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Special Cunnilingus Techniques and Secrets
The best part of sex in m! far"from"humble opinion is the pleasure !ou can cause in !our partner#s$.
%hile being stimulated b! !our partner is certainl! far better #for most people if their partner&s an! good at
it$ than masturbation it is still prett! much the same onl! better.
'oing down on a lo(er on the other hand allows !ou to get a kind of pleasure that !ou cannot gi(e
!ourself e(en
in part) the (icarious or empathic response !ou get from their reactions.
The techniques here therefore are centered around cunnilingus including #since there&s no separate name$
using
!our fingers. *long a similar line +&(e now written *d(anced ,ellatio Techniques and Secrets. This was
learned
as a sub-ect not performer but with the same qualit! of skill in(ol(ed. .ecause of the number of questions
+
recei(ed on the sub-ect + also ha(e *d(anced *nal Sex Techniques for those who want to know about that.
.asic 'uidelines:
/0ess/ is alwa!s the best wa! to start out if !ou don&t know exactl! what a specific person likes. +t&s
much safer to build up from /not enough/ than to tr! to back down after shattering the mood b! being too
rough. The final argument to ensure that !ou alwa!s appl! this rule is this "" +f !ou start out /too/
gentle/slowl! in most cases this -ust excites !our lo(er more e(en in the rare cases that it frustrates her
a little. .ut if !ou start out /too/ rough for her it almost alwa!s turns her off to the whole thing.
The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough "" no matter what !ou ha(e
encountered so far alwa!s assume that !ou ha(e no idea what a new partner en-o!s. +t is entirel!
possible to ha(e had man! lo(ers and think
The! are all prett! much the same or
1ou&(e learned all of the (ariations and can tell who&s what.
.ut this can be #and usuall! is$ -ust a matter of random chance...!ou happened to get se(eral similar lo(ers.
2(entuall! !ou will run into someone or man! people who are completel! different than those !ou&(e
known before.
3on&t start b! going down on her. %ork !our wa! up to it. 2xceptions ma! be if !ou&re in a hurr!
before !our 4ress Secretar! shows up or other situations where !ou&re expected to act more directl!.
+t&s worth obser(ing that /work !our wa! up to it/ remains true no matter how man! times !ou&(e been
with that lo(er. %ith a long"term lo(er it ma! seem like !ou can get right to the direct stuff but working
!our wa! up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement with most women.
*long the same line of reasoning don&t start licking her clitoris immediatel! when !ou do get there.
Start with the area around it which can be prett! sensiti(e with some women e(en if it doesn&t seem to
cause the same dramatic response.
2(en more important is to not immediatel! start inserting fingers in her (agina. %ith most women that
reall! needs to be built up first. +t usuall! doesn&t hurt to build up a little e(en if she&s alread! excited.
5emember this "" 6ost often the tongue works best with the clitoris the fingers with the (agina/g"spot.
Someone else&s fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little rough no matter how careful the! are...and
almost all of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into her (agina is ps!chological) she can&t
reall! feel much that wa!.
7and Care +t&s best to be sure !our fingernail edges are (er! smooth and preferabl! cut all the wa!
down to where the! connect to !our skin. 8o matter how careful !ou are the! are likel! to cause her to
get a little sore inside or e(en reall! hurt feeling like a knife cutting her. This can e(en be the cause of
soreness that she doesn&t realize is being caused b! !our nails. .eing a guitarist + ha(e the nails on m!
left hand trimmed back as far as + can cut them an!wa!. 'uitar also gi(es one&s fret"hand amazing
endurance and finesse for g"spot stimulation and other tricks.
3ental 3ams These are in most cases -ust plain sill!. 9nlike almost an! other form of sexual acti(it!
the odds of !ou transmitting or catching *+3S this wa! are almost zero. There are almost no cases of an!
female homosexuals for instance e(en /claiming/ to ha(e caught *+3S this wa!. +n case !ou&re wondering
what the hell +&m talking about a /dental dam/ is simpl! a condom cut in half lengthwise and used to keep
fluids from passing between mouth and (ul(a. *nd it&s being ad(ocated primaril! b! people who are simpl!
-ealous that the!&re missing out on a great chance to be a /(ictim/ in the issue of sexuall! transmitted
diseases.
