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 Nick Jonas
When he’s not stealing
scenes in Jumanji: Welcome
to the Jungle (Dec. 20)
or working on the follow-up
album to Last Year
Was Complicated, he’s
busy being a total
smokeshow.

Family
Matters
“Growing up, I was
the one who my
brothers turned to
about relation-
ships, even though
I was younger.
When it came to Learning
sex, I think I asked Curve
them for advice. “If I could go back
Kevin was the [before losing
romantic in the my virginity], I
family. And I’d would probably tell
go to Joe for work- myself that it’s
ing on my game.” important to have
patience. You’re
Clear Signals not going to be a
professional! You’re
“I’ve been single
not going to be
for two and a half
great the first cou-
years now—and
ple of times. Don’t
not for lack of try-
become frustrated
ing to find a person
with yourself. You’ll
I really connect
get better at sex.”
with. When some-
one makes it clear
that they’re inter- Private
ested and they Thoughts
want to meet up to
“Everyone I’ve
have dinner or a
dated would prob-
drink, I think that’s
ably agree that I’m
really attractive.”
a little in my head.
They couldn’t read
me as easily as they
could other people.
But that’s just who I
am. I don’t like to
reveal all my cards.
And I think that’s
actually given me
some strength. I
don’t let emotion
R O WA N D A LY.

drive everything.”

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Why Good Vibes Are
a Secret Weapon
By Tiffany Haddish
You don’t have to look hard to
find negativity in the world
(in fact, these days, it seems
easier than ever). But as some-
one who’s had more than a few
dark moments in her own life,
one of the things I’ve learned
is how to get through seriously
tough shit…and make it out the
other end, smiling. I grew up in
South Central Los Angeles, with a
mother who was mentally unsta-
ble and often violent. I was in fos-
ter care and homeless at times,
and later, I escaped an abusive
marriage. When I think about a
lot of what I’ve been through, it
still hurts. But I have a philosophy
I apply to everything I do in life:
Most of the time, I’m just trying
to have fun. Humor has helped
me not only to survive but to
thrive. Comedy gives me a place
to talk about my painful stuff, to
share it, and to do it in a way that
helps out other people too.
Finding the funny in a situa-
tion isn’t something I naturally
knew how to do. As a kid, it was
a defense mechanism: “If I can
make my mom laugh, she won’t
punch me,” or “If I make these
gangster girls smile, they’re less
likely to beat me up.” In high
school, the hot chick on campus,
Kiki, was messing around with
this football player. One day, he
talked to me on the bus, and she
was like, “I’m gonna beat your
ass!” So I made a whole joke of
ing, “Kiki said she’s gonna beat
me up, y’all!” and acting totally
laughing. Her boyfriend thought
it was hilarious. Even Kiki was
like, “Oh, this girl is crazy. I’m not
going to fight her.”
Comedy became my way to get
through struggles right as they
were happening. I’m not saying
that’s always easy—in fact, some-
times, it feels impossible. When
I was 27, I got married, and my
husband became abusive. I had to
focus so much on just trying not
to die inside. I would pray, medi-
tate, and write like mad, trying so
hard to find the funny. But there
was nothing funny about it. I
played happy music—music that
made me want to dance or that I
remembered from my childhood.
Being able to find light when
I was hurting so badly helped
me hold on to who I was. And
ultimately, that helped me get
out—alive.
There are times when that
approach can save your sanity.
After the presidential election,
I was surrounded by a bunch of
other comedians. We dealt with
it by cracking jokes: “Well, we’re
going to have some material now,
guys!” I had other friends who
C O S M O P O L I TA N J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 8
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end of the world. What are we
going to do?” I was like, “Get
the hell up out of here and learn
to build a hut if you’ve got to!
That’s what you’re going to do.”
Tiffany’s
They would crack up and say, new book,
“Tiffany, stop it! You’re making The Last
me laugh, and this is really seri- Black
Unicorn,
ous!” And I would say, “We’ve is available
got to laugh. Because we’re now from
going to cry otherwise.” Gallery
Books.
I always choose to look at life
that way. Sure, you can cry—but
the opposite of tears is laughter.
Whenever I can, I always
choose to laugh. Who wants to
be around a bitter bitch? I don’t
want to be that chick. And
that’s why I think my life has
turned out as good as it has. No
matter how bad things get,
no matter how dark life seems,
there is a reason for it. There
is a lesson to be learned. You can
S M A L L Z & R A S K I N D/C O N T O U R B Y G E T T Y I M A G E S .
hold on to your light, and you
can feel better. I know, because
I’ve been there, done that, and
I’ll keep on doing it in the face
of whatever comes my way.
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funny!
Confessions

S T R E E T P H O T O G R A P H S : A L L I E H O L LO WAY. C O N F E S S I O N S A N D D AT E S F R O M H E L L M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D F O R C O N T E N T, L E N G T H , O R C L A R I T Y.
“My best
friend, who’s
gay, and I
were super
buzzed and
horny one
night. We
both just
wanted to
make out with
someone,
so we ended up
making out
with each
other in front
of all our
friends. They
recorded it.”
—VALERIE F., 23,
ACCOUNT
COORDINATOR,
NOVI, MI

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