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book like this. First, each is designed to draw out her femininity and bolster your
masculinity, because passion ignites when
boy meets girl. When a seductive technique
Salvation at last for men incorporates the magnetism, that natural
who’ve been mystified by women pull that comes from polarity, it works even
and relationships. Susan Bratton’s
faster to flame her desire for you.
30 Romance Tricks is a brilliant
instruction manual for men on how Secondly, these romantic strategies leverage
to create the relationships both her innate biology - to inflame her Cave
men and women dream about.
Woman urges. The third way these ideas
Simple, clear, and straightforward
strategies for men and women to come fully loaded is how they reflect the
play on the same team so that they five ways women most appreciate feeling
both win big!” romanced: declarations of love, feeling
— Dr. Deborah Anapol, through her senses, playful
out of the box relationship coach and adventures, erotic communication
author of The 7 Natural Laws of Love. and paying attention to her,
which is called “mindfulness.”
If you bought this book to romance your lady, thank you. The world
needs more romantic men. If you are a woman craving more
romance, I applaud you for taking into your own hands your
desire to be romanced. Either gift this book to your man or
read it and tell him what you liked best so he can give you
exactly what you want, the way you want it. That level of
clear communication is very helpful for our guys. They like
checklists and specifics because it helps them know they
are “doing it right” for you. Don’t be afraid to ask to be
romanced. Just give your guy lots of appreciation for
everything he tries.
The next short chapters give you an easy understanding
of how to be extremely romantic and how to further
personalize each.
You know that phrase, “two steps forward, one step back?” Imagine you are running
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up a flight of stairs. In your haste, you trip and fall halfway back down.
Because these romantic actions
lead to sensual and sexual
Perhaps it because I know you but I
thought your big, bright, beautiful sassy voice intimacy and deepen both you
came out just right. I very much appreciated and your partner’s feelings of
not only the very useful information but the love, if you’re not careful how you
lightness, compassion and humor with which it use these powerful techniques,
was delivered. I actually felt quite validated as your lover may push you back
in, “Hey, I do that already… cool. Now I know down the steps. Here’s how to
why it works!” and I am also quite excited to try gracefully keep ascending her
out some new “tricks” (like the Best Hug in the love ladder.
World and Favorite Frames technique). And
you’ve got me thinking about we can do next for These are not actions
an adventure! that “get you sex.”
These are activities
There were two very simple suggestions that that increase
really rang true for me: “There is no such thing
her desire to
as failure… merely feedback,” and “Be right
here, right now with her, putting your attention be physically
on her.” Oh yes. It works. close to
you.
Terrific book for both men and women looking
to become Olympic class lovers!
— Art Rogers,
Education Specialist at Swords to Plowshares
Give Freely
Romance is the action of focusing on making her feel your love
— both emotional and physical —because this feeling
strengthens the bond between lovers, connecting you
together through your hearts.
Romancing your partner is a gift you give yourself too.
Keeping score is fruitless — love is immeasurable. And it
doesn’t matter if, at first, you do “all the work” of romancing
her. Keep at it and soon she will be romancing you back.
Because romance is simply irresistible.
The more you give, the more you’ll get. Start giving freely
and you’ll see that more of your day is love-filled, sweet
and happy.
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anything, you do it for the pleasure of seeing her thrill to your advances. Because
this joy you get will naturally evolve into
more opportunities for sexual intimacy.
Every one of the “Tricks” in this
Get into the present time when you are
book softened my heart, lit my fire,
being romantic. Move toward being right
or got me wet. I’m sending a copy to
every man I know! I enthusiastically in the moment with her, fully present. Try
endorse 30 Romance Tricks. Without to let go of your absolute plan for a
a doubt, Susan’s savvy men will give romantic encounter and just go with the
more ongoing pleasure than ever to flow of her reactions. That way what ever
their lucky women!” you do will feel natural instead of forced
— Dr. Patricia Taylor, or pre-planned. Leave some space for
Creator of Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, spontaneity in the creation of your
Seduce Her Tonight, Seduction Accelerator romantic plans.
and Her Sexual Trainer.
Now it’s time to understand and
appreciate how powerfully our
physiology, especially hormones, impact her feelings for you. The more
you understand the root behavior of women’s emotional and physical
reactions to sex and love, the better you can leverage the little time
you have in your busy schedule and make the right moves that
work like magic to thrill her to you.
Cultivating Desire
Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love; and What
the Caveman Knew: Trigger Your Woman’s Primal Urges
and Reignite Your Sex Life.
