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Forgive Be Healed
Forgive Be Healed
and
Be Healed
Forgiveness is a
commitment to a
process of change.
It can be difficult and it
can take time.
Everyone moves toward
forgiveness a little
differently.
How do I reach a state of forgiveness?
Not always.
In some cases, reconciliation may be
impossible because the offender has
died.
In other cases, reconciliation may not
be appropriate, especially if you were
attacked or assaulted.
But even in those cases, forgiveness is
still possible, even if reconciliation
On the other hand, if the hurtful
event involved a family member
or friend whose relationship you
otherwise value, forgiveness may
lead to reconciliation.
This may not happen quickly, as
you both may need time to re-
establish trust.
But in the end, your relationship
may very well be one that is rich
and fulfilling.
What if I have to interact
with the person who hurt
me but I don't want to?
How do I know when I've
truly forgiven someone?
Forgiveness may result in sincerely
spoken words such as "I forgive you"
or tender actions that fit the
relationship.
But more than this, forgiveness
brings a kind of peace that helps you
go on with life.
The offense is no longer front and
center in your thoughts or feelings.
Your hostility, resentment and misery
have made way for compassion,
kindness and peace.
Also, remember that forgiveness
often isn't a one-time thing.
•People do the best they can and if they err the best
way to help them is by offering understanding. The
first step in this process is to forgive whatever
constituted the specific offense.
Hebrews 10:17
“The chemist who can extract
from his heart's elements
compassion, respect, longing,
patience, regret, surprise, and
forgiveness and compound
them into one can create that
atom which is called love.”
Kahlil Gibran
“To forgive is the highest, most
beautiful form of love.
In return, you will receive
untold peace and happiness.”
Robert Muller
Former Assistant Secretary General
to the United Nations
What are you judgmental about?
It can be difficult for us to recognize or
accept that people we have problems with
are actually mirroring for us the disowned
parts of ourselves.
One simple way to tell is when you feel very
judgmental toward that person. Underneath,
you may be jealous.
Perhaps this person is expressing a kind of
energy that you hold back or don’t allow
yourself to express. They may be out of
balance in an opposite way from you.
It’s not necessary to become like they are or
go to an extreme. Just recognize that you
may need to allow yourself to develop a little
Where in my life am I being
judgmental toward myself or
others?
How is that showing me a part
of myself that I don’t accept?
Attention is the key to transformation
- and full attention also implies acceptance.
Nonforgiveness
is often toward another person or yourself, but it
may just as well be toward any situation or
condition - past, present or future - that your mind
refuses to accept.
Yes, there can be non-forgiveness even with
regard to the future.
This is the mind's refusal to accept uncertainty, to
accept that the future is ultimately beyond its
control.
On Impermanence
Jesus' teaching:
Forgive,