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Max Lukominskyi, Life and productivity hacker. Published on Huffington Post, Thought Catalog
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1. Life Has Already Begun. There is no interlude. Nor is there trial version of life. Your
every decision matters.
2. Your Online Friends Are Fake Friends. Unfortunately, yes. Most of them do not care
about you and will not come in your hour of need.
3. If You Fall In Love, Be Ready To Get Your Heart Broken. It is tough and it hurts.
 4. Studying Did Not Finish After Prom Party. Knowledge is crucial. If you are not
willing to be left behind, keep studying.
5. Members Of Your Family Are The Most Important People In Your Life. They are
the only ones who care about you. Treat them well and appreciate them respectively.
6. Your Weaknesses Do Not Matter. Learn to accept this. The only thing that matters is
your strengths. Improve them.
7. Everything Worth Doing Take Years. Do not expect to attain your goals too fast.
Probably it will take much longer than you imagine.
8. All The Opportunities For Growth Are Beyond Your Comfort Zone. Develop a habit
to leave it. Find your discomfort zone. Enter it.
9. Broken Relationships Are Not Worth Staying In. Do not waste your time on things
you cannot fix anymore. Let them go and move ahead.
10. World Is Full Of Injustice. There are plenty of unjust things you are likely to face
within your life. Be ready!
11. Luck Comes To Those Who Work Hard. Good things do not come to those who wait.
Persistence and hard work are the only prerequisites for luck.
12. There Is No Perfect Moment To Start. If you want to start doing something, act now.
Do not wait for better moment. It will never come.
13. You Cannot Be Everywhere And Have Everything. Learn to make right choices and
commit to things that matter most.
14. Every Person In Your Life Should Be Appreciated. Do not take people for granted.
15. Experience And Emotions Are Your Best Investments. The traditional measures of
success — fancy cars and houses —  are no longer  relevant. Emotions, memories,
experience, knowledge. This is what matters.
16. Later Often Means Never. Do not postpone anything. Live now!
17. Success Equals Perseverance. Do not give up. Stay dedicated to your dreams. Chasing
them is difficult. Nonetheless, it is worth the struggle.
18. Regular Workouts Are Crucial. Take care of your health and body. Exercise regularly
and make sure you are in a good shape.
19. Your Failures Do Not Matter. Only wins count. Therefore do not be afraid to fail.
20. Nobody Will Help You. You gotta help yourself.

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Sahil Khan, Always ready to learn an new life lesson :)

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12 Life Lessons We All Can Learn From Spongebob Squarepants

Spongebob Squarepants is probably everyone’s favourite cartoon character. The little square
yellow man was the epitome of every fun and joyful thing in life. Along with his trusted buddy
Patrick Star, their shenanigans were loved the world over.

But what did we learn from this bubbly little character?

1. Always be positive

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A happy and positive outlook to life is all you need to live an awesome life.

2. Always be ready
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Be on your toes and life will sort itself out.

3. Don’t let others’ judgements tie you down

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Don’t worry about others. Empty vessels make more noise. Nothing and no one is going to
tarnish your awesomeness.

4. Be the person who makes the world a better place

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Be kind. Help others out. Spread a few smiles if you can’t actively help anyone.

5. Be fascinated with everything

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The world is full wonders. Ask questions, take in surprises, get to know more. A fascinated mind
is a richer mind.

6. Love your work

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Work is worship. Love it and you can hate nothing in your life.

7. Always keep a goal in your life

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Life needs a direction. And a goal is the way to do so. Having a goal will keep you focused and
driven in life.

8. Respect people who are different from you

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People who aren’t like aren’t bad people. They’re just… different. Respect the differences and
see your life in a new light.

9. Friendship is everything

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This can’t be stressed enough. Friends help make life better when no one else can. Friends are an
indispensable part of everyone’s life.
10. Laugh as much as you can

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Laughter is the best medicine, and when you laugh, you make the world a happier place.

11. Be different

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Celebrate your weirdness. If you’re the same as everyone, how will you stand out of the crowd?

12. Never quit

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Dean Yeong, I live consciously. Published on Elite Daily, Thought Catalog and more.
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thought alone. and Abhijit Nayak, Amateur Human
Most Viewed Writer in Life Advice with 30+ answers

1. Having a job is not a bad idea. It puts food on your table, it pays your bills.
2. Your dad/mum is right. Believe me, they're right with most of the things you don't
believe in.
3. There is nothing as overnight success. Work hard for your goals.
4. You might still fail even when you work fucking hard. The truth is, you don't have
absolute control over anything. So, be flexible.
5. Your family members are the most important people in your life. Respect them, in
most cases, they matter more than your friends.
6. You're going to fail hard. You will, take it as your achievement.
7. No one cares. Except your parents, even your friends might not care.
8. No one will help you. Only you can help yourself.
9. This is not the time for you to ruin your body. Take good care of your body, you can't
undo the damages in your 30s and 40s.
10. Don't waste time. Same with your health, you can't gain it back.
11. You're responsible for everything. Don't push them to anyone else.
12. He/she might not be the one. You might experience serious heartbreak, but it's not the
end of the world.
13. You need to stop complaining. It does nothing and changes nothing.
14. Start budgeting. Money is fucking important, learn to manage it.
15. Use YOLO the right way. You only live once, so do something meaningful.
16. Read more. It’s time to communicate with solid substance.
17. You're not that special. If you really want to become someone, work for it.
18. Your weaknesses don't matter. So, please don't be afraid to make mistakes. No one
expects you to be perfect.
19. It's not the last 3 years of your life. Don't live in a hurry.
 20. Consistency is the key. Every achievement requires the test of time, master something
with consistency.

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Edit: thanks for all the upvotes. I can't help it, I have to add two more I personally think are
extremely important!

21. Outcome is not equal to intention. Most people have good intention, but the outcome might
be varied. Don't judge anyone based on an outcome. And never define yourself based on your
outcome too. Double check on the intention.

22. Happiness comes from within. Stop searching and chasing for external things to fulfill
yourself. None of them will and you will end up with bigger disappointment. Happiness is
already there, within yourself.

___

I write on DeanYeong.com, where I share ideas on becoming better by mastering our behaviors
and habits.

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Yuri Kruman, A Great Life is Lived Half by Perception, Half by Relentless Action.
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1. Nobody owes you a damned thing in life. The sooner you get this, the sooner you can
take responsibility for improving your life.
2. You are solely responsible for yourself, your actions, speech and thoughts. Not your
parents, not your friends, not your spouse or children. YOU.
3. Hell is other people - if you hang around people that are always negative, don’t want the
best for you and otherwise hold you back from achieving your potential. Get rid of those
people ASAP.
4. Sausage in, sausage out. Be super careful about what food you put in your mouth, what
music you listen to, what books you read, what movies you watch, etc. If you consume
bad food or garbage content regularly, you will become garbage yourself.
5. You are not a special butterfly. Every single person puts their pants on, one leg at a
time, yourself included. Every person struggles from time to time. Every person wants to
cry out.
6. There are no magic life hacks to become successful overnight. You have to hustle
constantly, sell yourself to everyone you meet, tell a good story and always know how to
get your point across to every audience you encounter.
7. There is always someone smarter, more motivated, harder-working, prettier, richer,
more precocious than you. The worst thing you can do is to compare yourself to other
people. Compare yourself instead to your own potential and you’ll be on the right road.
8. You will not know nearly the full extent of your potential until you are challenged to
your core, repeatedly, and live up to your promise, time and time again. Resilience is
key, along with imagination, creativity and a glass always half full (even when it looks
empty). Seek out the challenges first before they seek you out to drag you through hell.
 9. Good intentions lead to one place and one place only, when unaccompanied by
actions. Be a man or woman of your word and you will gain instant value in the eyes of
others.
10. Mastering a skill, job or career takes a lot longer than just becoming conversant,
but often a lot sooner than 10,000 hours. It takes patience, dedication, the motivation to
always be the best, especially when you’re surrounded by other brilliant, motivated
people that have been doing what you want to be doing for years.
11. People in business will help you (almost always) only after you help them first. Don’t
ask for something from a person before offering him or her some concrete value first.
12. It certainly helps to be good-looking and well-connected. But if you’re neither, being
well-spoken, motivated and passionate might just take you further in life than looks and
connections.
13. Life is inherently unfair (see #7 above). Your job is to find and exploit your own unfair
advantage in this world better and faster than the others. Don’t bitch and moan. Be
resilient and focus on the results above all. You’ll be surprised how far you’ll get.
14. You need more work as a human being than you can imagine - and are a better
person than others would have you think. Marriage will quickly set you straight about
any delusions on this subject.
15. Your parents did a great job raising you - and still messed you up completely.
Everyone’s broken to some degree. A good therapist can help you put the pieces back in
the right order.
16. The things you learned in school aren’t worth sh*t without life skills to go alongside.
It’s true what they say - universities don’t teach critical life skills like financial planning
and management, negotiation, how to read and interpret a contract, how to read another
person, etc. Without these, all the fancy degrees in the world are for naught - especially in
business.
17. Oftentimes, the harshest events in life (breaking up, getting fired, going broke) can
be the best stimuli for you to finally get your life in order. Don’t let things get to that
point before acting! But if you do, focus on solutions, not on the past.
18. Attention span is at its shortest in human history. GET TO THE POINT! The one
thing busy people can’t stand most is RAMBLING. Make your point and move on (and
let me move on, too).
19. You are lucky to have even one true friend in (real, not virtual) life. Don’t blow it!
Cultivate your friendship regularly and buy your friend a gift, once in a while.
20. All the material goods in the world will never make you feel rich and satisfied. Only
EXPERIENCES can do that, including breaking up, getting fired, going broke, traveling
abroad, making new friends, learning new languages, getting out of your comfort zones,
taking internships in different industries, starting a business, changing careers, and so on.

The key to getting through the harsh lessons of one’s 20s is to… REMEMBER, THERE IS
ALWAYS A SOLUTION TO EVERY PROBLEM.

Best of luck! I’ll be rooting for you.

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I’m here to help: The Blueprint to Thrive

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Ajinkya Dwivedi, 24 years on the planet earth

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20s is critical age group and you ought to learn many life lessons till then. Some of the
harsh lessons that you should know by then are :

 Your parents love you more than anyone else.

 True friends and true love are hard to get.
 Beauty and intelligence don't go together, generally. Prefer intelligence.
 Facebook and instagram likes do not determine you.
 Your college love is inarticulated now and is more probable to be lost or fade, with time.
 Don't expect much from people. They will disappoint you.
 Everything that happens, happens for reason, good perhaps. Let the things unfold
themselves.
 It is OK to be rejected. You should move on,accepting it politely. May be something
better is awaiting you.
 Failures do occur. They are not the end. Many successful personals started with failures.
 IQ aint the only measure of intelligence. Control your feelings. Emotional intelligence, it
is called.
 Respect your rivals or competitors. They have something to teach.
 You ain't the only expert out here. Many are better than you.
 If you wont do it, someone else would.
 Patience do bear fruits.
 Cherish that you have. You are lucky.
 Don't run away from quagmires. World will exist with or without you.
 Everyone has their reservations and feelings, respect that.
 Experience of your elders help. Their words would sound hackneyed but are wise.
 Dialogue can sort out things.
 Money is not everything, but make sure you have enough to talk such shit.
 Life ain't a race, no need to run vehemently.

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Robert Locke, Writes on lifehacks, contributor to The Good Men Project and Lifehack
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Here are my top twenty:-

1. Learn a bit about saving instead of spending

Start thinking about buying property and even pension funds (perish the thought!)

2. Learn that failure is all part of the big game of life

I really respect the Princeton professor, Johannes Haushofer who published his list of CV
failures! You can read the full list here.

https://www.princeton.edu/~joha/...

3. Face up to the gaps in your resume/CV

Time to get rid of all those mismatches and plan to start acquiring all those missing skills.

4. Start making real connections

Play down all the social media and concentrate on getting some real networking done. That may
mean outside your own company/group of contacts and so on. If you are an introvert, Susan Cain
has some great advice in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop
Talking

5. Get serious about your social media profiles

This means that you have to stop posting rubbishy selfies onFacebook and Instagram as
employers actually check out a few things here. Instead, aim at using that stuff less and building
up a great profile on LinkedIn

6. Stop looking back and ruminating

Too many regrets? That’s for losers. The only way is forward. Think of what David Livingstone,
the great explorer said:-
7. Stop texting so much

Especially when driving. I am going to invent an anti-phone device for cars so that everybody
(yes, and all those “adults” over 20 too!) can stop causing death on the roads. Why mar your life
with a tragedy like that?

8. You cannot catch up on your sleep at the weekends.

Doesn’t really work and you can read why in my Quora answer here:-

Robert Locke's answer to Does anyone sleep only once every two nights? Is it possible and how
healthy?

Some people now are advocating that we go back to our ancestral ways (sleep in several phases)
and have shorter phases of sleep and also do it during the day. They claim it is much more
productive. You can read this guy’s story here at Business Insider. He has 3 x 2o minute naps
during the day! Overall , he is getting only about 4/5 hours of sleep and he claims he is saving a
ton of time.http://www.businessinsider.com/t...

9. Hangovers are a pain

And a waste of time and energy! If you have to drink like that, just drink plenty of water, before,
during and afterwards. Water will keep you from getting dehydrated. This is the main cause of a
hangover.

10. Ditch toxic friendships

You know those people who hang around you. They sometimes take advantage or are not
reliable or are simply whiners. Get rid of them or avoid them whenever or wherever possible!
11. Go for high quality friends

Real friendships are like gold. They have to stand the test of time. Are you ready to do your bit?

12. Stop making excuses about missing deadlines and your workouts.

13. Stop eating fast food

Once I started to learn how to cook, my life, health, and social standing all changed dramatically.
Opens all sorts of vistas and is a great bonder in any situation.

14. Stop closing your mind and explore

“Keep an open mind – but not so open that your brain falls out”. – Carl Sagan
15. Stop driving fast

Last weekend, a 22 year old Italian driver lost control of his car at a roundabout. The car
ploughed into a group of guys who were having a drink at a nearby bar. Four of them were
killed, including the driver’s own brother!

16. Buy an educational app

Yes, stop all those games and start reading summaries of books while waiting for appointments.
The Blinkist app is a great way (no affiliate link here) to speed up your learning and fill in those
gaps in your knowledge.

17. Keep tattoos covered

Unfortunately, people still view these with mixed reactions and if you work in the service
industries, it makes sense to have them well hidden. Even in some business circles they are
frowned upon.

18. Get distractions under control.

Don’t let Facebook and email rob your valuable time. Lots of apps you can get to help you.

19. Learn to move out of your comfort zone

I have written an article on this here at Lifehack.

Practice These 10 Little Things If You Want To Step Out From Your Comfort Zone

20. Learn the art of being happy.

Here is what science says about this.

10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time

It’s not rocket science!

