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What is an intimate
relationship?
 Intimacy
The ability and need to
experience emotional
closeness to another
human and have it
returned

Intimate
Relationship
Often characterized by
attitudes of mutual
trust, caring, and
acceptance.
 4 types
Experiential
Intimacy

of
Emotional
Intimacy
Intellectual

Intimacy Intimacy
Sexual
Intimacy
 BF/GF,
Dating, MU,
and Same Sex
Romance
 BF/GF
-Words like “girlfriend” and
“boyfriend” are used to describe a
relationship in which two people
consider themselves to be a couple.
This doesn’t mean they have made a
long-term commitment. That depends
on the couple. Some people commit to
seeing each other exclusively before
agreeing to use labels like “girlfriend”
or “boyfriend”
 Dating
-Is a casual process by which you get
to know a person or group of people
which you may eventually have a
romantic relationship with. It’s a
friendship kind of thing between you
and the opposite sex (es) you find
attractive, and you want to know more.
 Mutual Understanding
-A term used mostly by Filipinos for two people who
obviously like each other, but not yet committed to a
relationship. Teens usually use the phrase “MU” for
“Mutual Understanding” that sooner or later will lead to
another “MU” or “Magulong Usapan”. Mutual
Understanding is a stage between friendship and
courtship, where usually a guy or girl shows intense
affection to his or her opposite sex and acts as if they are
in BF/GF relationship (BG, 2012).
There are factors that trigger a person to enter this kind
of situation such as;
1. They are afraid to commit.
2. They are just enjoying your company and want to
spend more intimate time with you
3. .Maybe both of you want to try this kind of situation
and see where it will leads.
4. Because you love him/her but you are committed to
someone else.
 Same Sex Romance
-A relationship between two persons
of the same sex and can take many
forms, from romantic and sexual, to
non-romantic homosocially close
relationships.
Principle of
Attraction
 Proximity
-The physical nearness which is out of
your control.
Physical Attractiveness
-the degree to which a person’s physical
features are considered pleasing or
beautiful.
Reciprocity
-You are more likely to like someone
who likes you.

Similarity or
Compatibility
-People who are alike
will like each other
more
Theories
of Love
Triangular Theory
of Love
 Styles of Loving
Storge
Based on : FRIENDSHIP
Combination : PRIMARY
Description : This style of love grows slowly out of
friendship and is based more on similar interests
and a commitment to one another rather than on
passion.

Ludos
Based on : CONQUEST
Combination : PRIMARY
Description : This style is used by those who see
love as a game and want to "win" as many partners
as possible. The focus is on having fun in the
moment and therefore relationships of this sort tend
to be very short.
 Styles of Loving
Eros
Based on : ROMANCE
Combination : PRIMARY
Description : This love style is the one most
commonly portrayed in Hollywood movies. Also
known as "love at first sight", it is based on
"chemistry" and a strong physical and/or emotional
attraction.

Pragma
Based on : PRACTICALITY
Combination : LUDOS + STORGE
Description : This love style is very practical and
realistic. People who prefer this style approach their
relationship in a "business-like" fashion and look for
partners with whom they can share common goals.
 Styles of Loving
Mania
Based on : OBSESSION
Combination : EROS + LUDOS
Description : This style usually flows out of low self
esteem and a need to be loved by one's partner.
Lovers of this sort usually become very possessive
and jealous.

Agape
Based on : SELFLESSNESS
Combination : EROS + STORGE
Description : In this style of love, the individual is
willing to sacrifice anything for their partner. It is
based on an unbreakable commitment and an
unconditional, selfless love
 Passionate Love
"a state of intense longing for union
with another."
This type of love tends to be more common at
the outset of a relationship. People in this state
of love tend to experience very powerful feelings
for each other. They need to be near the other
person, may think about the other person
constantly, and experience extreme distress
when separated.
Two Forms:
Requited love
Unrequited love
Cognitive, Emotional, and Behavioral Key
Characteristics of Passionate Love:
Intrusive Thoughts About the Partner
The Idealization of the Other Person or the
Relationship
A Strong Desire to Know and Be Known
Strong Emotions About the Other Person
A Need to Maintain Physical Closeness
 Companionate Love
"is about intimacy, trust, commitment, and
affection."
This type of love involves caring deeply for the
other person, truly knowing the other individual,
and is committed to the other person through
both good times and bad.
Cognitive, Emotional and Behavioral Key
Component of Companionate Love:
Long-Term Commitment
Deep Intimacy
Trust
The Meaning of
Love and Sex for
Filipino Youth
 The meaning of Love
a profoundly tender,
passionate affection for
another person-a feeling of
warm personal attachment or
deep affection, as for a parent,
child, or friend.
 The meaning of Sex
sexual activity, including specifically
sexual intercourse.-either of the two
main categories (male and female)
into which humans and most other
living things are divided on the basis
of their reproductive functions.
 Lived -in,
Marriage, and
Same Sex
Unions
 Long-term Unions
The majority of filipino's will marry in their
lifetimes, and for many, marriage
symbolizes the transition into long-term
commitment. However, many Filipino's
cannot legally marry for some reasons.
Sexual Relations
Sexual behavior between individuals,
especially sexual intercourse.

Same Sex Couples

“Love always wins”
A Holy Union is a wedding ceremony,
which is a spiritual joining of two persons
regardless of sexual orientation and
gender identity. Granting same-sex
couples the right to marry is likely to lead
to stronger and more psychologically and
physically healthier families.
Making
Relationships
Work
 Self-disclosure
-Refers to the process of revealing personal,
intimate information about oneself to others.
Through self-disclosure, two individuals get
to know one another.
-Considered as a key aspect of developing
closeness and intimacy with others,
including friends, romantic partners, and
family members.
-Self-disclosure usually increases over time
in a relationship.In casual relationships
(with men or women), men are less likely to
disclose personal information than women
(Reis, Senchak, & Solomon, 1985).
 Equity
-Is a sense of fairness in the exchange of
goods, services, time, and effort.
Equity Theory of Love
-Suggest that people are more satisfied with
a relationship in which there is equal give
and take by both parties.
- Equity doesn’t mean equality, though. It is
not about the number of rewards and costs,
but rather about the balance between them; if
a person puts a lot into a relationship and
receives a lot, it will feel fair to them.
 Gender Inequality
-Is a result of the persistent discrimination
of one group of people based upon gender
and it manifests itself differently according
to race, culture, politics, country, and
economic situation.
Domestic Violence
-Is not physical violence alone. Domestic
violence is any behavior the purpose of which
is to gain power and control over a spouse,
partner, girl/boyfriend or intimate family
member.
-Insults, threats, emotional abuse, and
sexual coercion all constitute domestic
violence.
 Physical Abuse
is any physically aggressive behaviour

Sexual Abuse
is using sex in an exploitative fashion or
forcing sex on another person.

Emotional Abuse
any behavior that exploits
another’s vulnerability, insecurity,
or character.
Thank You!