As you romance her, you will
see her desire for you
increase. When you know how desire works, you can remove any stumbling
blocks that are keeping her desire tamped down.
You see, desire is a life force. Everyone has desire. We are born and
die sexual creatures. If desire is missing, it’s not gone, it’s being
covered up.
What’s covering it up? Either fear or pain of some kind.
When your wife or girlfriend was a little girl, she dreamed of
her boyfriend, her husband, her white knight. Your woman
has desire for romance, love, sensuality and sex. You just
need to bring her back to those core memories.
What can you do to increase her desire?
Her desires will increase for you when two things are
present.
The first is safety.
When a woman feels safe with you, when you protect her
Polarity occurs when both masculine and feminine behaviors are present. The
tension between the masculine and feminine create the energy of desire.
As you start being more masculine in her eyes, she’ll naturally become more
feminine. To enhance romance, you will want to increase your masculinity and evoke
her femininity. This creates romantic heat, without becoming overtly sexual, which
can turn her off.
The pull of desire comes from the tension between your masculine and her
feminine sides.
Add a little safe but new variety into your romance activities and you create an
intoxicating romantic brew.
The way to think about being masculine to increase romance is to think of yourself
as her “protector.” Being her protector creates safety for her. Are you noticing how
these three activities are inextricably entwined?
All of the romance ideas in this eBook combine the masculine/feminine and
the danger and safety so that her hormones love you, her body loves you,
hear heart loves you and her mind loves you.
Be A Ninja
Don’t tell her you bought this book.
Here’s why.
It will be more fun for both of you if you just starting doing
them. She’ll get more joy out of the experience if you
surprise her.
Surprise is one of the “5 Pillars of Passion.” Surprise and
adventure are woven into a number of the 30 Romance
Tricks in this eBook.
Don’t ruin it for her, or put more pressure on yourself, by
setting expectations. Just act, “as if” you are confident. This
woman already looks up to you. Not only do you have the
Now You’re Getting Into The Details Of What Makes Any Action Romantic
Mindfulness
Romance requires attention and intention. Remember earlier in this eBook when
you read about how she wants your “presence?” That’s part of mindfulness. When
you are with her, be present and in the moment.
Mindfulness also means taking into account her preferences — seeing life
through her eyes.
Another important facet of mindfulness to your woman is showing
your sensitive side to her. This creates intimacy and lets her know
that you trust her to see your vulnerabilities. And vulnerabilities
don’t mean weaknesses. When you show your emotions, your
sentimentality, it creates an opportunity for mutual self-
disclosure. When you share your feelings, especially how
they make you feel in your body, you are engaging with her
mindfully. Women treasure this level of intimacy.
1 — Mindfulness
• Show her plenty of attention and positive intention
• See life through your partners eyes
• Show your sentimentally sensitive side
• Engage in mutual self-disclosure, show your vulnerability
Playful Adventure
Three easy words of advice: Be more fun.
You are 80% of the way to being Mr. Romantic just by being FUN. Be more fun.
You are moving her toward pleasure with your romantic actions. Whether it’s
the spirit of adventure or adding the element of surprise — these include
some kind of small risky action, coupled with some kind of variety, which
fuels desire. Spontaneity and playfulness add excitement and bring
her back to her good feelings she had as a child. This adolescent
memory evokes a powerful time when she had many of her
“romantic firsts.” When you surprise and delight her; when
you make her feel like a kid again, you create romantic
moments that deepen your love for each other.
3—Playful Adventure
• A spirit of adventure
• Spontaneity and playfulness
• An element of surprise
• Excitement
SENSATE CONNECTION
1. Get Her Moving
2. The Classic: Flowers, Candy, Perfume, Lingerie
3. Sing
4. Daddy Energy
5. Get Wet
6. Setting-Up Your Loverspace
PLAYFUL ADVENTURE
1. A Hot Make-Out In The Back Seat of the Mini-Van
2. A Stroll In The Garden Holding Hands
3. Spoil Her In Bed
4. Satisfy Her With New Food
5. Take Her To Look At Something Interesting
6. Have Her Model Sexy Lingerie For You
EROTIC COMMUNICATION
1. Connect Her To Her Beauty
2. Sharing Frames
3. Romance Texting
4. Mirror and Match
5. Lead Her With Future Pacing
6. Aural Appreciation
DECLARATIONS
1. Mementos
2. Frame your Marriage Certificate
3. Start An Expanded Orgasm Practice Together
4. Declaring Your Undying Love
5. Bragging Rights To Sparkle Abundance
6. Photographic Memory
Print this page and keep it handy to remind you of your favorite Tricks. You
can also sign up at and receive one email a week for thirty weeks reminding
you of these ideas in order, so you can more actively offer her
Mindfulness
#1 Noticing Her
There is nothing more romantic to a woman than when you notice something special
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about her. We call this, “Erotic Vigilance” - one of the Four Keys to Seduction.
