How we imagine we appear to others

There is often quite a gap between who we are, how we imagine we appear to others, and
how we really appear to them.

What is it that determines how we appear to other people? We could think of ourselves as
funny, imaginative, quite creative, honest, kind, but we may fail when it comes to presenting our
good traits. We could come up as mean, weird, unrealistic or rude. That may be because we are
introverted, or we try to hard to be loved, we feel constant need for approval. And people see
that, and mark us as desperate, annoying and dishonest. We could be afraid to show ourselves to
the world as we are, from fear we would be rejected or used.

There is also another extreme. We are sure others are amazed by us, envy us for our wealth,
beauty and brains. But, actually, people see us as shallow, proud, and generally not as great as
we think. In that case, we are probably that kind of people who do not see further from their
nose.

On the other hand, we can be to aware of our flaws, being almost blind for our virtues. We could
think that the others are judging us constantly, that we are never good enough, smart enough,
pretty enough. When in reality, we are a wonderful person, just a bit insecure, and other people
have good opinion about us, or they simply do not care.

And then, there are those few people who appear to others just as they are, and just as they think
they do. That are those confident, intelligent, funny, kind people, who are so great others do not
have a choice but to like them.

How we imagine we appear to others is actually how we perceive ourselves, which

sometimes does not have much to do with who we really are. If we are not confident, we will
think others do not like us or consider us worthy. On the other hand, if we are confident, we will
think others see us as awesome as we are, for a fact.