VIRTUOSO LOVER SERIES

(BOOK THREE)
THE VIRTUOSO LOVER – Concerts, Crescendos and
Encores
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WELCOME TO BOOK 3!
If you think we’re winding down as this is the last piece
of the series, you are seriously mistaken. There’s still so
much to do and so much to learn & discover, we have
only seen the tip of this iceberg. The next 14 Chapters
are chockfull of techniques and insights guaranteed to
boost one’s sexual finesse. If that’s not good news, then
I don’t know what is.

Before we begin, a quick review of BOOKS 1 & 2 is in

order.

Book 1 started off by identifying reasons why guys SUCK

and why some women would rather sleep with Jane
than with Steve. You saw how speed and power may
not always be the best way to go. We considered 13
characteristics of the Virtuoso Lover and charged you
with identifying both your strengths and weaknesses.

The 2nd installment touched upon the very

controversial issue of ORGASMS. We did a quick tour of
the Vulva where many corners of interest, besides the
Clit and the G-Spot, came to life. We learned how to
eat kitty and had a quick techniques course on Vulval
Massage and Clitoral assaults. Finally, we wrapped up
BOOK 2 with the challenge to INTEGRATE and never
stagnate.

So, what’s in store here?

Well, if Book 1 was all about the “big picture”, and Book
2 was about the “nitty-gritty”, Book 3 is a blend of both.
‘Beyond Penetration’ offers people a wider shot of sex,
detailing its many facets and exposing avenues that
lead to amazing lays. Indeed, great sex goes beyond
simple penetration!

We begin with the Sexual Interaction process. Because

that’s what sex is... it’s not just two people doing the
moves on each other, it’s two people interacting.
Many forget that for all intents and purposes, SEX IS
COMMUNICATION.

Every time such an intimate act is on the table,

messages are communicated – consciously or
unconsciously. So we deal here with the all-important
verbal and non-verbal methods of sexual
communication. What stuff do you unknowingly say
with your body? What words should you never verbalize
in bed? Any quest of becoming the bedroom honcho
will be futile unless it leads to an understanding of such.

In Part 2, we’ll be off to the games: FOREPLAY, PLAY &

AFTERPLAY – and look into the nitty-gritty of sexual
intercourse... sexual positions included. Here, you will
learn exactly what to do during each stage of the
encounter – from clothes on, to clothes off... to clothes
back on. We’ll look into the simple things you can do to
turn sex into an art form.

And in the final two chapters, we’ll learn how make any
encounter as exciting and interesting as the first time
you walked-in on your parents. (Yes, sex can sizzle,
even if you’re doing it with the same dilapidated
partner for the last 5 ½ decades!)

Book 3 is the gem of this Trilogy.

Table of Contents
Part One: SEXUAL INTERACTION
CHAPTER 1 – NON-VERBALS: The Things You Say
Without Words

- Mastering Bedroom Body Lingo: What it Really Means………..12

- PASSION: Where Can I Buy It?.........................................16

CHAPTER 2 – SEX TALK

- Speak Up!...........................................................................20
- The Kind of Voice that Jumpstarts Her Engines..............22
- Sex Talk: BEFORE.................................................................26
- Dirty Talking.........................................................................28

CHAPTER 3 – SEXUAL BABBLE

- AIRWORDS 101......................................................34
- How Do They Work?.............................................34
- Anna Says: Wrong Hole, Dear!...........................36
CHAPTER 4 – AFTERPLAY CONVERSATIONS
- Talk About What?...............................................................43
- Nobody is a Mind Reader...STILL!......................................45
- The Thingie Concept: Asking for Stuff She Doesn’t Wanna Do...46
- Telling Eve She Sucks...& Still Make Her Smile...................52
- The One-Word Manual on Getting Sexual Feedback....57

CHAPTER 5 – THE WORLD’S GREATEST FORCE

- What Does SEX Have To Do With It?.................................63

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CHAPTER 6 – WHAT’S THAT “F” WORD AGAIN?

- What’s It For? ......................................................................69

- Can’t Stop a Boner............................................................70
- “Do I Really Have to Do F Everytime?”............................73

CHAPTER 7 – THE SENSUALITY & SEXUALITY GAP

- Let’s Talk GAP....................................................................79

- Transitions & Progression Principles..................................82

CHAPTER 8 – HOW TO UNDRESS A WOMAN

- The Orange Model..........................................................92

- The Onion Model.............................................................93
- Skinning An “Onion” ......................................................96

Part Three: PLAY

CHAPTER 9 – PUTTING IT IN

- Pre-penetration..................................................105
- First Moments......................................................106
- Thrusting Styles....................................................108

CHAPTER 10 – SEX POSITIONS

- Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse..............................116

- MAN-ON-TOP..................................................................116
- WOMAN-ON-TOP...........................................................118
- SIDE-BY-SIDE....................................................................121
- REAR ENTRY.....................................................................123

CHAPTER 11 – SEX POSITIONS...NOT!

- 3 Great Secrets to EVERYTHING!...................................126

- 360 Thinking.....................................................................127
- Leg & Pelvic Thinking......................................................129
- Transitional Thinking........................................................133
> 5 Transition Keys.......................................................135

CHAPTER 12 – THOSE NAGGING ORGASM ISSUES

- Her Orgasm.....................................................................138
- When She Fakes It..........................................................140
- Your Orgasm...................................................................142
Part Four: AFTERPLAY: when the dust finally
settles
CHAPTER 13 – THE AFTERGLOW

- True Mark of an Afterplay Genius.....................149

CHAPTER 14 – SEX FOR THE NEXT 100 YEARS!

- Birth of A Routine................................................155
- Novelty & Creativity: Perfect Anti-Routines.....157
- THREE is Always a Party!.....................................160
- More Examples...................................................164

EPILOGUE....................................................170
 PART ONE
Sexual Interaction

Truth is, to fulfill your potential in any area of life, you

have to gain mastery of ONE THING. Whether in the
world of business or in the business of sex, you
absolutely need to master this, there’s just no way
around IT. It’s that important... nothing else comes
close.

What am I talking about here?

This: COMMUNICATION.

As I’ve said, people tend to forget that sex is

communication. It’s not just 2 people doing stuff to
each other... it’s 2 people sending and receiving
messages. I want you to be fully equipped, so we give
you the dirt on a subject most sex manuals don’t even
consider: COMMUNICATION.

We discuss these here because one never ever

becomes anybody in bed unless one is an effective
communicator. It’s an x-factor every guy has got to
see.
Chapter 1
NON-VERBALS: The Things You Say
Without Words.
Basically, there are two levels with which we
communicate: (1) Non-verbals (2) Verbals. The first
refers to vibes, actions, gestures, voice tones &
inflections – how we walk and practically everything
we do with our bodies. The VERBALS are what we say –
our words and statements. Here, we begin with non-
verbals: the things we say without words.

Estimates vary, but psychologists claim that as high as

90% of human communication is done via the non-
verbal plane – BODY LANGUAGE.

Ninety percent! That’s like saying that almost all of

communication comes through the non-verbal field. If
that’s the case, doesn’t it make sense to pay close
attention to how our bodies speak? People fuss too
much about what comes out their mouths when they
should be more concerned with what comes through
their behavior.

For actions don’t lie, should there be any discrepancy

between words and actions – always believe the latter.

Mastering communication is really mastering body

language – and sex, the most intimate form of
communication, is the ultimate form of body language.
Mastering Bedroom Body Lingo: WHAT IT
REALLY MEANS
So, you want to move in a SEXY & IRRESTIBLE manner?

There are generally 2 ways of going about this.

Many think mastering body lingo means consciously

controlling one’s movements. Take ‘CONFIDENCE’ for
example. To exhibit such, one is told not to slouch, to
keep the chest and chin up, broaden the shoulders,
avoid fluttery eye movements and speak in low tones.
Get those down and you will come off assured, certain
and confident.

This is the OUTSIDE-IN METHOD. It’s a “fake it ‘til you

make it” thing where you initially feel like an
incompetent idiot for trying to be somebody you’re
not. You don’t own the gestures but merely acting it
out, so it feels a bit off.

When this faked confidence undergoes hardcore

testing, it’ll definitely break – because the genuine
article doesn’t exist ... yet.

But over time, something very interesting happens.

Guess what. You GRADUALLY become genuinely
confident! By acting it out, you tricked yourself into
believing it. Gestures from the outside have affected
how you feel inside. The mind comes to believe the
gestures and soon enough, the actions aren’t that
awkward anymore – you own them. You stop
reminding yourself to be confident... you simply are!

Some neat trick, huh?

Yeah, it’s all good, but we’re not doing that here.

Why?

It’s too slow and it doesn’t work for a lot of people. The
whole façade crumbles long before the genuine
articles begin to appear. Many onlookers don’t buy it in
the first place. Trying to look cool, calm and confident
often results in a strange, mixed message – and the
very act of straining to keep the façade together
indicates what’s really happening inside.

Can you imagine the clarity with which women see

beyond the pretense?! You may stand upright all you
want, but your blushing cheeks will give you away. You
may be speaking in low tones, but those occasional
cracks become very telling.

Faking it doesn’t guarantee making it.

There’s a more effective way. And the key is not to

deal with non-verbals in piecemeal, step-by-step
fashion. Eve doesn’t do that, she doesn’t measure the
angles to which you tilt your head or the straightness of
your back. She’s not trying to read or judge how you
come-off. To her, it’ll be just a gut feel, a funny intuition
– it’s just there. That’s how minds work.
There’s an easier, more effective way. Gestures are
most powerful when they come somewhere deep, that
is, when they faithfully mirror what is really inside. We’re
talking about core beliefs and attitudes here. The 2nd
mode of mastering non-verbal communications is the
INSIDE-OUT METHOD. What’s inside, affects what is
displayed outside. Let me explain.

Notice how easy it is to act happy when you actually

are, and how difficult it is to jump for joy when you’re
feasting with depression?

Maybe you’ve broken-up with someone or you’ve just

been fired from your regular 9 to 5. Imagine how hard it
is to hide your disappointment, sadness, perhaps even
anger. Your drooping shoulders and cast down gloom
give you away. You work hard containing it, but
emotions seep out the moment you put your guard
down.

Conversely, when you’re flushed with joy, like when

you’ve won the biggest cash prize in the history of
lottery – notice that you don’t even try to act in high
spirits. You simply are! You’re exploding with glee on
the inside and this comes out naturally through the
extra bounce in your step and the unmistakable smile
you’ve been beaming since lunch. You don’t create
the bounce and smile, you don’t even notice them.
They simply ooze out.

No practice is required, you’re happy and it jumps out

of you!
That’s the INSIDE-OUT METHOD.

Here’s the thing: Both methods work, (and it’s not like
they are mutually exclusive), but ONE IS CLEARLY MORE
POWERFUL THAN THE OTHER. It’s like 2 modes of getting
fit. You could enroll in a gym, do aerobic exercises and
work the machines, Or, you can live a naturally active
lifestyle by walking around a lot, baby-sitting
hyperactive nephews and dancing at bars & clubs.
Both methods work because they make you sweat and
burn calories, one is just more natural than the other.

We’re siding with the 2nd method.

And if you’ve noticed, we’ve been working with it since

Book 1. There’s no dedicated section to discuss the
Inside-Out Method because we’ve been giving your
core some heavy duty work-outs all this time. The
Virtuoso Lover is working on your Sexual Programming,
attitudes, states and beliefs – the stuff one can’t hide.

Mastering bedroom body language is really

mastering what’s on the INSIDE.

No need to worry whether or not you’re moving in the

SEXY, SEDUCTIVE, IRRESISTIBLE way – that’s superficial.
Those gestures are but visual reflections of what is
inside. The crucial question really is not “How to make
your body move?”, but “How’s your inside?” – those
invisible thoughts & beliefs in your head. Those are the
stuff that ultimately matters because your body will find
a way to put them on perfect display.
And if you have any doubt as to how the inside affects
the outside, let me give you this next one as an
example...

PASSION: Where Can I Buy It?

IT is not something one can peg to a particular gesture
or action. It is a confluence of many things, and it’s not
something you can actually hold – only something you
behold. But when it’s there, you’ll know it. Women
sense it, they see it in a man and feel it in the bedroom.
I can only give you motivation, but I can’t give you
passion, one can’t buy it – for it resides in the core
recesses of a person.

It comes in various faces and voices. But in the end,

poetry aside: Passion is----- FLOW. When you have it,
it’s like being in The Zone, you lose all self-consciousness
and you can’t do any wrong. All non-verbal issues
cease to matter, moving with it makes everything else
so easy. All the right actions become automatic.

When you’re so horny for a woman that you don’t

know what to do, you don’t go inside your head and
command your neurons and cells to look all revved up
– you simply experience a sexual flush and get a boner.

Lust is a wonderful subset of Passion. It’s just that lame

guys make the fatal mistake of equating the two. When
they feel tension between their groins, they think it’s
passion. After mounting Eve with speeds deserving an
Olympic medal and shooting their load, they think
Passion has moved on. PUHLEEEEZ!

The thing we’re talking about here doesn’t lose steam

after getting scratched, a climax cannot kill it. It survives
an orgasm and lasts through the cuddling and
afterglow.

Arousal might have settled, but passion is as ardor as

ever. It may now come in a different form, not with
intensity, but with serenity. Not with fire, but silence. It’s
not always instantaneous combustion, sometimes, it’s
just stillness...

Such is its nature. Passion is arrayed with different faces

and voices, but at the end of the day... it is still FLOW.
And when you flow, all sexual interaction stuff you
worry about becomes an afterthought. You forget the
dynamics and specifics of your non-verbal
communication, you don’t consciously control it. You
are simply BEING.

And by simply being, you become truly CONTAGIOUS.

Passion gets around, it doesn’t vainly linger in an
individual, it’s passed like virus from person to person
and you will definitely pass it onto her. She’s very
susceptible to these things – basically a sponge
absorbing your vibes. Soon enough, you will have an
epidemic in your hands.

That, in so few words, is Passion. It is the most elegant

example of the INSIDE-OUT process and makes the
discussion on body language so easy – and as such, a
fitting close for this chapter.

Let’s roll to Chapter 2 and deal with the 2nd way with
which humans communicate – WORDS – the stuff that
we actually say. If earlier discussions led you to believe
in the inconsequentiality of actual statements, read on.
Chapter 2
SEX TALK

Who the heck wants to talk during sex?! Not to mention

the fact that you have an audience of one, there’s just
so many other things to do with a mouth. If actions are
90% of the communication process, why talk?

Do words have any power at all?

Definitely! And their strength comes from the

weaknesses of non-verbals. There are basically two
problems with non-verbals.

ONE: They largely happen in the unconscious (half-

conscious at best).
TWO: They are largely open to interpretation.

Think about it, if one cannot hold a tight rein on 90% of

the whole communication process, how wishy-washy
will our messages be? And just to really get the party
started, a third problem for non-verbals is that besides
sign language, they can’t really say:

Beth, I’m sorry I’m gonna be late for your 3 o’clock

baby show because I’ll have to go to my son’s “Modern
Romeo & Juliet” play, Where he’ll get to act the part of
a tree rhythmically swaying to the music of “ENDLESS
LOVE”. But I’ll be sure to swing by around 5 after I drop
him off at my parents’. Should I bring you anything?
Let’s see you gesture that one out.

Thank goodness for WORDS and the ability to speak.

Words, spoken or written, are very powerful. They make
and break relationships all the time, for rarely can they
ever be taken back.

A single “NO” can break a heart into a million pieces, it

can burn bridges and build walls. It can also mend hurts
and give life to the spirit. Words have the ability to
make War or be an instrument of Peace. They make or
break treaties, inspire an audience, stir a nation,
enflame a vision. Speeches have changed the course
of this Universe.

The Man of Words can be anything he wants to be. He

can be the World’s Greatest Lover or the World’s
Greatest Leader.

Or both.

Never underestimate words – especially in the

bedroom.

SPEAK UP !
When panties land on the floor, often, articulation
problems set in. When zippers sound off and buttons slip
out, male eloquence drops to zero as he stands in silent
awe of naked Eve.
But honestly though, who can blame us? It should
rather alarm the woman if she’s standing there stark
naked and her guy couldn’t stop yakking about stock
market indexes or UN Millennium Goals. Unless the
dude’s blind, how gay is he?!

But after the initial shock & unbelief of the glorious

female body, command of speaking faculties should
be regained. Two naked bodies don’t end the talking.
Words are still exchanged, although admittedly, their
verbalizations are a lot different. Although Mr. Tongue is
getting busy, sounding off shouldn’t altogether be left
out – it doesn’t end when the humping begins.

WORDS HAVE POWER, they are alive. Why not use their
inherent diabolical power shamelessly in the bedroom?
If words make and break destinies, what can stop them
from winning you a rockin’ sexual encounter?

Whether it’s talking dirty, uttering unintelligible oohhhs &

aahhhhs, or teaching Eve how to give head – the fact
remains: WORDS MATTER. They count... a lot!

So speak up!

No, I’m not telling you to do girlie talk, wear pink

tanktops, braid each other's hair and be the best pal
Susie’s ever had. No, no. Those “Dear Diary” moments,
swapping stories are for girlfriends. We’re dealing here
with SEX TALK, not gossip. Talking that primes the pump,
talking that’s relevant to Sexual Interaction.
Men definitely have to learn how to open their mouths
during crucial moments, because every 5 seconds,
there’s a guy who almost got laid, but didn’t, because
he uttered the wrong thing in the most inopportune
time. (For some reason, some men just have the gift of
ruining it for Eve.)

So here’s the 3-fold division for SEX TALK:

I. BEFORE
II. DURING
III. AFTER

Although I use these terms very loosely, “Before” refers

to anywhere from first meeting to the last second
before you put your canoe into her pond. “During” is
obviously while the two of you dance the horizontal
mambo, and “After” refers to that dreaded cuddling
part of the program, otherwise known as “Hold me
darling, I wanna feel close to you tonight” time.

Let me remind you again that Sex Talk is not girl talk. No
discussion of butterflies, ponytails & fashion here. It all
boils down to A REAL MAN, TALKING... TO A REAL
WOMAN.

But first, what does a real man sound like?

The Kind of Voice That Jumpstarts Her

Engines
A whiny voice won’t do. (You can try, but it won’t be as
effective.)

There are timbres that few women can resist. It’s that
deep, resonant tone that hovers at the bass level – the
type fashioned by broadcasters, sport commentators
and DJ’s. Actors like James Earl Jones and Sir Sean
Connery have the gift. These dudes simply open their
mouths, utter something as inane as, “How much for
these donuts?”, and even straight men swoon. Such
have been handpicked by nature to be microphone
artists.

Low tones are the melody of confidence and it is this

distinct air of certainty that women find so irresistibly
sexy.

This kind of voice not only leads, it also persuades and

allures – it’s easily believable. Heck, he may be a
sportscaster reciting wrong stats, but he’ll sound
believable not because he’s got a clue, but because
of his highly credible timbre.

A guy with deep, sexy timbre can say, “Follow me to

the bedroom”, and Eve will tail him in trance. But a
sickly and weak invitation will not budge a woman one
tiny bit, even when she can already see the glistening
champagne through the bedroom door.

It’s easier to harness the Power of Suggestion with a

deep tone.
More than that, there’s wonderful tension in a voice
that instills both fear and comfort. Fear in its sheer
power, comfort in the protection it symbolizes. She rests
in the notion that with a voice like that, this guy can
kick anyone’s ass if the need be, (even though that
may not really be the case).

The voice is paradox at work because it arouses and

soothes at the same time – that’s magical tension!

Unfortunately, not everyone has great timbre, some

guys even sound like my 80-year old grandmother. So
what fighting chance do these boys have against men
who dub the voice of “God” in the movies?

Here are 4 things one can do:

1) GO DEEP.

Don’t clone these DJ’s thunderous chatter, one can’t

effectively maintain an unnatural timbre. Use your own
voice, but speak in DEEP-LOW TONES. When it comes to
SEX, throw away your high notes, use the lower ones
instead. You can achieve this by breathing and
speaking through the diaphragm... not from the throat.

2) GO LOW.

Unless you have a fetish for combat training, keep the

volume low. Shouting is not exactly sexy – especially if
you’re talking mouth-to-ears. You’re not her drill
sergeant, so don’t announce to the slumbering
neighborhood the scandalous pillage you have
planned for her tooshie. She should be the one
screaming – not you.

