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Sister Nelson
FCS160-01
11 December 2019
dialogue and the differences between them. In my personal experience, people have a tendency
to give monologues when they are trying to explain something important, which does the exact
opposite of what we hope it will. People pay more attention to conversations that they are a part
of, namely dialogues. I realized from this section in chapter 7 that when I think something is
important, I have a tendency to rant about it, and most people won’t listen to me. I need to work
on having conversations with others about those things so that they understand the importance of
them as well. I think that this really relates to the habit in the Covey Guidebook that instructs us
to seek first to understand and then to be understood. I have a tendency to seek first to be
understood, especially when it is a topic that I think is important and cannot wait. However, I
need to listen first and have conversations with others so that I understand the things that are
important to them before I demand that they hear out what is important to me.
I also thought that the section in chapter 7 on “I-messages” and “you-messages” was
extremely important. The textbook explains that “I-messages” focus primarily on the things that
the speaker feels or thinks so that the statements are fact and cannot be misinterpreted as
accusations. On the other hand, “you-messages” are very accusatory and focus primarily on the
things that the other person does that you dislike or disapprove of. I think that this also relates to
the habit of beginning with the end in mind. It is essential to remember what is the most
important and have an eternal perspective when talking to others. This will help to prevent using
words that may hurt other people and damage your relationships, namely “you-messages”
instead of “I-messages.”
In Goldsmith chapter 11, there was a lot of discussion about college students and
stressors in college. According to the text, most of the stress in college comes not from
academics, but from relationships and emotional problems. College students often have their
priorities mixed up and focus on the things that are not really important. This then greatly
contributes to their stress because they feel overwhelmed by the excessive amount of schoolwork
that they leave until the last minute. I think that this relates to the habit in the Covey Guidebook
that recommends that we put first things first. As college students, we need to put the most
important things first so that we have enough room in our schedules to fit in everything we want
and need to do. The Covey Guidebook gives the analogy of putting the big rocks first. When we
do the most important things first, we can get all of the important things done and still have time
to do fun things and enjoy leisure time. These sections were all about prioritizing so that
I also liked the section in chapter 12 of the Goldsmith textbook that talked about
environmental stewardship and conservation of certain natural resources. I thought that the
section on ways to reduce household water use was interesting and important. Reducing the
amount of water in our houses is an easy way to save water and reduce the cost of water for your
household. This also is a way to exercise environmental stewardship without needing to go out
and do something drastic to save the whales. I think that this relates to the habit from the Covey
Guidebook that advises us to think win-win. If we are respectful of the environment and the
resources that we use, we are really creating a situation in which everyone wins.
Citations
FranklinCovey, 2006.
Goldsmith, E. B. (2013). Resource Management for Individuals and Families. Boston: Pearson.