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Make Her Beg You To Bang Her Report PDF
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• If you have trouble turning a conversation “sexual”, and taking it to the “next
level” with the girls you’re talking to
• If you come across as too “nice” “safe” or “friendly” and aren’t getting a sexual
response out of the girls you’re interacting with
• If you don’t know to flirt in a way that keeps a girl interested… and instead find
that girls continually slip away before you can close the deal…
2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job, like to travel, and other
“boyfriend” traits.
3. Taking her side when she bad mouthed players, and act like you’re totally
the opposite of those ‘jerks.‘
5. Listening to all her problems and trying to solve them for her...
But there is a gigantic flaw in this.
Why?
Because it DOES NOT create attraction in a woman. None of the things I just
listed create one ounce of sexual attraction.
Because once a girl thinks THAT she begins displaying her “good girlfriend”
qualities that are just as “boring” and “un-sexual“ as your boyfriend qualities.
Not only that, but you build up too much comfort with her, and drastically eliminate
any urgency for sex.
Downshifting to Sex
I call this system “Downshifting to Sex” because what I noticed is that you there are
actually different ‘gears’ you can be in with a woman.
And it’s very similar to being in different gears when driving a car.
If you’ve ever driven stick shift you know that you can’t jump from 1st to the 4th
gear without going through 2nd and 3rd; you’ll stall out, because you never created
the necessary RPMs to sustain that kind of gear change.
Well it’s the same thing when you’re dealing with women. And where most guys
mess up is that they spend an entire night with her in the first gear… (Which is the
realm of ‘nice guy’) and then the end of the night comes and suddenly they want to
jump into the fast lane, but realize it’s now impossible to change gears;it’s too
much too late.
What this system does is it makes each transition smooth. So that you don’t mess
up all the progress you already made.
This is the single biggest reason guys can’t get out of the friend zone with a girl.
They talk all friendly with a girl for months or even years, and when they can’t take
it anymore they confess their feelings expecting the girl to feel the same way. And
as I learned with Candice; that just doesn’t work.
And it all starts with
:
Step 1: The Rated R Switch
If you’re losing girls chances are it’s because she doesn’t feel a sexual connection
to you, she doesn’t feel sexual around you, and she’s looking for a guy who brings
this side out of her, who gets her aroused and makes her horny.
The Rated R Switch.
This is how you let her know it’s okay to let a little of her wild side out. Unleashing
this ‘wild side’ is the first step to closing the deal, and getting her back to your
bedroom.
You need to take the conversation to a Rated R territory.
You need to be having the sort of conversation that a parent wouldn’t feel
comfortable if their child was listening. There is just something more edgy, real, and
exciting about Rated
Yet, most of us turn into the poster boy for rated PG once we get around a woman.
It’s like we’re afraid of saying anything that might remotely offend her, or worse, let
her know we’re actually a guy who likes sex.
So instead we talk about safe, neutral, and PG topics.
Have you sat through a PG movie lately? They are boring and predictable, and
not the least bit sexual.
So the first mental reframe you need to make is to stop worrying that you might say
something that will offend a girl.
Here’s a secret… Girls LOVE locker room talk.
They love the dirt, gossip, and honesty of locker room talk.
Back in college my girlfriend at the time was in a sorority. I used to hang out and
sleep over a lot at the sorority house she lived in with eleven other girls. And since
I was there so often they sort of let their guard down around me and forgot that I
was there. And as I would sit listening to them you know what I heard?Locker
room talk.
It was the same EXACT kind of conversation I was having with my friends back at
the frat house. Gossip about who was hooking up with who, which guys they
thought would be good in bed, which guys are creepy and stalkerish, and
expressing their frustrations over guys that were too much of a pussy to make a
move.
So how do you bring the conversation to “locker room talk “or Rated R?
I actually have a handful of techniques to do this and different guys feel a different
level of comfort with each of them.
But here’s an easy one to get started with:
Make an R-Rated observation about something going on around you. So here’s an
example. Say you’re at a bar, and there is an older couple sitting close by, a man
and woman.
You could say something like “That couple over there just gives off a swingers vibe.
