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The Unclassied

Laws of etiquette
From Hills Manual of Social and
Business Forms published in 1880.
T
he book is a hodge podge of in-
formation that would be useful
to a man of business back in the
late 19th Century. Tere are sections
dedicated to penmanship, business let-
ter writing, and the dos and dont of
social and business etiquette. One sec-
tion in the book is called Unclassied
Laws of Etiquette. Its a list of dierent
rules of etiquette that didnt quite t un-
der the other specic headings (funeral
etiquette, etiquette in the home, etc).
While the list was written over 100 years
ago and some of the suggestions are a bit
archaic and random, the advice is still
strikingly resonant. It manages to cover
many, many of the gaps in etiquette
which have transformed society into a
veritable Swiss cheese of incivility. If a
man puts these suggestions into prac-
tice, he will denitely set himself apart
for the other knuckleheads out there
trying to land a job or catch the eye of a
godly young woman. Looking down the
list, I can see several areas were I could
use some improvement. Heres to be-
coming more rened gentlemen!
Never exaggerate.
Never point at another.
Never betray a condence.
Never leave home with unkind words.
Never neglect to call upon your friends.
Never laugh at the misfortunes of others.
Never give a promise that you do not
fulll.
Never send a present, hoping for one in
return.
Never speak much of your own perfor-
mances.
Never fail to be punctual at the time ap-
pointed.
Never make yourself the hero of your own
story.
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Te Unclassied Laws of Etiquette
Never pick the teeth or clean the nails in
company.
Never fail to give a polite answer to a
civil question.
Never question a child about family
matters.
Never present a gift saying that it is of no
use to you.
Never read letters which you may nd
addressed to others.
Never fail, if a gentleman, of being civil
and polite to ladies.
Never call attention to the features or
form of anyone present.
Never refer to a gift you have made, or
favor you have rendered.
Never associate with bad company. Have
good company, or none.
Never look over the shoulder of another
who is reading or writing.
Never appear to notice a scar, deformity,
or defect of anyone present.
Never arrest the attention of an acquain-
tance by touch. Speak to him.
Never punish your child for a fault to
which you are addicted yourself.
Never answer questions in general com-
pany that have been put to others.
Never, when traveling abroad, be over
boastful in praise of your own country.
Never call a new acquaintance by their
rst name unless requested.
Never lend an article you have borrowed,
unless you have permission to do so.
Never attempt to draw the attention of
the company constantly upon yourself.
Never exhibit anger, impatience, or ex-
citement, when an accident happens.
Never pass between two persons who are
talking together, without an apology.
Never enter a room noisily; never fail to
close the door after you, and never slam it.
Never forget that, if you are faithful in a
few things, you may be ruler over many.
Never exhibit too great familiarity with
the new acquaintance, you may give of-
fense.
Never will a gentleman allude to con-
quests which he may have made with
ladies.
Never be guilty of the contemptible
meanness of opening a private letter ad-
dressed to another.
Never fail to oer the easiest and best
seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly
person, or a lady.
Never neglect to perform the commission
which the friend entrusted to you. You
must not forget.
Never send your guest, who is accus-
tomed to a warm room, o into a cold,
damp, spare bed, to sleep.
Never enter a room lled with people,
without a slight bow to the general com-
pany when rst entering.
Never fail to answer an invitation, either
personally or by letter, within a week af-
ter the invitation is received.
Never accept of favors and hospitality
without rendering an exchange of civili-
ties when opportunity oers.
Never cross the leg and put one foot in the
street-car, or places where it will trouble
others when passing by.
Never fail to tell the truth. If truthful,
you get your reward. You will get your
punishment if you deceive.
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Te Unclassied Laws of Etiquette
Never borrow money and neglect to pay.
If you do, you will soon be known as a
person of no business integrity.
Never write to another asking for infor-
mation, or a favor of any kind, without
enclosing a postage stamp for the reply.
Never fail to say kind and encouraging
words to those whom you meet in dis-
tress. Your kindness may lift them out of
their despair.
Never refuse to receive an apology. You
may not receive friendship, but courtesy
will require, when a apology is oered,
that you accept it.
Never examine the cards in the card-
basket. While they may be exposed in
the drawing room, you are not expected
to turn them over unless invited to do so.
Never, when walking arm in arm with
a lady, be continually changing and go-
ing to the other side, because of change
of corners. It shows too much attention
to form.
Never insult another with harsh words
when applied to for a favor. Kind
words do not cost much, and yet they
may carry untold happiness to the one to
whom they are spoken.
Never fail to speak kindly. If a merchant
and you address your clerk; if an overseer
and you address your workman; if in any
position where you exercise authority,
you show yourself to be a gentleman by
your pleasant mode of address.
Never attempt to convey the impression
that you are a genius, by imitating the
faults of distinguished men. Because cer-
tain great men were poor penmen, wore
long hair, or had other peculiarities, it
does not follow that you will be great by
imitating their eccentricities.
Never give all your pleasant words and
smile to strangers. Te kindest words and
the sweetest smiles should be reserved for
home. Home should be our heaven.
We have careful thought for the
stranger,
And smiles for the sometimes guest;
But oft for our own the bitter tone,
Tough we love our own the best.
Ah! lips with the curl impatient-
Twere a cruel fate were the night too
late
To undo the work of the morn.
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