3) SLOOOOOOOWWW DOOOOWWWN...

For the 97th time, SLOW DOWN.

Don’t blabber like a rabid dog on caffeine. Anybody

chasing you? Take time to deliver your spiels. Slow
down ... PAUSE... Make her anticipate the next word
springing from that lewd mouth.

Strategically placed silence... dials up the tension. She’ll

love it!

4) MEAN IT!

YOU need to understand what you’re saying. This is a

big one. Many yak away without conviction, lifelessly
spewing lines. Their messages don’t get across because
they don’t really understand what they’re saying, even
the sexiest voice will flatline when negated by non-
verbals.

If you say it, SHOW IT. Communicate with your whole

body – gestures and everything! Words and voice have
most impact when spiced-up with congruent body
language. Use your body. Gesture with your hands.
Pucker those lips. Show your tongue if the need be.
Give lascivious, suggestive looks. Look straight into her
soul. Stare from the corner of your eyes.
That’s how you create carnal turmoil in Eve.

Remember:

1) Go DEEP (tone)
2) Go LOW (volume)
3) SLOW DOWN (speed)
4) MEAN IT ! (congruence)

Sex Talk: BEFORE

As much as women love to talk, they also want to
hear... hear about how great they are, that is. It’s the
old, “Does my ass look fat in this dress?” question.

Obviously, they know how to check the mirror, they

know what their behinds look like, they’ve been looking
at it since they were 5. But if talking mirrors like the ones
in fairytales that go, “Oh, you’re the fairest of them all”
really exist, every woman would buy one for every
room in her house... six for the bedroom.

Adam needs to undergo the process of reassuring Eve

that he loves her body just as it is – you have to do this
again and again. Don’t keep count – all previous
instances don’t matter. Even if you’ve told her she’s
sexy a thousand times before, women love to hear it
afresh. Nothing makes Eve shed those clothes faster
than the knowledge that her man desires and wants
her.
Adam needs to undergo the process of reassuring Eve
that he loves her body just as it is – you have to do this
again and again. Don’t keep count – all previous
instances don’t matter. Even if you’ve told her she’s
sexy a thousand times before, women love to hear it
afresh. Nothing makes Eve shed those clothes faster
than the knowledge that her man desires and wants
her.

The last thing Eve expects from you when she’s about
to give herself away, is a compliment. She’s horny and
already decided on doing it anyway, there’s no need
to talk your way into her pants. That’s when a
compliment makes her head spin.

LOOK AT HER EYES. MEAN IT.

Of course, you can hand out fakes, but you don’t need
to.

Here’s the thing, you’ve probably already met

thousands of women in this lifetime and noticed that no
matter how they look, swimsuit model material or not,
there’s ALWAYS something to appreciate. There is
ALWAYS that unique quality in every Eve that makes a
man tingle inside.

And I’m not just talking about beauty on the inside

here, I’m also talking about physical, superficial stuff.
Learn to look for beauty even in the most unexpected
of faces.
Dirty Talking
Dirty Talking (DT) can be done anytime during the
sexual dance, but we’ll discuss it here as part of sex talk
BEFORE intercourse.

DT gives an expectation, an idea or a come-on for your

partner. Its purpose is to CREATE NAUGHTY PICTURES
and generate dirty thoughts in Eve. And you do this thru
HIGHLY DESCRIPTIVE, HIGHLY SENSUAL LANGUAGE.

Your job is to create a picture she can almost see, hear,

feel, taste and smell.

DT provides an avenue for rush. Civil society has always

had a rebellious streak and it is human nature to feel a
high engaging in something naughty, prohibited or
frowned upon. It makes us feel so alive doing
something we’re not supposed to. And the very idea of
getting away with it, makes us feel superior... which
makes it even hotter!

Be warned though – many find DT hot, but not

everybody is a big fan. Some find it inappropriate, lewd
and down right offensive – like listening to someone
dragging fingernails on a chalkboard. So summon the
services of Capt. Calibration for this one. This is very
important as the same statement can be effective or
offensive, depending on your skill, timing and the
woman you’re with.
SOFTCORE DT
It’s the world of Double Meanings & Sexual Innuendoes
– a good set-up before the step up, perhaps something
to get her warmed-up at the office, or even a few steps
outside the bedroom door.

We know what a ‘banana’ is, but we also know it

suggests things other than the fruit monkeys live for. She
need not say: I wanna slide your cock in my mouth. She
can just hint that she wants a taste of your banana. A
woman may feel icky at the word “cock”, but she’ll
have no qualms expressing desire for ‘banana’. The
resulting ambiguity serves as major turn-on.

Because of double meanings, hotdog and buns

become something else. Balls, First Base & Home Run
put on meanings not even remotely related to sports.

Consider the statement: IS IT IN?

Think about the field of meanings in that simple

statement. When you have fun and play with words,
that’s when things get really interesting.

And the thing is, the double meaning potential need

not be obvious. In fact, it need not be there at all!
Sexual Innuendoes prove that ANYTHING CAN BE MADE
“DIRTY”. Yes, anything! Even trivial stuff like can
openers, catfish, toothpaste, and the moon & the stars
– all these can be made dirty. Simply back them up
with a sexy tone, lascivious look, heavy breathing,
puckered lips, a mischievous wink, a knowing smile, a
tongue sweeping across the lips etc. Anything you pair
with these can become dirty. With Softcore DT, it’s not
so much the precise words as it is the manner you
deliver them. Because you can scream “pussy” all day
and still Eve thinks you’re referring to some cat.

HARDCORE
Softcore is suggestive, hardcore is explicit – it doesn’t
say ‘banana’, it says ‘dick’ or some other slang. It
doesn’t hesitate, stall, or curtsy. It is often blunt, direct,
and often carries the themes of dominance, authority,
aggression and possession. It is declaring what you
want and delivering it in the most evocative manner.
Hardcore DT simply lets the listener deal with the real
thing. This is not the time for rainbows, flowers and
butterflies – it is speaking with license.

Banned from public discourse, Hardcore DT can make

Grandma Lily faint... that is if she doesn’t die from the
mild stroke after overhearing you say, “I’m gonna suck
your tits so hard you’re gonna beg me to fuck you in
the ass instead,” to that special friend of yours.

Hardcore is very effective in that it lets her almost feel

the words – therein lies its diabolical power. Because it
is direct, hardcore DT gives Eve a more vivid state of
things... sensual specifics.
‘I will ravage your wet pussy with my huge...
hungry cock’, is definitely more powerful than,
Wanna taste my banana?

Softcore and hardcore DT have their parts to play in the

sexual game. Just as hardcore DT is ineffective in the
early goings, softcore DT can be too wussy or even
inappropriate in the heat of things.
Chapter 2
Sexual Babble
When things get hot & heavy, and arousal has risen to
feverish heights, nobody expects you to belt out an
oratorical piece. When you’re pumping with a heart
valve operating 3x the normal, barely sniffing enough
oxygen to maintain consciousness, the ability to
articulate drops to near zero.

The sensual bombardment can be overwhelming and

thinking of smart things to say becomes last priority.
Nobody expects you to give the smoothest rap when
you’ve got blood shooting out your ears! Talking
DURING sex is like milking an elephant.

Well...that’s not entirely true.

For there is a type of talking that’s not only easy but

also serve to heighten sexual quality.

It’s called SEXUAL BABBLE (SB).

You can bet it’s not intelligentsia talk, in fact, most stuff
uttered seem incoherent and gibberish. But don’t be
fooled, the words and phrases may not be linguistically
excellent, but they are very, very MEANINGFUL. And if
you can master TRANSMITTING & RECEIVING Sexual
Babble, you will rightfully gain the franchise to hotter
and wilder sex.
Many guys are just too silent... too silent for comfort –
believing that stuff like moaning makes their masculinity
suspect. Such cheesiness are for women only – gotta
be cool. They never let their guards down and let Eve
witness them enjoying themselves too much. They end
up sexually stunted, calculated, keeping silence and
solemnity while operating in robotic fashion. (Think:
silent porn)

No wonder they suck in bed! If one can’t let go, one is

already lost! I don’t know about you, but when I think of
HOT, WILD SEX, I hear sounds. I hear grunting, and
moaning, and shrieking, screaming, howling, and
yelling out pet names of who-knows-what.

The concept of Sexual Babble is very easy. SB simply

refers to anything a person can muster to vocalize
during the heat of passion. As such, there are no big
words in SB, most of them in fact, are meaningless
when taken out of context.

What is required though is the absence of inhibition – to

break silence. Don’t shout only in your mind, empower
the pleasure you feel (or want to feel) by verbalizing it.
Holding back for fear of sounding strange or awkward
to your partner will take A LOT of joy from the act.

SB is vital for a thrilling sexual episode, why do you think

adult film stars howl and scream? Because sound
rouses the patrons. Because silent porn is lonely, dead
and pathetic. That’s why if the need be, porn creators
run to studio and dub thumping bodies and wild,
roaring orgasms. They understand how Sexual Babble
affects their fan base.

Two Forms of SB:

(1) Airwords
(2) Simple Commentaries

AIRWORDS 101
Examples:

“OOHHHHs” GRUNTS
“AAAHHHHs” MOANS
“WOW” GROANS
“Yes...YES,…YEEESS!” WHINES
“Mmmmm…”
“Yeah”

Airwords are the plainest of them all. Dislodged from

context, they won’t amount to anything, but used
during the heat of passion, everybody knows what they
mean.

How Do They Work?

Did you know that simple things like moaning can
improve your sexual experience several fold? Giving
voice to that air passing through your nose & mouth
alters the whole game. Yes, meaningless sounds can
whip up a sexual storm! (Didn’t I tell you in Book 2 that
unforgettable sex will always be about the little things?)

But... HOW?

Try this tomorrow as you wake up. When you stretch

those lousy arms and kick start those sleepy legs, utter a
hearty: “Aaahhhhhh...”

Do that.
Observe how that feels.

You’ll realize tomorrow that the stretch becomes more

real & more effective when paired with a hearty
“Aaahhhhhh”, than when simply done in silence. You
become alert & alive faster just by incorporating a
meaningless sound.

And try this when you get sleepy tonight. At the end of
a long day, when you’re about to dive to bed, pay
attention as you yawn. When you do, don’t just let the
air out, pair it with a lazy “Aaahhhh…”

Notice the difference?

You will feel more sleepy and tired by accentuating the

yawn with a lazy sound.

The same thing happens when you employ Airwords.

They accent the motions & emotions in progress and
SET-OFF A VIRTUOUS CYCLE.
It’s a pep rally that provokes the players, simultaneously
affecting both the speaker and the listener. Hearing her
own moans highlights to Eve the delights she’s feeling,
but more importantly, hearing her sound-off becomes
a major turn-on for you... a SEX BOOSTER.

Those sounds represent a winning touchdown that

shoot up your arousal and confidence levels. You feel
invincible – like 10 ft. tall. Her “Oooohhhs” & “Ahhhhhs”
lead you to think, “Boy, I’m good! Yeah!” Her ecstatic
groanings embolden you, making you less inhibited.
(Note: element of wild sex) You begin to feel totally in
control and can do no wrong. Nevermind the
possibility, that initially, she was only sounding-off for
your ego’s sake.

If that semi-fake moan jumpstarts an upward spiral and

lead to hotter sex, soon enough, she’ll no longer need
to fake anything. Then, she’ll really be screaming in
ecstasy!

Anna Says: Wrong Hole, Dear!

The second type of SB are Simple Commentaries. They
include:

“You like that, baby? You want that?”

“Lower... to the left. Yes, right there”
“Yes, right there...Don’t stop!”
“Yeah, uh-huh. Just like that.”
“Ohhh, that feels so gooood!”
“Faster... Faster”
“Rapido... rapido!”
“I’m cumming... I’m cumming! Uhhhh.”
“Who’s your daddy?”
“Say my name. Say it, SAY IT!”

SIMPLE COMMENTARIES are all about giving and

getting FEEDBACK – serving as announcements, reports
and inquiries that take place during sex. This is not deep
conversation but a quick feedback involving minor
corrections and comments of the here and the now,
passing simple messages that make the event a fruitful
venture.

Simple Commentaries exist because of one undeniable

fact: NOBODY IS A MIND READER.

Eve may be pretty decent reading body language, but

ultimately, she’s no mind reader. She’s got limited ways
of knowing what suits you, so you’ve got to clue her as
to what’s going on... from your side of things.

Tell her what you want. Women love pleasing their man
– they really do. If you fancy something, help her give it
to you. A lot of guys, instead of asking, try to get it
themselves. If they only ask, their lady could’ve happily
given it to them – whatever it is. But no, a lot of men
don’t ask, and if they do, they don’t know how.

Simple Commentaries help direct sexual action. You

cannot be silent and hope she rubs you the right way,
you got to lead her through the techniques that work
best for you. Tell her where and how you want to be
touched, tell her exactly how to stroke your thing. Give
her REAL TIME feedback so she’ll know what to do. Say
it!

I repeat: Women love pleasing their man – they really

do. Women love dudes who unapologetically know
what they want. If you like the way she does
something, then say so. (And use your sexiest voice
while you’re at it.)

When giving feedback, remember 2 things:

1) ALWAYS STAY POSITIVE.

Avoid comments like:

“You’re miles away from where I really want it, baby.”

“Faster...faster, my grandma can do that quicker than
you!”
“This is what I get for my dollar?”

You think such comments will take you closer to

Promised Land? My Magic 8 Ball says: Don’t Count On
It.

Whatever the case may be, there’s always a positive

way of framing it. Even when she’s doing something so
wrong, like roughing your balls, don’t say, “Stop! Are
you crazy?!” Instead say, “I love it more when you
gently caress them.” (Try to protect her ego, she has
been protecting yours since time immemorial.)
You’re not her drill sergeant, she’s not in the military,
and commenting on how wrong she’s doing you will
not be received as “tough love”. Don’t ever make the
mistake of thinking that the tongue lashing will work as
a challenge. It will not, it will only turn her off. She’ll lose
confidence, interest, and grow incompetent in a
matter of seconds. She will not only fail to give you the
happiness you deserve, she’ll forfeit hers as well.

Over time, she’ll come up with colorful excuses not to

do you because nobody wants to be berated in bed,
especially when it’s done in the midst of things. It
shouldn’t happen, but egos get bruised between the
sheets all the time.

The only negative phrase in your Sexual Babble should

be: Don’t Stop! Create an ambiance conducive for
wilder, hotter sex, don’t douse it with cold water.

Because I’m telling you, women can stop the

proceedings just like that – it’s a gift. You’ll be a goner
so fast you won’t know what hit you. So keep it positive.
Speak to build pleasure, package things positively,
otherwise, shut up and be thankful you’re not one of
the millions praying to have a warm body at night.

2) GIVE HER SOMETHING TO DO, NOT

SOMETHING TO AVOID.

This one’s corollary to the first.

People work best when you give them a goal. Instead
of telling Eve what not to do and leave her doing
nothing, tell her what she can do – something that
involves action.

If you belt-out, “Hey, don’t pull on my man hair, I’m not

scheduled for waxing today,” what’s she to do then?
But if you tell her to “Baby, rub your chest on my back,”
then that gives her something to work on. Instead of
saying “Don’t go there,” tell her to go “Lower...
lower...right there.”

Get it?

OK.

Besides giving feedback, Simple Commentaries also

GET FEEDBACK.

How is she doing? Is she still alive? Does she want it

faster? It’s a 2 way superhighway; she has to give you
the picture from her perspective. HER FEEDBACKS TELL
YOU WHAT TO DO. Listen to what she’s telling you with
her words & actions and don’t get so lost in your own
world that you fail to hear her scream, “Wrong hole!
Wrong hole!”

When you ask Eve straight out, she’ll tell you how to do
her right. Inquire for something specific. Does she want
it faster, harder, lower, or to the left? Not as a waiter but
as a considerate lover. (Coming-off trying too hard is a
major turn-off, so don’t ask for instructions every step of
the way.)
How do Simple Commentaries lead to wild sex?

There’s a real, palpable and significant difference

when both sexual players are confident. It happens
when partners, because of effective feedback, know
exactly what to do. Armed and excited, they get it on.
And when that awkward silence is broken as she starts
yelling “Yes, that’s it. That’s it! Please don’t stop!” and
he replies with an “Oohh, baby that’s the jackpot right
there!”, then THE FREAK IS ON.

Smell another virtuous cycle operating here?

Let’s leave the confines of Sexual Babble and turn our

sights to communication techniques AFTER the deed.

After boinking often comes some talk. This is still part of

your sexual game by the way, and it would serve you
well to invest time learning about it. Because whether
you like it or not, the sex is going to end, and you
cannot blankly stare at the ceiling all night, at a loss for
words. The next chapter takes you on the initial steps of
becoming an afterplay talk genius.
Chapter 4
Afterplay Conversations
[This section is especially designed for
married guys and those in long-term
relationships. If you’re the type who only
digs one-night stands and will probably
never engage in any real relationship,
gladly skip this part.]

Ok, semen’s out. Now what?

The world doesn’t end when you cum, there is a

continuing, social, person-to-person interaction after
intercourse. That intimacy bubble doesn’t burst when
you ejaculate. This may not be evident in one-shot
deals where you’ll probably never see each other
again, but it becomes very obvious in long-term
relationships.

Afterplay talk is very similar to boy-girl date

conversation, the only difference is that you don’t talk
crap just to get into her pants because you’ve been
there and done her. It’s one of pure communication as
the only motive is to bond with your partner – and have
fun while at it. The ability to converse and temporarily
forego sleep separates great lovers from men who
ZZzzzz after barely slipping the condom off their shiny
penises.
Being awake post-coitus is one of the marks of a guy
who gets laid regularly, who doesn’t resort to typical
begging. He knows that afterplay is the most important
bridge to the next sack session. For one cannot keep
ignoring Eve’s need for post-ejaculation
companionship.

If you constantly make her feel she’s just good for the
sex, over time, she’ll wise up and realize she has
something you want... and if you don’t treat her any
better, you’ll experience a shortage of it – a sort of
what goes around comes around situation.

Sure, there is no law compelling you to engage in

afterplay conversations, you can always doze the
night/afternoon away. But sooner or later, you’ll wake
up, and soon, you’ll have boners and you’ll have the
hots for her again. What I’m saying is that in terms of
relationships, this is an investment worth your effort. I will
not explain why this is, I hope you are insightful enough
to realize that this matters to women...

... and not to miss the fact that you have as much to
gain.

Talk About What?

Except for a few landmines, you can talk about virtually
anything under the sun. Talk about your most intimate
secrets for all I care, although simpler topics are better.
Talk about the ingredients of your version of the World’s
Perfect Sandwich. Anything!
Don’t turn it into a serious, drawn-out discussion, do it in
the spirit of fun. Be unthreatening, playful, and don’t
make a big deal out of it.

But no guy talk. Guys can yak away about their

passions not knowing they’re slowly lullabying the
woman to sleep. Conversations involving engines,
radiators and hydraulics should be saved for your car
mechanic on poker nights. Same thing goes for guns...
the playoffs... and RPGs. All she’ll really hear is “Blah
blah, bablahblabla.” Imagine her talking about lip
gloss, concealers and asking for your personal
philosophy on make-up. How can you engage? You
can listen to death, but all you’ll really hear is “Blah
blah blah, bablah,blabla... and that’s why I need your
credit card this Sunday.”

Veer off negative topics like death, accidents, failures

and disappointments. Stay away from stuff that caused
friction in the past (eg. bills, ex’s, in-laws, nagging).
They’re anti-climactic. Why would you stop a great
aura with a lousy remark about how you absolutely
abhor her friends?

Spiral up, don’t start digging holes.

Talk to her vanity instead. Talk her up... to herself.

Comment on her sexual prowess, make her feel so
good about herself she’ll want to do you again and
again. (This is one way of starting a sexual addiction.)
Nobody is a Mind Reader...STILL
In addition to talking about simple, fun stuff, the couple
can also discuss the SEX and further refine their
experience. Unless you engage your lady in open,
honest sexual conversation, she’ll try pleasing you with
the often frustrating trial and error method. Simply
telling her what you want saves time and a whole lot of
errors. She may not instantly become an expert, but
she’ll get on with the program and improve steadily.