Like I can totally picture them at one of those swanky 70s parties where all the
couple put their keys in a fish bowl and swap out husbands and wives based on
what key you pull at the end of the night. So you get that vibe from them or is it just
me?”
See, what you did, was you jokingly used your situation as a way to introduce a
sexualized topic like “swinging” in an innocent way.
You just officially shifted out of first gear and into second.
Now what I like to dois then quickly throw a little fishing line to test the water, and
say something like, “Now that I think about it you kind of give off that swanky
swinger vibe too.” And then I’ll laugh and quickly change the subject and see if she
attempts to bring it back up. If she does, maybe I’ll begin to tease her a bit about
being a swinger, or get into how it’s always the seemingly innocent ones that wind
up being the kinkiest. And imply that I think she has a “kinky” side.
If she doesn’t bite I’ll wait a few minutes, and then downshift again using one of my
other techniques.
Every girl I’ve ever dated, even the shy innocent ones, when you let them open up
a little bit, guess what they love talking about; locker room talk.
Not only do girls love talking about it, but when you take the conversation to rated
R, you immediately distinguish and differentiate yourself from the hundreds of other
guys who spend the entire time talking to her in safe mode. And she finds it
refreshing to talk to you, and will want to keep talking to you.
You show her that you’re comfortable with sex, which helps her view you as the
kind of guy who can ‘make it happen’ without things getting weird or awkward.
And most importantly; you set up an atmosphere where a seduction can take
place, where she starts thinking about sex, and you can get the kiss and get her
back to your place.
So how else do you turn the conversation to Rated R? Rated R is about the subject
matter and the way you flirt with them. And it can be something as simple as
changing your vocabulary and the words you use.
She’s not being bad; she’s being naughty
You’re not gonna hit her; you’re gonna spank her
If she’s teasing you, “don’t make me take the belt off.”
It’s not a basement it’s a dungeon.
Even certain words, and the way you describe things can flip the Rated R switch.
This is particularly effective when teasing her or making observations about her.
She has Lusty eyes.
She looks Hot and bothered.
Here are some other words with sexual undertones:
Urges
Thongs
G strings
Stilettos
Panties
Fetish
Vibrator (not Dildo, that’s x-rated)
Swingers
Gag reflex
KY
Wet
Sloppy seconds
Cougar
Whips and chains
Kinky
Spooning
Cyber sex
These are all rated R words. It’s these sorts of words with sexual connotations you
want to use in this stage. You’re not using any of the X rated words. Those are for
later.
And the fun thing to do is since most of these words are double Rated R, is about
the subject matter and the way you flirt with them…
It’s these sorts of words with sexual connotations you want to use in this stage…
You’re not using any of the X rated words…
This is the sort of conversation you want to establish in first gear. Now this doesn’t
mean you dwell on these things the entire time like a horny 13 year old. You just
establish that these are the rules of the conversation, and that it’s ok to go there, so
that later when you begin to escalate the flirtation it won’t come as surprise.
Once you have taken the conversation to Rated R you must move on to the next
step.
Step 2: Express your Sexual Aim
A little earlier I told you a story about my co-worker Candice, who even though we
had an amazing connection I still couldn’t transition to a kiss, and I wound up in the
friend zone.
You see that first night that I hung out with her; I skipped a very crucial step.
I never expressed my sexual aim.
Back then I had just begun studying pickup and I was obsessed with not being the
‘nice guy’ who buys her drinks, who is complimenting her, or being too ‘agreeable.’
And as I began to see the reaction I was getting from girls like Candice change
towards a more positive vibe, I began to think the secret to attracting women was
to appear completely disinterested in her sexually.
But I noticed a few things about the way women were beginning to act towards me:
1. Although women no longer viewed me as a ‘nice guy’ who they could control
and manipulate, they still weren’t sexually attracted to me.
3. Hiding the fact that I was sexually attracted to a woman often just made her
view me as ‘asexual’ or worse, a closeted gay.
As it turned out, while one minute I was watching Steve shamefully admit to a woman
that she was ‘turning him on,’ the next minute Steve was flirting with one of her friends
and all but ignoring her. This seemed to have the woman’s attention glued on Steve.
As I continued to watch Steve I noticed how he would verbally express strong desire
towards the woman, but at the same time gave off an impression that if she walked
away his night would not be the slightest bit ruined. In fact, he’d probably have
another girl within minutes.