It’s THIS simple to do:
“I love when you cook this meal. It always tastes so good to me.”
If you forget all 29 other Romance Tricks, but you remember to notice
one special thing about her every day, she’ll light up like the NY
skyline.
Unlike men, who don’t need constant reassurance, women thrive
on a steady stream of approval and appreciation. We like to
HEAR you compliment us. This is also a form of Erotic
Communication.
Moreover, by being the man that compliments her, you are
leading her with your masculinity. By complimenting her on
her feminine activities and womanly looks, you’ll
automatically increase your polarity and you encourage her
feelings of trust and safety in your presence. This is
essential to encouraging the safety/risk duality of romantic
eroticism.
Susan Bratton: Like the guy who cooked dinner and got lucky once so now he’s
hoping it will work again?
Karen Brody: Exactly. It’s such a turn-off for a woman. She can feel it. She has
an intuitive radar for noticing your ways of bargaining for sex. And what she
starts to believe inside of herself is that you’re all about the sex. Now why
does she believe this? Because if you weren’t all about the sex you
would never bargain. You wouldn’t bargain at all. You would insist on
having that deep loving sexual connection with her. You’d be direct
about it. You wouldn’t feel that you needed to take out the
garbage or take her to Hawaii to get that great sex.”
As you are being her Cave Man Love Slave, make sure you
stop and kiss and hug her as you are working. Make it a fun
time together. Have her hold the drill, tell you exactly how
she wants the work... make it a playful adventure.
You can even put a love note in her purse offering your Love
Slave Services. This creates Polarity, Erotic Communication
and Desire in one fell swoop, and your effort to take care of
her needs further establishes the net of safety in the
safety/risk duality of romance.
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Remember: There is no failure, only feedback.
These menus really get you two
trying a lot of variety of beautiful,
Susan Bratton offers a compelling and
sensual activities… entertaining articulation of the life-
Which is EXACTLY what she needs to transforming value of romance for
get turned on: today’s man and woman.”
This will likely be your favorite section because you get to touch and feel her.
Using these specific strategies that encourage Sensate Connection do more to
make her feel feminine than any of the others, because they connect her brain
and heart to her body.
You can make this Chocolate Candy Trick very sensual. And if you want an
even more sensual gift experience, buy her a sueded silk or satin (not
polyester, guys) nightie or gown. Do you know how good sueded silk and
real satin feel to the hand? Imagine how good it feels on her body.
Put care into the presentation. What are you going to do when you
bring home a nightgown, beautifully wrapped? How are you
going to give it to her? The giving of the gift is as important as
the gift itself. Don’t squander the romance by simply handing
her a present. Make the giving of the gift the best part of the
idea.
When you give her a silk or satin negligée, her skin will be
caressed by you with every brush of fabric. With this gift,
you will awaken both her skin and her sense of touch just
as flowers and perfume awaken her sense of sight and
smell.
A quick trip to the department tore perfume counter where
you and she can both sniff the fragrances and take home
some samples to see what smells best on her turns this
#9 Sing!
Make a playlist of her favorite songs from the months you were first falling in love
and sing along together in the car. This will flood her with Oxytocin and make her feel
almost as good as when you make love.
Sing with a deep, masculine voice. Be silly about yourself, singing down as low as you
can go. Resonate your voice in your chest like an opera singer. Goof around a bit and
be playful. Make her giggle.
Singing causes you both to breathe more deeply, oxygenating your systems, which
in turn makes you feel more alive together.
Singing also opens up your throats, loosens your mouths and tongues and
makes kissing afterward a particularly delicious feeling.
Singing your old time favorite songs creates memories and meaning,
adding to the romance.
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Don’t say a word. Make the hug long enough for it to really feel good but short
enough to keep her from talking. The element
of surprise is key here in creating desire.
Because surprise is related to risk, yet as her I never thought about how I
man, you’re a safe guy to give her that hugged my woman.
reckless hug.
Thanks for these specific
Adding a couple of sweet kisses to her eyelids instructions. I posted them on
makes this even more romantic to her. my mirror.”
— Matt D.