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1. It’s impossible to make the right choice 100% of the time

 2. There is no “get-rich-quick” scheme that will build you sustainable income in a week.
Getting rich takes time and often longer-term investments.
3. You will have seen some of your friends from college for the last time.
4. Many people are different from the person they embody in their first impression. Many
people attempt to sell you just on their first impression.
5. Roughly 10% of people will always criticize your work. It may have nothing to do with
you and everything to do with how their mind works.
6. There is no ideal morning routine that will drive your productivity through the roof. Yoga
and Coffee doesn’t automatically turn you into a machine.
7. There will be a time in your life where someone will be able to get something you want
simple because they have more money.
8. You will burn atleast one bridge that you do not even know about.
9. You will have to forgive someone who is not sorry or assume an apology from someone
who has not given one. It’s because they care more about their ego than your relationship.
10. The respect you earn in high school or college will buy you nothing after you leave high
school or college. It has to be constantly earned.
11. You will get rejected by a company or by a person. It may have nothing to do with your
worth but simply how someone else perceives your worth.
12. You will do atleast one favor without being appreciated or acknowledged.
13. You will have to compromise on one area of comfort in order to find comfort in another
area. This is especially true at work.
14. Being honest and straightforward is the right thing to do yet being honest and
straightforward may not always make you the most popular person in the room.
15. You will often fail to get something you want because of timing. It has nothing to do with
preparation or passion. It has everything to do with timing.
16. There will be someone smarter and more skilled than you with the exact same interests.
In fact, there is already someone younger than you that has met the President.
17. Your primary barrier will be yourself. You will perceive limits that do not exist simply
because of fear or apprehension.
18. There are rules, protocols, and systems of thinking that make no sense but will never
change simply because they have always existed. This includes constitutional
amendments.
19. No amount of money can help you change someone else’s behavior, create a long-term
relationship or make someone fall in love with you.
20. There is no one definition, formula, or objective path to happiness. In fact, you will meet
hundreds of people who will try to charge you and coach you on how to be happy. Only
you can find your sweet spot.

Yet, despite this, life goes on :-)

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Daniel Ndukwu, Everyday is an adventure. Here are some of mine
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1. Protect yourself when traveling or you'll regret it.

I travelled to South Africa 2 years ago to visit my uncle in Johannesburg. I thought it'd be a good
idea to go a few days early, get sloppy drunk, and have lots of sex in Cape Town.

I succeeded on all three points, but got too drunk and woke up with no money, no ID, no phone,
and no cards. I had to Facebook my uncle.

2. No one cares until you care

We each live in our own world where the primary concern is ourself. If you want people to help
you then you've got to give them a reason. Usually that entails you helping them first.

3. It's really and truly about the journey.

I finished high school and was like what next, then went to college. I finished college and was
like what's next, then started traveling. After that I was like what next and started a small
business. I'm like what next now and realize I'll be asking this question for the rest of my life.
Enjoy the ride.

4. Your hearts going to get broken. Repeatedly.

What can I say, we're young, wild, and free. We love hard and fight harder. I love all my old
partners because they've all taught me more about myself and life.

5. Your family matters. A lot. Cherish them.

I'm headstrong and have been in some pretty messed up situations. Jail, robbed, stranded. You
know who helped me every single time? My family, especially my sisters. I'd give an arm for
them (the left one) and wear it like a badge of honor.

6. Trust carefully.

I've had my small fortune stolen from me by my business partner and basically been told "there's
nothing we can do about it" you can read about that escapade here.

When we don't know any better we trust based on words. Learn to trust based on actions and
nothing else.

Also, I have thousands in uncollected debt from "friends"

7. You have to love yourself first

Looking outside yourself for unconditional love is asking for trouble. Loving yourself, being
comfortable in your own skin, and doing what fulfills you is the most amazing aphrodisiac
known to man.

8. You won't survive without a thicker skin

I used to think every time a relative stranger said something or did something wrong to me, it
was because of me. I'm slowly starting to realize that their behavior is a reflection of them, not
me.

9. You also won't survive without empathy.

People can usually tell when you're doing something with an ulterior motive. I've traveled
through some hard countries and almost wept at the way they were living. These people could
sense my empathy and welcomed me with open arms.

On the flip side, an empathetic leader can sense when his people are out of sorts and will be able
to react to that; improving moral. Here's a cool article about it.

10. We don't know anything about life.

If you're twenty and think you know about life, you're mistaken. I'm twenty six, have started
multiple businesses, have lost a lot and made a lot. I don't know anything.

 My father survived a civil war.

 My cousin had her first kid at 17.
 I know a young family considered internally displaced persons (they have no where to go
in their own countries)

You and I, we don't know anything. Not yet at least.

11. The parents are right about 75% of the time.

The same way you look at a toddler about to stick their hand in the fire is the same way our
parents look at us.

They know you'll regret some of your decisions and try to guide us, but we have to make those
mistakes on our own. Just ask them what they think and try to follow their advice. You'll thank
them later.

12. Shit happens

You plan, you research, you execute and nothing turns out how you wanted. It's life, you gotta
roll with the punches or get knocked out.

13. More shit happens

After you roll a few times, you get better at it. Life's been throwing right jabs up until now. The
next one’s going to be a left hook. You won't see it coming. It will knock you down. The secret
is to not let it knock you out.

14. Shit never stops happening

You're an old pro by this point. You've weathered countless storms and have finally realized that
life will always be trying to knock you down. Here’s a prayer I say every chance I get and try
and live my life by.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

15. If you want to be a life coach. Don't

I never did this, but I know a few twenty somethings that did. You don't know anything about
life, who are you coaching?

16. Learn to stick your foot in the door first.

No one is going to lend you a million dollars if they've never given you ten.

The micro commitment is what strong relationships are built on.

Picture these two emails.

Hi,

My name is Daniel and I'm a 26 year old entrepreneur who's been featured in places like
Hubspot, Entrepreneur, and The Huff Post.

I'd like to interview you for a new book I'm writing about business management in the 21st
century.

It deals with:

- company Culture

- blue oceans

- media relations

- leadership

And a few other topics.

I've attached the questions to this email and would appreciate a response within a week.

Cheers,
Daniel

Or this one.

Hey (first name),

My name is Daniel, I'm a huge fan of your work. I especially love (write why you're a fan of
them)

Anyways, I'm writing a short book on management and would be ecstatic if you could share a
few insights.

It'll expose you to a different audience and further solidify your expertise.

Could I send over a few questions?

Daniel

The firs email gets almost no responses. The second email is hovering at about 45% depending
on the request.

Focus on the relationship and ask what you know they can easily give before you ask for the
world.

17. An interesting skill is worth it's weight in gold

This goes beyond being a math wizard or reading comprehension.

I mean something like playing the piano or violin. Learning how to dance the tango or sing.
Learning how to read body language or build rapport. The art of the physical touch. Making a
Martini, learn to cook a few nice dishes, or psychology.

These skills have a very profound indirect and sometimes direct impact on our lives.

18. You need to read more

I read about one book a week plus or minus a hundred pages and I still need to read more.

There are so many benefits of reading, I can't begin to name them. Just read a variety.
Inspirational, fiction, and non fiction should all be part of the mix.

19. You need to write more

Writing is something we take for granted these days, but writing with power and conviction is an
amazing skill. It helps you order your thoughts, and work through tough problems. Free writing
is something I've done for years and hope to never stop. Check out this app https://750words.com
Here are some articles to get you started here and here.

My only regret is that I didn't start sooner.

20. It's the best of time and worst of times

I'm just 26 and I've had countless ups and downs. Met countless amazing people and have the
energy to drink all night and still wake up at 6 in the morning to chase my dreams. To chase life.

It won't always be like this, I know, but for now, it's the best of times and the worst of times.

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1. You will be alone most of the time. Not lonely, but alone. Try to understand the
difference to avoid unnecessary suffering.
2. Happiness will not come easily as it came when you were young. You would have to
work towards it. Discipline and sacrifice would be your best bet. Don't get caught in the
YOLO gimmick.
3. Life will get boring. Your mind will wander. Learn to control it before it starts
controlling you.
4. Your best friend might no longer be your best friend. Your ex would have already moved
on. You will struggle. But it will imbue you with lots of wisdom. So don't curse yourself.
5. You'll realise in retrospect that very few people really loved you whilst others just wanted
something out of you.
6. Memories are not always good. More than often, they induce unncecesary fear, anxiety
and mood swings.
7. Time starts becoming the most valuable commodity. It will treat you like shit if you treat
it cheaply.
8. Whether you like it or not, people will talk behind you. Sometimes it would be the people
whom you trusted the most. Learn to ignore them.
9. You'll run down the guilt-valley more often than before. You will do things which you
know is not good for you but will anyways end up doing it. You will invariably be
distracted by foul things. This is your mind conquering your weak spot. Like I said,
discipline can save you.
10. You'll realize that success is not that easy after all. It's that difficult. You would be
tempted to give up on your dreams and live an average life. Don't.
 11. Things will go wrong. Personally and professionally. The unexpected will happen. There
won't be any reason/person to blame on. Your faith in humanity will plummet all of a
sudden. But hey, don't give up. Move on.
12. You start noticing your parents are getting old, your best friend is suffering from illness
or money constrait. You realize how much time you've wasted playing the ego game. So
don't wait. Make that phone call now.
13. Most of the times, you'll experience fear for no reason. When things are going good,
you'll dread on ‘what if this happiness goes away?’. When things are not going good,
you'll still dread on what's going to happen next.
14. You'll get your heart broken multiple times. And you'll have to break a couple of hearts
yourself. That's life. There no right and wrong here.
15. There are no good people/bad people. You'll have to come out of this cynical mind-set.
There are only people who bring you pleasantness and unplesantness. Remember, people
who bring unplesantness to you might bring pleasantness to someone else.
16. You'll realize that multi-tasking is not beneficial. You start focusing on one big goal/day
rather than 10 small goals/day. You'll learn to differentiate between being productive and
being busy.
17. You'll learn that not all emotions you experience are genuine. More than half of them are
mere mind-games. Learn to distinguish to avoid bouts of depression.
18. You'll be forced to change your attitude towards failures because you'll have more
failures than success. You will no longer react to events, but will eventually respond to it.
Reacting will get you into more trouble. Responding will move you towards a solution.
19. You'll realise that you can't be friends with everyone. And you don't have to be. Accept
this fact sooner than later.
20. You'll realise that earning respect is more difficult than earning money. And it's the
respect that would eventually make you feel proud about yourself in life.

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1.Choose your engineering stream after lot of research about the field and introspect your
interest area instead of diving in Blindly.

2.Don't act differently around opposite sex.The right ones will like the real you.So No
Pretention.

3.Buy a smartphone and use it as a tool and not as means to kill your boredom ,instead learn
interesting things like musical instrument or learn a language.

4.Get crazy about fitness.Have fitness idols like virat kohli,akshay kumar.Follow them.
5. Don't get emotionally involved with romantic movies.They project shit that never happens
in reality.

6.Nobody cares about your health and it is your own responsibility.

7.Healthy body and healthy mind should be your priority no.1.

8. Attach yourself to your goals,not to people.Carreer won't get up one day in morning and say
it doesn't love you anymore.

9.Be friends with people who you think can add something better to your personality.Positivity
is contagious.

10. Discuss Ideas with people who are more knowledgeable than you.Kill your ego.

11.Don't spend money on girls when you are not earning.It's your parents hard earned
money.Equal share is awesome or alternatively paying for each other works too.

12. Save money.Ranbir's dialogue in yeh jawani hai deewani about."Haat ka mail hai paisa,use
bachate nahi udate hai " is plain stupid.When kunal roy has a failed business,Ranbir wants to
help him with his savings.So save money.

13.Don't believe the rumors about a girl you like.It generally comes from guy who can't have
her or a girl who is jealous of her.Get to know people yourself and decide from your own
experience.

14. Always persue 3 hobbies.One which will rejuvenate you.One which can bring in money in
future .One which will add to your resume.

15. IF You think you are getting comfortable with mediocrity,Identify quickly and make some
future plans where you can excel.

16.Don't Drink and smoke due to peer pressure or to impress anyone.

17. Learn to say No.You can't please everyone on earth.Those who matter will understand.

18. Don't get into relationship without knowing yourself,your likes,dislikes.Don't have it as
an escape mechanism from your problems.Enjoying solitude is very important.

19. Don't take break ups personally.Break ups will teach a lot more than many
books.Experience is best teacher.What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

20. Your Parents are aging too,they need your support.Please spend time with them.That's all
they need and Deserve.

If you liked this, For a similar kind of question "What myths do we most commonly realize are
false in our 20's",

You might like to read my answer: Akhil Damodare's answer to What myths do we most
commonly realize are false in our 20s?
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1. Communication Is Everything: If you learn how to effectively command a room, think