At one point, Steve actually began telling the girl what he was going to do to her later
‘in the bedroom.’ Yet, a few seconds after saying this to her he turned to me and
asked me if I wanted to play a game of billiards with him. As we shot pool, the woman
basically sat in the corner and stared at him the entire time. As I started to put the
pieces of the puzzle together I realized that it’s NOT about completely hiding your
desire and pretending to be indifferent to her. It’s about expressing your desire for
her, but really being indifferent towards the outcome.
What I mean by this is that the woman Steve was flirting with that night in the bar
knew that he found her sexually attractive, but she also got the impression that Steve
was so used to be getting with women he found sexually attractive, that if she
disappeared he would hardly notice she was gone. In the past I had always been so
focused on expressing disinterest that I completely failed to get her interested in me
in the first place. There could be no ‘chase’ if the woman isn’t chasing you. You are
not a “challenge” if the woman isn’t intent on getting you.
In fact, it is your initial interest that makes a woman notice you. But it’s how YOU
RESPOND when she reciprocates that interest that either ignites the chase or makes
her think: ‘I guess I was wrong about him… and he is hungry for my approval.’
After you say this to the woman, go back to acting normal. Almost as if you never
said it. In fact, if her friends are around begin chatting and flirting a bit with them.
Don’t ignore her completely, but just enough to ignite the chase. What you’re going
to find is that by putting that statement of desire out there, it greatly increases the
amount of natural tension between you. And tension is known to amplify attraction.
“Sexualized Flirting”
With a new way of communicating with women I call “Sexualized Flirting.”
And the word “seuxalized’ is very important. Because what I learned over the
years is that without adding a strong dose of sexuality to your flirting- you can
actually get caught in the trap of becoming that flirty guy that girls don’t take
seriously. It will be like they laugh, but in the back of their mind you’re still just a
safe, nice guy they could never imagine sleeping with.
So there are some big differences with sexualized flirting.
And with this specific type of flirting you begin to:
Introduce sexual themes into the conversation
You use stories as a way to ‘innocently’ transition to talking about sex, and
getting her thinking about sex
You use ‘playful games’ to get her opening up her desires and her fantasies,
and you get her feeling comfortable experiencing these emotions around
you
You tease her in a specific sort of way that has sexual undercurrents, and
even though she knows you’re only teasing her, there is an element of
danger and excitement to the conversation that unconsciously begins to turn
her on.
You are very aware of sexual tension, and you are able to control it and
manipulate it, leading to quicker intimacy
Even if you’re goal isn’t to try to sleep with a woman the first night, this type of
flirting ensures that you get the kiss, and that you position yourself in her mind as a
guy she is going to sleep with, and not a guy that she wants to be friends with.
(The both of you have been lightly flirting and everything is being said playfully)
Her: Shut up. You’re probably a closet Lady Gaga fan. I can imagine you
sitting home alone,with your Ipod, listening to Lady Gaga singing out
loud. hahaha
You: You better watch out or you’re going to get spanked little girl.
You: We are totally having a pillow fight later… And I’m not gonna go light
on you just because you’re a girl.
Ok. Did you notice how I shifted gears into a more sexual
frame? The conversation started with Lady Gaga, but by the end of it we were
talking about rolling around her bed tickling each other and acting
“naughty”. (Something friends don’t do)
Now let me give you an example of how you can shift from third gear into fourth
gear. Remember, you need to keep shifting gears, because if the attraction revs
up too high in one gear and you don’t shift gears you can blow it up.
You: (holding out your pinky) I pinky swear that unless you’re acting really
really naughty, I promise not to tickle you
You: You know what? I didn’t notice it before but you’ve got a really sexy
smile.
Ok, did you see how you once again shifted gears? You went from joking around
about tickling to actually getting a little physical and first getting her hand in yours
for a “pinky swear” and then tickling her.
But more importantly, at the end you said “You’ve got a really sexy smile.”
What is so important about that last line is that it leaves no room for
misinterpretations. It just totally lets her know that the two of you have just been
flirting, and that you find her sexually attractive.
And you prevented any possible ‘friend zone’ type objections that could come up
later on.
