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Trinity O’Dell
James Schooler
English
7-10-2021
There are many ways to experience love: you can see, taste, smell, feel, and hear it.
Shapes and sizes are unlimited. What is the significance of this? The phrase "Love conquers all"
is true. But why? Love is a gift for some, but others consider it a curse. What is it about love that
is so important? Is what these people feeling love, or are their minds tricking them into thinking
it is love. Are there any chemical reactions in the body that make them believe they are in love? I
will lay out some scientific evidence I learned from my research and you can form your own
the brain's pleasure center, pools with serotonin levels causing a crazy, pleasant, stupefied,
urgent feeling. Scientists have categorized love into three categories. Those categories are lust,
attraction, and attachment. Each of those releases specific hormones based on which of those
three you are feeling. It is testosterone and estrogen that give us the desire to reproduce. The
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substances that cause attraction are dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin, which we release
to feel good. Attachment hormones are those released after mothers give birth to, and hold their
babies. Oxytocin and vasopressin regulate attachment hormones. Parents and siblings feel this
When it comes to attraction, we have all of our senses involved, including our eyesight.
Most hederosexual men prefer women whose voices are higher pitched, while hederosexual
women prefer low deep voices. It is the opposite of their own that’s attractive to them. An
example of touch would be that it may feel better to touch someone with smooth skin or soft
hair, but not want to touch someone who has rough or bumpy skin, or has a coarse textured hair.
Researchers have also found that a person's hormones can cause them to produce a particular
taste. A taste that is unknown to the person themselves, but that another person will pick up on
because it is different from their own. They’ll either be attracted to it, turned off by it, or just be
indifferent to it. Some people considered a kiss to be a bad kiss, not because they weren't
attracted to the person, but because the taste of that person's chemical makeup was not an
inviting flavor for the new person experiencing it. In addition to taste, the human body will
release a specific smell that is capable of attracting or repelling people. The smell of a person is
much more recognized early on when people meet. Some people have a strong or foul odor that
can be smelled from a distance and likely does not draw many people in. On the other hand,
some people produce a sweet, or clean smell of innocence that has people trying to get closer.
Which is why many people go out of their way to smell good for the people they like, or even for
a passing stranger. Not too many people want to be known for an unpleasant smell. When
choosing a partner to reproduce with, all these factors should be naturally taken into account.
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If we can define love, why is it so different for so many people? Now, two people are not
the same, nor do they always think the same, and their bodies react differently than others. I had
a friend recently ask me what the difference is between being sexually attracted to someone and
being romantically attracted to someone. In simple terms, it's the lack of attachment for someone.
Being sexually attracted to someone means you’re only attracted to them in a sexual manner,
desiring nothing more than a physical connection. Being romantically attracted to someone
means they’ve met all the markers that make you desire more than just a physical connection
with them. You are enticed to be connected with them on many levels and in a deeper, more
intimate manner.
The hormones most closely associated with romantic love are oxytocin and vasopressin.
The hypothalamus produces and releases oxytocin and vasopressin, whereas men and women are
both influenced by each hormone, however, women are more sensitive to oxytocin and men are
more sensitive to vasopressin. During the intense stages of romantic love, both oxytocin and
vasopressin concentrations increase. In the brain, these hormones act on numerous subsystems,
and there are receptors present in several brain areas that are involved in romantic love.
vasopressin, which interacts with the dopaminergic reward system. When dopaminergic
pathways are activated during romantic love, a pleasurable feeling is created. In the early stages
of romantic love, these pathways are associated with addictive behavior. So much so that it is
similar to those addicted to cocaine. It is also consistent with obsessive compulsive disorder
The hormones most closely related with sexual love are dopamine, norepinephrine, and
serotonin. These three hormones pool together and cause that crazy, pleasant, stupefied, urgent
feeling I mentioned earlier. This combination of hormones is what causes the notable
“butterflies” in your stomach, the “zing” you feel all over your body, and the desire to reach
some form of physical intimacy with another person. At this point the connection is most likely
based solely on a physical attraction to another person, as you’re only interested in connecting
sexually and not interested in a relationship that requires more than a physical nature.
Earlier I explained that love falls into three categories, and from those three categories it
branches into different types of attraction, kind of like a tree graph. The roots of the tree would
be the word love. If three trunks were growing from these roots, the trunks would be the three
categories. Now, off of each trunk you have branches that could be different types of attraction.
Next would be the leaves, and that could be the different styles of attraction. So each instance of
love is it’s own tree and root system (category), telling it’s own story through it’s branches (type)
Currently, there are two main types of romantic love: passionate and companionship.
When people think of being "in love", they usually mean passionate love. A person might feel an
intense longing to be in their arms, to the point they think about it obsessively. Sometimes when
passionate love is not accompanied by companionship, it is short lived and the passion fades
quickly. Companionship is often less intense in a physical nature than passionate love, but it is
complex and involves feelings of intimacy and commitment as well as a sense of deep
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attachment to the partner. A desire for a long lasting relationship with another person comes
More categories can be found within these three categories, one of these being maternal
love. In many ways, maternal and romantic love are similar physiologically. A mother's love
activates brain regions that are the same as those that are activated by romantic love. In
particular, the reward centers are active in maternal love, which contain high concentrations of
oxytocin. However, those associated with judgment and negative emotions, are not active during
maternal love.
