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NATURE OF LOVE
DR. DIVINE J. GLIFONEA
EU112
8 Types of Love According to the Ancient Greeks
Words of Affirmation
• Some people want to hear “I love you” or other positive
compliments from their partner. And if they don’t hear it, then
they might feel unloved.
Acts of Service
• Doing nice things for other people is called an “act of service.”
Whether it’s changing someone’s oil, cleaning the house, or
giving a back rub, doing things to help make the other person
happy is what this one is about.
Receiving Gifts
• Some people value giving and receiving gifts, and some do not.
So, if you measure your partner’s love by how many gifts you are
given, then your love language is “receiving gifts.”
Quality Time
• Other people measure the quality of their love by how much
time their significant other wants to spend with them. If they
don’t get enough “together time,” then they might feel unloved.
Physical Touch
• Finally, some individuals associate love with physical touch.
Anything from hand-holding to cuddling, and even sex count as
“physical touch.”
Sternberg’s 3 Components of Love
https://www.verywellmind.com/types-of-love-we-experience-2303200
In Dr. Sternberg's theory, the concept of love is a triangle that is made up of three components. Some
of these types of love are focused on the love between two people in a romantic or sexual relationship,
but these types of love also apply to other forms of interpersonal relationships.
• Intimacy, which involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
• Passion, which involves feelings and desires that lead to physical attraction, romance, and sexual
consummation
• Decision/commitment, which involves feelings that lead a person to remain with someone and move
toward shared goals1
Finding a balance between the physiological need for sex and the need for love is essential, and the
complete absence of all three components is categorized as non-love.
What Is a Love Triangle?
A love triangle is not the same thing as the triangular theory of love. In a
love triangle, three people may either be involved in a polyamorous
relationship or two people may compete for the love of the third
individual.
7 Types of Love
Friendship
Components: Liking
This type of love is when the intimacy or liking component is present,
but feelings of passion or commitment in the romantic sense are
missing. Friendship love can be the root of other forms of love.3
Infatuation
Components: Passion
Infatuation is characterized by feelings of lust and physical passion
without liking and commitment. There has not been enough time for a
deeper sense of intimacy, romantic love, or consummate love to
develop. These may eventually arise after the infatuation phase. The
initial infatuation is often very powerful.1
Empty Love
Components: Commitment
Empty love is characterized by commitment without passion or
intimacy. At times, a strong love deteriorates into empty love. The
reverse may occur as well. For instance, an arranged marriage may start
out empty but flourish into another form of love over time.
Romantic Love
Components: Intimacy and Passion
Romantic love bonds people emotionally through intimacy and physical
passion. Partners in this type of relationship have deep conversations
that help them know intimate details about each other. They enjoy
sexual passion and affection. These couples may be at the point where
long-term commitment or future plans are still undecided
Companionate Love
Components: Liking and Intimacy
Companionate love is an intimate, but non-passionate sort of love. It
includes the intimacy or liking component and the commitment
component of the triangle. It is stronger than friendship, because there is
a long-term commitment, but there is minimal or no sexual desire.
This type of love is often found in marriages where the passion has died,
but the couple continues to have deep affection or a strong bond
together. This may also be viewed as the love between very close
friends and family members
Fatuous Love
Components: Commitment and Passion
In this type of love, commitment and passion are present while intimacy
or liking is absent. Fatuous love is typified by a whirlwind courtship in
which passion motivates a commitment without the stabilizing influence
of intimacy. Often, witnessing this leaves others confused about how the
couple could be so impulsive. Unfortunately, such marriages often don't
work out. When they do, many chalk the success up to luck
Consummate Love
Components: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment
Consummate love is made up of all three components and is the total
form of love. It represents an ideal relationship. Couples who
experience this kind of love have great sex several years into their
relationship. They cannot imagine themselves with anyone else. They
also cannot see themselves truly happy without their partners. They
manage to overcome differences and face stressors together.
For Reflection:
1. Based on Sternberg's theory of love, who is most likely to have
companionate marriage?
2. In Sternberg’s theory of love, what distinguishes liking for
compassionate love?
3. How does Sternberg’s theory of love pertain to dating?
4. What type of love is love at first sight?
Attachment Theory of Love
• https://study.com/academy/lesson/the-attachment-theory-of-love-
definition-examples-predictions.html
https://www.slideshare.net/Sabeehulrehman/
love-11213560