on your feet, articulate yourself exceptionally and present your ideas in a way which
others can digest, understand and feel inspired by, you will be a force to be reckoned
with. If you do not, you may very well find yourself frequently ‘out-shone’ by people
who have mastered this skill.
2. Listen, Before You Speak: It is often in our nature to talk out of turn or readily project
our opinions onto others. However, it is an extremely valuable and necessary skill to
develop a habit of pro-active listening. Make a point of being an active listener, consider
and digest information before you respond and treat conversations as a constantly
evolving learning practice because, that is exactly what they are.
3. Your Success Is Entirely Up To You: In your twenties, you will quickly learn that no
one owes you anything. Your family, friends and colleagues will look out for you and
support you, but ultimately it is up to you now to pave your own way. The level of
reward you experience directly correlates to the level of effort and work you invest. Low
effort = low reward and vice versa.
4. On that Note, The Path To Success Is Not Short: Don’t assume your career path will
be an overnight success story. When it comes to success, both professionally and
personally, you will likely endure a number of learning curves before you hit your stride.
As such, your habits, work ethic, mindset and gumption truly matter. View your goals as
a long-term, evolving destination and commit yourself to the individual, daily tasks and
practices which will nudge you closer to that destination. Success is a marathon, not a
sprint and remember that there are no small plans.
5. Being Present Takes A Conscious Effort: Try to remember the importance of
grounding yourself in the present moment when you can. Take the time to examine your
mindset, meditate, reflect or whatever you need to do to quiet the rest of the noise in your
mind and focus on the present, entirely. This takes a conscious effort, but is continuously
important in a world where we are constantly plugged in and self absorbed.
6. Never Think You Have It All Figured Out, Because You Don’t: If you ever think you
know all there is to know about something, you’re wrong. In order to grow, adapt to
changing environments/demands and stay ahead of the rest of the group, you have to
always be hungry for new information. You have to always be learning. Read, ask
questions, consider other answers, debate topics, admit when you’re wrong and surround
yourself with people who are equally passionate and curious, as they will help propel you
 forward. Your University degree won’t define you, your desire to learn and continue
learning will. Remember this or you could be left behind.
7. The Dynamics Of Your Friendships Will Change: As we get older, friendships
become a little less convenient. Most of us work or study full-time, move around,
develop important daily demands and shift into different stages of our lives. During this
time, the company we keep is the company we make a conscious effort to keep. Don’t
view this as a negative change, but instead learn to invest in the people who invest in you.
Understand the difference between a friend who is fun to grab a drink with occasionally,
and someone who you would call if you were in trouble.
8. Kindness Matters: No matter what, remind yourself to be kind. Try to be self-aware
enough to check yourself and admit the moments when you’re being a jerk. When you
have the opportunity to improve someone else’s day, even in the smallest way, you
should act upon it. Maintain your manners, hold the door open, smile readily and put
basic kindness into practice whenever you can. The more positive energy you put out into
the world, the more you can expect to get back.
9. Don’t Take People For Granted: At the end of the day, the people we love are the
reason all the hard, messy stuff we work through is so worth it. Relationships and
connection are everything. Don’t ever take this for granted. Love, be loved and be
eternally, openly grateful for the connections you keep.
10. You Have to Take Responsibility: It is so easy to conjure up excuses for the mistakes or
bad judgements we make, but ultimately, we have to take responsibility for ourselves. If
you screw up, take ownership of it. That, in itself, is admirable (although not easy). The
more you commit yourself to the ownership of your actions and choices, the more likely
you are to prioritize them and make careful, calculated decisions.
11. Stop Saying “Later”: Seriously, procrastination is a quiet killer. Do you really want to
start each day with something hanging over your head from the previous day? The time is
now, act accordingly.
12. Stay True To What Moves You: There is no sense working a job which makes you too
tired to go home and live the life you are working to live. You shouldn't spend your hours
counting down the hours on a clock in an office, just to feel that there aren't enough hours
remaining for everything else. We have to be practical, yes, but that shouldn’t mean
sacrificing personal fulfillment. If you stay true to what move and excites you, you
should have the motivation to become a master of your craft and live a life which grants
you stability as well as passion and internal reward.
13. Don’t Obsess Over The Past: Don’t cheat on the present by remaining stuck on the past.
Keep moving forward, always.
14. Make Your Health A Priority: Take care of yourself, body and soul. Eat well (food is
fuel, seriously), laugh often, sweat every day, get enough sleep, limit harmful habits, give
yourself a day off when you need it and treat your body as the critical vessel that it is.
15. Look Up: Get your head out of your phone, your laptop and away from the TV. We live
in a digital age, which means we really need to work to ensure it doesn’t consume all of
our attention. When you’re with someone, focus on them and keep the phone out of sight.
When you have a free night, consider reading instead of a Netflix binge. If you need to
talk to someone, consider meeting up with them instead of messaging them via text or
email. Give yourself an hour of screen-free time before bed. These are little things we can
do to un-plug ourselves from the technology we so firmly attach ourselves to.
 16. Dating Culture Exists, But You Decide What You Accept: When it comes to dating,
especially in your twenties, it’s easy to feel like you are swimming an upstream battle.
While we are often painfully aware of the dating cultures which exist and feel their effect,
we decide whether or not we accept them as a rule to which we need to abide. If you
aren’t comfortable with a situation, you can remove yourself from it. Don’t abandon your
values and intentions to suit someone else’s. You can’t expect to find what (or whom)
you want if you’re constantly betraying your own desires, after all. Always remain open,
remain confident and remain honest with yourself and your heart.
17. Learn To Forgive: There is no sense in continuously investing precious energy into
malicious emotions and engagements. Of course, we will find ourselves angry or hurt at
times and we have the right to feel the levity of those emotions when they come, but it is
absolutely crucial to learn how to acknowledge those feelings and then let them go.
Forgive yourself, forgive others, understand when someone or something is introducing
negative energy into your life and forgive that too, but let it go as you do. Leave it and
your anger behind you. Unburden yourself so you can remain open to alternative
experiences as you move forward. If you don’t, you will define your future based on your
inability to forgive and forget the wrong-doings of the past.
18. Your Time Is Valuable: If you ask me, time is our most precious commodity. We are a
busy breed, generally speaking, so the time we invest is meaningful and holds a distinct
purpose and intention. Value your time and engage with people who value and respect
your time, not those who waste it or take it for granted.
19. Travel When You Can: “We travel because we need to, because distance and difference
are the tonic to creativity. When we get home, home is still the same, but something in
our minds has changed and that changes everything.”
20. Let Yourself Be Scared, But Also Be Organized: The best things in life are often the
ones that scare you the most. When we are in our twenties, we have to give ourselves the
freedom to take risks, some of which will scare the living crap out of us. That fear, those
nerves, those are okay. They are human. But, while we should embrace the madness that
comes with transitioning into adulthood and sorting out our passions and future, we must
maintain a method to the madness, too. To do this, make a habit of setting your intentions
and having mental check-in’s with yourself. Write your to-do lists in the morning,
schedule your time, stay on track to the big picture on a daily basis but grant yourself
permission to take a few leaps of faith, risks or breaths where necessary. We can’t control
everything, we can only be well prepared.

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1.You are already too late to keep wasting time → You have wasted enough time, and it is too
late to waste anymore. You have to get off of your ass right now.
2. No one cares about your past → Everyone has had it rough, no one has had an easy life, so
get over yourself. Your past does not define you anymore.

3. People only care about what you do → You may have been the greatest in college and high
school, but that means nothing in the real world. The only thing that matters is what you can
actually do with all you’ve learned.

4. Your friends will not last → Everyone changes, and if you keep your friends through all of
that, then you are not moving forward. A sign of progress is getting better friends.

5. You suck at everything you haven’t practiced → We all want to be amazing right out the
gates, but the truth is that we suck at almost everything. Therefore, if you want to get really
good, and amazing at the things you do, you are going to have to put a lot of time and effort into
it. It takes 10,000 hours to master something… how many hours have you invested?

6. Progress arises from uncomfort → Your comfort zone is your worst enemy, try to get out of
it as often as you can. That place should be like poison to you. The more uncomfortable you can
be the better.

7. You only truly fail if you surrender → Small “failures” happen all the time but they do not
define us. Unless you give up you cannot truly fail. Keep going, and do not be afraid to fall
down.

8. The perfect moment to start is right now → Any other moment than right now will never
come, you are always in the now. Do the things you said you would now, because tomorrow
never comes.

9. Life pays any price you ask of it → If you ask for more money, you will be given a penny
and that’s it. Ask of life whatever you want, and you will receive it.

10. Life only pays you after the work is done → No matter how long it takes, you will get what
you want if you just work hard & long enough.

11. It is not as easy at it seems → Success, the grind, relationships, family, job, work,
everything takes more work than you expect it to. Be prepared for it to be difficult.

12. Your addictions are distractions → TV, Video games and most of the internet, are all
addictions. They are of no benefit to you, and you are just addicted to these distractions. If you
want to reach success, you have to quit them like a bad smoking addiction, because that is what
they are.

13. People will help you, but you have to ask and give something first → Most people will
offer you a hand, but no one will do it for free. If you want the help of someone else, then be
prepared to offer them at least as much in advance.
14. Nothing productive happens after 10 p.m. → If you are still up after 10 p.m. it probably
means you are abusing drugs, going out to party or hanging around the wrong people. If you
want to reach your goals get to bed early and get up early.

15. If your body is not healthy, then you will break → Your body is the machine that makes
everything else work. It is a requirement to keep your body in top shape, and to put foods into it
that benefit it.

16. Happiness is not rocket science → Being happy is nothing more than a choice, do not make
it into this big, gigantic problem.

17. Get bigger problems → Right now you are fretting over tiny issues that wouldn’t even
bother most people. You will always have problems, so you might as well make them big!

18. If you do not believe in yourself, no one else will either → You spend the most time of the
day with yourself, so if you cannot believe in what you do, then no one else will get a chance to
either. Believe in yourself first!

19. Life will beat you to the ground countless times → You will fall, you will fail, you will
hurt, you will cry. That is a fact. The question is: Will you keep going afterwards or quit?

20. Pain is temporary. It may last a minue, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it
will subside, and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever. -
Lance Armstrong

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Hari Sriram, Life has taught me few things in the past 7000 days.
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1. Failures are the footrest in your ladder to success.

2. Hottest love will have the coldest end. (Quoted by Socrates)
3. ALL humans are selfish and hypocrites.
4. Lying is not always a mistake.
5. Blaming others is an absolute waste of time.
6. ONLY parents will love you unconditionally.
7. The world owes you nothing. (Quoted by Mark Twain)
8. If today is tough, tomorrow will be tougher.
9. Hope will get you through everything.
10. Making memories are more important than making money.
11. Respect is mutual. Give it only if you get it.
12. No one is forever. You came alone, you'll go alone.
 13. Never quit chasing your dreams even when it hurts.
14. ALWAYS prefer solutions that will help you in the long run over the ones that will give
momentary tranquillity.
15. Minutes go slow. Years go fast. Value your time.
16. Debts ruin relationships.
17. Don't promise when you're happy, Don't reply when you're angry, and don't decide
when you're sad. (Quoted by Ziad K. Abdelnour)
18. People who work with you are your colleagues, not friends.
19. Get busy living or get busy dying. (Quoted in the movie The Shawshaank Redemption)
20. Never walk in someone else's shoes. Be yourself!

Thanks for A2A, Priyanka Pangam. :)

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Thanks for the A2A! =)

Get ready for a platitude fest! ;)

1. Nobody cares, so make sure you do. That goes for everything. Yourself, others, the
world.
2. Things take time, develop patience. Love the process more than the results.
3. Don’t compare yourself to others. Nobody’s got the exact same experiences, advantages,
or disadvantages as you. Just focus on being better than you were before and learn from
those who are “better”.
4. You can’t change others by sheer will, they have to want to change.
5. Don’t worry about haters, there are 7 billion other potential friends out.
6. Listen twice as much as you speak. Two ears, one mouth? You do the math.
7. Develop a habit of reading and/or listening to audiobooks.
8. Breathe.
9. It’s OK to take some time to consider before answering. The first thing that pops into
your head isn’t always the best.
10. Get curious about yourself. Why do you act the way you act? What drives you?
Answering these questions will get you closer to where you want to go.
11. Learn to do stuff for yourself. As soon as you can delegate/afford to pay someone else
handle the boring stuff, do it!
12. Take time to appreciate the small things in life. A flower, a glass of water, having a roof
over your head, etc.
 13. Hang out with older people. They have the wisdom and experience of time on their side.
Listen.
14. Hang out with younger people. You have the wisdom of your experiences fresh in mind,
pass them on.
15. Time is our most precious asset. You can always make more money, you can’t make
more time.
16. Stay curious. There’s a lot you have yet to discover about yourself, others, the world, and
beyond.
17. Get ready to make mistakes, and learn from them. Thankfully you’re still young and can
recover from most things. It gets harder as you grow older, have more responsibilities,
and get more comfortable.
18. Uncertainty. There’s only so much you can control. The rest is up to RNG. Learn how to
deal with it.
19. Learn to develop systems that enable you to do more of what you want and less of what
you don’t. For example, relying on willpower, good intentions, etc to get your ass to the
gym isn’t going to cut it on a day when you “just don’t feel like it”.
20. Ask better questions. Start by being general, then get more specific as you go along.
Learn about close-ended and open-ended questions.

Really short, really general. If there’s anything you want me to clarify then just shoot off a
comment.

Also, make sure to enjoy your 20s!

Have a kick-ass ₢eative day! =)

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1. Find happiness within yourself. No one person or thing can help you find it.
2. Be accepting of who you are. Be your own fan.
3. You are on your own. Mostly. Be wise and make good choices.
4. Work hard. Work smart.
5. Focus on fitness and think about working out so that you can remain as happy and
energetic in your 40s and 50s.
6. A lot of things don’t matter in the end. Be patient.
7. Anything in moderation is good. You don’t have to completely eliminate Netflix from
your life. If you like that one show and want to spend half hour watching it, go for it!
8. There is no one formula for success.
9. Don’t let fear make decisions for you.
10. College is a wonderful time to work and play. Don’t screw that up.
11. Tomorrow never comes. No really, it just doesn’t. Do what you want NOW.

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1) The importance of trying new things - Being on our own and meeting new friends can put us
in uncomfortable, but surprisingly cool, situations. In your 20s you’ll realize that venturing out
and exploring new activities, foods and hobbies can open your eyes to a whole world of
acceptance and change – making it easier to adapt to unfamiliar situations quickly and with
confidence.

2) Life isn’t about things, it’s about experiences - At the end of the day, you know your material
possessions mean nothing. It is what you do with your time, the places you see, and the
memories you build with the people you love that will carry you through a happier, more
fulfilling life.

3) How to cope with loss - You’ll likely lose love or a loved one by the end of your 20s. It will
be hard and hurtful, and you’ll think you will never make it through to the other side. BUT,
you’ll be shocked by your resilience. When all is said and done and you’ve moved on, you’ll
understand what it takes to deal with loss and manage future heart ache better.

4) You should be your top priority - We often put others wishes for us and needs before
ourselves in life, but you’re never your best self to others until you take care of your needs and
nourish your own soul first. That doesn’t caring for those around you. It just means, that we
understand the value of our own happiness and how it affects every aspect of our lives.

5) People change - Many people are still finding themselves in their 20s – you may still be
finding yourself or your true passion. When it used to hurt us that people seemed ‘different’ or
drifted away, we now understand that change doesn’t always have to be bad, and sometimes it’s
vital for others to thrive.

6) Stress is toxic - Excessive studying, social pressures, family turmoil, career concerns – these
all can lead to stress. You might be experiencing the negative effects on your health already.
(Anyone grind their teeth at night?) Because of this, you’ll hopefully use these years to adopt
habits to combat stress like finding ways to unwind at the end of a day or engaging in 10 min
exercise breaks. Meditation became a huge release for me.

7) Love can take many forms - Our traditional ideas of love are changed in our 20s due to the
development of new friendships, relationship, and sometimes even changes in family dynamics.
We learn that everyones needs are different – how love is expressed looks different too. Once
you understand this, your heart will be open to accepting other peoples choices for
connectedness and abandon judgement on love that doesn’t look like something right out of a
movie.

8) It’s ok to feel lost - There are no rules that say you have to have it all figured out by a certain
age. If you want to change career paths, that’s ok. When our interests change or there are
unexpected moves we have to make, we can feel unsure of ourselves and without direction.
You’re not alone! Millions of people experience an insecurity of the unknown and it’s ok, you’ll
get through it and find your path again soon.

9) Failure is unavoidable - The most successful people in the world have all experienced failure.
It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or are destined to fail forever, it just means that you need to
pick yourself back up and move forward.
10) Your career isn’t who you are - What you do for work is not your entire identity. It is a
fraction of what makes you who you are, and if you don’t take time to enjoy or connect with
other things, you’ll miss out on so much in life. Hard work does pays off, but life deserves
balance and clocking 12-15 hours a day won’t allow you that opportunity.

11) It’s the smallest things that can bring the most joy - Once you’ve experienced some of these
other lessons, only then does the true meaning of this one stand out. It’s the things that bring a
smile to our face and warm our hearts that we should focus on most. If you can make monthly
lists of what you appreciate, you’ll contribute to your long-term happiness ten fold.