+nteresting note "" * little noise on !our part usuall! doesn&t hurt and sometimes it helps. Some women are
(er!
hung up on cunnilingus determined to belie(e that no matter how much !ou sa! otherwise #and she claims
to
belie(e !ou$ it ma! be at least a little unpleasant for !ou. +f !ou&re excited b! her responses or b! the act
itself don&t tr! to sta! quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will reassure and excite a lo(er when
the!&re pleasuring !ou will often work when !ou&re pleasuring them too. This could be considered a secret
weapon in sex in general because most gu!s are rather quiet and !et women almost alwa!s find
responsi(eness
(er! exciting. The contrast between someone who&s responsi(e and most of the other gu!s makes it e(en
more
effecti(e than it would alread! ha(e been.
6ore *d(anced Techniques:
The '"Spot
This does exist. *nd in o(er half of the women out there it works better than an!thing else !ou can do to
cause
a strong prolonged orgasm. The original name is the 'rafenberg spot after a doctor 2arnest 'rafenberg
who
documented the area #which ma! ha(e been known b! people here and there throughout histor!$ in the
fifties.
This /spot/ is a small /mound/ of tissue inside the (agina between a penn! and quarter in size which
responds to
being pressed upon. +t&s almost certainl! not the skenes glands #which are located around the urethra
which is
behind the '"spot area$ as has been suggested b! a few people. +n fact the '"Spot is the tissue in that
raised
area of the (agina which has a higher concentration of sexual ner(es and produces hormones similar to
those
made b! the male&s prostate gland.
* sort of map to the area "" +magine !our lo(er l!ing on her back legs spread. 1our position is between her
legs.
1ou would slide a finger inside her (agina palm up. %ith !our finger straight back middle finger is best
!ou
would cur(e it toward !ourself gentl! as if !ou were gesturing to someone to /come here/. +n doing so the
area
!ou press on should be prett! near her /'"Spot/ area. +f !ou know enough to follow the urethra #the tube
that
leads from the bladder to where the pee comes out$ along the inside of her (agina !ou ma! feel a slight
swelling
#if she&s excited$ at the point where the g"spot is.
She must be excited especiall! if either !ou or she is new to the g"spot for the g"spot to ha(e an! real
effect
at all. +t&s not the ideal area for getting !our lo(er aroused.
.ut when she is excited this area #more often than not$ is the best wa! to bring her to orgasm. 1ou work
!our
wa! back to it graduall! teasing her #t!picall! this works best$ with !our fingers slowl! and gentl!. +t&s
easier
to hit the right area with two fingers but this ma! not be comfortable for her depending on how /tight/ she
is
at that moment. %hen !ou ha(e !our fingers around the right area tr! gentl! pressing not too quickl!. The
mo(ement should be fairl! rh!thmic. +t&s t!picall! best if !ou&re licking her clitoris #or near it depending on
the woman$ at the same time...don&t make a big deal out of the /quest/ this will often make her feel
self"conscious or distracted. The licking should seem to be the primar! acti(it!.
%hen !ou find the right area she should respond b! getting more excited. 6ost of the (agina&s inside
surface
isn&t reall! that sexuall! sensiti(e belie(e it or not...most of the excitement of randoml! inserting fingers is
more ps!chological than from the actual stimulation.
%hile more complicated techniques work with some women some of the time the best basic technique
upon
finding the g"spot is to continue to slowl! rh!thmicall! press on it while licking her clitoris #for a few
women
the labia #lips$ are sensiti(e to licking too$.
This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.
* '"Spot orgasm is different #alwa!s when it works at all$ than an! other kind women ha(e. +t is possible
with
some women to ha(e different qualities and kinds of orgasms from (aginal clitoral anal and e(en breast
stimulation...but with other women those kinds of orgasms are all prett! much the same. .ut the '"Spot
orgasm
not onl! feels different) it also causes her bod! to react in a different wa!.
,irst it often causes a /push out/ orgasm. The area around or /abo(e/ #farther inside that is$ !our fingers
seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her (agina.