And here is a secret for you; women WANT YOU to find them sexually attracted.
I’ve dated and slept with quite a few girls, and you know what compliment turned
them on more than anything? Which one they would repeat back to me, telling me
how much it turned them on? Which comment in bed they would BEG me to say
again?
A beautiful girl knows she’s beautiful. But she doesn’t know if she’s sexy.
And when you can make a girl feel sexy, you really unleash a wild side of her.
I had a co-worker, in the middle of a shift, take my hand, and put it down her
panties so I could feel how wet she was. This was a girl I hadn’t even kissed yet.
I had another girl, in the middle of a party, follow me into the bathroom and let me
shave her pubic hair off because I told her that’s how I liked it.
After spending a day sending this chick dirty email back and forth she showed up
at my house with a long trench coach on, and nothing underneath, and told me I
had to be quick because her boyfriend was at home waiting for her.
There is no limit to what women will do when you’re able to unleash this side of
them.
Do you now agree it’s better to go sexual right from the beginning? I hope you’re
nodding your head yes, cause if not, you’re playing a dangerous game with the
friend zone.
Can we agree that you must express your sexual aim to a girl?
And I think you will agree that it is crucial that you get that first kiss quickly? My
first night out with Candice I didn’t get the kiss, and it took me almost four years
later to finally shake the “friend vibe” and get it.
The first step to getting that kiss is taking the conversation to rated R level. If you
paid attention than I think you see how by using the right words, topics, stories, it is
actually pretty easy to take the conversation sexual.
And if you’re not already using this stuff, you’re missing out big time, and probably
losing girl’s interest to guys who are.
You should also be convinced that you need to be constantly shifting gears with
women and using “sexualized flirting” to keep the sexual tension alive. Like I said
earlier if there ever was a girl you went on a date with, thought things were going
well, and then she starts becoming unavailable to hang out and she stops
answering your calls you didn’t do a good job of keeping the sexual tension alive.
Because the fact is, once you get a woman thinking about having sex with you, and
get her imaging it.and letting that tension linger, It’s gonna happen.
Valerie spread herself out on a pool table, with her parents sleeping in the other
room like 20 feet away. My friend Jake, who I learned a lot of this from, he’s got an
IPhone full of pictures of naked girls. These are just ordinary girls that he meets
out, or works with, but he does such a good job of setting himself up as a sexual
guy that these girls are sending him naked pictures of themselves and telling him
how they can’t wait to see him. And luckily I spent enough time watching him that I
was able to drill down on what he was doing…
Once you’ve got that attraction formed, you must bring it to a seductive level.
I just gave you the three steps towards taking it to the “seductive level.”
Now let’s talk about exactly how to close the deal with her.
3. Lingering Hi Five:
One way I personally do this is after a woman says something that I like; I put my
hand up to give her a high five. When she slaps my hand high five, I sort of grip
her hand a bit, and let our hands linger together. This will amplify the sexual
tension.
Everything I just suggested up there- triggers sexual attraction. This is why, maybe
at some point you’ve become sexually attracted to a girl you didn’t really like or find
physically attractive. It’s because the two of you moved unknowingly into
’seduction mode’.
What you’re going to find a few months after learning this is that you’re going to
feel really relaxed talking to women and any anxiety you used to feel to approach
them is going to be gone, because the anxiety really comes from fear of not
knowing what to do – or how to keep her from getting bored. That won’t be a
problem anymore, so you’re going to be naturally opening more women and feel in
total control, in fact, you’ll probably be the one turning girls down. You will also
notice that some girls who used to blow you off or flake on you suddenly begin
making themselves available, messaging you on Facebook, or even sending you
random texts.
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Additional Resources
1. Magnetic Messaging
In this video you’ll learn how you can use three simple text messages to turn a
woman on and get her out on a date.
The video teaches something called “The Key Lock Sequence”
Watch the video here: http://www.magneticmessaging.com
2. Teasing and Banter Cheat Sheet:
Over at my Facebook Page I’m giving away a free Teasing and Banter Cheat
Sheet. This cheat sheet will give you exact lines you can use to begin flirting with a
girl, and get her working to win you over.
Just hit “like” here to get your free copy:
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