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Why Is Long-Term
Chapter Care a Women’s Issue?
by Eileen Hamm
needed. During the many years she was healthy, he took the place
of his father by being “on call” to help her with day-to-day living.
He accompanied her to doctor visits, took her shopping, and called
her every day. But when Nana’s health declined and she needed
assistance with personal care, my father’s involvement lessened
and my mother took over the major responsibilities of Nana’s care.
It was my mother, Nana’s daughter-in-law, who handled the intimate
tasks of helping her in and out of bed, bathing her, and dressing her.
This is a very typical pattern: As the level of care required grows
more personal and intimate, the male caregivers in the family begin
to feel uncomfortable, and the women take over the primary role
of caregiver. Women tend to be more comfortable and skilled in
this role, especially if they’ve also had children. But providing care
comes with a heavy price; with the accompanying emotional and
physical stress of being a caregiver, a woman has a 63% higher risk
of dying earlier than a woman of the same age who does not become
a caregiver.
Women often sacrifice their social network and sense of well-
being to care for a loved one. It seems that every time I talk with my
mother, who is now in her late 70s, she tells me about a sister or a
friend “having an awful time” taking care of a spouse. These women
tell her about the pure physical exhaustion they experience from
caring for an adult on a daily basis. They suffer from the depression
that comes from shouldering the responsibility alone, and they feel
guilty for not being able to “do more.”
But the prospect of becoming a caregiver is not the only reason
women should ask their financial professional about LTC Planning for
their family—it’s also vital that they plan for their own care. Women
make up the largest percentage of residents in all types of long-term
care facilities, with the majority being widowed or divorced. Because
we usually marry men at least a few years older than ourselves, and
we live about seven years longer than men, only 13% of women are
still married by age 85.
By contrast, men make up the majority of people being taken
care of at home. A wife or daughter usually helps her husband and
parents through to the end, but then her resources are limited when
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Why Is
key Long-Term Care
points a Women’s Issue?