By the way, do not confuse this with Sexual Babble. This

is still about giving and getting feedback, but SB
happens during intercourse – a real-time, blow-by-blow
account. SB happens while she’s on top of you,
Afterplay sex talk takes place after intercourse – though
not necessarily immediately after.

Sexual Babble is both direct and quick. During the heat

of passion, one doesn’t have the luxury to plug in a
projector, use a laser pointer, and graphically illustrate
the moves. So one simply howls, ‘to the left’ or ‘more! In
Afterplay Talk, you actually have the luxury of gathering
your thoughts, choosing your words and belting out a
speech. It’s an opportunity to communicate clearly
and precisely.

SO, TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT! (She’d appreciate it.)

Not being able to specifically pin down your desires is

an entirely different thing. Honestly, have you ever
spared a second to think about the kind of sex that you
want? If not, then no wonder you can’t communicate
them to Eve, and no wonder you’re not getting it from
her!

Still, many don’t sound-off because of fear. It’s that

timeless fear of rejection, the embarrassment of being
said “NO” to, the sting of being laughed at and told,
“You want that?! You sicko!” Add to that the anxiety of
telling your woman that she actually sucks at a
technique she prides herself in.

These fears will always exist. And there’s eerie comfort

in knowing that many guys experience them.

The most effective way of dealing with such is not by

explaining them away or denying their existence, it’s by
learning exactly what to do.

And that’s what we’ll be doing in the next few pages.

We’ll be giving you dirt on the specifics of effective
sexual communication.

By learning exactly what to say, we not only alleviate

those fears, we give Eve very useful feedbacks.

THE THINGIE CONCEPT: asking for stuff

she doesn’t want to do

What’s your thingie?

It’s this one fetish you’ve been dreaming of since
teenhood. Ever since you realized your penis’ calling,
you couldn’t wait for that day when you could finally
share this unique sexual activity with someone. You’re
certain it’s going to be great, and you’ve been playing
it in your head over and over – for hours each night.
That’s your THINGIE.

Now, you’ve grown up, and the stage is set. You have
your own place and a gorgeous adoring woman...
you’ve waited for this all your life... it’s finally going to
happen... but,

“ I’m sorry honey, but I don’t do that! ”

...were the last words you heard before all your dreams
came crashing down. If you listen closely, you’ll hear
the quaint sound of your heart breaking into a million
shiny pieces.

“But why? It’s gonna be fun,” you tempted.

“I don’t know, I just don’t wanna,” the prude answered.

You threatened legal action, physical repercussions,

yes, even groveled, but still came out empty. For the
life of you, you can’t convince Eve that it’s going to be
okay. She just doesn’t see herself doing that thingie with
you... nope, not in this lifetime.

So, what’s left to do?

Before hanging the gloves in desperation, here are 3

practical things to run with:
I. FIND OUT IF IT’S NEGOTIABLE

Your thingie could easily come in conflict with her self-

image – she just doesn’t see herself that way. The fetish
could be so beyond her boundaries as a sexual being,
the moment she heard of it, it made her butt cheeks
clinch ever so tightly.

Or, maybe it’s not her, maybe it’s you. Maybe you’ve
just been watching too much porn and your erotic
expectations are drastically skewed or out of sync.
Perhaps what you’re suggesting is so out of this world,
99% of women will say “Nuh-uh”, while dragging you to
the Psych Ward.

But granted, the thingie, eventhough it conflicts with

her self-image, is a reasonable activity for normal
human beings, you need to ask one vital question: IS IT
STILL NEGOTIABLE? (You have to give an honest answer
to this.)

It may not be how she sees herself presently, but, is it

negotiable? Can you possibly tempt her into it?
Women have very flexible self-images. They think and
say they can’t or won’t, initially allergic even to the very
thought of kinky stuff. This is usually just their default
answer to novel stuff and things outside their comfort
zones.

But given proper prodding, they’ll come around and

turn out to be wonderful freaks in bed. So sense if the
“NO” is negotiable, or if it’s something driven deep in
her core values, solid and totally uncompromisable.

If it’s uncompromisable, then MOVE ON, GET OVER IT,

don’t force the issue. She has every right to say “no”.
Just because she’s in an intimate relationship with you
doesn’t diminish that right a tiny bit.

But if you think there’s a sliver of possibility, then

continue with #2. Answer this very important question...

II. WHAT’S IN IT FOR HER?

Look at things from Eve’s point of view, what good will

that thingie bring her?

Of course, she can simply accommodate her man’s

eccentric and kinky fantasies, but what good will it
bring her personally? And don’t just say, “It’s gonna be
fun!” You need more than that. Because if she just
wants fun, she can turn to a million other things.

“What’s in it for her?” -- this is what sales savants

constantly ask themselves. Only when you take the
buyer’s perspective and slide your feet into her shoes,
will you be able to understand how to sell it to Eve.

I don’t want to know whatever your thingie is, it’s your

thing. But basically, you are the seller, she is the
unwitting shopper. Don’t sell by declaring, “Do this so I
can check it off my list of things to do before I die.” That
means nothing to her! If you want “Message Received”
blinking in her head, you have to sell it from the
opposite perspective.

By looking through her eyes, you can make your thingie

very inviting and alluring. Package it so she’s poised to
gain something from the experience, not as if she’s
merely accommodating another one of your whims.
Make her engage in it for her own sake. Make it unique
and serve it up as a challenge or something new both
of you can try. Only then can you finish off with the “It’s
gonna be fun” icing.

And you know you’ve done well when she becomes

more rabid about it than you.

Here’s the thing. On some level, Eve knows exactly

what you’re doing. She knows you’re tempting her, so
don’t treat her like some gullible 6-year old. Women are
not naïve. They sense these things, so level with them.

And ultimately, and this is very important, leave the

decision to her.

III. KNOW WHEN TO STOP

GROVELING AND BEGGING IS NOT, & WILL NEVER BE,

AN OPTION.

Begging? Are you kidding me?! You’re the one with the
goods here. Why would you resort to groveling just to
be given a shot? To me, it doesn’t make an iota of
sense. It’s like a billionaire pointing a gun to some
homeless guy’s head, threatening to kill the poor soul if
he doesn’t take off with his briefcase of cash.

I repeat, DO NOT GROVEL OR BEG FOR YOUR THINGIE.

Honestly, in the past, when has groveling helped your
cause or resulted into an amazing time? The best you
get out of it is pity & accommodation – which by the
way, rapidly comes in short supply.

You can’t get everything through Aftertalk, for one can

never out-talk or out-argue a woman who has already
made up her mind. Your case cannot be pleaded with
wit or logic, unless you can fashion a paradigm shifting
speech.

The more you push for your thingie, the more she’ll push
back – so the more passionate you are about it, the
stronger her resistance becomes. This is a negative
spiral that you never should get into.

Her saying “No” doesn’t mean the end of things. A

verbal “No” in Aftertalk can be adjusted, modified,
even reversed during the sex itself. I’m not saying that
her words don’t hold water, I’m saying they can be
massaged into something else.

The palatability of stuff becomes very different when

Eve is in the heat of things. While talking, which usually
involves the thinking brain, she can very easily say
“NO”. But when she’s in the heat of the moment,
enveloped with that sexual rush, her emotional brain,
which knows very few rules, takes over and gets with
the flow.
(When talk doesn’t help, go work for your thingie
DURING THE SEX ITSELF. In a later chapter, we will learn
exactly how to do this by looking into progression and
escalation principles. Yes, you can smoothly induce
your woman to kinky stuff she initially said “no” to. So
you can then tell her, “See, I told you it would be fun!”)

Remember those 3 important points:

(1) Find out if it’s negotiable.

(2) Sell it from her perspective
(3) Know when to stop.

Let’s quickly roll to another challenge – that of telling

Eve stuff you don’t really want to say.

How to Tell Eve She Sucks... & Still Make

Her Smile

Now that’s a tall order! Considering you have to keep

her ego intact along the way. So, how does one give
corrective comments?

The objective is not to point an accusing finger but to

enrich both your sexual experiences, and you can’t do
that by trying to beat her to pulp. Attacking her ego is
both stupid and useless – stupid in that it backfires and
generates more of what you’re complaining about,
and useless in that people will always protect & defend
their egos.
2 practical things to bear in mind:

#1 Don’t rub it in!

“You’re terrible,” is the last thing you want to say. Why?

Because it breaks her, but doesn’t tell her what to do.
Real feedback tells the receiver how to make better.
“You’re terrible” is not feedback, it’s a waste of spit. She
doesn’t suck, she is undergoing the process of
becoming “The Best You’ve Ever Had” – so guide her
through it.

This is really obvious enough, but you’ll be surprised how

some guys treat a lady. Many harbor secret delight in
berating their partners, deriving pleasure by making
them feel bad.

#2 Be non-threatening.

Use the magic word: TRY. Believe me, she will. Say,
“Honey, why don’t you TRY to use both hands.” It’s non-
threatening, it doesn’t focus on mistakes and it tells her
exactly what to do. That’s feedback.

The Sandwich Technique

Use this as a corrective technique. It is named such

because of the specific way comments are sequenced
– the negative/corrective comment is strategically
sandwiched between 2 positives, so the negative is
eased in without unneeded friction. The result? She
learns she sucks, but still feels hopeful and happy about
it.

Show business has employed this method ever since

they’ve learned how to glamorize everything. For
example, you’re judging in one of those hit singing
contests on TV. After one girl’s number, you are asked
to publicly give your comments on her performance.
How do you employ The Sandwich in a situation where
a brilliant contestant is having an off-night?

You’d probably say something like this to the anxious

girl:

First of all, I just wanna tell you, you look amazing

tonight! I love the dress, the flowing design makes you
float like an angel. That song you just did is an all-time
favorite of mine, and I appreciate how you were able
to infuse your own personality and style into the song. It
may have sounded a little pitchy at times, and you
really need to work on your tone, but you already have
a captivating voice – work on that and you’re on your
way to becoming a star!

You don’t position negative comments in glaring light,

therefore sparing the receiver from unnecessary
distress, giving her a graceful exit – this is its beauty.

Don’t worry, your corrective message still gets across,

it’s not imperceptible, it just won’t be as scarring. She’ll
instead bask in the glow of the praise and use that
energy to work on her issues. It’s both uplifting and
corrective, two birds with one stone!
It’s an effective way to make somebody shape-up their
sorry asses. Not everybody can handle “tough love”,
and if you’ve been trying it without results, try a
Sandwich. Positioning yourself as an ally gives your
remarks a fair hearing.

Applied to sex, here are the 3 steps towards an

effective Sandwich:

ONE: What’s Hot?

Look for things your partner is good at. Come up with at
least two. There has to be something, something she
doesn’t suck at. I assure you, you will find it, you don’t
need to lie through your teeth on this one. It can be as
simple as how her lips feel when she smiles while kissing
or the warmth of her palms on your back when you’re
on top of her, or the fact that she makes sure you cum
first before she helps herself. A simple, “You rock!”, will
make her day.

And even if you’re kind of stretching the truth on a

compliment, it will still do wonders – because one way
of creating a great lover out of your partner is by
mentioning that she already is. (Another one of those
cheap psychological tricks you may use.) If she’s good
giving head, make her even better by mentioning how
great she is at it. I assure you, the next time she’s giving
you one, she’ll show off her skills and prove you right on
that compliment. It’s like telling a girl she looks great in
a red dress, making her feel so good about herself, and
finding out later that because of your comment, she
starts wearing red everyday.

TWO: What’s Not

Think of the things she could do better. Is it her tiny

mouth? Or the fact that she yells another man’s name
when you make love? Do not suffer in silence, any
superficial complaint will do.

THREE: Sandwich #2 between the stuff you came up

with in #1, and you have a comment that not only
boosts her ego, but made her a better partner as well.

You might come-up with something like this:

That reverse-cowgirl last night was hot! Let’s do that

more often. I love it when you take control... with me
just laying there enjoying the view from behind. Ride
me faster next time... like a cowgirl. Like the wind,
especially when I scream “Rapido!” I mean we can just
go wild on that one. I love it that our sexual endurance
and stamina match.

Highlight the positives and teach her something on the

side.

So much for The Sandwich and GIVING feedback. Let

us reverse the roles and learn how to GET the feedback
men badly needed.
The One-Word Manual on Getting
Sexual Feedback

If there’s one person in this world who can

exponentially boost your sexual quotient and bring out
the best in you, it’s going to be your partner – she’s the
one who’s actually in bed with you. You’ll have to take
as much as you can from her.

This section will be quick and painless, a one-word

discussion on: How to Get Feedback. If you can have
the emotional maturity to master this single thing, you’ll
be unstoppable in bed, there will be no telling the
heights you’ll reach.

Are you ready? You may have already seen the word
even before finishing this paragraph. But I’m yelling it
out anyway.

Here goes: LISTEN!

That’s how you GET feedback.

‘Nuff said.

Moving on.

We’ll close Part One with the proverbial “Bang!” by

tying everything we’ve discussed so far. The next
chapter unveils how the purest, most powerful and
effective sexual communication is created.
Unbelievable sex will always require this. Find out
exactly what I’m talking about. And when you do,
practice it immediately!
Chapter 5
The World’s Greatest Force

Never forget that Sex is Communication – the most

intimate kind. It’s two bodies conversing, connecting
and interacting. And as I’ve already said, If you want to
be great in bed, you sir, have to learn communication.
And what you’re about to discover here is its most
powerful form.

All great communicators in the past, present and surely

in the future, hold a special secret quality. “Secret” is
really not the fitting word since those who possess it do
not withhold or conceal that which they know. In fact,
every time they take to the stage, speak and move
entire audiences, every time they communicate, these
great men and women put on perfect display this
exceptional mark. It’s not hidden from view, but we
miss it because we don’t know what we’re looking at in
the first place.

What is this thing that made the greats so great? If we

can only isolate and copy that mysterious X-factor, we
could well be the Kennedy or the Martin Luther King of
our generation. We could enchant and enthrall
audiences, move & influence them into action. What
do the greats possess?

Guys, this is the X-Factor: CONGRUENCE.

That’s the stuff of brilliance, the greatest force in the
Universe.

What on-God’s-green-earth is Congruence and what

does it have to do with sex?!

(First, we’ll talk about it in general terms, then later, we’ll

discover why it lies at the very heart of SEX.)

Congruence is the dynamic FORCE created when

WHAT a person says, his WORDS – and HOW he says it,
his ACTIONS – perfectly harmonize. It is pure, unbroken
communication that directly hits target, both words
and actions reinforcing each other in getting the
message across. It’s Inside-Out Method meets Outside-
In in an explosive, unstoppable combo.

Congruence is devoid of pretensions and guises

because the speaker has unwavering & unfaltering
belief in all he or she is saying. He holds absolute
conviction about his message and that’s what moves
the hearers. And that’s what separates him from wishy-
washy communicators.

Well, “How about those jaded people who can lie

through their teeth and take everybody for a ride?”

They are Congruent Liars, first class con men who dupe
many because they remain congruent.

How do they do it?

In that very moment, at that very second they deliver
the lie, THEY ACTUALLY BELIEVE IT THEMSELVES. The lie
becomes “true” AT THAT MOMENT. They don’t go
talking and then at the back of their heads say, “Man, I
can’t believe I’m really saying this. This is all BS!” No,
they deliver what to them is true at that moment.

Congruent Liars exist because it doesn’t matter if what

they say turns out to be really true, what matters is if
THEY TRULY BELIEVE IT.

Hundreds of years ago, scholars passionately argued

that the earth was flat. They were so congruent and so
persuasive that the whole world believed them. Today,
our scientific calculations and those awesome pictures
from outer space prove that flat is not the case.

Which brings us to the next point: BELIEF leads to

Congruence.

Of course you can say stuff you don’t believe in, but in
the end, it’s not as effective and powerful as the real
thing. Because when you’re really convinced with what
you’re saying – your communication flows. Your voice
puts on credible timbre, words spill from your mouth like
unstoppable tides. Your whole body solidifies the
message.

The effect? You capture not only ears but hearts &
minds as well. Your genuine belief in what you’re saying
breeds in people belief in you.
The opposite is Incongruence – which is sometimes
amusing because it seems like the person doesn’t really
know what to say or how to say it, he ends up in a
communication limbo where words and actions tell
different stories, resulting in a weak and weird message.

Imagine a young father trying to demonstrate to his 5-

month old how to enjoy baby food. Clueless about
how it tasted, he took some of that vitamin-licious stuff
and delivered it to his mouth. The baby food & tongue
encounter wasn’t a very pleasant one, no wonder the
little fella wasn’t a big fan! But because he was a big
boy, he had to show he’s mature enough not to scurry
to the sink and spit. He’d rather do his darn best to
demonstrate to his already amused kid that the stuff
tastes good, and if little Johnny wants to be as big as
daddy, he better eat the whole serving (because
daddy surely won’t grab another bite.)

But sometimes, incongruence isn’t as amusing.

Sometimes it’s downright frustrating and proves to be
the cause of many communication problems.
Incongruence sucks, for how effective or useful can an
incongruent message really be?!

The only recourse really is Congruence, to have your

words match your actions. With it, you can effectively
PERSUADE, SELL, INFLUENCE & LEAD.

I can now hear somebody whispering to himself, “It’s

really cool to be able to do those stuff and all, but I’m
no public speaker or salesman, what has that got to do
with sex?”
It has everything to do with sex!
What Does SEX Have To Do With It?

Just because your words and actions match, doesn’t

mean it’ll lead to an awesome encounter. The power
of Congruence can move you to either the good or
the bad. So you’ve also got to be congruent for the
right things.

The question then becomes: What things should a man

be sexually congruent about?

Not surprisingly, it has always been the simple and basic

things. In this Trilogy, we’ve focused on the BELIEFS you
have of yourself. They are the stuff you congruently
communicate to Eve. In one way or another, whether
you like it or not, what you believe will be made known
to her. They are the crux with which everything else
revolves.

The point of this Trilogy since Book 1 is to make you

congruent for the right kind of things -- to bring you to a
point where you have complete, unwavering
confidence in your skills and abilities as Eve’s lover. Not
a display of arrogance, but a basic understanding of
what you have to offer, and knowledge of exactly
what to do.

And this self-belief comes out in your words and

actions. The specifics don’t matter. Your looks don’t
matter. No matter who you are, if you display
congruence and strength of purpose, your presence
will create a lascivious, fever-pitch desire in Eve. That’s
a guarantee.

Conversely, the worst thing is to second-guess yourself

during sex. When you speak tentatively or move
apprehensively, you’re threading on a self-fulfilling
slope that will eventually be your undoing. Eve doesn’t
want wishy-washy guys, she’d rather be with a
confident horndog. Deal with your issues and
perceived lack of skills BEFORE & AFTER, not during
action. And I’m commending you for getting your
hands on this product.

Sex is not the time to struggle with inner conflicts. When

the game is on, that’s when you simply flow.

It’s mediocrity or Congruence, there is really no other

resort!
PART TWO
Foreplay
Believe it or not, a lot of guys don’t have any clue as
to what foreplay really is all about. (Well, at least that’s
what women say.)

How about you? How do you think you score in this

department? Rather than beat yourself up for being
hung like a rabbit, hone this element of your game –
foreplay finesse counts a whole lot more than tool size.

We have short-term and long-term F.

The first refers to engagements immediately before

intercourse, what traditionally comes to mind when
speaking of “foreplay”. The second is the broader
perspective where it is asserted that FOREPLAY DOESN’T
BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM. Essentially, that dance began
the moment you get to meet the lady. It began hours,
days or even weeks before you enter any private
domain to get lascivious with her. It’s one that transpires
way before the clothes fall. Some call it dating & flirting
etc., but viewed in the pragmatic sexual light, it’s long-
term foreplay. Men hope that after logging-in a few
hours on shared activities, emotional bonds make sex
out of the question. (Not that women don’t already
know that.)

We will not discuss long-term foreplay dynamics here.

But, you might be interested in reading my 300 Creative
Dates at www.300creativedates.com – every moment
spent with one another can be a form of long-term
foreplay.

This section is homage to short-term foreplay.

Chapter 6
What’s That “F” Word Again?

