MARRIAGE

BREAKTHROUGH
STRATETGIC PRAYERS

JUDE-THADDEUS UZOMA
 DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to God Almighty and to the would-be Priests

who are eager to learn the principles of answered prayers.
INTRODUCTION
To the people of God wanting to marry:
This inspired book is written for ladies and gentlemen who are believing
God seriously for their life partner.
MARRIAGE BREAKTHROUGH STRATEGIC PRAYERS will enhance your
understanding on the subject of prayer. It will also catapult your level of
prayer or communion with God and fortify your dependence on Him as
your all in all. It will also help to establish you as an all-time commander
in life situation as you desired change. This book will also help to guide
you in to establish that God answers prayer. It will arm you with the all
the biblical principles to answered prayer. This book will also provoke
the trilling to affect a life of answered prayer. This book will convince
you that prayer is an art that is ought to be learnt and developed by all
you will learn in this book, the basic truth that will properly guide you
to pray and receive your answers.
Besides, with this book’s special interest in marriage breakthrough
prayers and teachings, the readers of this book shall understand that
marriage is instituted by God for our own good. As you read on, you
shall also learn how to find a marriage partner and understand
courtship.
Finally, you will learn how to produce you strong reasons in prayer.
How to place a demand on God’s promises for your life. You will also
learn to bring back to God his words or will through prayer. You will
also understand that God is a respecter of no man. He answers prayers
of only those who know how to hold him by his words. God respects his
word above his name.
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THE PRAYER THAT GOD ANWERS

Whenever a man places a strong and passionate

demand on God’s promises for his or her life, by producing
divine biblical reasons why God should answer the prayers
offered, God becomes helpless and bent on answering such
an irresistible prayer. On the contrary, if you lack the
knowledge to biblical offer up your prayers, you will end up
praying amiss.

What is Prayer and how to say it? Prayer is placing

continuous, ceaseless demands on God’s promises or words
with the expectation or strong faith that you have already
received your request. And the approach is to call on God,
cry unto him and also attend his heavenly banquet-Ps 50:15,
Ps 34; 17, Lk. 14:17, Jer. 33:3, Matt 7:7.

Prayer is the most effective when it is a dialogue and

never a monologue or complaint. Prayer means reasoning
with God: Isa 1; 18, Isa 41:21, Ps 65:2,Ps 94; 9.Prayer is
talking to God and hearing him talk back to you.
 Prayer is asking and receiving from God Matt 7:7, Matt
6:32.When you ask God to intervene in your situation, He
will because you called on Him base on his word.Jer
33:3.Coming to God by His word is prayer. Prayer is the key
to unlock the doors of rich joyous life. Isa 34; 16, Lk 18:1,
2Cor.10:45, James 5:17.

Prayer is not begging without knowledge or believers’

authority. It is searching out of the book of the law what
God’s will is for you on any or particular matter. When you
search out what the will of God is, believe it, hear it and
know that it is for your good.

Prayer is not a way of overcoming God’s reluctance but

rather, it is laying hold on God’s willingness to get done
what He has already said. In Lk 5:13 – Jesus said; “I am
willing be thou clean.

Prayer is the cornerstone of Christianity John 16;

24.untill you receive answers to your prayers, you have not
prayed through. Acts 4:30, LK 18:1

Finally, prayer is the key .Jesus said ‘And I will give unto
thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: whatsoever thou
shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; whatsoever
thou shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven
“therefore with the instrument of prayer, you will establish
heaven on earth. Make it a habit today to pray without
ceasing.so at this juncture, we will be learning how and what
it means to produce your strong reason and divine reasons
in prayers for God to hear you.
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PRODUCING STRONG AND DIVINE RESONS WHILE PRAYING

This topic is simply and expressly the true meaning of prayer because
the word of God is the will of God –which He respects highly more than
his name .When you produce your strong reasons why God should
answer you scripturally, then be rest assured that God will not fail in his
own part. For instance, we will be looking at those strong and scriptural
reason laid down already in God’s word before we were born into this
earth. What we are trying to prove in this chapter is to tell the devil
that he cannot stop you from marrying but only ignorance of the word
of God that can stop you. Another thing we are also going to establish
here is that God can give you your right mate, the person He has
predestined to be your wife or husband. And finally, to establish that
you can marry without making mistake as God is ready to give you your
heart desire.

Those strong reasons why a man or woman must marry to the Glory of
God include:

A.TO HAVE A HELPMEET

God said in Gen 2:1 “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will
make him a helpmeet for him”. Beloved, whenever you are praying for
a life partner, please don’t fail to remind God this particular scripture
that shows how emotional God is when it comes to settling his children
marritally.God is emotionally concerned and feels involved when he
sees his son or daughter who has reached the age of marrying still
staying alone because he has not got a spouse to a helpmeet or a
husband. “For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with
the feeling of our infirmities, but was in all points tempted like as we
are ,yet without sin”-Heb.4:15-so ,every child of God has the boldness
which was given to him or her to approach the throne of grace, that he
may obtain mercy ,and find grace to help in the time of need. This need
the bible talked about herein, I want you to see it or take it as that
marriage burden that has delayed and even become a barrier and a
thing of riddicle.God has said it all that why He us Jesus Christ and
allowed Him to come out among men even in fleshly form is to make
Him our confidant. Our God, Emmanuel-that is God is with us.

Immediately, God said it “is not good for man to be alone”, He provided
Adam or the man “a help meet”. And Adam said “this is the bone of my
bone and the flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, because she
was taken out of man”-Gen 2:23.When you are praying for your
marriage remind him to complement you so that you can fulfill your
responsibility inn life. Bible says that immediately God breathed into
Adam’s nostril the breath of life, he became a living soul-Gen 2:7.Tell
God in your prayers that you are an emotional being and that the soul
He gave you is the home of emotions, therefore He is the one that
caused it to be and should also satisfy it.Do you know why you should
pray to God like this? It is because He is the one that said produce your
strong reasons why He should give you not just a wife but also a
“helpmeet”, a virtuous woman or man, husband or wife. God said “seek
ye out of the book of the lord, and read: “no one of these shall fail,
none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded and his
spirit it hath gathered them”-Isa 34:16

If you are a woman looking for your husband, or a man looking for your
wife, pray and remind God that He said in Gen 2:18 that “it is not good
for man to be alone “whenever something is not good then it is bad.so
being alone as a man when you have literarily reached the age of
marrying is bad and the same thing goes the man. But be careful here,
because God cannot give a helpmeet to a man or woman who is
praying for a sex partner outside marriage. The book of Heb.13:4 said
that “marriage is honorable in all, and bed undefiled: but
whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”

Hera me my beloved why you have not married is not because you
don’t pay your tithe or give your offerings or serve in God’s house but
might be that simply you lack the knowledge and reject knowledge-Hos
4:6.Have you forgotten the word of God that says in Matt 19;4 “have ye
not read from, that He which made them at the beginning made them
male and female “Why can’t you now with faith call out your own wife
or husband which Jesus is reminding you and which you have in the
bible and have read only for you to claim it as you own and call it to
come into existence.Dont you know that you can pray the book of
Heb.11:3 which said “so that things which are seen were not made of
things which do appear” what bible is trying to say here is that it is
now your work to settle your marriage with your mouth. Use the
positive and optimistic side of your mouth to call out your husband so
that he can come out into existence and wed with you, the same thing
is applicable to the man-why because from the beginning, God already
knows who your wife or husband will be and has created him or her
for you. So, what God is expecting from you to do now is “call on Him
and He will show you great and mighty things you don’t know about”-
Jer. 33:3.He wants you to remind and call upon Him to rescue you,
because even “this poor man” called and He delivered him ,so call
your own and He will do it for His name sake. I don’t want you to ever
in life think that God does not want to rejoice in your marriage and
your wedding day, because He wish above all things for you to prosper.

