NGUYEN BUC ,. Sy ean Daa Eg2 SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Nguyén Ditce Tac gia: Phat hanh theo théa thudn gitia Cong ty Van héa Huong Trang va tac gid. Nehiém cam moi sy sao chép, trich dich hogc in lai ma khéng cé sy cho phép bing van ban cia ching tai. GPXB sé 889-2010/CXB/20-106/VHTT QDXB sé 1496/QD-VHTT In an va phat hanh tai Nha sach Quang Minh 416 Nguyén Thi Minh Khai, P5, Q3, TP HCM Viét Nam Published by arrangement between Huong Trang Cultural Company Lid. and the author. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced by any means without prior written permission from the publisher.SINH VIEN! , , BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Cc sdch nay khéng gitip ban dat diém cao hay c6 nhitng bang khen cua trudng lép. Cuén saéch nay ciing khéng néi véi ban cach dat duoc nhiing gi ngudi khac mudn ban lam. Va né cing khong hé chia mét bi quyét nao vé su giau c6 hay néi tiéng. Toi viét cudn séch nay voi mong mdi cac ban sinh vién sé ty hiéu dting vé ban than dé chon mét con dudng di phu hop va thanh céng trén con duéng dé. Khi ay, ban sé tré thanh mét con su tu ding manh c6 kha nang lam chi van ménh ban than va gitip dé nhiing ngudi khac cé duge diéu ho muén, ngay ca khi ban con ngéi trén ghé nha trudng. Danh hiéu su tu hay sinh vién thanh céng sé theo ban suét ca cuée déi, véi nhting nguyén tac bat bién ciia no. Tai sao trong cuéc séng c6é nhing ngudi luén that bai, ca doi phai doi 16t nhiing con thé? Don gian chi vi nhiing ngudi that bai thudng khéng tu biét minh 14 ai, mudn diéu gi va phai lam nhu thé nao dé thanh dat. Hodc néu cé biét duoc nhitng diéu d6, ho cing khéng du dting cam chon Iva cach hanh déng véi quyét tam du dé trd thanh mét con su tt. Xin chtic cdc ban di kién tri di hét con dudng minh chon!LOI NOI DAU Ban 1a mot sinh vién? 1. 7 Ban da bude vao mot méi trudng tuong déi khée liet? . Ban hoe rat t6t, nhung dé IA diéu duy nh&t ban cé thé lam tot? . Ban gap trd ngai vdi viéc hoc cua minh? Ban dang c6 nhiéu van dé raéc réi xung quanh buc giang? . Ban luén cam thay nham chan véi cudc séng hién tai? . Ban khéng cé cam hing véi sach vé nhu khi ban con hoe 6 trudng phé théng? . Ban muén kiém due tién, that nhiéu tién va da quén di nhiém vu cia minh lie nay 1A gi? Ban cé ¥ chi, nhung huéng di cua ban dang gap trd ngai? Ban 1a mét sinh vién tuong déi xuat sac, song ban thay tudng lai khong duce dinh hinh ro lim? . Ban cam thay hut hang va khéng biét minh sé song tiép nhu thé nao?SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? 10. Ban khéng cé ké hoach cho tung lai hoac khong xac dinh duge dau 1a diém ban muén dén? 11. Hay 1A ban con bé ngé véi tat ca, vi ban méi bat dau? Nhiing bat én nhu trén khéng phai van dé cia riéng ban! Trong thuc té, khéng it cac ban sinh vién hién nay thudng roi vao mét hay nhiéu trudng hep nhu trén. Dé giai quyét tat ca cdc van dé trén, va hon thé niia, tat ca nhing gi ban can 1a doc cuén sach nay va thay déi chinh minh: Jam chu cuéc séng cua minh tit nay dén hét cudc doi. Cuén sach nay danh cho nhiing ai dam chép nhan dau dén dé thanh céng, né khong danh cho nhiing ké nhtt nhat hay nhiing b6 6c luén luén nghi ngd vé moi thi. Sinh vién! Thdi diém cia buéc dém chuyén tiép, cua su hinh thanh mét tinh c&ch xuat s&c hay chi 1A mot diém md nhat trong hang triéu nhiing diém mé cua cudc déi nay. Co nhting ngudi truéng thanh duge nhd su béi dap va rén gitia khi con 1A sinh vién, va rat nhiéu ngudi khac thi nguige lai, ho sa lay va lam mat han di nhiing pham chét thud nho, nhiing ky nang va ¥ chi phan dau. Ban dang cé xu huéng 1A ngudi nhu thé nao? Va ban mud6n minh 1a ai? Hay luén tu hdi ban than xem banLOI NOI DAU dang 6 vi tri nao, dang lam gi va nhiing phém chat wu ta tu thud nhé da bién di dau mat réi. Toi dang muén néi véi cdc ban vé nhiing con ngudi da ting thanh cong... Chuing ta c6 Doan thanh nién, co H6i sinh vién. Bay gid, néu ban déng y, ching ta sé cé mét cau lac bé “Nhiing sinh vién biét dat cau hoi’. La sinh vién, ching ta c6 v6 sé van dé can giai quyét. Toi danh gid cao nhiing con ngudi biét dat cAu héi voi chinh minh hay ngudi kha, va con danh gia cao hon nita nhiing thanh vién luén co gang tim giai phap cho cac rc réi minh gap phai ma chva c6 cau tra 1di théa dang. Pham chat dé néilén diéu gi? Né néilén ring, ban 1a mot sinh vién thanh cong, mét con su tu ding manh. “Sinh vién thanh céng”? Mot khai niém hét site méi me! Tit truéc tdi gid, chting ta chi nghe ni vé sinh vién xuat sdc, sinh vién gidi, kha, trung binh va kém. Hon nita, khai niém thanh cong thudng chi duge ding cho nhing ngudi di di lam, va viip vdi ddi, hode cho nhiing ngudi dude thanh tuu, tré nén giau cé hay danh tiéng. Vay thi, khai niém “sinh vién thanh céng” é day liéu c6 y nghia thuc su gi khéng? C6 day! Va chac chan la n6 cé ¥ nghia rat dic biét, nh tdi sé giai thich ngay sau day. “Sinh vién thanh céng’ 1a sinh vién cé thé giai quyét cae van dé ma minh gap phai trong nhiing nam ngéi trén 9SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? ghé nha trudng; c6 thé ra trudng véi ban linh va dap ung day da nhiing yéu cau lam viée cia thi truéng lao dong chat lung cao. Va trén tat ca, sinh vién dé phai c6 té chat cua mot nha lanh dao. Ban thay dé, dinh nghia nay khong quy dinh sO nam ma ban ngéi trén ghé nha trudng! Toi tin 1A ban dA cém cuén sach nay lén béi su thiic day cla mt tua séch gay to md. Nhung dén day tdi tin la ban sé doc tiép vi muén tré thanh mét sinh vién thanh céng. Dé c6 thé di tiép cing cdc ban trén con duéng kham pha ban than mt cach thuyét phuc han, xin cho phép téi duge gidi thiéu vé minh d6i chut. Toi 1A Nguyén Ditce, mot ngudi tich cue, euu sinh vién trudng Dai hoc Bach Khoa Ha Néi. Téi ting 14 mét hoc sinh xudt sdc trong suét 12 nam dén sdch, da tham gia va doat giai trong rat nhiéu cuéc thi kién thic han lam... Va t6i cing cé mét thanh tich dang ty hao khi con 1A mét cau bé. T6i bude vao dai hoc véi tam ly tu tin va lac quan v6 cung khi tham du mét cudc do stic vdi 10.000 thi sinh khac. Téi dat 28 diém trong ky thi d6, Lai thém mét lin tu hao nia. Giong nhu nhiéu sinh vién khac, nam thi nhat 1A mot nam vat va cua toi vdi nhiing diém sé thap kém. Téi bi 10LOI NOI DAU danh don tam ly va gap rac roi véi niém kiéu hanh ctia minh. Tdi bat dau sa stit. Co 1é ti da chon sai nghé, sai trudng chang? Nam tht hai, toi quyét dinh nghi hoc gitia chiing (theo ché d6 bao luu ) dé tham gia kinh doanh cing mét ngudi anh ho véi chtte danh quan ly khéng gop von. Tri thong minh toan hoc cia tdi khong gitip toi kiém dude nhiéu Ong viée dinh d6n... Va nhu mét “gidm déc cap cao’, téi bi sa thai.. Vixa tron mét nam ké tw ngay téi rdi giang dudng dai hoc. Toi da rat that vong va bi quan vé cuéc addi. Tuy nhién, toi van luén tim kiém cau tra Idi cho cau hdi: Téi 1a ai? Toi phai lam gi dé thanh cong? Va téi dai gap su may min cua di minh. D6 1A mét ngudi dc biét, va 1A 6 van cha didi toi. Tdi sé ké cho c&e ban nghe vé ong trong nhiing chung tiép theo ctia cudn sach nay. Va nhu mot céu chuyén cé hau, tdi tr lai truéng dai hoe, hoc hanh bat dau kha lén tréng thay cing nhu giai quyét duge cac rac r6i cia ban than, va rade réi lén nhat la: lam sao dé kiém that nhiéu tién hay lam duge mot diéu gi dé dang tu hao khi cén 1A sinh vién, véi su huéng dan cua vi cé van, thdy minh? Téi ra trudng véi tam bang tét nghiép loai uu, c6 chut von liéng va bat dau lam éng chi: bing viée gop vén md 11SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? cong ty kinh doanh cdc san phdm va thiét bi co khi. (That su thi dé 1a m6t nganh An Jén lam ra vao thoi diém ay.) Toi lai valp nga, nhung vi cé van lai gitp tdi lam lai ti dau... Thdi gian sau d6 tdi sang lam viée cho cong ty Toyota tai Nhat Ban. Mét céng ty khac ca toi due thanh lap khi téi vé nude dude vai thang, va hém nay téi ngéi day tam su véi cac ban vé chuyén di cua minh trong khi tién van dang dude thu vé déu dan tv cong ty cla tdi. TOi cé thé néi gi qua tat ca nhiing chuyén d6? Dé 1a: Toi da la m6ét sinh vién thanh céng! Mac du téi da hoe tat ca 6 nam dai hoc (tinh ca thoi gian nghi) va cé nhiéu thang tram trong sw nghiép. M6i bude di déu la mét co hoi, téi da cd chon di con dung ft rai ro va ngan nhat so véi hau hét moi ngudi. Téi da c6 cd hdi cua minh, mét “sinh vién thanh céng”, mot con su ttt. Cac ban téi, nhiéu ngudi khac cing cé khdi du tét dep nhu tdi nhung da tré thanh nhiing con thé, Ban cé chic 1a minh da biét 13 vé su tiv va thé hay khéng? Téi thudng so sanh cdc “sinh vién thanh céng” v6i nhting con su tw, va cdc “sinh vién that bai” la nhiing con tho! Co thé ban dang thdc mac vé viéc nhitng “sinh vién that baz’ - trong ¥ nghia ho hoc khéng t6t 14m hoac tham 12LOI NOI DAU chi khéng hoan t&t chuong trinh hoc - van cé thé tré thanh su ti T6i dam doan chic véi ban rang diéu dé thuc su khong bao gid xay ra. Va ban tranh bién véi toi rang Bill Gates, Steve Job 1a nhiing dién hinh cha diéu dé. Nhung ban da hiéu sai vé khai niém “that bai’ tdi muén ding 6 day. Vi ho khéng phai 1a nhiing “sinh vién that ba7’ nhu ban tudng. Su that 1A ho da thanh céng va tré thanh su ti sém hon nhiing ngudi khac! Chang c6 ly do gi dé mét con su tw phai 6 lai trong mét méi truéng chat hep thay vi lao ra ngoai cudc sng hoang da day thu thach. Va trong ¥ nghia d6 thi nhiing ngudi ban vita nhac dén déu 1a nhiing “sinh vién thanh cong”, hay nhiing con su tu. Citing nhu bao nhiéu ngudi khac, ban luén c6 quyén chon Iya: Ho&e 14 mét su tu anh hang ding manh, hoac Ja mot chu thé nhut nhat chi biét tron tranh. Néu ban van tiép tuc doc nhiing trang sch tiép theo day, diéu d6 co nghia 1a ban mudn tré thanh mét su tt dang manh. Téi rat vui khicé thém mét ngudi déng hanh thé: vj nhw bent Than Ai, NGUYEN DUC 13DAN NH uhét ching ta thudng nghi rang mét con su tu thi phai tan nhan, manh mé, dang sd va kho gan. Con thé thi sao nhi? Ching ta thuéng cho rang thé la mot con vat yéu 6t, hién lanh va dang yéu. Su thuc thi nhimg m6 ta nhu trén chi ding mét phan, nhung d6 khong phai 1A nhiing dac diém gitip ta phan biét ré su tli vi c4o, thé hay mét con vat nado khac. T6i 1A mét ngudi yéu thich déng vat, gia dinh va ban bé téi cing vay. Tat ca ching ta déu gidng nhau la yéu thudng cc con vat. Nhung téi yéu thich su tU, con hau hét nhiing ngudi toi biét thi hau hét 1A yéu thich thé hon khi duge dé nghi so sinh giita hai con vat nay. Chac ban ciing sé yéu thich mét con vat hién lanh va c6 vé dé thuong hon, phai khéng? Ban khéng sai trong viéc lua chon danh tinh cam cho con vat nao, nhung ban cé thé sai lm trong viéc lua chon tinh cach va su thich tng véi hoan canh. T6i mun luu y ban mét chi tiét thu vi vé chinh ban than minh: Ching 14DAN NHAP ta luén hudng tdi va yéu quy nhiing gi tuong d6i gidng v6i ban than minh, ft ra 14 6 mot vai dac diém dang luu y nhat. Ban c6 thé tht héi mot ngudi xem ho thich thd hay su tu. Va ban sé n due cau tra 16i boc 16 mét cAch tudng d6i nhiing dic diém quan trong nhat trong viée hinh thanh sy nghiép cua ngudi d6. Day cing 1A mot trong nhiing phuong phap tuyén chon lanh dao va nhiing vi tri ding dau tuong déi chinh xac. Nhung ban khéng nén lay lam phién muén hay buc doc khi tdi chi ra cho ban mét diém yéu cia ban than, vi hdu hét chung ta ai cing déu nhu vay ca. Do 1a ban chat tu nhién cua con ngudi. Va citing diing bi quan vi viéc minh dang cé khuynh huéng tré thanh mét con thd. Piéu d6 ludn ludn, toi phai n6i 1a ludn luén, c6 thé thay doi dude. Dac biét 1A khi ban van dang 6 trong khoang thdi gian hinh thanh va xAy dung tinh cAch ca con nguéi minh: tudi tré. Khéng phai ai cing c6 thé tu minh vugt qua duge nhting kho khan trong cuéc ddi, vi chung ta luon phai tu may mo tim phuong phap, ma nguéi mo duséng thi bao gid cing phai mat mot thai gian kha dai dé lam duce diéu nay. Khi gap kho khan gian khé, ai cing mong minh sém thoat khoi tinh canh dé, nhung thudng khéng bao gid chiu suy nghi vé chinh nhiing diéu thu su quan trong 15SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? ma ban than can doi mat, va vé nhiing diéu cén lam trong cudc song ngay nay. Nhiéu ban tré khéng thé hiéu néi minh dang lam gi vi hau nhu ho luén hanh d6ng theo su sAp xép chi dan ti cha me hoic tii nhting khu6n sao thuéc tu duy truyén théng. “Ti thich nganh céng nghé thong tin hon, nhung cha me t6i lai muén t6i trd thanh mot bac si...” Dai