Real Social Dynamics Seminar Notes:

Day 1
Tim from Australia-Subject: General Opening
Be a man of stories!!!
o Why? Display you are a man of experience, Leaders and selfconfident people tell stories
o Use descriptive language and body language
o Use one or more of the 5 Senses :"
o Example 1: The Janga Man Story:
While I was waiting for the bus the other day, there was this guy
sitting on the bench not far from mehe looked like this typical
Reggae Rasta "ya mon" kind of guy on the street, he had this
Big old Cassettes Walkman on from the eighties, and he was
roaring from the top of his lungs "Don't let them fooool
yaaaaaa..".you could hear it all over The (Name one big or
central area of the city)then came this policeman and he
started staring at the guylike WTFthen the Reggae guy
stopped, turned off the walkman, turned the tape.cleared his
throat, pushed the play button looked with a big smile at the
policeman and said: "I shot the Sherriiiiiif"?
o Example 2: The Anna Story:
You know, last time as I was in Dublin (London, Prag,
NYetc)I was on a seminar about (bla bla), and after I've just
finished, I was totally exhausted, and went to chill out in the
park, and enjoy the sun, and relax my brains.i sat on the
bench, and started biting in my sandwichthis cute petite blond
girl came and sat right beside, and went.hey? I went
great.then we started talking about all kinds of things, we were
laughing, playing all silly games, like slapping hands, and hide
and seek in the parkit was totally weirdyou know the feeling
when you meet someone, and you get the feeling you know a
person for such a long time?...anyway..after spending all the
day together, playing like little kids, taking silly pictures on my
Digital camera, eating marshmallows, and watching a weird
canadian movie in some small cute theatre all alonesnuggling
in, we spend the night together at the hotel.in the morning I
wake up, Anna is goneand there was shining silver ring on the
bed right beside mewith a little note saying: Thanks.andI
looked in my camera, all the pictures of us were gone.all
deleted.why do you think she did that?
o Example 3: Bad Ass Kid Story:

I was downtown the other day with my friend, and we were just
getting into the mall (you can name some mall).And there was
this bad ass kid, he was like this tall (short)he is maybe 8 or 9
years oldhe had this big eminem T-shirt on, and all ripped up
jeans and t-shirtand was doingor trying to do flip tricks with
his skating boardso I say to my friend, that is so cute, I am
going to adopt that kidso I go to the little boy, and say.he
young man, what's up? And this kid looks at me like this (Do a
mad bad ass face, but look beside them, not at them..and
point slowly the two middle fingers of your 2 hands)(stop here,
or follow withwellI think he has to ask the gang members
first)
Keep a stronger Frame than her
o Body Language:
o Simply not weirdno need for complications.
o Not Frontal.
o No rapid movements.
o Adjust to their energyhigh energy (club)
increase
yours (speak loud, bigger smile, more vivid body
language)
o Generally have a vivid and passionate energy and body
language
o Tonality: your voice is a weapon, learn how to use it properly
o Cutting threads:
o If she starts talking about boring shit, or trying to control
the frame and direction, by cutting her thread(This
needs to be done subtle and friendlynot
aggressive)and going back to yoursyour
realitydemonstrate you have a purpose of the Convo
o 3 Ways to cut a thread:
"Ok coolanyway"
"ok coolcheck this out"
No reaction!
o (here was an exercise on cutting frames.one guy talks,
the other one cuts him and tells him story)

Club social (coolness) structure (analogy to food chain):

PUA's (Pickup artists, cool guys)
Hot chics
Fat chics, ugly chics

AFC's (chumps)