God cannot forget your marriage, His settling you down in your
husband’s house and giving you a virtuous woman and heart desires so
easily. As he after all remembered that Adam was alone, so also will He
remember that He has not given you your wife or husband as you
cooperate with him in prayer faithfully. Do your responsibility towards
God. Adam fulfilled his responsibility towards God: he dressed the
garden and kept it ,he ate freely only the tree of life and avoided that
tree of knowledge of good and evil, Adam called every living things
their names .After all this obedience toward God ,God saw that
everything He created was good and have their mate except
Adam, And to break that jinx of bachelorhood and loneliness in Adam’s
life, He caused Adam to fall into a deep, He took a rib from ,his ribs and
closed up the flesh and formed Eve from it and brought her to Adam
;and called her woman.

Your prayer from today will be: God, please help me to serve you for I
know for sure that my wife or husband is within me not outside. Help
also to be alone not having immoral relationship prior to my marriage
so that you can fell for me and bring me my desired husband or wife
Amen. So try to be alone as much as you can.Being alone is state of
purity, morality while waiting for God’s quick notice, is a sinequa non in
your life. Praying for life partner is always a prayer that hinges on
ascertaining the perfect will of God, not His permissible will if that
marriage must be successful and prosperous. Praying to have a
helpmeet is scriptural because is God’s concern, therefore, the need to
get clearance is indispensible. It is also when there is a true
consecration, dedication or separation that is all-important that prayer
works most in the life of any man or woman who is in dire need for
marriage breakthrough.

Remember, that whenever you are praying for a helpmeet or life

partner, you are not trying to change the will of God or His original
intent for you concerning that marriage or the very man or woman He
has before the foundation of the world formed for you or paired you up
with; rather, you are yielding your soul, spirit and body for God to
use.So, today relax your thought, desire, wishes unto God and the devil
not harm you forever.

