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Etienne Waroquet
Amy Flick
ENGCOMP 0200-1425
30 October 2019
Growing up In Cleveland Heights had its many perks and benefits. It was my first home.
It was the first place I remembered growing up in and the first place where I had my best friends.
It was home and going to school was enjoyable and I really remember a striving family with a
mother and a father who loved each other. After their divorce, many things changed, but the
Being a short ten-minute walk, I would walk home from school every day. Sometimes as
I would come home, I’d hear my parents yelling at each other. It didn’t faze me at first but then it
grew increasingly concerning. A few months passed, and fighting didn’t stop. Sometimes my
mom would leave for the weekend or even longer and not tell my brother or I where she was
going. One day, the screaming and fighting were so severe that I remember my mom storming
out of the house with no conscious thought to look back. I was scared, concerned, and more so
worried for her. I did not know where she was going at the time, and I didn’t understand the
concept of parents fighting and arguing. That was the last time she stayed home.
I felt abandoned by my mother. She would call to tell us everything was okay, but my
father was always there for me. There are a lot of underlying issues from this exact moment that
are portrayed throughout my life every day. I have many trust issues with people and issues
opening up with others and being friends because my mind doesn’t want the same situation to
I had so much anxiety to go to school because I was scared of what was happening in my
home life. Some days I would have panic attacks so intense I’d cry endlessly in my classroom.
The school would call home and the only way I could function was if my dad was at school with
me. I was scared of being abandoned again. I was too young to understand that school was a
requirement and my parents couldn’t always be next to me. Over time, I had to cope with the fact
that my dad couldn’t go to school with me. He would leave small notes for me in my lunch box
and in my folders saying things like, “I love you, Etienne!” or “You’re the coolest 6-year-old I
know.” These comforted me and helped pushed me through the school day. By this time, I was in
the first grade and still learning basic skills, but I was able to recognize my dad’s unconditional
One day at home, I heard knocking on the door. When my father opened the door, a
sheriff’s deputy stood. He had implied that we were being evicted from the household. A large
part of being evicted was that there was a massive housing crash in 2008 in Cleveland.
Essentially, houses were being sold to people who couldn’t afford them. So, a large group of
residents in the Cleveland area were being evicted. During this time, I moved away to
Pennsylvania to live with my mom while my father was searching for a new house and living
with some of his friends. My mother and I for the most part were very close, but after the divorce
my relationship with her changed. I became unnecessarily hostile to her and I didn’t trust her
because I put the blame on her which I shouldn’t have. Going to Pennsylvania was a difficult
time because I switched schools for a short while and had to make all new friends. I was already
prone to difficulties with socializing and moving made it all the more difficult. After a few
months passed, I moved back with my dad to a new town in Ohio. Things had slowly gotten back
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to normal and I was slowly becoming accustomed to living with my father while I visited my
Even to this day, I still do not know why my parents had gotten a divorce. I have a strong
idea as to why they did, but it is nothing I want to inquire about because those are memories that
pain me to look back on. Not a day goes by where I don’t think how my life would be if I never
Mental health is something that affects me to this day. I’ve seen many therapists and
talked to many people to hopefully better understand why I deal with difficult thoughts and how
to cope with them. For the most part, I don’t have many underlying issues anymore, but I have
been acutely shaped from my parent’s divorce. The positive experience I take from the entire
situation is that I am excited for my future. I have no issues with either my mother or father. I
understand that even during those times of fighting they endured while I was a kid, they still
wanted the best for me. Parents are not perfect people and they make mistakes. Despite all of
this, it makes me excited to have a relationship in the future and having a family. I’ve seen how a
family should and shouldn’t be and I couldn’t be more excited to meet someone I dearly care
The experiences I found myself subjected to taught me a lot about how and how a family
should be. This brings me to my central concern which is understanding how the scenarios I
experienced are similar to those of many other children worldwide. Having more support
opportunities may have helped me understand the scenario better at the time, but these are only
issues I can look back on and move forward from. The concerns of marital disruption are not
deeply studied and it’s important to understand the severity in which these issues affect people
In 2012, Fagan and Churchill described the repercussions divorce creates on a child’s
ability to create mannered social skills and dedicated family relationships. This paper seeks to
provide a wide array of knowledge on this matter providing science findings related to the
each year over a million American children suffering from divorce of their parents, which
represents over 20% of children (Fagan & Rector, 2000). Contradictory to the 1950’s where a
study was conducted showing approximately 368,000 divorces happened and 11% of children
were at the hands of marital disruption (Olito, 2019). The effects of divorce are continually
growing, suggesting that divorce among families is rapidly increasing. Divorces lead to an onset
of many social implications on children possibly inducing troubling futures for them. Studies
have shown that such instances may develop possible adolescent violence. A study by the
National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health indicated that families with one biological
cohabitating parent saw 42.6 percent of children getting into fights where-as families with two
married parents saw only 28.8 percent of kids getting into fights. Instances of violence early in
adolescence lead to the likelihood of violent relationships in adulthood underlying just a few
Through the review of the literature, the paper attempts to provide direct findings with
the use of statistical data presented in the form of charts and graphs regarding the concepts
affecting children suffering from marital disruption. The majority of the sources provided in the
literature text are conducted with smaller scale groups but remain consistent among other similar
studies. The goal being to direct the concern among children suffering through the divorce of
their parents.
