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When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and they feel secure in
your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move
out to reach their highest potential in life.
We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we
give encouragement.
Sometimes our words say one thing, but our tone of voice says
another.
When you make a request of your spouse, you are affirming his or her
worth and abilities. You are introducing the element of choice. This is
important because we cannot get emotional love by way of demand.
A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he was
thinking of me,” or, “She remembered me.”
Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you
can give if your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts.
People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they
themselves have the deepest emotional need.
Don’t make the mistake of believing that the touch that brings
pleasure to you will also bring pleasure to her.
Almost never do two people fall in love on the same day, and almost
never do they fall out of love on the same day. Chapman calls this
“The disequilibrium of the ‘in-love’ experience.”