B.FOR SPIRITUAL RE-ENFORCEMENT

This is another strong,desire,scriptural reason why God should

give you your husband or wife .Why won’t perish if you lack this
knowledge that it is God’s wish in all things to give you a
helpmeet, your mate or life partner. To some, the devil ha
corrupted this reliable truth in their mind that God does not care
for their marriage breakthrough. Look! my dear reader even when
the enemy has vow that you will not marry and settle down ,let
me tell you as soon as you start praying in full knowledge of the
treasures you have already in the Lord that are contained in the
word, then nothing will stop you from winning this just battle that
will liberate you.
The phrase “spiritual reinforcement “could mean multiplying your
force to do something spiritually, intensifying your force, zeal or
destroying the foundation of the devil. “Re-enforcement”-the “re”
means “adding to”, “replacing” while “enforcement” means
“enforce again”, “put into full effect”, “empower something into
a law” or “activation”. Therefore, marriage is very important from
God’s own stand point. So as that the couple involved could fan
into flame their prayer, authority, talent or gifts to the glory of
GOD.
Notice this today: “How shall one pursue a thousand and two one
ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the
Lord hath shut them up”-Deut.32:30.The book of Ps 28:1-says that
“the Lord is my rock”. It is the wish of God your rock to sale you to
your wife or your husband for spiritual reinforcement. God cannot
make mistake because he knows that when you are praying for
spiritual reinforcement as one of your strong reasons for marriage
or why God should settle you, He know that you would have
prayed without knowing that you have prayed a prayer of unity
which involves putting faith together as Matt 18:19 says: “that if
two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that shall
ask, it shall be done for them of my father which is in heaven”. If
you sincerely pray this prayer of unity of spiritual reasons, God is
bent on answering you because you are putting forth His words to
Him by placing a demand on His promises for you. Prayer of unity
between a man and his wife availeth much. God honours it what if
it is specific. “And when they (disciples) heard that, they lifted up
their voice to God with one accord”- Acts 4:24-30. No wonder the
book of Deut 32:30 makes reference to one pursuing one
thousand and two ten thousand. That is to say that two is better
than one .Therefore let God know that there are battles of life
that you alone cannot fight effectively as a spinster or bachelor.
Put God to remembrance! He honours His words more that His
name. You are a heir .Christ has died and rose, so you can access
your right through the word of God by the power of the Holy
Spirit. Rise today claim, call and have your husband.Dont die
desiring it. God called forth what was not in existence as though
they were-Rom 4:7, Gen 1:1-3.
Remind God vigorously and substantially that the reason why you
want to marry is beyond mere having sex. It is all about having
your matrimonial prayer partner-a man or a woman that can pray
and war in the spirit. Tell God that His word says that “iron
sharpeneth iron”-Prov. 27:17.Cry to God that as woman, you are
the weaker sex and you are in need of your own man, your mate,
your husband to pursue the ten thousand enemies pursuing
your life an destiny as a single person. The same thing is
applicable to the man.
Your strong scriptural reasons in prayer why God should give you
your helpmeet or life partner ,is to claim the secret things that
God reserves to those who are married and who know that
when you have married legitimately, you have kept the word of
Go’s covenant and you are bound to prosper in all that you do!
Deut 29:9.
Pray and cried unto the lord that you have searched for the
scripture that if you are not married, you have not fulfilled the
marriage covenant that has blessing attached to it. As Jesus
fulfilled all righteousness, tell God that you want to do the same
(His will).Be sincere and be specific in this prayer point. God is
closer to the broken hearted. When He hears your cry for mercy,
He will listen to you. Don’t ever try to quit in in your prayers
because winners never quit and quitters never win. God arranges
such a situation sometimes to allow you pray out yourself. See
your marriage issues as a light affliction. Then, groan and the Holy
Spirit will finish the groaning-Rom 8:18-20.Before you marry, try
to know God, because marriage is not a holiday trip!
C.FOR COMPANIONSHIP
Having a companion is another strong scriptural reason why God
will not fail in giving you your heart desire in marriage .Do you
that companionship which is the relationship of companions, is
also a fellowship. Adam was alone in the Garden of Eden except
that God visits him .Therefore relating with the opposite sex
becomes expedient and came to the notice of God. When God
intervene on Adams case by seeing the need to give him
companionship which is the most important aspects of a married
life; God now fulfilled His word to men as recorded in Isa 34:16
“seek ye out of the book of the Lord, and read: no one of these
shall fail, none shall want her mate”
Pray this prayer: “O Lord, I beseech thee, let now thy ear be
attentive to the prayer of thy servant, and to the prayer of thy
servant, who desire [delight] to fear thy name: and prosper”-
Neh. 1:11. When you pray for your life partner or helpmeet, be
serious about it like Nehemiah, the cupbearer, Why this
companionship is very important is that you, the suppliant is
desirous of pity before God. So, tell God point clear that you to
delight to fear His name so as to prosper and wouldn’t like to
indulge in immortality with another man or woman that is not
your right mate .But make sure here as you remind God all these,
that you are in one way or the other serving Him sincerely or else
you might be delaying the Nehemiah, who prayed, was
cupbear,that is, he was serving during the time of this prayer.
“And y shall serve the Lord your God, he shall bless thy bread, and
thy water, and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee”
Exo. 23:25.
Praying for companionship as a prayer point is a sensitive prayer
that must be prayed aright and not amiss. “This is the confidence
we have if we pray according to the will of God, he hears us-
1Jn4:5.Whenever you pray for companionship as a strong reason
and prayer point for your marriage, believe that God is a
rewarded of those who diligently seek Him. As prayer for a
companion, ask in faith. Don’t waver. If you do not ever think that
you will receive, it is because you are unsettled in all your ways.
If you are desirously and sincerely praying through this strong
reason-companionship as an indispensible fact for God to give
you your companion as ma n or a woman, God will not fail you.
Do you know why God is a respecter of His word? When He said
that none shall want her mate, He meant it through and through,
because from the beginning, He made them male and female.
Another underlying reason why He would answer as pray for
your life partner while presenting companionship as one of the
strongest reasons for entering into marriage is because God is
unhappy and disappointed seeing His sons or daughter or son of
a stranger God. Because any man or woman that does such, God
will cut him or her out of His tabernacles of Jacob.Mal.2:11,12, 14.
Prayer is inevitable before, within and after marriage. Without
praying for companionship as a scriptural reason for marriage,
you might as well get the permissible will of God which is not His
perfect will. God is interested in your wedding not just your
marriage alone. It is because He witnesses in every marriage and
would like to witness in your own who is importunately calling on
Him to provide you with a companion or helpmeet. As a man,
God will give you the wife of your youth, and demand that you
that you do not treat her treacherously, because she is your
companion and the wife of your covenant. Marriage is a covenant,
and must be approached spiritually and not carnally. To be
carnally minded marriage is death, but to be spiritually minded is
life and peace. If you sincerely desire life and peace in marriage,
earnestly pray for companionship, it is the most important aspect
of married life.
Tell God that why you want to marry is to have and enjoy
companionship; being with your covenanted husband and wife
and not the strange daughter or son of a strange god. Instead you
to marry and never enjoy companionship, you better remain
alone or wait for God’s time .Don’t ever rush into any marriage
without God’s will or else, you will rush out. If God says no then
wait! A broken courtship is even better than a broken marriage.
D. IT IS A COVENANT
One of the strongest reasons for marriage is that it is a covenant.
When praying to God about your spouse your husband or wife
,don’t fail to remind Him that marriage is a covenant and never a
n ordinary promise and as such, you don’t need to be outside His
covenant that has a tremendous blessings attached to it .
Whenever marriage is consummated, a serious covenant that is
honourable has been entered into. And bible said “no man should
put asunder or separated it.
What is then Covenant? Covenant means an agreement between
two people ratified by the blood of Jesus.Covenent is different
from promise. Promise simply means a transaction between two
or more persons with law binding it.Covenant has conditions
attached to it.Covenant is usually written. God’s side of the
covenant is always constant Mal. 3:6.
Let your strong reason be that you as a child of Gog wants to
enter into this covenant (marriage) which involves always two
individuals-men and woman on three different levels involving:
Spirit, Soul and Body (Flesh).
Since marriage is a serious covenant God witnesses in from the
beginning “keep therefore the words of this covenant, and do
them that ye may prosper in all that ye do”-Deut 29:9.Prayerfully
and sincerely convince God that you want to keep the words of
“this covenant”-marriage which is the word of God. You cannot
partake in the will of God which you are not ready to keep and
honour.So, my beloved, this is part of the strong reasons you are
to bring before God for your marriage breakthrough should not
scare you away because it is still your many .Don’t run away from
your already made blessing, just embrace it and claim it.
God is simply telling you that you can do all things. He is saying
that His law is not grievous ,that you can keep His law when He
says “if thou shall hearken diligently unto the voice of the Lord
thy God , to observe and to do all His commandments which I
command thee this day, that the Lord thy Gog will set be thee on
high above all nations of the earth”-Deut 28:1
Another strong reason why you should not be afraid about
whether you will marry or not as a result of time running out
against your age; is because you have heard that the first shall be
the last. Have you forgotten that God has engraved you on the
palm of His Hand? Even though a nursing mother can forget her
suckling baby, the Lord will not forget you. Do not be afraid. Pray
always about your marriage and the Lord will bring it to pass
hastily at the appointed time. If you can convince God who keeps
the vows of this covenant(marriage) which He cherishes so much,
then know it that He will not despise your prayers and the strong
reasons for the marriage .Your scriptural reasons why God
should give you your own spouse is anchored now on your
preparedness to observe the whole commandments pertaining to
marriage by His grace. Remember you cannot deceive God. Bible
says “because the lord hath been witness between thee ant the
wife of your youth”-Mal 2:14.If you want God to give you your
helpmeet or your spouse divinely, then pray to Him that you will
not cheat your own or your mate. Tell God that you as a man or
woman enter into a conscious covenant with Him through the
holy institution of marriage.
Pray and remind God that His direction is needed in this covenant
in as much as it is for two walk together. Agreement is absolutely
important; because you want to enter into a lifelong agreement,
then there must be acceptance between the two people joining
themselves as one. God is not man, when He sees your sincerity;
He is bent on answering you by giving you His desired portion for
your life.
F. FOR PURITY SAKE
Purity means the sanctity of the body-1 Cor. 6:9-40.The body of
every child of God is holy by the reason of being washed by the
Blood of the Lamb. “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not
inherit the kingdom of God? “Therefore, here, you have every
strong reasons to tell God in humility and all sincerity that you
cherish and wished to maintain purity instead of burning in lust
and impurity. Present to God again His word in prayer which says
that fornicators or adulterers shall not inherit the kingdom of
