Body Language Lips Lips that are held apart, constantly open, indicate a regular chatterbox who is not

really bothered about society or situations. They just cruise their way ahead. If a person has tightly closed lips, then he or she is very courageous. The person also has little time for frivolities of life, and lacks a sense of humour, but is reliable in an emergency. Shape of lips Thick lips: Yes, you guessed it. The sensual person. Ardent in passion and sincere in affections, they have a tendency to go overboard with their feelings. Only a lazily awakened conscience prevents them from devoting themselves almost entirely to pleasure. Protruding lower lips: The person is bound to be fond of the delights of the table. A great listener and just the person you need to pour all your troubles, but beyond that they are of little help for they lack in decision. Overhanging upper lip: The person is retiring in nature, but likes the company of boisterous crowd. Eyebrows Spacing of eyebrows Very little space between brows is supposed to denote a suspicious nature, perhaps even a dishonest one. Well spaced brows in a person means he/she is frank. Shape of eyebrows Gently curving brows is considered a sign of tenderness and the person is supposed to be artistic. Brows, which have a high curve, bringing the crest to some distance from the eyes, tend to signify weakness and indecision. When the eyebrows are very low and lack a curve, it indicates determination. Brows, which droop at the outer ends, bespeak a will that is not very strong, but a very good taste and a sympathetic understanding of the faults of others. Thick straight eyebrows signify practical nature and a firm will to accomplish every goal. Uneven, bushy eyebrows are the mark of the person whose ways are untidy and whose personality is rather unstable. But such a person is remarkably clever and can influence others through the sheer brilliance of his/her thinking. Build Thin They are also known as intellectual type especially if they have a large head, with a wide forehead. The face is small and has a thin nose, delicately carved features, and a pointed chin. The body is slender and slight and quite often frail. Shoulders are narrow and sloping, arms rather long and thin, fingers long and pointed. These people are extremely active mentally, but they lack vitality and are inclined to be lazy. They are cold and impersonal in their dealings with other people and do not mix well socially. They read a lot and hate rough sports or games. They have keen observation powers, splendid reasoning and critical ability, and are blessed with deep and powerful mental concentration. Square Huh? Believe us, you will identify this type when you see it. Practically everything about the person is either square or angular. The jaw, upper forehead, shoulders, hands… Muscles and bones will be prominent, cheekbones protruding and the nose bridged near the eyes. Square types thrive on physical activity. If you have noticed, virtually all the athletes in the rugged sports are built this way. These types dream ardently of becoming explorers, soldiers or athletes. They also will be courageous, willing to risk life and limb to protect their loved ones or even strangers. But they prefer to flex their muscles rather than brain. Fat Round faces, full-blown cheeks, and wide nostrils, usually with double chin? They fall under fat category.