Two Things to display always:

o High Value
o Positivity: General Energy + physical energy
Gameplan:
o Go out 3 nights a week
o Do not wait to "be in state", doing it brings you in state.Just do it!
o Get energized, be screaming or moving rapidly or somethingmaybe
in the toilet.or somewhere outside.
o Always do 3 to 5 throw-aways to start with and get into the state.
Example: "My next door neighbor bought herself a chiwawa dog today"
o Approach 5 different girls
o Stack stories and routines
o Be flexible in your approach, take charge of the situation
o Through practice, you build your reference points that prove you are a
good PUA
o If a girl gives you emotion (even negative) you can always work it out to
your advantage.just get emotions (preferably positive of course )
o Put a close purpose
Examples:
o Number close (getting her number)
o Staying in set for a specific amount of time (5 minutes, 10
minutes, an houretc)
o Makeout (kissing, etc)
o Change venues
o F-closing (sleeping with the girl)
VIEW THE WHOLE WORLD AS A PICKUP LAB
Pickup
curve:
Physical
Connection
Close
Emotional
Connection
Hook

Open

Alex from London: Subject: Opening

3 Golden rules of opening (in clubs):

o Be loud
o Have fun
o Keep talking no matter what.
Openers typical mistakes:
o Stopping to talk too soonkeeping the talk transmits you are
an emotional person.keep talking until you reach the hook
point.
o Having a boring monotonic tonality
There is no dead set, it is only how you can handle social pressure.
(Ignoring, turning around)
Rule of thumb: DO NOT DANCE!
90% to 10% rule.in an interaction, you speak 90% of the time
Your share of time represents your status
Types of openers:
o Physical Openers: Hi 5, flicking the girl's shoulder
o Situational opener:
favorite of naturals
shows, events, neckless, ring
location, bar, barmanetc
Alex: "I am not really a big fan of this opener"
o Direct: "You 2 are the cutest girls in here", "HiI am
Alexwhat's your name?"
o Opinion: Most solid, most consistent, best results according to
our tests
o Stupid "chode" openers: "hi..can I buy you a drink?"
opinion openers structure:
o "Hey guys" (Pattern interrupt. "guys" is neutralshows you
have neutral intentions)
o "I need/want a female opinion"
Do not wait for their agreement
If they stay silent for longer than 2 seconds, do not wait
for their answer (awkward silence kills energy)
Subjects: Chic Crack! (shit that chics like): Soap opera,
who lies more, name of puppy dogsetc: "who is more
trustworthy, men or women?"
Be even and non judgemental in tonality and body
language
Story: "see my cousin was 3 weeks ago on Ibiza, and
she was engaged with 2 guys, and she came back and
told me about it....she said these were white lies...but
the thing is, her boyfriend is my best friend....so I was
kind of wondering about the whole thing."
o Opinion opener mistakes: Getting stuck, girls want to talk about
it forever...solution? thread theory.

THREAD THEORY

Story
1

Attr
1

Story
2

Attr
1

Story
3

normal
chat

Attr
1

Attr:
Teasers
Cold reads
Misinterpreations
Cocky and funny

Generalities
o The frame is always, you are amusing yourself and having fun as a social
human being
o Story = DHV, displaying higher value (woow...it is a cool intelligent guy)
o Attraction, causes her to want to fuck you)

Speaker 3 from London (do not remember name) , Subject: Inner

game issues:
o You are the man, never apologize for approaching, it is natural.
o Pickup = Computer game
o Many levels
o Not harmful (a game)
o If you die on a game, you can restart a level or a game
o The more you play, the better you get
o There are other more important issues than losing a level of
computer game = gaming girls is not that deadly
o Men are able to mate by nature, the community and upraising fucked it
up.
o Keep a journal...to track your progress
o Reward your progresses, and keeping your plans: for example if you
do 10 street approaches a day, as planned, buy your favorite icecream
or fruit

Loverboy: various stuff

o IVD: Instant value demonstrations (best friends test)
o DHV: Demonstrate higher value (non verbally)
o Social proof
o Communication styles, story-telling abilities
o Push yourself past the comfort zone
o Punish her playfully if she does or says something you do not like, and
reward her if she does say something you like.
o (here followed some demonstrations)