loai 1a nhu thé! Mét sé khac thi khong bao gid xae dinh trude dude nhiing mue tiéu dai han hay ngén han va do dé gan nhu khéng thé hoan thanh bat cti cong viée nao mét céch tron ven. Da sé chung ta thudng rdi vao tinh trang biét rat nhiéu viée nhung lai chang thau hiéu duge mot diéu gi cho that sau sdc, tham chf cing khéng e@ gAng dé thuc su am hiéu dude diéu gi ca. Ching ta ciing sai 14m khi muén nhanh chong kiém that nhiéu tién bang cac cong viée khéng gitip ban than nang cao ky nang cling nhu tri thtic, thay vi dau tu ky vao viéc hoc hanh dé c6 di su kh6n ngoan va trinh dé nhan biét, nim bat va tranh thi nhiing co héi rat tét trong tuong lai. Vi thé, 13i khuyén cho ban vao hic nay 1a hay bat dau tap suy nghi nhiéu hon vé chinh ban than minh, suy nghi 16DAN NHAP vé nhiing thay déi cé tinh dét pha va tién bé cia xA héi, cha dat nude. Ky nguyén toan cu hoa dang dién ra véi su déi mdi kh6ng ngiing tii cac quy tac, luat 16, ranh gidi, cong nghé, ton gido... Cac khu vue quéc té héa dang ngay mot md rong, va mét ngay nao d6 khu vuc dia phuong cua riéng ban sé nho lai dén mtic khong con ai quan tam dén nita Vay, t6i mong céc ban, nhiing ngudi sé lam cho van héa Viét Nam, kinh t& Viét Nam, cOng nghé Viet Nam va ban s&c Viét Nam tré thanh mdt phan dang ké trén truong quéc té, hay tu rén luyén ban than tré thanh mét muic dé mé rong, mét dién hinh dé trd thanh quy chudn va dé tén vai vuon lén manh mé. C&ec ban c6 thé chua nhan ra diéu gi minh sAp phai déi mat, hodc déi tht 1a ai, song hay lu6n ty biét ban than minh dang 6 vi tri nao, minh dang sé hiiu nhiing gi co thé trd thanh Idi thé. Khi chién tranh qua di, nhiing ké tha hitu hinh khong cén niia, nhung ching ta lai phai d6i mat véi rét nhiéu thé luc ngin can su phat trién vuon lén; ching dang s¢ va khén ngoan hon gap nhiéu lan. Trong thuc té, Idi thé cha mét dat nuée chinh lA nhting ngudi tré tudi, la tang lép tri thttc, va Idi thé cla cac ban 1a tri tué, 1A nang luc va ban linh cua stic tré trong thé ky 21 nay. 17SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Ban chi cé thé vuon dén thanh céng véi mot tinh than va y chi manh mé, mét su khat khao mong muén déi méi va ding cam di dau trén con dudng da chon. Toi biét dé 1a mét qua trinh dai va day thi thach, song hay kién tri bude nhiing bude dau tién, va hay quyét tam di hét con dudng minh dé chon. Hay sdng, lam viée va hoc tap dé khong bao gid phai hdi tiéc vi su yéu dudi hay ludi nhac cua ban than minh. Hay vui vé chap nhan nhiing gi cuéc ddi da ban tang cho ta: ca nhiing thuan lgi cing nhu bat Igi. Don gidn chi vi dé chinh 1A nhitng thit thach dé gitip cudc déi ta trd nén cé ¥ nghia hon. Nhu mét doanh nhan thanh dat trong cong cudc déi méi cua nuéc Nhat, 6ng Inamori Kazuo da néi: “Céc ban tré! Cuée déi cha cae ban sé thay déi rat nhiéu tiy theo cach nhin lac quan hay bi quan vé cu6c song clia cae ban.” Toi biét 1A trong cdc ban van luén tén tai ban chat oai hung cua su tu, nhiing con ngudi dan dau thuc thu. Toi chi cé thé gitip ban khoi day chinh ban chat dé trong ban than minh, dé ban duge A chinh minh véi nhiing uée md va thanh dat. 18CHUONG L: DE TRO THANH SU TU TINH CACH CUA MOT CON SU TU CGB rude khi noi vé tinh cach cia mot chia son lam, ching ta nén c6 nhiing hiéu biét chung vé két qua cla ca tinh d6 mang lai. 1. C6 thé chi déng cuéc séng cia ban than Ban cé bao gid nhin thay hode nghe néi vé mét con su tu bi rugt dudi vA de doa tinh mang béi mot diéu gi khac ngoai tuéi gia? Téi thi khong thé tim du¢e mét hinh anh hay tai liéu nao ndi vé diéu ky la do. Nhiing con vat khae, hoan canh song va méi truéng kha&e nghiét u? Nhiing diéu dé chi lam cho bé léng su tt thém day hon, mong vuét séc hon, nhanh hon va manh mé hon ma thdi. 2. Lu6n dan dau, lanh dao thuc hién nhitng céng viée phi thuéng. 3. Bi de doa la diéu khéng bao gid xay ra voi mot su tit. 19SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? D6 1a nhiing gi cé thé xem 1a tinh cdch cha su ti. Ban biét minh c6 thé khéng can tat cA nhting diéu trén, song ban khéng thé khong c6 mdt trong s6 cac tinh cach dé néu muén tén tai hay c6 cude song tich cue va thoai mai sau khi ra truéng, trong mét x4 hdi dang bién d6i ngdy mot mau chéng hon véi téc dé cla ky nguyén sé nhu hién nay. Vé nhiing dac diém co ban trong tinh cach cua su tu, toi c6 thé nhac ban mét sé nét tiéu biéu nhu: - Manh mé - Téc do - Dang manh... D6 1a nhiing tinh cach néi bat, ban c6 thé biét dude mét cach truc quan ho&c théng qua nhiing nhan xét cua ngudi khac vé chung. Con rat nhiéu, rat nhiéu nhting phém chat khac ma téi va ban sé clung kham pha 6 nhiing chusng sau ctta cuén sach nay -nhiing diéu khong dé nhin thay, va c6 thé sé lam chung ta phai tu duy lai vé mi lién hé gitia nhiing khai niém ngwoi thanh céng-su tu-m6t tinh cach l6n. Hay khé luyén: con méi la muc dich ciia su tap luyén. Khéng bao gid dé con mdi thoat, luén té ra ding manh, dé 1a vi khi ciia su tu. 20DE TRO THANH SU TU TINH CACH CUA MOT CON THO CO tin 1A ban luén muon kiém soat cu cua chinh minh, muén tré thanh theo mét ¥ nghia hay mét pham vi nao dé. D6 1a diéu ban chi cé thé tim thay 6 m6t con su tichti khong phai la thé. Ban c6 thé van chua thuc su duoc thuyét phuc béi quan diém vé tho va su tu. Va ring, tat ca déu c6 thé kiém soat ban than va cuéc séng cua chinh minh 6 mét gidi han, hay chinh vi chtia son lam kia cing ddi khi dé cho eae yéu té ngoai canh tac déng dén minh. Ban nghi dting, vi thuc té khéng ai c6 thé ludng hét duige nhiing yéu td khach quan tac dong dén minh. Nhung ban Gi, su khac biét 1A mét con sv tt sé ching bao gid buéng xudi cho nhiing hoan canh xalu tac dong va diéu khién, cdn m6t chu thd thi nguie lai: lu6n yéu 6t va bi d8 bep bai nhiing bién ding lén. Ban than téi va cudn sach nay cing mong muén sé khdi day trong cc ban nhiing tinh cach cua mét con su tui, va r&ét mong cé6 thé bién ban tré thanh mét con su tu thue thu. Trong méi con nguéi luén ton tai hai mat: tich cuc va tiéu cuc. Va moi hanh vi cla bat cit ai trong thé gidi hién thu nay cting déu do hai m&t déi lap dé tac dong va diéu khién ma thdi. Ban cé thé hoan ton tich euic, hodn 21SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? toan tiéu cyc hay pha lan gitia mét chit nay vA mét phan cha tinh cach kia. Ban c6 thé tu nhan ra ban than minh hoac khéng, nhung vé phan téi luén khang dinh, tich cuc chinh 1a phém tinh cia su tt, con thd 1a biéu tuong cha su tiéu cuc véi vo sé nhiing khuyét diém cia mdi ngubi trong chting ta: - Nhut nhat - Yéu dudi - Néi so ludn 1a van dé 16n nhat - Tinh cach bé - Va ludn bi ngoai canh dé bep... Thue su toi da khong cudng diéu héa chtit nao khi noi rang ban sé bi dé bep trong ky nguyén ma nhting khu ring dang dan duc san phang, su déng bé hoa dang dién ra v6i téc dé chéng mat, va su di chuyén cia “nhéing con su ti’ titnhing mién d&t khdc téi noi ban séng ngay cang tré thanh mét van dé thaéch thtic, néu ban khong kip thdi chuan bicho minh nhiing gi cain thiét dé doi ddu, hop tac clmg phat trién va dé tré thanh mét tinh cach Ién, m6t con su tli ngang tam. Ban sé bi dé bep, béi chang cé con su tti nado muén choi v6i thé ca! Diéu dé ludn luén dung. Vay chting ta phai 1Am gi khi ching ta vin dang IA nhting cht thé, hodc chi mdi nhen nhim mét suy nghi vé su thay di? Chung ta 1a sinh vién, nhiing ngudi dang 22DE TRO THANH SU TU diing truéc v6 sé nhiing su lwa chon va dang ling ting truéc su thay déi khong dé nhan ra tit thi, hodc ching ta dang mo hé chang nhan ra diéu gi ca. Nao, bay gid 14 hic dé ching ta thay adi, 10t xac dé trd nén manh mé, dé tré thanh mot con su tu... PHA BO HANG RAO CONG VIEN inh nghiém ctia ti chi ra rang: Ban cé thé can dén m6t nam dé phat hién van dé, can mét thang dé loai bé khé khan va khuyét diém, song ban cé thé giai quyét van dé chi trong ving mét tudn 1é. Thach thie 1A 6 viée ban nhan ra van dé minh dang phai déi mat. Néu ban lam duge diéu dé, nguy co sé thay bang co hdi, va ban chi can nam lay. Toi tin 1a cdc ban da biét ngudi Nhat phat trién nhanh nhu thé nado sau chién tranh thé gidi tht hai. Ta mot dat nuée bi tan pha bai hai qua bom nguyén tit, nhiing mén ng chién tranh, va dic biét 14 tu tudng ba quyén ct ky cham tién, ho da tién lén trd thanh mét nude cong ngh: hang dau, véi nén kinh té dude xép thtt hai trén thé gidi, chi sau Hoa Ky. Diéu gi da lam nén su than ky d6? Trong nhting nam thang lam viéc tai Nhat Ban, téi da hoc hoi duge rat nhiéu diéu, tt phong cach lam viéc dén 23SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? tu duy cdu tién va déi mdi cua ho. Ho luén cfu toan va sang tao trong nac thang cia su phat trién. Song c6 mot diéu téi luén ban khoan va thuc su kho hiéu 1a vi sao bay gid ho lai c6 thé c6 duge tu tudng khoang dat va tién bo nhu vay, trong khi chi vai chuc nam trudée tu tudng dai déng va x4m lang chiém linh kinh té van cén ngu tri, khéng thé khéng 4n s4u vao tiém thie ngudi dan Nhat. Thoi cua mét con thd da qua. Gid ho 1A nhiing con su tu lén, Nhung ho da bat dau nhu thé nao? Cuéi cing tdi cing tim ra duge cau tra 161. Trong mot lan gap gd vdi ngudi ban la giam déc mot céng ty tu nhan chuyén san xudt cae san phaém vé soi quang hoc nam 6 ving Kyoto cua Nhat Ban, téi dat cau hoi va nhan duge mét trang cudi v6 cing sang khoai (diéu hiém gap 6 mot ngudi Nhat ) kém véi cau tra Idi: - Ching tdi da pha bo hang rao céng vién cha chinh minh. Ti thuc su bi s6c béi diéu minh vita nghe duge: “Pha bau?” Mét nude Nhat dang trong khing hoang, dang phai d6i mat véi nhiing thach thite tw mét dong hoang tan d6 nat lai di pha bé nhting gi cén sét lai hay sao? Diéu dé phai chang 1a v6 ly va phan khoa hoe? 24DE TRO THANH SU TU Nhung réi nhiing nam thang trai nghiém sau dé, sau khi vugt qua nhiéu trd ngai trong cudc déi minh, cudi cing t6i cing nhan ra rang muén thay déi thi truée tién ban phai chép nhan pha bo. Dé chinh 1a céng viée dau tién cia mdi ngudi ching ta khi bat d4u x4y dung mot khu ring réng thay cho céng vién ct ky va chat hep cla minh. Chung ta sé phai pha b6é “ngéi nha” chung ta dang séng, dao sau vao chan méng va lam sach quang canh chung quanh. Diéu dé hiéu 1a ban sé luyén tiée va phai mat rét nhiéu thdi gian dé dua ra quyét dinh “dap pha” nhiing gi minh cé céng “gaéy dung”. Ban e6 thé chwa hiéu ré vé an du trong céch néi chia toi. Hay xem nhé. Ban than cua ban hién nay thé nao? Ban cé thuc hién duige c&e k& hogch minh a dé ra hay khéng? Ban cé cai thién va md rong cdc quan hé, trai nghiém cing nhu co héi cua minh ngay khi van con ngéi trén ghé nha truéng hay khéng? Va quan trong hon hét, néu ban thye su ném trai nhiing that vong thi nguyén nhan cua diéu dé 1a gi? D6 chinh 1A ngéi nha cat k¥ cua ban than ban, 1a cai xich nang né dang 6 trong ban, tréi chan va kim nén su phat trién cla ban than. D6 chinh 1a nhiing théi quen xdu va lac hau ma ban da tw lau mac phai hay nhiing thanh qua ma ban cé due ti’ su may man chit khéng do no luc cua ban than. 25SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Ban khong thé thanh cdng khi ban JA mét sinh vién mat di nhiét huyét tudi tré, mat di long dam mé doi véi nganh nghé dang theo hoc, hoac tham chi mat di phuong huéng. Cho dt ban cé nhiéu suy nghi vé tudng lai nhung néu khong di ban linh dé thodt khéi nhting rang bude qua lén cia qua khit va hién tai thi ban vn khéng thé thanh cong. Ban cing c6 thé dang mac nhiéu tat x&u khong thay doi dude: an, ngu theo cung cach cla mét ngudi ranh rang, hec hanh va lam viée luén trong tinh trang nude dén chan méi nhay... Nhung ban van thinh thoang dat diém sé cao trong nhiing thang ngay “di hoc nhu di choi”. Va cing cé thé ban may man da cé mét ché ngéi kha thoai mai trong mot co sd, phong ban hay cong ty nao do... ngay sau khi ra trudng. Hoac 1a ban da rat cé gang, thuc hién nhiéu phuong phap, cé ging thay déi tw duy theo mét cAch nao dé... nhung van khong thé khac phuc duoc tinh trang tdi té trong hién tai. Tat ca nhitng diéu dé, van van va van van, nhiing diéu ma ban luén xem 1A noi tra ngu cia ban trong hién tai, 1a noi ma ban cé thé thanh thoi va thoai mai. Nhung toi 26DE TRO THANH SU TU xin khuyén cao ban rang: D6 chinh 1a ngéi nha ci ky cua ban, 1a céng vién chat hep cla mt con tho! Va ching ta sé di tiép cing nhau néu ban quyét tam pha bo va don sach ching di. Ban sé di tiép cting téi chu? Sé rat khé dé ban lam duge diéu do, vi di sao di chang niia, trong “ngdi nha” ma ban yéu quy van con rat nhiéu dé vat gia tri, nhiing ndi that dat tién... Nhung qua thue, nhiing mon cé gia tri cn sét lai dé khong thé phu hop véi toa lau dai ma ban dang dinh xAy, nhiing léng sAt trong céng vién khong thich hgp véi mdt khu ritng rong lén. Ban sé c6 cam nhan ré hon khi logic déi hoi nhting tht héa hgp véi nhau va su déng bé héa. Hay pha bo nhiing gi cit k¥ va git lai khu dat cua ban, toi sé gidp ban md rong va xay dung thanh mot khu ring rong én. Nao, bay gid ching ta cé thé bat tay ngay vao viée “pha bo”. Ban can mét thdi gian cy thé dé hoan tat céng viéc nay. Va theo nhiing gi téi da trai nghiém, chting kién, toi khuyén ban nén danh mét thang dé thu hién diéu do. Chung ta cé mét thang, va téi sé gitp ban! 27aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU Sau nhiéu lan cé ging giai thich véi anh ta vé nhiing diém xu va yéu kém nhat cén néu ra nhu thé nao, anh ta d& quén di rang minh dang can su gitip dé; thay vao d6, anh ta xem téinhu mot dng sép dang cé soi méi nhitng diéu ma anh ta khong muén ndi. Chang sinh vién do da ra di, khong phai vi cong ty, ma vichinh su suy nghi han hep cua ban than anh ta. Cau chuyén dé nhac téi phai luu ¥ cdc ban vé tinh chat cuc ky quan trong clia viéc chi ra nhiing khuyét diém chit khong phai uu diém cla minh. Céc ban phai tu gitp chinh minh trude khi téi lA chat xtic tac cho qua trinh do dién ra nhanh va dung cach hon. Doi véi hau hét moi ngudi, dic biét 1A nhting sinh vién - nhiing ngudi 6m trong long ude muén thay déi thé gidi -, thai d6 tu ton luén IA thu thach khoé vugt qua nhat. Phai mu6n thay déi thi ching ta mdi cé thé thay déi. Toi ¢6 thé gitip ban vach hudng di, nhung khong thé nado buée di gitm ban. Ban c6 thé tham khao y kién nhan xét cla ngudi khac vé ban than minh, song chi dude xem dé 1A co sé dé tham khéo thi. Trong thu té, c6 rat nhiéu ngudi da cé ¥ hay v6 tinh chap nhan su yéu kém do ngudi khac gan ghép cho minh ma quén di thue su van dé cua minh nam 6 dau. Nhu vay, diéu can thiét truéc tién 1a hay tu chi ra nhiing diém yéu kém cia minh, thay vi nhé cay bat ctt 31aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU théi quen sinh hoat hang ngay da giup t6i cé nhiing su tién bo vugt bac vé tinh cach va cé mét cai nhin lac quan hon vé cudéc doi. Ban ciing sé lam due nhu téi va hon thé nita néu ban thuc su nhan ra dau la van dé dang ting phut titng giay deo bam ban, tré thanh thdi quen trong sinh hoat va cach ting xu cua ban than. Nhiing théi quen xéu dé cé thé 1a xem ti vi qua khuya, ngu dén ntfa budéi sang, hut thudc 14 v6 dé, luén kém theo nhiing Idi tuc tiu khi phat ng6n, xung hé véi ngudi lén hon bang nhiing ti khéng thich hep, vit rac bia bai, quen ding thttc an nhanh, ludi tap thé duc... Toi c6 thé dua ra mét vi du dé ban thay ro hau qua ctia mot viéc khéng ding, du chi 1A nho nho trong cuéc séng hang ngay. Ban cé thé xem ti vi qua khuya, ly do cua ban la dé biét thém nhiing diéu mdi la hodc vi bé phim nao dé qua hap dan. Téi tén trong diéu do. Nhung hay dé y ring sau khi xem phim thi ban sé mat nhting diéu gi. Dau tién 1A vai gid xem phim; sau do la thém ba, bén gid nga nudng. Tong cong ban sé mat khoang 5-7 gid méi ngay cho hai viée phu dé. Tiép dén, ban khéng thé c6 di thi gian va su minh man dé dén trudng hoc, tu hoc hodc lam nhiing céng viée thuc su quan trong cé y nghia. Su hoe cla ban 35aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU Gié thi ban cé thé hinh dung vé nhiing viée minh can lam trong céng cudc cai té nay rdi cht? Hay manh mé chap nhan va bat tay vao liét ké chi tiét nhat nhiing “ndi that dat tién’. Ban co thé dua theo nhiing chi dan nhu trén dé moi chuyén dtide tién hanh thuan loi nhat. Kinh nghiém cua toi cho thay rang, ban cang chi ra dude nhiing tht ban khéng dé tit bd va gan chting vdi mot su tri tré, cham tién nao do thi ban cang cd nhiéu co hoi don dep sach sé va m6 rong hon. 4, Nhiing diéu ban hoe duoc tru6c kia nhung khi thuc hanh khéng mang Iai hiéu qua. Ban da doc rat nhiéu sdch chi din phuong hudng gitip ban thay déi. Ban thuc hanh va khéng thay hiéu qua, hay chua thuc su cé tac dung nhu mét tu tudng quyét dinh va théng suét. Hoa’c ban nhan ra qua nhiéu mau thudn gitia céc quan diém cia nhiing ngudi thanh cong khae nhau. Dau 6c ban cé thé dang 1A mOt mé chang chit nhiing mau thuan dan xen. Téi cing da doc nhiéu sach noi vé sy thanh céng, gidu c6 hay hanh phic. Song nhiing sach Ay chua thuec su chi ra cho cac ban - nhiing sinh vién thoi dai - dau 1a van dé cua chinh ban, dau 1a vi tri cua ban than ban, ban muén tré thanh ngudi nhu thé nao? Hay muc dich huéng dén cua ban sé 1a gi khi buée vao cudc dai? 39aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU mau chinh hinh nhv da tro lén mé nhat va khong con goi duge cam xtic nhu truée ntia. Day 1A hic ban edn x6a sach chung khoi ky tic va khéng nén luyén tiéc vé nhiing diéu khéng tron ven nhu vay, dé c6 thé vé lai cho cude dai mot bac tranh dep va ré nét hon. Hay nghiém ttic, tu tin va di tiép. Co lé tdi da lam cdc ban nan long vi viéc cam cui viét ra nhiing gi minh khong thich trong suét mot ngay trdi. Nhung dé mé nhiing khéi u, ching ta phai mai con dao cho sc; muén ban tring muc tiéu, phai vudt tén cho nhon. Va qua trinh chudn bi dé dang 1a khéng dé chiu chit nao. Ding tiée ré nhiing gi ban da ce gang hoan thanh hém nay, vi chi ngéy mai théi, chting ta sé phai Jam nhting céng viée nang nhoe va khé khan hon gp béi, va su chuan bi ky luéng cia hom nay 1a v6 cing cn thiét. T6i c6 thé cAm nhan dude nhiing suy nghi cla ban, vi toi cing ting 1A sinh vién va cé nhiing tran trd, ban khodn nhu cac ban hic nay. Song, cc ban dang lén lén ngay sau ngay dau tién. Cac ban cé thay 6 trong minh mot chut thay déi khong? Mot diéu can luu ¥, va véi toi thi da tré thanh mot phuong phap cue ky cé ich: Hay tinh tam: suy nghi va danh gia lai nhting gi minh da lam hay chua lam duoc trong ngay. 43aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU - Khéi déng céng viée ngay tw lic bat dau mét ngay méi. D6 cé thé 1A viée cé tiv bd théi quen ngu day tré, théi quen n&m dai trén giuéng ma mo mong hoac nghi van vo. Théi quen khong tap thé duc, thé thao; khéng an sang... hay hang ngan théi quen khae da dude ban nhan ra bang né luc cua ngay hom truéc. Hoac sé tét hon néu ban bat dAu ngay tit cudi budi lam viéc cua ngay thé nhat, sau khi da lén k@ hoach. Do cé thé chi 1a viéc di ng sém hon, khéng choi béi hodc ché chén thau dém, khéng hoe qua stic dé Anh hudng téi ngay hém sau vv... Khi thue hién nhting céng viée hang ngay cua minh, ban phai luén luén pha bé nhiing cai ci. C6 thé diéu dé gay ra su kh6 chiu, khéng thoai mai hay lam mat di nhiing théi quen trong sinh hoat hang ngiy: hoc hanh, lam viéc, An choi, ng nghi. Diéu dé chinh 1A dae diém gitip ban nh4n ra minh dang thay déi d6, No cing gitip ban triét tiéu nhiing hoat dong khong can thiét trong ngay. - Xac dinh céng viée chinh cha moi ngay, va tap trung vao do. Day la mot cach dap pha “tu dong” tuong déi hiéu qua va thoai mai. Téi tin rang ban cting sé cam thay dé dang 47aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NGAY THU BAY BA ay khéng phai 1a thdi han cuéi cang cia viec “don dep tién nghi va ni that’. Day chi 1a mét cot méc chting td ban da di duge mét doan dudng kha xa, va 1a diém dé ban soi lai va so sanh ban than minh ngay hom nay véi mot tudn truée day. Ban da thay su khac biét lén nhw nao réi cht? Dac biét 1A khi nhin vao bang tong két, danh gia va tu cho diém ban than sau mdi ngay. Ngay dau the hién c6 thé chi c6 mét diém khéng hoan chinh, nhung gid téi tin chéc la ban da dat dude it nha&t 30% nhting chi tiéu da dé ra. Hay vui vi diéu d6, mét con sé dang tu hao! Nhung van chua c6 m6t su thay déi r6 nét nao 6 nhiing thanh qua cua cac ban dau. Céng viéc chua cé su thay déi manh, diém 60 chwa éao hay 6c moi quan hé co thé vin con theo chiéu huéng tiéu cuc. Toi khong muon cac ban lao di véi tée dé tén hia dé réi chi ngay hém sau lai trd vé vi tri ban dau. Nhting buéc di vitng chai - da hoi cham - sé giip ban ngay mot tién dén gan muc tiéu hon. Dié nay sé c6 thé thay ré hon ting ngay ké ti cdot moc nay tré di, téi cam doan 1A néu cde ban lam theo nhiing gi t6i khuyén, lua chon t6i lam m6t c6 van dang tin cay, cac ban sé sém c6 su déi mdi. 51aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU chung ta da dé ra; va néu su vé ky luat cua ban tréi day bat ett lic nado, chung ta sé phai mét mdi vi két qua sé cang hic cang té hon va tat yéu - néu ban con du ding khi - phai d4n dén su bat dau tré lai t¥ vach xudt phat. Thuc su thi cho dén luc nay cae ban van chua biét cach pha bé nén méng ngéi nha ct nhu nio. Bang vao kinh nghiém, téi sé dua ra mot vai gdi y sau day, mac da téi van luén khuyén khich cac ban tu déng nao dé giai qupee moi chuyen cla mink. - Dap pha nén mong ci 14 qua trinh tu siva va thay déi ban than thanh mét mau ngu¢éi méi theo ly twéng ctia ban, di chuwa phai su tir nhung da hoan thién hon thé va van cén tiép tuc hoan thién hon nifa. C6 thé t6i d& qua di séu vao viée pha bé nhiing nén mong ci k¥ trong ban, nhung néu khéng Am nhu vay, ban sé khéng thé tiép thu nhiing diéu méi dé thuc su hinh thanh mot tinh cach mdi. Trong qua trinh nay, ban cé thé ty cho phép minh tré thanh mét dién hinh nao d6 ma cdc ban mong muén, huéng theo nhiing gi ban muén tu stia va thay déi, nhung tuyét déi khong duge dé sot lai chut vét tich nao cla ngoi nha ci, nghia la cua nhting diém yéu kém ma ban da nhén biét. 55aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU thi la cham dén diém yéu (nén méng) nhung cing chi 1a su hdi hot nia véi, thi khong nhting khong thé thay déi duge ban than, khong thé nang cao vi thé ma con lam cho ban mac thém nhiéu tinh cach x&u khac nita. Dé chinh 1a thai d6 that vong, chan chuéng, ghét bé cude déi va oAn han chinh ban than minh. Sv thiéu trach nhiém va lam viéc nua véi cting sinh ra ti day. Chinh vi vay, ban nén biét rang mdi m6t sinh vién déu cé thé tré thanh su tt hoac thd, va diéu dé hoan toan tay thudc vao su lua chon citing nhu né luc ctia ban. Dé thanh cOng, ban nhét thiét phai lam viéc hét kha nang va quyét tam di tdi cing. Tudi tré 1a giai doan hinh thanh tinh cach cho sudt ca cudc adi, va diéu d6 sé quyét dinh sau nay ban 1a ngudi nhu thé nao. Néu khong thé thay déi ban than vao hic nay, mai mai ban sé khong thé thay déi dude. Dé 1a su that. Hay sang tao cudc ddi minh va dang tri tudng tugng dé vé nén mét bite tranh tuoi sang cho tudng lai. Ban can theo dung phuong phap va kién tri thuc hién ting ngay ting ngay mét. Chi cé su kién tri méi dua ching ta dén dich, Vi thé, tdi khuyén cac ban nén bé tinh nong voi va ding bao gid danh mat su nhan nai. 59aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU tu lap va quyét dinh cudc doi minh, hay mu6n nghi vé né vao hic hap hdi, khi da mac qua nhiéu lam 146i? T6i cing s6 n6i cho ban hiéu 1a vi sao cAn tu duy lai vé chinh ban than minh, vé su ra déi, trudng thanh va chét... Dé thuc sy 1a van dé cé anh hudng tdi rat lén dén ban hay bat cti mét ngudi nado khac. Cac ban thuéng thinh thoang so sAnh ban than véi nhiing ngudi khae, d6 14 diéu tat yéu. Khi con tré, ta voi vinh cha me vi minh khéng c6 nhiing tha ma ban minh c6, hay d6i khi dem cha me ta va cha me ban ra ma so sanh tét, xdu. Dé 1a tré con, va khong ai bat tdi ching ta vi diéu d6, cing khéng xem dé IA diéu té hai. Nhung déi véi ban hién nay thi suy nghi d6 that sv 1A nguy hiém diy, vi no sé An sau vao tiém thtic va theo ban sudt ca cudc doi. Dé la mét ké tha vé hinh va cé sfic manh huy diét ghé gém. R&t nhiéu ban tré khi én lén cing van thudng git thdi quen so sanh, hoac d6i khi dem ban than ra so sanh véi nhiing ngudi khac, cé thé 1A ban ba, ngudi xa la hodc than tugng cua chinh minh. Diéu dé lai 1A nguyén nhén kéo theo hang tram hé qua vé tinh cach: sy tu ti, suy nghi an phan va ban sé sém bi chinh diéu dé gidm dap. Chinh vi vay ma cac ban can phai tu duy lai cach minh duoc sinh ra. 63aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU - Mau nguéi céng hién true tiép Dé 1a nhting ngudi tham gia vao cc céng tac tt thién, nhiing nha khoa hoe, nhiing nha phat minh, nhiing giao su... Ho cong hién ca cudc déi minh cho sit ménh dem lai Igi ich cho ngudi khac. Muc dich va viéc ma ho luén nghi téi, stic manh dé he vust qua moi khé khan chinh 1a