12) Your number 1 communication tool is listening - Only by effectively listening to others can
we communicate to the best of our ability. Listening helps us understand the needs, expectations,
and plans of others. And if we use that input to guide our responses and actions, we’ll advance
and strengthen every type of relationship we have.

13) The power of a compliment - All our lives we’ve avoided talking to strangers, both for safety
reasons and because of insecurities. But in our 20s, our confidence rises. We throw caution to the
wind and dish out appropriate compliments to those who truly deserve them. Whether you know
the person or not, nothing brightens a person’s day more. It just reinforces that simple gestures
go a long way. And I like to think we’re all a little better off when someone has a reason to
smile. :)

14) The benefits of exercise - You learn that a workout regimen is necessary. When sports were
just an extracurricular activity at school, now they are a way of life and a means for healthy years
ahead. Whether running, doing sit ups or a little yoga, we know that no matter how much we
dislike it, we exercise to expand our minds, stretch our muscles, stay in shape and fight
unforeseen ailments.

15) Everyone’s body is different and that’s awesome - We all come in different shapes and sizes
and that’s what makes us beautiful. There is no one way to look. When our bodies made us
uncomfortable when we were younger, our 20s is the time we embrace them, get to know them,
and are proud of every unique feature.

16) Haters gonna hate - Taylor Swift is so right. Haters are going to hate, and no matter how old
you get, there will always be naysayers. You’ll learn to ignore them and not take their words to
heart. It’s likely these people are unhappy with something in they’re own lives. The best way to
deal? Shake it off. ;)
17) Don’t always apologize - There is a time and a place for sorry. When you hurt someone
badly, use the word with heart. But there will be plenty of times in your life when you’ll take a
risk, are misunderstood or have a question and you should not be sorry for it. This is a great
lesson to learn and important if you want to be successful.

18) Trust your instincts - Your gut feeling is almost always right – I’d say 99% of the time. So
follow it! You’ll learn that this can save your life, help you in your career, and protect you from
bad situations. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. If you’re uncomfortable
with a situation, get out.

19) Ask for what you want - Missing out on opportunities is never fun, but before you reach 30,
know that the best way to get ahead and show initiative at work is to let your superiors know.
You can work extremely hard hoping that a promotion will fall in your lap, but without speaking
up, you may never get there.

20) Laughter is the best medicine - Never underestimate the power of laughter. Instead, know
that laughing every day can be just as important as exercise. A life without it just isn’t as fun, so
use these years to figure out what makes you laugh – then incorporate it into your daily life. You
won’t regret it.
Have you learned a valuable lesson in your 20s? Let me know what it was below.
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Kumar Narain, My Living Well rules should be intrinsic, to be the change I seek.in the world.
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When advising anyone starting out in life, we must be very careful and respectful.

People in their 20s are going to fix the problems that we have created and those we are going to
shamelessly leave for them to deal with.

That said, here are some life lessons and not all are harsh. I do not believe in being harsh on the
young. I make enough mistakes of my own.

1. Do, take action - Keep working. Meaningful Action is an antidote to most ills.
2. Stop overfocusing on outcomes and results - Be positive and do your best
3. Accept failures and learn from them - Failures are part of life and are great teachers
4. Learn, become wise - Ignorance is destructive, wisdom is a savior. Read more, imbibe,
accept wisdom from all. Kumar Narain's answer to What is the difference between
philosophy and philosophy of everyday life?
5. Accept ill feelings as they come - Don’t fight them. Work on fixing things that cause
those feelings. Kumar Narain's answer to How can I stop feeling envious of people?
6. Remain active - Keep doing some physical activity everyday. Life has a way to get lazy
and sedentary if not attended to, atrophying your body and mind.
7. Believe in the Power of Small - Every journey indeed begins with a small step. All
experts started small. We often aim too big, don’t act regularly and then lament our
failures.
8. Be Respectful and speak well - You can be tough, sure of yourself and yet respect others.
Be fair, compassionate and reasonable.
9. Be Mindful and Listen more - Pay attention, be in the moment, don’t let your mind stray.
Pay attention to people around you and cognitively absorb what they are telling you,
verbally or otherwise.
10. Take care of yourself, Have fun - Enjoy meaningfully, Eat well, sleep well
11. Don’t waste time - Our life clocks only run in one direction (at least for now). Plan for
indulgences, you don’t have to give up on fun.
12. Don’t chase people who don’t matter - Obsession with people who don’t bring you joy
or growth is very time consuming and often ends badly
13. Plan for important things - Risk is often not knowing. Avoid randomness, especially on
important matters. Have goals for certain phases of your life.
 14. Make decisions carefully - Kumar Narain's answer to I work hard at everything, but I
don't know how to make decisions for my life. This is a major problem. Can anyone
provide me with some advice?
15. Think like an Entrepreneur - Kumar Narain's answer to People who started off as
entrepreneurs and later went into the corporate route, how is it different and what advice
would you give?. Apply business rules to your life.
16. Save, be frugal but don’t be cheap - Some things are to be saved on and others need to
be paid for
17. Analyze and introspect where you are from time to time - Kumar Narain's answer to
Why do I find myself feeling unhappy when my life is actually going really well?
18. Create a Rule Book for yourself - On ethics, on helping, on engaging, on relationships
and then follow them
19. Mind your relationships - Be careful when dragging others into your plans - Kumar
Narain's answer to I convinced my family and relatives to let me invest their money in
the stock market (approx. $650k). I've lost most of it, what should I do?
20. And most important of all - Remember you are part of a greater whole. You are not
alone. What you do affects others. Rejoice, celebrate and be grateful to others.

Good luck and best wishes.

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Rahul Kuntala, Start is what stops most people. Just start.

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Here are few harsh life lessons YOU should learn if you are in your 20's.

1. No one cares about you except your parents. Sadly, we often ignore the people who care
about us and care about those who ignore us.
2. Avoid falling in love. 99% of the time, you end up with breakups. Love is cute only in
the beginning. (or maybe I'm wrong for the remaining 1%).
3. Successful people are mostly the ones who had lots of failures in the beginning. Don't
compare your beginning with someone else's "peak" stage.
4. Enjoy your college life, make lots of memories. Once it's gone, you will NEVER find
such days again.
5. Stay away from EMI's.
6. Learn to say NO no matter whoever it is. Read point #1.
7. Creation is more important than consumption. Instead of reading and upvoting others
stuff on Quora, start creating!
8. You can count your true friends on fingers. On one hand.
9. Practice how to negotiate without dominating others.
 10. Start a blog. Share your memories. Let others find your name on Google instead of
Facebook.
11. Don't drink and drive. "Mujhe nai chadthi yaar" (I don't get hangovers) is a myth.
12. Don't waste your time stalking others. Just because someone upvoted or commented on
your Quora's answer doesn't mean she's in love with you. ;-)
13. P-O-R-N. Get. Rid. Of. It. Seriously, a waste of time. (You're f****** yourself, how
weird).
14. Read books. Join Goodreads.
15. Become a minimalist. Less is more.
16. Run. 30 mins a day.
17. Travel. Alone. On your motorcycle. To somewhere. Where no one knows you.
18. Write every single day. It makes you more creative.
19. Try cold showers if you are afraid to start a big task.
20. Learn to accept criticism. People may not rip you off every single time but most will
differ to agree with you. Accept it with grace.

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Saurabh Singh, PhD student, data analyst

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“You will find more happiness growing down than up “

As we grow, we start being more practical and analytical in life. However in 20’s I think there
are few lessons that one should learn from his mistakes or from others mistakes; these are as
follows :

1. Dreams and Plans : Be sure of what you want to do in life, and stop worrying about
money, parents pressure, peer pressure. Because the energy, enthusiasm and happiness
might die in you, if you don’t choose a life that really excites you.
2. Friends: You need to have at least 4 friends on whom you can always count on. Never let
them go no matter what happens, but yes do choose them with caution.
3. Health is Wealth: Take care of your body. Yes!! your metabolism capacity declines, and
at the time when you really need to look fit, you cannot just let your health take care of its
own.
4. Cleanness and tidiness: Learn to clean your room and keep your stuffs at place. You
have a sharper memory and mind than your parents who are getting old, so stop counting
on them.
5. Grow up:Stop fighting over small things, control your emotions, gone are those days
when people fight and next day you are sharing donuts. In 20’s you might just end up
making lifetime enemies.
6. Protct your privacy : Do not post everything on facebook. Keep your private life Private
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Mike Schoultz, Always listening, observing and learning.

989 Views · Mike has 60+ answers in Life Advice

Here are some I wish I had learned earlier in my career:

Have a short memory

This is one of my favorites. It’s so easy to get angry and criticize ourselves when we make a
mistake, but all that usually does is turn one bad play into another.

If the previous point or play didn’t go your way, you need to forget it immediately and
concentrate on the next one. Don’t let one bad play ruin the next one.

Just make a note and move on.

Never too late to start

I am closing in on 69, though I am told I do not look it. I certainly don’t feel it.

I am one that believes in the importance in continuous learning and trying lots of new things.
You are never too late to start. I started writing my blog at 64.

But what are you getting at?

Most people reading this blog are in their 30′s, 40′s and 50′s. (At least that’s what my analytics
tell me.)

From the hundreds of conversations I’ve had with subscribers & social media followers who fall
under that category, most of you think it’s too late to pursue your dream. (A.K.A. a
‘pipedream.’)

I am the living proof that you (and only you) are what stands in the way of your current situation
and your dream. Do yourself a favor and step out of your own way.

Inspire others

Just because someone is smart or wealthy doesn't mean others will want to emulate that person.
Incredibly successful people create an aura with their activity that makes people look up and take
notice. Their work is purposeful, righteous, and worthy.
Be positive

It’s easy to get down on yourself and let the inner critic run free when things aren’t going well,
but that isn’t going to help you.

Instead, fight the urge to criticize and ask yourself if you can make a commitment that you will
only bring forth positive energy for the remainder of the match. I’ve found that when you
prioritize eliminating all negative thoughts, your focus automatically shifts to the positive ones,
and that in turn makes you more likely to enjoy and excel in the big moment.

Enjoy it while you can

Can I get an “amen?”

Life’s too short to be negative. To let bitterness build. To live angry.

Are you unhappy at your current job? Probably.

How long have you been there while being unhappy? Too long.

If you aren’t happy with your current situation, change it. Join a company that encourages
positivity and cultivates happiness. Life’s too short to spend another day doing something you
don’t like doing.

Stoke your passions

It’s true that positive feelings alone will not get you to the finish line. But they can be a great
source of strength.

Learn to use your passion as an anchor. Answer this question: What was your why for starting?

During those dry months of no sales I had to remember that my passion wasn’t just to have a
successful business. I wanted to connect businesses and their audiences in a unique and
meaningful way.

Enjoy the little, big moments

This is probably my favorite technique because it takes a moment that is stressful and
intimidating and turns it into a moment that’s fun and exciting – something you actually look
forward to.

The next time you find yourself in a big moment in a situation, remind yourself how exciting and
fun these big moments are compared to those with nothing at stake. These are the moments
you’ll rememberand what you’ll all discuss afterwards – enjoy them, embrace them, and feel
them with every cell in your body.

Thank people
It takes a lot of support to create success. Incredibly successful people are mindful of showing
sincerely and often to those who help them achieve success. It's not hard, the thought of leaving
someone un-thanked never even enters their mind.

Related post: 10 Leadership Competencies You Should Not Live Without

Keep steady emotions

Some of us get more easily up and down than others. The more up and down you get, the more
likely you are going to get over-excited or overwhelmed by the situation, and that puts you in a
bad spot to be successful consistently.

Visualize remaining calm and composed in even the biggest situations. Act like you’ve been in
those situations a hundred times, and eventually you’ll feel like it too.

Go with the flow and easily adapt

The business marketplace is constantly changing, and the acceleration of change is increasing.
Spotting the changes is important. Understanding the big picture is key. Once you have
command of these two items, adapting to change is much easier to accomplish.

Related post: 10 Different Ways to Enhance Creativity

Live in the present

“I never think of the future – it comes soon enough.” - Albert Einstein

You are only guaranteed the moment that you have right now, at this moment. You can try to get
yourself worried about the future and make plans that may not work out according to plan. What
matters most is living now, today. Do your best right now and do not worry about tomorrow.

Leave a legacy

How do you want people to remember you? What’s your legacy? Think about it. Write it down.
Build it.

Mike Schoultz is the founder of Digital Spark Marketing, a digital marketing and customer
service agency. With 40 years of business experience, he writes about topics that relate to
improving the performance of business. Bookmark his blog for awesome stories and articles.

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Awdhesh Singh, IRS officer; Author: The Secret Red Book of Leadership & Spiritual
Intelligence
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Life is not a bed of roses. It has many thorns and you must know it in advance before they start
pricking you hard. It would be wise to know these 20 harsh lessons of life to save yourself from
much pain and misery in life.

1:You have no claim on the world

You have grown up thinking that you ask for something from your parents and it shall be given.
You try the same when you grow up but you don’t see the world obliging you. You have no
claim with the world and you have to earn everything with hard work in the world.

2:There is no free lunch

Never accept free lunches. You must always pay you wish to have. When someone gives you
anything free, you often have to pay much higher price later. It pinches you much more because
you are not willing to pay.

3:You are a spoke in the wheel

You are not in the center of the world. You are simply on the periphery and there are numerous
layers between you and thecentre. You are just a small part of the world like spoke in the wheel.

4:Love is not a right

If you love someone, that is your choice. It does not mean that the person whom you love should
love you back. You have little control over the feelings of others.

5:People have different talents

You thought that scoring marks in the college is the best indicator of success. You will realize
that the most successful in the world had never been brilliant students. They had the talents
which schools can’t measure.

6:It is impossible to be good

You always wanted to be a good person anddo good to others. However, you find that others
don’t reciprocate yougoodness. However, good you do to others; they will always find reason to
findfault in your goodness. Never try to be too good or good to everyone.

7:Evil is more powerful than good

You have been taught to hate evil and shun it at every cost. You tried to avoid evil from your life
till you realized the power of evil. They are so tempting that they overpower all your will to rule
over you. It is better to allow a little bit of evil in your life rather than hating it and avoiding it
altogether.

8:Success is mysterious

There is no formula to success because success is extremely mysterious. You can’t predict any
action which can ensure you success in life. What gave success to one had been the reason for
the failure of another person. You have to choose your method to succeed by hit and trial.

9:Hatred is Good

It is good to hate certain things and certain people because it prevents you from doing those
things and influenced by such people. Hatred to an evil is as good as love to good.

10:Friends are the greatest gift

You never understand the importance of friends till you lose them all. When you are without
friends, you are starved of the love, affection and companionship. You lose friendship when you
don’t fulfill the obligation of a friend in the time of his need. Learn to value friends and
friendship.

11:Criticism is a waste of time

In your schools and colleges, you happily criticized your teachers, societies and government.
You continue to do so in your job till you start getting the feeling that everyone starts avoiding
you like a leper. Your criticism to anyone never improves that person but you always make that
one person your enemy for lifetime.