Foreplay is generally regarded as the set of

activities couples enjoy before he mounts her and
pump away. The list includes:

KISSING, LICKING, SUCKING, BITING HUGGING,

CARESSING, NUZZLING, SMELLING, TOUCHING,
SLOW DANCING, EATING OFF EACH OTHER’S
BODIES, TEASING, TESTING THE LIMITS OF SEX TOYS,
KNEADING, SCRATCHING, ORAL SEX, SENSUAL
MASSAGE, DIRTY TALKING, & virtually anything
inspired by the couple’s imagination.

(This list is actually endless.)

Women are suckers for these, it’s in their very nature to

be so.

While men can do without such and still be happy,

women are more engrossed by them. I’m telling you,
investing on these sub-arts guarantees an unbelievable
upsurge in your erotic affairs, adding oomph and
pizzazz to your encounters.

What’s it For?
You thought Foreplay was for heating her ovens, did
you? It’s the all-too- common, “We’re gentlemen, so
let’s get her hot & wet first”, where foreplay is seen as
an opening act.

That mindset has tripped a man too many. When you

consider foreplay simply as a preliminary, you will
inevitably suck at it. For how can you rock when you’re
already imagining how wonderful it would be to slide
inside Eve? The finest foreplayers are the ones who are
lost in the moment.

Yes, foreplay will eventually heat her ovens, create

palpable tension and bring her to a rabid sexual flush –
but these are only the side-effects. Getting her hot and
ready doesn’t overshadow the fact that Foreplay is an
end unto itself, not needing any ulterior motive. Side-
effects should not be confused with the sheer delight of
doing it.

FOREPLAY WAS NEVER MEANT TO BE JUST A

PRELIMENARY, and you won’t recognize the delights
offered by its outstretched arms until you stop seeing it
as one. It would be a great sensual waste, for example,
if you kiss with the hope of it leading somewhere, and
miss on the fact that the kiss in itself is full of savory,
mouth-watering treats. Such a waste.
Think about this for a minute: For many women –
FOREPLAY IS “IT”. (Let me give you time to let that one
sink in.)

For many women, foreplay is THE thing, it is THE sex

thing. It’s their reason for the deed!

It’s when most of the things she loves take place – all
the kissing, touching... everything! It’s where she feels
those emotional stirrings and ecstasies women desire.
It’s when they feel most wanted, most needed, most
beautiful – it’s when you’re kissing them and holding
them, (not when you’re feverishly thrusting into them).
Many guys miss this. It blows my mind how guys simply
breeze through something as big of a deal for Eve!

Why do you think foreplay works in revving her engines

in the first place?

It’s because women are great fans of it! That’s why it

gets them hot and ready to ride you. In a world where
girls don’t appreciate F – it won’t work, you can caress
and tease all day long, and still end up with a lady
bored to death. But our women do appreciate F, it
inflames and energizes them. And rushing through it
doesn’t endear you to her, as you’re making light of
things she loves the most.

Stop treating foreplay as an opening act, and you will

be a top act. You will see possibilities when you forget
intercourse for the moment, and deal with what is at
hand – you’ll do a much more amazing job too!

When that happens, Eve will experience the kind of

longing that you want... she will have a real desire to
be penetrated, to have you inside her. She will ask,
bitch and nag just so you finally do her. So wise up!

CAN’T STOP A BONER

Get real, a moment by moment experience is easier
said than done... especially when you throw in a raging
boner and a naked woman. Savoring foreplay, while
violent carnal forces take over your body, is a mean
feat.

Women don’t get this, but delaying penetration is

probably the most difficult thing a man can do. Guys
see an erection as unresolved tension. It needs to be
addressed. Immediately. Unnecessary delay is cruel.

While most women wish to luxuriate in this kind of

feeling, men see it as torture.

Have a naked, gorgeous woman on your bed...

moaning... with legs pointed to the heavens, and you’ll
realize you’d rather be skinned alive than not jump her.
It’s like the marshmallow experiment – only this time, the
marshmallow is wickedly sexy at 120 lbs., calling out
“Come and get me!” through a microphone. You don’t
even see the woman, really, your vision just zeroes-in
between her legs. And you would do anything, even
pawn your Knicks season tickets, just to get into that
magical place.

That’s why nobody’s telling you to stop a boner – you

can’t. So don’t deny the urge. In fact, ACKNOWLEDGE
IT, admit you wish to ravish her body. Admit that you
want to be inside her, feel her warm and wet core
embrace your manhood. You want to plant it deep,
deeep into her. Acknowledge the urge.

But,

DON’T ACT ON IT... YET.

Yes, it’s possible. Ever been so mad at someone you felt

like strangling them to death? We’ll, did you actually
do it? It’s the same with Foreplay.

Have the urge, but don’t act on it... yet. Feeling it is

different from acting on it. This is where the bizarre
struggle begins since men can easily blend the two. But
just because you’re hard doesn’t acquit you of all the
other options.

Why hurry a sure thing? Do you actually think she’ll do a

disappearing act if you don’t jump her immediately?

What to Do Instead?
GET BUSY. You will never get over that vaginal trance
unless you fill your head with something else. Do some
crunches if you got to, channel that sexual energy into
some activity and accomplish something mind-blowing
– a great oral job, for example.

Get busy and realize that while you’re at it, keeping

your mind off that battle-ready penis, you’re getting
the hang of the thing that started off as distracters.
Foreplay can rock... when you give it a shot.

Of course, don’t wait for kingdom come and allow your

erection and arousal to shy away. Just remember a
sexual reprogramming before finally deciding to ride.
This next one is subtle but it could really change your
foreplay game. Ready?

Here’s the shift:

That moment you penetrate, the very first instant you

slide that schlong into that pit of hers, think of it as: THE
BEGINNING OF THE END, launching the finale – the final
hurrah. You’re actually wrapping things up.

Yeah that’s right, the moment you enter her, you’re

actually nearing the end of the session, you’re taking
the final bend of the final lap. It positions you a stone’s
throw away from the inevitable conclusion.

To most guys, it’s the exact opposite. For them, that first
push is like opening their box of chocolates... all the
good stuff begins. They think, “Yeah, finally I get to do
this!” It’s a “Yeheeey!” moment and fireworks are at
long last lit up. Like the opening of baseball season – all
wonderful things are up ahead.

But, without watering down the virtues of a good

hump, and without missing on the joys of being inside
Eve, boxes of chocolates have been opened way
before initial penetration. It’s not the opening of
baseball season, it’s already the World Series! And as
for the fireworks? They’re there for the closing
ceremonies!

All things bright and beautiful didn’t begin when you

went in for that first push, it started long way before
that. It started when you first got a whiff of the scented
candles she prepared, when you first ran fingers across
her face, when you felt her tummy rising and falling
from labored breathing. If you missed on those
because of your anxiety to put your pelvic gyrations on
display, then you missed a lot.

You missed the unique pleasures of the opening and

middle game.

Remind yourself before you enter: This is the

beginning of the end. Watch how this simple shift
straightens things out and alter your foreplay game by
giving you a wider shot of the whole sex thing.

“Do I Really Have To Do F Every Time?”

DEFINITELY NOT!
Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything
as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so,
there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin

her against the wall and do her right then and there.
Don’t delay... do her immediately. Ravage her at will
because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples

are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic
longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet,
they commence sexually harassing each other. The
slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay
doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of
“Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for
that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-
candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they

know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with

foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after
the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their
orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and
slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is

during Quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat
the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your
partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get
those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair...
then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it

without thought for feelings. There’s something so
animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that
finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay

becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want
it.

Just make sure of two things:

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies

are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all
the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old... pretty
fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page.

You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now?
Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot
different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at
the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full
advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start
things.

Moving on to the next chapter.

ONE UNBELIEVABLY HORNY WOMAN is good to find. But

how exactly does one elicit such response in Eve? By
bridging sensuality and sexuality, and by applying the
skills and mindsets in the next section, you’ll easily have
your woman begging for you!

Chapter 7
The Sensuality & Sexuality Gap

Men might act clueless sometimes, but if there’s

one thing we know, it’s the fact that sex is much easier
if the woman is horny. When she badly wants it, then it’s
definitely on. There’s more flow, less drama and greater
openness.

We resort to the time-tested “touch here, grope there

and a kiss or two” technique – knowing that women go
gaga over being held and touched. Eve is slavishly
fond of skin-to-skin contact and we have worked that
one to our sexual advantage since time immemorial.

But why the slap on the face when some guy tried to
grab Eve in the sub-way this morning? Why did Marie
back off when Johnny groped her last night? Why the
barrage of sexual harassment cases? If simple skin
friction compels women to heat up, why does the
statement, “Stop touching me or I’ll Mace you” exist?

Why?
Let’s see... uhhh... because they were being world-class
jerks, first-rate sleazebags and overeager SOB’s !? Men
like those are the reason they invented the death
penalty.

Yes, women love contacts, but there’s clearly a

MANNER and CONTEXT to it. Touching a stranger in the
sub-way? Totally out of context! Marie backing off?
Probably an improper way of escalating things...
maybe an upset stomach, who knows!

What patrons of restraining orders don’t get is that for

women, there’s a clear distinction between Sensuality
and Sexuality. Men don’t readily see the difference,
but women do. It’s not a Webster dictionary generated
one, but they FEEL it in their guts. And for you to get laid
more often, you also got to have a feel for these two
concepts.

Here’s a start. Touching her hair is innocent and sensual.

Groping her boobs, licking your middle finger and
slipping it under her panties is sexual. Just because you
used the same hand in both occasions, doesn’t mean
they’re the same.

On behalf of all women on planet earth: Please do not

confuse Sensuality with Sexuality! One leads to the
other, they’re not the same thing. (This tendency of
blurring out the distinctions is another one of those
burdens women endure when dealing with clueless
men.)
The ladies see the gap. They can hug, touch, kiss at the
backseat of a car (for hours!), without crying foul if it
doesn’t lead to sex. A man, on the unfortunate other
hand, will suffer blue balls, and if not sedated, will barrel
for a quick one.

“Women are a big tease!” Sound familiar?

Women, bless their hearts, can be intensely sensual

without the dire need to be sexual. And even when
they’re beginning to get to that sexual place, they
don’t require going all the way. It boggles men’s reality
when Eve backs off from a flurry of petting and kissing,
for why stop a good thing? Why not finish it off with a
good old bang? There’s just no use barking if you ain’t
biting anyway, no purpose running first base if you
can’t score.

Here’s the thing. You not only have to recognize the

gap, you also have to bridge it. You have to bridge
sensuality and sexuality so you can go all the way and
not get frustrated by women suddenly changing their
minds.

You’ll learn that here. But take note, we’ll be starting off
at the sensual context. I’m going to assume you
already have a lady and are ready to initiate sensual
adventures with her. Understand though that before
reaching this point, a lot has already happened. For
example, she is already quite comfortable being alone
with you.
Whether you accomplish this in a few minutes of initially
meeting her, or in a span of several days or even years,
doesn’t matter. It’s all part of the process you’ll have to
undergo before you get sanctioned into a sensual
stage with a woman. This is an issue of personal space
and you can’t just get into somebody else’s without
being sanctioned into it. (Yes, even if she’s your wife or
girlfriend.)

Let’s Talk Gap

Is it really there?

The gap does exist. It’s not obvious for regular partners,
for they can easily go at it at a moment’s notice, but
it’s still there. Even when it’s barely noticeable, the gap
will always exist. This is certainly not an issue only for
new or first time partners.

Women don’t lose their gut feel for these things, even
when they’ve done you many times. Guys fumble
when they believe that just because they’ve done it
many times with a lady, they don’t need to worry
about bridging. Well, if you don’t wish to be stopped
dead on your tracks and whipped real good by a PMS-
ing woman, you better bridge the gap every time.

For example, you may have had hot sex with Eve last
night, don’t assume you’re free to go immediately
sexual on her tonight – she could very easily back down
on you. You cannot bank on last night. Last night was
different, and it doesn’t really count anymore. Tonight is
tonight and you have to get to that sexual place once
more, albeit easier this time.

Understand that you’re working here with a dynamic

gap – which means its distance, nature and properties
vary. Factors like timing, your game, mood, place, and
the relationship of people involved, come into
consideration. Getting it on with a stranger, in a public
area such as a bus stop, is considerably more difficult
than doing it with your horny wife inside your house.

Why? Because different factors are at play.

Don’t lump all your experiences as if their all the same,

it’s an “IT DEPENDS” kind of situation where going from
innocent touches to fingering her will take different
routes.

There’s no one route that’ll work every time, all the time,
in every situation, and with every woman.

Ok, let’s answer the question of the “HOW?”

If the sensuality-sexuality gap is dynamic, which means

it varies over people and over situations, and therefore
cannot be locked on time factors, how are we going to
bridge it?!

Well, your answer lies in this word:

TRANSITIONS !
Say it with me, “Tran-si-tions”

Everybody now, “TRAN-SI-TIONS !”

If your partner isn’t melting with lust, you definitely need

to go through transitions. You need to go through them
and turn an indifferent, even cold or unfeeling woman
into a ball of desire.

One of the most powerful phrase in the English

language is “ONE THING LED TO ANOTHER”, for it
reflects an elegant application of transitions, what
SMOOOTH is all about. No bumps, no big moments, just
one thing leading to another... ‘til promised land.

And if I may amend the phrase, it will say: ONE SMALL

THING LED TO ANOTHER... SMALL THING. Because it will
always be about small things, baby steps resulting to an
almost indiscernible-inevitable progression. That’s how
you make things happen!

That’s how momentum is created. All that talk about

gap boils down to smooth transitions. If you know how
to do it, you will go everywhere. Transitions is how you
create FLOW and “in the moment” phenomena.

Some people are so good, they make these transitions

almost imperceptible, they just blaze like there’s no
tomorrow. A guy could meet a new girl one minute,
and be with her at the parking lot the next.
Here, we’ll do it slow mo’ – so you’ll see how a neutral,
probably clueless woman, turn into a rabid dame dying
to fornicate.

So, how do you go from holding a woman’s hand, to

having hot sex with her? To follow are the ever critical
transition principles. (Notice that they have a lot to do
with TOUCH.) They’re useful not only when getting
sexual with a new lady, but also when juicing up a
trusted partner. As a reminder: I do not recommend
stranger sex – EVER – for very educated reasons. If you
need specific reasons, see my 50 Secrets of Blissful
Relationships at www.50secrets.com

Don’t think that just because she’s your wife she’s not
backing-down on you. She could very easily give you
the “I have a headache, honey” line.

So keep these lessons close to heart, they are your best

friends...

Transition & Progression Principles

#1 “CONFIDENCE IS KEY”

Escalation is about leading, EVE WANTS HER MAN TO

LEAD – and she wants him to do it with confidence. She
refuses to be led by a weakling, only when you display
confidence will she give you room to escalate. It’s the
only way she’ll know that you’re her daddy, and that
her daddy knows what to do.
This is first and foremost. If you can’t be confident with
your transitions, then don’t do them. Wishy-washy
progressions will bite you back. Eve will catch even the
tiniest bit of uncertainty on your part, resulting into a
vibe less conducive for sexual ends. For example, if you
show that touching her shoulder is a big deal, guess
what, she’ll believe you. She’ll make sure it becomes a
very big deal, and you have just become the author of
another self-fulfilling prophecy.

Be Confident. If you were second-guessing yourself in

the past, because you didn’t know exactly what to do,
then it’s really a good thing you’re studying this series.

#2 “IF SHE GIVES YOU THE HAND, TRY

GOING FOR THE WHOLE ARM”

As the guy, it is your job to escalate. If she’s the

aggressive type, good for you, enjoy it as she slams you
on bed and tears your clothes – but don’t count on it
happening all the time. You have to make things
happen. And yes, that means putting yourself out
there.

What if she rejects the escalation? That’s a possibility,

and it sucks, but to be eternally stuck in the sensual
context because you always hesitate, sucks even
more!
You have to continually escalate, move things forward
and up the ante. If she’s already comfortable with
steaming lip locks, go for the next level and kiss her on
the neck, for example. Go bolder each time and
proceed to more erogenous parts of her body... ‘til you
get to her breasts and vulva. Never be afraid to go for
the “whole arm”, sex that is. The only question is how
you do it so the transitions are smooth.

#3 “IT’S NOT A to B, IT’S A... to... Z”

How was the Grand Canyon carved?
One grain at a time.
A man often gets shot down when he makes Eve take
consciously large leaps. Many times, a man thinks that
what he intends to happen is a simple transition from
Point A to Point B. But most often, when you closely look
at it, “A” is so radically different from “B”, and bridging
them requires several intermediate & necessary
actions.

For example, let’s say you’re caressing Eve’s shoulders

from the back. She’ll welcome and love that. But if the
next thing you do is slip your fingers under her panties
and into her yet dry insides, don’t be surprised if she
backs-off. It’s too fast, too soon. Caress and kiss her
some more, tease her around the belly and inner
thighs, through her clothes, and build up some serious
sexual energy.

What you wanted to happen is NOT from “A to B”, it’s

actually “A to Z”. And most women are not
comfortable taking a large step from A to Z. You have
to lead them through those baby steps in between –
smoothly transitioning from A to B, to C, D ... ‘til Z.

Baby steps are best. They’re the most dangerous

because nobody sees them coming. Individually, they
look insignificant, but ultimately, they add up.
Remember flow? You don’t need big moves. Small
moves, in the right direction will get you there.

Do it gradually. Don’t overwhelm and stun the lady by

progressing too fast, especially if she’s not YET that far
into it. You can’t make up time by going fast and
furious – it doesn’t work that way. In fact, it’s
counterproductive.

Note that progressing from Physical Touch, A to Z

doesn’t necessarily have to happen in a single, all out
war session. The process may unfold in several make-
out sessions before you cash in and get to the sex – this
is especially true for new and ‘shy’ partners. Of course,
there are women who can make the sexual transition
instantly, but many others set a slower pace.

#4 “IF SHE BACKS-OFF... BACK-DOWN”

You have to.

This is very, very important. It’s not a deal breaker if she

backs off at some point – many do. Most guys respond
by chasing and get overly aggressive. Don’t. Do not
force the issue. If she backs-off, mirror the action by
backing down. While caressing for example, if you’re
going up her legs, near the inner thighs and she peels
your wandering hand off, don’t land it back to the
exact spot where she just posted the “Not Yet” sign. Go
back to low shield areas she’s comfortable with, get
busy and build sexual energy for bolder moves of
escalation.

After a few minutes, ESCALATE AGAIN, go back to her

inner thighs, for example. If Eve allows it this time, then
good. If not, back-down and try again later. Something
really interesting happens with TIME. As long as you’re
not pushy, the lady becomes more and more
amenable to your advances. As she gets hotter, those
walls will melt. But you got to have the patience to
back-down and try again. Above all, if she has set
boundaries in the relationship (i.e. no petting/
intercourse until the wedding night) respect it with all
your being. If she values her body/integrity that much,
you should too.

Clueless men inadvertently break the moment by

pushing harder when they encounter a wall. Don’t push
and hope to force a checkmate. Wait a bit, that wall
will melt (or collapse) in time.

Be forewarned though, your mind will play tricks on you

when you’re horny. A TIME DISTORTION could also
operate as you try to escalate physically. Because
more often than not, the escalating man will be hornier
than Eve, he’ll find it unbearably difficult to wait for
those walls to melt. He’ll think he’s been on the “back-
down and try again” track for hours already when it
was barely 2 minutes!

And the more she forbids him, the more he wants it.
And the more he lusts after it, the harder he tries. So the
stronger her objections become. Avoid these kinds of
situations – BACK-DOWN!

#5 “PUSH & PULL”

Want to make women go crazy?

Get this. Even when she’s fainting with lust, even when
she legalizes all your moves by allowing you to
continually escalate without a single protest, YOU HAVE
TO BACK DOWN. Backing-down isn’t only a ploy used
when she backs-off, use it even when she wants you to
run her over. This is one of the most important elements
in teasing and transitions. If you’ve unzipped her pants,
zip it back half-way. If you’re already near the vulva,
go back up. This will make her crazy, but it will be worth
it.

#6 “IT’S THE PROCESS, STUPID!”

Who are we kidding?! When she’s giving you all the

green lights, even helping you molest her, who’s turning
away from that? To back-down when she just wants
you to pin her immediately, is next to impossible. When
you already have the coveted prize in sight, executing
the “Push & Pull” becomes a formidable task.
But let me tell you something. No matter how heavenly
the destination is, it’s not about the destination. It’s
about the process. It’s how you do the transitions. It’s
how you tease her and build the sexual tension that
ultimately matters – these heighten process. The
process of confidently going for the whole “arm”,
transitioning from A to Z, backing down and escalating
again, is actually what makes getting to that sexual
place feel so good.