phue vu nguéi khac, dong gop cho x& hoi va cong déng mot cach truc tiép, bat vu loi. Ho khéng nghi 1A minh cong hién cho xa hdi, song thuc té ho da lam diéu do. - Mau nguéi s6ng vi gia dinh Nhiing ngudi nay séng mot cudc séng thanh dam, dam &m va hanh phic véi gia dinh, ban bé, véi manh dat noi minh sinh ra va 1én 1én. Gia dinh 1a tat ca, 1A uu tién so mét, phén déu hay né luc citing chi vi mudn mang lai diéu tdt dep cho nhiing ngudi ho thuong yéu. - Mau nguéi céng hién gian tiép D6 1A nhiing nguidi ludn nd hue dé dem Iai sy mdi mé, tut duy tao ra cua cai vat chat hay su d6t pha trong qua trinh xay dung dat nude, xa hdi, dan téc va thé gidi. D6 co thé 14 cae nha chinh tri, doanh nhan, ky su, dién vién, ca si, nghé si... Ho cong hién véi suy nghi rang, diéu minh dang theo duéi khéng nhting gop phan lam giau cé va hanh phuc cho ban than ma sé gép phan gitp nhiing ngudi xung quanh séng tot hdn, gitip cudc séng cng déng ngay 67aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU cAn nhanh nhay va sang tao, lai khéng thé sti dung tat ca, hoac c6 mot cach ding léch lac. Chung ta cting thuéng khéng xac dinh ré xem dau 1A diém manh va thudng xuyén ding dé quan sat thé gidi cing nhu tuong lai cla ban than minh. Dé thanh céng, ban edn phai cé cach nhin v6 rang hon vé cdc phudng tién quan sat cua chinh minh: thi giac, khtiu giac, thinh giac, cam giac hay truce giac... Diéu dé dc biét quan trong khi ban muén tré thanh mét m4u ngudi nao dé va sé xvi ly nhiing tinh huéng nhanh va hiéu qua dén mic dé nao. Khi ban muén tré thanh su ti cing vay, phai xem lai cach ma ban quan sat thé gidi. Thi hai la vé cdc cong cu, phuong tién. Day luén luén la mét van dé thu thach déi véi rat nhiéu nguéi, vi nhiing céng cu dé dat dén muc tiéu luén thay déi. Thé gidi ngay nay cé nhiing gi, ban biét; nhung tuong lai ching ta sé ding phusng tién, cong cu gi dé quan sft thé gidi thi ban khong biét. Nhiing céng cu cht yéu trong thdi dai ngay nay 1a truyén miéng, hoc héi ti ngwdi khac vA trai nghiém, sich bao, tap chi, cde chuyén dé khéo ctu, truyén thanh, truyén hinh, va dac biét 14 mang Internet. Trwée tién ban phai biét 1A minh muén tré thanh mAu ngudi nhu thé nao, va m4u ngudi nhu vay can dang phuong tién gi dé quan sat thé gidi va chinh minh trong 71aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU nhiéu vé thé gidi cua minh, ma thudng 1a vi ho ¢6 nhting két néi sai. Lay mot vi du, néu ban dang gap rac réi voi van dé hoc tap, song ban lai két néi véi nhting di khuyén vé tam ly hay tu tudng ding viée hoe lai vA lam giau. DHiéu dé nguy hiém véi ton bé hé thong tuong lai cha ban, vi ban da sai khi két néi. Hay nghiém trong hon 1a két ndi khong ding muc dich véi tu tudng chan nan. Viéc ban téi ngay chi lao vao viéc hoc khi cc m6i quan hé cua ban tréd thanh sé khéng, hoac suédt ngay tu tap ban bé trong khi viéc hoc dang xudng déc nghiém trong IA vi du don gian dién hinh nh&t cho viée két néi sai. Hay thay déi tw duy vé viéc két néi, moi théi quen hay tinh cach tot dep déu c6 thé duge hinh thanh mét phén nhé vao su két ndi. XU LY TINH HUONG: Day 1A mét cong viée khéng dé dang chtt nao,. nhung sé trd nén don gian néu ban khéng qua hap tap, nong voi ma quén di nhiing diéu co ban. Tw viée quan sat, hiéu cho dén sti dung két néi déu nham muc dich lam tang thém su nhay bén va dua ra quyét dinh chinh xac khi ban phai xii ly tinh huéng trong cudc s6ng hay tuong lai. 75aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU “Oi, minh dang theo duéi edi gi vay!” “Toi khong lam duge!” “Do 1A mdi truéng su pham tdi nhat ma tdi biét!” “Use gi tdi 14 anh ay, toi cé duge tht do...” D6 c6 thé 1a théi quen cha ban truée kia. Gid day, sau khi da pha bo ngéi nha cit ky cting nhiing thoi quen khong tét d6, mac du théng suét tu tudng vA suy nghi theo chiéu hwéng cdi mé, ban c6 thé van khong thue sw yéu thich nhting gi dang thude vé ban than minh, con dudng minh dang di. Ban muén tré thanh ky su cong nghé thong tin song cha me lai muén ban tré thanh mot bac si tai nang; ban dang hoe n&dm cudi va khéng may hiing tha vi nghé nghiép dudng nhu duge gain vao minh, mac dd da chon cho ban than mau ngudi séng vi chinh minh, lam nhiing diéu minh muén... Toi hiéu nhiing gi mA mét ngudi dang néng long muén thay déi phai trai qua, 6 1A mét thi thach lén cia su quyét dinh. Khéng phai viée toi yéu céu cac ban thay déi tu duy vé su sinh ra, Ién Ién va chét di la khong can thiét hay mau thuan véi thuc té cia céc ban va viée cén phai yéu thich mdi truéng cua ban. Dé 1a su khdi dau cho viée ban 79aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU c6 néi so. Méi chung ta duge sinh ra tw nhiéu yéu té: gia dinh, cha me, ban bé, thay c6, nhting ngudi hang x6m dé mén, cdc cau chuyén va nhiing quy dinh bat thanh van cua x4 hdi... Song hién nhién 1a ching ta c6 quyén xti su vi ndi sg cua chinh minh. Co rim lai trong vo 6c? Thé 1a moi chuyén lai “t6¢ dep” nhu von c6. Hay nhu mét hon da, xuyén thang dén muc tiéu, kham pha nhiing diéu bi mat dudi day dai duong, noi ma né muén dén. - Hay 14 mét hon da. So hai khi ban con tré 1A mot diéu khong can thiét. Viéc d6 danh cho toi, mot ong gia. Cé vén dang kinh cua téi di khuyén tdi nhu vay qua cau chuyén trén. Va thuc su thi thii gian nay khong phai la viée dé ban suy nghi nén so hai diéu gi va ding cam véi viée nao. Chin chan hanh mét vai viéc nao d6, Ban dang 1a sinh vién, ban 14 mot ngudi tré. Toi mong rang ban khéng biét sd dé c6 thé nghe diéu téi sp n6i. Dé c6 thé 1a mét viée ban chua ting nghi dén hoiic ¢6 thé ching cé y nghia gi néu ban luén so hai khéng dam lao xuéng dai duong. ong khéng déng nghia véi vide phai sd Bi mat cla t6i 1a: hiéu r6 chinh minh, Iuén 1a chinh minh, va biét tao ra méi truéng minh yéu thich. 83aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU khéng biét lam 6 dau hay tugng lai ra sao... Dé déu 1a biéu hién cuia chtmg bénh so mdi trudng sdng. Hau hét nhiing con tho khi con 1A sinh vién déu thude mot trong hai nhom néi trén. Khi ban da nhan ra chinh minh va khu ring mo ude cia minh thi d6 chinh 14 luc ban phai bat tay vao hanh dong va vuot qua moi rao can. Nhiing nguéi luén ky vong va mudn ban séng theo ¥ muén cua ho - chang han nhucha me - sé khéng cho phép hay cé khuyén can ban lam diéu ma ban biét 1a tét cho ban than ban. Chang han, néu cdn thi ban phai dam nghi hoc nghanh X dé thi lai va theo hoc nganh Y. Ban phai dam tré thanh mau nguéi ban chon thay vi gu¢ng ép hudéng vé m4u ngudi nhu gia dinh ban chon. Ban phai dam thay déi nganh hoc hay tam diing dé lam viéc ban thich, néu d6 thuc su 1A diéu ma ban khao khat va hop véi nang luc, diéu kién hién c6 ctia ban. Gié thi ban hiéu téi dinh néi gi v6i cum ti “yéu mdi trudng ctia ban” réi ch&?. Dé 1a ding cam yéu thich manh liét nhiing gi ban da chon, né luc dé dat duge va phai luén duy tri su yéu thich thuc su. Xuyén suét qua trinh nay cing 1A su kién tri va ding cam thay déi. Doi khi ban cing sé thay minh cé qua nhiéu 87aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU ban cing muén diéu dé lam nhung lai khéng dé c6 duce. Toi sé gitip cdc ban biét cach c6 duge stic manh dé yéu thich. Ngay nay cac céng ty dang dan chuyén sang xu huéng tuyén dung va nang bac qua viéc do luéng chi sé dam mé. hay chi s6 yéu thich. Néu ban khong con dam mé trong m6i truéng minh da chon thi ban sé bi dao thai. Khi ma tat ca sinh vién déu mong muén tré thanh nhiing con su tu, ban phai luén xem xét lai chinh ban than minh. Khi ban ngting né luc céng hién cho niém dam mé ttic 1A ban dang dan tré lai vi l6t tho. Vay lam cach nao dé ban cé thé theo duédi dén cing muc tiéu, huéng dén mau nguéi minh dA chon va gan nhat la su dam mé mdi trwéng lam viée? Dudéi day la mét sd goi y ma vi thay da chi day cho tdi. Phét Io di nhiing gi ngu6éi khac néi va lam. MOét trong nhiing tat xdu cia chiing ta 1A thudng dua ra nhiing so sAnh tiéu cuc gitta ban than véi ngudi khac dé lay a6 lam ly do bé cudc hay kh6ng lam gi ca, thay vi su n6 hic thi dua lanh manh. Diéu nay dudng nhu rat thudng gap 6 moi ngudi phét 16 di trudéc mét sé diéu nguéi khac néi va lam. ban phai thay déi né bang viéc Néu ban con nhin thay nhimng viéc ngudi khac lam, nghe thay nhiing gi ho khoe khoang khéc lac, ban sé bi 91aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.DE TRO THANH SU TU Hay nhé tao déng luc cho chinh minh vao méi budi sang. M6t phuong phap co hiéu qua tuc théi la suy nghi lac quan va tu tin vao ban than truéc khi bat dau lam viéc méi ngay. Ban phai nap cho minh day du nang lugng, nhiét huyét dé c6 thé yéu thich va hanh dong mot c4ch tron ven. Cuéi cing khi ban da ndm dude cae phuong phap dé gitp tang ste manh theo dudi dam mé va yéu thich méi trudng thi dé cing 1a hic ban cé due cam giac quen dan véi nhting diéu do. Trong suét qua trinh lam viée va hoc tré thanh sw tiv sau nay, ban phai luén nhé dén niém dam mé va méi trudng minh da chon theo dudi dé khéng trd thanh mot con tho déi 16t su tt trong méi trudng cua ngudi hang xém! 95aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Ban phai hinh thanh trong chinh ban ¥ tudng ban 14 mot con su tu thuc su cht khéng don gian chi 1A muén tré thanh né nita. Ban sé tré thanh mau ngudi ma ban muén. Vé nhiing pham tinh cy thé cia su ti, c6 thé luge ké nhu sau: - Luén luén chi dong cuéc séng ban than; - C6 kha nang lanh dao suat sac - Thue hién nhéng cong viéc phi thudng. - Khéng bao gid bi de doa Va ban hay séng véi bat ky pham tinh co ban nao cia su ti trong mau ngudi ly twéng cua ban. Mét trong nhiing dién hinh cua mau ngudi séng céng hién tric tiép la muén tham gia vao mét t6 chtic phi chinh pha hoat déng hiéu qua, nang dong, phi lgi nhuan, hoat dong chuyén nghiép va tro thanh ngudi lanh dao cua t6 chtie dé, dé c6 thé dem tai stic, nang luc ban than ra cong hién dén mic toi da. Mét phan tich don gian sé gitp ban nhan ré nhiing viée ma khi tré thanh su tw mot mau ngudi céng hién true tiép c6 thé 1am 1A chi: déng déi véi nhting quyét dinh vé viéc gitp dd nhém ngudi nay hay cong ding kia, diéu khong bao gid thuc hién dude néu ban chi 1A mét tinh nguyén vién binh thudng. Va ngay ca 99aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Cudc déi cting sé dap lai véi ban theo ding nhu nhiting gi ban suy nghi va ung xt véi cudc déi. N6i cach khae, néu muon thanh cong thi trude hét ban phai séng véi mot nhAn cach cao quy. C&ch dau tién dé dude moi ngudi yéu quy va né trong la tré thanh mét ngudi c6 dao dtic, va cach duy nhat dé ban tré thanh mot su tt lanh dao cing xuat phat ttt viéc ban 1a ngudi c6 tam long cao dep. Séng c6 trach nhiém chinh la nhan té dau tién gitip ban di téi muc tiéu dé. Hay diing viée dé 14i cho ngudi khae va tv bé 1éi séng vi ky, dng nhim mat hoi ha di trén dung thang tién ma hay nhin sang hai bén dung xem ban da vit vao noi cia ngudi khae nhting diéu khé chiu gi. Tai sao téi muén ban rén luyén tinh cach nay trudée tién? Cau tra ldi IA: D6 1a tinh cach co ban nhat cua mét su ttt, Ban 1a mét sinh vién, ban la ngudi tré, chinh 1a lic dé ban khdi su rén luyén tinh cach nay. Nguoi cudi cing thuéng thitc bita tiéc Ai sé 1A ngudi lao vao Nia? Dé 1A nhiing ngudi ¢é trach nhiém. Vay, ai sé 1A ngwdéi duge chia phan thit bé ngon va lén nhat? 103aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU mét ké hoach véi cae muc tiéu cu thé dé di duige dén muc dich cudi cling 46. Tuong ty nhw viée chay tip stie, ban phai cb k&hoach va phan céng déi cua minh mét cach hgp ly dé mdi ngudi déu dat dude mét muc tiéu nho truéc khi toan d6i vé dich. Mét sw ti cAn biét diéu quan trong nhat déi véi minh lic nay 1a gi? Muc tiéu gan nhat can dat dén 1A gi? Va giéng nhu trén mét chang dua, ai sé 1A ngudi dude ban bé tri 6 tién 16, trung 16 cing nhu ai phai chay hau. Nha trudng khong day cho cac ban lén ké hoach eudc ddi minh. Ho chi day nhitng kién thiic phuc vu cho cong viéc, dé réi ban suét didi bi cong viée bam lay va bat ngd vai giap khi ban khong chuan bi. Nhiting trwing kinh doanh cing chi day cho sinh vién cia minh vé viée lap ké hoach nhu 1a mét phan cla mén hoc va dé dat diém cao chi khéng khuyén khich va dua viéc dé vao chinh ddi séng hang ngay cla cac ban. Phan Ién sinh vién trd thanh nhting con tho nhit nhat vA mat phudng huéng chi vi khéng xac dinh duge khi nao thi minh nén lam nhiing gi. St ménh 1a muc dich song, va no cing 1a tap hop cla mét chuéi cae