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Suhail Iqbal
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Theories of love
• Liking vs. Loving
• Compassionate vs. Passionate Love
• The Color Wheel Model of Love
• Triangular Theory of Love
Liking vs. Loving
Liking Loving
• Enjoy spending time with other • Attachment
person
• Appreciation for other person • Caring
• Like to be around other person • Intimacy
Compassionate vs. Passionate Love
In his 1973 book The Colors of Love, psychologist John Lee compared styles of love to the
color wheel. Just as there are three primary colors, Lee suggested that there are three
primary styles of love. These three styles of love are:
• Eros: The term eros stems from the Greek word meaning "passionate" or "erotic." Lee
suggested that this type of love involves both physical and emotional passion.
• Ludos: Ludos comes from the Greek word meaning "game." This form of love is
conceived as playful and fun, but not necessarily serious. Those who exhibit this form of
love are not ready for commitment and are wary of too much intimacy.
• Storge: Storge stems from the Greek term meaning "natural affection." This form of love
is often represented by familial love between parents and children, siblings, and
extended family members. This type of love can also develop out of friendship where
people who share interests and commitments gradually develop affection for one
another.
The Color Wheel Model of Love
Lee proposed that just as the primary colors can be combined to create
complementary colors, these three primary styles of love could be
combined to create nine different secondary love styles.
The Color Wheel Model of Love
Here are three primary styles:
• Eros: Loving an ideal person
• Ludos: Love as a game
• Storge: Love as friendship
• Three secondary styles:
• Mania (Eros + Ludos): Obsessive love
• Pragma (Ludos + Storge): Realistic and practical love
• Agape (Eros + Storge): Selfless love