God. By the time you ceaselessly back up your prayers of marriage
breakthrough with strong reasons as concerning why you should
be given your real wife or husband, God is vent on giving you
what He thinks is the best for you. Jesus said concerning this
marriage issue, you should pray about it without getting faint.
Whenever a righteous man or woman of God cries to God, He
must answer. He does not joke with the cries of the righteous.
Remind Him in your prayers seriously that that the sin of
fornication to you as a single lady or man is not expedient to you
and cannot be brought down under its power. Do you know that
fornication as a sin has terrible power over your spirit, soul and
body? Therefore cry to God to settle your marriage issue so that
Satan tempts you not-1Cor 7:1-9.
Your strong reason as you pray to God for breakthrough in your
marriage should be that your body is your Lord’s temple and
because it is the temple of Holy Ghost, it is no longer good for a
man to touch a woman outside marriage. Remind God who is your
father that He established marriage so as to discourage impunity
and as such, should settle you with your own helpmeet or spouse.
God loves His children who know their right or inheritance in Him.
God said ‘O Jacob you have not wearied yourself out for me’.
Prayerfully put God to remembrance that marriage is a covenant
established by Himself and as such should be honourable and
undefiled. God said “keep therefore the words of this covenant,
and do them that ye may prosper in all that you do”-Deut
29:9.Also “because the Lord hath being witness between thee and
the wife of thy youth…. Yet is she thy companion, and the wife of
thy covenat”Mal. 2:14. So, from this context, it becomes clearer
that marriage is a covenant and commandment that God is
interested in and protects seriously.
The bible says “for the commandment is a lamp; and the law is
light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life”- Prov. 6:23.
From this scripture therefore, we will produce another stronger
reason why God should give you your husband or wife. I want you
at this juncture to place a demand on God’s promises for you in
the areas of marriage from the stand point of purity which He
cherishes so much. The bible says kiss a childless he grows angry.
It is time for you to remind Gog importantly that you are an
emotional being subject to fall and mistakes. Tell Him that you are
tired of staying alone and single and as such needs a lawful
spouse for purity to be encouraged in your life. Hear God’s wish
for you, whether you are a man or a lady; it is to “keep you from
the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange
woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her
take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a worish woman a
man is brought to piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for
the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes
not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be
burned? So he that goeth into his neighbour’s wife; whosever
toucheth her shall not be innocent. Men do not despise a thief, if
he steals to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; But if he be found,
he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his
house. But whosever committed adultery with a woman lacketh
understanding; he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul”-
Prov. 6:24-32.
Therefore, let your cry, your prayer point from now onward be:
Father I don’t want to destroy my own soul through the sin of
immorality, therefore my good God, provide me my own husband
or wife Amen.
G. FOR PROCREATION
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them ‘Be fruitful and
multiply, replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion
over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over
every living thing that moveth upon the earth’-Gen 1:28.
IF God has given this very first or Edenic covenant to man, who
are you not to t fulfill it in your life. For every gift of God is good
and should be received with thanksgiving. Therefore tell God in
prayer that your another strong reason for marriage is to receive
and to accept this wonderful gift of procreation as you manifest in
your life on earth. God finished creating man and gave him the
power of procreation- which is to beget and conceive offspring to
produce or to create. Following this divine instruction or mandate,
“Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceive, and bare Cain ‘and
said, I have gotten a man from the Lord. And she again bare his
brother Abel,And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller
of ground”-Gen 4;1-2.The very act of creation is crucial to God in
order to establish a kingdom on earth and this led Him to replace
creation with procreation. God knew too well that His original
method of creation mat not necessary continue, then He replaced
it with procreation which is solely the role of man and woman,
husband and wife. That was why in the day that God created man,
He make man in His own likeness but afterward, man (Adam)
through the process of procreation, begat a son in his(man’s) own
likeness, and image. Therefore man and woman, husband and
wife, pares, couples, spouse, etc. You have no excuse for not
having your own children. The bible said increase and multiply,
subdue, replenish and dominate. This open cheque in Gen 1:28 is
a kingdom blessing, pray it out, key into it and remind God that He
should fulfill His word that is infallible, shaper than two edged
sword in your marriage that is honourabl.And when Jabez
remembered that he is more honorable than his brothers, he
prayed radical prayers reminding God that he (Jabez) is fearfully
and wonderfully made. God now enlarged his coast, blessed him,
changed his name and all through his life, he no longer knew
sorrow and pain. Every barren woman or man is not yet enlarged;
therefore, procreation is next to enlargement. The joy of every
wife, woman is not yet complete until she becomes a mother so,
you have an assignment to pray and seriously believe God for fruit
of the womb that is procreation. It is not just because you sinned
or that your parents sinned, or your forefathers sinned that is the
cause but because you have not prayed and believed god enough
but have been busy complaining away your blessings. Little prayer
that is feeble and weak plus lack of faith coupled with your
complain attitude in prayers are responsible for lack of
breakthrough in your prayers. If you are ready to change your
prayer pattern, God is ever ready to release your miracle baby.
In the same vein, there is another strong reason why couples
should have children after fulfilling God’s instruction by marrying.
God said in Deut.7:13-13 “And he will love thee and bless thee,
and multiply thee: he will also bless the fruit of thy womb; thou
shall be blessed above all people: there shall not be male or
female barren among you or among your cattle”. Let me explain
to you what God is unequivocally saying in this scripture. He made
an unconditional statement of promises and love to mankind. So,
if there are a people to pray and believe God by His words then
answers will definitely come to you. The problem with men is that
we have not prayed the effectual, fervent prayer of Elijah in that
case of barrenness and childlessness. God promised us that when
we pray like the importunate widow, “He will hear the heavens,
heavens will hear the earth, the earth will hear the corn and the
wine and the oil and they will hear you”-Hos 2:21-23.The secret
things of the Lord is with them that fear; and He will show the His
covenant”-Ps 25:14.A person who fears the Lord is the person
who delights in His words to observe them and to do them and by
so doing, increases in wisdom. The wisdom of God will add life
and health to your length of days on earth. You husband and wife
hears me well: God cannot lie because he is not man and his
foundation is based on truth. He has given you his words which he
values above his names so that you can come to Him boldly and
confidently by His word. Prayer simply means making demands on
your blessings that God promised you by reminding Him
prayerfully the chapters and the verses of those scriptures as
evidence or prove continuously and continually. God has said it
long ago to you to “present your case, set forth your arguments
tell us what the former things were, so that we may consider
them-Isa 41:21-22.Immediately you are in the constant habit of
presenting your best argument to God here on earth, heaven will
hear you at the set time. When the clouds are full, rain will fall.
Answer to prayers will finally come when your arguments before
the heavenly court are considered biblically and found worthy.
When your prayer for the release of your wife or husband,
present to God your best argument which is procreation, one of
the mandates He authorized you to fulfill. Tell God how desperate
you are for your marriage, because marriage must come before
procreation. You must fulfill His injunction to marry and to
procreate. God will like to know your best reasons why you want
marriage before he can release your wife or husband to you; you
as the man have to sincerely tell Him that it is written in Ps 128:3-
that “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house”,
therefore, you want to see His word fulfilled in your marital life.
Your children will be like olive plants around your table. Your
house need to be pact full not like a quiet burial ground. The bible
says that children are like arrow flung into eternity and blessed is
the man whose quiver is full of them. Return God’s word back to
Him in prayer, Say what you need and say it how you heard Him
say it how you heard Him say it in His word. For example, God said
in Job 5:25- “your children will be many; your descendants will be
as plentiful as grass!” Put this very scripture back to God, He will
be helpless only just to answer and give you your baby after your
obedience to His word commanding you to marry has been
fulfilled. Just as some teachers mark their students good on
impression when they make a good point or points that interest
them, so also God rejoices when you make good arguments in
your prayers through the knowledge of His word. Note, your
prayers do not change God or bribe Him rather your fervent
prayers changes things and move mountains and obstacles that
drove you to pray. Call upon Him, He will show you great and
mighty things you know nothing about. His position is always for
you to call on Him and He wills answer you. So a man who has no
answer is a man who did not pray, ask or call upon the Lord. At
least ‘no’ or ‘wait’, is still a response. When He tells you ‘no’, then
it is not His will. When He says ‘wait’, then know that He will do it
in His best time. Your best reason to God on why you need your
marriage is because He said in Deut 28:4 “your fruit of womb will
be blessed”. Woman why are you crying as if crying alone will give
you a child add prayer and faith declaration of these secrets of the
Lord that belongs to the that fear Him and see if it will not work.
By knowledge and wisdom God created the universe. So therefore
there is life in your tongue, create your baby, your marriage, your
car, your house, your world etc.
H. THEROLE OF A BISHOP REQUIRES MARRIAGE
I will explain as much as possible what I meant here. St. Paul said
to Titus that “A bishop must be blameless. He must be faithful to
His wife, and his children must be believers who are not wild or
rebellious”-Titus 1:6.With this kind of reason, you can pray to God
for hours reminding Him to do something by giving you a faithful
wife and make you a faithful husband so that you can qualify to
be a bishop or overseer of His flock. You need also to have
children that are not rebellious to man and God. So, these good
conditions and prayers must come to you by the avenues of
prayers and fasting. “If a man desires the office of a bishop, he
desires a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the
husband of one wife ,vigilant, not given to wine, no striker, not
greedy, of filthy lucre
; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; one that rules well his
own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity…..”-
1Tim 3:1-4.Since it takes good marriage (husband and wife) to be
qualified as a bishop, it also behooves on a bishop to desire a
good wife and pray it out the same applies to the woman, pray
and be sure that the man you are about to marry is God’s desire
for you otherwise divorce, unfaithfulness in marriage is inevitable
which may finally lead to polygamous life and automatically
disqualifies you as an exemplary bishop. When this happens, the
spiritual life of the person in question will start to decline. Good
marriage will encourage you to desire for good and spiritual
things. So, tell God your good reasons for marriage. He is a
merciful God. He knows your heart that you don’t want failed and
troublesome marriage.
I. FOR EARLY SATIFACTION