+f !ou find the right combination of pushing back when this happens and slacking off to let it push out !ou
can
cause #in perhaps half of the women$ her orgasm to continue happening long after normal ones would ha(e
subsided. +n some women !ou can e(en keep her at a /plateau/ #raised le(el$ of sexual excitement like a
prolonged orgasm #or a little less than one$ afterward building up to an e(en bigger climax. +&(e managed
to
keep this pattern of build"up orgasm plateau orgasm build"up orgasm for o(er four hours with one lo(er.
%e
stopped when though she wanted to go on she was so exhausted that she reall! had to stop.
That brings me to another important point) '"Spot orgasms sometimes #less than half of the women +&d
guess
and in some of those women onl! occasionall!$ causes a huge amount #relati(el! speaking$ of lubrication
#-uices
wetness$...far more than e(en the most excited woman gets from /con(entional/ stimulation. +t&s a good
thing too
because otherwise g"spot orgasms can onl! be prolonged for as long as she does not get raw/sore from
it...which
is !et another reason to be gentle.
%hen that extra wetness combines with the push"out orgasm !ou get actual e-aculation...like a gu! but
much
better tasting. The built up -uices can shoot out in such (olume that !ou or she ma! be afraid that she lost
control of her bladder. That is #almost alwa!s$ not what happened. The fear that she peed can be enhanced
b!
the fact that the urethra is behind the g"spot so that in rare cases the woman can sometimes get the feeling
that
she needs to pee e(en though she does not.
+n realit! in both men and women enough sexual excitement pre(ents peeing unless !ou tr! reall! hard.
This is a
built"in reflex because urine is something of a spermicide. The /pee hard"on/ that men get in the morning
is
partiall! his bod! taking ad(antage of this reflex to keep him from accidentall! wetting the bed with the
urine
that built up while he was sleeping.
0icking the *lphabet
.elie(e it or not Sam :innison&s suggestion of licking the alphabet one letter at a time on and around her
clitoris/(ul(a actuall! works. + had come up with a similar technique m!self but his (ersion is prett! close
to
the perfect formula "" The real goal is to be able to keep regular rh!thmic motions going but to change
them in
some gradual pattern that isn&t so different it throws her off but isn&t so redundant that she grows insensiti(e
to it. The alphabet is probabl! the longest chain of shapes that !ou can be sure to repeat smoothl! and
rh!thmicall! without loosing track of where !ou are. 9nless !ou are a (ictim of public education +
suppose in
which case !ou ma! ha(e to stick to the letters of !our name or the numbers one through nine #being too
confused b! where to put the zero$.
+ would not suggest combining this with the g"spot stimulation at least not with the intention of reall!
gi(ing her
g"spot orgasms. The two techniques conflict a bit as the focus of arousal is so different.
Cough 3rops " 8othing to Sneeze *t
*fter !ou&(e thought about it for a while this will seem ob(ious. ;ust remember that it probabl! wasn&t
until a
minute ago...
The wa! a cough drop either menthol or mint works is to stimulate the mucus membranes in !our mouth
in the
special wa! that feels /cool and tingl!/. %ell one of the few other places #easil! accessible$ on the human
bod!
that has mucus membranes is the (aginal area. 6an! people find that correctl! applied a cough drop feels
-ust
spectacular down there. 6ost people at least find it a (er!...ah...refreshing change of pace.
* few important tips:
9se sugar"free cough drops. 8&ice is a great brand especiall! the menthol or mint (ersions. +f possible
find one #whate(er brand$ with both menthol and mint. +t&s actuall! possible that sugar cough drops are
-ust fine or e(en better...the debate is o(er whether the sugar might feed an alread! existing !east
infection. The things +&(e heard from semi"expert #medicall!$ people are that it ma! feed one #and thus
aggre(ate it$ that it actuall! will protect from !east infection #+ forget the reasoning it ma! ha(e been
a 4h thing$ or that it&s not the kind of !east that eats sugar an!wa!. <ne thing&s unanimous: sugar cough
drops won&t make an! difference unless !ou&re alread! infected the! don&t carr! that kind of !east. +n
fact a human&s fingers or tongue would be more likel! to #and e(en that is prett! unlikel! if the!&re of
e(en t!pical cleanliness$.
0et the drop become e(en more rounded and smoothed b! sucking on it for a while if !ou&re actuall!
going to appl! it inside #which is the most effecti(e wa!$.
