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Elective 1
Elective 1
MAINTAINING
LOVE AND
RESPECT
BETWEEN
HUSBAND
AND WIFE
MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
Elements of Healthy
Relationships
Trust
Predictability
Dependability
Faith
Behavior interpretation in the context of the relationship
Like your partner
Sexual intimacy
Shared and cherished history
SEXUAL ADJUSTMENTS
Expectations
Forbidden Fruit
Fireworks
Intimacy and familiarity
Variety of Needs
One partner usually has a stronger sex drive than the other
Desired frequency may be different for men than for women
Social conditioning affects the sex drive
Early in marriage, men may feel uncertainty, awkwardness,
excessive sexual tension
One partner may feel that sex is appropriate anytime once they
are married, while the other partner may have a list of
inappropriate times
SEX IS COMMUNICATION
Unexpressed resentment in any part of a marriage often shows
up in the sexual relationship. The best solution is to express
feelings to each other as quickly as problems arise. Do not let
problems build walls between you and your partner
SUCCESSFUL ADJUSTMENT
Men and women are not the same in what they find pleasurable.
Since no one can read minds, if one wants to be understood, it
is his/her responsibility to communicate with his/her partner.
Compromise and negotiation are usually needed.
Sex is most rewarding when it is part of a caring, enduring
relationship. Affection, respect, and trust are the most important
parts of a good sexual relationship
Summary
Your sexual relationship is just like other relationships
sometimes it will be good and sometimes it will be bad.
The key to success is good communication and a desire to
resolve problems.
Success in Relationships
Confronting couples issues
Changing gender roles: Modern society has very few genderspecific roles.
Sharing power: Dynamics between men and women changed as
women began enjoying their own financial success.
Unmet expectations: Not communicating our expectations can
lead to disappointment and hurt.
Be a better listener.
Competitive, or combative, listening: more interested in
promoting our own point of view
Passive, or attentive, listening: genuinely interested in hearing
and understanding the other persons point of view
Active, or reflective, listening: active in confirming our
understanding before responding with our own new message
Managing Conflict
Conflict is an emotional state that arises when the behavior of
one person interferes with the behavior of another.
Conflict-resolution strategies
Identify the problem or issues.
Generate several possible solutions.
Decide on the best solution.
Implement the solution.
Follow up.