David prayed to God persistently for early satisfaction and for his
joy to be complete in life and marriage. As you are desperately
searching for your own spouse prayerfully, know it for sure that
God will answer you. One of your anchor reason why you need
your spouse, should be fort the reasons of early satisfaction.

Oh! Satisfy us early with thy mercy; that we may rejoice and be
glad all our days”-Ps 90:14.Marriage is a merciful institution
authored by God.In Gen 2:18,God mercifully said to Adam it is not
good for you to be a alone. Therefore, cry to God today with this
best argument which is early satisfaction. He has already
promised you and taken an oath with his name and cannot go
back in what He said. His spirit is committed at all times to gather
and fulfill whatever His mouth has uttered concerning you. Put it
back to God in your effectual prayers saying “satisfy me in the
morning with your unfailing love(marriage),that you may sing for
joy and be glad all your days “If your marriage has been delayed
,if you have not stepped into your early satisfaction as a man or as
a woman and your age is going older day by day, month by
month, year by year, then you have to seriously cry out and pray
out your soul in desperation by saying: “Oh Lord make me glad
for as many days,months,years as you have afflicted me”

Marriage is the unfailing love o and loving kindness that God has
packaged and kept for you to enjoy early in your life before the
world was made. I know that it is the will of God to satisfy you
early because He said it in Isa 34:16 “search in the Lord’s book of
living creatures and read what it says: “not one of these creatures
will be missing, and not one will be without its mate “In the book
of Mal 2:14-16,God talked about the ‘wife of your youth’
therefore, know it today that it has been in God’s agenda to give
you early satisfaction by giving you your own wife or husband. I
want to tackle this wonderful and strong reason called “early
satisfaction” headlong so that God will know that you know His
word and release your spouse. If you are a friend of God, then you
must know Gods word and approach Him boldly by prayer. Prayer
is a serious business that needs boldness. Boldness is the very first
thing in business. Pray to God; determine to get your marriage
early. Nobody enjoys late marriage. God does not even subscribe
it to His friends but He purposely subjected your good and desired
spouse in hope so that you can learn how to cry, groan for your
deliverance, liberation before getting your early satisfaction. Hear
what the bride said to the bride groom in Song of Solomon 7:10-“
I am my beloved’s and his desire is toward me .come ,my
beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us bodge in the villages.
Let us get up early to the vineyards”. Therefore, know it today
that both man and woman in their inner man, cherish early
marriage but because life generally does not give you what you
just desire and wish but those things you strongly place a demand
upon. The more you learn the more you earn. Learn the word of
God, study it, meditate it and pray yourself out of spinsterhood or
bachelorhood. Tell God that you need marriage and that your
reason for it is that marriage and that your reason for it instant
you want early satisfaction which He promised you in His word.

When you ask God to give you your own spouse, let Him to know
also that His word promised you early satisfaction and divine
settlement. Provide God with evidences why He should do what
you are praying for .Prayer is not just crying and complaining
alone in fear. The case you have to present to Him to consider you
is what the bible referred to in 1 Pet 5:10 –“ But God of all grace
who has called us into His eternal Glory by Christ Jesus, after that
you have suffered a while, make you
perfect,stablish,strength,settle you”. You have suffered a while
now is the time for you to do something, turn to prayer. Why
would you die in ignorance and laziness? Don’t you know that
anytime that you are not exercising your faith in prayers and in
the word, you are only lazying around? Your assignment today is
to pray for your early satisfaction.

J. FOR PROSTERITY SAKE

Marrying for posterity reason is one of the best arguments worthy
of taking to God in prayer by any of His children. God is a
disciplinarian. He said that even though earthly fathers are
wicked, He has never seen them for one day, giving their children
snake when they asked for fish or give then scorpion when they
requested for egg. Therefore God is saying today that if you can
present His words back to Him where He said that “I will give your
descendants, posterity, offspring’s, and successors”, then He is
bent on giving you that which He promised. Moses is an example
of a man, bishop, overseer, leader, priest who married for
posterity sake and was saved by it without giving a damn to all his
critics who happened to be his own people. You don’t just pray for
marriage settlement, you have to back it up with best argument
ever you can find in the word of God. He Moses married her wife
Ziporah, his family members were against his marriage but they
don’t know what Moses saw in her. Moses really prayed for a
woman who will help preserve his life, seed and generation; a
woman that will stand by Him in prayers. Moses married a woman
who understands the word of God by constant usage that made
her grew by it.His family members were busy tracing her lingae
and genelolgy whereas God has choosen her already for His
servant Moses as a perfect helpmeet to assist him in his God’s
given assignment to lead the Israelites to the promise land.
Though Zipora is Midianite, she knows and understands the law of
God; because the Midianites also came from Abraham and
Keturah his wife-Gen 25.2,;1Chr 1:32,33.Concering Ziporah, the
bible said in Exo. 4:24-26 “And it came to pass by the way in the
inn, that the Lord met him and sought to kill him. Then Ziporah
took a sharp stone, and cut of the foreskin of her son, and cast it
at his feet, and said surely “you are a bridegroom of blood to me”.
At the time she said ‘Bridegroom of blood’, she referred to the
covenant of circumcision which God entered with Abraham.

Moses by the grace of God married a woman who is a custodian

of the law of God. If not for her clear understanding of the law of
God, she would not have known the appropriate solution to
render or proffer in that dilemma and critical condition that her
husband found himself.She remembered quickly their son
Gershom has not been circumcised after the eight day which may
have rained the anger of God on Moses. But whatever may have
caused Moses to forget that Gershom was not been circumcised
on the eight day, brought to bear the clear reason why God gave
him Ziporah as helpmeet. Bible recorded that she upon realizing,
quickly took a flint of knife and circumcised the child on the spot
and that very act pacified the wrath of God immediately. My
question now is: what would have been Moses’ fate if Ziporah
was a total novice in the law of God? Therefore every man should
see himself as a priest of God and every woman as a helpmeet.
Ziporah prayed to God on the spot as she placed the foreskin of
Gershom on Moses feet saying: “you are indeed a bridegroom of
blood to me” and immediately, God left him alone. Ziporah
preserved the posterity of Moses. So from today change your
pattern of prayer from complain to serious business of producing
your reasons in the light of the scriptures for God has lifted his
words high above His name .Don’t ever marry because of
beauty,money,height,academic background,sex,pressure etc. but
marry because you love posterity. Let posterity be one of your
best reason s for marriage as Moses did. Hello, my beloved
readers; I am pleading with you to take marriage prayers serious.
Endearvour to marry a spouse who will preserve your posterity in
the earth, and save your lives by a great deliverance as Ziporah
did to Moses. Make sure you are marrying a word-based child of
God and not a religious person. Remember religious is different
from Christianity. Bible says “for this cause shall a man leave his
father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two
shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”-
Eph. 5:3.But be careful that you are not just leaving your sweet
family only to find yourself in a worst case scenario.Remeber that
the bible said that everyone who prays receives. Pray to God, he
will give you His own daughter as a wife. Prioritize your needs.
Make posterity your utmost priority in marriage affairs. All that
glitters are not gold. Gold must be refined seven times in the fire
before it becomes precious object. Refine your marriage in
prayers before you start gathering people for
celebration.Remeber that it is after wedding comes marriage.

