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Become insanely comfortable and
confident around beautiful women in 30
days (or less)
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Me. The dude who panicked all those times. The dude whos pick-up
muscles were smaller than a kidney stone. I guess my workout made
me strong.
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A New Roadmap
One thing I hated about the mens pick-up industry was the lack of
genuine advice about how to improve with women.
I read every self-help book out there. I read the Game to try to learn
about how to get better with women (sigh).
I learned about Buddhism and Stoicism in a desperate attempt to
reduce my stress levels.
I memorized every line of every book on overcoming fear, on charisma
and confidence.
But still something was missing.
There was this complete lack of advice about how to actually improve
with women.
How does one practice this stuff? Where? How frequently?
There was no roadmap at all.
You may have heard advice like: Go open every women you see, or
Go hunt fear and be the man bro!!!
Jeez.
Using that advice is like fighting in the Roman Coliseum with no
weapons or armor.
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I dont know about you but I was scared shitless when I was trying to
improve with women.
The idea of guerrilla-approaching dozens of women everyday by
myself like the PUA experts advised was in a wordterrifying.
So I created something that worked for me.
Something:
that wasnt so intimidating
that helped me not obsess about women all the time
that made me feel good about myself (not like a desperate creep)
that was flexible enough to fit into my busy schedule
that would get me the results I wantedquickly.
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Imagine not being smacked in the face by fear when you want to ask
for her number.
Imagine being able to meet anyone, anywhere, anytime without
stressing about how youre doing or what to say next. You can be the
relaxed, fun guy everyone wants to be around.
Millions of dudes like you experience them everyday. And they
learned how with practice; not from their DNA.
I also want you to understand the true value of this program:
Its not lines, routines or scripted bullshit to use to trick people
into liking you. All that builds is fake confidence. It digs you into
a deeper hole.
The Honest Pick-Up Workout is the exact opposite of that.
Its a series of exercises designed to help you get better with
women...without all of the bullshit.
There wont be any lines or routines to memorize. You dont have to
put on an act to impress anyone. Its designed to make YOU more
confident and attractive, not your lines or strategies.
It targets the source of our biggest hang-ups around women: the
insecurities and fears. It helps build real confidence.
And it does it in a scientifically proven, yet fun and relaxed way.
One more thing.
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Right now, you're probably like: Nick, I need to talk to every woman I
see because thats how you get better with them, and otherwise Im
missing soooo many opportunities.
First of all, relax.
I might be the first dating coach to say this but you don't need to talk
to every woman you see. If that's your mindset, you'll become
obsessed and frustrated. Youll lose all perspective.
The truth is: there are tons of women out there.
Yes, you'll talk to them. But that's not all you'll do. You'll build the skillset you need to be successful with them through other means too.
If youre trying to create a life with women youre proud of, this is
where you start.
Want to see the exercises? Alright cool.
But first, lets talk a little more about Honest Pick-Up and how it works.
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vii.Too hard? Reduce the difficulty until you cant say no.
If you find yourself saying I like the idea but I doubt I'd ever go
through with it. or NO WAY NICK YOU CRAZY ASSHOLE Thats
okay. That just means you need to reduce the difficulty.
What can you do to make the exercise easier for you? Get creative.
Adapt the workout to you. Whenever an exercise seems too difficult to
do, drop the difficulty down until you can't say no.
If you need help with how to do this, email me at
nick@honestpickup.com.
viii.When in doubt, trust the system.
The routine Ive put together helped me go from the most shy, socially
awkward person in any room (trust me) to dating coach featured at
M.I.T While some of the exercises seem random and sometimes,
well, pointless and crazy, there is science behind each exercise. Trust
it, it works.
ix. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE FUN MAN
If youre not enjoying the exercises, whats the point of doing this?
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Dont get too hung up if you fail. If you look embarrass yourself and
look foolish, laugh about it. If fear is nagging you, smile.
How you experience the workout is totally up to you. Why not have fun
with it?
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This exercise should teach you two important things about social
interaction:
i. It is acceptable to approach strangers out of the blue.
ii. You can have a genuine conversation with them without an
agenda.