END OF DAY 1
Day 2
Todd from LA, Subject Pickup procedure

Rapport
o BR: Breaking rapport-Value adjuster "you and me will never get
along....etc"
o NR: neutral rapport-Filler/Normalizer "what time is it?"
o TR: trying for rapport-Comfort/Value adjuster "I like your
necklace"
o GR: Giving rapport: Giving an interesting topic, doing something
cool, because you are enjoying it. (Should be used mostly!!!)
Hook (Hooking point, the point where she stays in set, and does not
want you to leave)
Hook
Attraction
"Pump emotions"

Cocky and funny (essential!!)

Misinterpretations
Mini cold reads
Busting on mannerisms
Future adventure pacing
Push/Pull
NEG

Intrigue
"Keep em hooked"

"OMG, you have this expressive face on

youyou have this special thing in itbut I
cannot tell you what it is".
If you are telling a story, and it is not taking
effect do transitions fast.
Open Loop: she asks you a question, you
tell her for example: alright one second, I
will get back to that.
IVD's: interactive value demonstrations
o "guysyou know the different
shapes of smiles? U-shape smiles,
C-shape smilesetc"
o Elements of IVD'S:
Teaching them to do
something
Telling something about
themselves

Full cold read:

o General shit, that usually applies to
everyone
o "you know whatI know something
about youyou might be the one
who likes to party a lot, and go
outbut there are a lot of moments
in your life, where you like to chillout
and be with yourself alone, and do
something relaxing"
o If she tells you it is bullshit , it
depends on stage, if in hook stage,
then it is a shit test, if in emotional
stage, take it as in insult, and pull
back, and wait for her to chase you
Active disinterest:
o Ask them all for their names, but
ignore her

General ideas for pickup:

(least energy) Do not say what you can wink. Do not wink what you can
nod. Do not nod what you can smile
Windows of escalation: take use of any chance to advance
Frame control:
o Take charge of interaction, and be always in director's seat.
o Changing a frame = changing the meaning
o Make your frame strongassume it is strong
o Your frame is a nice place to be
o Allow no competition of frames
o Move gently and smoothly into your frame
o Shit tests: are thrown out to find you if you are the man.
o Always be genuine
o How to pass shit tests?
Ignore
Physically and emotionally show no reactions

Hoobie from Australia (Subject: emotional connection)

Types of game:
Chump game = get lucky, wait for a chance
Party Game ( by naturals)
Solid game = Party game + emotional connection
Emotional connection:
Trust
Rapport (Deep Rapport (having some specific interest that connects
you), and wide rapport (having wide range of interests)
Who are you as a person?
Important for emotional connection stage: Venue change!!!!!

When in emotional connection stage, make statements (cold read), not

questions: "You have those sweet caring eyes on you.you must be
working as a nurse"
Things to talk about: Travel, Jobs, where from, Trust (showing
vulnerabilities), family, hobbies, sports, Pets, relationships, movies,
music, books.
If she talks about herself having a wild sex life (yesterday I had an orgy
with 3 guys) you are probably not getting laid.
Qualify her:.oh your sign is Capricon, omgthat is so cool.

Unknown Speaker from LA (Subject: Phone Game)

When having a pickup, you have to #-close as a minimum, you can

continue chatting afterwards
Use your voice as a weapon when you are calling (tonalityetc)
Do not Ask for a numberDEMAND IT!...."blab la bla.greatgimme
your number".
Over 5 minutes interaction? Go for #-close
When calling, important is getting her back into state "ahaI like this
guy":
o Tell a story
o Tell as small joke
o Arrange for a meet
Call one day later, do not make her forget you, 9's and 10's give
numbers at least to 5 people
Avoid awkward pauses on the phone
For meet up, give her 2 options (Monday or Friday)
Chose an activity, if she wanna join (reason is not to pick the typical
dating venues like cafes and dinners, and not to make her center of
attention)
o Jazz
o Shopping
o Sunday market
Answering machine: shortest msg possible: "Hey I am X, met at Club
Y, number is 212.BYE" (This is to provoke her into calling
you."who the hell was this guy?"
If you have to call again, and you find an answering machine, you give
this msg "what the fuck is this shit..(then content of earlier msg)
Day-2 meeting: Focus on day-2 itself (Shopping, Jazz, festivaletc)
have a second backup event