HOW TO FIND YOUR SPOUSE

Have you ever asked yourself why you are getting married in the?
The answer is that you are marrying to obtain the favour of God-
Prov. 18:22.You are not just marrying to start struggling in life.
Whenever any marriage is consummated, it should open doors of
favour to the newly married couples unless the foundation is
faulty. So therefore, to avoid the wrong things in your marriage,
you have to do the right things now. I believe so much in divine
direction. So let us follow these steps to find your spouse:
(i) YOU MUST FALL INTO A DEEP SPIRITUAL SLEEP

Falling into deep spiritual sleep to find your capable, sensible wife
and helpmeet is a sinequanon.The challenge that most men face
here is their unwillingness to fall into this very deep spiritual
sleep. The book of Prov. 19:14 say “A man can inherit a house and
money from his parent, but only the Lord can give him a sensible
wife”. Yes, this scripture is reliable and trustworthy. We saw it in
the life of Adam, who God provided everything in this world and
still told him that he is not yet capable to find a wife for himself
and decided to give him a helpmeet. But God followed a particular
procedure in doing it as I am going to unfold to you. In Gen 2:21-
God initiated a divine process of providing Adam a helpmeet. “So
the Lord caused Adam to fall into deep sleep”. The ‘deep sleep’
the bible is talking about here is book divine and symbolical. In
our own time today, we may term it laziness on the part of Adam.
How can a sensible man be sleeping when he is supposed to be
awake with his two eyes open as he engages himself in the search
of whom to marry. The deep sleep Adam fell into is divine
because the bible says in the book of Ps 127:2 “that God gives His
beloved sleep “Adam had not just a physical sleep, he slept a
spiritual sleep. That sleep is a way of expressing his trust in God
who gave him the whole earth to: increase, multiply, subdue,
replenish and dominate. He reasoned that if God can lavishly gave
him the earth is it ordinary given him a helpmeet that He cannot
be able to do for him? For one day in Adam’s life he did not even
think about marrying because he thought of the presence of God
around Him, the happiness he derives from animals that are pets
to him. So he left the choice for God. He may have said in His
mind ‘God you can give me a wife any day you feel I am due and
ready to have her’. So, Adam did not bother himself over marriage
issue because he trusts Jehovah Jireh-The Lord that provides. The
symbolical meaning of Ada’s deep sleep may also point towards
the fact that “The sleep of a laboring man is sweet…”-Eccl
5:12.Adam is a working man, a labourer, and hardworking,
farmer, Gardner-he dresses the Garden of Eden and keeps it as
directed by God. So each day he returns from the garden, after a
hectic day, God gives him rest and gets him loaded daily with
blessings. But God said to Himself that it is not good for Adam to
continues to labor alone.Perhaps,when he comes back from the
field, he will find somebody who is not animal to welcome him,
look for him and keep him company. Maybe someone that will
join to the garden and help to dress and keep it is as well. God
became worried that Adam needed a suitable companion. “So the
Lord caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep.Ge took one of Adam’s
ribs and closed up the place from which He had taken it.Then the
Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam.
“At last!” Adam exclaimed. “She will be called “woman” because
she was taken out of a man”. This explains why a man leaves His
father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are
united into one”-Gen 2:21-24.Let me quickly say something here:
Adam found in his work place, he discovered that his wife did not
come from abroad but in broad, nobody told him that this is his
wife, he immediately loved him because she was beautiful. God
gives us the best if we leave the choice for him to make. Mike
Murdock said ‘everything you need is already in you’. Also in the
book of Matt.1:19-24,we saw how Joseph married his own wife
marry .The bible describe Joseph as a “righteous man with whom
the angel of the Lord appeared to in dream saying “Josephson of
David, do not be afraid to take many as your wife,…Ana Joseph
awoke from his sleep and did as the angel of the Lord command
him, and took Mary as his wife” I want you to master the
similarities that took place in the marriage process of both Adam
and Joseph. God made both of them to fall into deep sleep and as
they woke up from their various deep sleep, the became
convinced the take their wives. They did not doubt again. The
divine sleep of God is always needed in the life of any man who is
seeking his suitable companion. If don’t sleep (that is committing
your desires to marry into God’s hand), you will not know who
your wife is even when you are seeing her face to face. Deep
sleep removes confusion. When a man sleeps deeply, God will
provide for him. Marriage is a major breakthrough in a man’s and
woman’s life, so the need to sleep deeply. To every man, I say: for
you to find your own Eve follow the way of Adam, our first father
and you will find your own Mary, follow the footsteps of Joseph!

The covenant that God had with Abraham also involved a deep
sleep. Remember also here that marriage is a covenant between a
man and the wife of his youth. In Gen 15:12-13 “That evening as
the sun was going down, Abram fell into deep sleep. He saw
terrifying vision of darkness and horror. The Lord told Abram, ‘You
can be sure that your descendant will be strangers in foreign land,
and they will oppressed as slaves for four hundred years “The
bible said that it was only when the deep sleep fell upon Abram
that God completed the covenant with him. From morning to
afternoon ,Abram did not sleep and he refused to sleep, God also
refused to speak and to ratify the covenant but immediately he
slept(yielded),God appeared .Help in marriage only comes from
God to a man or woman who has decided to sleep in God’s hands.
It is because when he opens his hands. It is because when he
opens His hands, good things flow. “This truth was given to me in
secret, as though whispered in my ear. It came in a vision, as the
bible puts it “at night when deep sleep falls on men”-Job 4:12-
13.Whenever you are willing and obedient to fall into deep sleep
as the requires, you will hear a voice speaking behind you this is
the way, walk in it. It takes God nothing for Him to show or give
you your right mate but you are in most cases unwilling to
cooperate with Him. If you will obey Him today by sleeping
deeply, then your joy will come like a river. Job 33:15 says that
God will visit you “in a dream, vision of the night, when sound
sleep falls on men, while the slumber in their beds”. God in this
context is saying that his requirements towards involving himself
in finding a wife or husband to any child of his absolute deep
nothing more, nothing less. As soon as you are ready to sleep
deeply, He will appear.Anytrime you are awake refusing to sleep,
that is a clear indication that your eyes are not single and that you
want to see God with your two eyes whereas he has said that no
eyes will see Him and leave. So God does not want to kill you yet
and don’t force your Him to do it either. Just sleep deeply, a
simple instruction! Whenever you become born again, begin to
pry for your wife or husband and by so doing you are already
sleeping and don’t stop praying until your spouse comes.
Praying in season and out of season. When you do that, you are
sleeping. Get lost in prayer as you wait for God’s release of your
spouse unto you. For any man in need of s suitable wife and a
woman in need of a capable husband, who will freely give him or
herself to deep sleep, will wake up to inherit a good marriage.
Bible says in Jer. 31:26 –“At this, I woke up and looked around, my
sleep has been very sweet “Looking, watching or observing is only
acceptable after deep sleep. Upon waking up, you will always see
the bone of your bone, the flesh of your flesh. Deep sleep from
God is responsible for unveiling the real helpmeet. Daniel said
“Now while he was talking with me, I sank into deep sleep with
my face to the ground, but He touched me and made me stand
upright. He said, “Behold, I am going to let you know what will
occur at the final period of the indignation, for it pertains to the
appointed time of the end”-Dan 8:18.So, let us establish a fact in
our discourse deep sleep is a condition that must be fulfilled
before God will intervene in finding you a wife or a husband. You
are not permitted to get up from the deep sleep until he says do.
Anytime He wakes you up by himself, he must surely give you
your wife or your husband even as He instructs you.

(ii) YOU WILL IDENTIFY YOUR VIRTUOS WIFE BY THESE

BIBLICAL CHARACTERISTICS FROM PROVERBS 31:10-31

“An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above
jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no
lack of gain. She does him goo and not evil. All the days of her life.
She looks for wool and flax.