12:Failure is Important for Life

You will realize soon after entering in the real world that there are no heroes in the world who
always win. Even the best person had to lose and the ordinary person loses the battle quite often.
It is your willingness to learn from your failure and ability to face the failure positivity that
would become the stepping stone for success and transform you from ordinary to great.

13:Success is temporary

All successes are temporary till the next failure. When you succeed, you are on the top of the
world and the world treats you like a prince. However, the moment you fail, all your previous
successes are forgotten and people remind you only of your latest failures.

14:Life is a game

You must learn to live life as if you are playing a game. You will win some games and lose some
games. Don’t get disheartened by your loses because even when you lose, you have played well
and learned a few tricks. Congratulate the winner and make him your friend. That will help you
learn a few tricks from him to succeed better next time.

15:Happiness is Overrated

Don’t chase happiness because happiness is an illusion. The same thing that makes you happy at
one time is going to make you unhappy at different time. Then you will wonder what went
wrong. Enjoy happiness when it comes but don’t try to recreate the same happiness by imitating
the same action.

16:Life has no purpose

There are several experts and gurus who have told us that there is a purpose of life. All that
purpose is only a myth created by these people to keep you engaged in the world. It is better to
create your own myth and your own purpose rather than following someone else purpose.

17: You are what you repeatedly do

A good person is one who does good things regularly and a bad person is one who does bad
things regularly. You are known by the world based on not what you are but what you do. Good
intentions mean nothing if that leads to bad actions.

18:Be yourself

However hard you try, you can never be comfortable in someone else shoes. The greatest joy of
life comes when you identify yourself and do the things in your own way. If you try to fit into
someone else shoe, it will always pinch you.

19: Live according to your conscious

If you gain the world and lose your soul,you are the most miserable person of the world
irrespective of your success and achievements. You must take care of not only your body and
mind, but also your soul. If you starve your soul, you can’t fulfill your life.

20: Balance Freedom and Relationship

Relationships are the source of joy but they also bind you with the wishes of so many people.
Freedom is a joy but you can’t live in this state for long. You have to balance your freedom and
relationship in the right proportion. Having one without other is a sure recipe of pain and
suffering.

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Transitioning from a lifestyle without significant responsibilities into the "real world" makes
your 20s a decade of tough lessons.

Wherever you're at in your 20s - whether you're on your own or still with your parents, figuring
out your career or going through grad school - you can learn from those who have already been
through it. Note that these quotes are taken from the other answers and compiled from this
question itself.

1. Your world view may be seriously flawed.

It's natural to feel like you've got a solid life philosophy figured out by the time you graduate
college, but you'll likely redefine how you see relationships, politics, your career, and anything
else you can think of. As Rachel Laine puts it, "[Y]ou discover everything that you thought you
had all figured out was tragically wrong, laughably confused, or utterly delusional."
2. It's harder to get away with lies and excuses.

Maybe you made a habit of getting away with things by making up stories for your parents or
professors. But lies and deceit won't fly in your professional or personal life anymore.

"The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with
yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really
want, who you really want to be," says Arjuna Perkins.

3. You can't party like you used to.

Back in college you may have been able to spend a night binge drinking until two in the morning
and make it to class by 11 a.m. That sort of lifestyle is incompatible with most careers. And
you'll come to find that as you progress through your 20s, your body has a harder time dealing
with excess, Perkins says.

Enjoy your vices in moderation, exercise, and eat well. Your future self will thank you.

4. People will resent you if you try to always be right.

"Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest," Perkins says. "It's not a game.
You don't win at life. So say, 'Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that,' or, 'I was wrong.
I'm sorry.'"

5. Life is hard, and it never gets much easier.

As your responsibilities begin to pile up in your 20s, you'll realize that just getting by - let alone
becoming very successful - requires a lot of work. And there will always be failures and
setbacks.

"You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to
keep moving forward. Keep going," Perkins says.

6. Meaningful relationships are difficult to maintain.

If and when you decide to consider marriage or at least a serious romantic relationship, you're
going to realize that it requires plenty of sacrifices and work. You'll realize the same goes for
your closest friends, who will also be changing as you grow older. But these relationships are
more important to your happiness and fulfillment than anything else in your life, says Rich
Tatum.
Meaningful relationships require sacrifices and dedication.

7. You're replaceable at work.

Many companies like to portray themselves as families, but at the end of the day that's just
semantics. If your company can no longer afford you or thinks it can invest more wisely in
someone else, you'' be cut from that family pretty easily.

"The company does not love you. It has no heart," Tatum says.
8. You don't have forever to find and pursue your passion.

The money you make from your job will mean nothing if you're not actually enjoying life, Tatum
says.

If you pursue a career solely for a big check and set aside the things you love to pursue later,
you'll find it becomes significantly harder to change careers or dedicate yourself to a passion
project the older you get.
9. You're not entitled to anything.

It's necessary to be humble, Tatum says, especially about advantages you may have received
through sheer luck. And never think that just because you put in work for things like degrees
from elite universities that they guaran...

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Vishwas Londhe, I am a courier of traditional wisdom.

33.6k Views · Vishwas has 300+ answers in Philosophy of Everyday Life

1. Women are not equal to men, they are better. Just notice your mother.
2. There is nothing manly about smoking and drinking, or womanly for that matter.
3. You have to pay a heavy price for insults, sooner or later.
4. Personality is what makes you different from others. If you are one of the herd, you do
not have personality.
5. Your health is your only permanent companion, everything and everyone will come and
go. Wealth without health is an unbearable burden.
6. Money is only a medium of exchange and storage of wealth, not values.
7. You owe a great deal to others. Had your parents not made the required moves, you
wouldn’t be here.
8. Other than beautiful girls there are many things you can love.
9. Imaginary problems are the greatest time wasters, and the only complexities in the world.
10. What you do only matters, not what you think you can do.
11. The first casualty of being in haste is quality.
12. Your life is nothing more or less than the roles you assume. Be careful while assuming
roles.
13. Any peak you can reach provided you are on the right track and concentrate only on the
next step.
14. Persistence is the greatest force. Dripping water drops cut a hole trough a stone.
15. Happiness is a state of mind. The biggest mistake is to believe that it comes from things
you own.
16. You learn by spending time with elders. Peers can hardly help you in this.
17. Obsessive reading of fiction would extend limits of your imagination.
18. Obsessive reading of philosophy would show you that nobody actually knows.
19. Playing team sports teaches you the importance of teamwork and to deal with defeats.
20. Playing individual sports teaches you that you are the only person responsible for the
outcome.

Thanks for A to A Siddharth Jain. This was a difficult question.

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Eunice Lim, Living like I'm dying

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1. Life will NOT go as planned. You may hate the major you thought you always wanted.
You may break up with your first love you swear you were gonna marry. You might not
get that internship or job you’ve been dreaming of. And that’s okay, as long as we pick
ourselves up and navigate afresh.
2. If you’re reading this, you’re in an incredibly privileged position not entirely
achieved on your own merits. You have access to food, water, shelter, the internet and
can most likely attend college, or secure a job. Hence, you have all the responsibility and
duty to contribute back to the society, even if it’s as simple as volunteering, donating or
growing your own vegetables.
3. People out there can be downright mean and manipulative. There is no need to stoop
to their level but arm and prepare yourself to identify, avoid, and confront them if
necessary. Don’t let them hurt or bully you in any way.
4. There will be more people and things to take care of. Your younger siblings. Your
partner. You grandparents. Your parents, even. Your academics, your bills, your job,
your house. It’s gonna get damn messy but you’ll start to learn to balance it all.
5. Identity and existential crisis are barely considered crisis. It’s confusing, terrifying,
bewildering, yes. But there are refugees out there stuck in a war they had no choice to be
involved in, children walking miles barefoot to draw dirty water, homeless people
braving winter’s cold, women (and even men) being abused or raped in households or on
the streets. You’ll create your purpose and meaning eventually, so spend that energy on
people who need it more.
6. Your parents are getting old and will eventually die. Tough but true. They’ve raised
you till the age where you are capable of being self-sufficient but they are now towards
the age where they may sometimes have to depend on you. So as busy as you are, spend
as much time with them as possible and let them know how much you love and
appreciate them.
7. You are responsible for your own education for the rest of your life, especially once
you graduate from college. So don’t stop reading, questioning, doubting, thinking,
analysing, reasoning... There is no age limit to learning.
8. Just because you're young, doesn’t mean you’re immortal. Cut the junk food, dump
that cigarette pack, get off the couch and set your sleep rhythm right. Every single thing
you do to your body will have long-lasting consequences.
9. The world will try to sell you shit. The commercial world is full of scams like $899
leather bags and $1846 dinner meals. They are NOT actually worth the amount of time
you work your ass off for. There’s also cultural, social, political bullshit like Donald
Trump should win the election or Global Warming is not that serious or Men are being
weak if they cry/ungentlemanly if they don’t pay for meals. Discern. Don’t let society
control and confuse you.
10. Traveling, especially those long, solo bag pack trips around the world kind, is not as
glamorous and easy as it seems. Sure, it’s fun and no doubt enriching. But you’ll have
to cope with culture differences, the unfamiliarity of places and unexpected events. That
will take lots of time, energy (physical and mental) and resources, and you have to learn
how to be independent away from the comfort and warmth of home and family.
11. You may be pretty good at something but there are many, many people who are
better. So be prepared for competition, for failure, to be stepped all over and looked
down upon. Just keep working at who you want to be and learning from those who are
better.
12. Make friends, and acquaintances. If you can hit off with the person, put in effort to
meet up, keep in contact, have conversations. Offer your help most sincerely and you will
have a hand to help you out in return when you get into deep shit. If you can’t, just smile
politely and make an acquaintance. Keep your distance but don’t leave anything bitter for
you never know if you have to work with him or her one day.
13. You’re going to regret lots of things you did and didn’t do before you hit your 20s.
And guess what? This will apply for every single decade of your life because we are
humans and we always think we know best at the moment we make a decision but we
don’t. Doesn’t matter. We’ll keep making mistakes and we’ll keep beating ourselves up,
then we’ll just get over it, look back and laugh. Oh, and we’ll become infinitely wiser.
14. There is no point trying to predict the future. (refer back to lesson no 1) Have your
future goals and aspirations in mind but be aware that you will change. And making a
huge decision now based on some prediction of the future is NOT wise. Don’t pick a
lucrative major, for e.g., believing that in the future you will need the money to get a
house on a cliff. You might end up hating cliffs sometime down the road. Don’t quit your
passion just because you think you’ll end up a hobo on the street either. People might just
fall madly in love with your work and boom, you’ll earn enough to buy a house on a
cliff!
15. Sometimes, hard work doesn’t pay off. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work hard. You
damn right should especially if you believe with every fibre of your body that it’s worth
it. But that girl you love may not think you’re the right partner for her. Your dreams of
being a pilot may be dashed if you are vertically challenged. That’s okay. The earlier you
realise what doesn’t pay off, the earlier you redirect your energy to what will.
16. The people you cherish most in your life will sometimes hurt you, or leave you or
both. Usually, they do so unintentionally. It could be time. Circumstance. Or just
growing apart and realising you’re not as close as you used to be. It will feel incredibly
unbelievable, unbearable and unfair. You will realise that people and relationships just
can’t be taken for granted. But you will start to hold on tighter to those who have been
here and are still here, and will, hopefully, continue to be here.
17. Everything costs. And some cost more than others. Watch your pounds and pennies.
Hint: some things are more necessary than others, while some things are more indulgent
than others.
18. You’re going to do lots of stupid things that you’ll look back upon and hate yourself
for. Like getting your boyfriend’s name tattooed on your lower back. Or pranking your
boss on April Fool’s. Or writing long answers everywhere on Quora and thinking you’re
some smart ass who’s influencing the lives of many Quorans. (Yes, that’s me. Kid.) But
 you will forgive yourself eventually and reason that this such foolishness and
recklessness is the trademark of a young adult in his/her 20s.
19. Love will pretty much feel like shit at some point. And you’ll wonder if all of these
dates and texts and stupid cards and flowers are worth the fighting and tears and almost-
breaking-up. (They are.)
20. Okay this is not exactly a harsh lesson but Your twenties will most likely be the best
time of your life, which is why they will fly by and eventually become mere
memories. Not mere memories, I mean. Extremely beautiful and valuable memories.
Record your stupid, crazy 20s in as much detail as possible for our minds are fallible.
Take lots of photos and videos. Write blogs, journals, tweets. Give your post-20s self the
chance to relive these precious moments and laugh at how silly and naive you were. Then
go write posts and comment all over Quora threads like this one.

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Syed Jack Rizvi, Life is too short to wait.

407.7k Views · Upvoted by Swathi Anjan, working out in the MENTAL GYM and Anil Ug,
Wake up and LIVE!!!!

1. "Friends forever" is a myth. A joke. With time,many will leave you and you will leave
many.
2. True friends are few,maybe one or two.
3. You'll be alone in the most difficult times of your life. These times will make you
wise,mature and fearless.
4. Nobody will help you. You gotta help yourself.
5. Your health and career will only thank you,reward you in future; And not people.
6. You will meet a lot of fake people; learn to identify such people and maintain a healthy
distance.
7. You will be pulled down out of jealously; don't get surprised. Its normal.
8. You'll be cheated,betrayed by your close ones, don't get surprised. Smile. And move on.
9. People will treat you according to their need and greed.
10. It is good to be generous,benign and magnanimous. But there's a limit. Or you'll be taken
as granted.
11. Grab every opportunity you can. Time flies and guilt is the worst feeling I tell you.
12. To achieve anything in life,you gotta work your ass off. You gotta work real hard.
Nothing comes easy.
13. Be pragmatic while taking any decision. Don't let your emotions influence you.
14. Every difficult phase in life will fetch you a lesson. Don't get disheartened. Draw
conclusion out of it.
15. And last but not the least,never underestimate yourself. You have much more
potential,ability,talent than you think. Carpe Diem fella.
Note:

 Some people are saying that this answer is "too harsh". Sorry guys but that was the
demand of the question. Though, most people could relate to it.
 The points mentioned above are purely based on my experience. So obviously it will vary
from person to person.
 If any more points you could come up with,you are free to write them in the comments
and I shall add them in this answer. That will be our group task. ;)
 10.9k upvotes in just five days. This answer has clearly got viral and has been
appreciated by so many people. I am glad. You might also like to know the making of
this answer- Syed Jack Rizvi's answer to What is it like when your Quora answer
unexpectedly goes viral?

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Keshav Yadav, There is Always so much to Learn

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I am in mid 20's. I don't know if I am fully qualified to answer this question, but i really want to
share my experience, and it will get better and better with time. There is always so much to learn.

1) Nobody cares about you. You are the only person who can take care of you and only person
who know you better, so make your priority list and put yourself at the top.

2) Best Friends forever is myth. Get up and accept the fact, with time everyone(including you)
change, many will leave you and you will leave many. People will come into your life, play their
role and leave with time, so don't get too much emotionally attached.

