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BY STEFFAN HRUBY
J ust after dusk, I entered the sweat lodge with eight naked men in-
cluding my father. I was nine. The lodge was a small, hovel-like tee-
pee made with tree limbs and animal hides, and once inside we circled
around the rock pit and settled down into the dirt. My nude body re-
acted to the hot stones as my eyes might react to the brightness of the
sun, urging me to turn and shrink away. But I was the youngest to
attend one of these men’s retreats and I refused to whine or quit first.
Besides, my father had told me “a good sweat will cleanse the soul,”
and I wanted to feel pure. So I sweated, chanted, and passed the prayer
stick as a small wallow of sweat-mud began to form around my legs. I
even lay down to hug the cool ground, a skinny golden pig.
Presumably, we chanted as Native Americans did, though there
were none among us. A little confused, I crooned self-consciously
along with the group. My father, however, looked pretty serious about
his chanting as his heavy, unshorn head bobbed forward and back tug-
ging at his petite body like a peony, thick with petals, pulling at its
stem on a windy day. I tried to mimic his sincerity by squinting and
letting my jaw go slack in what was probably a hideous, buck-toothed
parody of spiritual intent.
Early that morning, to prepare the evening’s lodge, one of the men
dug a hole and built a birch and oak fire in the pit. Once the fire had
reduced itself to a heap of embers, twelve or fourteen stones the size
and shape of grapefruits were added to the glowing coals and covered
with a heavy, blackened board. It was a warm summer day in Southern
Minnesota, and around an hour before sunset the rocks were removed
from the fire pit and placed into a shallow impression at the center of
the lodge. I’d been in saunas before and outlasted most of the men,
but this was far more intense. The radiating rocks pounded on my
small body. I wanted it to be over. “Breathe,” my father said, noticing.
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The scorched air burned my lungs so I turned toward the leather wall.
“He’s okay,” my father said, responding to the questions put to me.
My father is a doctor.
“I don’t want to leave,” I said.
It didn’t seem to matter that I was so young, but earlier that day
a short, acorn-bearded man had said, “Hey Richard, your kid is great,
but this is supposed to be about men. It’s kind of inappropriate.” We
were at a gathering inspired by Robert Bly’s men’s movement.
“That’s bullshit,” my father said, shaking his head and huffing
around.
Having spent about an hour in the lodge, we finally cast open the
cowhide flap, crowded outside, and ran whooping toward the cold,
black lake. A gentle wind tipped the tall grass as we beat down the dirt
path onto the beach and jumped, dove, or crashed into the water. A
little cold seizure of panic rolled through my flesh.
That night, we held a drum circle. Men toted in bongos, congas, and
djembe drums; African ashiko and Native American hoop drums;
drums with beads, feathers and red pictures of bears and eagles
painted onto the leather. Our drums were made by hand, bought or
borrowed. My father and I built his drum out of a wine barrel from
Stillwater. Over fifty of us played our instruments around a great bon-
fire that night. The rhythms were layered and complex and bounced
around my ribs and addled my brain with pleasure. As bizarre as the
whole experience was, I totally got it—the vitality and the brilliance
of it, the surrender and the vivid calm. In a crescendo of intoxication,
some man would leap inside the fire circle. Blown, black smoke would
shift around the fire as he danced wildly, waved his arms, clapped his
hands, and kicked up his feet. Once his movements slowed, he’d be
reabsorbed into the circle like a stranded, flopping fish thrown onto the
beach by a wave then picked up by a second. It was all beautiful and
strange and perfectly normal.
