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Listening is an essential part of communicating. While thinking about all of the topics I
could choose from for this assignment and for me to improve upon, I realized that while I might
lend an ear to people I dont actively participate in the listening process. Because I am a stay at
home Mom I spend a lot of time with my family, I believe they are the ones that will benefit
from me becoming a better listener the most. I will try to accomplish this by overcoming as
much as possible the physiological, environmental and attitudinal barriers for example rapid
thought, physical distractions, preoccupation and egocentrism.
Description of Problem:
I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when I was 19 years old, sometimes its very
difficult for me to concentrate and focus. Rapid Thought as described in the Text, reads as
follows: Listeners can process information at a rate of about 500 words per minute, while most
speakers talk at around 125 words per minute. This difference leaves us with a great deal of
mental spare time (communicating at Work, Pg. 72). While in professional settings or at School
Ive developed a system that keeps me in the moment and allows me to be able to listen most of
the time. At home, because I feel more at ease, I tend to get distracted during conversations very
easily, sometimes frustrating both my husband and my children with my inability to keep up with
the conversation. My husband especially has a hard time with this, he has mentioned how Im
constantly interrupting him or changing topics. He makes a joke of it, but if I were in his place
this would be very obnoxious to me. Everyone deserves to be heard. I feel that by becoming a
better listener I could be a better mother and a better wife
Recommendations:
Listening its a very big part of our daily lives Studies conducted more than 60 years ago
indicated that adults spent an average of 29.5 percent of their waking hours listening. This is
almost a third more time than they spent talking and virtually twice as much as time as they spent
reading. (Communicating at Work, Pg. 70). The text provides different components or set of
skills that I need to master in order to become a good listener. Chapter three, Listening, pages
68-86 is divided into three major categories. I am going to focus on Barriers to Effective
Listening.
The first step is, Physiological Barriers, this refers to physiological problems, such as
hearing problems. The one physiological problem that personally affects me is Rapid Thought.
To address this issue the text recommends mastering the art of Generative Listening which is
developing deeper silences in yourself, so you can slow your minds hearing to your ears
natural speed, and hear beneath the words to their meaning.(Communicating at Work, Pg. 7273) I wish the text would offer tips on how to accomplish this feat, since it does not explain it,
the problem, by not doing my part in the communication process I miss out on practicing my
listening skills and learning how to read other people and what they might need from me as a
listener, to help them become better senders. I now realize that the problem is not other people
being boring, its me detaching myself from the conversation to the point that the sender cant
read my signs thus creating a lot of noise in the dialogue.
The last barrier is Sociocultural Differences this focuses on cultural differences. As I
mentioned before, my husband and I come from different countries, sometimes our cultures
clash. In order to address this issue, we decided that when we need to have serious conversations,
Spanish is not allowed. We only speak in English so that the message stays intact, and theres
only one cultural meaning to the message. Its not a perfect solution, but I feel that by doing this
our communication has improved.
Conclusion:
This assignment has taught me the skills necessary to become a better listener. I have begun to
implement some of the concepts that Ive learned and I have already seen positive results. Im
looking forward to implementing this skills into my daily life and becoming more involved in the
communication process. By simply understanding what my personal listening barriers are I have
greatly improved my communication with my husband, my children, my circle of friends and
acquaintances.
Works Cited:
Adler, and Elmhorst. (2010). Communicating at Work, International Edition (10e). New York:
McGraw Hill.