3) The Reason you are able to live your life till now, is your family. They are the silent protector.
Talk to your parents as much as you can, they should be in your priority list after you and then
Rest of the world.

4) Don't compare yourself with others. Everyone is unique in their own way. You only know
about their current position, not about the path.

5) Don't try to please everyone. “I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is
trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

6) Self motivation is very important factor in life.

7) Whatever is causing you worry or pain right now won’t cause you worry or pain forever.
Things change with time and it will pass.
8) Help others, it will give you the greatest pleasure but not at the cost of your loss.

9) Accept, you don’t always get what you want. No matter how hard you work, sometimes things
just don’t work out the way you want them to and its totally fine. “Life is what happens while
you’re busy making other plans” – John Lennon.

10) Laugh with everyone but don't trust.

11) Get over with the your past. Remember it's your past not future (No matter it is good or bad).

12) Don't expect too much from anyone. Too much expectation can kill you from inside.

13) Don't make yourself available too much for anyone, you will your lose importance.

14) Cry if want to cry. There is no shame in it, its fine ( Mard ko bhi dard hota h..!! ).

15) You always have a choice, Always.

16) Learn to give respect.

17) Learn to appreciate others work.

18) There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know”. Nobody has all the answers, pretending to be
perfect doesn’t make you perfect.

19) Don’t take anything for granted.

20) Learn to make tea or coffee according to your own taste, it will make you feel special.

And this is My Cup of Tea..!! :)

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Ash Srivastava, Habitually summarize life events, Life teaches me everyday

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"The best things in life are not things" - Art Buchwald

Everyone has a personal definition for success. My definition of success is my ability to set goals
and achieve them. Goals can be trivial or extremely ambitious. But once we have set a goal the
first few steps always seem the hardest but they don't have to be if we decide to learn from our
past successes/failures.

I started my company in 2006 and when I started out my goals were money centric. But after
several years of running a corporation and constantly travelling I have definitely managed to
fulfill my definition of success but the problem is that my definition has changed.

Success to me now means having time and money but above all it stands for connecting with
progressive and driven people who will shape my thoughts and influence me to become the
better version of myself. Through trials and tribulations from the past 6 years of my work life I
have realized that a core set of qualities can ensure my success in everyday life. I have learnt a
lot about myself and how I need to change myself to stay at the top and continue to keep
growing. In no particular order I present my learning's.

1 Lead from Within

This is most important, to keep a calm and listen to yourself amidst all the chaos. Feel your
decisions, follow you passion, it all comes from within. Start making those difficult decisions.
You might not be right the first time but start believing in yourself. Get in touch with yourself
and carve your path in life. Write your own script !

2 Work Smarter - Prioritize

Nothing inventive about this but implementing this takes time. Write down all things you want to
do and then prioritize it. I find the ABCDE method of prioritization very useful. Once you
prioritize then make sure you focus all your energy towards the task at hand until it is complete.

3 Step Up and Push back

Often times you will be surrounded by people/situations which demand your attention on more
than one thing at the same time. You have to realize you cannot please everybody. So just step
up, prioritize your work and push back the rest without hesitation,fear or guilt. It is what it is !

4 Be Autonomous
Self-governing; independent;Not controlled by others or by outside forces;Independent in
mind/judgment; self-directed. Your ability to think for yourself is the single most ability which
will get you ahead of the herd. So plan and execute with certainty and faith in your autonomous
power.

5 Take Ownership of task at hand

This is very important for your reputation. Every task you do should speak volumes about you.
Do not try to do great things but to do small things greatly and you will become great. If you
have been assigned a task then make sure that it is completed and is full proof. What i mean by
full proof is test it inside out from every angle. Cover every scenario the solution can be used in
and it still is durable and usable and performs well. Do this with every task at hand and you will
be an unstoppable force.
6 Get Disciplined
This is again something we all know but it takes time. Bring yourself to a state of order and
obedience by practicing training and control. Learn to make the will stronger than the brain.
Respect your word to yourself. 6:00 AM means 6:00 AM. No snooze. Decide a time and get up.
If you make a promise to yourself respect it and then reward yourself for keeping it. You will
develop enormous trust in yourself if you practice this.

7 Shut up and Listen

Listen ! Listen ! and then Listen some more !! There is a reason god has given us two ears and
one mouth. Read a lot and listen a lot. Listen to your team and people around you but do what
you decide. But it is very important to listen to others as it shows you respect them and consider
them important. Also it gives you insight into something you did not know or thought that you
knew.

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Rishi Jalan, Idealistically pragmatic

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I'm currently 23.

I don't know if I'm eligible enough to answer this question. These are a few things I consider
important (Pardon me for the repititions. I could manage only these :P):

 Know yourself - Knowing oneself is critical. Helps one know what they really want from
their life, here on.
 Tolerate - Understand that there exist things, people, ideologies, thoughts, etc. which you
do not approve of. Respect them, nonetheless.

 Experience - As much as possible. Gather as many experiences you can. They are add up
to become an integral part of 'life'.

 Travel - They give you perspectives and views, helps you implement (2) and (3) above.
 Genuineness - If you're taking something up, take it seriously. Just because 'everyone'
does it, it does not mean you do it. Know why you should do it and avoid stepping back
from trying something which interests you.

 Pick up skills - This is something which has been repeated over a million times but no
one understands the importance. Try your hand at anything which piques your interest.
Increase your relevance in the world and not care much for who is where and what they
are doing (unless they inspire you)

 CIBIL Score - This was one of the primary reasons, I wanted to write this answer. Yes !
It matters. Having recently, placed with a bank this is definitely one lesson (I can say)
someone in their 20s cannot ignore. The country is changing. The law of the land is
beyond anyone else and you cannot remain ignorant of that. Your CIBIL score is one
such thing which plays a critical role in one's life (unless you will never need a bank
account and you have your father's inherited 'stash of money'). If you think you might
need to make use of the financial system of the nation, pay a little attention to this small
but important thing. Here's a link to help you know more about your CIBIL Score -
https://www.cibil.com/faq/unders...
Hope this helps. Thanks for A2A :)
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Tharshakumar Tharmakulasingam, Been learning for 26 years.

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Here are some which I learnt from my personal experience.

1. Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone: Remember only family and best
friends love you unconditionally. They dont expect anything for return, and accept who
you are!
2. Do not let anybody to take decisions about YOUR life: Remember, you need to live
with the consequences, not them!
3. Continue to learn. Learning is a process not an event, so you should never stop learning.
Indeed, it gets easier to learn once you’re out of school because the relevance of what you
need to learn becomes more obvious. Indeed, the day you graduate is when the real
learning begins
4. Read: Read every day. Read everything you can. Don’t just read about things you know
about. Read about people. Read people.
5. You have to build yourself: Do not expect others to help you when it comes to career
and studies. You should work hard to conquer the challenging life.
6. Challenge yourself: Only in positive things :P. There are friends who challenge us in
several absurd things. (Smoking, drinking, partying). Be a loser in those challenges.
Always challenge yourself in positive things ( studying, running, quitting social
networks) and always a winner.
7. Studies come first before work: Invest your early twenties in academic. Study what you
love, be passionate it will land you in a good career.
8. Time is Not a Limitless Commodity – I so rarely find young professionals that have a
heightened sense of urgency to get to the next level. In our 20s we think we have all the
time in the world to A) figure it out and B) get what we want. Time is the only treasure
we start off with in abundance, and can never get back.
 9. Be healthy: Includes exercising, cutting junk food, cutting off sugar, having regular
health check ups and etc.
10. Don’t Wait to Be Told What to Do – You can’t have a sense of entitlement without a
sense of responsibility. You’ll never get ahead by waiting for someone to tell you what to
do. Saying “nobody asked me to do this” is a guaranteed recipe for failure. Err on the side
of doing too much, not too little.

Thank you!

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Coach Akanksha, Life coach sharing nuggets on happy living! www.ignitejoy.com

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Life is the summation of Lessons Learnt. Each day brings with it a new experience and new
learning. It just depends how many we decide to take notice of! Sharing here some Life lessons
with you.

View it on slideshare: 20 Hard Life Lessons @CoachAkanksha

1. Life is not always fair.

 2. It is probably not even fair to expect life to be fair
3. Strive hard to accomplish your dreams.
4. Don't take Life too seriously. Add some fun.
5. Every relationship teaches you something - cherish the learning.
6. Only You can Stand Up for Yourself. Do it Now.
7. Everyone does not have the same privileges and the sooner you come to terms with this
the better it is.
8. Learn to respect yourself - The sooner you do the better-off you will be.
9. It is best to start managing expectations early in life.
10. Expectations Change! They evolve over time.
11. The Leader in you is defined by the moment of Courage.
12. Don’t ever give up on yourself.
13. If you don't like something, change it now – don’t wait for tomorrow.
14. Don’t be stubborn - it will hurt you the most.
15. Networking is very very important.
16. Financial Security – it is the foundation stone for ‘Peace of mind' & ‘Creativity‘.
17. Creativity never dies. You just refuse to bring it out.
18. Don’t ever underestimate yourself. Else others will do the same.
19. Don’t ever give up on your dreams!
20. Gratitude can take you places

Take these lessons and learn from them! Life is unfolding every moment!

Explore Leadership & Life Coaching for Personal & Professional Excellence at
www.IgniteJoy.com: IGNITE JOY

All the Best!

Akanksha,

International Leadership Coach

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Prachie Vaity, First-rate Philosopher.

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1. People are mean. Deal with it.

2. Meaningful relationships are difficult to maintain.

3. You cannot please everyone. Get it straight.

4. Making new friends who would remain loyal to you is a myth. The world is highly
competitive.

5. There's always someone more talented, good-looking, richer than you.

6. There is a difference between working out to appear attractive and working out to be fit.

7. Your parents are the most important people in your life. You might want to do anything to
make them feel elated about you.

8. Your tongue decides how far will you go in your life.

9. There is a huge difference between your WANTS and NEEDS.

10. You may perhaps learn to recognise people.

11. You're your own saviour.

12. If you don't want to fail at a thing you've taken up, work for it. Push yourself upto extremes.

13. You can't master all the skills.

14. Know your strengths and weaknesses.

15. Most importantly, stop judging others.

16. The real world is highly materialistic.

17. Let go of all grudges you hold. They'll haunt forever.

18. Decide your priorities.

19. Life will give thousands of opportunities to take an unethical way to reach your dreams.
Beware. It will lead you in the abyss at the end.

20. Read. Nothing would increase your knowledge / experiences other than reading.

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David Payne, Read a lot of social psychology books and studied Sociology in undergrad
27k Views · David has 60+ answers in Experiences in Life

At 25, I’ve had a hard time accepting few fates, but I’ve also learned a lot too

1. Friends — My inner circle since I graduated high school as a 18 year old, and graduated
from undergrad has gotten smaller every year. It use to be about a dozen people, and now
its 2.
2. Getting uncomfortable to get comfortable — this is something I had to think about.
Because everything in high school and sometimes college is black and white. Once you
graduate, you have to try new things in order to build friendships with new people. Salsa
classes, cycling, yoga, fitness classes etc are simple ways to put yourself out there to
make new friends.
3. No one has an obligation to you — I know this idea stinks to some people, but all of
those people who you thought you could rely on, they are in a long term relationship,
moving cross country, or have kids to take care of. You are no ones responsibility, and no
one is your responsibility (unless you have pets, or kids).
4. Relationships — this is almost a continuation of the 3rd, because relationships have
strong emotions involved and can sometimes affect our logic in decision making. Its
tough, because we often feel like we can’t live without that special significant other
you’ve been with for years. My cousin spent 13 years of his life with the same girl from
17–30. Regret is probably his biggest doubt about staying in a relationship with someone
who he felt an obligation to. 13 years of his life he won’t get back.
5. You have options — don’t ever think that if you end your relationship today, you won’t
be able to find anyone else. There are 7 billion people on planet earth, and women will
not being going anywhere anytime soon. Focus, and understand that you do have options
and you can find someone else despite what your emotions tell you.
6. Time — as a young person, we often get told by older people “you’re young, you have
time,” or “I’m old, and fat.” Reflectively, hearing that puts young people under the
impression we have a lot of time to do things. Time is money, and sometimes younger
people think they are invincible, and sometimes ignorant.
7. Health — this also is associated with the time perception young people sometimes have.
Because we are told “we are young” and “we have time,” we often associate the youthful
experience with abundant health. The idea that we’re young is the idea that nothing bad
will happen. It might be true, but not doing routine checkups can be a habit leading into
adulthood of not doing an annual visit to your physician.
8. Working out — whether or not you were on a sports team while in high school, or even
in college, working out is continual and should never stop. Staying active, lifting weights,
and just doing something other than sitting on the couch can work wonders on your
health (literally). You don’t have infinite, and “I’m young” isn’t an excuse to not workout
and enjoy what the world has to offer.
9. Become a risk taker— your decisions somewhat define your personality, and learn to
not give a damn. Don’t feel bad for wanting to move, or to apply to a job that is either 30
miles away from home, or states away. We’ve become so apologetic because we worry
about what others think. Be you, and be mindful your parents have lived their life
already, learn to live yours. Never become complacent…
10. Never share your personal goals — this is something I have done in the past, and it has
backfired unfortunately. I talked up a huge storm to friends, and family, and coworkers
about how I was going to study abroad the summer of my sophomore year in college. I
shared it with dozens of people, and when the opportunity came time to pay up, I didn’t
have the funds. Poor planning on my end, and it made myself look bad.
11. Never share your personal goals pt 2 — Rod, a good friend of mine has a charismatic
personality, and can talk up a big storm. He shared with all of his friends of how he was
hoping to make it into law school by the time he turned 25. That was his thing, but he’s
been stuck in community college since 2008 and is still taking remedial courses to start
taking credit classes eventually. He shared his hopeful endeavor with dozens of people,
but never made it out of community college.
12. Focus on the process — I know we feel like at times we can do anything. I want to do
grad school, I want to do a PhD, but we sometimes miss the marks in between. I have
changed the process a little for me, instead of being enamored with the idea of getting
into University of Maryland, I’m taking it step by step. From marking down schools,
figuring out admission requirements, studying for the GRE and actually taking it.
Reminding myself its step by step and never get to far ahead of yourself with anything.
13. No one owes you anything — because you had a 4.0 GPA in college, lived off of a full
ride scholarship X university gave to you, the world still doesn’t owe you anything. A
great resume helps, but finding work can still be a challenge despite your rap sheet.
14. Loyalty means nothing — I have 2 friends who share similar stories about their
professional life. Both have been working in the same place since they turned 18. Several
years in the same place, and they felt as if because of their faithfulness toward the
company, they would get something in return. Some type of upheld respect, but still find
themselves in stick situations when they least expect with upper management.
15. Bouncing around jobs is fine — this idea that because we stay with one company, we’d
receive some type of return on investment is never the case. Never assume that because
you have worked OT, or been with X company for 5 years you’ll get some special
treatment. Finding something better that suits your needs is fine, and don’t let anyone else
tell anything different.
16. Stay true/honest to yourself — if you feel like you are being treated poorly, advocate
for yourself. From August to December of 2015, I filled out 50 plus applications and
went through dozens of interviews. Some made offers, and others didn’t. Going through
different interviews with different companies made me realize there were positions I
couldn’t see myself doing. I was so stuck on finding a job, without even realizing that X
company is trying to sell itself to me too. I have some leverage, and just because I need a
job, being desperate should never be a first option to accepting a position. You’ll find
yourself unhappy, and as soon as you accept your first position, you’ll find yourself
looking for employment elsewhere.
17. Keep friends close, but your enemies even closer — never give too much personal
information out about yourself. I had a friend a few years back who had been in a long
term relationship and would share 99 percent of what I shared with him to his girlfriend. I
overshared, and when we got into an argument he’d often use that dirt against me. Focus
on building relationships with people who either despise you, or see something in you
he/she might not like. You never feel complacent, and you motivate each other to do
more (workplace/outside of work).
18. Move out — the amount of pessimism that goes into renting your first apartment or room
amazes me. Oh I have shitty roommates, my landlord is making me check in with him
every other weekend etc. The stories are bad yes, but still, having that freedom is
important. Do your 25 year old friends want to come to your house while your mom and
dad are around too? Probably not. Do you think you could have a romantic dinner while
mom and dad are a few rooms away? Probably not.
19. Insurance — I got into an accident a few months ago and it wasn’t too bad. I had a
concussion, and my 1999 Toyota Camry was totaled. The incident itself was awful, yes.
What was more awful was dealing with insurance. Quite honestly, learning how to deal
with insurance, and lawyers is something there needs to be a college course in. With all
of the factors to soak in, I became a bit overwhelmed with deciding whether or not to take
legal action against a billion dollar industry. Learn, and learn the ins and outs of
insurance to ease the process in case anything happens.
20. Travel — lastly, this one is important. Learn to get uncomfortable to get comfortable. Go
out and explore different cultures. I got on a plane in early September to Dublin. Why? I
wasn’t entirely sure what I was doing, but traveling alone was a beauty in itself. I spoke
with different people, ate, had drinks, and gave myself autonomy. To know I have the
 ability to do things without my parents fully involved is beautiful. Mom gave me some
space, and despite her worrying, I still went ahead and did it. Both mom and dad haven’t
stepped foot outside the US, and I’m making it my goal to one up the 2 countries I visited
to 3 either by this year or next.

