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Copyofhowtobeagirl
Copyofhowtobeagirl
Before I knew it, I was eight. I was still a girl, but I was in love with
another boy now. He was the fastest runner in second grade, with long black
hair that flew around in a tangly mane as he raced around the soccer field.
He was shy, but so was I, and we never exchanged a single word. One time
in P.E., during our baseball unit, it was my turn to bat. I took a breath, slowly
shuffled up to the base, and strengthened my grip on the small plastic bat.
The ball flew at me what I couldve sworn was light speed. I missed. Then I
missed again. Then a third time. HAHAHA! You hit like a girl! The jeers
came from my classmates, pointing and laughing and blowing raspberries at
me. Wait, I thought. Hit like a girl? Why was that an insult? Were girls not
supposed to hit well? If we werent supposed to hit well in the first place,
why was I in this stupid class anyway? I glanced at my boy through the layer
of tears automatically rushing to my eyes. He was standing completely still,
his head hanging, staring at the ground. That was my first heartbreak.
straight out the front doors and onto the nighttime streets. The wolfwhistlers, the supermarket creeps, the stepdads and lonely neighbors. The
best part of it all was that we had been throughout our entire lives
conditioned to yell thank you! back at the drunks stumbling in a general
homewards direction, stopping to holler sweetie and honey at us. There
was a reason why I always had to get home two or three hours earlier than
my male friends. At first, the unfairness of it all caused fights between me
and my parents about it, but after my friend Sarah ended up at the police
station at 3 am on a Saturday soaked in tears, I stopped questioning it.
It is so upsetting listening to so many males talk about all of the times
they have gone on road trips alone and slept in their cars alone or on the
side of the road, or travelled overseas alone and slept on the floor of
strangers homes or in parks or at hotel, and they appear to have such
freedom in that they are able to be alone in ways that girls cannot. And there
is an ignorance surrounding this, in that these boys never seem to
comprehend just how lucky they are that strange people and unfamiliar
places and the dark of night are not their enemies, but instead exciting,
promising things.
Yes, my consuming desire is to mingle with road crews, sailors and
soldiers, bar room regularsto be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening,
recording. Of course, all of this is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, always
supposedly in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men
and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an
invitation. God, I want to talk to everybody as deeply as I can. I want to be
able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night.
But I will never be able to.
So dont
tell
me
that my gender doesnt isolate me.
Because it does.