To the wives whose husbands "bother" them for sex:

Many of us find your sense of entitlement to all of the other things a marriage
has to offer truly frightening... all he wants is sex. Your pussy is not a unicorn
pussy; there are thousands out there that feel basically the same, but there is
something about you that your husband likes. There is something about you that
your husband suffers through in the hopes of maybe some trickle sex in the
future. In return for this, you spit on him, and demonize his libido.

Congratulations! You are the jailer in a Stockholm syndrome scenario.

The fact is, you got married with the understanding that your husband would
provide financial security, social stability, and children for you; that your future
husband would stay with you and only you during the duration of that marriage
(which typically is regarded as "forever"). That he would be with you and you
alone, in all things, emotional AND physical. Faithful.

If he were to step out of the marriage (without your "consent"), you'd divorce him
in an instant. I mean, how can he possibly want to be with anyone else when he
has you - a sexless shell of a woman he married?

No, the divorce would comes not because he had sex with someone else (you don't
like sex, after all... otherwise you'd be having it), the divorce comes so you can cut
your losses and get your share of the marriage, without the marriage. The
divorce comes, because he may be sharing resources, financial security, and social
stability with some other woman. This is amplified if you have kids.

However, if you stepped out of the marriage on him, on some level you'd expect him
to divorce you as well. Of course you'd attempt to rationalize it in some way.
You'd still expect him to stay with you and you'd be horrified if he tried to leave
you following that dalliance because he supplies that financial security and that
social stability you married him for.
He has done nothing wrong but want to fuck his wife.

If he stepped out, he'd simply say, "my wife doesn't fuck me enough, so I fucked
another woman." That's it. It's that simple. But we all know, wives who don't
fuck their husbands don't respect their husbands. They don't actively listen to their
husbands. They loathe their husbands touches, caresses, kisses, and hugs.

The problem, and you know it doesn't end there, is that his heart, as it were, will
follow his dick. This scares the shit out of you. Why should he sacrifice his
energy, time, effort, and resources on a woman who does not respect his side of
the relationship. Here's a woman he's with now, who fucks his brains out, sucks
his dick, and makes him feel like a man... he's in bed with her now... why the fuck
would he leave that paradise to return to a sexless harpy who literally sucks the
energy and resources out of him?

Marriage is an exchange, at it's core. He chooses a life-mate, commits, and

sacrifices his ability to fuck whomever and whenever so that he could fuck only
you. Something about you made him want to fuck you and ONLY you. That was
the deal on marriage day. That was the person he wanted to marry. That was
the package you advertised. Now you decide that “we don't support that model we don't support that model
any longer”. that all he gets is what you offer.. that all he gets is what you offer.

You changed the deal, and you wonder why he resents you for it. He makes the
sacrifices, and you can't even surprise him to get his dick a little wet.

And I'm not one sided: Your husband probably changed on some level.

He probably doesn't lead. He probably doesn't make decisions. He probably just lets
you run things instead of being the captain of your ship (the household/family). He
probably let his body go a bit (and you probably did too). He probably isn't active
any more. He probably lacks hobbies. He probably doesn't spend time on his own,
and instead... He probably clings to you, expecting the extra attention to lead to
sex... You whittled and nagged him to chip away at the old him to lock him down.
Now, he probably acts needy and validates his emotions through you (you're sad,
he's sad, you're happy, he's happy.…). He has probably lost most of the things you ). He has probably lost most of the things you
recognize as the man you married...

In effect, he has become yet another child that you have to raise. I understand
that.

But the fact remains, he can only be pushed so far before he does one of two
things (and you have no way to direct this course:)

He will either:

A. Simply call it a day and divorce you. Simple as that. He will decide that no
amount of divorce pay-rape forced by the state is worth being in a sexless
marriage, especially when he knows he can get better elsewhere. You don't want
this, but probably can't stop it.
OR
B. Decide that he no longer needs sex with you. He won't look elsewhere (if he is
a man of value and honor) but he will stop trying. He will stop paying you
affections and attention as well; no more hugs, cuddles, kisses, "how's your day?",
etc. He will detach and basically become a monk moving through the house around
you. In this, he will find peace and fulfillment in doing things for himself and only
himself.

He will start working out and getting in shape. He will start looking better and
feeling better about himself. He will start dressing better and you will be
simultaneously aroused and alarmed by it; his body is looking good and he grooms
well and you know you fucking like it. But now you begin see that he is way more
attractive than you and he can pull younger women... and you're just a post-
partum shrew who has replaced your attachment to your husband with your
children, cell phone, and Netflix.

