Love is not just about the years together.

Many of us idealize love. I, myself admit to this. We see it as the cure for
arising problems in our relationships. We think that love alone can surpass all
the difficulties that most relationships are struggling right now, that love can
overcome the hardships of the world and make it go around. But since we
overrate love, as a result, our relationship suffers.

When we think that “love is all we need” we are actually forgetting the
essential things that goes along with it — trust, respect, understanding,
patience, commitment, humility and so on. And if ever love solves
everything, why do we trouble ourselves with these things? Because it
simply means, it is not just love that we need but the essentials as well
that goes along with it.

Love does not solve your problems. Wake up for this harsh truth. If love
solves anything, then there’s shouldn’t be people breaking up because of the
loss of commitment, loss of trust, time and respect. Sometimes you feel like
you overcome issues in your relationship just because you love each other.
You just let certain things pass through just because your love is greater than
the explanation you need when you argue with each other, you let love be the
reason why you keep tolerating yourself from the unjust behavior and
treatment you are receiving. You let love be the answer to all the confusion of
your thoughts in the relationship, and that eventually in the long run you’ll be
able to get the answers you need. You think that you are overcoming your
issues but on a realistic and matter-of-fact, nothing has changed. None of
your problems has been solved. And the arguments, misunderstandings, and
fights just keep on repeating themselves and most of the time, it get worse.

Relationships like this will most like burn into flames, will eventually crash
into an end. And the best learning we can take from this? While love makes
you feel better, it doesn’t actually solve any of your relationship problems.
This is why there are a lot of toxic relationships nowadays. People just
mistakenly taken love as the solution for everything.

Love does not equate to compatibility.Just because you fall in love with
someone does not automatically mean that they’ll be good for you in the long
run and that they’ll be a good partner for long-term. Love is emotion,
compatibility is the logic. And remember, the heart and mind should both work
together unless; you are willing to bend and eventually, break yourself apart in
the process. Life can be ironically sweet. You can love a person who does not
treat you well enough, you can love a person who you know will never love
you back. You can love a person with a different ambition, life-goals that are
contradicting on your own. You can love someone who has a different
philosophical belief and worldviews. We can love someone who is not really
compatible with us. This may sound paradoxical and illogical, but this is true.

Love is not all time worth sacrificing yourself. Loving means you are able
to think outside of yourself and your own needs to help mind for another
person and their needs as well. But I know you are asking yourself in the
middle of the night, “Is it worth it? What am I sacrificing for?” It is normal for
both people to sacrifice their own needs, desires, and time for each other. But
when it comes to sacrificing one’s self respect, one’s dignity, one’s ambition
and one’s life purpose just to be with someone, then that’s going to be
problematical. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual
identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we
are enduring a disrespectful, abusive relationship then we are allowing love to
consume ourselves.

You can fall in love with different people in your lifetime. You can fall in love to
people who are good and bad for you. You can fall in love in a healthy and
unhealthy ways.

There can be a lot of love you’ll encounter in your life, but once you lose
your self-worth, self-respect, your ability to trust, your goals and 8am
aspirations in life, they are hard to get back.

Love is great. Love is essential. Love is wonderful. But love is not

enough

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I Stopped Waiting
In PoetryOctober 22, 20181614 Views Kemberly Loja
I stopped waiting for me to see that you’re fine

I stopped waiting for that day that maybe we’ll meet again

I stopped waiting for your heart to be okay

I stopped waiting for your mind to be settled

I stopped waiting for your intentions to be cleared

I stopped waiting for you to believe that I love you

I stopped waiting for you to pull up all your courage to stand with me

I stopped waiting for you my love

For I started praying earnestly for your inner healing

I started praying earnestly for the fulfillment of your heart

I started praying earnestly for genuine joy to come in you

I started praying earnestly that you may find your identity in Him

I started praying earnestly that you develop your courage and stand for
yourself

I started praying earnestly that you will be safe wherever you are

I started praying earnestly that you earn the trust and love that you truly
deserve
because you are more than important than the love and care I feel

because the healing of your scars and pain is more important than having you
in my side while you’re bleeding

I stopped waiting for us

I stopped waiting for us to find the way back to each other’s arms

I stopped waiting for us to have the courage to stand for each other

I started praying earnestly for us to build ourselves

I started praying earnestly for us to rediscover our own selves

I started praying earnestly for us to have the peace of heart that cannot be
easily shaken

I started praying earnestly for us to develop a strong relationship with Him

YOUR SCARS ARE YOUR BEAUTY MARKS

You fell in love too hard. Your worth has always been with another
person. You gave your all and made yourself fall. You were too naive
back then. Your idea about love was perfect and colorful. All of it made
sense to you and it made you think that life has always been wonderful. You
willingly opened your heart to someone while losing yourself. You became
different than who you were before. And every single day, you revolved your
world around that person even more.

But one day, struggles started to evolve. The storms in your relationship were
too hard to resolve. Most of the time, all you felt was pain. Your perception
about love became black and plain. And unexpectedly, that person left. Left
you alone. Left you hanging without no one to hold. Left without a warning. It
was alarming. You were badly hurt and you thought that you can’t go on.

Then you started to realize, life is worth living because now you know your
worth. You eventually moved on. Then you thought to yourself, “Life must go
on.” That experience made you stronger and wiser. You decided to change for
the better. You chose to let it go and just go with the flow. You are more
matured now, knowing that your pain in the past has a purpose. You always
knew how to start. Start a new life filled with love, without hardening your
heart. You smile a lot now. And behind every smile, there is genuine
happiness inside. You are open to all the possibilities. Without fear, without
limits. You found yourself through that painful process. You enjoyed the
metamorphosis that turned you into a beautiful butterfly; and now you
can fly high. You met yourself again, while knowing that you’ll never be
the same again.

You embraced every pain. You immersed yourself in the dark. But at the
end of the day, you realize that your scars are your beauty marks.

You had tough battles when it comes to love. You gained too many scars
which remind you that you managed to surpass it all through the help of the
Lord. And you have always been grateful and now more careful not to fall. You
embraced every pain. You immersed yourself in the dark. But at the end of the
day, you realize that your scars are your beauty marks.

How Would I Fight For You, If I’m The Only One

Who’s Fighting

Since I met you, I didn’t know what I would go through. I never felt the same
way. It suddenly popped in my mind, that you are not just a friend. It is a battle
that’s been rumbling in my head. I was confused. I was stressed. Why would I
push through this mess? Your very presence was all I ever wanted. Without
conditions, without preparations, without hesitations, I fell. Fell for you that
easily. This was making me crazy. My thoughts were hazy. I didn’t know what
to feel for you. All I know is that I have to face a tough battle on my own.

How would I fight for you, if I’m the only one who’s fighting? Is this war
between you and me? Or is it between me and my own self? I tried to make
you realize my feelings, but your actions were clear. You didn’t feel the same
thing. We were not on the same page. I always thought that things would
probably change. I hoped for your attention while setting aside my logic and
reason. Quietly and patiently. I waited. Yet you never knew anything about it. I
looked so pathetic.

This is a battle that I could never win. I’m sorry but I have to give in. These
battle scars may leave a mark forever, but your appearance in my life would
always teach me to be better. You were undeniably a part of me. But now I
have to lose you so I could be free