They are friendly, perfectly at ease with the physical appearance and rolling along gracefully. Of course, they love good food. Well proportioned but small BODY They are concentrated bundles of energy and audacity. They usually bluster their way through opposition and seem to have no fear of anyone or anything. Very ambitious too. Thin and short They are shy and rather reticent. Very modest and get excited only when a momentous thing happens in their lives. Slow to make friends, but once they have learned to like someone, will go all out to maintain that friendship. Stout and short They are quite amiable and jovial. But tend to get opinionated if too much attention is paid. Though they are quick-tempered and often snap at people, they are too good-natured to hold grudges for long. Tall, gangling frame Much more deliberate in both thought and action, they never seem to hurry. They face life with a smile and hardly ever lose their temper. Tall and heavy-set Usually reserved and somewhat clannish. It takes long time for them to break the barriers and get intimate. But once friends they stay that way forever. Moody spells generally outlast their jovial periods. Short torso and long legs Skittish and loves life. It is very difficult to tie them down to a dull routine because they always want to be on the go. Long torso and short legs Have an excellent sense of humour. They consider setbacks as challenges to their ingenuity. And always bounce back, tearing their obstruction with renewed vigour. They get along very well with people. Ears Small ears: It is the mark of refinement and timidity. Very affectionate, this person is often thwarted by his shyness in dealing with people. (The larger the ears, the greater the tendency to coarseness of disposition.) Position of the ears Close to the head: Sentimentality and dreaminess are indicated. This person is gentle and quite, although the occasional remarks often have remarkable pungency and show a great deal of thought and consideration. Upright ears: Courageous and strong, both physical and mentally. Ears that stand out: Lack of refinement and delicacy. Such a person may be well intentioned but very rarely succeeds in convincing others of this. Eyes Black - Sign of great passion and ardour. They are also crafty and artful. Brown - Gentle and unselfish. But irritable when forced. Blue -Well liked by others. Go about their work unconcerned with practical demands of life. Green - Ah, the colour of jealousy. Yes, they tend to be jealous. But has a remarkable ability to judge people. Grey -According to tradition, mark of poetic temperament and romantic disposition. Shape: Protruding eyes signify the ability to stay with a piece of work until it is completed and a remarkably good memory for small details. Big round eyes denote boldness. Though not very clever, people will remember them for their strength of character. Eyes set well apart means the person is candid and frank with a simple and uncomplicated approach to problems. If it is close together, cunning and restlessness are indicated. Slanted eyes, again denote craftiness but it is offset by a genuine concern for others. Eyes Black - Sign of great passion and ardour. They are also crafty and artful. Brown - Gentle and unselfish. But irritable when forced. Blue -Well liked by others. Go about their work unconcerned with practical demands of life. Green - Ah, the colour of jealousy. Yes, they tend to be jealous. But has a remarkable ability to judge people. Grey -According to tradition, mark of poetic temperament and romantic disposition. Shape: Protruding eyes signify the ability to stay with a piece of work until it is completed and a remarkably good memory for small details. Big round eyes denote boldness. Though not very clever,

people will remember them for their strength of character. Eyes set well apart means the person is candid and frank with a simple and uncomplicated approach to problems. If it is close together, cunning and restlessness are indicated. Slanted eyes, again denote craftiness but it is offset by a genuine concern for others. Head Long head: They are very friendly but a bit vain. Loves to be complimented but beware, they can identify flattery. They will stand up for their rights. Short head: Loves to travel, makes friends easily and lives only for the moment. They are versatile and selfish. Square head: (Flat at front and back.) Cautious and superstitious. Prefer to follow the trails made by their predecessors rather than embark on a new project or new field. Lacks originality and initiative. Blunt in their speech and manners. Round head: Reckless and overconfident. They are always restless and want to try new things. They embark on exciting adventures. Quite naturally, hates to be tied down to a job for too long. High head: Loves mankind and will do everything to spread and promote happiness among his fellowmen. Strongly religious, dignified and sober, they have a strong sense of duty. High narrow head: Persistent to the extent of being obstinate. They believe strongly in supernatural power and fate. High broad head: Will stand up for their rights. Though very outspoken, good at keeping secrets. Optimistic and has faith in human nature. Low broad head: Materialistic and practical. Very little imagination and reasoning ability but they have the ability to forge ahead and overcome obstacles. Tends to be selfish, though. Nose Straight, Grecian nose: Mark of polish and artistic taste. Refinement is evident in all the acts of the person. They will not shrink from responsibilities and will go to great lengths to succeed in life. No matter what happens. The large drooping nose: An object of derision, and perhaps, it is natural that a person with such a nose has reacted to the traditional jests by developing a sarcastic, bitter disposition. Often, however this is merely a camouflage. In reality these people are very friendly. Pert nose: Vivacious by nature, they amuse people with their antics. Delights in doing things their way, to the point of being obstinate. The short, snub nose: Poetic temperament and naturally quite bewildered by the practical side of the life. They possess a good sense of humour, but do not ridicule others. Nostrils Open nostrils indicate ardour and sensuality, while closed nostrils are a sign of coldness and aloofness Posture Droopy shoulders, sagging head and taut muscles indicate pessimism, discouragement, despondency, hatred, arrogance and jealousy. So does the chest which is drawn inward. The person not only looks for the dark and undesirable things in life, but is also disappointed if they do not find them. If the person stands tall, weight evenly distributed and head held high, the movements springy and buoyant, the person has both physical and mental strength to finish any task undertaken and is quite confident.