muc tiéu cing huéng dén mét nguyén tac va loi ich chung nhat. Vay nhting céng viée cua mét ban k€ hoach dé tré thanh su twa gi? Ban chi c6 thé thuc 107aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU lic d6. Thay vi tan dung kha nang, tiém luc san c6 trong hién tai cua ban than, ho luén di tim nhitng mi tén dai hon, cing hon dé ban duoc nhiing muc tiéu xa hon, ma khong biét bang nhiing mii tén dai hon dé du¢e gidu sau cai dich ngay truéc mat ho. Va ca déi ho chi hanh phue hay tu lAm cht cuéc di minh khi duge tré thanh mét con su tu trong gide ngu! Ban phai tom mét con nai truée khi ban c6 mong vudt du dé vé mét con bd méng,. Hay lu6én nhé diéu dé. Muc tiéu can an dinh théi gian hoan thanh Diéu do can thiét khi tat ca ching ta ludn lun tiém 4n trong minh thdi quen tri hoan. Dat ra thdi diém hoan thanh cing déng nghia vdi viéc tao ra trong ban mét qua bom n6 cham vay; hoac 1a ban kip thao ngéi hoac la ban bi pha huy. Nhiéu ngudi c6 thé cho rang toi da cudng diéu héa ste manh cua nhiing muc tiéu ngan han va nhting yéu cau cdn c6 dé thuc hién né. Song, chinh cAc bac vi nhan trong lich st da 1A nhitng minh ching ro nét nhat cho ly thuyét vé stic manh mém cla muc tiéu. Cing nhu cach ban néi vé ngay mai vay, ngay mai 1A ngay khéng bao gid dén, né chi thuc su cé y nghia khi ngay hém nay ban dua ra cho minh mét céng viée gin lién vdi muc dich sé thuc hién vao hom sau ma théi. m1aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU cai nay dé Ap dung vao dau trong thuc té?” C6 hang tram ban tré ti gap va tu van da lu6n hdi toi vé diéu do. Khi ban chua dap bé ngéi nha cai ky, ban sé khéng xac dinh duge m4u ngudi ly tuéng dé theo dudi, xa hon thi ban sé khéng tim due st ménh va muc dich cudc doi véi hang ngan nhiing muc tiéu va céng viée nhé cn hoan thanh. Ban khong duge néng véi, t&t ca déu phai bat dau tu nhiing bude dau tién. Viée vach ké hoach cing gitip ban luén cht tam dén mét vi tri duy nhat trén ban dé, noi ma ban nhat dinh phai dén. N6 trao cho ban déng luc trong nhiing gid phut khé khan vA nguy hiém. Chi khi ban nghi ban sé lam duge mot viéc gi d6 da c6 trong ké hoach vao ngay mai, ban mdi c6 thé tu kéo minh quay tré lai khi bat chot sa chan vao mét ndi téi tim khéng mue dich. Con su tt di san luén nhe nhang va lang lé, khong 6n ao nhu bay séi hay lén lat nhw loai ran. Né huéng mat vé con méi va chi biét c6 thé cho dén khi cudéc san két thuc. Biét r6 vé con méi, bude ting bude cham rai, chi nhin vao mét con méi trong mét thdi diém va hanh dong quyét doan. Sinh vién thanh céng citing tuong tu nhu mét con su tt, ho lam viéc mot cach Am tham, véi mét ¥ chi sAt da va luén luén tap trung vao cong vié Mét quy tac quan trong trong viéc lap ké hoach cudc doi la phai luén kiém soat va diéu chinh. 115aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU lam theo mét cach ngay tho va may méc, ching khéng nhan tht duge dé c6 phai 1a diéu dung dan hay it nhat 1a tot cho ban than ching hay khong. Sinh vién ngay nay citing ngay tho nhu nhiing dita tré d6. Ching ta quen véi viéc thtia hung tinh cach ti cha me hay truyén thong gia dinh, hay cé dude nhiing tinh cach dé tt nhting méi trudng khéng chon loc xy dung ma thanh. Diéu dé cing tot, song néu ching ta muén lam chu van ménh cuéc doi vA ty minh tré thanh sv tu thi chi nhu vay théi chua du. Ban phai biét ring minh muén chon 1di séng nao, cing nhu nhiing chudn muc van héa, tng xt va céch minh tudng tac véi thé gidi nhu thé nao. Ban cing khéng thé dé ban than bi xy dung tii nhting diéu khong thue t€ va khéng pht hgp véi minh. Sinh vién, nhting con ngudi tré va luén s&n sang vuon lén thi tai sao lai dé nhiing ngwdi khac quyét dinh tinh cach va van ménh cla minh? Trong qué trinh pha huy ngéi nha ci k¥ ctia ban, ban da triv bé di ca nhiing thdi quen xau xi nhat va dat mdt ‘rach nhiém va vai nhiing vién gach nén mong dau tién: tinh than cho-nhan, nhiing vién gach do 1a cAn thiét cho tat ca moi ngudi, nhung né khong gitip chung ta phan biét minh véi ngudi khéc. Né6 chi tao ra su chuyén bién trong cudc ddi cht khong dam bao chiing ta cé thé kiém soat va thanh cng cuéc s6ng. 119aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU tinh cach 1a mét cai gi da an s4u vao mau va khéng thé thay déi duge. Téi da nhiéu lan giai thich, song hinh nhu nhiing ban dé van chua hiéu ra vin dé. Thue té va nhu m6t logic, mau nguéi ma ban huéng dén duge chon lua dua theo nhiing ude muén, sd thich va mét khat khao tiém an trong chinh con ngudi ban. Niém dam mé chéy bing dé khéng quan tam d@n viée ban ¢6 pha hdp véi no hay khéng dau, n6 vén xuat phat tt ban nga, n6 chi mu6n dude cdi né muén, giéng nhu ban vay, va nd yéu cAu ban phai dap Gng né néu ban khéng muén bi no gidn vat va that bai v6i nhiing tht ban theo dudi. Nhu d& noi tt: dau, ban hay pha bd di nhting cai ct va lam lai cai mdi, chinh 1a dé pha hop véi cai dang théi thue trong con ngudi ban dé. Vi vay, vdi bai hoe sé hai nay ban sé bat dau ding vao hang ngu cua nhting su tu trong tuong lai. Ban da chon duce mAu ngudi minh theo dudi, da c6 ké hoach cho ca cuée dai. Gid 1a hic ban cAn chon tinh cach phu hgp dé thuc hién moi tha. Duong nhién la ban khong thé chon cho minh nhitng tinh cach xu xa hay yéu kém, hoae hty hoai cudc déi minh bang nhiing pht phiém ma ban cho 1a khae biét hay duy nhat. Ban phai tu tim kiém 1di giai riéng cho bai toan cudc déi cla ban, song Idi giai dé du nhu thé nao 123aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU quang che day nhiing khiém khuyét cua minh. Ho run Jén mdi khi cé ngudi nhc dén nhtimg diéu ho lam, nhiing xu xi trong con ngudi ho, nhung lai khéng chiu dudng hoang dén nhan va thay déi. Mét ngudi lam chi due van ménh ctia minh 1a ngudi khong bao gid dé cho ké khac ta dng, ho séng minh bach va chang bao gid phai hii tiée v nhiing viéc minh ting lam. Cén mét ké luén chiu luén cti thi khac, ban sé thay ho nho di, thap di, cong lung xuéng va an ndi ly nhf khi phai d6i mat véi mét cau hdi nao dé. Dung tim cach di vong, khéng c6 con dudng nao dé dang dau ban a. Ban hay dimg thang ngudi va hudng tam mat vé phia true, diing sd cau hoi vi néu ban song ngay thang, cAu tra li cing sé dén véi ban mét cach dimg dAn va dang hoang. Hay tap cho minh mét cach séng, suy nghi va hanh dene trong sAng, minh bach ngay tH khi obn tré, bai vi ban sé khéng con co héi thay di khi d& hin s4u vao con duong danh mat chinh minh. Mot ddi giay tot 1A mét déi giay dé 16 nhiing diém xau ra ngoai, vi ban sé nhin thay va cé thé stta chita. Mét d6i giay téi t@ luén sang loang, vi hau hét nhting khiém khuyét duge gidu ky 6 bén trong, ban sé ching thé biét due gi cho dén khi né hong, va ngay hong cla né chac chan da can ké, hic dé thi ban khéng thé stia chia gi dude niia. 127aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU biét ho da phu thuéc vao nhiing gi vA cé nhiing ai dang phu thudéc vao ho. Toi dam doan chae rang hau hét cac ban tré khéng ¢6 cau tra 1éi ngay khi due héi: “Ban dang sd htitu nhting gi?’ Ching ta luén muén tré thanh thé nay, dat dude diéu no, diéu kia... song ching ai nghi minh dang thuc su sé httu nhiing tht d6. Diéu d6 tuong tu nhu viéc ban cau mua ma chang chiu mang 6 di vay. Khi ai d6 néi véi téi vé ude mo thanh lap mét thu vién mang tén minh trong tung lai, toi hdi rang cau ta da tim dén bao nhiéu thu vién, da dam xem bao nhiéu thu vién nhu 1a thudc sé htu cua ban than minh, va cdu ta lac ddu ngao ngan. Diéu khong dé nhan biét 1a khi ban tré dé dam xem nhiing thu vién minh tim dén nhu Ia cua minh, cau ta sé biét cAch thanh lap, cham séec va phat trién thu vién dé, réi trong m6t tudng lai khong xa, ngudi ban cua ching ta sé thuc su lam dugc diéu cau ta muon. Day 1a mot dang cua phuong phap dat thanh céng bang tu ky am thi (tic 1a tu minh huéng dén muc tiéu va nghi minh chac chin dat duge no). Téi phat trién diéu nay véi tu duy: “Dat dude diéu minh muén khi nghi rang ban than da c6 diéu minh muén.” Néu ban nghi rang minh dang sé héu mét khu ring. dau 6c ban ty sinh ra co ché diéu tiét, quan ly va cham soc khu riing d6 trong tudng tudng, sau khi tich lay da 131aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU ta dang diéu chinh va hoan thién thé gidi theo hudng tich cuc nhat. Nhting mau ngui ly tudng cua ching ta luén lam chu duge khéng chi nhiing bién déi déi vdi ho, ma cén 1A déi véi x4 hGi noi ho cong hién. Ho khéng kiém soat hay diéu khién con ngudi, ho kiém soat va diéu khién nhiing vain dé xay ra véi con ngwéi nhu su tut hau, bénh tat, doi nghéo... Nhiing nha phat minh va nhiing tinh nguyén vién, nhin chung déu 1a nhiing ké “bao déng”, bd chuyén nha dé lo chuyén thién ha! Ho cé thé c6 xuat phat diém khac nhau, chang han nhu mét ngwdi tiv su’ dam mé khoa hoe, dam mé khém pha, trong khi mét ngudi khac lai xuat phat tii tinh thudng yéu con ngudi v6 han... Nhung noi chung ho déu 1A nhiing ngwéi muén gitip cho cude song cua nhting ngudi xung quanh, cua céng déng dude hoan thién, tham chi 1a chang hé nghi dén ban than minh. Mau ngudi céng hién truc tiép luén mudén cho moi ngudi khae duge hudng thu ngay cang nhiéu hdn. Do la ly do t6i xép nhiing dai dién trén vao clang mét nhém, vi ho 6 cing mét pham tinh vi tha tét dep nhu thé. Ban 1a ngudi dam mé kham pha hay tu nhan sti ménh hy sinh vi ngudi khac? Co nhiéu ban tré khi dude hoi luén tra Idi ring ho mudn nhu vay, song thuc té ho lai khong tré thanh mau ngudi nay. Ho cé tinh thuong hay su thich thi nghién ctu nhung khong cé déng luc hay su khao 135aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Hau hét ching ta chi séng véi nhiing muc tiéu ca nhan, vay ma ching ta cén chua thé lam tét viéc cla minh hay chi ft la lam nhting céng viéc dé trong su vui vé va hanh phic. Nhung ngudi thude mau céng hién thi khae, ho s6m nhan ra ring minh chi thuc su vui vé khi lam va céng hién cho cuéec déi, vA thu su tinh chat cha céng vide:eting déi hai mu ngudi ndy phdi'ed duce tinh cach do. Vay, néu ban muén tré thanh mét ngudi cong hién, mot “ké bao déng” thi trude hét hay xét lai chinh minh xem c6 du y chi, tinh than va su dam mé cén thiét véi cong viée minh sap lam hay chua C6 mét sé ban tré hdi tdi, dam mé 1A gi? Toi rat thich mén thé thao nay, phai chang tdi di dam mé no? Nhiéu ban khac lai luén sOng trong ao tudng rdng, nhiing gi cau ban minh cé méi chinh 1A niém dam mé cua minh, 1A nhiing gi dang 1é phai thuéc vé minh... That ra, dé biét ring minh c6 thuc su dam mé mét van dé nao dé hay khéng, ban can tra 161 3 cau héi sau: 1. Ban danh bao nhiéu thdi gian dé suy nghi hay thuc hién céng viéc ma ban cho 1a minh dam mé? 2. Mau ngudi ban theo dudi la gi, va cong viéc ban dang lam c6 nim trong ké hoach hudng dén tré thanh m4u ngudi dé hay khéng? 139aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU t6 chtic nhé... Hay mé léng, mé rong vong tay, méi cé thé trdé thanh mot mau ngudi cong hién truc tiép. - REN LUYEN TINH CACH ANH HUNG Ban cé thé nghi rang téi muén cudng diéu héa thuc té, va rang nhiing ngwéi cing hién truc tigp sao cé thé xting dang tré thanh mét anh hing. Nhung t0i luén tin chac nhuw vay, va tdi c6 bang ching cho nhiing diéu toi dat niém tin. Da sé trong chung ta van lam tudng rang anh hang phai la ngudi lam duse nhiing céng viée to l6n néi bat trong mét hoan canh dic biét nao dé. Nhung that ra van cé nhting anh hing thdm lang, sOng vi ly tudéng va khi chét di thi tré thanh than tugng trong léng nhiing ngudi dude ho gitp dé. Trong thé gidi thuc tai chita tiing 6 cudc xm ling nao cia ngudi ngoai va tru, cing chang c6 cude dé bé nado cua ma quy dé uy hiép con ngudi, nhung qua that dang c6 su cham tién, nghéo déi va bénh tat lun de doa nhan loai, va vi vay ching ta phai tha nhan thanh qua vi dai cua nhiing ngudi anh hing thm lang véi nhting céng hién bén bi gitip nhan loai chong lai su cham tién, nghéo déi va bénh tat, cho du ho rat it khi duge bao chi ram ré dua tin, san don. Khi xem nhiing b6 phim nhu The beautiful life hay A Christmas Carol, ban sé c6 thé hiéu ding hon vé khai niém anh hung. 143aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU muén lAm giau (loi minh) dé tao ra hang ngan céng &n viéc lam cho nguéi nghéo (/gi ngudi) thi dé 14 mét dang cua mu ngudi céng hién gian tiép. Ban khong can bat buée minh phai theo hoe trwéng kinh doanh hay phai tranh né viéc tré thanh mét thdy giao. Nhting kién thttc va ky nang ban cé thé tu hoc, song ban phai biét rang cud con dwang kia, khi ban 50 tuéi, ban sé 1A ngwai nhu thé nao, dang 6 dau, gap gd va két néi vdi nhiing ai... Ban phai luén tu hdi, téit c& nhéing viée ban lam hom nay cé nham huéng dén mau ngudi ly tuéng ban da chon hay khéng. Néu cau tra 1di 1A khong, hay tt bo ngay va chap nhan lam lai ti dau. Nhiing ngudi thuéec mau céng hién gian tiép luén séng cho ban than minh truéc, nhung déng thdi cing luén huéng dén viéc phai lam mét diéu gi dé Idi ich cho nguéi khac, cho x4 héi bang vao su tai gidi, gidu cé cla minh. Noi cach khac, ho hudng dén viéc lam Igi ich cho ban than truéc nhat, nhung cing xac dinh rang nhiing Idi ich d6 réi sé 1a diéu kién dé ho gitp dd, chia sé, lam loi ich cho cng déng x& hdi. Néu mét ngudi né hic dé tré nén gidu cé réi khu khu 6m gift su giau cé do, dé dén khi sAp phai lia bé cudc dii mdi biét rang thai gian séng cia minh that nham chan va uéng phf, thi ch4c chAn ngudi dé khéng thudc mau ngwdi 147aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Khi téi héi anh rang, dic tinh néi bat trong anh va can thiét nhat cha mau ngudi cong hién gian tiép c6 tu duy lanh dao 1a gi, anh da tra 1di pha hgp véi nhting yéu 6 tdi sé trinh bay sau day: - REN LUYEN TINH CACH LANH DAO Ban ¢é thé la mang va lam cho ngudi khac so sét, ban cé thé ct lwong thudng hay de doa dén tinh mang cua nhting ngudi khac... nhung nhting diéu dé khéng bao gid gitp ban tré thanh ngwdi lanh dao. Tinh cach lanh dao khéng phai 1A diéu ludén san cé 6 tat cA moi ngudi. Ban cé thé lam chai ban than va hanh phtic véi cudc sOng ca nhan, nhung chua chic da c6 duge pham chat cia ngudi lanh dao. Ngudi ta van ndi, lanh dao 1A mét mén khoa hoe, va giéng nhu mét cuédn sach day cAn kham pha dan dan, né 1a biéu hién cia mt chudi nhing tinh cach. Mac du ching ta rat ft khi duge nghe noi dén tinh cach lanh dao, nhung d6 1a diéu hoan toan 6 that. Va truéc khi cé thé tré thanh mét ngu@i lanh dao, ban can phai tin chac vao diéu do. Ban kiém soat hoac sai khién duce mét céng déng hay mét ngudi nao dé nhé vao diéu gi? Cuing ran u, qua quyét ui, hay lam cho ho sg? Tat ca déu khong phai cau tra Idi chinh xac. Diéu quan trong nhat 6 day chinh IA tinh each Janh dao. Lanh dao thuéng co nghia 1a lam chu, nhung 151aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Néu ban cé du niém tin va quyét tam rén luyén, ban sé c6 tinh cach lanh dao. noi dé - REN LUYEN TINH CUGNG TRUC: MAu nguéi cong hién gin tiép co tw duy lanh dao sé phai d6i mat voi v6 van thu thach tt con ngudi, x4 héi va cac diéu kién khong kiém sot hét duce, Khi tré thanh m6t ngudi lanh dao diéu hanh, ban sé dé dang hting chiu su phan bac hay d6i mat véi khung hoang. Vay phai lam gi dé cé thé binh tinh déi phé, Diéu tét nhat ban cé thé lam truée tién lA hAy cusng truce, va ban phai rén luyén tinh cach nay ti khi con tré, khi dau 6c van cOn minh man va dé hinh thanh mét tinh cach mdi. Ban phai rén luyén dé cé di kha n&ng cia mat thuyén trudng ngay ty truéc cha khéng thé doi dén lic ban that su sé htiu mét con thuyén. Ban khong thé biét trudc c6 bao nhiéu con bio sé dén, song déi ch4n cua ban phai dude rén luyén dé chdc chan rang khong mét con bao nao 6 thé quat ng& duge ban. Nhu da n6i, truéng lép khéng day ban nhiing diéu nhu tdi viva trén, va ban citing sé khong tim thay nhting diéu nay 6 bat cf noi nao khac. Nhung day khong phai 1a kinh nghiém dé ban cé thé lap lai; day 1A phuong cach toi da st dung dé lam ra chiéc chia khéa cho cudc di minh, va ban chi c6 thé dung cach dy dé tu tao ra mot chiée khéa cho riéng ban, thich hgp véi chinh ban. Hau 155aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Lan dé, khéng hiéu vi ho so m&t méi phan phéi tiém nang hay tai ong giam déc bén do thich cai nguyén tac cua téi ma trong quy tht hai ching téi dude nhap hang theo gia thué hic dé. Dén gid chting téi van 1a déi tac chién luge cua nhau. Cau chuyén trén cing 14 minh chting cho lgi ich cla chi tin, néu ban muén song theo mau ngwdi nay, ngay bay gid ban phai rén luyén cho minh su xem trong Idi htia va giao kéo. Néu ban hen véi ban bé minh m6t gid sau ¢6 mat, ban phai dén trudc d6 5 phut; néu ban ndi sé gitp mét sinh vién khéc vugt kho khan trong ky thi, ban phai dén tam stic ma gitp ngudi ban d6... Da hia thi phai lam, néu khéng thi diing nén hia hen bat cit diéu gi. Mét ngudi diéu hanh tap thé khong thé noi hai ldi; moi suy nghi, cti chi hanh dong déu phai nhat quan. Va cling nhu tat ca céc tinh cach khac, ban phai rén luyén viée git chi tin ngay tt khi cdn tré va con kha nang tiép thu sta chiia. - REN LUYEN SU KIEN TRI: giciing déu phai né luc va bén bi véi cong viée d6. Bat ké ban 1a ai va chon song theo mau ngwéi nao, ban cing cn cé su kién tri, Khi ban lam bat ett mét céng vi nhung d6i véi mau ngudi ¢6 tinh céch lanh dao nay, su 159aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU nguén ban bé, ngudi than dé két n6i, chia sé vA tim kiém nhiing co hdi nay sinh trong dé. Téi cing rat nhiéu lan bat ngé c6 duge nhiing don hang 1én qua ban bé cua minh. Cau em ti thi duge sang Phap du hoe chi vi biét két néi véi mét kién truic su dau nganh cua Viét Nam, ma nguyén nhan 1A cau ta ludén xdng x4o dan dau trong tat ca cdc su kién hay festival kién tric toan quéc. Thé day, va téi tin 1a ban cing sé sém c6 dude nhiing co héi tét thong qua céc méi quan hé, van dé 1a chinh ban cé ch&p nhan diéu dé hay khéng ma théi. 1. KET NOI SAU: Ban khong thé trd thanh mét mau nguéi mong muén, hay cé tiéng noi thuc su cla riéng minh, néu ban chi hii hot trong tat ca cae méi quan hé. Ban cé thé giao du véi rat nhiéu ngudi, song chang ai chiu dé cho ban gitp hay dé ban nhé va viée gi. Toi nhan thay, ngay nay eac ban sinh vién ndi riéng va lép tré néi chung hinh nhu rat sd sai trong cac moi quan hé, chi mang tinh x4 giao. Ho khéng cht tam dén viée két néi chat ché va sau sdc. Ho gp nhau véi vai ba céu chuyén gAn nhu vé vi va dé cho co héi két néi dé dang troi qua. Néu ban nhan ra due sai lam nay thi ngay tit lic nay hay khdi su tao cho minh mot nhém két néi. Hay xay 163aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Ban khéng thé nhan ra duigc mét ngudi wa thich mao hiém va rui ro néu chua thay ho hanh dong. Vé ngoai hay Idi n6i chi cho thay ho 6 tinh cach lanh dao manh liét ma théi. Chap nhan rui ro khéng déng nghia véi viée khong s¢ hai. So hai chi 1A mot phan ctia van dé. Tinh cach rui ro yéu cdu ching ta phai bé ra mét phan hién c6 dé thu lai duge nhiing gi ta muon, chit khéng phai triing mat lén nhin co héi di qua, khong so hai va cng khéng cé hanh dong gi ca. Cé rat nhiéu sinh vién that bai khong phai vi ho khong co khat vong, nhung dudng nhu moi viéc cti ngay mot troi xa tam tay khi ho chi luén mo minh tré thanh mét ngudi vi dai trong khi khong bao gié chap nhan rui ro dé hanh dong vuon téi muc tiéu. Moi ngudi khong biét rang, rui ro lén nhat trong cuéc déi minh khong phai 1A mat tién, mat sttc khoe hay cai chét. Rui ro lén nhat cua bat ctt ai la khéng biét minh 1A ai, dang dting 6 vi tri ndo, muén diéu gi va lam céch nao dé dat due diéu dé. Khi muén c6 due mét gid tring, it nhat ban cing phai buéc ra cho dé mua ching. VA néu ban chap nhan nhiing yéu té rui ro hon, ban ¢6 thé nghi dén viée nudi ga dé cé dude nhiéu hon véi sé tién bé ra ft hon. Néu ban so 170aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU séng ban than, gia dinh va déi khi tham gia vao mét vai chuong trinh tw thién hay nhan dao, hoac thinh thoang c6 nhiing déng gop nho nhé cho céng déng. Nhiing dong gop dé luén ludn duge coi trong va xing dang, song khong co tinh chat quyét dinh nén hiéu qua thuGng rat nho. Nhom nay cé dd tinh cach cla cde mau ngudi céng hién truc tiép, mau ngudi séng vi chinh minh va mau ngudi séng vi gia dinh; nhung hau nhu tinh cach nado cing mé nhat. Ho co thé lam chi cuéc sdng ban than va séng hanh phtc, nhung thudng khéng muén bing né dé tao nén khac biét 1én lao. Cha me téi déu 1A nhitng ngudi thuéc nhom nay. Cha toi lam nong nghiép con me tdi 1a mot bac si. Cha me toi da lam viée rat nhiéu dé cé thé duy tri cugc séng cua gia dinh va cho chung tdi ldn lén trong day du. Cha téi thudng tham gia cdc su kién quyén gép hay dong gop stic minh trong mét vai chuéng trinh céng hé tr¢ néng dan, me téi thi luén chia sé kho khan vdi bénh nhan bang viéc cho khat lai chi phi diéu tri. Téi thuc su tu hao vé cha me minh, va luén biét dn cha me vi nhting gi ho da lam. Néu ban cing muén cé cudée séng gian di va ft anh hudng dén cong déng, tdi nghi ban nén rén luyén nhiing tinh cach ed ban cua nhém nay nhu sau day: 179aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Liéu hanh phtc cua con ngudi c6 bi dam yéu tinh kia lay mat khong? Cau tra ldi tuy thudc vao chinh méi nguéi chung ta trong qua trinh tim kiém hanh phic cho ban than minh! Khae véi nhiing mau ngudi khac, m4u ngudi cong hién gian tiép thudng chi hanh phe khi chinh ho duige théa man cht khong phai 1a nhin thay nguéi khac hanh phuc. Néu ban thuc si muén séng theo cach “tw Jue canh sinh” trong mau newal cong high gién tiép ehY trude het phai tap yeu ban than minh. TINH CACH SU TU SONG Vi GIA DINH Nhiing “su tw’ thudc mau ngudi céng hién truc tiép hay séng vi gia dinh déu xéc dinh sti ménh dia trén nén tang cdm xe ha chink minh, ho khéng bj thas ép hay mé hoac béi 161 suy nghi ap dat cha quan niém hoac nhiing ngudi khac. Ho lam vay don gian vi trai tim ho luén mach bao. Ban sé dé dang nhan ra mét ngudi thude mau ngudi nao néu ban tiép xc hay nhin cach ho lam viéc, ho xtt ly tinh huéng dua phan nhiéu trén tinh cam hay ly tri. Mau nguéi séng vi gia dinh luén ton trong su binh an cua nhiing ngudi than thuéc, va ho nghi rang ban than sinh ra lA dé che ché, phung sy cho gia dinh minh. Néu 185aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Toi biét 14 chia dui dé ban c6 thé sng hét minh véi nghia vu va muc dich cao ca d6, song hai tinh cach trén 1A dién hinh dé ban xAy dung cho minh nén mong dau tién. Ban sé due hoe cach dé thuc hién tét nh&t st ménh cla minh 6 phan sau, khi tinh cach cua ban da cGng cép va sac nét. TINH CACH SU TU SONG Vi CHINH MiNH C6 hang triéu ngudi nhu vay, va ho cing that dang tran trong nhu tat ca cac mau ngudi khac. Ho séng, lam viéc va n6 lve vi ban than minh, muu cau hanh phtc chi cho minh ma théi. Nhiéu ngwéi goi dé 14 thuc dung, t6i goi dé la séng tét, vi ho da giup xa h6i cd thém mot ngon lita tu chay va suéi 4m chinh minh. Ho khong can dua vao ai khac dé lam viée d6, ho di du lich, lam nhiing cong viéc ho thich ma khéng bi quan diém hay bat ct ai tréi budc. Dé trd thanh mot su ti, nghia 1A duge tu do, lam hét nhting du dinh ca nhan cho dén cuéi cude ddi, ngay hom nay ban phai vao eude. - Rén luyén tinh cach séng vi chinh minh: Ban cAn luén ghi nhé va nhac nhé ban than méi khi gap kho khan va bi phan di, ngan can tw nhiing quan niém, hé tv tudng, gia dinh, ban ba hay bit cw diéu gi khac, do 1a: st ménh cua ta la chinh ta. 191aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU khac sai khién ma théi. Réi khi moi viée éng ta thc su khao khat da di qua xa, ong ta héi han, that vong va guc nga. Gia dinh, nhiing wée mo cong hién hay phiéu liu ca nh4n cé thé méi chinh Ja nhiing gi éng ta cén, song dng ta chang bao gid dém chap nhan hy sinh nhting cudn hut cua danh vong va tién tai dé chuan bj gianh lay nd. Bai hoc cho chuong nay citing 1a diéu toi muén ndi voi tat ca cac ban sinh vién, hay tat ca cdc ban tré dang khong biét minh can gi dé dat duge diéu minh muén: “Cac ban hay rén luyén cho minh nhiing tinh cach cn thiét.” Néu tuéi tré khong lam cho cac ban tré nén manh mé va cé nhiing dac diém tam hén ré nét thi quang ddi vé sau sé lay di t&t ca thdi gian, sttc hic vA hanh phic cua ban. Tudi tré 1a td gidy tring, ban phai viét lén dé nhiing gi ban cho 1a pht hgp. 195aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? nao day, va khi nhiém vu dé dat dude véi hiéu qua téi da, x4 hdi ndi rang ho thanh cong. Va thuc té la ho khong hé biét dén nghia vu cua nhiing ngudi khac. Néu ban muén tré thanh mét ngudi trong céng déng su tu, xin diing di nghe mét nha truyén giao phat biéu. Viéc lua chon cing déi hoi ban phai biét chap nhan rui ro va nhting thach thtic. Thudng thi ban nén chon cé van cho minh sau khi da x4c dinh ro sti ménh ma minh muén huéng tdi. Cé vain chi 1a ngwéi hudn luyén ban tré thanh mot su tu trong si ménh do ma théi. Trong mot buéi dién thuyét, r&t nhiéu ban tré hdi vi cé van cla téi rang: Chau nén lam nhu thé nao? Chau cé kha nang gi? Chau muén bac trd thanh c6 van cho ‘t nhiing ban dé khong biét mét diéu quan trong rang: Co van cia téi 1A mét m4u ngudi cong hién gidn tiép, 6ng chi nhan nhting hoe tro dinh huéng cho minh trd thanh ngu@i thuée mAu ngudi d6 ma théi. Mot c6 van gidi la mot ngudi co thé dua ra 1di khuyén cho tat ca moi ngudi, nhung mét cé van gidi nhat lA ngwdi chi dua ra 1éi khuyén cho nhiing ngwdi muén tré thanh giéng minh ma théi. chau?... Song hau - La mét nguéi cdi me Néu thay ban khéng néi gi véi ban, liéu ban sé hoc dude bao nhiéu ti ngwdi thay d6? 200aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? ngay hém nay. Trong lic téi bé tac nhat toi van luén né luc tim kiém. Cudi nam tht nhat 6 dai hoc, tdi 1a mot sinh vién bé tré, mét ngudi ngdng cuéng va khong biét dua nhiing muc tiéu cua minh vao ké hoach va khuén kho. Toi di lang thang ma trong long luén hoai nghi vé chinh ban than minh, va tdi chi tinh cd chia sé nhiing ude muon cla minh véi vi cd van tuong lai nhu mot cach dé gitp ban than cam thay thoai mai hon. Toi ndi vé muc thuc hoa, mét cach vé thie, toi nhac dén mau nguéi minh huiéng téi, va cd nhiing bite xtc trong viée tim gidi phap. dich, nhiing ly tudng cao dep ma minh muén hi Ban biét day, cd van ctia toi da nhan téi lam hoc trd va quyét dinh dd dau cho téi tiv dé cho hét cudc doi vé sau. Ong luén cho téi nhiing 1éi khuyén va nhiing cude thi dau dé ti rén luyén, Ong khOng cho toi nhiing con mdi cé sin, khong cho nhiing cach thie c6 san, éng bat tdi déng néo va tu bude di trén doi chan cla minh dén muc tiéu. Ban cn phai nhan biét duge cé van cua minh, va cach hitu hiéu nhét 1A chia sé, chia sé tat cA con ngudi ban, tat cA nhiing thit ban cé, va “ky mt hgp déng bing trai tim va khéi 6c” véi vi cd van dé duéi su chting kién cua nhiing quy luat bat bién chi phéi cudc di con nguéi. Vi cé van c6 thé 1A ngudi trong gia dinh ban, cé thé 1a thay cé giao ban, ngudi ban tinh cé gap, hay ban bé vong nién... tat ca déu dang duge xem xét mét cach cain than. 206aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? than khéng 16 hién lén tr¢ gitp bat ct yéu cdu nao cua ban, ban sé cho rang d6 1a chuyén nham nhi. Tiém thtic cua ban lic nay dong vai tro 1A ngudi phan xét, no giéng véi mét tham phan nghiém kh&c, n6 tw chéi tiép nhan phuong phap dua ra chi vi két qua ctia viée dé chuta bao gid dude ghi trong céc diéu luat va kiém chiing thuc té. Tuy vay, khi ban muén an mon sushi cua Nhat Ban, tiém thtic cua ban sé héi thuc ban dén cia hang hoac tu hoc cach ché bién mén dé, vi tiém thtic cé chtta hinh anh that vé mén sushi va cach ma ngudita da lam ra né. Khi ban réi tri hoc nghi ngd vé bat ci diéu gi thudc tuong lai, hay nhin vao c6 van cua ban. Ban khéng can gip ong dy, song ban c6 thé cé duge cau tra 1éi tit nhiing gi 6ng Ay da lAm duge. Nhiing diéu can nhé qua cac van dé lién quan dén mot vi cd van 1a: - Vi cd van la mét nhan td quan treng cua thanh cong va hanh phic ca nhan. - Vi cd van cé thé duce tim thay 6 bat et nai dau. - Hay héi cé vain cua ban bat ct diéu gi, ké ca nhiing diéu v6 nghia nhat. 214aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU dau tién qua di, ban sé cé du vén kién thie, nhan lye va tai luc dé thuc hién nhting bude di tiép theo. Néu khéng JA mét chuyén gia trong it nhat mét linh vuc, ban sé khéng du su tap trung cén thiét dé dét chay nhiing tht thach, cudc song cla ban sé md nhat va yéu 6b. toi Trong hdi doanh nghiép vita va nhé TP Ha NO cé biét m6t anh ban 1a giam déc mét cong ty trong linh vuc cung cp thiét bi tin hoe cA nhén va van phong. Anh ban tdi lA mét mau ngudi sdng vi gia dinh, c6 du nhiing tinh cach cua mau do, anh dat muc tiéu phai dua cong ty cua minh tré thanh cdng ty co doanh thu lén nhat Ha N6i sau 5 nam trong phan khtc may tinh va cac thiét bi phy tro nhu: may fax, may in, trang bi phong hop media chuan quéc té cho cac cong ty khach hang... Toi khong phé phan hay danh gia vé nang luc cua ban téi, song tdi thay mét ngudi khéng am hiéu nhiéu vé cAc san pham céng nghé cao nhu anh ay trong khi khong dugc tro gitip tw cac chuyén gia lai muén tan cong vao linh vuc nay thi that 1A qua stic va mo hé. Thai gian tinh dén nay da la hon bon nam va cong ty cla anh van phai thuc hién nhiing thuong vu chép gidt nhdm duy tri hoat déng. Khi ban yéu kém 6 tat c4 cac mat, liéu nhting ké hoach cha ban 6 thé thuc hién dude khong? 219aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? khach hang cua anh ta) hin vén m6 mét hang taxi véi phong cach kinh doanh doc dao va chuyén nghiép ctia riéng minh. Néu ban khong thé suy nghi due giéng nhu anh lai xe trén, tdi nghi ban nén diing tat ca cde céng viée dang lam va bat dau lai véi viée rén luyén ting mong vudt. Co nhiéu ban tré 6m dém nhiéu céng viée ma ho nghi c6 thé lam tét duge trong cing mét hic. Toi ting nghe m6t diéu phi ly nhu thé nay: Néu khéng lam due nhiéu viée cung lic, ban chi lA mét ké tam thuéng ma thoi. D6 Ja mt phat ngén sai lm va mé hodc nhat ma tdi tiing biét. Su thuc 1a tai mdi thdi diém, ching ta chi cé thé lam tot dude mot viée duy nhat ma théi! Tuy nhién, c6 dén hang ngan ngudi van nudi mong tudng vi ho nghi ring, néu chi lam mét viéc trong mét thdi gian thi qua 1A tam thudng. Ho muén dot pha bang nhiing thti thach qua stic cua minh, song ho da sai lam. Nguyén tac dau tién trong viée giai quyét van dé 1A lam cho van dé dé tré nén don gian nhat nhu co thé. Ban phai bién moi mit that thinh mdt nit that duy nhat va thao go nd. Nhiing ngudi mong tudng ludn luén hanh dong gidng nhu mot siéu nhan ma khong biét rang trén thé gidi nay 226aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU théa man nhu cau cia ngudi khac dé c6 thé duy tri bénh vién, lam cho né vita sinh Idi vita c6 thé san sé ganh nang cung xa hdi. Chon loc So dé téi néu ra yéu cu ban méc néi toan bé nhiing di& kién ban c6 vé muc tiéu ban theo dudi véi nang luc hién tai, va kha nang dat dude nhiing ky nang mdi trong ac tucng lai. Ban cén c6 cai nhin téng quan va logic vé vi nhau khéng? Kién kién thtic can cé, ching cé xung thiic nao 1a hat nhén va phai mat nhiéu thdi gian, nhén vat luc dé dat dugc; kién thie nao can kip nhat, kién thtic nado quan trong nhung khong cap bach? Téi lay vi du, khi ban da dinh hudng dude sii ménh, muc tiéu, ké hoach, tinh cach, tham chi da chon cho minh mot cé van gitp ban tré thanh mét nguéi gidu cé thud nhém mang tu duy lanh dao, ban can xac dinh cho minh mot bang g6m cac k¥ nang nghé nghiép can thiét nhu: nganh hat nhan, nganh phu tr, ngAanh can dae biét quan tam, va nganh quan trong nhung c6 thé kéo dai qua trinh rén luyén. Hinh trang sau m6 ta va giai thich vé méi rang bu6c gitia tinh cach, kha nang, cdc chon Iya vé ky néing nghé véi muc tiéu ma ban dang nham dén. 231aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? phu nhan kha nang cla ban than voi nhting ngudi khac. Ho thuéng noi rang: “T6i khéng di kha nang”; “Lam sao tdi c6 thé gidi giang duoc nhu ho”; “Téi khong biét cach tiép thu nao 1a tét nhat d6i véi minh, duéng nhu cai dau toi chi toan dat sét’ ... Theo thong ké, khoang 80% con ngudi khong biét cach khai pha ban than va st dung qua 20% nang luc cla minh. Ho khong biét tap cho bd nao biét tu duy va van dong theo chiéu hung cé loi. Ho khéng bit né rén luyén. thay vao d6, ho bit né phai than van va tu ha thép ban than minh. Nhiing mau nguidi “su tt” déu biét eéch dap ting cdc yéu cdu ca bai ton ho phai d0i mat mt cach nhanh chéng nhat thong qua viéc hoc. Ho biét tan dung kha nang tu duy va phan tich cua b6 nao dé chon cho minh phuong phap pht hgp nhat. Chung ta thuéng phan nan vé cac cong cu giao duc Jac hau cua trudng lép va phuong phap truyén dat nghéo nan cla cae gidng vién, nhung lai khéng nhan ra chinh ching ta mdi 14 ngudi quyét dinh toan bé cong viée hoe tap cua minh. Trudng lép, thay cd hay cae cudn sach va nhing kénh thong tin khac déu gidng nhau, chi cé trach nhiém dua ra nhiing hiéu biét, tri thiic... va ta phai c6 nhiing céng cu dé téng hop va tich lay nhiing tri thie d6, bién né thanh tai san cua ban than minh. Mong vuét cla 236aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU ky nang gi, ban chi can st: dung né that hiéu qua va 4m tham tién dén chép lay con mdi 1a du. Toe 4 con 1a mét Igi thé Adi voi nhiing ngudi biét sit dung no. Ho sé dé dang bé lai nhiing ngudi khéng 16 da di truéc ho hang tram nam. Nhu Google bd qua Yahoo, Microsoft vuot mat déi thi 1A IBM va American Online dé vuon lén vi tri din dau trong viée cung cXp cac gidi phap vé hé diéu hanh va tng dung truy nhap web cing céc san pham céng nghé thong tin khac... Ngay nay, mot sinh vién sé s6m vuot qua trinh dé va tam hiéu biét cia gido su dang giang day minh néu anh ta biét cdc lgi thé cua viée tng dung céng cu hoc tap tién b6, pht hgp va téc dé. Ban hay nhé rang: Néu ban cham tré trong viée cap nhat nhiing thay déi, ban sé bi nhiing con su ti 6 khép ndi trén thé gidi tran qua va gidm nat. Néu ban khéng lAm cho minh tré nén chuyén biét trong x& h0i ngay nay, ban kho c6 thé quyét dinh duge cuée séng cua minh. Nhting ngudi quanh nam suét thang phai chat vat véi nhting toan tinh vun vat cua cudc séng 1a nhting ngudi cé k¥ nang nghé nghiép m6 nhat nhat. Ho khéng bao gid biét ky nang nado dang kiém tién dé nudi song chinh minh, ho da dang hoa moi tht tu cong viée 241aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? rang, vi cd van la nguéi cha minh sé theo anh suét ca cude ddi dé don dep hai bén dudng gitp anh co thé bude di that thoai mai, vung ludi riu dén hét tam tay. Ngay thang tréi qua, ngudi cha qua gia khong thé vao rung duge néa, anh ta bat dau phai lo lang cho gia dinh va lao vao cuéc séng. Anh vac riu di vé phia canh ring x6 xAc truéc mat, vA s6m nhan ra rang ngoai minh ra con hang tram nhung tiéu phu khac cung dang tién vé phia ay. Cudi ngay hom dé, chang trai tré vé vdi nét mat buén rau dra vi hau nhu anh ta chang thé cé6 co héi dung dén stic khde va ludi riu sac bén cua minh. Anh ta tré vé véi ban tay trang va néi dau dén that vong. Chang trai khong hiéu tai sao minh lai khong thé ap dung nhiing diéu da dude cha day vao cong viéc thuc té. Ngay hom sau, ngay sau nifa anh ta van mang b6 mat urd vé. Dén ngay tht mudi lam, c6 mot bac tiéu phu gia gay gd va 6m yéu lam ban déng hanh véi chang trai. Khong phai vi ho da lm than véi nhau ti nhiing ngay true, ma ly do rat don gian: Mot ngudi tré khée, vi kh6ng con gitt néi tinh than nita ma buée di nang né va cham chap hon, anh ta nghi rang viéc d6n cai dudng nhu khéng danh cho minh; con ngudi kia vi than hinh gid yéu ma khong thé di nhanh hon dude. Bac tiéu gia va chang trai bi tut lai 246aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? ban than ban 6 mic dé nay. Liéu ban cé muon tré thanh mO6t su ti tron ven hay chi cé tiéng gam va mong vuét cia no. Gidng nhu mét ngudi cé kién thie uyén bac, c6 tinh cach néi bat nhung lai khéng biét lam thé nao dé bién no tré thanh va khi cho chinh minh, con su tii c6 méng vudét va tiéng gdm ma khéng biét edch dé ding mong vuét vé méi ciing vay. Ho déu lam ngudi khac so hai, lam ngudi khac kinh né, nhung ho luén cam thay bat an, ho luén luén bi “déi” con méi vi ho khéng thé di san. Vay, ban chon tré thanh ngudi thé nao? Dudi day 1A mét kho béu déi vdi nhing ngudi muén mao hiém va dan than, no khong bi kién thie trudng lép chi phéi, n6é khéng yéu cau ngudi di tim phai théng minh hay cé diém s6 cao. N6 chi phu thuéc vao tinh cach cha ban ma théi. Nhung néu ti nhting ngay truéc, khi ban da rén cho minh mét tinh cach sac sao va phu hop véi mau ngudi ly tudng cla ban, toi nghi ban khong can lo ling. Ching ta sé cing nhau di tiép. KY NANG LAC QUAN Nhiing ngudi thanh cong ngay nay luén noi vé ky nang thay vi néi vi tri thie cua loai ngudi di ching nita, ban cimg khong thé ‘én thiic. Cho da ban cé hiéu biét vé tat ca 250aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Ky nang lac quan chi xuat hién khi mét ngudi 14m vao hoan canh bé t4c. Lic kho khan, trong dau ban sé vang Jén cu hoi: Bo cudc hay di tiép? Lic d6 hay doc than cha. Song than chi nao cing ¢6 han dinh nén diing doc n6 mot cach bita bai. Mét ngudi that bai la ngudi di tim lac quan khi gip kho khan, ngudi thanh cong 14 ngudi di tim giai