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The first few sections of the paper recognize the limitations of family life created from
marital disruption. The later sections recognize common issues children retain from divorce in
their later teen life and adult life including apprehending social skills and an increase in violent
and criminal behavior stemming from anger and an inability to recognize their emotions. Upon
the divorce of parents, children have been known to express a wide range of emotions including
sadness, loneliness, anxiety, low self-esteem, and a sense of fault for the parents’ problems.
To examine the effects of marital disruption on children, the contradictions in age need to
be recognized in order to differentiate the effects these issues tend to have on children. Clinical
assessments are used as a standard to examine children’s mood and stability after a divorce. They
are referred to counselors and clinical programs for an in-depth analysis on the lasting issue.
Clinical assessments provided had a higher focus on extreme cases and results could not be
generalized for the majority of children who experience their parents’ divorce. Comparative
studies proved to be more concise and consistent as they examine quantifiable outcomes such as
and tests.
Cross sectional studying examines individuals at a given point in time in their life. This is
instrumental in understanding the effects of marital disruption on children because it’s shown
that the age a child may be has a drastic change on the outcome of their future. A Norwegian
research study found that children who experience divorce early in life are more likely to have
lower educational standards (Fagan & Churchill, 2012). It also states that boys whose parents
divorced while they were in elementary school had a higher tendency to develop problems in the
years that follow. Some of these problems included truancy, vandalism of others property, and a
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prevalence in dishonesty and lying (National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1996). However,
scores from tests still showed that children who experienced divorce at any age had a higher
In reading Fagan’s and Churchills piece there was a direct correlation to family
detachment from marital disruption. The primary effect shown immediately was a decline in the
relationship of the parent and the child. Divorce at any age for children under the age of four
showed they had a decrease in trust of their mothers later on throughout their child years.
However, for boys, they were likely to improve their relationship and trust with their mother two
years after a divorce. The National Survey of Families Households found that nearly one in five
divorced fathers hadn’t seen their children in the past year after a divorce. After divorce children
were more likely to have less contact with their father than with their mother showing 38% of
daughters would not have contact with their fathers and 20% of sons of divorced parents would
not have contact with their father. Boys had responded with much more hostility in a parental
divorce than girls. Fathers also reported a more distant relationship with their children showing
they created a more negative change in relationships than custodial mothers (Fagan & Churchill
2012).
Often the first conflict coming from a marital disruption for children is parental
becoming a vulnerability along with a lack in social skills following a marital disruption.
Kathleen O’Connell Corcoran is a nationally recognized mediator studying the effects of marital
disruption on children and providing conflict resolution. A study written by Kathleen O’Connell
Corcoran found the common signs of concerns in psychological behaviors in children ranging
from infants up to 12 years old. Infants and toddlers tended to show signs of regression, irregular
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sleep patterns, and disturbances. They persisted with crankiness but a stronger difficulty in
leaving their parents. From the ages of three to five kids were resorting to blaming themselves
for their parents’ divorce and continuing to show a greater fear of being abandoned; clinginess.
In early adolescence children six to eight years old, pervasive sadness was a typical onset.
Children tended to be mentally torn apart and struggled to feel accepted. Older children, usually
ages nine to twelve, were able better comprehend the situation. Children around this age would
show signs of intense anger and usually blame a parent for causing the divorce. However, they
exhibited signs of introversion in school and felt different from other children. In addition,
O’Connel Corcoran found children among all ages had an increase in anger after a marital
disruption.
Among the studies read, marital disruption appears to create effects and concerns on
children worldwide. The studies used similar methods of obtaining results through recognizing
effects created by marital divorce. Years have passed showing current generations, like
millennials, have a lower divorce rate then the generation of baby boomers due in part from the
tendency to focus on their career path before considering marriage (Joe Pinsker). When looking
at current effects on children, some of the strongest concerns affect kids in their early developing
years and create lasting effects that have to be recognized early on. The studies recognize the
issues and affects created. Consequently, a lack of remediation techniques has been provided
within the studies which prevents understanding into techniques best for helping solve the
effects on children worldwide that affect their capability of fitting in with the rest of society and
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