Here’s my favorite Daddy Energy strategy.
Give her “The Best Hug In The World.”
Try this with your lady when you are lying in bed or on the sofa together. Hold her
tight, with both of your arms wrapped around her, securely anchoring her. Pull her
close to you — abdomen to abdomen, heart to heart — and then hold her. Don’t
hold her too tight, but hold her tight enough that when she relaxes, she can feel
that you really have her safe.
Don’t let go.
Ask her to relax fully in your arms.
Tell her you are not going to let go until she asks you to.
Ask her to relax for you again.
Tell her you love her. Tell her she’s your precious angel. Tell her
you are so glad you are sharing your life with her. Tell her
whatever is real for you.
As she relaxes, remind her that you’ve got her, and squeeze
her just a little more tightly. Keep a medium and constant
amount pressure on her everywhere your body is touching
hers. Don’t let go. Don’t release her. Don’t open your arms.
Encourage her to feel you holding her. Whisper in her ear in
a low, soothing voice your request that she allow herself to
relax and feel held by you. As she relaxes, just keep holding
her. Ask her to relax. Ask her to just let it all go. Remind her
that you have her completely.
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it’s a signal to let go.
Don’t let go. Just let her melt in your arms.
Now I’m kicking myself for all the
And as you’re holding her, think about how missed opportunities.
much you love this sassy, sweet, delicate,
kick-butt creature. I now know they were begging
me to do exactly what you
And fill her with love and affection. described.
— Pete I. A.
Breathe with her.
Match her breath and then slowly deepen your breaths and “breathe her.” Set
the pace of the breathing so her breath slows and deepens and your hearts
beat as one.
Feel free to give her plenty of instruction before you start, so she knows
you will not let go. So she knows you are encouraging her to feel really
held by her man.
Now that is MANLY.
How much time do you spend preparing the room for lovemaking? Do you
run in, bounce on the bed and holler, “Yeah, baby, let’s do it!” Well, you’re
probably doing a little better than that, but for a woman to really let go and
surrender into bliss with you, I suggest you do what Dr. Patti Taylor calls, “Setting
the Loverspace.”
I can’t wait to tell you about what this means for the future of your love life. Setting
Loverspace makes a profound impact on her ability to relax and surrender to her
body’s pleasure with you.
Setting up your Loverspace lets you enjoy delightful anticipation of time you will spend
together in physical intimacy.
When you put attention on creating a pleasant atmosphere for foreplay, the
lovemaking that follows is much sweeter and more erotic.
Every woman is unique, so you must explore with her what kind of Loverspace set
up she would find most luxurious. Find out the following things by asking her:
“When we make love, if conditions were so perfect for you that you could relax
and totally enjoy yourself, what would they be?”
1. Would it be lighter or darker?
2. What temperature would the room be to make you most
comfortable?
3. Which room would you like to be in?
4. Would you enjoy music or silence?
5. What is your favorite kind of massage oil or cream?
This is called, “Running a Menu.” Once you know what she
prefers, make them so.
Bring hand towels or washcloths folded in a neat pile. If she
likes it darker but not pitch dark, try a 30-Watt Orange CFL
Lightbulb.
See if you can make it very comfortable for her in the room
so she can just relax and be with you.
Playful Adventure
Are you a fun guy?
f you’ve been too serious, it’s time to lighten up, take a deep breath
and learn to laugh again.
Let’s get frisky.
Now that you are noticing her and putting your attention on
her you can amp up your romancing to another level by
combining risk and safety to create desire.
Risk can come in the form of doing something new together.
Or that risky, adventurous feeling can be generated by and
outing (or “inning”) that provides variety.
As you think about which of these Playful Adventures you
can personalize for your taste, look for opportunities to add
Polarity. How can you make her feel her femininity as you
take her out on a date?
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BONUS Appreciation
4. Think of your very favorite attribute of her body – what is your favorite spot today?
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Now you have plenty of ideas to share with her about what it is that you loved best
last time you felt very close to her.
And once you start giving it to her, she’ll start giving it back to you.
Give It To Her.
She may discount or not believe what you say. Women often
find it hard to take in compliments.
Write her a love note and tuck it in her purse or under her pillow.
Touch your favorite part of her body as you show her why you love it.
Texting, whispering, voice mail, love notes and touching are different ways of
communicating erotically with her.
Find the one that suits you two most and give it a try. This one is pretty edgy for
many men. She will reward you for even the smallest of efforts, so it pays to be bold
and tell her what you love about her.
