueless about when it’s actually happening, but when you
show that you’re fully aware of what he’s trying to pull, it will
snap him out of that false sense of security.

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So by now you should understand the basic science behind it
all! Twist a guy’s words around like this, and in no time flat,
you spark a level of attraction and desire within him that may
have seemed impossible before.

Conclusion

If you’ve made it here, it means you’ve finished reading

Romance Revealed…

You now have an ability that less than 1% of women worldwide

have.

You know how to capture a man's imagination and his heart.

But we havent finished yet.

When I started writing Romance Revealed, I wanted to write

the relationship bible for women… and I haven't even
scratched the surface yet.

You see, Romance Revealed is going to be updated every week,

with new, exciting and effective attraction phrases for you to
use on the man of your dreams.

I hope you’re as excited as I am.

To your love.

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