Listen to what they say. Stop trying to plan what youre going to say
next. Relax.
You might just meet someone really interesting.
Target muscle: mindset and connection muscles
Day 3. Go to a movie by yourself.
Youve heard about eating alone. Most people are scared shitless of
doing that.
But what about going to see a movie alone?
What will people think of you? That you have no friends? Youre a
huge weirdo?
Why are you giving such importance to what they think?
Who cares what they think? Who even cares if theyre right?
This exercise will force you how to sit with these uncomfortable
emotions for at least two hours.
Meditate on them. Get to know your thoughts. Recognize this deep
fear of rejection for what it is: irrational.
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I asked because its hard. Asking for something for free thats not is
probably going to get you a no. And who wants to get rejected for no
reason?
You do.
Because you know that the key to overcoming your fear of rejection is
to get rejected. A LOT. You know that you need to learn to be okay
with it.
Its not about learning how to get so good with people that you never
get rejected. Thats a poor strategy. We try it because were scared.
Getting rejected as much as possible and learn to deal with the
emotions is how you become fearless in front of people.
So go ask for a free meal/haircut/drink. Get your no. And walk away
smiling.
target muscle: mindset muscle
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If they dont, leave a voicemail. But either way, tell them why youre
calling (you were just thinking of them and wanted to see how they are
doing). Hang up. Thats it.
This is hard for most people. It brings up uncomfortable emotions.
What will they think? Omg I havent talked to them in so long, it will be
weird!
Thats why were doing it.
Target muscle: Bold move/connection muscles
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Do you see the dynamics involved here and how its related to our
work? Youre making yourself vulnerable, giving a sincere honest
compliment, and are risking rejection. All in one email.
target muscle: mindset and bold move muscles.
Day 9. Share an embarrassing story with a complete stranger.
I got a call from a client recently who told me about a really
embarrassing speaking performance.
Basically, he was asked to speak at an important panel, was pumped
about the opportunity, and then as soon as it was his turn to speak, all
hell broke loose.
He froze, went into a panic, his mind went blank and he basically
looked like a complete weirdo in front of an audience he wanted so
badly to impress. His worst nightmare. (Been there).
When he got done telling the story, he said to me, "you know, I've only
told you and my mom about this. I can't tell anyone else. Ever.
I hear this from nearly everyone I work with. Do you see whats going
on here?
He's only willing to share "the good part" of himself with people. The
bad side, the really embarrassing flawed side, THE HUMAN SIDE, is
completely off limits.
As a result, he locks the embarrassing experience away in a secret
vault, vows to tell no one, pretends it didnt happen, and continues to
think he has to be perfect all the time. Sigh. Hell always fear the next
one.
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From experience, I know its easy to listen to the voices in your head.
What if she thinks Im a creep? What do I even say? Im so nervous I
wont even be able to talk. Trust me, Ive been there.
One trick that helps me beat fear here is humor. Make a joke about
how nervous you are to yourself. Acknowledge how big of a weirdo
you are.
Dont be afraid to be self-deprecating in moments when you are
scared. Even to her.
Target muscle: bold move muscles
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DUDE! Welcome to Week 2. Do you realize what you just did? A very
small percentage of people have done the things you have in the past
10 days.
Lets do a quick recap. In Phase 1, you learned how to:
i. make yourself vulnerable by doing things youre not great at
(dancing. yoga. or whatever you did)
ii. approach and start conversation with anyone (you made friends
at the coffee shop and grocery store).
iii. put yourself out there and risk rejection without losing your shit.
iv. outsmart your fears around beautiful women
v. train yourself to deal with uncomfortable emotions that rejection
brings to the surface.
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For all of that work, you get a day of rest. Welcome to your day off.
You earned it.
While youre enjoying your time outside of the social arena, I want you
to reflect on a few questions for me.
What did you think of Days 1-10?
What were your favorite exercises? Least favorite?
How did you feel doing the exercises that involved women?
What pickup muscles do you feel are your strongest? What areas
are you weak?
What do you want to get out of Days 11-20?
Great work. Well get back after it tomorrow.