#7 “HAVE FUN !”
You’re working with a dynamic gap and different
factors are at play, so there will be different scenarios.
But practically all effective escalations will have a
common feature – the FUN FACTOR. The men who get
laid the most often always know how to have fun.

“Fun”, in this context, doesn’t have to be laugh-out-

loud funny, rambunctious, amusing or wild. It simply is a
carefree condition – a feeling of openness, a no-big-
deal state of mind.

An interesting feature of “Fun” is that it’s not only

pleasurable or delightful, it is most of all disarming. In
fun, Eve lets her guard down and knows, “Everything’s
gonna be just fine.” The universe, with all its worries and
imperfections, enters oblivion. Fun bends every law of
physics and makes the world stop, it engulfs time.
Looking back from past experiences, notice how time
flies when you’re havin' good old fun?

But more importantly, recall how easy it was to make

ONE THING LEAD TO ANOTHER. When people are
having a good time, anything goes. Fun lubricates your
escalations and makes your transitions unfold faster. An
almost diabolical force takes over when inhibitions
cease to operate as the Fun Factor makes people do
things they would otherwise never have done. (Don’t
mistake this with being wasted. People can have fun
without a single drop of alcohol in their systems.)

HAVE FUN, IT’S THAT IMPORTANT! Be in a fun state

yourself, become her example, and soon enough, she’ll
join you.

#8 “ALLOW HER TO DO SOME

ESCALATION OF HER OWN”

Make her a part of it. You don’t need to do everything.

Of course, women escalate too. When you’ve worked

her up good, she’ll not only welcome your advances,
she’ll be making some of her own. Women also initiate.
This often happens during that time of the month when
her hormones are raging – her fertile days. She’s in heat
and will feel extra cuddly, and would want to kiss &
touch you all over. She’ll act like a horny guy. So enjoy!
You’ll feel like the hottest guy on the planet.
But have your horses in check, Eve can get very sensual
without necessarily finishing off on the sexual end. If she
ends escalation at the cuddling and kissing part, it’ll be
a big let down for you. I swear, you’ll feel like she’s
played a nasty one on you. But don’t whine and act
like a girl, run the stuff we’ve discussed and you’ll be on
your way to a wonderful evening.

Those are the 8 escalation and progression principles.

By now, you would have learned enough transition stuff
to efficiently bridge the Sensuality-Sexuality Gap. In the
next chapter, we’ll talk about something many
probably wanted addressed much earlier. The topic is
the art of undressing Eve – not only in your imagination,
but for real.

Chapter 8
How To Undress A Woman

When you start de-fashioning a woman, you’re

entering the sexual side of the gap. Seriously, what
does she expect when you disrobe her... play
Scrabble? No sane man would have a shot at winning
Scrabble against a naked chick!

But this section is not for everybody.

If you notice that your lady always seems to enter the
bedroom stark naked, then skip this part. You’re what
the guys call a lucky dawg.

If your lady’s method of fanfare is the all-time favorite

striptease, then also skip this part. Sit back, relax and
enjoy as she bares her soul. You’re what the fellows call
an even luckier dawg.

Now, for the rest us, we proceed to undressing Eve. This

is the unveiling of her female form, whatever her vital
statistics may be. It’s the unzipping of the pants and
discovering if she wore those special undies... if at all.
It’s inspecting bikini lines & brassiere, which is always
men’s favorite – right up there with sports, cars & sports
cars.

But how does one undress a woman?

Whether it’s under the pretense of a full body massage,

strip poker, or a fun man-vs.-woman striptease contest,
any monkey with an IQ below 60 can undress Eve – it’s
not rocket science. Simply unzip the zipped elements,
unbutton the buttoned, and rip those ever reliable
Velcros. It’s a no brainer. What we will feature here is
the PROCESS of doing it.

Let me begin by saying that it’s unwise to ask your

partner if you can commence unwrapping her body.
Why? It simply gives her a chance of saying “NO!” And
once she verbalizes that, she’ll try to stay committed,
and it’ll be harder for you to isolate her from her
clothes. Not good.
Just do it.

Don’t ask any questions, she’ll give you an answer

anyway. Get your answer from her reactions. If it’s
negative, the principle of escalation tells you to back-
off and try again later. Don’t force the issue and turn a
“No” into a formidable “NO!” You’re not only making it
harder on yourself – not to mention, forcing her will get
you to jail. So always back-off. Back-off, but GET BUSY.

Using the Orange and Onion metaphors, let us look into

2 different routes of isolating Eve from her clothes. One
is not better than the other, the specific situation affects
the process and you can definitely have a hybrid of the
two.

The Orange Model

This has something to do with tearing clothes off a
woman’s body. It’s fast, furious, with severed buttons
lying all over. It comes without warning, is swift and
unforgiving of any delays. The goal is to unveil booty in
the soonest possible time. The Orange Model is one of
intensity, all energy channeled to ultimately getting
skin-to-skin contact, which usually happens during
frenzied love-making where partners won’t tolerate
even a single centimeter of physical separation. It’s
frantic and frenetic.
Everything... SWOOOOFFFF... happens so fast. Snap!
And all clothes scatter on the floor.

When all the gloves are off, what’s really there to do

next? It’s the dead end in stripping as you can’t strip
her skin no more. When you’re staring at a naked
woman’s body with your naked eye, there’s no room
left for the imagination. Everything is right there!

Now, you’re visually confirming if she’s cut and curved

in all the right places. There’s little room for teasing,
because the desire to behold hidden assets has been
indulged.

Am I saying that the Orange Model sucks? Not at all.

The good thing about it is that it’s FAST. The poor thing
about it is that it’s FAST. You have to decide what’s
both practical and beneficial for a particular situation.

The Onion Model

This model luxuriates with time – the process is likened to
skinning an onion.

This is in contrast to peeling an orange where you only

deal with a single layer of skin, and voila, the meat is
exposed. Peeling an orange requires boldness and
tenacity as you tear it’s relatively thick skin. But the
onion is a little different. A little tenderness and
patience is required because you can’t get to the
heart of an onion in one bold stroke. You peel its
numerous layers, gradually exposing its core.
(Here, stripping is not taken for granted. Just think of it.
Stripping is an art as well as a multi-billion dollar industry.
Men actually pay ridiculous amounts of money just to
witness clothes unwrap a woman, never mind that they
never get to touch her.)

In the Onion Model, clothes aren’t simply skimmed

over, stripping is celebrated in & of itself. It is mildly
paced and elegantly executed – in contrast to the
fierce and intense manner of the Orange.

When you de-fashion a woman, you are taking away

something that attracted you to her in the first place.
How else could a man be interested in what’s under
there if her packaging isn’t right? Was it not her foxy red
dress that sparked your fancy?

But what do most men do?

They attack clothes like archenemies, like bumps to

triumph over. Give a moment’s hint of privacy, and
they raid like a SWAT Team and finish de-styling
proceedings in-between heartbeats.

Easy Junior!

When you peel a woman so hastily, you miss on the joys

and tensions of undressing her. You throw all that
opportunity away! And for what? Of course we know
for what! It’s got something to do with boobies and
stuff. But hey, do you have the faintest idea how fun
undressing Eve can be?! If not, then it’s probably
because you’ve never looked at it as a process.

Imagine it’s your birthday. There’s a party and about 3

dozen gifts are neatly piled in a corner. Each box is
wrapped in brightly colored material, all of which
screams, “Open Me!” But it’s not that part of the
program yet, so your imagination floods with images as
to what those boxes might conceal.

It’s the waiting part that kills you, you’re dying to find
out what’s inside. It’s excruciatingly fun! With fingers
crossed, you release one fervent prayer after another
saying, “God, I hope you led them to the food
processor I’ve been hinting for the past 7 weeks!”

Now, imagine if friends give presents wrapped in

transparent material. There’s 3 dozen of these
impressive boxes neatly piled in a corner. But you
already have them in full view, you already know what
they are, (and they ain’t pretty.)

You look at those presents and see a freakishly bright-

yellow-pink shirt you swore you’ll never be caught dead
in. While playing gracious host, you have already sifted
the gifts into those that you’ll keep, and those you’ll
return for store credit.

Where’s the fun in that?

The real ecstasy is in opening gifts ONE BY ONE, working

through all the papers, ribbons, confetti – all the stuff
they use to hide the good stuff. It doesn’t even matter if
you get that dreaded bright-yellow-pink shirt, what
really counts is the delight of expectation. Process. And
even if you exchange it for something else, you’ll
always remember the anticipation you felt.

Now, multiply that feeling 10x, that’s the exuberance of

undressing a woman. And by that, I don’t mean just
going through the motions – it’s lame and a waste of
time & energy. I mean really getting into it and
experiencing process. Even if you’ve seen her body a
million times before, the thrill will always be there.

Skinning an “Onion”

# 1 – INVOLVE THE CLOTHES IN SEX

Don’t immediately dismiss them to the floor. It’s not just

about the beauty that awaits to be unveiled, it’s also
about the beauty of unveiling it. Get the drift?

Run your hands on her clothes, barely touching them.

You’re not touching her body, but her apparel. This in
itself brings pleasure as you grope through the varied
textures & cuts of a woman’s couture. In a way, it’s a
good thing she spends half her day choosing the
perfect outfit. Sensitize your palms to the feel of cotton,
linen, silk and other fabrics. And even when she’s
wearing the plainest top and those classic denim jeans,
run your hands through. Feel the friction. Doesn’t that
feel nice?
Imagine what it will be like for her. She’ll be in a limbo
with this hovering hand technique. It feels like you’re
touching her, but then again she can’t really be sure.
It’s like you’re touching her aura. It’s exciting, but not
too intense. (Watch as her breathing gradually
quickens.)

Kiss her now and then.

After hovering around, gradually apply more pressure

and touch her body THROUGH her clothes. Now she
can really feel you, she now knows what it means to be
held and touched by a man. You’ve set her up so she’ll
appreciate and welcome the warmth of your touch.

(Same thing happens when you get to her lingerie. Do

the hovering hand first, before touching through bra
and panty.)

Say it with me: Clothes are friends, not enemies.

# 2 – SPICE IT UP ! WORK IT !

Being a dull mouse and simply going through the

motions of getting Eve naked is a waste of erotic
potential.

Add carnal appeal to the proceedings and combine

everything you’ve learned so far into a potent &
powerful sexual tool. Talk dirty, unleash those naughty
looks as you slowly release her body from the
restrictions that are her garments. Don’t act all
mundane. You might have seen her naked a million
times, and it might actually be no big deal, but it
doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. Make her
feel wanted by lightly kissing the patches of skin you
uncover.

And as you strip yourself – PUT SOME FEELING INTO IT!

Nobody cares what ridiculous blob lies beneath your
“I’m with Stupid” T-shirt, take it off with erotic appeal –
there’s absolutely nothing sexier than confidence.

# 3 – PAUSE EVERY NOW AND THEN

De-fashioning Eve has brakes too, you know. You need

not finish without let up ‘til the very end.

Cease your hostilities with fabric and get busy with

simpler stuff like kissing. Sometimes it’s good to back-off
for a moment, leave her half-naked and recognize that
she’s sexiest when she’s ALMOST BARE. There’s that
tension again of being naked... but not quite. Of almost
being there... but not yet.

Dig up all the sexy calendars you’ve collected over the

years. Most ladies in there are not totally naked, they
are almost naked, or perhaps covering chest and
crotch with their oh-so-lucky palms. Feel the tension this
creates. She lets you see the rest of her, but the parts
you want the most, she leaves to your imagination. She
doesn’t give it all away, always making you want more.
Perfect tension. It’s not always about censorship.

Pause every now and then. Get an eyeful, (but without

looking overly impressed.) Notice how incredibly sexy a
topless woman in denim jeans can be. Leave those on
and do something else. Caress her face or play with her
hair. Don’t worry, those jeans will unzip themselves later.

Pause every now and then. This may seem insignificant,

but this little thing is the very secret to life. Those
moments when you pause and seemingly do nothing,
are as vital and substantial as when you’re busy with
something.

Remember those 3 tips, they will make her see you in a

different light. If you’ve employed the Orange Model
almost every time, you can certainly use a change in
pace by going at it Onion style.

After getting naked, continue to KISS, LICK, SUCK, BITE,

HUG, CARESS, NUZZLE, SMELL, TOUCH, EAT OFF EACH
OTHER’S BODIES, TEASE, KNEAD & SCRATCH. DO ORAL
SEX, SENSUAL MASSAGE & DIRTY TALK.

Let’s roll to Part 3. By now, you have fully undressed Eve

and have lots of fun foreplay with her. She’s not only
ready to receive you, she wants you sooo bad. So be
ready to really give it to her!
PART THREE
Play
You’ve gone this far. At this point during sex, you’re
probably taming what I can only imagine as a raging
penis. And if it can yell, it’ll give you a piece of its mind
in no uncertain terms. Right about now, your unit should
be screaming:

You gotta be kidding me, man! I haven’t gotten in

yet?! What the heck’s wrong with you! I get that
foreplay-smorplay ‘go slow be sensual’ stuff, and I’m all
for it, but enough already! I NEED TO GET MY FIX!

Don’t worry. You’ll get your fix, you’ll get it in. This is
where you put all those pent-up energy to good use.

The fact that you haven’t jumped her bones like any
numbnut would do, is already life altering for her. Your
painstaking effort will leave a lasting memory. What you
just did is rare, it has separated you from out-of-control
mongrels out there.

You’re different. You know how to make her anticipate,

and that’s a big one in her book.

But, you’re still a man, and a thrusting penis will

undoubtedly play a major role. The IN & OUT thing will
always be in. But now, you know it’s not the end-all-
and-be-all of sex. You now see it as just one of the
many great things. And with that, you’re truly ready to
appreciate penetration. Chances are, you’ll never take
it for granted. Wait that long, undergo the hassle of
teasing yourself, all the while sporting a penis that just
won’t quit... and take the thrusting opportunity for
granted? Are you freakin’ crazy?! You didn’t build-up
to this point only to breeze through the man-on-top
positions again, did you?

This time, set out to reward yourself and savor every

push into Eve’s soul.
Chapter 9
Putting IT In

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a

perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even Eve doesn’t really know.

This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With
foreplay – MORE IS NOT NECESSARILY BETTER. If it’s a
long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay.
You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could
have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse
than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point

of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases
to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge
ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that
stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most
guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her
man gives too much.)

On the other hand, LESS IS MORE doesn’t hold. It may

be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a
different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just
that... less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s
hot, make it even hotter and allow Eve to really get the
hang of things.
So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The
fact that women are not a homogenous group,
doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at Eve, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t
even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes
and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only
then would you see the glaring window to transition
from Foreplay to Play. Only then would you know the
most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration
works at the advantage of long term partners over
one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your

meat torpedo, check on TWO things you should have
achieved:

ONE: AN EXTENDED MAKE-OUT & FOREPLAY

SESSION

· This includes all the works – kissing, caressing,

hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those
things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-
15 EXTRA MINUTES to your usual. This way, you’re giving
her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her
engines.

Don’t be so stupid as to penetrate a dry vagina.

TWO: ORAL & MANUAL WORK THAT RESULTS IN AN
ORGASM OR TWO

· Ladies First. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule

to never ride unless she cums once or twice via
manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first,
before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to
orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that
penetration will finish the job. As we’ve said in Book 1,
penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of
making women cum.

Have these two in the bag and she’ll be nagging you

to come inside.

Pre-Penetration

You’ve done the works – the whole nine yards. You’ve

been thorough, gentle and moved slow as a turtle on
hangover. And now you’ve decided, she’s more than
ready. Besides, you can’t take the suspense any longer,
your penis made that argument for you 10 minutes
ago. It’s time to bring your ship to harbor.

So LET’S GET IT ON!

Post a “Fasten Your Seatbelt” notice by performing

SWEEPING maneuvers around the vulva. Although this is
something that can be done anytime you fancy,
Sweeping is usually a last minute act before switching
gears. What you do is hold your ranting and raving tool
at the mouth of her vagina. You have not entered her
yet at this point, you’re just having a smoke at the
gates.

Hold your penis and sweep it around the vulva. Rub the
head of your unit around, moving it in circles, up &
down and side-to-side – coaxing the bajingo to let you
in. The resulting friction not only makes her want you
more, it makes further delays harder to bear.

You may also use the underside of your shaft to rub on

her vulva by mimicking thrusting motions. Without
actually penetrating – give your woman a real thrill by
rubbing her clit with the underside of your penis.

First Moments
Everyone remembers their “firsts”. They are always
noteworthy, whether they are for the good or for the
bad. Everyone remembers their first kiss... first dates...
first date disasters etc. They are Dear diary moments.

But what we’re talking about here has nothing to do

with the night she lost her virginity. Rather, it’s about
those first moments in the session when you enter into
vaginal territory – that moment when the 1st inch of
your jimmy passes from the outside world into her wet
‘n wild world. For many women, that first vaginal stretch
is the most exciting and satisfying part – the BEST slice of
the whole penetration process. (But if you’re not gentle,
it could also be one of the most arduous things.)
These moments are both physically and psychologically
meaningful for your partner. The two of you are
officially joined, you are officially inside her. There is an
elegant mini-drama in there that captures the phrase
“getting into her pants” or the more spiritual
“becoming one flesh”.

Share this episode by giving the lady lots of eye

contact. Synchronize both your breathing and you’ll
understand what connection means.

Don’t jam the first stroke. And for that matter, the
several ones coming after that. Initially, thrust in a
slooow and deliberate manner, as if she’s a virgin all
over again – as if it’s her first encounter with Mr. Penis.
(There’s always a first time... every time.) Instantly
switching to high gear from the sensual style will stun
Eve. It’s too fast a transition from laid-back to break
back, like being mounted by a 1000 lb bull all of a
sudden. That feeling is a bit disconcerting for the
woman. Start slow, and gradually build up the speed.

Give her some slow, steady grooves and don’t

cheapen your thrusts by immediately giving her all
you’ve got. If you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out
too early, you’ll ejaculate even before you find your
rhythm & balance. (What did you really expect?!)
Thrusting Styles
There many variations to this IN & OUT thing, but all
strokes hang on 3 basic elements of style.

1. SPEED
2. ANGLE
3. DEPTH

A. SPEED

Speed, which is very much related to POWER, is prime

consideration for the male orgasm. Going at it hard
and fast is the standard masturbating procedure –
probably the only pace most men have been working
with all their lives. It has been proven to work and many
will find it awfully hard to operate any other way.

But since we are not unwitting agents to this whole

thing, we can choose to dial the speed UP or DOWN.
Speed doesn’t control you, YOU control it.

There are reasons, as you already know, why it’s good

to give that “FAST” button a rest once in a while. Again,
if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early or
finish with a prematurely blown load. How can you hold
off cumming when you’re stroking her like there’s no
tomorrow?! Be realistic.
Instead, add variety to your style by patterning into
different thrusting speeds.

For example, you can do 5 quick strokes followed a

slow & deep one. Or 3 slow ones followed by 5 quick
dips. Have fun and play around with a variety of
speeds, mix it up. Slow it down and speed it up. Create
an amusing rhythm or thump to the beat of your booty-
music.

B. ANGLE
Stroking isn’t a straight in & out affair, another way of
adding sexual variation is through ANGLES OF THRUST.
There may be just one point of entry, but there can be
different angles of thrust.

Those different sexual positions are ultimately about

different angles. You’ll find for example, that Doggie is
good for the G-spot because it allows you leg support
and aim to thrust at the zone where it resides.
Missionary Position, on the other hand, has difficulty fully
engaging the spot, because in this configuration, the
penis is usually angled down. The Woman-on-Top can
be a good G-spot position as long as Eve angles her
pelvis so you can stroke into it. Different angles of
attack result in various sensations for the lusty pair.

When you stroke, you employ the combined efforts of

your arms, hips, pelvis, knees and legs. Having physical
endorsement as much as this allows you stuff other than
simply dart in and out. Your hips and pelvis can do
more than straight-up thrusting, and you might not be a
great dancer, but you can definitely move those hips
around. I’m sure that when you boogie on that dance
floor, you also roll them to the sides and in circles.

