Social Self

Relating Harmoniously and Properly with Everyone

Social Psychology
▪ Study of social relationships or
interactions
▪ Studies individuals as they interact with
others (Lahey, 2007)
▪ Goal is to understand and explain how
thoughts, feelings, perceptions and
behaviors are influenced by the presence
of, or interactions with, others. (Plotnik &
Kouyoumdjian, 2014)
▪ Study of the effect of social factors on
individual behavior, attitudes,
perceptions and motives. (Gerrig &
Zimbardo, 2002)
Interaction VS Relationship

▪ Interaction – mutual and

reciprocal exchange of
communication or action between
two or more persons or group.
▪ Relationship – particular way in
which two or more individuals,
groups, or even countries talk to,
behave toward or deal with each
other.
– Time
– Effort
– Commitment
Activity 1
½ Crosswise
Interaction VS Relationship

1. In an afternoon workshop session of a two-day

seminar, six students from different schools who met
one another only during this activity were asked to
discuss and exchange views about the topic “effective
student leadership.” They elected a leader to steer the
discussion.
Interaction VS Relationship

2. Three schools entered into an agreement as “sister-

schools” for five years. These schools agreed that they
will share library facilities, science labs, computer labs,
and instructional materials for the use of their
students—all for the goal of improving their students’
performance.
Interaction VS Relationship

3. Four students were seated in the bleachers

watching a basketball game. While the game was
going on, they discussed with one another the
strategies of the most valuable player. After the
game, they went home.
Interaction VS Relationship

4. A group of medical doctors are members of an

organization. Every end of the month, they come
together to report what they have accomplished in their
assigned projects. They also present the problems they
encountered while doing the projects. Other members
of the group would help by giving suggestions or
possible solutions to their problems.
Interaction VS Relationship

5. The alumni of CCA, Computer Science Class of 2023,

come together to attend the annual grand reunion every
December. They have become a closely-knit group, such
that even outside of the December grand reunion, they
meet, plan, and implement projects for their school. On
certain occasions, they get together in parties where
they sing, dance, and exchange stories.
Interaction VS Relationship

6. There is a long line of people waiting to be served by the bank.

Two persons who were classmates many years ago recognized
and greeted each other: “Are you Jonneeel? We were classmates
20 years ago in high school.” Jonnneell answered, “Yes, I am.
OMG, are you Leila?” After the first exchange of greetings, they
shared with each other many things about their jobs, families,
and what keeps them busy. Thirty minutes later, they were
served by the bank and each went their separate ways.
Person Perception
- forming impressions and making judgments about another person’s
likability after your first meeting; formed with bias based on past
experiences and with little conscious thought.

- Physical appearance
Activity 2
 Teacher #2
Teacher #1

What are your initial What are your initial

thoughts or ideas about thoughts or ideas about
this teacher? this teacher?

Who do you like

better?
 Teacher #1
Teacher #2

1) What are your initial thoughts or 2) What are your initial thoughts or
ideas about this teacher? ideas about this teacher?

3) Who do you like better?

Justify your answer.
 Social Norms
▪ spoken and unspoken rules on
how to behave in a particular
social group or culture
▪ provide order in society
▪ guide and direct their behavior
▪ to provide order and
predictability in social
relationships
▪ to make sense of and
understanding of each other’s
actions
ACTIVITY 3
 A. Describe how you are expected to behave in
the following places/situations:

1. Attending a formal party 7. Seeing your crush

2. Studying in the CCA library 8. Participating in a class group activity

3. Eating lunch at the canteen 9. Riding on a jeepney wherein only ¼ of

your butt is seated ☺
4. Attending a seminar
10. Cheering for your classmates in a
5. Seeing your friend after 10 years
competition
6. Meeting a new teacher
B. Determine if the behavior is appropriate (A) or
inappropriate (I):

___1. Sharing stories at the library ___6. Wearing shorts in an interview

___2. Laughing inside the church ___7. Fighting with classmates

___3. Flushing toilet after use ___8. Going to class on time

___4. Listening in class discussion ___9. Asking for yellow paper

___5. Eating inside the classroom ___10. Keeping your area clean
Together as a Group
Social Facilitation
. . . occurs when the performance of
each individual member of the group
is enhanced in value or quality; made
better.
Social Loafing
. . . a phenomenon where individuals tend
to become less motivated and expend
less effort when working collectively
compared to when working alone.
Conformity

Yielding to group
pressure to act as
everyone does, even
when no direct request
has been made.
FACTORS make conformity more likely to
exist in a group:

Size of the group: the

more people there in a
group, the more likely a
member tends to
conform.
Unanimous groups:
conformity is highest
when an individual faces
a group in which all
members feel the same
way about a topic, a
problem, or an issue.
FACTORS make conformity more likely to
exist in a group:

▪ Culture:
-welfare of an individual = less
conforming
- collective welfare = more
conforming
- high degree of conformity leads
to faster accomplishments of a
task or work
▪ Gender: female
Consider the following prior to yielding
to group pressure:

▪Will conforming do you any good? What advantages or

rewards will you get from it?
▪Will conforming endanger your personal integrity and
that of your loved ones?
▪Will it cost much on your part if you conform?
▪Will you be penalized or punished if you do not conform?
▪Will things change if you conform or do not conform to
social pressure?
ACTIVITY 4
SCHOOL RULES
School Rules

▪ Recall one school rule/policy/guideline that pertain to student

life and welfare. Write down the rules and regulation you
recall.
▪ What did you think about these rules, policies or guidelines?
▪ How did you feel when you were asked to follow the rules,
policies or guidelines of the school?
▪ Are you complying with these requirements now?
▪ What are the certain rules that you are not comfortable with?
▪ What ways are you coping with such situation?
Annoying people can be charged for being 'annoying'
GROUP ACTIVITY

▪ CONDUCT A CONFORMITY EXPERIMENT

▪ VIDEO
▪ TUESDAY: NEXT WEEK
 Social Roles
▪ Specify the part or position of a person in
society
▪ Identify the behavior expected to be
exhibited by an individual in practicing
his/her role
 Sociogram
▪ Indicates the social structure of a group and the relationship of
people within that group.
WRITE DOWN YOUR NAME AND THE NAME
OF YOUR CLASSMATE WHOM YOU LIKE TO
WORK WITH IN A SCHOOL PROJECT.

CHOOSE ANOTHER CLASSMATE TO

CONTINUE PLOTTING THE SOCIOGRAM.
Nature and
Depth of
Relationships
 Familiarity
▪ It refers to being comfortable with another
person and is a necessary condition for a
close relationship to develop.
Attraction

What attracts
someone to
another person?
Attraction

What makes people spend more time with each

other or with one another?
Attraction
Is physical attraction important at the early
stages of relationship?
Attraction

▪ It may lead to deeper

relationships
▪ Similarities
▪ Differences
Love
▪ It is a special attachment one has for
himself/herself or for somebody else.
 Love
▪ Intense feeling of deep or
constant affection and
emotion in which a person
always sees to the good,
happiness, and welfare of
the other.
 Love
▪ Person is willing to
sacrifice or to give up
something for the good
of the object of his/her
love
3 Most Common Kinds of Love
1. Romantic Love
– Passionate Love
– Intermingling of different emotions
– Intense Psychological Feelings
– Physiological Arousal / Strong sexual
desire
– Avoid conflict
– Feelings of completeness
– Short-lived
3 Most Common Kinds of Love
2. Affectionate Love
▪ Companionate Love
▪ It occurs when someone has deep and
caring affection for a person and desires
to have him/her near constantly
▪ Familiarity & tolerance for short-comings
▪ More enduring than passionate love
3 Most Common Kinds of Love

3. Consummate Love
▪ Strongest and fullest type of love
▪ Passion, intimacy and commitment
The Triangular Theory of Love

▪ Passion – physical and sexual attraction

▪ Intimacy – emotional feelings of warmth,
closeness and sharing of relationship
▪ Commitment – cognitive appraisal of the
relationship and the intent to maintain it even in
the face of problems
▪ One or a combination = love or love-like feeling
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

▪ Infatuation (fling or affair) =

Passion
▪ Intimacy + Commitment –
Passion = Affectionate Love
▪ Passion + Commitment –
Intimacy = Fatuous Love
▪ 3 Components =
Consummate Love
Create your own poem with love as the theme.

1 whole sheet of paper

 Attitudes

▪ These are beliefs that predispose

people to act and feel in certain
ways towards people, objects or
ideas
▪ Positive Attitude – happy, pleasant
or optimistic disposition
▪ Negative Attitude – pessimism or a
general feeling of dislike
▪ 3 distinct features: Belief, feelings,
and disposition
 Negative Attitude: Beggar

▪ Belief: “Nagnenenok”
“Namimihasa”
▪ Feelings: Strong dislike
▪ Disposition: Refusal to give
How Attitudes Originate?

2 Sources:
– 1. First-Hand Experience
– 2. Accounts by others (Modeling and
Reinforcement)
Are attitudes permanent?
Persuasive Communication

▪ Depends on the speaker, message and listener

 Stereotypes

▪ Generalizations in which
the same traits or
characteristics are
assumed to be possessed by
all members of a group.
▪ Negative Stereotypes
accompanied by:
– Prejudice
– Discrimination
 Negative Stereotypes

▪ Prejudice – Unfair, biased or

intolerant attitude or opinion
towards the members of the group
▪ Discrimination – specific unfair
behavior or treatment towards the
members of a group
– Racism – skin color or ethnic
heritage
– Sexism - gender
Challenges in life are inevitable...
Comes out stronger to face another
challenge…
Feels defeated or discouraged..
The outcome boils down to the person’s
attitude….