Love is important for many reasons, which we need to address. It is love that keeps
people bound and committed to each other. Evolutionary psychologists believe that love evolved
in order to keep parents of children together so they could survive and mature. Human children
spend a much longer period of time growing up than any other species. Because humans rely on
their parents for many years to survive, develop skills and abilities, and live a fulfilling life, love
Love is not only rooted in evolution but is also rooted in biology. Several
neurophysiological studies have demonstrated that people experiencing passionate love exhibit
increased activation in reward-related parts of the brain. The brain regions that are activated are
the same as those activated by cocaine. In these regions, there is a release of chemicals such as
oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine, which lead to feelings of happiness, euphoria, and
excitement that are associated with sexual arousal. Relationships such as those with friends and
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family do not activate these brain regions. According to studies, liking someone is not the same
thing as falling in love with them or craving a physically sexual connection with them.
Let's now discuss the different styles of love. There are three primary styles of love,
according to research. They are Eros, Ludus and Storage (also known as Mania). The three love
styles were first discovered by psychologist John Lee. As a result of these styles, people can
guide their approach to romantic relationships based on their beliefs and attitudes about love.
Eros is the philosophical term that refers to erotic love and is characterized by physical
attraction, indulging in sex, strong feelings for another person, and a strong desire for closeness.
Ludus is distancing oneself from others and playing games are common traits of this type of
behavior. It isn't very shocking that people who endorse this love style are unlikely to commit,
feel comfortable ending relationships, and often start a new relationship before ending the
current one. Storage (mania) is a style of love that many people regard as a more mature form of
love. A relationship is prioritized with someone who has similar interests, affection is openly
expressed, and physical attractiveness is not as important. When people get high on
unconditional love, they are not needy or dependent on others and they are more trusting of their
Genes play a very small role in a person's love style but is not non existent. Rather, it
involves the development of one's personality and their past experience in relationships, romantic
and family based. According to some studies, individuals with high levels of negative traits, such
as narcissism and psychopathy, are more likely to like Ludus-style love. They lack the desire for
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the long term and get bored easily with people and relationships. The work it requires for the
long term does not interest them. Eros, is someone that has both strong sexual and romantic
desires. They yearn for physical connections with those they are physically attracted to. This is
likely someone who has multiple partners or is attracted to others even if they’re in a
monogamous relationship. Storage is a love that has an equal balance of all categories
(attraction, attachment, and lust). These will be people who yearn for a sexual and emotional
connection with another person, and look forward to a long term or life long relationship. These
are people that are committed wholly to another and view the other person as an extension of
themselves.
Love is a necessity for humans, but why? Our desire to love and care for others is hard-
wired, because the happiness we experience increases when we fulfill this wish. In addition to
delivering affection to others, expressing love for them benefits the person giving it. As humans,
we have a fundamental need to be loved. A human being's mind and body depend on love just as
much as it does oxygen. As a result, having a strong sense of connection will make you healthier
throughout both your physical and emotional lives. A person who has less love in their life will
also have greater levels of depression. For some people, love is actually a good antidepressant.
Even society is affected by love. Having a sense of community within society is scientifically
proven to facilitate society's function. Love and compassion are the cornerstones of society.
Consequently, togetherness is necessary for further development and progress declines without
it. Relationships and society are built upon values such as love, compassion, trust, understanding,
and caring.
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If love didn't come from the heart, then why does the heart represent it? We cannot
survive without our hearts, which pump blood throughout our bodies and help to distribute
oxygen. Everywhere from ancient artwork to modern anime, you'll find the heart symbol. The
image appears in movies, music, clothing, a million different objects, and, of course, candy.
Western Civilization has connected love to the heart since the dawn of time. Among ancient
cultures, for instance, the Egyptians, the Semites, and other cultures believed that the heart was
the most significant organ because it emanated love, and this belief was universally accepted as
the most powerful emotion of life. With advances in modern science, we are able to study the
heart-love connection with greater accuracy. We can explain why people continue to associate
this superlative feeling with the cardiovascular system's most vital organ even in the 21st
century.
Let's go over the heart and its functions. The heart is giving, fair, and equitable since it
supplies each cell of the body with oxygen, nutrients, and energy as needed. “It generates a flow
that collects waste, to be eliminated by the kidney or the liver.” Every emotion affects the heart,
and it is sensitive to whatever energy is applied to it. In love, one's pulse quickens as his heart
flutters when he sees the object of his sentiment. It sends blood to the face when the time is right,
so it glows and blushes, enticing the target. Aside from transcending Platonic love, the aortic
artery also provides blood necessary to be able to function optimally and in a timely manner
during times of passion. A strong emotion like love or attraction releases a powerful adrenaline
surge in our body, so it's natural that we feel it in our chest first. The pulse of the heart changes
when we experience love and compassion, becoming smoother. As a result, our hearts have
reached peak performance, and our nervous system is in balance. Due to its movements upon
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seeing someone or its actions, humans believed it had come from their hearts. In conclusion, it is
our brain that is the control center for every part of our body and enables our body to react in the
appropriate way to love and all its aspects. It is impossible to control how we feel about
someone. Love is more powerful than intellect, as it is commonly said by many. It doesn't matter
if they know they're with someone bad for them and know it, their body doesn't stop requiring
them. As the old saying goes, "Love conquers all.", since love overcomes all.
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