And works wither hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; She
brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night, And
gives food to her household, And portions to her maiden. She
considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a
vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And makes her arms
strong.

She senses that her grain is good. Her lamp does not go out at

Night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands
grasp that spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, And she
stretches out her hands to the needy.She is not afraid of the snow
for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
For all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes covering
for herself; Her clothing is fine Linen and purple. Her husband is
known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them, And she smiles at the
future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of
kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her
household

And does not eat the bread of idleness, Her children rises up and
bless her, Her Husband also, and her praises her, saying:

Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all”

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the
Lord, she shall be praised. Give her the product of her hands, And
let her works praise her in the gates”. “These are the words of
King Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him”. These
words are the words of God. His spirit has already gathered it
from the beginning. Look out for these divine qualities prayerfully
before you marry any woman of your choice. Note that you
cannot find these qualities written on any woman but in the
content of their character. As a result you have to call upon God
to show you the secret and hidden good qualities that he has
deposited in the woman of you dream. By so doing, you obtain
favour.Don’t ever marry because of beauty or money alone!

(iii) YOU MUST MARRY FROM THE HOUSEHOLD OF FAITH

Abraham is our father in faith. Let me start with him to buttress a

fact on how a Christian a Godly marriage ought to follow.Here,I
am talking to both men and women. Mistake is not good for
practicing Christians. It has a lot to communicate to the world as
they watch us as examples. The bible says in Gal 6:10- “So then,
while we have the opportunity, let us do well to all people and
especially to those who are of the household of the faith”.
Whenever two people be it ,man or woman ,who are believers
seize the opportunity that they belong to the household of faith
to marry themselves, they have really done good to the body of
Christ: “That they might seek Godly seed, children”-Mal 2:15.The
Psalmist said “blessed are they that dwell in thy house” Ps
84:3.How blessed, how favoured are believers when you are in
the habit of believing this word of life. If you marry a sincere
believer, man or woman, you will be happy and have rest of mind
even if you have money or not, children or not, cars or not, house
or not, you find out that joy and happiness has taken over those
positions. When genuine believers marry together, there will be
nothing like divorce. Ephesians 2:19 says “fellow citizens with the
saints, and of the household of Gold”.

In Gen 24:1-3,the word of God says: “Now Abraham was old,

advanced in age, and the Lord has blessed Abraham in every way.
Abraham said to his servant, the oldest of his household, who had
charge of all that he owned, “please place your hand under my
thigh, and I will make you swear by the lord, the God of heaven
and the God of earth, that you shall not take a wife for my son
from the daughters of the Canaanites, among who I live, but you
will go to my country and to my relatives, and take a wife for my
son Isaac”.

This is a detailed instruction, direction and description coming

from a father of faith and a righteous man.From here, we have
learnt that marriage is not anyhow, or anywhere thing serious
that has Godly formula and manual. For Abraham, anything less
than Godly family or household of faith, his servant should not get
a wife for his son Isaac there. He even told him to go straight to
his own country and relatives. Parents should be careful, they
should play their own role whenever their children want to marry.
You are not called as a believer to marry money, family financial
status, and family educational background but to marry from a
household of faith for posterity sake and heavenly race purpose.
Another major reason why contract it in the household of faith is
because any woman who is from the household of faith is always
are Nahor and Milcah.Yes, we have plenty of straw and food for
the camels, and we have a room for guests “The man fell down to
the ground and worshiped the Lord. “Praised be to the lord, the
God of my master, Abraham”, he said “The Lord has been so kind
and faithful to Abraham, for He has led me straight to my masters
relatives”-Gen 24:15-27.God is a God of divine direction. Blessed
are you if God chooses to be kind and faithful to you in the areas
of marriage. I think if you are finally favoured by God but giving
you your helpmeet or husband, then know for sure that you will
be happy all the rest of your life and you will see your ripe old age.
There is nothing more blesses as when God determines for you
who to marry as He did in the life of Adam, and as the person
comes from the household of faith. I want you that is praying and
searching for whom to marry to closely appreciate that above
scriptural passages used to exemplify who a Godly wife is through
her character, how to know her, how her family behaves, and how
she loves unconditionally, how the household of faith practices
hospitality.Rebeccah said to Abraham’s servant “yes we have
plenty of straw and food for the camels, and we have a room for
guests”. Her openness, simple heartedness and charitable virtues
were seen clearly her speeches, actions and thoughts. She spoke
unbehalf of the entire family. She is willing to part with her food,
shelter and clothing. She loved to the extent of laying down her
life. No wonder the bible said that the ignorance of the word of
God is the ignorance of God Himself. How then can a young man
fear the Lord when he does not read the word of God? If a young
man or woman desiring to marry cannot read the word of God,
then know that something bad maybe inevitable in that
marriage.Anytime,anyday a dying man’s wish is always important
to him and how do I know? Let’s take Abraham as a case study.
He said to his servant that “you shall not take a wife for my son
from the daughters of the Canaanites” Parental role before
marriage exchange proper is indispensible. Every genuine
household of faith, this directives to the letter. Marriage is
honourable.I cannot subscribe for anybody to do marriage in a
rush or fire brigade approach. If you actually understand what
bible meant by the phrase “household of faith”, you will be
cautious before contracting any marriage.The spiritual rules the
physical. Marriage is a spiritual exchange of vow s of love,
companionship, fidelity and unity. Whenever a family belongs to
the house hold of faith, hare are then some Godly standard that
ought not to be compromised. Household of faith is always an
exemplary family in a given community, state and country. People
will always rush to your family for marriage exchange whenever
they see God’s hand upon it.Therefore train a child the way he or
she should go and when they grow up, they will not depart from
it. Home training id important also, faith is not always a measure
of character. They are numerous faiths around town that has no
basic prove of work. Tell me, how we can justify such faith
moreover when it is coming from a household of faith. That kind
of faith is dead on its own. So as a man, when you are about to
marry, may you never be in a haste. Make sure to priorities your
needs starting from God’s angle to human angle otherwise, you
will still cry tomorrow. Abraham’s family is a household of faith.
He is avoiding a lineage that is spiritually contaminated that was
why he strictly gave such instructions. A good wife is always
liberal. And the bible says a liberal soul shall be made
fat.Rebeccah is always in the constant habit doing charity. She had
pity on a man she does not know by giving him water to drink,
watered his camels, provided accommodation and food for
strangers she has never seen before. He that gives a cup of water
to a prophet will receive a prophets reward. Hello! My fellow
men! Bear always at the back of your mind all these important
inner qualities whenever you are searching for a wife before
saying “I love you”. Charity is a million dollar virtue that attracts
the good and the bad, the ugly and the beautiful. Even when a
man or a woman is faking his or her act of charity, if you are
observant enough, you will know. It is because by their fruits, we
shall know them.Beacuse Esau took his wives from the daughters
of Canaan “then Rebeccah said to Isaac, I’m sick and tired of these
local Hittite women. I’d rather die than see Jacob marry one of
them”-Gen 27:26.When it came for Jacob to marry, both parents
made sure that Jacob married from a household of faith. “So Isaac
called Jacob and blessed him and charged him, and said to him,
“you shall not take a wife from the daughters of Canaan. Arise, go
to Paddan-Aram, to the house of Bethuel your mother’s father;
and from there take a wife to yourself, a wife from the daughters
of Laban, your mother’s brother”-Gen 28;1-2.Here, the household
of faith from which Jacob should marry from is the house of
Bethuel.don’t b ever conclude in a haste that there no longer
household of faith. There are many of them, just pray to God to
direct you to His own remnants. There are still strong believers till
date. Prayer is important for your eyes of understanding to be
enlightened so that you can see well the plans of God for your life.