So WORK IT! The bed is certainly not the place to go shy

and timid. Grind into those hip and pelvic maneuvers
as you stroke in – go left, right and round & round. And
when you’re in deep... wiggle & grind some more,
brushing your pubic bone against her clit. Try
SCOOPING thrusts by pointing your pelvis up as you
dive deeper into her. It’s playful, fun and a happy
detour from the all too serious jackhammer classic.

C. DEPTH
This refers to how deep into her your equipment goes.
Profound, isn’t it?

Women love “full and deep” – but it’s not the only thing
they adore – they also love to be made wanting. You
don’t need to fire everything all the time and be balls
deep with every thump. Going in at various depths
automatically creates variety.

You may start by thrusting just the head of your jimmy...

then pull out. Kiss her. Caress or SWEEP the vulval area.
Thrust the head, and pull out again. Do this several
times. Go back in, and go deeper each time...
Continue to progress until you’re all in. After which, you
can really start pounding.
Get the idea? You don’t need to perform full strokes all
the time.

Now, a shout out for those endowed with humongous

equipments (say, anything 8” and longer). You’ll be
lucky to find a woman who can take the fullness of you,
your thing may simply not fit her. Don’t get me wrong,
large penises rock, but paired with a petite and timid
vagina, it’ll just be a waste of meat. She can’t take all
of it in... with pleasure. It’ll be like running an extra-large
catheter up your thing.

So for guys who pack a horse of a penis: Make sure the

lady is really aroused before you penetrate. Otherwise,
you’ll just really wreck her cervix.

Remember the cervix? It’s the last point where penises

go, a dead end of some sort. When a woman is highly
aroused, her cervix will rise, giving your schlong more
thrusting space. But when you start pounding before
the arousal mechanisms kick in, there’s a good chance
you’ll bump into her cervix.

It’ll hurt...a lot.

So give her arousal allowance so you’ll have more

elbow room to play with. You feel me? OK. After these
penetration details, we’ll look at the bigger picture and
talk body arrangements. No erotic discourse will ever
be adequate without venturing into the wonderful
world of Sexual Positions. (Notice that sexual poses are
considered primarily for their thrusting potential?) You’ll
soon learn that there’s more to these anatomical
configurations than meets the eye.

Chapter 10
Sex Positions
Who hasn’t heard of the Kama Sutra? The Perfumed
Garden or The Tao? These ancient love texts exhibit
the various ways a couple may entangle themselves at
play. And no, they are not porn.

Getting into various sexual arrangements can spice up

a sleepy erotic existence, in addition to being a good
way to discover each other’s hidden talents. Guys will
always want to test the limits of a woman’s flexibility,
leg power and skull strength.

But do not assume that the more Evil Knievel-ish the

poses, for the lady, the hotter the sex is. While
experimenting is good, it should be tempered by
common sense so nobody ends up in the emergency
room in the middle of the night. Getting into acts
hazardous to your health is insane, your choice of
sexual positions shouldn’t constitute acts of stupidity, as
if you’re out to prove anything.

People will have different takes on plow positions,

depending on their tastes; one will be preferred over
the others. The following are the 6 factors that figure
into each of these sexual poses:
· MOVEMENT

Men will always favor situations that allow for thrusting

with reckless abandon. (We will discuss later what these
positions are.) Certain arrangements allow for excellent
movement and mobility, others, not so much. In fact,
some greatly restrain movement it will seem Eve has
you on a body lock.

· ACCESIBILITY

This refers to manual and visual accessibility to Eve.

Some thrusting positions free a hand or two, allowing
them to wander into other territories. (As you may
already know, a great deal of these free hands end up
at the breasts.) Others require both arms for balance &
stability for the stroke.

Men love to ogle the goodies as they pound away.

Bouncing breasts, moaning faces, and of course, tight
behinds are winners. But because the body is profiled a
certain way, manual and visual access to these may
not be available all at the same time. Woman-on-top
for example, makes the face and breast visually and
manually accessible, but it leaves her buttocks hidden
from view. In a way, there’s a Catch-22 going on.

Very notable height discrepancies between couples

can make for some uncomfortable sexual positions. A
giant and a dwarf, on the same bed, will have issues
with alignment and reach. The ideal is for both to be of
the same height and weight categories. The good
thing though is that significant height and weight
discrepancies among couples are not very common.

· STRESS & STRAIN

During the sexual tumble, muscles and bones do

receive reasonable stress. This is again a question of
health, conditioning and medical conditions. Your
options for positions will greatly depend on what both
your bodies can do COMFORTABLY.

Sex can be lethal. If you’re a couple of 120-year olds

still getting some action, there will be positions your
soon-to-be bereaved family will strongly advise against.
You’ll be better off with more relaxed and more
subdued sexual maneuvers.

There are positions that overly strain your back, hips,

neck or legs.

You will instantly know what these are because your

body will be screaming, “Are you kidding me?!” Others
are borderline acrobatic and will drain the joy from the
act.

Why engage in those non-practical positions anyway?

But if you’re young, healthy and able, you have a lot
going for you – there’s POWER OF CHOICE in that.
· G- SPOT & CLITORAL POTENTIAL

Sexual positions have different clitoral and G-spot

potential – some target them perfectly, others render
them next to useless.

To increase your hit rate, recall the locations of these

two: (1) the clit is located OUTSIDE the vagina – safely
nestled under a hood ABOVE the vaginal entrance
where the Labia minoras meet. It gets off on friction &
pressure.

(2) The G-spot on the other hand can be excited

INSIDE, through the TOP wall of the vagina.

There are choice arrangements that fire up these areas

and offer intense pleasure, eventually leading to a
cussing climax. We will soon determine what these are,
but men who generally consider themselves givers...
already know.

· PSYCHOLOGICAL – EMOTIONAL EFFECT

It’s interesting to note that the manner in which two

bodies are configured has psychological and
emotional bearings on the participants. The partner on
top for example, will oftentimes experience the sense
of power and leadership, by virtue of playing the
assertive role. The one at the bottom can express trust
and safe-vulnerability by being led and taking on a
more tempered role.
There are positions that signal adventurous excitement
and creativity, others, raw passion and unfettered
intensity. Through tons of friction and closeness for
example, certain positions enhance the feeling of
intimacy between two naked bodies. Still, there are
arrangements that strike a woman she’s merely being
treated as a sexual object.

So let’s see how each one of these factors play out

through the 4 major sexual positions...

Four Horsemen Of The Apocalypse

You don’t need to memorize 2000 sexual positions.
Basically, there are just FOUR. These are:

1) Man-on-Top
2) Woman-on-Top
3) Rear Entry
4) Side-by-Side

All the others are simply creative, and sometimes

acrobatic variations of these major themes (eg. sitting,
standing).

Each of the major positions brings a unique set of

experience to the couple. We shall explore them in
terms of the 6 elements and identify advantages &
disadvantages, as they relate to personal tastes and
preferences.
 MAN-ON-TOP
This, by far, is the most commonly used one. You
can rest assured that the Man-On-Top (MOT, also know
as Missionary) has undergone rigorous field tests by
billions of couples in the several thousand years of
human history. It has survived the test of time... because
it works!

· As far as MOVEMENT goes, the guy’s pelvis is

relatively free to thrust in and out of the vagina. On top,
he has more authority on the speed, power, rhythm,
angle and depth of the strokes. And because his pelvis
is unfettered, he can easily work on his orgasm as well
as grind circles on her vulva.

(But depending on the position of a woman’s legs,

there can be MOT variations that encumber thrusting
and limit pelvic freedom. When she wraps her ankles
very tightly around him for example, or when she
squeezes his waist with her thighs.)

· In MOT, manual and visual ACCESSIBILITY to the

face and breast is evident. A man can easily doodle on
Eve’s chest as he penetrates. Her buttocks, on the other
hand, may just be contented with manual caresses as it
won’t easily be available for ocular inspection... unless
she turns sideways or raises her legs and pelvis so high
that it begins to show. (That’s talent, by the way!)
· Glaring HEIGHT discrepancies usually bring up
kissing-while-stroking issues. But really, this doesn’t
happen very often.

WEIGHT can be a major issue. Don’t lunge a huge body

mass on Eve and expect her to be breathing when
you’re done. Now, if you’re on the heavier side and
can’t possibly carry your own bulk, consider less
strenuous sexual configurations.

· Since you are expected to support yourself, the

STRESS & STRAIN will be focused on your arms, legs and
back. If you’re not reasonably healthy, this shouldn’t
even be on the agenda.

· The MOT can be efficient in stimulating the clit IF

you angle your strokes and allow your pubic bone
(where the pubic hair is) to rub her clitoral area.
Continuous Clitoral Contact (CCC) is critical since
thrusting is often not enough for her to climax.

· In the MOT, man experiences a sense of control,

power and domination over Eve. Since he has control
of virtually every element, he enjoys the authority to
lead and dictate the proceedings – it’s a feeling of
responsibility for him. Being under the man and giving
him the reins, Eve is signaling to him “I’m trusting you, so
you better know what the heck you’re doing!”
 WOMAN-ON-TOP

The Woman-On-Top (WOT) Position means exactly what

it says, the lady straddles you and is calling the shots
(well, usually). She’s the rider, you’re the obedient
steed. Let’s explore the ramifications with the male
perspective in mind.

· MOVEMENT is limited. Unlike when you’re on top,

you don’t get the whole nine yards of pelvic freedom. If
you want to, you can still stroke in this position, but a
better way is to simply slack away. Just lay there,
almost motionless, with your tool at attention. The WOT
is an opportunity to relax and take it easy. Caress those
swinging breasts, grab some crab cakes or something.
Let Eve hold her own, even just for a moment, let her
dictate the movements. Don’t let her be a couch
potato lying motionless, watching the whole thing
unveil.

And since the sensations on your penis are not as

intense as when you’re stroking, it’s an excellent way to
delay ejaculation.

This is a very good time to learn. Observe your lady’s

riding style and scrutinize the stuff she does when given
control – you’ll learn a lot. When she leads and directs
herself into you, how does she do it? At what angles
and speeds does she groove?
· ACCESSIBILITY, both visual and manual, is high. First
of all you can see her face and those mean breasts.
Second, both your hands are free to do naughty stuff.
And if she does a reverse rider, you’ll have sight of her
behind as well.

· With regards to HEIGHT & WEIGHT, generally the

men are taller and bulkier than women – so there won’t
be any profound issues in this one. In fact, being under
a large woman can be an intense experience, and a
lot of guys get turned-on by heavy-duty grinding and
pumping. (If your kidneys say otherwise, then try
something else.)

· The STRESS & STRAIN on your back will depend on

her physique and riding style. But as long as she’s not
unloading 300 lbs. on you, you’re going to be just fine.
Since you’re not laboring with the motions, WOT can be
a pleasant and relaxed position... Read something if
you want to.

· This is a very strategic position in stimulating both

the CLITORIS and the G-SPOT. You just lay there and the
woman helps herself by rubbing her clitoral area on
your pubis. Her strokes will not be so much those in &
outs, as it is rubbing/rolling motions.

WOT is a potential G-spot winner, you don’t even have

to break a sweat. Since she controls the angles of
penetration, by leaning back and adjusting her pelvis,
she can aim your thing into the top wall of her vagina –
right where her G is waiting. She’ll help herself and ride
all the way to her happy place.

· For many ladies, control is a big turn-on. Being on

top, Eve senses power, authority and responsibility. And
this makes some guys feel vulnerable – especially when
he’s just resting there with nothing to do. But the thing is,
it is in the very nature of sex for the players to be
vulnerable. After all, both of you are completely
naked... warts and all. Sex is about letting go, and this is
what happens when one of you is on top.

In WOT, you’re not only gesturing boldness to be led,

but flexibility to allow turns – that you see sex as a give
and take. Not an avenue for male grandstanding, but
an intimate activity shared by equal partners. Such
psychodynamics may not be readily evident to you or
your partner, but this stuff does take place behind
those raunchy scenes. They’re there.

SIDE-BY-SIDE
This time, nobody’s on top of anybody, both parties are
on their sides and facing each other. (When she has her
back towards you, this position can be classified under
Rear Entry. More on this later.)
· MOVEMENT, as it relates to thrusting and
penetration – is slightly restricted. Your pelvis, together
with your thighs, is semi-anchored because they help
support your weight, so hip pelvic freedom is limited.

· But this might be offset by ACCESSIBILITY. The

hands, free from their balancing duties, may wander
off to almost every nook and cranny of her body.
Because the couple is facing each other, there’s also
that exquisite opportunity for liplocks and eye-contact.

· HEIGHT & WEIGHT will rarely be an issue.

The Side-by-Side Position can offer relief for the obese,

pregnant couples and those with backpains, arthritis,
knee problems and other garden-variety bone issues.
Being on one’s side allows body weight to be
distributed over a larger area instead of being focused
on arms or legs. But you will have to sacrifice some
pelvic freedom for such relief.

· Side-by-Side is not the best position for G-Spot

targeting, but manual stimulation for the clit is always
available.

· Its biggest brownie-point is in the

PSYCHOLOGICAL-EMOTIONAL department. This is one
of the sweetest, most personal and intimate of
arrangements. The couple can relax and be together,
instead of panting like horndogs. There’s sweet
connection when a couple simply gazes at each other,
kiss comfortably, and wrap arms & legs around the
lover.
 REAR ENTRY
Doggie – the way of the animals. She turns her
back, usually drops on all fours, teases you and
challenges you to have your way with her. A lady, on
her knees and with her back to you, is a good start for
some nice deep penetration. This is the first strength of
Doggie.

· The Rear Entry is possibly the most unrestrained

position when it comes to pelvic MOVEMENTS. You can
freely thrust in and out of her, stroke in any manner and
angle you want – just watch your balance.

· With Rear Entry, your eyes can feast on her broad

back and sweet behind. But you can’t see her face or
“the twins”, you’ll just have to cup them from behind.
For many guys, this is an easy trade-off.

· Again, unless there are excessively pronounced

height and weight differences, the couple will do just
fine.

· The STRESS & STRAIN is focused on the knees –

especially the lady’s. She’s on all fours and pushed
back and forth. She’ll need strong (or callused) knees
to hold that position. And for really tall guys, besides
kneeling yourself, you might need to really lower your
pelvis to align with her vagina. This descent could
assign some stress on your legs and knees.
· Doggie is not only good for deep penetrations, but
also an excellent way to stimulate the G-Spot.
Mounting on her posterior, you can easily aim and drive
your schlong towards her top vaginal wall. It’s little
wonder why lots of women love it. It also provides
excellent opportunity for clitoral stroking. Help yourself
from behind and manually stroke her love bud as you
thrust.

· Feeling a little wild, this pose is primed to unleash

those beastly vibes. It’s how animals of the lower caste
do it, and something about that is very appealing to us
humans – especially guys.

But this attraction might very well be its own drawback.

Because she’s facing away, it feels a little IMPERSONAL.
Although he feels the power, she may sense a little
helplessness and loneliness – there’s no eye contact,
and they can’t even kiss for long periods without a
strain on her neck. So don’t make Doggie the position
du jour. It’s great, but it’s not the only thing in the
market.

Let’s boogie to the next chapter and learn the mental

technique that allows you to remember all sexual
position variations... without busting your brains. It has
something to do with viewing things in a whole new
light...
Chapter 11
Sex Positions
... NOT!

There are dozens, maybe even hundreds, of

claimed sexual positions (and some new ones named
everyday) – most with cutesy tags like ‘The Seesaw’,
‘The Butterfly’ or ‘The Crouching Tiger. But I’m saying
here, that basically, THERE ARE ONLY FOUR – all the rest
are simply hybrids and variations in theme.

Here, we’ll learn all the different configurations, without

committing each one to memory. Memorizing
variations is pointless, there’s a better way, and it has
something to do with FLOW. By comparing SEX to
DANCE, we can produce distinctive sexual poses very
easily.

Sexual positions are but dance steps in which the

participants flow one to the next. When the transitions
between steps become so smooth and imperceptible,
the movements cease to become a mere aggregation
of steps, but blends into one exquisite dance
encounter. Individual sexual poses are blurred and
something entirely different comes out.
3 Great Secrets To EVERYTHING!
To learn all the variations, a shift in thinking is in order.
ONE HAS TO STOP THINKING ABOUT INDIVIDUAL SEXUAL
POSITIONS. Instead, see them in bunches, as a SERIES.
The four positions presented in the previous chapter are
not really individual positions, they are a series. We
have the:

1) Man-On-Top Series
2) Woman-On-Top Series
3) Side-By-Side Series
4) Rear Entry Series

To appreciate this, you need to understand 3 simple

concepts in approaching sexual configurations. These
are:

A) 360 Thinking
B) Leg & Pelvic Thinking
C) Transitional Thinking

Let’s look into each.

A) 360 Thinking – The CLOCK Mindset

This is all about ANGLES and REVERSES. Notice that the
4 positions all have reverses? They’re not always
performed face-to-face, they can also be done back-
to-face / butt-to-face.

The Woman-On-Top for example, has the ‘Reverse

Rider’ Position where the lady rides with her back to
you. The Man-On-Top has two reverse versions, the
male ‘Reverse Rider’ – where the gentleman rides with
his back to the lady, albeit a difficult one. And of
course, the classic ‘69’ Position.

Not all Side-by-Side Positions are executed face-to-

face, one may penetrate coming from the back –
which can also be classified under Rear Entry. (Like
when it’s late in the evening and your lady is sleeping
with her back to you, and you suddenly get the idea
for a quickie. You simply slide her undies half-way and
wiggle from behind – hoping she won’t wake-up before
you’re done.)

A reverse Doggie can also be done, albeit, borderline

acrobatic.

But what are we driving out here?

This: A POSITION, IT’S REVERSE, AND EVERYTHING IN

BETWEEN, ARE ALL SEXUAL VARIATIONS – they are all
points in a series.

Think in FULL CIRCLES (and in different axes.)

Imagine a clock.
Its 2 hands represents 2 bodies. The placements the
clock hands make represent different sexual positions.
Take MOT for example, a couple can do it with bodies
parallel (12 o’clock position), but they can also try with
bodies at different angles – like in a perpendicular
position. In WOT, a woman can helicopter and ride you
in different angles.

These variations are not for aesthetic purposes. The feel

for each is unique as the strokes come from unique
angles – it’s a different set of sensual experience.

The Clock mindset gives the picture of sex in different

angles. Not just straight up...but also straight down, to
the left, to the right, diagonals and everything in
between!

Through this, each of the 4 major positions becomes a

series.

B) Leg & Pelvic Thinking

I. LEGS
As I’ve said, sexual positions are generally thrusting
positions. So the area we’re most concerned with is
that region BETWEEN THE LEGS. Your hot rod hangs
between the legs, the vagina resides between her legs
– and the objective is to acquaint these two so they
can do each other some good.
So guess what - those legs... yours and hers... play one
of the most principal roles in determining variations. If
you think about it, positions have a lot to do with how
the limbs are configured. And it’s usually Eve who has
legs shifting and flailing about. (Are they spread,
crossed, raised, wrapped around your body?) The man,
affecting the strokes, often needs leg support for
balance and stability.

Changes in leg poses can create a variety of sexual

positions. One may not be aware of it, but a simple shift
in limbs could result into those configurations in the
Kama Sutra. You may already be doing “Position # 8”
without knowing it.

But more than that, seemingly innocent limb

placements do affect the dynamics of thrusting, and
therefore, the resulting sensations. Leg configurations
affect how your penis approaches her vagina, even
the nature of the stroke itself. It’s not just for the sake of
pose variety; it carries consequences that modify
shape, size, depth and tightness of the vaginal barrel
because internal changes take place in consonance
with those leg movements.

For example, every time a woman brings her legs

together and brings both her knees to her chest, like in
a fetal position, she’s actually shortening and
tightening her vaginal barrel. Thrusting in this position
results in maximum penetration. The position is therefore
advised for gentlemen with tiny weiners. This way, his
penis feels bigger and longer in a shortened, tightened
and tensed vaginal barrel.
Conversely, the knees-to-the-chest thing is not prudent
for men with massive members. Theirs will just drive
straight into her cervix, and that’s way too intense for
comfort. Not good.

