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AloofyetDetermined
OnSeptember21,2011byShark
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Ivebeenreadingthisbookthepastweekend,veryinformativeanddefinitelylovethestyle.
SomethingsinthebookIcantquietputtogetherthough.Intheinnergamesection,youtalk
abouthavinggoals,beingcompetitive,becomebiggerthanlifetodominatetheworld.And
theninthelastsection,youtalkaboutbeingZenlike,needingnothingandegoless.Imnot
surehowthesetwofittogetherhowcanyoubeultracompetitive,strivingforgrandgoals
andworlddomination,whenyouneednothingandsatisfiedwithjustbeing?
ThanksShark,
Al

(HestalkingaboutTheBlackFlagbtw)
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Anytimeyougoabouttryingtoachievesomethingwithafocusedyetdesperateattitude,itwill
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hinderyoursuccess.Themostefficientwaytoworktowardsagoalinvolvesadetachedconcentration.
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RJJismyfavoriteboxer,Ithinkthisvideoofhimsomewhatsummarizestheintentofthispost
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Braves01
September22,20117:04pm
Sharkhowaboutapostonbreakups,andHOWtodoit.Isthebestbettocommunicatewithyour
girlwhatsabouttohappen?Orjustremainmorealoofanddistantthanusualtillitfizzlesout/she
sayssomething.Justathought.Lovethesite.
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Anonymous
September22,20119:54pm
Imalsowonderingthebestwaytoenditwithyourgf,IamjustavoidingthesituationbecauseI
feelbaddoingso,IdontwanttohurtherItsstartingtobecomeextremelystressful,shes
calling,emailingwtfdoIdo?SheisaverysensitivegirlandImasuckerfortears
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Anonymous
September22,201110:19pm
HeyShark,
Pleasedoapostongainingrespect/socialproof.YousaidanAlphasimplycaptivatesothersand
theyalwaysgivehimattentionandrespect.Butthatseemsmorebasedonsocialproofthanacting
likeanAlpha.Ipersonallyfindmyselfbuildingsocialproofafterbeingquitelow,anditsabitof
achallenge.Mostly,Imnotquitesurehowtogoaboutit.
Thanks.
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Taylor
September24,20111:32pm
http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/05/socialproofandnegs/
Theresyouresocialproof.
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Taylor
September24,20111:32pm
http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/05/socialproofandnegs/
Theresyouresocialproof.
GoodthingIhaveasemiphotographicmemory,orIwouldnthaverememberedthatpost.
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Art
December16,201111:40pm
Shark,yourethegreatest.Ifimetyou,iwouldbewillingtoreverttoallofmyoldbetahabitsifit
meantimpressingyou.Ofcourse,iknowitwoulddisgustyoubeforebeforeitwouldimpressyou
butthatdoesntmeanimnotwillingtodoit.Addmynametoyourlistofpeoplewhooweyoua
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drink.
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Rawr
April17,20128:31pm
Heyshark,
Ivebeenfollowingyourblogforawhilenow.Yourblogsareverymuchenlightening,evenfora
girl.
WellIllbehittingcollegesoonandimimprovingmyselfwithyouradviceshereintheblog,I
knowthatthefemale&maledynamicsarereallyquitedifferent,butIstilldomostofwhatyou
saynevertheless.ThisisntreallyrelatedtothearticleabovebutIwanttoaskforyouradvice.
Doesdoingthesestuffhelpmegameotherpeople,whetheritbeanothergirl(samesex)orguys?
Well,Iactuallyhavenotroubleinattractingguys.Latelythough,Ivebeenwantingtogameother
girlsevenifimalsoagirl.Yeah,Iguessikindaswingthatwayatthemoment.
Someofmybestfriendsactuallytellsmethattheyvenoticedthattheressomethingaboutmethat
makesmeverymuchappealing,especiallytothesamesex.(girls)Atfirst,Ihadnocluebutafter
readingmostofwhatyouvewrote,IthinkitsbecauseIactandamlikeanalphafemaleinmy
innercore.Also,imnotliketheothergirlswhodressandsitprettywhilebattingtheireyelashes,I
loveactionandhateindecisivepeople.Well,canyoupleasegivemetipsregardinghowto
improvemygameasawomentowardsguysandgirls,butleaningontowardsthegirls.(Ivebeen
readingalotofmaterialstoosinceIreallywanttoimprovemyinternalandexternalself,allof
robertgreenesbookandetc)AssoonasIgetmycreditcard,Implanningongettingyourbook
(theblackflag).
P.SImnotthetypicalfemininegirlMystyleisusuallycasualorsporty,Ilovevideogames,
reading,writingquitetomboyishasonemaysay,butIdolook/havefeminineside,andamnot
butch.
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