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In spite of all the havoc and war in today’s world, it still revolves around love or at least
in the concept of love. All of us have a different perception of what love is but no one
definition can satisfy all the people of the world. Romantic relationships are among the
most interesting yet confusing parts of life. Why do some people have a happy long run
The first attachment one experiences as an infant is usually with a mother. This
expectations, and capability to have stable adult relationships. This paper attempts to
The theory of attachment was developed by John Bowlby, who was trying to understand
the distress experienced by infants who were separated from their parents. He noticed
that infants cried, tried to prevent separation from their parents that was somehow
anxiety from a primary attachment figure who provides support, protection and care. He
suggested that infants who were able to maintain closeness to an attachment figure
connections are made between human development and emotions. If the attachment
figure is nearby, attentive and accessible then the child grows up feeling secure, loved
and confident and, if that is not the case then the child feels anxiety and is insecure.
Mary Ainsworth has made a crucial contribution to this theory. She classified three
different infant attachment styles. According to her research, at least three types of
children exist: children with secure relationships with their parents, characterized by low
anxiety and low avoidance. These individuals have a positive perception of self and feel
Low avoidance and high anxiety are characteristic of a preoccupied attachment style.
These individuals tend to have a negative self perception and see themselves as
unworthy of love and have a preoccupation with a need for acceptance from positively
evaluated individuals.
Low anxiety and high resistance is characteristic of anxious resistant attachment style.
People with such an attachment style have a positive perception of self but a negative
With further exploration of this theory, it was suggested that childhood attachment styles
may affect relationships in adulthood. According to Hazan and Shaver, the childhood
adulthood. Hazan and Shaver (1987) said that the emotional bond that develops
between two adult romantic partners is a product of the same motivational system that
Emotional stability
research exploring romantic relationships shows that secure and insecure attachment
Hazan and Shaver noticed some similarities in the relationship between infants and
Hazan and Shaver, in their study on adult attachment styles found that the distribution
of categories in adults is the same as in infancy. In their study, 60% of the adults
In a naturalistic study on adults that separated them from their parents at an airport
shoes that their behaviors were linked with attachment related protest and care giving
were obvious and associated with attachment styles (Fraley & Shaver).
In cross cultural studies, it was observed that the most commonly occurring and
desirable attachment style between infants and mothers was a secure pattern of
Similar results emerged in adults seeking a long term relationship related to responsive
care giving qualities such as warmth and attentiveness in potential partners. (Zeifman &
Hazan, 1997).
Social neuroscience research proposes that brain structures are involved in attachment
A secure relationship entails care, love and support and allows the individuals in the
attachment style is said to be vital in most stable long term relationships.(Cann et al,
2008).
Secure infants tend to be well adjusted. Adult attachment research has seen similar
patterns. It’s safe to say that secure adults are more satisfied than insecure adults.
It is worthy of noting that attachment styles don’t have hard and fast rules. An individual
may not show same levels of avoidance and anxiety over time or across different
relationships. Many longitudinal studies insinuate that working models run toward
stability from infancy to adulthood, and adjust to some extent but do not carry into adult
In contrast with secure people, relationships of anxious people are filled with insecurity,
conflict and jealousy.(Campbell, Simpson, Boldry, & Kashy, 2005;Collins & Read, 1990;
Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Levy & Davis, 1988; Simpson, Rholes, &Phillips, 1996). Hence,
highly avoidant individuals have low satisfaction, trust and commitment (Collins & Read,
1990; Levy & Davis, 1988) and avoidant people are not able to give or seek support to
their partners (B. Feeney & Collins, 2001; Simpson, Rholes, & Nelligan, 1992).
The theory of adult attachment has its share of controversies and complications. The
In retrospect, it was found that adults who were secure in their relationships were able
The concern that emerges is whether attachment styles stay the same from infancy to
adulthood? The first concern is, how similar security is with different people in their lives
and secondly, with respect to these relationships, how stable is security over life time?
Fraley, in his study, collected results of one’s present attachment style with a parent and
a current romantic partner and found correlations ranging from 0.20-0.50 (i.e. small to
In context of the second concern, a longitudinal study analyzed the link between
security at age 1 and age 20 of the same people in their adult relationships and a
correlation of 0.17 was found between these two variables (Steele, Waters, Crowell, &
Treboux, 1998).