“THE LADDER” illustrates how a woman’s legs play out

variations in MOT. This is where Eve raises her legs into
different heights during intercourse. For example, she
may start off by having legs resting on the bed, spread
and slightly bent on the knees. As her partner religiously
shoves into her center, she may then raise a limb or two
and rest it on his thighs, just below his butt. She may go
higher and rest it on his waist, just above his butt. The
guy can also raise it higher by holding them up with his
arms, or placing them either on his chest, shoulders and
even his forehead.

Each alteration has a slightly different feel for Adam

and Eve. With this alone, you can have a dozen sexual
variations easy, all it took was moving Eve’s limbs to
different heights.

II. PELVIS

Just as minor shifts in limbs create different sensations,

simple adjustments of the pelvis also bring distinct
delights. This is caused by the change in how the penis
approaches the vagina. As said before, the penis can
penetrate the vagina in different angles and sexual
variations align the thrusting & receiving pelvises in
different ways.
Did you notice in “The Ladder” example, how Eve’s
pelvis gradually tilts up? Every time she RAISES or
LOWERS her pelvis, she changes the angle of entry –
causing different vaginal areas to be targeted.

In the same manner, a man LEANING BACKWARDS OR

FORWARDS while inside a woman varies the tension
between his erect penis and the vagina. (Twitching his
rod while inside also has the same effect, but to a lesser
degree.)

Try doing this in MOT. While inside, try leaning back.

DON’T SIMPLY ARCH YOUR BACK, bring your pelvis into
the lean and really lean back. Notice how this affects
the tension on your thing, and feel how it now points to
a slightly different zone inside. (Eve will definitely feel
this change in angles.)

To create variations in the MOT & Rear Entry Series:

· MAN LEANS FORWARD OR BACKWARD

· WOMAN RAISES OR LOWERS HER PELVIS

To create variations in the WOT Series:

· MAN RAISES OR LOWERS HIS PELVIS

· WOMAN LEANS FORWARD OR BACKWARD

The idea here is for the couple to move their pelvises

around, experiment, even gyrate them sideways or in
circles, and find that specific angle that leads to
greatest enjoyment.
Applying the concept of pelvic realignment, an easy
way of maintaining a raised pelvis in MOT is by placing
a pillow or two underneath Eve’s buttocks. The
padding makes for deeper and easier penetration by
angling her pelvis in such a way that facilitates
thrusting.

C. Transitional Thinking

Being flipped like a patty or hurled like a log could lead

Eve to think that she’s with a nasty brute... not the sexy
kind.

But Adam probably doesn’t wish for her to think that

way. He just might not be the impersonal and
indifferent jerk she figures him out to be. It’s just that he
needs to understand transitional thinking.

This is where movements seamlessly flow into a single

waltz, where sexual positions don’t constitute quick and
blatant maneuvers, but blend one to the next. By
transitioning, we’re making all physical rearrangements
almost an afterthought, so the couple find themselves
in positions without really knowing how they got there.

The whole session becomes one smooth dance of two

acquiescing bodies.

Ok. But why bother with transitions in the first place?

That’s a good question! Many couples don’t even see

the point, for they can just as easily rearrange
themselves without the fuss of any transition. You can
flip a woman from Missionary to Doggie without her
feeling manhandled or disrespected. So why go
through the inconvenience when there’s obviously a
faster and easier way?

The reason really is not so much the MOVEMENT, as it is

the MOMENT.

When a couple breaks SEXUAL TRANCE and interrupts

the moment in order to change sexual positions, they
become conscious of variables nothing to do with sex.
(Extraneous stuff like noise outside the bedroom etc.)
There’s something so unnatural and distracting when
instead of being into each other, a couple abruptly
stops all the kissing-caressing-and-grinding, to change
sexual positions.

Merely saying, “Get on your back,” can bring the lady

out of the sexual trance and breaks the natural flow of
pleasure. It’s like being in the middle of a steamy
encounter, everything going well, and Eve suddenly
says, “Wait here, I’m gonna check on my e-mail.”

Great sex is when you get lost in the heat of things,

when everything, including space and time, fades
away. It’s really not the correctness of positions or the
arrangement of limbs, but the pleasure of the moment.
Transitional Thinking protects the sexual bubble so the
couple can proceed to different positions without
coming out of the sexual trance.

How is that possible?

Here are the 5 keys for transitions:

5 Transition Keys
1) Little Steps & Slow Moves

This is a review of the progression and transition

principles we’ve studied a few chapters ago.

It will always be about baby steps that continuously

add up. Even Mother Nature follows this dictum – you
don’t see her transforming day into night in the blur of
an instant. She does so progressively and continuously
from dusk ‘til dawn... one second at a time.

When transitioning, get in FLOW and avoid quick,

hurried, abrupt moves. Unless you are toying with the
dominance theme, don’t hurl bodies and toss limbs. For
the transitions to feel natural, they have to be slow and
almost imperceptible. You can actually lead her into
positions without her knowing how.

Shock & Awe doesn’t always get you shock and awe.
The difference between going fast and going slow may
be just a few seconds, but the difference in pleasure is
significant. This will not mean much to the goal-oriented
fellow, but for the process-loving lady, it will make for a
wonderful change of pace.

(2) Kiss and Caress to the desired direction.

Transitioning from MOT into Doggie for example, set a
trail of kisses towards the broad of her back, and caress
her in the direction of the turn. These things signal Eve
to orient her body to the desired sexual position. If she
feels you trying to plant kisses on her back, she will
expose it. That serves as your transition to Doggie.

Kisses and caresses are the glue that keeps your

transitions together. Without them, you’re simply
moving limbs around. With scrumptious kisses and
enthralling caresses, you’re making the movements
barely noticeable.

(3) Keep your bodies close when executing the

turns.

If you wish to transition from WOT to MOT, simply do the

Hug & Turn. Hugging keeps your bodies close so that
when you turn, your weight adds to the momentum.
Lots of mattress maneuvers are executed this way. This
is not a violent scheme to bulldoze the lady –
coordinated with kisses and caresses; this is an efficient
way to lead the sexual dance.

(4) Talk Small

Verbalizing what you want to happen is the simplest

way to transition. It cuts through all the crap and
informs her, “Hey, this is what’s going down.”
If ever you’re opening your mouth as a transition tool,
do it in low volume and in bits and pieces. Think of it as
giving directions one small action at a time.

Just like you’re moving in little steps, you’re also talking

in “little steps”. For example, if you wish to go from Side-
To-Side to MOT, you might gently rotate her on her
back and tempt her with a, “Let me take it from here.”
Get to a stable MOT position. Then you might want to
kiss her gently on the forehead, drop your lips to one of
her ears and whisper, “Spread your legs... Close your
eyes.”

Give verbal directions in bits and pieces.

(5) Do not transition against the ‘flow’.

In transitions, one works with flow, the movement

becomes an afterthought.

Your gut will tell you if you’re working against the flow.
The movements will feel forced or coerced, and you
will sense the woman’s hesitation. For example, when
Eve is going for a different position, do not fight her by
executing a transition of your own – it can be like a
wrestling match before you get what you want. More
essential than leading and jostling for control, is being in
sync with your partner. You’re working with her, not
against her.
Those are the 5 keys to transitioning that allow the
preservation of the sexual bubble you and your partner
are enjoying.

OK. Before we boogie onto a new chapter, here’s a

recap of the mindsets used to approach sexual
configurations:

(1) 360 Thinking

(2) Leg & Pelvic Thinking and
(3) Transitional Thinking.

They cover all possible sexual variations and negate

any need to memorize individualized thrusting positions.

Moving on. After a few minutes of the sexual dance,

both of you are bound to cum. In the next chapter, we
talk about reaching eventual climax and tackle
orgasm issues: Hers and Yours.
Chapter 12
Those Nagging
Orgasm Issues

HER ORGASM
Thrusting and grinding your merry way thru the MOT
series, suddenly, Eve enters into panic mode. She was
now moaning a little louder and breathing a bit
heavier. Beads of sweat mushroomed all over her skin
and her eyes looked frightingly delirious. She ceased
passively receiving your strokes and became more
involved in grinding herself on you. Her words were very
agreeable as she cried, “Yes, yes, uh-huh, YES!”

Lo and behold, she’s about to cum (...or faking it.)

For such situations, here are some things to remember:

When she says “Don’t Stop!” – she means it. Continue

your groove. When a woman nears climax, it means
you’re doing something right – so CONTINUE DOING
WHAT WORKS! Don’t make the mistake of stopping too
soon. Terminating stimulation at the very moment she
needs it the most, could cancel her orgasm like a
falling deck of cards. The male equivalent of getting
great head, but just when you’re about to cum, Eve
pulls your unit out her mouth, stands up and leaves.
How would you like that?
Follow through and thrust past the last orgasmic
contraction... or until she throws you off her or yells
“Stop!” Don’t worry, you’ll definitely know when she’s
done. She’ll go down that panic mode, and with a
fulfilled look, start catching her breath. (If she’s a
habitual multiple orgasmer, continued stimulation will
usher her into another peak.)

What If She Never Cums By Penetration Alone?

A log inside feels wonderful, but climax could still be a

lost cause. A great number of women will need more
than a hard stick to get them swinging to the big “O”.
And to a clueless poker owning a huge penis, the
situation becomes a sexual puzzle, he thinks to himself,
“If we were in porn, she would be screaming by now!”

Here’s the thing. If penetration, even if it involves

clitoral, G-spot or sweet spot action doesn’t get to her,
then your only recourse is through oral or manual
means. For a lot of women, this is the only way – there’s
no shame in that. An orgasm won via the hand, tongue
or toy, is by no means inferior.

When She Fakes It...

Eve is sexiest during those precious few seconds when

she cums. But, did she REALLY... or was it something
else?

Here’s news for you – if you’re not a virgin, chances are,

you’ve been faked a couple of times. You can accept
that and be a little easy on yourself, or you can
continue on the path of denial. “Oh, she came man, I
swear she really did!”.

Whatever!

I’m saying that IT happens and you most probably

have been an unwitting recipient – that’s just how the
cookie crumbles. A lot, and I mean A LOT of women
fake pleasure and orgasms, they’ve done it for
millennia, and they’re quite excellent at it. They own it!
They own the character, and have all the moans,
whines and pelvic thrusts down to an art. They know
exactly how to flutter those dreamy eyes – all in the
name of “Let’s get this over with.”

Oh, those women! They deserve an Emmy on a nightly

basis. ($200 says you’ve fallen for it a few times.)

Of course, men play a part in this grand conspiracy.

With their lame moves and misguided notions of great
sex, how can guys expect Eve to cum? And it doesn’t
take much effort from a tired woman to make any
Adam believe he’s the king of the world. I mean, how
hard is it to ooohh and ahhhh? Even a drunken,
demented kitty can do that. Women are amazed at
how easy it is to fool guys, most can’t tell the difference
between a screaming elephant and a faking woman.

Not only that it’s easy, the motivation for faking is pretty
high. Imagine a sleepy woman, with a numb vagina,
expecting to drive two hours across state for a big
meeting first thing in the morning. Think about her
motivations to fake her clueless stud.

She won’t likely school him into an all-night discussion

on how to do her. She’ll simply get into a moaning
routine, a little thrust of the pelvis here and there, a little
swing of her head from side-to-side then BINGO! Some
peace finally.

Granted that it’s so easy, so tempting, and more than

being sleepy & bored, WHY DO WOMEN FAKE IT? Why?

BECAUSE THERE IS PRESSURE ON ALL SIDES TO ORGASM.

First of all, men expect their woman to cum – yes, even

at totally sub-par methods. No matter how shallow it
may be, making Eve reach her peak gives us a sense of
accomplishment. “I made her cum. Ha!”

Failing to do so causes the opposite emotion and strikes

a blow to male ego. He’s lost – no matter what he did,
no matter how hard he tried, it seemed to have no
effect on her. In our “Who’s Your Daddy?” world where
men bet their masculinity not only on the number of
women they bag, but on the number of orgasms they
give, Eve’s climax can be a pretty big deal.

So women, bless their souls, fake to protect men’s egos

– especially for the man they care about and the man
who pays the bills. The choice to fake is easy to make.
They want their man to feel like The Man. As one
woman would comment, “Men like it when they think
they’re in control.”
But this is no altruistic act.

WOMEN ALSO FAKE FOR THEIR SAKES. Besides the fact

that they want the poking to end, and their heads
have nudged the headboard too many times to recall,
women also bet their femininity on orgasms.

When she fails to climax, she not only blames his tiny
wiener but also her defective equipment. Why couldn’t
she cum? Something must be wrong with her! Women
could easily blame their bodies, treating it as if they
have an anatomical problem. “My clit must have been
broken from overuse during my early years.”

So she fakes it – not only for the man but also for her
sake. There are in fact times when she doesn’t know if
she really came or not. It felt good, but it wasn’t a
definitive orgasm, she wasn’t sure. “I sort of came.”
When this happens, she often consciously decides that
she did indeed came, and so leave both the man and
herself secured.

SO, HOW DOES ONE AVOID GETTING FAKED?

If you’re asking for a definitive method so you can be

1000% sure that your lady came, there is nothing of that
sort. Nobody is under any messianic delusion to make
every woman cum every time, or spot every faker on
the face of this earth.
Sure, there are signs of an orgasming woman. But know
that all these things can be faked, yes, even the very
contractions of the uterine walls.

You can’t avoid getting faked! Quit making it your

night job to catch fakers. If you do catch her, then
what?!

Instead – learn, practice and master how to effect

powerful orgasms. Run with what you’ve learned in this
series and trust that women won’t need to fake with
you. As you develop better sexual skills, you’ll realize
that spotting fakes becomes a useless affair.

The woman has, of course, a say on this – you can only

do so much. If she does fake you, then it’s one less
orgasm for her. She’s got more reasons to worry than
you. But if she’s honest, then you two could begin an
interesting journey of discovery, learning each other’s
ropes. No matter how bumpy the ride is at first, through
clear communication, the ball can start rolling.

As a final word, why don’t you do something very

sensible. STOP TYING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM & MASCULINITY
WITH THE NUMBER OF ORGASMS YOU GIVE. Secure your
self-esteem somewhere else... where it’s more stable,
not tossed to and fro depending on an evening’s
performance.

How ludicrous it is to let one’s sense of worth hang on

something that doesn’t even last more than 20
seconds.
Your Orgasm

Ahhh, this one’s easy.

Remember all those times when I told you to go slow

and gentle? That all goes out the window when you’re
racing for an orgasm. The gloves are off at that point. I
repeat, THE GLOVES ARE OFF!

LET LOOSE. Please. Go ride her full-throttle like you

should. Let her have it. Be wild and free.

Go fast, go hard, take her to the moon and back. This is

your orgasm we’re talking about here. You have been
gentle and considerate; this is the time to let loose all
those bottled up emotions. (Just make sure she’s not
grimacing in pain and her skull isn’t banging against
the headboard – or else you’ll be cumming inside an
unconscious woman.)

You’re a man, and you have needs. Take care of

yourself.

Feast like there’s no tomorrow. Lose yourself, let go of

your inhibitions and don’t worry about how vulnerable
or stupid you might look. Quit staring at those mirrors.
Lose yourself and forget doing it right. Just do it
anyway. When they said that “Sex is Natural”, this is
exactly what they mean.

Even temporarily forget the lady, focus only on you. Be

selfish at this point and suck every drop of pleasure.
Your partner wants you to, she wants you to enjoy
yourself as much as she did.

She wants you to cum, she wants you to cum more

than she wants to cum herself.

And as you near that inevitable point where angels

dare not tread, go faster, go harder, go wilder. Shout,
moan, scream. Wiggle, fidget, writhe and squirm. Thrust
to your heart’s content, thrust ‘til you can’t thrust no
more. Love your thing. Let it in, feed it and let it out.

Be yourself, ‘til everything goes

boom...BOOOM...BOOOM!...WHITE.

And know... that you... have only begun...

 PART FOUR
AFTERPLAY: when dust finally settles...
After the orgasms are cashed in, many think, “That’s
all folks!” Then follows a time-honored tradition that
women and comedians know all too well: He rolls over
and sleeps. Humorous when told as a joke, but not so
funny for the woman wanting more.

There’s nothing wrong with a snoozefest after sex.

Really. For men and women, the #1 antidote for
insomnia is one good climax. Whether it’s achieved
solo or duo, doesn’t matter. It eases physical and
psychological tension and facilitates sleep.

Post-ejaculation, the call to slumber is very real, it’s a

palpable force very difficult to ignore. It’s not because
men are jerks or aren’t least bit interested in cuddling.
Post sex, women should realize that actions that exhibit
disinterest are not necessarily a personal rejection of
them – men are too darn spent after an ejaculation.

BUT, while sleeping is an obviously desirable choice –

you can engage your lady in a satisfying afterplay
bonding session... for reasons just as pleasurable as
snoozing.

The lover who invests in Afterplay understands the big

picture: Women don’t consider sack sessions as
independent from each other. They recall past sexual
trysts and use it to deduce future ones. How you
conduct yourself during AFTERPLAY has carry-over
effects on the next time you get laid. Do it right and
you bring yourself 3 steps closer to the next lay.
Conversely, act like a dog and you could get slammed
with a long-lasting booty embargo.

A smart man like you should invest time in strengthening

that bond between you and your partner, she’ll repay
your heroic efforts in ways you could never anticipate.
Chapter 13
The Afterglow
The most interesting moments in a guy’s life take
place immediately after he cums. Those minutes after
ejaculation are his truest moments. After all, he already
got into her pants and got the action he wanted. The
dick-tator, after an explosion of white liquid, has gone
timid and silent. No more taunting cries of, “Use me in
the next 2 minutes or you’ll never see me hard... ever
again!”

This is the Afterglow, when all penis-induced noise finally

dies down and man is able to think straight and look
respectable once again. It’s a tension-free existence.

The True Mark of An Afterplay Genius

Q: What can you do with those Afterglow moments?

A: Take her on a ‘DATE’.

I don’t mean you get up, put on some fancy suit and
take her to the most expensive restaurant.

Let me ask you instead, “What do you do on these so-

called ‘dates’?”

I bet you isolate the lady and prey her with your wit and
charm. You talk about the most interesting things. You
play “20 Questions” and throw her the most interesting
queries. You have this battery of jokes stolen from Leno,
prepared in case there’s a lull in the conversation. You
have stories about your most embarrassing moments
and your most amazing achievements – all schemed to
plant seeds in her mind and make her think, “Wow, this
guy is something else!”

Well... treat Afterglows like a date!

It doesn’t matter if it’s with your wife of 30 years or your

new bride. The Afterglow is in fact a mini-date, an insta-
date that unravels then and there, without the pretense
of nice dresses and Armani suits. It’s the date that truly
matters since you’ve already gone where all men dare
go – so now, let’s see what you’re made of.

Go take her on a date. You can easily be your amazing

self when you’ve got no agenda, no getting lucky
scenario running in your head.

Have fun! You don’t even have to leave the room for
this one. You can simply open the windows for
example, gaze outside, throw stones at passersby or
count red cars. Act like the two of you are on a freakin’
date!

Turn on the TV, while cuddling, laugh at the lamest

shows that made it to television. Open the refrigerator,
chow together on whatever non-expired contents you
got. Better yet, prepare quick & easy meals just as you
would if you were trying to get into her pants.

Listen to soft music, take her hand and dance to the

groove. Or make prank calls. Get into role-playing
games and wear costumes. Plan for new fetishes.
Engage her in witty and charming banter, have great
afterplay conversations. Have fun feeding your stupid
fish. Bring to bed your Barry Manilow collection.

Bring out those stories you’ve been dying to tell her.

Jokes are a hit too. Take your guitar and play
something as she sips your cheap wine.

Now, doesn’t that make you anticipate the Afterplay

instead of dread it?

I’m sure by now, you already have a mental list of

Afterglow specials. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing it in
your place, a hotel room or anywhere, just have fun.

(These post-cum events are still part of your game, by

the way. This is NOT Post Game, as most guys would
have it. Many don’t play it this far.)

DO YOU REALLY HAVE TO GO ON THESE DATES?

Nope, you’re not required to be nice to her and

engage on these activities. Dates are suggested
because they’re fun...

...AND because you’ll never know...

You’ll never know what’s coming next, there’s a

possibility for more rounds. After cumming, women
don’t return to a pre-aroused state but to a pre-
orgasmic one. She can still have several climaxes after
her last blow. She can have them relatively quickly, and
the more she has, the more intense they can become.