Day sarging:
Do not soften your voice
Step into their way, keep talking
Use same openers!
Do approaches every day

TylerDurden: Subject: Wrap up

Your thought patterns show and bring your behavior patterns

State familiarity: being addicted to emotions, and going back to them
Attribution: You are fully responsible for your states, keep them positive
and bringing you further in life
Focus! : Be outside your head. Be in present moment.
Thought loops.avoid negative thought loops from your head.
Beliefs:
o Worthiness: I desire it
I deserve it
o Internal validation
o Sense of acceptance: level of validation
o Being pro-active not reactive
o Do things that scare you!

What do I need to improve?

Be louder in sets (especially in clubs)
Smile
Engage the whole group (looking at them, and talking to
them)
Adjust to the energy of the set (The higher their energy,
the higher yours is: wider smile, more rapid movement)
Approach from the side

Personal notes on the workshop:

Day-1: was the day we got our emotions boosted, was a great
nightI worked on my approach anxiety, and got attraction in many
cases.spoke loud, and stayed in set .Instructors very impressive
and helpful, very cool night.Alex was a great instructor, like a big
brother and helped me and motivated me a lot.
Day-2: I have more games, I open few setget decent results.in
midway through the night, I get a cute girl from Scandinavia hooked,
instructor hoobie joins the set, to keep her friend busy.We end up
after 20 minutes making out with them in the loungelooks like a lay
is possible, since my chic is responding wellI say, nahlet us leave
themsince I want to learnI basically declined a lay! That was so
cool, and was worth itsince I kept approaching, and made 3 more
number closes, and had fun.
Day-3: My purpose for the night is to approach 2+ setsit is scaring
the shit out of me, I start off, and I get some new instructor. The
instructor is very helpful on information and giving solid feedback, but
every set I get in, and he comes in to help me out, gets blown up

because the chics he gamed always decided to leave the set, and
pull my target with themabout 4 or 5 sets or soso he is a crap
wing, but very good in observing thingshe helped me figure out
some things I need to improve, like smiling more or being high
energyI had a lot of chics being all over me when I open them,
obviously physical attractionthose were the easy sets.At the end
many of the guys probably took girls home, with the help of the
instructorsAn eye opener at the end, is how Tyler amoged a girl
away from 2 guys, who were almost taking her and her friend home.
Anyway, her friend is mad, Tyler sends one of the students to work
her out.it all works like a charm, then Tyler transfers the chic to the
crap instructor I had, and he takes over and did probably get laid with
the other studentSince Tyler has a girlfriendTyler is a great
guy, I and another student hook up with him, we walk through the city
center, and try to open here and there on our ways to eat something.
We meet up with his Girlfriend, which is a great instructor too, I had
her helping me on day-2. They are great persons, no sign of
arrogance whatsoeverwe sit there having dinner for 2 hours
chatting about all kind of stuff like good friends.great closure and
honor for me.
At the following day, I went to the city and started doing some street
pick ups, and the crazy thing is, I picked up this cute brazilian girl,
and spend the rest of the day making out with her in the parkshe
did not speak one single word of English ..crazy shit!

Ratings:
Seminar: fair to good (could be more organized and structured)
Field Workshop: Excellent (brilliant helpful instructors)
GUYS! THIS IS ONLY A GLIMPSE, THE CONTENT IS WAY MORE
INTENSE, and nothing can substitute a live demonstration from the world's
best PUA'sit is mind boggling.
SO GO TO THEIR WORKSHOPS AND SEMINARS for your own good.