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14 Tips to Help You Build More Condence

Were all victims of occasional bouts of self-doubt, even the most successful, charismatic, con dent among us have their
moments of insecurity. Self-con dence can be a very delicate and complex thing. A few are born with it; others learn it early on
and the rest of us have to learn to build it on our own.

(http://www.flickr.com/photos/sarahreido/3120877348/)Our con dence plays an important role in ability to achieve success and
happiness. It affects our mental thought patterns, the way we speak, the way we act, and the decisions we make in all areas of
our lives career, money, relationships, and even our health. Con dent people take more action, perform better, and are more
likely to attain their goals. In addition, con dent people also know how to take more enjoyment from their accomplishments
are happier in general.
Lucky for us, con dence can be built and strengthened until it becomes natural, just as any other habit. It simply takes a little
time, some effort, and a bit of attention.

Condence Building Tactics

1. FailMoreOften.(/articles/productivity/whyfailurecantakeyouonestepclosertosuccess.html)The more
challenges you take on, the more failures youll have, but learning that you can recover, get up and push forward builds
con dence.
2. Track your accomplishments. Keep a list of successes, big and small. Itll help you to see your abilities in a more positive
(and realistic) light.
3. Dont compare. Stop measuring yourself against others. What you see isnt always real. Making comparisons is a
damaging and an inaccurate measure of success anyway.
4. Dress for con dence. How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us. Expensive
clothes arent necessary. Put emphasis on good t, good condition, and appropriateness. Dont be afraid of some color;
black is professional, but color gets noticed.

black is professional, but color gets noticed.

5. Workonyourposture(howtostandup.html). People with lower con dence often tend to have poor posture. Stand up,
sit up, and keep your head up. Its an instant con dence booster.
6. Learn. The more knowledge you acquire, the more con dent you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you
feel, the higher your con dence will be.
7. Fitness. Better physical condition and appearance gives you more body con dence, and as a bonus, the extra endorphins
give you an added energy boost.
8. Startaconversation.(/articles/communication/startaconversationwithastrangerwithoutsoundingdesperate.html)
When you nd yourself in a social situation, instead of gravitating to those people youre comfortable with, start a
conversation with someone you dont know very well. Eventually getting to know new people will become easier.
9. Have miniature goals. Bite sized goals are easier and quicker to achieve and the momentum can give you a boost when
attacking bigger goals.
10. Raise your hand. Volunteer to take on tasks or projects that are a stretch for you. Youll learn you can do more than you
thought you could and so will others.
11. Be around con dent people. Cultivate relationships with can-do people; attitude is contagious. On the other hand,
avoid cant do people. It works both ways.
12. Be your own friend. When you hear that voice in your head, abusing, attacking and belittling you, remind yourself that a
friend wouldnt talk to you in that manner.
13. Relyonyourinstincts.(/articles/productivity/5waystostopsecondguessingyourself.html) When you trust your
intuition, and listen to those gut feelings, youll become more con dent in the knowledge that you do know whats right
for you.
14. Keep practicing. Practice the skills you need to succeed. The more you practice, the more con dent you become. This is
true of every type of skill.
Con dence helps you to be more secure in your abilities and more positive in your attitude. It also encourages you to be more
assertive, to take on more challenges, and to improve your skills. As an added bene t, youll attract like-minded people. The
end result is a better outlook, more success, and a higher quality of life in all areas.
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4 Habits You Need to Know That Will Change Your Life Forever

Ever heard of the phrase live a life of intention? One of the most important times of my life was a few years ago when I
realized the success I desired, personally and professionally, would only come once I instituted the habits necessary to reach my
goals.
Up until that time I had motivation, but lacked the long-term focus to achieve my goals. Once I understood keystone habits, I
was able to pinpoint the exact skill set needed to reach my goals which allowed me to direct my life in the direction of goal
achievement. According to Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit, understanding keystone habits is essential to making
changes that last. Here is what Duhigg has to say concerning keystone habits:
Keystone habits say that success doesnt depend on getting every single thing right, but instead relies on identifying a few
priorities and fashioning them into powerful levers. This books (The Power of Habit) rst section explained how habits
work, how they can be created and changed. However, where should a would-be habit master start? Understanding
keystone habits holds the answer to that question: The habits that matter most are the ones that, when they start to shift,
dislodge and remake other patterns.
I call these habits the Pillars of Successful Living and from my experience here are the 4 habits you need to know that will
change your life forever:

Live a Healthy Lifestyle

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I do not know of a habit change that will have more of a positive impact on your life than exercise and healthy eating! Two
years ago my waistline had expanded greatly and I realized I had to get my eating under control. I made the decision to begin
eating healthier meals and walking 2-3 times each day for exercise. I cleared out my cupboards, began logging everything I ate
and closely watched my calories.
Once I had made the decision to live a healthy lifestyle many other parts of my life began to change. My mind was more
focused. My con dence grew. I began to dress and carry myself better. And most importantly, my body began to feel better.
During this transition I learned that I was capable of more which catapulted me toward greater heights. There is mental power
in seeing your pants tting differently. The con dence one gains from losing weight exceeds any other that I have experienced!

Live a Goal-Oriented Life

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I dont know any successful people that live their life void of goals. I do, however, know tons of people that are oundering that
have no goals or no life purpose. DaveRamsey(https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/20thingstherichdoeveryday) produced a
list several years ago highlighting the key differences between successful and unsuccessful people. At the top of that list was
having written goals and focusing on one single life goal; 67% of the wealthy have written goals and 80% focus on one single
goal. What I learned from this list was invaluable. I had never been a fan of written goals and I had also always felt like an
underachiever.
I determined that I would choose one life goal, write down my goals and then work diligently until I reached my goal of
becoming a full-time writer. I developed the habit of using a 4-item daily To Do list which supported my long-term goals. Once
I wrote down my 6 month and long-term goals, I posted them on my refrigerator so that I would be forced to face them every
day. It was a constant reminder to remain focused. Having a singular life focus and written goals to gauge my success have been
one of the most important habit changes of my entire life!

Live Debt-Free

I do not know of a bigger dream killer than debt. I was on a camping trip several years ago and a friend of mine was
complaining about his job and life in general. Basically, he felt trapped in a job he hated and believed his dreams were only
dreams and not intended for grown ups. It was sad to hear him express how defeated he had become. I asked him why he

dreams and not intended for grown ups. It was sad to hear him express how defeated he had become. I asked him why he
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didnt quit his job and nd something that contributed to his happiness instead of demoralizing his spirit. That conversation

revealed that he had managed his money irresponsibly, accruing nearly $25,000 in credit card debt, a mortgage he and his wife
could barely afford, multiple car payments, a boat payment and many other bills that stretched their bank account to the max.
The problem wasnt that he couldnt nd a job that made him happier, the truth was he couldnt take a job making less money
due to his irresponsible spending. And of the thousands of people that I speak with each year, this topic comes up the most.
What many dont realize is that paying off debt can be easier than we think, but it will take great sacri ce in lifestyle; sacri ces
that most are unwilling to make. But, think of the things you pay for that eat up your money: pay television, coffee shops,
multiple car payments, eating out, huge mortgage payments, etc. If you want to live your dreams then maybe it is time to
sacri ce for a few years, pay off the credit card debt and free yourself up to experience work that also brings you joy.

Live a Life of Charity

When I speak to groups about this topic the most common response relates to donating money, but when I refer to living a life
of charity I mean giving of ones time. There is no greater perspective changer than to volunteer ones time working at a local
food bank, mens or womens shelter, nursing home or orphanage. In our world, people are becoming more and more
suspicious of strangers, fearing that criminals await around every corner. This is resulting in a society that is becoming more
and more sel sh and self-focused. If you want to begin opening up your world and change your life forever, apply to work at a
local charity. It is mybelief that until you put the self-focused You in its place and begin focusing part of your life on adding
value to the world around you, you will not experience any type of true joy, happiness or ful llment.
Living the life you dream of does not happen by chance. You must determine what it is that you want, develop a plan and then
live a life of intention. It took me many years to understand this concept, but once I bought in to this fact my life began to turn
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I believe it is time for you to stop allowing life to happentoyou and begin to design your life in order to aim you in the direction
of more personal and professional success. Once you adopt this mindset and focus on these keystone habits you will notice your
life slowly begin to change. And before you know it you will nd yourself dreaming while wide awake.
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