This orgasmic potential lurks inside, she may look

peaceful and satisfied, she may even mention she’s
done for the night, but her potential is there.

Besides the benefit of strengthening your bond, these

dates could be used to bridge one erection to another.
It is actually common that you may not even finish or
fully develop a date before you get back at it – and
Afterplay turns into Foreplay.

You may be slow dancing to sensual music one minute,

and sexually harassing each other the next.

Of course, life is not always that perfect and sex that

hot.

You may not even want to turn on the lights and see
the remains of what used to be a beautiful lady, much
less open the possibility for more rounds. If sex isn’t what
it used to be, then the next chapter is earmarked for
you. It contains wisdom on how to keep sex hot and
fresh for the next 100 years!

We now go to the final chapter of this Trilogy.

Chapter 14
Sex For The
Next 100 Years!
Sex is something you’ll be doing for the rest of your life.
It really is.

Maybe not as much when brittle bones and cardiac

complications set in, but it will always be an element of
your existence. Whether it’s vicarious sex or a simple
interlocking of hands with your wife of 50 years, sex
takes a whole lifetime to appreciate.

Here’s the good news: IT GETS BETTER... OVER TIME.

Like wine, huh?

You get better the more you do it. You’ll soon master its
INs & OUTs and will be able to calibrate your woman
down to the most miniscule detail. Similarly, she’ll also
master you, discovering how you want booty served.
As you two get to know each other, sex will spiral up.

Really?! Then why do people tend to spiral the other

way?

For many couples, this is what happens: Sex was good,

no, it was GREAT! They made love like the gods – he
was a god once. They were Eveready bunnies who just
won’t stop. They thought the passion would last
forever... but nobody’s falling for that now.
That was yesterday, viewed through rose-colored
glasses. Today, sex (with that same old hag) has
become boring – almost a drudgery. All they have are
memories of what has been...

...and they are just 27 years old!

What’s up with that? If sex is supposed to get better

over time, then why end up in a rut where it has
become soulless, dead, ho-hum and unexciting?

Sex gets better... over time... UP TO A POINT.

Beyond an optimum point, things start going downhill.

The body cannot realistically maintain levels of brain
chemistry that cause passion to wax hot. The Law of
Averages dictates that over time, all things come back
and plateau on the average. Passion has to simmer
down when the novelty of sex ceases. If it’s all the same
– same partner, same set of boobs, same sexual
positions, same moans – sex will definitely get old.

Chances are, a day will come when you’d rather sleep

than make-love to that fat ogre beside you. There’s no
set time, but it’ll definitely happen. You’ll feel it, she’ll
feel it, you two will definitely feel it. When you hear
things like, “I’m just not as horny as I used to be,” you’re
getting there.

But that’s okay. Things getting old is fine, that’s life.

Nothing is wrong with the idea of sex losing its charm,
it’s your response to this new sexual dynamic that
needs tweaking.
Recognize that when this “up to a point” comes, it only
means A NEW STAGE IN YOUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
HAS BEEN ACHIEVED. This brings with it a new set of
challenges and it’s important that you appropriately
respond to them. It doesn’t mean your run is over, you
don’t need to swear off sex altogether.

Whereas the challenge in the past was getting home in

the least amount of time, your new challenge could be
finding new and exciting ideas to bring into bed.

And that takes work, a lot of work. Not manual labor,

but brain power. You need to don your creative hat for
this. And for many people, the very idea of honing
creativity for sexual purposes is just too much, they’d
rather find someone else new. But in committed, long-
term relationships, it’s not that simple – or wise.

So in the final heat of this Trilogy, we remedy that

lethargy for creativity.

The Birth of A Routine

First, let’s look at how something as wonderful as sex
becomes so pathetic. It has a lot to do with settling
down – settling down to routines and set expectations.
As we said of most sexual relationships, knocking boots
begins hot, hot, hot! Life was good, it was freakin’
good! Then, it kinda gets simply warm – still nice, but not
as hot as before. Then, after some time, sex with the
same person loses much of its initial appeal. It gets
colder and colder. Soon it gets so frigidly cold, nobody
wants to shed their clothes anymore!

One of the suspects could be a routine.

Sex habits and routines aren’t bad in and of

themselves. When utilized properly, they afford stability
in sexual relationships by creating an atmosphere that’s
both familiar and safe. This is the good light of routines.

What’s wrong with doing what you love over and over
in the first place? Your fave sexual positions, even
foreplay mannerisms, all reflect personal preferences –
and you love them because they have worked for you
in the past. Blending them into an evening of pleasure
makes for efficient & effective sex, and proficient &
competent partners... UP TO A POINT.

Trouble begins when, after discovering what works,

couples become one-hit-wonders and stop trying out
other stuff. They become so engrossed with what they
like and get too lazy with the rest. Before you know it,
they’ve been doing the same thing for the last 35
years!

A sex schedule for example, can be helpful, but if it kills

all the spontaneity, then it can also work to your
disadvantage – sex becomes predictable. Routines
make that which is wonderful look so ordinary and
mundane – robbing it of its appeal. Throw in laziness &
apathy and you have a deadly combo.

And here’s the kicker – Routines suit men.

Guys love efficiency and predictability in getting their
ejaculations. But oftentimes, the same can be flat out
disadvantageous for women, so that while a man may
be enjoying a sexual custom, Eve could be harboring a
loathing for it.

Routines, even the good ones, have the tendency to

degrade into its core elements (i.e. Penetration &
Ejaculation). While in the past, it may have worked just
fine, it can degenerate over time. It used to be good
when he used to engage her in finesse foreplay,
penetrated her with gentlemanly flair, and finished her
off with his tongue. (In this context, the routine works for
the couple.) But over time, the kisses, caresses and eye
contacts diminish ‘til they become ancient history.
Now, only penetration and ejaculation elements
remain and what used to be hot and passionate has
gone tasteless and dry.

Beat a routine to death and it will eventually kill your sex

life. Can you now sense a routine’s potential dark side?
But can you also see that you can do something about
it?

Novelty & Creativity: Perfect Anti-Routines

The most powerful aphrodisiac in the world is not a

plate of oysters – it’s NOVELTY. It’s the allure of
something new, something unknown and something
you may never have done before. It’s the freshness of
the unfamiliar, the excitement of not knowing what’s
happening, or the vagueness of it.

It’s the newness of things that make intimate

encounters both exhilarating and refreshing. Do you
know why romantic-scented-candles-and-sensual-
music set-ups work? Because they don’t happen every
night. They require work, so men save them for special
occasions.

Watch what happens when such romantic gestures

happen on a nightly basis. Right! The sweet set-up gets
old, no matter how grand they may be. Suddenly, the
scented candles cease to be so “Awwww”, they
become signs of a gross inability to pay electric bills –
they become routinary.

Routines serve well by keeping us from stumbling in the

dark, but sometimes, human beings need to stumble in
darkness to see the light. Sometimes we need
unpredictability and unfamiliarity in order to feel alive.
Come to think of it, routines don’t really improve our sex
lives, they merely make it stable. “Stable” is usually not
enough, and oftentimes, it gets mistaken for “boring”.

But you should know that falling into some sort of

routine is human nature, everybody yields to it. But just
as everything else, there exists in our nature a
counterpoint that balances our fondness for habits and
stability – that’s our desire for Novelty.
Novelty is the perfect anti-routine. When sex becomes
a stale act, give your vintage moves a rest and bring in
SOMETHING NEW.

This “something” could actually be almost NOTHING.

For you’re not required to radically alter sexual
practices, it just takes little touches to spark erotic
encounters to life. Don’t think extreme, excessive or
extravagant. If you can enrich just a tenth of the
experience, she’ll love it – a single touch technique for
example, can make a huge difference.

This “something” could be ANYTHING – even something

totally unrelated to sex. (And I want you to really open
your eyes for this one.) Just as anything in a room can
be a deadly weapon - telephones, vase, pillow,
keyboard (depends on how you use it and where you
strike), anything can be a sexual weapon. Anything at
all!

For example, a piece of smooth stone may have

nothing to do with sex, but under the hands of a
creative lover... it can do magic.

And so we arrive at the concept of PERSONAL

CREATIVITY.

As always, everything starts in the mind, with YOUR

IMAGINATION. A lot of imagination is rendered next to
useless in this world of comfort zones. You are lounging
everyday, carrying the most exciting and insightful
sexual ideas in your head. Free your imagination, let
your regular thinking patterns, your normal, your usual
take the first beating.

But do it in your own pace.

You and Eve will have that initial hesitation reminiscent

of human beings trying out something new. But that’s
okay. It’s totally understandable, part of the charm
actually. And when it works, it works! If not, then move
on to a thousand other things.

Creativity is the super highway to novelty. It is the blank

check with which new sexual experiences are written.
Creativity looks at a woman’s body in a different way,
frames sex into new exciting perspectives and reveals
avenues and alleys before unnoticed. It diversifies
sexual practices into variations never even thought
probable. And the beautiful thing about it is unfettered
creativity ALWAYS WORKS! It never fails you when you
give it a chance. It keeps trying ‘til it hits pay dirt.
CREATIVITY is innovative, imaginative, artistic and
resourceful.

Let me give you an example. Up next is the last BIG

LESSON in this Trilogy. It has something to do with
perspective innovation. Learning it will enable you
hours, years and decades of fresh and exciting sexual
encounters. Yes, even when it’s with that same
dilapidated “Are you still alive, honey?” you’ve been
doing it with for the past 200 years.
THREE is Always a Party!

Let’s talk threesomes.

Almost every spirited man dreams to have a troika... at

least once. Who wouldn’t want that? It’s twice the
number of breasts and kitty – double the fun! (in your
dreams at least) Unfortunately, and to the dismay of
many, we won’t be talking about that kind of
threesome. (Awwwww!)

I want to talk about something else entirely – a

threesome that involves only 2 people. No need to trek
lesbian bars and hunt for that 3rd member of your act.
This thing needs only 2 mates, the 3rd element is not a
person.

But if you wish to bring back the fire in your rapidly

dwindling sexual relationship, you need to bring this 3rd
wheel to bed. Have this 3rd member and the sexual
possibilities become so logistically incredible that you
can have the balls to say that you never have the
same sex twice. It will always be new, it will always be
fresh – even though you’re with that same old fart. The
3rd element will always make it beautiful for you.

So, what is it?

THE 3RD ELEMENT IS THE TWIST TO REGULAR SEX.

It’s the imaginative element you introduce to the daily

grind that spices up sexual encounters. You’re still the
same, she’s still the same, it’s the twist and how you two
interact with it that makes your sessions an event
worthy of the name sexcapades.

It not only adds another source of pleasure, it distracts

the couple from the sameness that is their love-making
by focusing their attention not on that-same-set-of-
boobies but on something else. The twist provides the
avenue for novelty in spite having the same sexual
partner – which comes in handy for people in long-
term, committed relationships.

The 3rd element can be about anything. Let’s say the

couple decides to make the twist: LOCATION. That is,
they never have sex in the same place or that they
make sure they’ve done it in every corner of their
house, or every bathroom/floor in the building. Or they
vow to do it in every branch of a famous hotel chain
around the country. Some retirees plan their trips so
they make love in every state in the US.

Another example would be the TIME twist, which is

replete with many variations. A couple could set their
timer for 5-minutes, during which they could do
anything they want. But after the 5-minute mark, they
have to drop everything – no matter how orgasmic it is.
It’s a quickie with a time limit! Or they can dare set
personal records for the fastest quickies.

A couple may also decide on different intervals before

they can bump uglies. For example, they can set a 3-
day interval for sex – regardless if they get horny or not
– making them look forward to the day they can have
it. (The interval can be increased or decreased as the
couple sees fit, or they can write different intervals on
sheets of paper, throw them in a hat and draw one.)

The MUSIC twist also presents many variations. A couple

can change their background tunes on a weekly or
monthly basis, knowing full well that the beat to which
they make-love will affect the love-making itself. Sex
accompanied with Beethoven symphonies will be
different from that with Jamaican groove.

As you can see, there is no limit to the elements one

can introduce. And the change in focus from the
partner to the 3rd element doesn’t negatively affect
the relationship since the twist is not a 120 lb. blonde
who lives next door.

In fact, quite the opposite happens, the excitement

brought about by the eroticism of a mutually endorsed
twist rubs on the partner and strengthens the bond.
There’s that feeling of being partners in crime, a certain
“we-ness” developed because “we” are doing
something others are not.

This is SEX WITH A TWIST.

As I’ve said, the 3rd element can be anything –

anything at all. It need not take you to different
locations and can be as simple as: running different
types of fabric on each other’s bodies while
blindfolded. It’s deceptively simple, but when you
actually try it, it’s as if you’re in a different world.

Go with themes, topics and variations that interest you.

The process of coming up with the creative twist is in
itself a very challenging and exciting affair, making for
warm and playful coffee table conversations. If you
can engage your woman and dial-up her anticipation
and desire for it, you’ll have someone who’ll never let
you out of sight.

MORE EXAMPLES
Here are more classic twists for keeping things
interesting.

FOOD
Every once in a while, choose culinary delights to
accompany your intimate enterprise. In the field of
food alone, there’s of myriad things to do – so long as
the couple is not afraid of getting messy. Practically
anything set on a table and served on a plate can be
eaten off the human body. Practically anything a hand
can hold can be fed to your lady.

But don’t feast ‘til the tank’s full, that’ll only make you
sleepy... you might as well forego the sex. In this
context, food exists to tease the senses – not just the
tongue, but also the skin, eyes and nose. Work your
appetite with torrid sex, then eat to your heart’s
content during the Afterplay dates.
Food can get messy, especially if you have food fight in
the agenda. I suggest you buy a special mattress
exclusively for sex play, something that doesn’t absorb
liquid or stain. You can use the ones they have in gyms,
lay it on the floor and you’re good to go – you won’t
have to worry about going to the cleaners in the
morning.

Besides ice, mints, candy, wine, strawberries and

whipped cream, here are other food ideas:

· Chinese food – Work the grease on each other.

This may not be your idea of romance, but who knows,
it might be your idea of fun. It will feel odd initially, but
then you’ll remember how wonderful it was to be in a
sandbox. Play and eat, be a child once again. Finish
the messy affair by lathering each other in the shower.
Get ready for some serious action after.

· Sauces – See how adorable she looks with some

sauce on her face. (Don’t use too much, licking it all off
can be nauseating.) Liquids are mainstays during
foreplay...when penetration is not the main issue.
Getting foreign liquids into the vagina may disturb the
pH balance inside, so be careful not to drip anything in.
Finally, cleaning up is as important as getting messy,
make sure you still approach it with childish fun.

· Fruits – There are messy fruits, there are easy fruits –

take your pick. Consider the issue of seeds, pulp and
flow of juices.
ROLE PLAYING
Pepper your encounters with role playing and themes.

Put on your best acting pants and pretend you are

making love like different couples.

A very big warning though: WHEN THE GAME STOPS,

WHEN IT’S ALL OVER, YOU HAVE TO STOP PLAYING THE
PART – don’t get carried away. Moreover, never hurt,
abuse or threaten your partner – I don’t care what the
role you’re playing is. Keep it light, playful and flirtatious.

Here are classics to get you started:

Doctor & Nurse

Dentist & Assistant
Judge & Lawyer
Boss & Secretary
Rockstar & Groupie
Superstar Athlete & Reporter
Business Tycoon & Frenchmaid

Of course, it can also go the other way and women

can play the dominant role:

Hot Teacher & Naïve Student

Amazon Boss & “Let’s see if you’re really gay” Assistant
Horny Mistress & Pizza Boy
Beauty Queen & Pool Boy
Horny Heiress & Hunky Gardener
Mix & match, and make your own. Try Astronaut and
Alien!

SEX TOYS
There’s a legion of sex aids available in the market
today – some of them will work for you, others are
better off as home decors. But you will find that those
that rub you the right way are really heaven sent.

Toys don’t get tired or think that the kitty tastes awful.
They simply do their job and allow both of you to enjoy
the fruits of their labor. Vibrators and butt plugs don’t
compete with you, they aid in your pleasure and are
on your team. Many get threatened with sex gadgets.
It’s the “Why, am I not enough?” feeling that nips on
the egos of men.

But there’s really nothing to be insecure about. You are

definitely better than any toy – more delightful than
any battery-operated device. Toys might bring her
orgasms, but they are only physical implements devoid
of psychological warmth.

You’re different – you’re a fumbling, sometimes

clueless, ball of fun! So don’t think twice of employing
toys, it’s not cheating. It’s simply admitting to being
human. Face it, you can’t vibrate your tongue or
fingers as rhythmically and tirelessly as any garden-
variety vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
OK – Food, Role Playing and Sex Toys – those are just 3
of the twists that can color your sexual encounters.
There’s a myriad of unexplored, original ideas sitting in
your brain, all you have to do is uncensor them.

Just a few reminders before you get too crazy:

FIVE CAVEATS

# 1 Don’t try to compete with other couples. Do it

for yourselves.

# 2 The twist is merely a means to an end,

introduced to spice up your sessions and not the
goal itself. Focus on PROCESS and avoid getting
lost in your goals.

# 3 The world is full of ideas and stuff that sound

really, really cool in theory... but not in practice.

Many twists don’t fly in reality as much as in the

imagination. So before you go crazy with ideas,
learn to recognize the distinction. When you go
searching for things to do, go for controlled
adventurism. Don’t get stupid... it’s not hot.

# 4 Don’t pursue anything ILLEGAL, IMMORAL

and SCANDALOUS – this is very, very important.
You should be creative enough to find erotic
avenues that don’t carry legal sanctions. You
don’t need to do anything extreme, excessive or
extravagant. The simpler, the better.

# 5 Be considerate of the neighbors. Private

things are private, don’t broadcast to the world
that you are the hottest pair in the block.

You feel me?

This whole series has finally come to a wonderful

end. It’s time to simply wrap it up...
EPILOGUE

It has been a long and exciting journey...so far. We’ve

gone from bitch-slapping men with their most prevalent
sex mistakes, to profiling the attitudes & characteristics
of a Great Lover, to touring the different alleys of the
vulva. We’ve excited the clitoris and hunted for the
elusive G-Spot. We’ve had lots of steamy foreplay and
generated dozens of erotic plow positions.

And finally, we’ve discovered that SEX is as exciting

and as extensive as our imaginations can be. We
haven’t ventured into a definition of it because “SEX” is
soo broad, it can easily encompass everything!

Sex is Life.

Enjoy it – go for your preferences, mix & match, adapt

and adopt to the situation. Go forward, backward,
sideways. Fly, dash, swim or crawl. Be a lover, a follower
and a leader, be strong and gentle, quick and slow. Be
what you want to be, be what you don’t want to be.

Sex keeps us on our toes. We think we have it down

pat... then it surprises us with a curve ball. We love it!
We’ve been given an earthly activity that not only feels
oohhh-so-gosh-darn-good, but something we probably
will never completely figure out.

And that’s certainly good news!

I am honored and grateful to have taken this quest with

you. It is my wish that through this TRILOGY, you have
bettered yourself into a more insightful and inspired
man.

With this grand overflow of insights and tools, I deem

you will never be the same. But don’t think you’ve
already “arrived”. As the cliché goes, This is only the
Beginning. (Don’t you hate it when they say that?)

Take whatever you can and want. Bring it to the next

level. Use the tools & techniques and BLEND, SYNTHESIZE
& FASHION them into a style all your own. You have
been provided with the materials, now... create ART.
Turn it into something more beautiful, more elegant,
more inspiring. Run with it, build on it and improve upon
it. You already have the building blocks... you can still
do sooo much more.

Finally, I want you to know that there is no greater

purpose for this work than to encourage your
appreciation of WOMEN. They are an interesting and
engaging group... very much different from us. But it
doesn’t mean we can’t have crazy fun with them. If this
work has emboldened you to RESPECT and esteem
women, then I shall have the privilege to say “Mission
Accomplished”.
But I suspect that this will not be the last time your eyes
will graze the pages of this Trilogy, (so this is not a “hug
moment” for you and I). Realize that the more you
revisit this text, the purer the lessons will be.

So I’ll see you ‘til your next read.

This is so NOT the end of your journey, my friend...

Michael Webb

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