Day 12. Wear something really uncomfortable in a very public
place.
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I wear rapper chains and capris in the mall.
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Get to know her well enough that you can give her a real, meaningful
compliment. It will go a lot further than any comment about her looks
ever will.
target muscle: connection and bold move muscles
Day 16. Meditate with fear for 15 minutes.
The health benefits of meditation are now undeniable.
Studies say meditation reduces stress, lowers blood pressure,
increases immunity, helps with irritable bowels (what doesnt
meditation do?).
Jerry Seinfeld, who meditates daily, says mediation is like his personal
cell-phone charging station. When my battery is low, I meditate. And
Im almost instantly recharged.
Mediation can also help you work through your fears in a safe,
controlled environment.
What is your biggest fear when approaching a beautiful woman? What
will people think of you if you fail? What does it feel like if people think
youre weird or less than?
Set a timer for 15 minutes and meditate on these questions. Go as
deep as you can. Feel them. Get inside them.
If you do this right, it will be extremely uncomfortable. Sit with them.
Dont try to control anything.
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Once you become more aware of what youre truly afraid of, youll find
it cant hold power over you anymore.
target muscle: mindset muscle
Day 17. Go to a mall and say hello to 10 strangers.
If you want to a great place to practice with people, go to the mall.
There are people (retail associates) who are paid to talk to you.
Plus, there are hundreds of strangers there daily. Its literally perfect
for what were doing.
Your task is to say hi to 10 strangers in the mall today. How do you do
it?
You say hi to 10 strangers. Thats it.
Make sure they hear you and know you're talking to them. Use eye
contact and speak up.
Keep a tally and get to 10.
target muscle: mindset, connection and bold move muscles
Day 18. Ask for a phone number.
You have to ask for a strangers phone number today. Male or female,
it doesnt matter.
There are several approaches you can take.
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But the most important thing you can learn about landing
number is this: its never about the number. It cant be. Its about
the intention behind the number.
Are you more interested in her or her number? Are you looking to
actually get to know her or just validate yourself by going out with a
hot girl?
If you care more about the person and not the adrenaline shot to your
ego, your conversion rate might go up.
target muscle: mindset and bold move muscles.
Day 19. Go to a mall and ask a female stylist for help and don't
buy anything.
How much do I love malls? You dont want to know.
Go back today. Go to your favorite store. And ask for help from a
female stylist.
You are in the market for a new wardrobe. Youre changing your style
up. And theres no way you can do it yourself.
Talk to her. Listen to her suggestions. Make casual conversation with
her. Make jokes about the clothes shes picking up for you. Make
jokes about how bad your style is.
Give her your honest feedback. And then(heres the kicker) dont
buy anything.
Have the power to say no.
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Even if you want to buy the clothes, dont. Come back another day.
Saying no is a hard thing to do. Its part of the exercise today.
Side benefit: you might actually learn how to dress.
target muscle: mindset, connection, and bold move muscles
Day 20. Tell a stranger you love them.
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She had just helped me change my flight with no additional fees and I
was ecstatic. So...I told her I loved her.
She smiled and laughed. Then I got a picture with her.
She said I made her morning.
Are you comfortable enough with yourself to tell a stranger you love
them?
Whats the worst that could happen?
Tell the customer service rep on the phone. Tell the person in the fast
food drive-thru. Say it to your boss.
Its meant to be said in a fun, playful way. Smile and laugh while
youre saying it to avoid any confusion :).
target muscle: mindset and connection muscles.
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Then thank them and politely decline the offer. Unless you want to go
on vacation this weekend.
Muscle: bold move muscles
Day 23. Text 5 women who you haven't talked to in over a year.
You meet a girl, things are going well, you get her number. Then you
go to text her. You deliberate over what to say for hours. You sweat
out her response.
She doesn't respond.
WTF, You say! You beat yourself up and wonder where you went
wrong.
Let me say it again: Rejection. Not getting a text back. These are
insignificant things that you cannot be ashamed of.
We must train ourselves to be okay with no.
Today, your goal is to try to get rejected 5 times. Open your
phonebook, find 5 women who you havent spoken to in over a year.