Speaking of which the best thing to do is actuall! insert it with !our fingers. This onl! works if !ou&re
going to be using !our fingers during the cunnilingus though an alternati(e is to lea(e it there for a
while and then engage in coitus which can be prett! nift! for both parties.
+f not insertion the best wa! is to simpl! suck on it and then with cough"dropp! sali(a lick her as !ou
would ha(e done an!wa!perhaps using the *lphabet method. This isn&t quite as amazing but is still
prett! good.
*ltoids are supposed to be prett! good but the!&re (er! powerful. + ha(en&t !et (erified whether the!
work though 3on = 6ike #5adio 'ods$ unintentionall! made a big deal of it recentl!. The! admitted
the! were working from a position of ignorance much like their re(iews of mo(ies the! ha(e ne(er seen.
3on&t forget to tr! breathing on or blowing lightl! on her (agina/clitoris. The effect is more subtle
until !ou tr! this... it&s the exposure to air that makes it especiall! tingl!.
;ust for 8oel
%hen Christmas time rolls around some stores sell a kind of cand! cane that&s o(er an inch thick and six or
eight
inches long at the straight part #it ma! not e(en ha(e the hooked part at all$.
Take one end of that and suck/lick it until it is more rounded and smooth and !ou ha(e one of the most
entertaining ob-ects !ou might e(er insert in !our lo(er&s (agina. +t has that special mint! feeling like a
cough
drop but milder and is the approximate size/shape of a penis.
.utt",ree *nal Stimulation
+ like making up titles.
The (agina actuall! shares a wall on one side with the rectum. 8ot onl! does this mean that sexual
stimulation is
possible from anal entr! #which is a whole separate page$ it also means that a similar sensation can be
achei(ed
without e(er touching her butt #not that there&s an!thing wrong with that...heh$ b! stimulating the side of
her
(agina where it shares ner(es with her rectum. This is more or less the exact opposite one hundred eight!
degrees around from the g"spot. +n other words if !ou were to reach in and arch !our finger to touch her
g"spot then rotate !our hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar #but flatter$ motion
!ou&(e
got the right area. Common sense should tell !ou where +&m talking about an!wa! since it&s the area where
it
would touch her rectum inside.
+t rarel! works well to stimulate this earl! on...usuall! !ou need to not onl! build up to it but e(en get her
prett! excited and sensiti(e first. This is not onl! to make the area more recepti(e but also in some cases
so
that she will be be!ond an! danger of distraction o(er the tabooness of how it feels somewhat like !ou&re
stimulating her anall!.
4ress more with the length of !our finger not the tip. This works best in man! cases as a change of pace
not
the main attraction. %hich leads us to...
*round the %orld "" or the Sea *n!wa!
<nce !ou ha(e !our lo(er /used to/ the whole g"spot stimulation thing #she will actuall! get /better at/
cumming
from g"spot stimulation the more it&s done to her$ !ou can tr! occasionall! and for (ariet! stimulating her
g"spot until she starts to reall! respond then switching back and forth between pushing #as gentl! as
normall!
necessar! for that particular lo(er$ her g"spot and pressing the length of !our finger on the opposite side as
per the last section. Sometimes !ou can e(en get to the point of doing one press on one side one on the
other
back and forth which can feel amazing and a bit /what on earth are !ou doing> 8o + didn&t sa! to stop/ to
her.
6ost likel! though it&ll work better if !ou switch e(er! se(eral seconds not e(er! time !ou press.
*round the %orld "" 4art ++
+ should not fail to mention the cer(ix. 1ou ma! not ha(e e(en noticed it b! touch but it&s there and once
!ou
find it !ou&ll wonder how !ou missed it #unless !our lo(er has had h!sterectom! in which case it&s missing
no big
deal$. This is !et another area where !ou definitel! want to build up to stimulating as it can actuall! be
painful
to e(en touch if she&s not excited enough...but despite assumptions to the contrar! it can be (er! useful for
stimulation done correctl!.
*s + said issue ?@ is that she must be (er! aroused. %ell bearing in mind that e(er!one&s different of
course.
