NatalieRose Brogan

Comm Theory
Dr. Langan
3 October 2014
Relational Dialectics
Although relational dialectics can be present in platonic relationships. I have seen it play
out the most in my relationship with my boyfriend. There is a constant oppositional pull. While I
tend to air on the side of wanting more intimacy and closeness with him, I am simultaneously
desiring my independence and wanting to maintain friendships with others.
He is a very steady man, respected by many, and very level headed in thoughts and
actions. These are qualities that drew me to him because I am not always this way. I am much
more spontaneous and rash in decision making. I appreciate those qualities in him so much
because it helps balance me out. I know I can always count on him and hes true to his word. At
the same time however, I would get easily bored if he were to be too predictable. The qualities
that I appreciate most in him are the same qualities I am wanting him to throw out the window
for a change.
Because of these oppositional desires, I see relational dialectics theory play out so clearly
in my own life.