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VILLAMIN, Dexter S.
College of Education
Love is…
Definitions of Love
• Love is a mix of feelings and actions that
shows a deep liking for someone or
something.
• Love involves caring for another.
• Romantic love can lead to things such as
dating, marriage and sex, but a person can
also feel for friends, such as platonic love,
or family.
• There are also chemical reactions within
the brain that can be triggered by the
different types of love.
Forms of love
There are many kinds of love.
There can be self-love, love towards a friend (such as platonic love), love in
romance, towards family, toward God, or towards an object or idea.
Often love can be confused with other feelings.
Being sexually or physically attracted is the feeling of lust.
Lust and love may be thought of as different.
Normal friendship is a form of love that can be distracted by
lust and misunderstanding.
First love
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What does it really mean when
we are “in love”?
ANS: We being in love means that we have
found the ultimate meaning of life revealed
in other human beings.
Do you really know when you are in love?
Ans: According to a study with 1,000 college students:
MALES
25%- they are sure
59%- they think they knew what it was
16%- they did not know about it
FEMALES
36%- they are sure
54%- they think they knew what it was
12%- they did not know about it
Characteristics of Love
1. CARE
To be caring means that you become
responsible enough to respond to the needs of
your special someone, which makes him/her feel
really special. Caring also means that you
constantly have him or her in mind, making that
person feel secure and protected.
2. RESPECT
When you respect your partner, you don’t contradict
your partner’s wishes, rights and needs even if you may not
agree with him or her. In fact, it motivates you to truly serve
him or her because he or she deserves it. Respect also shows
that you understand that every person, including the person
you love, is a unique human being with a personality that’s his
or hers alone.
3. UNDERSTANDING
Being understanding allows you to be open to a feeling,
situation, statement, or attitude. You may not know the
answers to all the questions you might have, but because you
are understanding, you’re able to see the world through your
partner’s eyes. You also avoid ignoring, dismissing, or
condemning him or her because of what he or she thinks,
says, or does.
4. ACCEPTANCE
You cherish the undeniable fact that both of you look at
each other just as you are and are happy about it. When you
have this attitude, you realize that both of you aren’t perfect
and that you can forgive his or her mistakes or shortcomings.
As human beings, we all crave acceptance, we want to be
valued for the kind of individuals we are.
5. APPRECIATION
You acknowledge the value of your partner’s
personality, inspiring you to give back to him or her
fully---making you feel more fulfilled and happy.
Appreciation is almost synonymous with gratitude,
which is sorely lacking in many modern relationships.
Being appreciative also shows that you focus on the
person’s more positive aspects.
6. TRUST
When you trust someone, you put your full
confidence on him or her. You see the positive qualities
of your loved one’s character., such as his or her
honesty, sincerity, humility, and reliability. It’s a very
basic component of a successful relationship. When
you trust somebody, it’s like saying, “I know what you
think, say, or do and I have no problem about it.”
TRIANGLE OF LOVE
Passion Intimacy
Commitment
1. Passion
-involves the 5 basic senses
- 1st element of love
- Based on immediate physical perception
- Intense desire for physical affection
- LFS or Love at First Sight
- Infatuation (crush)
2. INTIMACY
-knowing each other a lot before making love obvious
- “soul mate” or “best friend”
3. COMMITMENT
- “You may now kiss the bride”.
- They get married, live together, start a family, and remain bound to
each other for the rest of their lives
- Highest element
- A glue that binds two hearts together
WHAT KIND OF LOVE DO YOU HAVE?
1. ILLUSORY LOVE
- “You are so sexy, now let’s get married!”
- FOOLISH LOVE
- 90% passion, 10% commitment
2. ROMANTIC LOVE (passionate and intimate)
- Common type of love (shown in romantic comedy films in Hollywood)
- Has the elements of”
1. physical attraction
2. intense passion
3. mutual intimacy
4. exciting feelings
- Exclusivity
3. PARTNERSHIP LOVE
-is great for couples, but along the way, the passion is not as it once
was
4. TOTAL LOVE
(love times 3)
- When the main elements of passion, intimacy, and commitment work
together harmoniously, creating a relationship that can be described as
ideal
In 300 words, answer this question:
What is the enemy of love?
ANS:
LONELINESS
“You can be alone without being lonely.”
“But when you’re lonely, the feeling is worse than being alone”
“Leave loneliness alone”.
Battle of the sexes
Differences of males and females in terms of:
1. Physical
2. Mental
3. emotional
• A stressed man thinks alone.
• A stressed woman talks about his problem.