Based on these studies, it is evident that the attachment styles with parents and
romantic partners are moderately related. Some researchers feel that the most crucial
point of this theory is that the attachment style that originates in infancy, influences
behavior, feeling and thoughts well into adulthood (Fraley & Shaver, 2000).
The quality of a relationship has also been studies in adult romantic relationships with
reference to attachment styles (Levy & Davis, 1988). Davis noticed slight correlations
between love style and attachment style measures that gave limited support to the
Empirical evidence was also found that supported all three attachment styles: positive
positively related to avoidant attachment style; and anxious attachment style was
A study done recently by Hendrick and Hendrick supported the above; they assessed
many measures of love that included attachment items of Hazan and Shaver.
Among the subscale of these measures, reliable relationships were also observed. Love
addiction is another interesting factor surfaced by attachment styles (Cowan & Kinder,
1985; Peele, 1975) that is an extreme search and need for love depicted by intense
theory brings to light the influence of interrelated models of self and of relationships in
the continuum of attachment styles; hence the possibility that self esteem may be linked
Self esteem may be linked to attitudes toward love, although the relationship between
self esteem, forms of romantic love and self actualization are intricate (Dion & Dion,
1985, 1988; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986). On the other hand, some researchers
suggest a negative relationship between self esteem and the extreme forms of love
(Tennov, 1979).
Cultural Aspects
Researchers propose that culture and attachment style may have a strong effect on
styles vary greatly among cultures and that impacts on people’s romantic preferences,
ease when facing commitments and the dynamics of marital and romantic relationships.
developmental task: attachment (Hazan & Shaver, 1987) or learning to trust (Erikson
1982).
intimacy and interdependence. In love schemas model, there are six possible
Clingy- they desire too much closeness but feel uneasy when forced to be independent.
Skittish- these individuals desire independence, but if forced to get too close they may
Then finally, there are two types of people who are not at all interested in relationships.
Uninterested- they are not interested in any type of relationship romantic or otherwise,
Hatfield and Rapson (2005) designed a scale to measure these six attachment styles.
In a prodigious study (Schmitt, 2008), 17000 men and women were interviewed from 56
nations. The results were as he predicted, in most cultures people claim to possess a
secure attachment style. The author says that parent-child bonds are universal across
Sprecher et al (1994) interviewed Americans, Russians and Japanese. It was found that
men and women identified themselves as secure in their relationships in all three
cultures. Doherty and his colleagues (1994), who interviewed Americans of Chinese,
Culture does slightly affect how men and women define themselves. Sprecher et al
(1994) found that American men are more likely to possess a secure schema than are
Russian or Japanese men. American and Japanese women are more likely to possess
Soon and Malley-Morrison (2002) suggested that, in general, East Asian’s are
endeavor for self-acceptance via the approval of highly valued others. In Schmitt’s study
of 56 nations, it was found that East Asians are prone to preoccupied style (clingy).
differences in people’s attachment styles. He argued that cultures which have plenty of
resources; people are able to possess long-term relationships and invest in secure
and women’s attachment styles. Throughout time gender inequality has been prevalent.
Women were oppressed and often considered inferior than most. In such a situation,
women would be likely to fall into the clingy or dependent love category. Men on the
contrary, probably fell into the category of the casual and uninterested.
Cultures differ greatly in values (Schwartz, 1992), self-schemas (Marcus & Kityama
1991), and cultural orientations (Triandis, 1992; Triandis, McCusker, & Hui, 1990). More
specifically, culture may impact and shape romantic preferences, comfort with serious
termination of a relationship (Choo at al. 1996; Hatfield, Rapson, & Martel, 2007;
Conclusion
Regrettably, scholarly research exploring the impact of culture, gender and attachment
style on romantic relations remains inadequate. Ideally, there would already be a body
of research on people’s views and visions of love in religious and secular communities;
in peaceful and warlike countries; urban and rural cities; and in poor and affluent
countries. Presently, some scholars hold the view that attachment style is a cultural
constant. Currently, it may be wished that researchers and clinicians instill more time to