Most of what I put is a reflection of what I have experienced so far at 25 years old. Its a lot, but
its what I personally feel affects most twentysomethings. There is more of course, but I do feel
most of what I could of added has been covered already.

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I'm 21 and learn precious psychology few days ago which will help me throughout my life.

I want to share-no charge free of cost.

1. Don't be to honest.Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first.

2. Don't Trust any person blindly because they Say something. They will act different at times.
His words won't matched with his action.They will destroy your faith.

3. There is some selfish reason behind every friendship.

4. Follow your career(light), shadow(money) will follow you. If you follow your shadow you
will miss the light.

5. Don't get manipulated by the phrase like "Tum ache ho, caring ho, hearted, tumhare nature
bahut acha hai, you deserve better"If you love this this type of word. You will be disappointed by
their actions later

6. Don't be polite always. People will misuse you politeness.

7. Maintain self respect, otherwise people will not respect you.

8.Always loves your family no one love's you more than your family.

If I gain something more I will add here.

Thanks for reading

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Alden Tan, Making your life better today without stupid advice.
29.5k Views · Most Viewed Writer in Life Lessons with 30+ answers

1. When somebody is extremely nice to you for no real reason, it could mean that they’re
out to ultimately manipulate you for their own advantage or sell you something.
2. Busy is bullshit. Everybody is busy today. If something or someone means something to
you, you’ll make that time. Trust me, you’ve your entire life ahead of you to be busy. It’s
really up to you to switch it up and make time for things that really matter.
3. Sign an I.O.U. before borrowing or loaning a friend a large sum of money. Money always
puts a strain in relationships. Or better yet, don’t borrow or loan at all.
4. Never argue on social media or act like a passive aggressive bitch online. It gets you
nowhere and everyone else is laughing at you.
5. Have the courage to give yourself a chance at love. Or you may be missing out on what
could be the best thing that ever happened to you.
6. Have the courage to break away from a loveless or toxic relationship. You don’t want to
spend the rest of your life waking up beside someone you don’t love. And comfort does
not equate to true love.
7. Breakups hurt, but you’ll be fine. Stay strong.
8. Not all friendships last. Don’t be surprise when you guys start to fall out.
9. That said, people are never what they seem. The image people put up or what you think
you is a suitable judgement may be completely off.
10. If you’ve a business idea, start it today. You need to find out what works for you via real
experience.
11. Your college degree may not be as useful as you think it is.
 12. Common sense isn’t so common. People behave in bizarre manners all the time.
13. Money is important, but the bottom line is whether you want to chase it or not.
14. Spend time with your parents, for while you’ve been growing up, they’re merely growing
old.
15. Shit is real. Very real. You can’t ever overcome the unpredictability of life.
16. Passion does not solve all your problems. You’d do yourself good to ignore all those
advice on following your heart and all that as if it’s the golden ticket to a good life.
17. There’re no guarantees in life. Death is the only guarantee. Be wary of people who
guarantee easy money and stuff like that.
18. Street smarts are very, very important. Please, learn them.
19. The entire point of getting out of your comfort zone is to feel uncomfortable. Most people
talk about it, but cower away when it gets scary. Don’t be like that.
20. Happiness is a choice. No amount of mere things can help you with that if you don’t
choose it.

Make that choice easier by dropping the garbage in life. Get my free book: 12 things happy
people don’t give a fuck about!

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Queenly Joy Smith, Every culture has something different to offer.

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1. Since you're twenty you probably would have done 2 years of college or uni. REAL LIFE
starts after college.
2. The preparation for the life stated above starts now! Take this advice and thank me later.
You might wanna take life serious the moment you hit the 2–0 mark.
3. Your parents or support system may not always be there for you. Learn to be
independent.
4. Tis the time to prune your friendships and relationships. Not everyone around you is
needed.
5. Seize every opportunity to upgrade yourself professionally, spiritually, socially. Trust me,
it'll come in handy later in life.
6. Networking is very important. A person you meet today maybe the key to unlocking your
destiny tomorrow.
7. Chase after your dreams and passions. This is the time! Your thirties may bring about
children; you may never have time to chase those dreams.
8. Learn to have fun when necessary. “All work and no play..” may sound cliché but hey, it
really makes you a dull person.
9. Invest your money as much as you can! Plan for your future expenses. Start a pension
scheme now, sign up for a life insurance policy, just INVEST!
 10. DO NOT plan on having just one source of income. You’ll realize that extra money is
always welcome and appreciated.
11. Cherish family. No matter what, blood will always be thicker than water.
12. Try to be happy always. Nature abhors grumpy people.
13. Be patient! Life doesn't always throw you what you need and want when you do.
14. It's ok to be frustrated once a while, but learn to transform your frustrations into
solutions. Life brings many frustrations our way.
15. On the dating front, be open minded as much as possible. Tall, dark and handsome is not
always the way to go!
16. Remember your maker in the days of your youth! Very important!
17. Be nice to people. However, know that you can't please everyone. Some of your greatest
pains will come from the people you love most.
18. Set goals and targets for yourself. Work hard at achieving them and be firm about your
principles.
19. Desire money and work hard to earn your own. There's a good feeling that comes with
making your own bucks!
20. “Everything worth doing is worth doing well. Excellence then is not an act but a habit”

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Jade Daniel, No longer jaded

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1. You are responsible for yourself.

2. Learning is a lifestyle.

3. Your old opinions on the world were cute.

4. Your parents deserve a medal.

5. Humility is a wonderful thing.

4. Childhood friends cannot be replaced.

5. Nobody actually knows anything.

6. You are what you eat.

7. School/ university does not teach you about the real world.

8. Having good morals and ethics will help you feel better about yourself.
9. Complaining is a waste of time.

10. Do things for the experience.

11. Don't read the news.

12. Technology changes faster than your hair.

13. There are no shortcuts. Work hard.

14. Smile at strangers, it's not creepy.

15. To be bored is a choice.

16. Majority of the world are sheep.

17. You can be a better version of yourself with practice.

18. Comparing is irrelevant.

19. Nothing is forever.

20. Life is what you choose it to be.

Choose it to beautiful.

Much love.

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Omotosho Kayode, Value Investor, Ethical Hacker, Google Certified Adwords Professional
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Nothing is going to happen.

1. Nothing is going to happen if you say No.

2. Nothing is going to happen if you don't take the risk.

If you say No, nothing will happen

Nobody will die. You won't fall sick. You won't get sued. You'll be glad you did.

Most people are scared of saying no. I get it, peer pressure. It's hard for us as humans to go
against the convention. We don't want to be left out looking like a psycho.Truth is , everyone is
equally insecure. It only takes one person to stand up and break out from the chain and every one
else follows suit.

I learnt this from a friend who has a reputation for saying no. You want to borrow some minutes
of his time, he'll politely tell you no. Over time , people began to respect him for this.

Learning how to Value your time is very important. In your twenties, everybody wants to use
your time. On social media, cinema, soccer pitch, party. Cultivating an habit of strict time
management is key.
If you don't take the risk, nothing will happen

Nothing will change. You will be rooted on the same spot.You'll keep complaining. And time will
keep ticking. The universe will not wait for you.

We all have that friend that appears to have everything figured out. It seems everything he
touches turns to gold.

Truth is we dis't see the failure. Its hidden. People only see the success, the failure is always
buried in endless nights of practice, sending hundreds of job applications, heart breaks after heart
breaks and rejections.

And one morning when you wake up to that dream job or new house, you look like an over night
success.

If only they knew the number of sleepless nights.

A friend of mine was considering investing in a start-up. He knew it might not turn out too great
based on the analysis.Did that stop him? No.

He said something that really amazed me, "If I don't make this investment nothing will
happen." Yes, nothing.

If you don't apply for that job, nothing will happen. If you don't ask that girl out, nothing will
happen. If you don't demand for that salary raise, nothing will happen.
You have to summon courage and conquer your fears.

Like Will Smith said, " Greatness lies on the edge of destruction ".

No one said it's going to be easy; at least you should give it a shot.

Time waits for no man. In the blink of an eye, your 20s are over.

If you win, good; if you lose, you learn from your mistakes.

Else, nothing is going to happen.

Even if I fail to write the remaining 18 lessons.

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Peter Charlot, A lot of experience in assisting people to find how to gain their goals.
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Inevitability. You are not going to be a celebrity before you are thirty. Thirty will happen and
the wonderful days of twenties will be gone forever thus teaching you the same is going to
happen with the thirties. Inevitability ends with death. This we know, but throughout life one
experiences all shapes and forms of there is nothing you can do about whatever situation. It is a
hard lesson. It has to do with divorce, death, illness, physical incapacity, illnesses, bad luck,
having to adhere to the rules of gravity, accepting failure, work is not satisfying, your body is
really fragile, social expectations are often oppressive, socio economic class distinctions, and
you are not going to be asked to go to Mars.

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Jacky Dror, we can and must rise to life's challenges

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Sebastion, thank you for your question. I see you have in excess of 100 answers to this. What can
I possibly add that has not already been itemised?

One thing, and that is why, forgive me, I am not going to list 20 life lessons you can learn in your
20’s because added to all the other answers, it would just get lost in the mix.
I am going to add just one - but take note this is by far the most important one.

1. Be aware that you think you may have all the time in the world to live your life, but this
is an anomaly as I can vouch it goes very quickly. Don’t waste any of your time, and
make it count!

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Vinita Punjabi, C.A.Aspirant

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1. No matter how hard you try, you will always be judged .

2. You are replaceable. Period.
3. Most of the times, you will get hurt by your loved ones and vice versa.
4. Your brain will get fucked, when all your "why's " won't get any answer. Try to to deal
with it.
5. Some people are born with an unfair advantage called "luck". Avoid wasting your time in
feeling jealous from such people. It will be of no use.
6. "Selfishness" will not look ugly if you use it in your own favor. Yeah, hypocrisy is
something natural. You too fall in the category of those so called "people".
7. Your dreams, your preparations, your future goals, all depend upon the latest trends of
market demand and supply. You need to be more realistic than optimistic.
8. Your beloved one might leave you, without uttering a word, leaving you distressed and
confused. Who says, love gets reciprocated with love. Don't expect. Learn to accept and
move on.
9. Sometimes, the loss of certain things will teach you about their worth. Don't take
anything for granted.
10. There is no such thing called, "best friends forever". As you get mature, your friend circle
tends to get shrink. Don't worry, it is normal. It just means, you are learning, you are
growing and you are on the right track.
11. Peer pressure will always exist. Comparison comes easy to us. Earlier for marks, now for
salaries.
12. You will get tempted to fall in relationship. Just remember, relationship is not a need.
You need to prioritize. Love can wait. Career cannot.
13. Parents love is the purest form of love.
14. Unexpected failures are part of life. They will keep you grounded.
15. Spending time alone is cool. You will get to know more about yourself.
16. Never feel shy in asking for help. Learn from everything and everyone around you.
17. Don't overindulge in the process called thinking. Sometimes, it's good to follow your gut
feelings. Don't think. Just do.
18. Be careful in disclosing your weakness to someone. You may never know that your
weakness might turn into their strengths. The world is cruel. Be aware.
 19. Learning that living is not all about iPhone, selfies, or facebook timeline. It is more about
things that make us happy and content.
20. The only person who can truly help you in getting your shit clear is - YOU. You need to
trust him enough.

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Zainab Ahmad, A Mom who's Seen Life :)

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1. Take care of your health while you have it.

2. Not every ‘friend’, ‘relative’ (even in your immediate family!) is a well wisher.
3. Make careful decisions: life, time, options are finite at some point. Think long term.
4. Marry for life, and choose carefully. Makes a big difference.
5. Never allow anyone to disrespect you. No one has that right.
6. Always make time to relax, think, meditate.
7. Always ask, when someone wants you to do something; ‘what’s in it for them?’. Their
motives may or may not be for your good.
8. Make lots of friends! Despite all the cynical stuff above, treasure the good people. (Just
make sure no one makes your decisions but you, for YOUR wellbeing)
9. Connect with God. Everything else is transient.
10. Spend time in nature.
11. Get all the qualifications, take all the opportunities, develop yourself. Always be growing
professionally.
12. Never trust blindly.
13. Eat healthy.
14. Save.
15. Help other people out.
16. Forgiveness. Gratitude. Prayer. Keep a clean heart, full of goodwill.
17. Ruthlessly eliminate energy vampires
18. Learn NLP
19. Listen to Tony Robbins
20. Do awesome work. That is true happiness.

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Shubhanjali Jaiswal, 20+ years of working with Life....came to know later 'you are your own
boss'
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20s are difficult times. At least what I have felt till now.

