○ Hey everyone.

I am young (24) and there are a lot of crazy

people out there. Even though I have messaged a lot of people that
sound really nice you just never know. What is the best way to met and
is it best to go to his/her home? Help please because I am ready.

○ April 23, 2020 at 3:07 pm#12254

WillFriscoParticipant

Suggest you go to a public place, perhaps to eat [OH WAIT! All

unavailable now] .
Ya, that’s a tough one. Usually I tell ppl to meet in a restaurant with
great lighting, bring a buddy with you, and let another buddy know
where you’re going. There’s nothing wrong with having a chaperone on
the first meetup – it tends to turn off the creeps anyway …

○ April 23, 2020 at 5:23 pm#12257

Jeanne MarieParticipant

Since restaurants are out, maybe the grocery store.

◆ June 17, 2020 at 8:21 pm#12771

Jose Luis MartinezParticipant

Great idea, lets you and I meet ththere ?

○ April 23, 2020 at 6:38 pm#12258

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VickyParticipant

Parking lots work best.

○ April 25, 2020 at 12:59 am#12262

SamParticipant

OK, May. I am so glad you asked this question. I have had several
women that took no precautions during our meetings. And I have had
women that have taken extreme precautions before and during our
meetings. So here are the ideas that I knew about. I hope the women
will chime in with their additions. I tell the women I am meeting to do
this to train them for the real turds that they will likely meet before
finding their perfect one. I want all of you women to do this.
Firstly, if a guy is reticent about you collecting information for your
safety, he isn’t worth sharing phone numbers with, much less intimacy
of any kind. Before arranging a meeting you will need to find a friend
that you send all of his info to. If your friend knows about your love of
anr/abf then he/she needs access to his profile. Most other information
can’t be collected until he arrives to meet you though. When he arrives
you should wait for him and get a picture of his car with the license
plate showing and a close-up of his face and body. His face and body
can be taken while he is walking toward you. He will be smiling BTW.
You can persue other forms of ID but there is a delicate balance
between comfy and being given the third degree. You will have to be
the judge of that.
Send these pics to your friend. Once you do this, every hour you send
your friend a code word. It should be a different one every hour. So you
can send the individual words of a sentence like “To”… (next hour)
“be”… (next hour) “or”… “not”… “to”… “be”. I have had friends that
called their friend during our visit to check on her at intervals. It doesn’t
matter how or when you do most things but have a plan and work it.
Your friend doesn’t need to be anyone that knows about your penchant
for breastfeeding. As far as she is concerned it can be a date.
Ladies, your safety and security is all that matters. There are enough
jitters when meeting a stranger. And the possibility of nursing that a
stranger that night can make it exciting and terrifying. But if some
security is built in to your meeting, you will be so much more comfy
sooner. And when you are more comfy beautiful things tend to happen.
Guys, it is to your advantage to have these safeguards in place. You
 can object and buck against them but it will only make your potential
partner less likely to share anything with you. I tell all my potential
partners before we meet that she will be in complete control over what
we do. If she meets me and decides that I am ugly or homely or my
stories don’t match or I just look scary, she is free to end the evening
right there. I will be disappointed but she is in total control. And her
safety is all that matters. But guys, if you embrace these safeguards
and are a half-decent guy… you will have a partner that is so willing to
rock your world with some beautiful breasts. And I don’t know about
you but that is my favorite kind of rockin’. It will be so amazing… I
promise.

○ April 25, 2020 at 10:40 am#12267

Sweetest milkParticipant

Having gone through a rape/assault situation because I did not

thoroughly check a guy out, trust me when I say it is well worth a little
money to do a background check on anyone you are potentially going
to meet. I suffered 3 broken bones and several days in the hospital.That
amounted to wayyyyyyyyyyyy more than a background check you
could run. Most sites can offer a month of backgrounds for under
30.00.

○ June 14, 2020 at 4:36 pm#12746

Valerie AdkinsParticipant

@Sam thank you for the thoughtful post. It is nice to know that there
are men so understand how important safety is for both parties.

○ June 14, 2020 at 8:31 pm#12747

Daniel J LucasParticipant
 It usually best to meet in at a restaurant or store. Some place that puts
both parties at ease.

◆ June 15, 2020 at 12:20 am#12749

SamParticipant

Well, thank you for your kind words. I hope it helps some of you
precious women. I hope some others have more safety ideas for
you. It is so important.

○ June 15, 2020 at 12:38 pm#12750

Bruce MillerParticipant

We can meet at park or a mail that will be safe then we can talk l send
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○ June 19, 2020 at 10:30 am#12777

Grogman1Participant

Meeting in public areas is always a good idea. Often when purchasing

something off Craigslist we’ll perform the exchange at the sheriffs
parking lot. They have spots just for this purpose. Always has cameras
active. It might be a good place to greet before going to the coffee
house.
 ○ June 19, 2020 at 11:04 pm#12778

Tom SwiftParticipant

I am so glad you put down some very important cautions for both sides
to take with an initial meetings.I just finished with an arrangement with
someone on a dating site I belong too. I found out that the overall plans
were to take my personal information with money. I had been asked to
supply what they wanted and $552,00 for some activity I had been told
about before hand. I protected myself by applying some of these
options and saved much sadness with grief. It would be so nice if
women would protect themselves with the suggestions listed in “how
to meet.” The same protection goes for everyone concerned in one of a
lasting relationship. First off is the the trust that must be established on
both sides. I liked the Idea of meeting in a well lite parking lot with
video camera’s showing what is happening. I personally think no
physical contact should be made by either party so false claims cannot
be made and to protect the innocent. I am a large person, 6’5″ tall and
anyone looking from a distance automatically thinks I am guilty because
of my imposing size, even if I am just reading bibles verse’s or poetry. It
is a terrible thing to feel guilty in a situation even when you have not
done anything wrong. I have 5 daughters. One was raped at a young
age and I know the anguish a father feels when something like this
happens. I have one daughter who has traveled the world and a
blessing upon her trips where nothing harmful happened on her
journeys. My family does not know of my passion for nursing breast
milk except for my ex-wife when my children were small. I live in a small
community that would more than likely exhibit disgust and disdain if my
desires were made public. The damage down to a woman and mother
by being assaulted or even worse is something I find so repugnant.
Every one much be cautious while pursuing ABF activities.

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