The Cer(ix is also about @AB degrees around from the g"spot but it&s in much deeper #t!picall!$. +t leads
back
to the rest of her reproducti(e organs like the womb. +f she&s pregnant don&t mess with this at all. %atch
out
too for +93s and diaphrams and the like. 7opefull! !ou are on good enough terms with her to alread!
know if
she&s using one of these contracepti(e de(ices which fit o(er the cer(ix.
The cer(ix is not an abtract /area/ it actuall! -uts up like a little flesh mesa or something. +t has an opening
at
its (er! /peak/ but this is normall! closed prett! tightl!.
The best wa! to start is to gentl! caress around the sides and base of the cer(ix. 5emember she should
alread!
be (er! /hot/ before !ou e(en start this part. 2(entuall! build up to circling it with one or two fingers
around
and around gentl! sta!ing in contact with it so she can feel the motion through the cer(ix itself. 7ow hard
!ou
can press depends a lot on the specific woman. This is also something that probabl! works better as a
change of
pace not the /main course/ of the cunnilingus session...unless she reall! gets into it.
That circling motion ma! get another round of /what on earth are !ou doing...he!C 3on&t ST<4 doing itC/.
1ou ma! e(en and in m! experience this rarel! works but works well when it does be able to press
directl! on
the tip with !our finger or fingers pressing it the wa! a penis might if one happened be entering her at the
right angle to hit her cer(ix.
*ctual *nal Stimulation
This works (er! well with cunnilingus if the woman is comfortable with it. +n fact it has its own section
on the
*d(anced *nal Sex Techniques page...+ won&t go into an! real detail here but to point !ou to that page.
Comments/*ppendices:
Taste
*n!one who likes sa! coffee or beer should ha(e no room to complain about the wa! most women taste.
8o + don&t mean it tastes like coffee or beer genius...+ mean that beer and coffee are at best acquired
tastes...the! are not naturall! pleasant to a human being no matter how much !our addiction to one or both
has con(inced !ou otherwise. 6ost people whether the! remember it or not had to learn to like the taste
of beer/coffee and had the desire to be 0ike the *dults to help them along. %ell +&d list taking pleasure
in cunnilingus abo(e drinking addicti(e be(erages on the list of things that pro(e maturit!. *side from
that there&s the fact that man! people who gi(e it an honest tr! genuinel! en-o! the taste/smell m!self
included. 7ad + not liked it for some reason + would ha(e simpl! taught m!self to like it because of the
great pleasure it can bring. *side from whether !ou find the taste/smell sexuall! exciting to begin with
#and because of pheromones males #at least$ should$ surel! it will become e(er more stimulating for !ou
as !ou come to associate it with the pleasure !ou can gi(e.
5est
+f !ou do ha(e a lo(er who can experience repeated extended orgasms from g"spot stimulation and !ou
#for some reason$ need to take a break the absolute best wa! to do this is to gi(e her a clitoral orgasm.
This can be as simple as pushing e(en more gentl! and slowl! on her g"spot while gi(ing her clitoris more
attention #it can often take more direct and firm stimulation b! that le(el of arousal$ so that her next
orgasm is reall! caused b! the licking not the pressing of !our finger#s$. This works because with man!
women an!wa! clitoral orgasms lea(e her feeling (er! sensiti(e and momentaril! satisfied #or at least
wanting to take a breather$.
There is on the other hand a (er! interesting trick for sta!ing /in the game/ when !our tongue is getting
tired. Switch from mo(ing !our tongue directl! to using !our whole -aw to mo(e !our tongue b! slightl!
opening and closing it. +f !ou tire of this mo(e !our entire head so that it&s doing the actual work that
makes !our tongue mo(e. %hen e(en !our neck tires it&s on to the final backup"plan but the one that
works the longest) gentl! rock !our entire bod! back and forth at the same speed that !ou were doing
each of the other so that it&s !our bod! that&s actuall! doing the work to mo(e !our tongue. ,or someone
who hasn&t built up the might! endurance that&s useful with a lo(er who can ha(e hours of orgasms this is
a great trick. <f course it mainl! works when !ou&re going simpler rh!thmic motions...sa(e the fanc!
tongue stuff for when !our tongue&s doing all of the work #!ou should be able to switch back to
tongue"onl! motion regularl! as it gets rested$.
b! kaz