phap dé giai quyét kho khan, néu ho thay cé chut béi réi hoac chan nan, ho 86°de “eau than cha’. KY NANG GIAO TIEP VA TRUYEN DAT THONG TIN Khi ban khong thé noi ra chinh x4c nhiing gi ban nghi, ban chwa biét cach truyén dat. Khi ban mai huyén thuyén vé nhiing gi ban nghi, ban chua biét cach giao tiép Giao tiép va truyén dat thong tin 1a hai viée mA méi ching ta lam nhiéu nhat trong doi. Trung binh mét ngudi danh it nhat khoang 2 gid méi ngay dé néi, nhiéu thi cd thé dén 12 gid. Thai gian lang nghe ngudi khac néi thi ngug¢ce lai, va ching ta hau nhu trung binh chi nghe duge 98% nhiing gi ngudi khac noi. T6i trude day cting vay. C6 hai ly do dé giai thich van dé nay. Tht nhat, ban néi nhiéu vi ban khéng thé dién dat duge tron ven nhiing gi minh hiéu theo cach don gian va ngin gon nhat. The 255aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU di hoc hay di lam chi 1a cong viée chia mot minh ban u? VA ban sé khong phai cay nhé ai gitip dé minh sao? Nhiing ngudi c6 chap thuéng bao thu, cho rang ho chi c6 thé hoan thanh céng viéc néu dé ho yén tinh mot minh. Song, ho da sai. Vé ban chat, cong viéc cla mdi ching ta dang lAm 1A mét mat xich trong mét chudi nhiing cong viéc khéc dé dat dude muc tiéu cudi cing cho té chic. Ban c6 thé lam viéc 6 nha, song diéu d6 khéng c6 nghia la ban Khong phai lam viée theo nhom, Tren moi phuong dién cua cuéc séng, muc tiéu cé nhan Juén phai hoa h¢p vdi muc tiéu xa hdi, cong déng hoac tap thé noi ca nhan Ay tac déng va anh hudng. Nhom lam viéc 1a mot yu té quan trong ciia to chtic, néu ni mét cach hinh anh: T6 chiic 14 mt vat hién hitu, ngudi ngoai cuéc cé thé nhin thay due, vi du nhu: may vi tinh, xe hoi... Nhom giéng nhu mét phan tt hay nguyén tu c&u thanh nén cai may tinh hay xe hoi... d6. Trong mot té chtic, cAn cé hang ngan nhting nhém nhé, dé 1a phan tu. Phan tit duge tao nén mét cach c6 sAp xép xac dinh cua rat nhiéu nhting nhém nhé hon goi IA cac nguyén tit. Madi c4 nhan trong té chiic hay céng déng dé 1a céc thanh phan cua nguyén tt nhu: hat nhan va cac hat electron, proton, neutron... Lam viéc theo nhom giéng nhu ban nhin nhan, phan tich, to chttc, phan cong... dua ra nhting nguyén tac lam 261aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU nhu vay 1A khéng cdng bang, va ban chang bao gid cé thé lam day cudc sng cua minh chi v6i ngan ay thdi gian hay thé tich. Nhiing vién dé ging nhu nhiing muc tiéu quan trong cia ban: muc tiéu, stic khée, gia dinh, nhting uu tién trong cudc séng. Cat gidng nhu nhiing viéc ban cn lam hang ngay: giao luu gap gd ban bé, mua sdm, giao tiép... VA nude chinh 1A nhting nhu cau thiét yéu nhat cua bat ett ai: An udng, ngu nghi, giai tri. Mét ngudi lang phi cuéc ddi ngain ngui cua khi anh ta danh hau hét thii gian mot ngay dé théa man nhéing nhu Su, anh ta an ngu va giai tri v6 dé, déi luc cing danh thdi gian cho nhiing céng viéc khéng quan trong va khong gap gép nhu tu tap ban bé, mua sm... nhung hau nhu khéng c6 ché cho nhiing diéu quan trong. cau thiét Neudi théng minh biét cach dé lam day chiée binh thuy tinh cua minh bang viéc dua nhiing vién da vao trudc. Tiép dén ho dé cat dé lap day nhiing khoang trong, va cudi cing 1A dén nuée vao binh nham lap vao khe hé cua nhiing hat cat. Neguyén tac thtt hai trong viée quan ly thdi gian vé cing don gian: Hay danh thoi gian uu tién cho nhting muc tiéu va cong viéc quan trong, sau do la nhting viéc can lam hang ngay, tuy rang né khéng quan trong cing chang khan thiét. Cuéi cing, sau mét ngay vat va, hay tu 271aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.NHUNG BAI HOC DANH CHO SU TU Nhoém tai nang La cing huéng dén mét muc dich cuéi cung nhu nhau, cho di co thé lam nhiing nganh nghé khac nhau. Nhom tai nang phat huy tac dung khi mét thanh vién gap khé Ap hgp tat ca cdc su tt thudée cling mét mAu ngudi, khan dén nhé nhom tr¢ gitip cach giai quyét. Site manh cia nhom chinh 1a tinh da dang mét cach sde nét. Mai su tu 1A mét chuyén gia, vi vay nhém tai nang chinh 1a nhém cua nhiing chuyén gia. Nhom tai nang cua ban cé thé dude goi tén, c6 nhiing budi hop m&t thudng nién hay nhiing quy téc ting xtt chung nhat. Hode ké ca khi nhém ca ban chang c6 ca nhiing yéu cau téi thiéu trén, chi cAn cac ban c6 cung sti ménh va biét dén su tén tai cua nhém la du. LAM THE NAO DE TAO RA NHOM TAI NANG CHO MINH? Viée ddu tién ban edn lam IA hay nghi rang viée tao ra g. Hau hét cae ban tré ngay nay khéng thé da dang héa cAc méi quan hé cua minh, ho hoai nghi tat cé moi ngudi va nghi rang minh dang bi lgi dung néu c6 mot ai dé goi dién hay true tiép bat chuyén véi ho. Ho nghi rang, dé tao ra dudc mét nhém tai nang, ho sé phai v&t va rat nhiéu, tit viée chion Iya, hinh thanh, duy 281aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? Ban hudn luyén hoc tro cua minh nhu thé nao? Toi khéng nghi viée dat ra mét gido trinh 1a y tudng hay. Tot hon hét, ban hay lam tat ca mgi viéc nhu toi da dé cap va c6 van cua ban da chi day. Ban cing khong can cting nhac trong each truyén dat, cn mot dia diém hay cu ky trong cach xung h6, Ban va hoc trd cia minh van 1a nhiing nguGi ban, anh chi em trong nhiing khoang thoi gian ban kh6ng tw van va tr¢ gidp ho. Toi hiéu vé khé khan cia m6t ban tré khi phai nhan trach nhiém dao tao cho mét ai d6. Ban chua thanh céng, nhung néu ban trd thanh mét ngudi thay, niém tin vé thanh dat trong tuong lai sé cang duge khang dinh chic chan hon. Diéu dé chinh 1a déng luc gitp ban vuot qua tat ca nhiing khé khan trong qua trinh giang day. - CHIA SE D6 la cAch tét nhat dé ban gitip mot ngudi hiéu ra van dé cua ho. Ban khong nén dua ra cae bi quyét, vi thuc su chung khéng tén tai. Ban cing khong nén ép budc hoc trd phai lam theo nhiing cach lam ma ban cho 1a ding. Ban can cho ho phuong phap tiép can vain dé va dé ho tu tim ra cau tra ldi cho chinh minh dya trén nhiing diéu co ban. Wide'chia ed cau chuyén eta ben, of vin ota ban hay nhiting cau chuyén thanh cong thudc m&u ngudi ma ban 294aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? héi céng nh4n vi thue su ho da khong céng nhan nhiing quy chudn ma ho va nhiing ngudi khéc da théng nhat dat ra. LUAT NGAM HIEU Ban thudng nghi Juaét ngam hiéu la gi? Toi khong cé ¥ dinh dé cap dén x4 héi den hay nhiing thti khong bao gid duge xa h6i rong rai chap nhan. Toi néi dén nhiing nguyén tac due tao dung bang uy tin cua cdc ca nhan va nhiing lién két tat yéu trong moi céng déng, té chic. Luat ngAm hiéu khéng duce quy dinh bang van ban va khong phai ai cing cé thé hiéu duge n6. Di nhién réi, vi né 1a luat choi cua nhiing ngudi thanh cong va da trd thanh su tii. Sau khi nghe tdi trinh bay vé luat ngdm hiéu, ban sé biét rang, tai sao c6 rat nhiéu ngudi c6 hoc thtic, c6 tién bae dia vi ban dau kha tét lai nhanh chong that bai va cam thay bat hanh. Ban sé thay duoc ly do cua nhting than van: - Téi khéng hiéu duge no. - Ching 14 mét 1a kiéu cang va hom hinh. T6i sé khéng bao gid tham gia niia... Va ban phai cé cai nhin that khach quan vé luat nay cing nhu cach Ap dung titng diéu khoan vio nhiing hinh 302aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? ta thudng chang bao gid nhé ngudi khéc d& néi gi véi minh, ho chi nhé nhting gi ho duge ban tang. Néu muén tré thanh ngwdi cé uy tin, hay ban tang that nhiéu bang hanh dong. Loi ich thiét thuc nhat cua viée git gin uy tin Ja kha nang ban sé nhan duge hang ngan 16i mdi cong tac va lam viée, va hay lAm viée that cham chi, thong minh dé cé mét uy tin that lén. Vi du don gian, khi ban 1A mét k¥ su ddu nganh vé khoa hoc may tinh tic 1a ban da cé uy tin ln trong nghé, toi cam doan rang ban sé luén phai dau dau vi lua chon nhiing déi tae va céng ty tét nh&t cho minh lam viéc. LUAT TON TRONG Hay ton trong tat ca nhting ngudi khac. Néu ban khong thé lam duce diéu dé, ban sé chang bao gid dude ngudi khac ton trong. Va sé chang cé con su tw nao hét, toi chac chin diéu do. Ban cé muén néi chuyén hay céng tac vdi ngudi khong co chtit thanh y nao véi minh khong? Toi thi khong bao gid chju lam viée véi nhiing ké nhu vay. Néu khong thé ton trong ngudi doi dién, ding bao gid déi dién vdi ho. Day 1A mét bai hoc In trong adi, Cé mét lan t6i nhap hang ti mét nha cung cap mdi. Vi 1a lan dau nén ti chi muén nhap 16 hang via phai dé khao sat nhu cu vé san 306aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.BAI HOC cuol CUNG: HAY LUON LUON CHAM CHI “Dung dé dén ngay mai nhiing gi c6 thé lam hom nay.” (Lord Chesterfield) “Chi cé lao déng mdi gitip con ngudi quén di nhiing nham chan va that vong trong cude séng. Chi c6 né ue khong ngitng nghi, mdi ngay bude thém mét buéc, ban mdi c6 thé dén duge v6i muc tiéu cudc doi minh.” (Khuyét danh) A iéu gi sé xay ra khi ban chi ngéi nghi nggi “ va mo tudng? Chang cé gi hét ngoai viéc ban da dé lang phi von thdi gian quy bau it 6i cua minh. Cham chi duge coi lA diéu kién tién quyét cho tat ca nhiing két qua tét dep cua cuéc di. N6 lam nén thanh céng vA phan xét that bai. Chim chi duge hiéu nhu su can m4n lam viéc, hang ngay hang gid thuc hién va tén trong nhting ké hoach da dé ra. Cho di céng viée c6 nham chan dén mtic nao, ngudi cham chi van sé thuc hién véi su hao ining va long nhiét huyét chéy bang. Vi thé, cong viéc nao cing c6 thé hoan thanh, kh6 khan nao cing c6 thé vuot qua. 315aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.aa You have either reached a page that is unavailable for viewing or reached your viewing limit for this book.SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? day tw nhting that bai nhu thé nao. Toi da c6 bai hoc dat gia va thuc su gid day chang 6 dau dén nao ha gue duge toi. Ban hay trd vé bén toi, ching ta sé cing nhau xay dung mét tuong lai mdi, day nhiét huyét dam mé, ngap tran tiéng cudi hanh phic; chting ta sé song mét cudc déi ynghia va khong dé lang phi bat ca diéu gi. Khi ban quay lai, toi sé khéng ho hitng va chan chudng nhu truée lic ban ra di. Toi da tu hta vdi long minh, sé s6ng véi hai tram phan tram stic luc: 100% dé hoc tap, cdn lai 1a 100% dé cham chi lAm viéc. Ban biét khong, toi da biét dude ly do minh sinh ra trén cdi ddi nay, biét cach dat ra chudi muc tiéu va lap ké hoach dé thuc hién nhting diéu do, tdi hoc héi dude nhiéu k¥ nang hon, cé nhiing tich cAch sc nét hon va ti tin tuéng vao su thanh céng cua ban than minh. Toi dang 1A mét su tii, vA vi vay ban dting lo lang vé su mat kiém soat cia toi. Mét lan nila, ti htia sé cing ban lam nén nhiing diéu vi dai. Tuéi tae khéng con quan trong khi téi biét rang ban van dang ddi theo minh, va trong chinh téi ludn ludn c6 ban. Kinh nghiém s6ng tinh bang sé nam con ngudi hoc hoi duge ti cude ddi cht khong phai 1A thdi gian tinh tt khi anh ta duoe sinh ta, vi thé ching ta van cén co héi. 320MUC LUC SINH VIEN! BAN LA SU TL HAY THO? LOL NOI DA DAN NHAP.. CHUONG I: DE TRO THANH SU TU TINH CACH CUA MOT CON SU TU TINH CACH CUA MOT CON THO . PHA BO HANG RAO CONG VIEN. Ngay dau tién Neay the hai Ngay thi bay . Tuan tht? hai va thi ba < 53 Tudn cudi cling clia thang dap pha YEU MOI TRUONG CUA BAN. CHUONG I: NHUNG BAT HOC DANH CHO SU TU BAL HOC 1: LUC MGI SINH RA BAN LA THO HAY SU TU? BAI HOC 2: CHON CHO MINH MOT TINH CACH.. Tinh cach chung cta su th Tinh cach su tlt cong hién true tiép Tinh céch su tli cong hién gian tiép. Tinh cach su ti séng vi gia dinh. Tinh cach su tt! séng vi chinh minh BAI HOC 3: CHON MOT CO VAN Nhan biét mot c6 van the thy. Ban cé thé tim c6 van ca minh & dau? Vi cé van sé luyén tap cho ban nhu thé nao’ 322MUC LUC BAI HOC 4: MONG VUOT BAN SAC BEN MUC NAO?....cccceceseeee 215 Tré thanh mét chuyén gia. 218 Da dang héa cac méng vudt BAI HOC 5: KY NANG SAN MOI Ky nang lac quan .... Ky nang giao tiép va truyén dat théng tin Ky nang lam viéc nhhém Ky nang quan ly thai gian. Ky nang ban minh..... ky nang sang tao... BAI HOC 6: NHOM TAI NANG CUA SU TU Nhom tai nding . Lam thé nao dé tao ra nhém tai nang cho minh? Hinh thanh ti hai ngudi BAI HOC 7: BAN LA SU TU HAY THO? BAI HOC 8: DAY CHO NGUGI KHAC TRG THANH SU TU. 289 Ban sé day ai?.. Ban huan luyén hoc trd cla minh nhu thé nao? BAI HOC 9: QUY LUAT CUA RUNG XANH. Luat duge ca nhan, t6 chic, xa hdi, luat phap quy di Hoc luat khi tham gia cac t6 chic Hoc luét khi ban lam nhang, Luat ngam hiéu. Luat gid uy tin Luat tn trong Luat cong bang. Luat ban gn va mang on Luat tich lay BAI HOC CUO! CUNG: HAY LUON LUON CHAM CHi LOI KET...