You then realize he's in shape and you're not. You realize that in his mid-thirties,
he is getting closer and closer to his sexual attractive peak... and your sexual
attractiveness already peaked and is fading quickly. You'll panic, you'll harp at him,
you'll try to make him stop... because ultimately you need him more than he needs
you.

He will start ignoring your shrill requests, harping, and complaints. He will spend
more time away from you, doing his hobbies, hanging out with his friends, and
noticing that younger women pay him attention in public. He will begin flirting with
those younger, more attractive women (who he knows would drain his balls). At
this point, he d even look and flirt right in front of you. He won't care what you
think; in his head, you lost that ability to control that when you locked the pussy
up. He is basically training himself to be single again. Your panic and internal dread
is so high now that you can see he can literally pulll younger, fit, smart, beautiful,
tight bodied women. He doesn't try to have sex with you any more, and ignores
your arguing and bantering.

"Is he cheating?" "Has he cheated?" "Why is he such an asshole?" You will ask
these things to yourself, but when you look in the mirror, you'll realize he's not the
asshole. He got pushed too far, didn't get the wife he married any more, and is
probably going to leave you.

This nightmare of emotions may last for a year... a year of a man who is looking
better, acting better, and being better, but you ll realize that you now have no
sexual or emotional access to him. He won't allow it until you allow him the access
he wants.

I guarantee you ve already witnessed this scenariio through the divorce of family,
friends, and neighbors. He finally has enough of her shit, files for divorce, and she s
hit or has passed the “we don't support that model wall”. that all he gets is what you offer. . “we don't support that model What an ass he must be”. that all he gets is what you offer. all the gossiping women
and whipped men will say. It couldn t possibly be her fault, right? The poor dear.

In the first option above, he just leaves, cuts you off, and probably leaves you
more relieved in the short term, but lonely in the long term; dating is hard at your
age, especially with kids. Most men who you'd like to be in relationships with are
taken or are never going to be interested in a mid-thirties single mother. Instead
you end up snatching up a guy who is largely ignored by younger women. You'll fuck
him early and often, get married, and then realize that you married a guy far
worse than your ex-husband. There's many reasons why he wasn't acting like
other guys his age and pulling younger women. He simply couldn t, and you are
discovering those reasons day in and day out. You stop fucking your new husband,
and the cycle continues.

But the second option horrifies you, he stays. You see his positive changes and
what he is capable of, and that he may send that energy towards a younger,
hotter, girl who regularly sucks his dick, fucks him silly, and occasionally gives him
anal. You may get a temporary respite when you tell yourself that he still stays
married to you, but you know, that thread is running out fast. Men can survive
divorce, but most women past the age of thirty, will truly struggle to start over.

So he's basically a married bachelor at this point. No sex from you, but still
married. And your marriage feels like it's on a balance where you have a choice:

On one side you can realize that you like what you see in the new husband.
Hopefully, you d remember that he is your husband, you ll suck his dick and fuck his
brains out... reminding him that he is married to you and that if he wants to have
mind blowing sex you are there for him. You ll be spontaneous, flirty, feminine, kind,
and sexy.

Suddenly your sexual menu opens up and he is thrilled... and for good reason: he is
fucking the woman he married like the girlfriend he knew! The upshot: he stays
happy, which makes you happy, and he will literally do anything for you. But know
this: he will be forever be changed. He will recognize the trickle sex and the
starfish sex. The sex where you “we don't support that model give in”. that all he gets is what you offer. and just lye there without passion. He
will recognize when he is being gamed by you to simply retain him, and he will never
again settle for "fine." He will always want more. But, he will always want more
from you.

The other side sees you continuing to take him for granted and he takes his new
body and his new attitude and leaves you, divorces you, and showers any number of
younger, hotter, and sexually-adventurous women with his money, time, energy, and
happiness. Meanwhile you resent him but he doesn't care... and you ll know you
missed the fucking boat.

And maybe none of this is true and doesn't apply to you... but why take the
chance of all that? Why not remember that your husband gives to you and you
don't return the one thing he really wants?

Run your fingers through his fair, put your phone down, pull him in for a passionate
long kiss, show him you are as interested in him as you were when you were
dating. He WILL respond well after some time and consistent effort from you.

Know this, men age like fine wine. Women, not so much. ANY man can survive
divorce, and it is acceptable in ALL cultures and faiths. Especially, when a wife
withholds.

You may be mad, sad, depressed or terrified by reading this. But aren t you glad
your husband didn t get a copy of this letter instead of you? Show it to him as a
test, if he “we don't support that model acts”. that all he gets is what you offer. disgusted, then you married a pussy and it s no wonder you
won t fuck him. But deep down, you know there s real truth here.

Enough “we don't support that model excuses”. that all he gets is what you offer.. Your pussy can literally save a marriage. Remember that.