Is it true that your body speaks for itself? Well, behavioural studies state that 93 per cent of communication is non-verbal. Dr Sanjoy Mukherjee, a psychologist, explains, “Of this, 55 per cent is communication through body language or physiology, and 38 per cent is tone,” which means only seven per cent of our total communication is verbal. SHOW WHAT YOU MEAN You give and respond to thousands of nonverbal messages daily, and you probably don’t even realise it. From the way you hail a taxi to dry-mouth conditions at a corporate presentation, you’re giving away something about yourself, often without knowing why. Especially in the workplace, you unwittingly notice nonverbal behaviour because their details reveal how you relate to people around you, and what you think about yourself. How many times have you sensed a co-worker’s hostility, just by the way she looks at you? Or that your boss is pleased with you by the way she smiled at you in the elevator. Observing people’s gestures brings you closer to the truth. It is more effective than merely listening to the words they say, which can sometimes be a cover-up for their true feelings. Your body can convey thoughts and feelings with uncanny transparency, so it’s important that your body communicates every message correctly. Dr Mukherjee says, “If you want to give an impression, you should make sure that your words match your tone and body language. Otherwise you may convey the message, but your message will lack conviction.” HOLD THAT GAZE You can gauge the efficacy of your message by observing the other’s reaction. We all have internal antennae that usually pick up non-verbal signals; but sometimes, it helps to keep a conscious watch, as you may misinterpret covert signals. Here are some common gestures decoded: Guilt: Looking down constantly while talking; covering the mouth in the course of conversation. Shame or submissiveness: Gazing down in the course of a conversation. (Gaze-down reflects guilt, as when distorting the truth or telling a lie. True statements are normally given with a confident, level gaze, which may be held longer than three seconds.) Uncertainty or disagreement: Holding the back of the neck or head with an open palm; or touching an ear, grasping an earlobe, rubbing a cheek or a side of the neck. Dominance: Leaning back and placing both hands behind the neck. (This gesture reveals that the opposite person feels no need to show eagerness or attention.) Nervousness: Clearing the throat, exhaling audibly, whistling, pinching flesh, fidgeting, covering mouth, jiggling money or keys, tugging ears, or wringing hands. Evasion: Tucking the chin strongly into the chest; licking the lips, or swallowing, or a trembling lower lip. Friendliness and deference: Leaning the head over laterally, towards a shoulder. Resignation: The shoulder shrug. Shrug cues may modify, counteract, or contradict verbal remarks. With an affirmative statement like: “Yes, I’m sure”, a lifted shoulder suggests: “I’m not so sure.” Alternatively, it can express uncertainty, as in, “I don’t know why I took this responsibility — I just took it.” Here, it conveys a feeling of powerlessness regarding the motive.

Superiority or haughtiness: A looming stance, in which a person sporadically pushes his body up on the balls of his feet. Disbelief, surprise or exasperation: Raising both eyebrows. Disdain or pride: Raising one eyebrow. Cooperation: Upper body in sprinter’s position; open hands; sitting on edge of chair; unbuttoning coat. Assertiveness: Palms facing down. Often used in conferences, this cue may suggest a patronising attitude or pointed aggression. Disgust: A curled upper lip; narrowed eyes; lowered brows; backward head-jerks; sticking the tongue out. Anger: Tense jaws; hands on the hips; staring; palm-down in a beating gesture. Openness: Open hands, unbuttoned coat. Defensiveness: Arms crossed, sideways glance, touching or rubbing nose, rubbing eyes, coat buttoned up all the way to the top. Insecurity: Pinching flesh, chewing pen, thumb over thumb, biting nails. Confidence: Steepled hands, hands held behind the back, stiff back, hands in coat pockets with thumb out, or hands on lapels of coat. Frustration: Short breaths, tightly clenched fists, wringing hands, pointing index finger, running hand through hair, rubbing the back of the neck.