This document discusses how difficult people can be to love and be in a relationship with. It states that while the idea may seem improbable or offensive, genuinely admitting one's flaws is important for a long-lasting relationship. All people are tricky to be with as we all have psychological issues, bad habits, and bring problems into our partners' lives. A partner will eventually point out our flaws, which feels like a personal attack but is really just holding up a mirror to areas we need to improve. Examining our problematic behaviors with prompts can help us understand how we may be confusing, disturbing or annoying to live with so we are prepared for the challenges of a relationship.
This document discusses how difficult people can be to love and be in a relationship with. It states that while the idea may seem improbable or offensive, genuinely admitting one's flaws is important for a long-lasting relationship. All people are tricky to be with as we all have psychological issues, bad habits, and bring problems into our partners' lives. A partner will eventually point out our flaws, which feels like a personal attack but is really just holding up a mirror to areas we need to improve. Examining our problematic behaviors with prompts can help us understand how we may be confusing, disturbing or annoying to live with so we are prepared for the challenges of a relationship.
This document discusses how difficult people can be to love and be in a relationship with. It states that while the idea may seem improbable or offensive, genuinely admitting one's flaws is important for a long-lasting relationship. All people are tricky to be with as we all have psychological issues, bad habits, and bring problems into our partners' lives. A partner will eventually point out our flaws, which feels like a personal attack but is really just holding up a mirror to areas we need to improve. Examining our problematic behaviors with prompts can help us understand how we may be confusing, disturbing or annoying to live with so we are prepared for the challenges of a relationship.
That idea that one is in many ways an extremely difficult person to be in
a relationship with may sound rather improbable and even at points offensive. Yet fally understanding and readdyand graciously admitting to this possibility might be the surest way of making sure one in a endurable proposition over the long-term. There are few people more deeply insufferable than there who don’t, at regular tn tervals, suspect they might be so. We are, all of us, in variably hugely tricky propositions. We don’t need to know any one in particular to know this about everyone. We have all in some way or another-been inadequately parented, we have a panoply of anfortunate psychological traits, we are be set by bad habits, we are anxious, jealous, ill-tempered and vain. We are bringing an awesome amount of trouble into someone else’s life by agreeing to be their partner. We tend to be shielded from this unwelcome news prior to a big ralationship through a mixture of sentimentality and neglect. Our parents loved us too much to tell us: our friends don’t want to get bogged down in detailed critiques of our personalities; a pleasant occosional meals is all they want from us. And our exes were to keen to escape from us to offer up a helpfully detailed critique of our personalities. They simply told us they needed a little more space- or needed to take a long trip to India. Furthermore, when we’re on our own, we just don’t notice from annoying we might well be in the eyes of others. Perhaps we were in a sulk for the whole of a Sunday, but no one was there to be diven crazy by our self-poty and our passive fary. We may have tendecies to use our work as an escape from intimacy, but so long as we are not permanently with someone, we can pass off our eccentric hours without comment. Our peculiar eating habits won’t be real until there is another person across table to register our challenging chewing sounds and inggredient combinations. Eventually, a partner will call us out on these traits. It fells like a horrible personal attack which a nicer person would not put us through. But it is no such thing. It is an inevitable response to our failings-which anyone would need eventually to bringup. Our partner is not really doing anything odd. They are merely holding up a mirror. Every one, seen close up, has a appalling, amount wrong with their character. It’s not us –it’s the human condition. The specifics varyhugdy, if course; people are nightmarish in different ways. But the basic point is to share. Whatever we think or feel about ourselves, we will be revealed as sorely defective upon close-up, prolonged inspection. Sadly, it’s not that our partner is being too critical or unusually demanding. They are the barer of an invitable nows: that we are a nightmare. Being asked to acknowledge ones flows isn’t a request to admid something very strange-what would be strange would be to think that one was with out major defects. Of course we have some delight fall qualities as well, but it does mean that we are unavoidably might be slightly crazey of desperate answer to the followings question,” How are you difficult to live with.” Because our minds may go blank at this point and remember only tender and beautiful side, we can lean on a set of prompts. For examble when I’m annoyed I have a tendency to… When I feel hurt I… Around money I can be a bit difficult because… I guess I worry really quite a lot about… I suppose I might be a bit of a handful around sex because… The point of prompting greater awareners of our questionable patterms of behavour isn’t to feel quilty or as hamed but them. Just to see how easily they can be confusing, disturbing and annoying to another person. We need before we conmit ourselves to a relationship to get fully aquainted with all the ways in which we are going to be a serious challage to live around.