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Learnenglish Podcasts Professionals Emotional Intelligence PDF
Learnenglish Podcasts Professionals Emotional Intelligence PDF
EMOTIONALINTELLIGENCEAUDIOSCRIPT
ListentoanextractfromalecturebyaProfessorataBusinessSchool.
Optionalexercise ListenanddecidewhetherthesestatementsareTrueorFalse:(Answersbelow)
1. ItsbettertosayImunhappythanthissituationisgettingonmynerves.
2. Thoughtsandfeelingsarenotthesamethingandweexpressthemdifferently.
3. Ifwefeelangrybecauseofsomebodysbehaviourweshouldsayyouaremakingmeangry.
4. Weshouldalwaysthinkabouthowotherpeoplemightfeel.
5. Ourownfeelingsshouldbemoreimportantthanthefeelingsofothers.
6. Itisimportanttothinkinapositiveway.
7. Weshouldnotconcernourselveswithmakingotherpeoplefeelbetter.
8. Ifpeopledonttakeyouseriously,trytalkingtothemandtrytomakethemunderstandyourfeelings.
Nowletstakealookatsomewaysinwhichwecanincreasethelevelsofourownemotionalintelligencesothat
employerswillbefightingoverus! [laughter]
Thefirststepistolabelourownfeelingsratherthanlabellingsituationsorotherpeople. Weshouldsaythings
likeIfeelangryinsteadofthisisaridiculoussituation.
Secondly,itisveryimportanttoknowthedifferencebetweenathoughtandafeeling.Intermsoflanguagewe
expressthoughtsbysayingIfeellikeorIfeelas ifbutforfeelingswesayIfeelandthenafeelingword,an
adjectivehappy,angry,frustrated.
Nextandthisisacrucialpointweshouldtakemoreresponsibilityforourfeelings.Insteadofsayingyouare
makingmejealousweoughttosayIfeeljealous.
Afterthisweneedtolearnhowtouseourfeelingstohelpusmakedecisions.AskyourselvesHowwillIfeelifI
dothis?orHowwillIfeelifIdont?
Anotherimportantissuehereisrespect.Wehavetorespectthefeelingsofothers.Weshouldaskourselves
questionslikeHowwillthispersonfeelifIdothis?
Andofcourseitisntenoughtojustrespectthefeelingsofothers.Wehavetoshowothersthatwecare.Wedo
thisthroughempathyandunderstanding.Andweshouldacceptpeoplesfeelings.Theyareasjustasvalidas
ourown.
Thenwecometoenergy.Weneedtoturnangerintoenergyanduseittotakeactionproductiveactionthatit.
Finally,aftergettingusedtounderstandingandanalysingouremotions,weshouldpractisegettingapositive
valuefromthem.AskyourselvesHowdoIfeelandwhatcouldhelpmefeelbetter?anddontforgetthose
aroundyouhowdoyoufeel?andwhatwouldhelpyoufeelbetter?
TosumupIamgoingtoleaveyouwithtwopiecesofadvice.
Dontcriticize,advise,controlorlectureothers.Justlistenwithempathyandinanonjudgementalway.
Andwhataboutpeoplewhoinvalidateyou?Easyavoidthem.Andwhenitisntpossibletoavoidthem
altogether,trytospendlesstimewiththemanddontletthemgettoyou.
FollowthisadviceandIamsurethatyouwillsoonincreaseyourEQlevel.Youwillfeelhappierandmore
positiveandhopefullythiswillruboffonthosearoundyou.
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