Finch, Lainey

Lainey Finch Instructor: Malcolm Campbell English (1102) 1/21/201 Topic Proposal: Relationship Expectations vs. Reality Introduction/Overview !he topic I "ill be #urther e$ploring throughout this semester is the concepts o# relationship e$pectations %ersus the reality o# relationships& 'asically( I am going to be )oing research on the common concepts o# the i)ea that #emales are only thoroughly happy "hen they are in a relationship "ith a male( or are recei%ing male attention that coul) lea) to a relationship& In to)ay*s society( I #eel as though "omen are belittle) by men an) their concepts o# relationships so I "oul) li+e to e$plore "hy people (men( or in some cases the "omen themsel%es) #eel as though "omen are only happy "hen they ha%e a man in their li#e& For instance( it is apparent that currently the ma,ority o# society assumes that "omen are not %ery accepting o# a li#estyle that )oes not inclu)e a man sustaining their happiness& In mo%ies (an) in real li#e) it is al"ays about the girl being lonely an) unhappy until some guy hits on them( as+s them out on a )ate( as+s them to be in a relationship( etc& It is #rustrating to thin+ that so many people belie%e that a "oman cannot lea) a #ul#illing li#e "ithout a man by her si)e& -ersonally( I #in) ,oy in a lot o# )i##erent aspects o# li#e other than constantly pursuing male attention& Fin)ing )irect in#ormation on this topic has pro%en to be a ta) )i##icult( but I +no" I am not the only person "ho #eels this "ay about this speci#ic topic& .ome o# the research can

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)e#initely #all un)er gen)er role bias( an) the assume) roles in relationships #or each gen)er& /n#ortunately( most o# the "ebsites I ha%e #oun) "ith in#ormation regar)ing this topic are blogs an) other pages that are mainly ,ust opinion base)& I thin+ opinions regar)ing the matter are great( but that )on*t necessarily sho" some sort o# concrete e%i)ence& I #oun) a speci#ic blog (laurenolauren&"or)press&com) that has a post entitle) 01appiness cannot be 2.tereotype)3 * that supports the i)eas that I am stating& Lauren( the blogger sai) at one point( 24ot e%ery "oman "ho gets ol)( an) #in)s hersel# alone is bitter an) angry( nonsense I +no" a lot o# "omen "ho ha%e passe) the 506year6ol) mar+ an) li%ing li#e li+e a 156year6ol)( they*re happy an) they are not at all )epresse) about not ha%ing Mr& 7ight lea%e his shoes an) soc+s all o%er the place&3 I ha%e also tal+e) to my peers about the topic( an) they agree that there is a lot o# pressure on a "oman*s happiness relating to men& I ha%e "itnesse) it singlehan)e)ly "ith a lot o# my #rien)s 8one #rien) in particular is constantly chasing a )i##erent guy( an) seems upset "hen she )oes not ha%e a guy to tal+ to or gi%e her attention& I "ill continue to as+ my peers( #rien)s( #amily( an) others about the topic in hopes o# recei%ing #urther opinions& I #eel li+e a lot o# single la)ies (cue 'eyonc9) may agree "ith me on this topic( though they may not "ant to a)mit it& .ome guys may also agree( i# they are egotistical enough to a)mit that they also thin+ "omen are not happy unless they ha%e a man in their li#e& :b%iously society agrees "ith the i)ea that "omen nee) a man to #in) happiness/sel#6"orth because it is constantly being promote)& I thin+ me)ia has to )o "ith a lot o# the pressures put on society "ith )ating an) "omen*s sel#6"orth& ;hether it be social me)ia( celebrities( maga<ines( !=( etc& the pressures o# relationships an) "omen #in)ing themsel%es 2Mr& 7ight3 the pressure is e$tremely e%i)ent& I*ll #urther research %arious "ebsites( but current proo# coul) lie in sites li+e !"itter( Faceboo+( Instagram as "ell as maga<ines li+e Cosmopolitan as "ell as many others&

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Initial Inquiry Question(s My initial in>uiry >uestion(s) are the #ollo"ing: ?oes to)ay*s society assume that "omen are only happy "hen they ha%e a male companion/ @re "omen e$pecte) to be unhappy "hen they aren*t in a relationshipA Is a "oman*s sel#6"orth )irectly correlate) "ith their relationship statusA ;hy are "omen so )esperate to #in) 2Mr& 7ightA3 1ope#ully( these >uestions "ill help me e$pan) #urther on my topic an) "ill help )e%elop some ans"ers in relation to the topic&

!y Interest in this Topic !his topic interests me( because it truly sa))ens me to thin+ that so many people belie%e that "omen are not happy "hen they are not emotionally in%ol%e) "ith a man& I ha%e "itnesse) so many circumstances "here "omen place e%erything they ha%e into a man( only to #in) out that their happiness can an) shoul) )eri%e #rom many other aspects o# li#e& I alrea)y +no" that society automatically assumes that "omen aren*t happy "ithout male emotional in%ol%ement( but I "oul) li+e to #igure out "hy& ;here )i) this pressure come #rom( an) "hy )o so many "omen #all into itA

"ext #teps :b%iously( I "ill be #urther in%estigating %arious pages on the internet such as the blog I pre%iously tal+e) about( Cosmo Maga<ine*s "ebsite( !"itter( Faceboo+( %arious articles online( an) I "ill also tal+ to my peers( #rien)s( #amily an) other people to get some insight& I "ill also try to use the )i##erent resources #or me in the library&