Each of you shares one specific frame (or snapshot in time) of the
experience that relates to something you felt in your body, that you really
enjoyed.
For example, John might say, “Sue, when I hugged you more tightly as we kissed, I
noticed you relaxing and letting go. I felt a warm rush of energy and love for you.”
And then Sue might say, “John, when you took me in your arms, I felt my whole body
sink down to a new level of letting go and opening up, and this rush of sensation
came up through my pussy, that then shot right up into my belly, like white-hot
heat.”
You can share frames about the following sorts of details:
If you are a man of few words and “Sharing Frames” sounds torturous, you
may prefer to text her your sentiments.
Texting is the “love note of the 21st century” and can create an enormous amount
of turn-on for each other.
If you don’t know what to write, get some pre-written texts and simply modify what
is already penned for you. Sloane Fox, our Sensual Ambassador, has a free eBook
called, “Sexy Texting Made Easy,” with done-for-you texts. Send an email to and she’ll
send you a free copy.
Texting stokes her fires through the day. And she is like a fire while you are a light
switch – ready on command. She needs tinder and kindling, sweet little texts that
keep her mind on romance and on you, that fan her flames and stoke her embers
and add fuel to her fire– until she’s burning hot and bright for you.
As Calle Zorro says about texting... “Don’t try to close the deal all at once.”
One guy told me, “I texted her and she didn’t respond, but when I got home I got
a very hot kiss that night!”
In order to create the energy of desire, you must enter into this strategy with a playful
loving approach and escalate from there.
The key is to go at the pace she goes, match her cues and then slowly reward, follow
her and then slowly begin to lead her increment by increment where you want her
to go, but make sure that every time you do she’s rewarded with pleasure.
Mirroring and matching are very simple tactics. Yet you’d be amazed at
the miracles it can create in terms of deeper intimacy and more
fulfilling experiences for both of you. What happens when you do
this to a woman is you bring her to arousal faster, you increase
her desire more powerfully, and it doesn’t matter if she has
body issues, control issues, or even if she’s afraid. When you
do this you bypass all of that. It goes right to the part of her
that tells her what’s okay to go forward and what’s not.” —
David Van Arrick
Declarations
#25 Mementos
Save the ticket stubs from a concert you take her to.
Pick up a rock from a beach walk and put it by your front
door.
What tokens of your times together can you save and bring
out to surprise her?
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romantic for a woman. Don’t miss the most simple romantic action you can take.
“You are my lady, don’t ever forget it.” “I’ll love you now and forever.”
— Calle Zorro
Express yourself.
2. _____________________________________________
3. _____________________________________________
4. _____________________________________________
5. _____________________________________________
Make a list of anything you need to source, like restaurant reservations, lingerie,
an exotic car rental or breath mints here:
1. _____________________________________________
2. _____________________________________________
3. _____________________________________________
4. _____________________________________________
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It remains for me to thank some of those who have made this book possible. First
I wish to thank my mentor, Dr. Patricia Taylor, whose distinctions in the area of
couples communication honor the masculine and feminine and create clarity and
safety in a way unlike any other teaching I’ve experienced.
Dr. Patti’s knowledge about “training each other,” her method of “Sharing Frames” and
her “Four Keys to Seduction“ created a foundation of understanding about couple’s
dynamics that allowed me to dig further into what men can do to romance women in
the way they love to be romanced.
The person who encouraged me most in my writing career was my husband, Tim
Bratton, who cleared the technical hurdles that allowed me to publish my online
home study courses and deliver them to men worldwide. And his giant appetite
for love, affection and wanton sensuality give me plenty of practice both giving
and receiving romance.
It is impossible to mention all the colleagues, friends and lovers who, over
the years have contributed to my understanding of romance and
passion. I particularly benefitted from Adam Gilad’s understanding
of erotic communication and the interactions I’ve had with so
many men in the world of pick up, seduction and masculinity
including David Van Arrick, Alex Allman, Carlos Xuma and
John Alanis.
My gratitude extends to all of the authors of countless books
on desire, passion, monogamy, polarity and sexuality I’ve
devoured, especially Sheri Winston, who co-created “Secret
Maps to Buried Pleasure,” with me.
Finally, I wish to record my gratitude to all of the men who
have written to me to ask for help so I could apply my
theoretical knowledge to their situations to see that my
techniques and advice work. Their willingness to be
vulnerable in their hunger for connection with their woman
as well as their resolve to “take it on” themselves to learn
Warmly,
Susan Bratton
CEO
Personal Life Media, Inc.
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