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2. Invent a Recipe
Focus Skill: Learning from Mistakes
Help your child see mistakes as learning opportunities, not failures. Gently encourage
mistake-making by asking your child to invent their own pancake recipe. Have them
write down an ingredient list and quantities of each item. Supervise the process so
nothing dangerous is ingested, but do not interfere. Even if your child adds something
unusual to the recipe (like goat cheese or garbanzo beans!), let them experiment. After
cooking a test batch of pancakes, ask, “What could you have done differently?” Then,
allow your child to modify the recipe and try again.
Problem-solving is one of the best self esteem activities. Give your child an open-ended
challenge and let them brainstorm ways to create solutions. One great exercise is to give
your kid several items from the recycling bin—milk jugs, cans, cardboard, glass jars—
and challenge them to build a boat. Provide tape, glue, string…and nothing else! Let
them experiment with different ways to put together their boat. Then test their creation in
a lake or pond. This is also an excellent group activity.
6. Serve a Snack
Focus Skill: Multi-Step Planning
Develop your child’s confidence in their cognitive skills by giving them a multi-step
challenge. Ask them to plan, prepare and serve a snack (or a lunch, for older children).
This task forces your little one to think about many different things at once: what to
serve, how to prepare the food, how to set the table, etc. This activity encourages multi-
step planning and gives them the confidence that they can solve an open-ended challenge.
7. Open up a dialogue and be a role model.
Talk to your child not only about her learning and thinking differences, but also about
things you find challenging and have to work to overcome. It’s good for your child to
hear you talk about how you value your own strengths, while also acknowledging your
weaknesses.
For example, if you have weak working memory, it’s OK to mention it: “I can’t
remember the items on the grocery list.” But try to pair that statement with something
that emphasizes your problem-solving skills: “Next time I’ll use my phone to take a
picture of the list in case I forget to bring that piece of paper to the store.”
Positive self-esteem comes from working hard toward a goal. So, rather than criticize, try
offering your child a specific goal to work toward. For instance, instead of saying “Why
do you always leave your clothes in such a mess?” you can say, “Your clothes are all over
the place. You can come back to your game after you put away your laundry.”
For example, your child might say, “I can’t read that. It’s too hard because I have
dyslexia.” You can respond by saying, “Yes, reading is hard for you, and you can’t read
that book yet. Let’s formulate a plan to get better at it.”
11. Praise your child’s approach and efforts—not just the end result.
It’s important to praise your child. But how you praise your child matters, too. Rather
than just focusing on the end result, praise how your child went about it. By
acknowledging the approach kids take to tackling challenges, you help them learn that
they’re capable of overcoming obstacles. Specific, honest praise is key to building
positive self-esteem.
For example, find ways to praise your child for working hard on the projects she does for
school and for fun. You could say, “Your hard work practicing the piano really shows
when you play that song. I know it was tough at first, but it was good to ask the piano
teacher for advice.” (Explore more tips on how to give praise that builds self-esteem.)
If there’s no activity that immediately appeals to your child, consider seeking out a
mentor for your child. Connecting with someone who’s a little further along in the
journey can inspire and build confidence in your child.
14.Point out successful role models with learning and thinking differences.
Knowing there are successful people, including athletes, celebrities and entrepreneurs
with learning and thinking differences who faced similar struggles can also be a source of
inspiration. For example, actor Daniel Radcliffe has said that doing stunt work for the
Harry Potter movies helped him overcome some of his struggles with dyspraxia.