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Molly Hargon
Bowyer
Expos 2
26 March 2017
The R Word
This is retarded. What a retard. I'm sure you have heard it before, everyone says it,
right? Its a normal phrase that describes someone is unintelligent and slow, but why would we
make fun of a person who struggles with enough difficulties already? This word, the R word
is discriminatory towards the handicap and special needs community and just places another
adversity on top of them. People do mentally suffer from retardation, so is using this derogatory
term to describe a person who does suffer from those disabilities morally okay?
If only people really knew what a retarded child can do for their friends and family, and
how using the R word can be offensive to them. When I was growing up, there was a little boy
born with special needs who lived down the street. Our moms were friends and they shared their
babys joys together. I started to develop and learn the ways of the world, such as walking and
talking, and this little boy didnt. His mother had asked my mom why her little boy wasnt
advancing the way the other kids were. Her son was then diagnosed with retardation, and had to
attend a special school. As I grew older, I realized the joy he had brought to their family. He
brought their family together through love. He was pure, he didnt put others down, he didnt
brag, he wasnt selfish, and he didnt even see that he had problems. Instead he would light up a
the room, he was always grateful, and he lived for others. Now, why should we continue using a
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word to describe our peers, if it just continues to put down those who suffer with retardation
David Brooks, an American conservative political and cultural commentator and writer
for the New York Times says, The basic problem is that schools praise diversity but have
become culturally homogeneous (Brooks). Also Students who dont fit the ethos get left out
(Brooks). These special needs students are the ridicule in the everyday classroom. The R word
is being thrown around left and right just because someone is mimicking an action of the special
This phrase is just the same as someone hearing something about them being used as an
insult. How would you feel if you were the special needs child that overheard someone saying to
one of their friends, Dont be a retard. or Thats so retarded. Dont you think it would hit
home? Picture this: Your whole life you have been labeled with mental retardation and now
The R word is used as a demeaning term needs to be completely eliminated from our
everyday language and only used as a medical term and not for discrimination. There are plenty
of other words that you could use to describe a situation. For instance you could say, That's
ridiculous., You're not thinking the way I think., or even just thats silly., or that's
foolish.. Maybe people should start to broaden their vocabulary to more words that wouldnt
have the potential of being offensive. They should take into consideration peoples feelings.
Society, says you must comply with the norm (Butler), but once you fall out of what is
normal you face judgment. Our society then punishes those who are different or dont follow
these norms, either by humiliation or derogatory terms. The R word falls under the same
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category as the N word and should be treated equally as bad. Ashanti Young, a professor of
African American studies and author, states, When I fail to meet the class, gender, and racial
notions that others ascribe to me, Im punished (Young). Instead of someone being punished for
being himself, shouldnt we praise and accept that? Shouldnt we thrive for more diversity? And
not constantly put down our peers. This a never ending cycle and it only takes one person to
stand up and end it. We need to take to heart what is being preached in the school system:
It all comes down to look before you leap. Or in this case, dont speak without first
considering the possible ridicule or effect it could have on one person. I am looking for a change,
so let's not keep relying on someone else to do, it we need to take it into our own hands. The R
word needs to be treated the same way the N word is treated, with zero tolerance. When you
hear your peer use it in an offensive way, call them out, teach them that it is not okay. Teach
your friends to be considerate, and that using the R word offends a whole community of
people. This is a step toward acceptance for all and is the change our society needs.
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Works Cited
1. Brooks, David. Honor Code. New York Times 6 July 2012, New York ed.: A23. Print.
3. Young, Vershawn Ashanti. Prelude: The Barbershop. Preface. Your Average Nigga:
Performing Race, Literacy, and Masculinity. Detroit: Wayne State UP, 2007. xi-xvi.
Print.