And text them.
Say whatever youd like. Id keep it casual and brief.
Something like hey ___, its been a while. just was thinking of you
and wanted to say hi. how are you doing?
You might get a few responses. Or none. But thats irrelevant.
Target muscle: mindset muscle
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Day 24. Turn off your cell phone off for a full-day.
I realize this sounds crazy.
If youre working and need your cell phone for important reasons,
thats cool. But I do want you to try to do this.
Set aside a time on a weekend if you need to.
If that doesnt work, set aside at least four hours one evening and
completely turn off your phone.
The world will not end.
Part of the challenge of The Workout is to be more aware of your
behavior. You are trying to get to know your thoughts, your anxieties,
your urges.
Any free moment we have with ourselves nowadays, were usually
checking Facebook, scrolling through Twitter, hopping on Instagram.
As a result, we numb ourselves. We cant work through the emotions
we need to. We block out thoughts and feelings.
This is one of my favorite exercises because it teaches you about
yourself.
What do you do when no one else is around? What do you think
about? If you had three hours on a Saturday, what would you do with
your time?
These are crucial things to know if we expect to be good at pickup.
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This exercise also teaches us that were not at the beckon call of
everyone else. At times, we feel guilty about not responding to this
email or that text or not being able to make the dinner with friends.
It teaches us to value ourselves and our time.
It might help to journal about this one. How do you feel when youre
truly alone in your own company?
Target muscle: mindset and connection muscles.
Day 25. Go to a bar by yourself, don't drink, and start a
conversation with the bartender.
Wow I cant imagine how bad this place would be sober.
I know youve said this to a friend at 3am.
Youre at a bar, you look around at the madness, and theres this brief
moment of holy shit where am I. Humans do this? I do this?
Today, youre walking into that situation. Except this time sober and by
yourself.
Why on earth would I have you do this?
Because its going to make you really uncomfortable. You will feel
awkward being there by yourself. And it will physically pain you not to
be able to drink.
You dont have to go at 3am. Just go for 30 minutes at a reasonable
hour.
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Heres how to do it: Lay on the ground. Take a few moments to get
comfortable. Do your yoga stretches or whatever. Now break out your
best snow angel. Stay down for at least 20 seconds.
FEEL THE SOFT LUSHUS SNO..I MEAN CONCRETE FLOOR
BENEATH YOU.
Close your eyes. Dont even look around at peoples reactions. Who
cares?
Definitely have a friend record this if possible :). Share it in the
Facebook group!
Target muscle: mindset and bold move muscles
Day 29. Ask out a girl that youre interested in.
Youve liked her for a while now. Youve dreamt about taking her out
for a night. But for whatever reason, you havent made a move yet.
One of the boldest moves we can make as men is expressing our
interest in a woman. Telling her directly how we feel and asking her to
give us a chance.
Its a gut-wrenching moment for all of us. But its also one of the most
exhilarating moments we have as humans. Your adrenaline is
pumping, were nervous as all hell. But damn, we are alive. I love it.
Today, I want you to experience that moment. Ask the girl out. If you
can, do it in person. If you cant in person, give her a call, text her,
send her a Facebook message.
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I know youre worried about rejection and/or coming off as the creepy
guy.
I get it. Ive been there.
Heres how you can do it smoothly and make sure its non-threatening:
Confess your interest in a non-creepy way and ask to see her again.
Say: Look, I know this might sound weird because we just met, but
Ive had a lot of fun talking with you and Id love to take you out to
drinks sometime. Would you be up for that?
Do you see how simple that is?
It works because:
You circumvent creepy by acknowledging that its a lot to ask: look I
know this might be weird since weve just met.
You pay her a genuine compliment: you are fun to talk to.
You create interest by being direct and honest: I want to grab drinks
with you.
Day 30. Do some Honest Pick-Up.
Hey man. You made it. Today is the last day.
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And if it just so happens theres a great girl there, go get to know her
too.
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Lastly, I want to thank all of you for reading. Your courage inspires me
to keep writing, keep creating, and keep spreading the message about
truthful seduction.
Thanks for being awesome.
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