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Grace Clark

Mr. Brocato

English 117

6 June 2020

In this essay I really want to talk about something that is personal to me. I feel like talking about

something I care about, I am able to do my best writing. I am going to ensure that I double check

all my work so I do not have any run-ons.

Parties, popularity, and “best friends,” the dream of any teenager. A life that is made to appear

perfect to the eyes of a person who does not have it. The belief of most is that if your friends are mean

and make you feel like a nobody it is fine because you have the “dream life.” The kids think your life is a

part every night and to the eye it looks that. However, if you look deeper it is a life full of lies, cheats, and

scandal. Nobody should live a life like this, and most definitely because you just want to appear cool. You

can make your life perfect by just being you and not trying to fit in with everyone who is fake. Having

one very close friend who you can trust more than anyone else will always trump having a bunch of

friends who will have no problem stabbing you in the back any minute.

We should try and look for real connections with people rather than letting us get into random

cliques just to raise our popularity. Being put in a situation where you have more friends it may seem as if

you will have a perfect life however, it is completely the opposite. It only makes you feel worse about

yourself. The people in the group always look for one person who they believe are better than them. They

will try to impress them by being brutally rude and mean to others and even to you.

With a big group, the higher chance of feeling excluded and not unappreciated. If you are all

together at one time, which is very uncommon, smaller groups begin to form inside this one hang out. On

other occasions since it is such a big group, you will not even get invited. This makes you have terrible

thoughts about yourself. You question things like, “Why do they not want to invite me,” “Does everyone

hate me,” “Why am I not good enough.” These are some of the worst thoughts ever and make you feel

like you are not good enough even though you are.
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Although you may feel the worst pain due to your friend groups, there are still aspects that make

these friendships valuable. If you need someone to talk to you know you will always have someone. They

are still your friends and most likely want the best for you, even though they will probably think of

themselves before you. Sometimes in big friend groups they will generally be nice and can also put you

into some of your happiest moods.

A major difference between having one very close friend rather than many friends is one major

key to a healthy relationship, Trust. If you get to know someone and become close with them, you know

you will have all the trust in the world. When you are in a bigger group you most likely are going to try

and fit in. You find who you feel is the person who has the most power and you want them to like you.

You will most likely tell them something in order for them to like you. However, this is how most things

that you would rather not have shared.

What does being popular even mean? Is it having a lot of friends or is it having everyone be

intimidated by you? Popular is a word I hate. Not a good way to describe someone. A word that people

wish they could use as their characteristics, always looking for validation from everyone else even though

they are PERFECT the way they are. That is all anybody wants. Validation and popularity. Nowadays

people have no love for themselves. They are willing to change every single little thing about them just so

other “like them,” or at least pretend to

Everybody is just fake. A word that could be used for their whole life. They can willingly lie to

your face, They will make you feel happy and content and like you are best friends then just like it is

nothing to turn around and talk bad about you. They want the feeling of being wanted. They do not care if

it is the worst people, they just want to feel like they are loved. They do this because of their greediness to

become the most popular. This is for the most self conscious people. Do not become one of these people.

The ones who only want popularity. The ones who will be mean to the nicest people just because they

think they can. Do not be the person who needs everyone else's validation. Just be you because you are

perfect the way you are.

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Reflection:

I feel like I was able to really captivate the meaning of my writing. I really got my word across and

would be able to persuade people. I was able to use more elaborate words that made my writing feel

more persuading. I also was allowed to decrease the amount of run ons which made the writing feel

more fluent.

Thinking Page:

I want to talk about the different aspects of having a big friend group. So I can explain the flaws, after that

I want to put in some real life experiences but not in the way of a story. More like How they will leave

you out