Link the suffering with the addictive demand:

Become more consciously conscious of the cause-effect relationship between your addictions and
the resulting unhappiness.

The key to the Third Method is to consciously connect all of the suffering in your life with the
addictive, emotion-backed models and expectations that you keep telling yourself you must have to
be happy.

Many addictions will rapidly melt away as soon as your Consciously experience that the suffering
they cause is actually due to the addictions.

Always remember that the key to using the Third Method is to look deeply within yourself to find the
emotion-backed demand that you are using to upset yourself. It’s this simple. Just become more
consciously conscious of the cause-effect relationship between your addictions and the resulting
unhappiness, and you will be on the escalator that can take you directly to the
Fourth Center of Consciousness.

QUESTIONS:

what is happening, such as who, what, when, where, and

how?

what separating emotions am I feeling?

anxious, harried, bored, lonely shy, irritable, annoyed, frustrated,

confused, sad, depressed, disappointed, worried, afraid, resentful, hostile,
angry, jealous, grief-filled, guilty, tense, nervous, embarrassed, etc.

what pain or tension are in the body?

what do my posture and face looks like?

What am I telling to myself?

Exactly what Im resisting in this situation?

Or about myself?

what threat this person or situation represent to me?

What is the worst that could happen?

What is about me that I think people can't love?

what changes am I demanding in orther to feel happy and enough? Of myself? Of others?

“What pains or tensions are being evoked in my body at this moment?”

“What do my posture and face look like?”

“What is the dance that my rational mind is doing to prove me right and everybody
else wrong?”
“What do I want to change in the outside world instead of
doing the inner work of changing my own response to it?”

“What sort ofphony front is my ego trying to maintain?”

“What past events were particularly painful so as to give my biocomputer this programming
that makes me upset when a similar event happens?”

“Have I suffered enough?”

“Do I really want to be free from this automatic response whenever the here
and now of my life checks me out?”

“Exactly what am I rejecting in the here and now?” “What am I rejecting about myself?”

“What threat does this person or situation represent to me?”

“What is the worst that could happen?”

“Could I accept this and still be happy?”

“What am I defending?”

“What am I hiding?”

“What is it about me that I think people can’t love?”

“What do Iimagine the other person is thinking?”

“What mask am I wearing?”

“What dances are my pride and my prestige making me perform?”

“What am I demanding in order to feel happy and enough? Of myself? Of others? Of the
outside world?”

“What is the model I have of the way I should be, must be,or have to be?”

“What is the model of the way I should be treated?”

“What are the specific details of the model that I have of the way the world should
be in order for me to be accepting, loving, and flowing?”

“What Center of Consciousness am I operating out of?”

“If a magic genie were to appear at this moment, and this genie had the power to alter the
situation exactly as I instruct, what request would I make of this genie?”

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