Joseph married Asenath, the daughter of Potiphera priest of Or-

Gen 41:45.The father of Moses, a man from the house of Levi
went and married a daughter of Levi-Exo 2:1. Note, I am not in
any way here laying emphasis on social, financial, Levitical or
educational status or background of spouse but on the spiritual
stand of the two families about to marry each other. Samson, a
Nazarite,set apart to God from birth, went down to Timnah and
saw a woman, one of the daughter of the Philistines. His father
and mother said to him “Is there no woman among the daughters
of your relatives, or among all our people, that you go to take a
wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?-Judges 14:1-3.These are
the few of the examples of marrying from both Godly and ungodly
families.

Finally, I will suggest to you: marry from a genuine household of

faith .Man know thyself! Therefore, hearthe conclusion of the
whole matter from Eccl 9:9 “Live happily with the woman you
love through all the meaningless days of life that God has giving
you in this world. The wife God gives you is your reward for all
your earthly toil”.

(iv) YOU MUST ALWAYS SEE SUBMISSIVENESS IN HER

People often mistake being submissive for stupidity. It is not!

Submissiveness is a rare character that most spinsters who may
not have married lacked in a great measures.Subnissiveness is an
important characteristic of spirit-guided marriage between
husband and wife “Wives, submit to your husband as to the lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the
church… husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church
and gave himself up for her to make her holy…Eph 5;22-25.Any
woman who is not ready to submit to the authority and rulership
of her husband is not yet ready for a long lasting marriage
because there cannot be two captains in a ship at same time.
Before ever a man leaves his parents, he should make sure that he
has a greater level of submissiveness in the wife he wants to
marry. Women please before ever you marry any man, look out
for these qualities: is he God-fearing, loving, responsible etc. Love
is an essential lubricant in any successful marriage. Hear this:
husband love your wife, wife submit to your husband. Sarah
called Abraham ‘Lord’. Ruth submitted to her mother in-law
Naomi when her husband was no more. Submission comes before
exaltation. Exaltation is the reward for submissiveness. If a
woman is not proud, she can submit herself to her husband. In
the book of James 4:6-7 “God opposes the proud but gives grace
to the humble” Submit yourselves then to God. Resist the devil,
and he will flee from you”. Devil comes or manifests itself in the
form of pride. When a woman is proud or a man is proud, both
cannot submit to one another. Devil did not submit to God’s
authority in heaven; as a result, he was driven from God’s
presence Divorce is always at the family of any spouse who are
ready to love and submit.

(v) YOU SPOUSE SHOULD BE AN INTERCESSOR

If your wife to be is an intercessor, then you are a favoured man,

so also the man.An intercessor wife or husband can be unknown
through these manifestations:

 Intercessors pray longer than anyone else

 They see prayer as a higher priority.
 They are usually the first to agree to pray for you
 They rarely miss a prayer meeting.
 They derive the greatest fulfillment from praying.
 They are particularly sensitive to the traumas and moral
decay in the society and consider prayer to be a primary
answer.
 They are anointed to pray aloud.
 They carry God’s burden and experience travail.
 They are committed to developing prayer strategies,
organizing prayer chains etc.
Prayer is a business. Jesus said “my house will be called a
house of prayer for nations” – Mk 11:17.Moses,the meekest
in all of God’s house, was an ardent intercessor that also
married Ziporah,another terrible intercessor.Ziporah’s
prayer based-life, saved Moses from anger of God.
“There was also a prophetess, Anna, the daughter of
Phanuel, of the tribe of Asher. She was very old; she had
lived with her husband seven years after her marriage, and
the was a widow until she was eighty-four. She never left
the temple but worshiped night and day, fasting and
praying-Lk 2:32-37.
Anna in the whole of New Testament became one of the
exemplified wife-intercessor. She never give up her fasting
and praying duties. Jesus said this kind of sickness can only
go by fasting and prayer. Your family will always be in peace
when they are praying always. If your spouse is an
intercessor, then you will surely obtain favour.Don’t ever
play down on the importance of marrying a praying spouse.
The bible says in Job 14:1-2 –“that man is born into trouble
in the midst of few numbers of years he has on earth to live.
Therefore, spouse should call upon God everyday because
everyday is a day of trouble, and I will deliver you. Blessed
be the God who gets us daily loaded with blessings. Prayer is
making demand on God’s promises. If the wife you want to
marry does not like prayers please drop her. If the husband
you want marry hates prayer please leave him alone. You
cannot change him without the help of God because you are
not the Holy Spirit .But if he or she shows interest to learn
how to pray, if he or she is willing and has realized the
importance of prayers, then know that such a person has
teachable spirit and will learn by the grace and help of God.
Please don’t over assume because human beings can change
but God cannot change. If a man or woman does not place
any priority on the spirituality of the spouse, then, he or she
is leading to calamity. How can spouses pursue ten thousand
if they don’t pray together? When a man or woman is single,
the challenges of life multiply. So, it now needs spouse who
are prayer warriors to overcome. Hannah was also an
intercessor. She prayed and prevailed and overcame her
marriage and child bearing challenges.
Elkanah and Hannah were in constant habit of prayers, ‘then
Hannah rose after eating and drinking in Shiloh…she made a
vow and said, “O lord of hosts, If you will indeed look on the
affliction of your maid servant, but will give your
maidservant a son, then I will give him to the Lord..”- 1 Sam
1:9, 11.
Marriage is honourable when especially both spouse are
prayerful and Godly. A praying wife is a plus to her husband
and also a praying husband is a plus to his wife. There are
many good qualities that both spouse should possess for a
sweet and harmonious marriage. It is not that I have dished
out the whole requirements, factors to consider before
marrying a man or woman. But remember the bible says
that whatever that is honourable, good, trustworthy, loving,
peaceful etc.; go after those things. You know what good
virtues are all about and you can also easily dictate or even
see them in a man or woman who possesses them.
Therefore, the work or the task of searching for the right
mate is a now made easier for every inquisitive mind who
will seize opportunity to read this book because where there
counselors, mistake is always avoided. Remember that in all
things, prayer is the key. It is also the highest priority you
should consider before falling in love .By the grace of God, I
have been able to point out in summary with very few
points, what should form the basis of a good ,Godly
marriage. God witnesses in every marriage so he does not
like to witness in a given marriage that will end up in divorce
because He already knows the end from the beginning. He is
not an utter of confusion. Hats why he has brought these
strong reasons that will inform, guide your prayer points so
as to not to pray amiss and avoid making the wrong choice
in marriage. God wishes that you be in health prosper
financially, even as your soul prospers. Constantly searching
the word for proper usage, direction and conviction about
whom you want to marry. Take out time to re-read and
study Proverb 31:10-31.Gen 24:15-27.Make bible your
manual for operating the institution of marriage. Pray for
insight so that the veil covering your marriage breakthrough
be lifted. Don’t always tell God the cumbersomeness of your
marriage challenges, rather tell your marriage challenges the
almightiness of your God. Pray in season and out of season.
This is the confidence that we have, that if we pray
according to His will, He hears us. Men ought to pray and
not to faint. If you fail in the days of adversity your strength
is small. Elijah a man like us prayed that it might not rain on
earth for three and half years and God honoured him. When
they were in their wits end, they called on God and He
delivered them. God is still in the business of honouring
marriage prayers. Don’t ever quit praying. Continue praying,
for your prayer to continue. Jesus, the Son of God and Son of
man prayed all the days of His life on earth. Therefore follow
His footsteps and exemplary life.
GOD BLESS YOU! AMEN.