Here are 20 lessons I have learnt:

1. Childhood is over, but not the child! You can keep it alive.

2. Life is not going to turn out how you thought it to be in your teenage. Life is a bitch.
Sharpen your weapon, brighten your wisdom. Stop looking at it with moist eyes.

3. Never accept things which you have not earned or cannot earn.

4. People are full of crap, so much so that your niceness or anger is not going to change anyone.
Learn to keep your calm.

5. Aging does not mean dying. Appreciate your experience.

6. Learn to cook, irrespective of your gender.

7. If you are frustrated of <what you are> no matter what you are, you are a frustrated
<what you are>. Learn to be happy with what you have or you will end up screwing everything
around.
8. It’s not necessary to make it a profession if you are good at it. Keep few things you would
do for no reason.

9. Behind every success story there are thousands of failure stories too. Be prepared. And
remember that failure does not mean no success.

10. Don't promise anything to anyone. Scenarios change, people change, meanings change,
your beliefs change too.

11. Criticizing your company/boss/organization is not going to lead you to anywhere, just
like it didn’t during your college/school. But actions certainly would.

12. Health and career are way more important than you thought them to be. No
explanations required.

13. Learn to let go. That relationship, that dream,that old dress, that career choice, that friend,
that sad song!

14. You must start that one project right now, now or never!

15. You think you know enough, still you won't be taken seriously. unless you are rich.

16. You need love. And so do people around you.

17. Save money. even if you think you won’t need it.

18. Drugs are not cool. Alcohol, cigarettes…not cool! There are only two destinations of such a
path started. Either you would come back looking to recover or be fully devastated. If it’s the
first one, do as early as possible.

19. That one stupid teenage/childhood friend would call randomly for no reason at all, even
sometimes would miss your birthday, anniversary or new year. But your colleagues and
professional friends would certainly wish you all the festivals and promotion and job
change....You know what's real.

20. The amazing life is still downloading, please be patient. It feels as if the fun is over and we
would never go back to what we were once. But then I also learnt that there is always something
you have not done yet ;-)
Cheers to life!!

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Marissa Russell, I'm living it.

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1. A backup plan is always needed. Coming up with a backup plan rather than believing
you will be a special snowflake in every scenario isn’t a sign of weak faith, it is a sign of
intelligence. Jumping without a safety net waiting for you is something that most people
don’t survive, and yes, you could be “most people.”
2. No one is truly your friend until they have made a sacrifice for you with nothing to
gain from it.
3. Don’t call someone your close friend until you have had at least 1 significant
problem in the friendship and effectively resolved it. Anyone nice looks like a close
friend until shit hits the fan.
4. You can become an addict. There is this erroneous perception that you can do hard
drugs in your 20s for the sake of experimenting and be bulletproof from getting dragged
into the life sentence of addiction. Your brain doesn’t care how old you are or what your
initial intentions were when it falls in love with a substance. Beware.
5. Everyone won’t cut you slack for being “young and dumb.” There are a lot of people
who will hold you accountable for your behavior regardless of your age. Your 20s won’t
always be a get-out-of-jail-free card.
6. It’s better to use anti-aging methods now than when you’re in your 40s and
desperate to turn back the hands of time. Quit smoking, put on the sunscreen and stop
the heavy drinking NOW because your skin will announce to the world whether or not
you’ve been living recklessly.
7. Drop the significant other that’s blocking you from your dreams/making your life
miserable. Generally speaking, your 20s are the best you’ll ever look and the most
baggage-free your life will ever be, which puts you in the perfect position to chase your
dreams. Why waste this prime time with a significant other who is constantly subtracting
from your quality of life?
8. Life isn’t just black and white. Instead of making snap judgments about people and
situations, get to know their backstories and you will see that life is made up of complex
gray areas that can’t always simply be labeled good or bad.
9. An opportunity is only lucky in proportion to how prepared you are for it. Make
sure that you are prepared for the big break that you are craving so you aren’t blindsided
or overwhelmed when it comes.
10. Don’t stay with someone because you believe you can’t live without them or find
anyone better. There are 7 billion people on this planet. Don’t sign up for a miserable,
lifelong relationship because of one person who can eventually become replaceable.
11. Don’t expect other people’s love for you to replace the need for you to love and
value yourself.
12. Do whatever it takes to ditch your worst habits now. It is not impossible to change bad
habits after your 20s, but it gets more and more improbable for people to change things
they have been doing for decades.
13. You don’t have to be part of every movement just because it’s the hot thing to do.
It’s okay to be in your 20s and not want an Instagram or want to go to Coachella. Spend
as many years of your life as possible being authentic rather than chasing movements just
because someone told you that you should like them.
14. Appreciate your parents or guardians. For some people, the 20s are the last decade
where they can fully take for granted that their parents will be around due to age. Make
your 20s about family too and not just friends.
15. Don’t get surprised if your 5 year plan doesn’t work out. Life is not linear. Our life
can’t align with every single step of our plan. Get ready for twists, turns and surprises.
 16. Just because it’s not happening now doesn’t mean it won’t ever happen. Everyone
can’t be a millionaire by age 25. If you simply be patient and not make any rash
decisions, you could eventually see the results that you desire.
17. Your wants aren’t needs. Putting Starbucks, weekly pedicures, and daily video game
purchases on the same pedestal as needs will always leave you financially unstable.
Never allow yourself to go broke for petty desires.
18. You will never win big doing what everyone else is doing. In high school, it might
have been appropriate to keep your head down and blend in to avoid being targeted and
bullied, but in the real world, differentiating yourself is your only hope to achieve
extraordinary success. If you’re not unique, you’re replaceable.
19. Don’t blow off a good, healthy relationship because society has convinced you that
your 20s must be dedicated to promiscuity and freedom. It’s okay to be in your 20s
and want a serious relationship. You don’t have a moral obligation to participate in
hookup culture, and you certainly shouldn’t mess up a good opportunity just so you can
chase a lifestyle that you think you’re supposed to have.
20. Life isn’t fair. Sometimes you will have to accept that someone wronged you and got
away with it. As cliche as it sounds, the best revenge is live a happy, successful life
despite what they did to you.

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Sefu Winters, More than 15 different jobs in 7 different countries

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1. Everything dies. ( Except the immortal Jellyfish, and Rock and Roll ) Once you accept death
and that it's a part of life, you will sleep easier.
2. People are just goofy bugs. Yet, bugs are amazing. We should realize that until we start acting
better than animals, we're just the same as them. Also, they are incredible and we could learn
from them.
3. Life is going to happen. People won't wait for you. Time won't wait for you.
4. No one really knows what is going on. Not scientists, not religious leaders, no one knows what
we're doing here.
5. People are greedy. We're never quite satisfied.
6. You are responsible for your thoughts, words and actions. Stop blaming others.
7. The governments are lying to you. In most cases, they don't have your best interests at heart.
8. Money is a belief system. Money is a game played by bankers and rich people.
9. The drug war exists because people are getting rich from it. It's not about your safety or the
safety of your children. Because if they really cared there would be real education on drugs, and
alcohol and nicotine would be considered as dangerous drugs, because they are.
10. The media is keeping you distracted. From real issues. Miley Cyrus's nip slip is not more
important than the 3rd building that fell on 9/11.
11. Educational systems are keeping you dumb. History should be our most important subject
and it shouldn't be served up as bland and uninteresting. But they do it for a reason- they don't
want well informed, critical thinkers, they want people chained to desks chasing payments.

12. Animal agriculture is the most destructive thing to the environment. End it.
13. The world is not ending. Another trick so you just consume, accept and don't care, is to make
you think the apocalypse is near. It's not. Take some responsibility. Have a look where the
products are coming from.
14. Children are the future. Don't spoil them, don't ruin them with the poisons they call fast food
and candy- teach them, keep them away from mainstream media! And help them build a better
future.
15. Romance is not what you read in novels or see in the movies. Be independent. Don't depend
upon anyone for your happiness. Allow others to be happy. Be honest about what you want.
16. There are too many rules and rituals. There should be one simple one- live a happy and
healthy life and allow and help others to do the same.
17. You can learn something from everyone you meet. Treat everyone the same.We all have to
eat and poop, so you're not special.
18. Life might be just a vivid dream. Don't take it too seriously.
19. Some people ask for too much.
20. Some people are lazy and don't give enough. Don't be like those people :) Thanks for reading

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Sangharsh Bhondekar, have seen the ups and downs, currently MBA student at JBIMS.
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1. The ultimate race is against yourself. Don’t try to compete with others. Improve
everyday on your art and in things which matter to you or else whatever you do there will
always be someone better than you.
2. No excuse is the mantra. No one is really interested whether you missed your goal by a
whisker or not. Whether you had severe hardships or not. Results matter, not excuses in
the real world.
3. People will dislike you for reasons you never thought of. Many people will come and
go from your life. Even if you wish good of everyone, there will always be some people
who will dislike you based on some rumors, events, etc.
4. Failure is an essential part of learning. If you never fail, you never grow. Take risks
and try the things you always wanted to do. For now is the right time.
5. Meeting even your best of friends will become a task. As we grow up, so do our
responsibilities. It might sometimes be that you meet your best friend once a year. But
fret not, as true friendship overcomes everything.
6. Online world for the most part of it is fake. People project online what they wished
their life would be rather than what is. Don’t get drawn away by all that glitters.
 7. Tough times are needed to remove the illusions of life. These are the times, which
bring you in check with the reality and keep you grounded.
8. You cease to exist when you cease to learn. If you have to remain relevant in this
globalization era, you better be learning and relearning your art continually.
9. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t blame the circumstances
for that would not change a thing. Change your mindset if you want to change your life.
10. Ideas are worth dime a dozen. Real change is in taking action. You already know how
to change your life; the main problem will always be in actually doing it.
11. Personal and professional lives should always be kept different. There will be a lot of
misery if you bring your workplace issues at home and take your family issues to the
office.
12. Always have your own barometer for everything. Don’t let people decide about what
you should do, how much you should earn, whom should you marry or which car you
should drive. Be happy if you think you have all that you need.
13. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. You are unique in your own way. Don’t
change your ways of doing things just to impress someone. Change but only for better.
14. Try and find your own niche. Now it can be a combination of different niches. Dedicate
your time and effort at becoming world class in it.
15. Expectations are poison drops for relationships. Don’t ever expect much from people
even your loved ones. You continue to give love to all and the people who really matter
will understand it and reciprocate equally.
16. Avoid the lazy lifestyle. Try and get into any sort of physical activity like a sport, gym,
dance, etc. It will give you more energy and add zeal to your life.
17. Hard work beats talent everyday. If you are not natural in a specific field of your
interest, you better roll up your sleeves and give your all to it.
18. Satisfaction comes in everyday things. You being able to get up early and workout or
you able to finish that assignment, these are the small everyday successes that keep you
going and satisfied.
19. Distractions are everywhere. Try and get your focus on one place at a time and avoid
multitasking.
20. Family is your ultimate support system. You might have no one left in your life, but
your family will always stand by you no matter what.

I also write on my Facebook Page ‘Success Mindset’. Feel free to drop in anytime and get latest
updates on mind and productivity hacks.

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Sharma Das, I'm curious and ask a lot of questions

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Wow what a question. I just hit 30 so let me give this one my best shot!
 1. It's ok to fail, it really is.
2. Falling in love is easy, staying in love is hard
3. The gym is your friend, go as often as you can.
4. People die, it hurts, it's part of life.
5. School is over, but the learning is no where near over.
6. Traveling is the greatest teacher we can have in this life, don't leave it out.
7. Patience is really a virtue, learn to cultivate it.
8. Friends are important, pick them wisely. The people you hang out with. You
eventually become.
9. Sleep. Your body needs it.
10. Complaining about things is absolutely useless. Don't whine about your problems,
it’ll do nothing for you.
11. Don't stop reading. Read books as often as you can.
12. Karma ( or some form of it ) is very real.
13. Eat healthy, don't fuck with your body or it will fuck with you back.
14. Dream, have goals, write them down, don't let them go. Or life will pass you by.
15. People are always gonna talk shit about you, don't let their poison get to you.
16. Don't drink and drive.
17. Smoking will kill you. Slowly, but surely.
18. Things will get a lot worse before they get better.
19. Believe in your fucking self, no one else will if you don't.
20. Be nice to people. Really. Don't be a prick.

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Michael Horstmann, Creative tech worker and learning enthusiast.

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1) Cut ties to people that hold you down this very instant and keep them cut.

2) Have opinions about stuff, but don’t post any opinions to your social accounts about anything
controversial no matter how compelled you feel to do so, EVER.

3) Be kind to every person you meet on a job interview, sometimes the cab driver is the CEO of
the company you’re applying to.

4) Dress for success, you’re coming up in a tough time where the office is converting into a
living room. Dress for success no matter what company culture you work in.

5) Failure isn’t a loss, losing the lesson in failure is true loss. Every successful business who has
built themselves have failed more than they have succeeded.
6) *Possibly should be #1* TAKE CARE OF YOUR TEETH!

7) *Possibly should be #2* TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY!

8) Don’t live with hatred, it feels good when you’re angry but your friends will pass faster than
you’re yet to realize and you want your last memories of anyone to be good memories.

9) Talks less, listen more.

10) Being right, does not necessarily mean you’re right. Apply this to work and your love life.

11) Be intelligent and informed so that you can defend yourself and your actions if necessary.

12) Drink more water and exercise twice a week for a few minutes as a minimum.

13) Have an emergency kit that doesn’t rely on anything involving tech, and includes at least, a
sewing kit, a knife, rope, hand crank flashlight/radio, and some basic food and water supplies.

14) Invest if the markets are bad, buy houses if there’s a recession, always be buying silver and
gold metal.

15) Don’t buy used cars, not even “slightly used” ones. Be the first owner with the first title,
spend extra and get the warranty.

16) If you need to buy tools, buy the ones you will only need to buy once, not the once you’ll
only use once before breaking.

17) Always give back 10% of your time and efforts to whatever you do.

18) Kids aren’t cute, they’re not fun, and they cost tons of money. That said, wait until your late
twenties at the earliest to have kids and you will appreciate them more.

19) Be prompt and immediate in responding to anything of legal matter.

20) If you don’t invest and you barely save, keep at least enough money in readily accessible
savings to buy an attorney.

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Madhuvanthi Sundararajan, To live is the rarest thing

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 1. People will judge you
2. You will judge people, even if you think you won't
3. People will use you
4. You will use people, even if you think you won't
5. People will bitch about you
6. You will bitch about people, even if you think you won't
7. You are not inevitable, even if you think otherwise
8. Nothing/no one is inevitable
9. Intelligence is overrated
10. Hard-work is underrated
11. Your friends need not be nice
12. Your enemies need not be rude
13. You are a liar
14. So is everyone else
15. Everyone has a degree of hypocrisy
16. There is hardly any right/wrong - only infinite situations
17. Your friend list will probably never grow exponentially from 20s
18. Luck is a real thing
19. It is easier to find people who criticise than ones who appreciate
20. Some people will always claim that life is difficult - choosing to listen to them can be
very tempting because those people are more in number. Choice is yours :)

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