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Everyone is now more stressed than ever. Why else are there a million articles out there about
"__ # of ways to destress NOW" and other quick fixes? P.S. That dog.
Though, in order to tackle stress, we must first understand how it works with our brains and
bodies. I think you'd be surprised with some of this information- I know I certainly was, when I
first starting looking at my stress this way. It's not actually about "de-stressing."
While things like online shopping, a drink, mindless social media browsing, eating a treat,
zoning out on Netflix are indeed effective for taking the edge off in a singular moment, it's a
bandaid for a deeper cut- it doesn't help get to the root of the problem.
Distress is the bad type of stress that makes the world feel overwhelming- that there's too
much or too difficult of things to do, and involves worry, anxiety, and anger.
We as humans need to experiences both of these stressors from time to time- that's what
makes our human experience. But when our lives are overwhelmed by stress (both the good
and the bad aka eustress and distress), that's when things start to go awry.
For optimal health and happiness, it's best to live on a balanced scale. Sure, the scales might
slightly waver and tip, but we'd rather not be constantly thunking one side down.
On the right side, we have the stressor bucket-
BOTH the eustress and distress go in that one, believe it or not.
Don't you normally get adrenaline rushes when that kind of feeling takes over? That's what
makes you feel like you can take on the world and rock that project.
But constantly living at a high like that with constant adrenaline can very easily lead to a
crash of adrenal fatigue.
Adrenal fatigue is when you've essentially worn down your adrenal glands, much akin to
screeching tires when you slam the gas pedal on your car too hard and quickly. Your constant
"pumped-up" feeling is demanding your adrenal glands to just produce more and more
adrenaline to keep energizing your body, as your body will do it's best to meet for the demands
you're asking of it.
But unlike real energy, adrenaline gives you a more temporary and powerful rush that cannot
be sustained. Your adrenal glands can only withstand so much and do not bounce back easily.
That's why we call people who love this feeling and harp on it, adrenaline junkies - because
adrenaline truly is like a drug rush and the body treats it very similarly.
That's because sometimes it's unrealistic and it is a waste of energy to try to taking away
stressors in your life you can't really control in the immediate moment. In the meantime, try to
add things to your life to put on the left side of the scales to help balance things out.
Reality check: that is not relaxation or recovery. That is slapping a bandaid on the Stress
bucket; not putting valuable weight in the Balance bucket to actually counterbalance the stress
in life.
We all do some version of this. We runaway, we escape; To things like spending money on
frivolous things online because it feels good, a drink or four because it feels relaxing, scrolling
through our Instagram feeds wishing we had the glamorous lives of a stranger, diving headfirst
into a box of cookies, or just numbing ourselves while binge-watching episodes on Netflix.
Those things give us nothing except instant gratification that feels good for about 5 minutes
until our credit card bill arrives, the hangover hits, the extra 10 pounds that make yo u not fit
into your clothes, feeling bad about our current lives, and further berating that we aren't
enough.
For me personally, I like to boil things down to basics: enjoying the little things we often ignore
when busy and stressed out. Feeling present, being grateful, and having "me" time.
3. Having a few moments in the morning for a proper breakfast and a physical read.
Even if it means waking up 15-20 minutes earlier, this quiet morning time to myself is such a
treat. Also, having physical paper pages to flip through makes me much happier than an e -read.