I was raised New Age. In the early eighties, by the time I was six
or seven, my parents’ fascination with Eastern religion began to ex-
pand into astrology, crystals, and UFOs (my little sister still insists
she was abducted by aliens when she was six). I went to the Minne-
sota Waldorf School where we studied Greek myths as if they were
real, celebrated pagan holidays, and had festivals dedicated to angels
and saints. And while I might have known God variously as the Great
Spirit, Thor, Yahweh, or the Force—as a child, I believed it all. I be-
lieved I could channel Krishna’s warrior energy while practicing yoga
in the rose garden. I believed space aliens would save the chosen hu-
mans from the forthcoming nuclear apocalypse and that my family
would definitely be amongst the chosen. I believed in the power of
crystals, vegetable juice, and saying OHHHHMMMM. I believed the
soul could be cleansed during a sweat lodge, that it brought me closer
to “Mother Earth” and therefore to the animals in the forests, which I
dearly loved. And when told my power animal was a snake, my aura
was gold, and St. Francis was my guide in the spirit world—I believed
that, too.
I am my own tradition. And like so many New Agers before me, I
borrowed and took from religion what I wanted and called it my own.
From Buddhism, I took compassion; from Judaism, critical thought;
from Hinduism, the yoking of mind and body; from UFOs, weapons.
I know my father and others like him speak this way from a per-
spective of compassion and helpfulness. I am also aware some people
find this approach comforting. It gives them hope because healing is
believed possible through faith and self-insight. But what if it doesn’t
work? Then we suffer doubly, body and mind.
I believe in life and that all living things die. And like Bertrand Rus-
sell, “I believe that when I die I shall rot, and nothing of my ego will
survive.” I believe the spark of life was chemical and chance. I believe
all living things, whether ferns, armadillos, or human beings, evolved
and were not designed. I believe any God who would create a world
in which one of its creations must hunt, kill, chew, and digest another
of its beautiful and perfect creations is either vicious or indifferent.
I believe morality is based on empathy, reciprocal altruism, kin se-
lection, and disgust—not the laws of God. I believe most, if not all,
religious feeling will be explained by neuroscience and evolutionary
psychology. I believe God without evidence is like a shadow without
a body or light.
I was around twenty-five when I became an atheist and haven’t
waivered these twelve years. I mourned my many imagined gods, my
magic world and childish devotions, but I have remained firm. So why
do these hang-ups and weird reflexive habits of mind cling to me?
Why do I still think in terms of karma, chakras, and Mind-Body medi-
cine? Such superstitions are a stain on my pure atheism.
I’d never seen so many New Agers in one place before and Kim-
berly seemed perfectly at home. Kimberly embodies New Age in a
way I’d never before witnessed. There’s all the usual stuff—crystals,
yoga, swimming with dolphins to absorb their spiritual energy—but
it wasn’t until meeting Kimberly that I learned psychics take many
forms and that Kimberly takes most of them. Angels and mysterious
voices speak to her. She’s a medical intuitive. She tells the future, com-
municates with animals telepathically, and reads people’s thoughts.
Kimberly is a cult unto herself and seems to accept only those who
share her lifestyle and believe she is magic.
I am not that person. I’m the jeering hyena, she the spiritual fawn.
It’s true—I’m quite furry and have a self-conscious, sneering smile in
pictures, while she is petite like a tiny wood elf and looks like Celine
Dion. But when I met Kimberly I empathized with her New Age magi-
cal illusions. I could feel them squirming in my bones like psychedelic
worms, but also like old friends.
Sedona and I had a similar relationship, though briefer and more
intense. Everyone was walking around grinning and looking enlight-
ened and talking about Mayan astrology in that proud, come-join-us
way some Christians talk about finding Jesus. I was just like this, I
thought to myself in horror. I felt humiliated. How could I have been
so brainwashed? But even then I could feel my old magical illusions
squirming. Suddenly I wanted to drop peyote in the desert to conjure
a spiritual vision. And every time I saw a familiar tarot deck or piece
of Native American jewelry, I’d remember something from my child-
hood. My mind seemed to fracture like a kaleidoscope as pieces of my
old self lit up and twisted away.
This must be what a Christian feels like walking into a church, I
thought to myself. That’s when I had my first real insight into New
Age atheism. As New Agers we didn’t have a formal gathering place
or bible, and there wasn’t a central religious figure like Jesus or Mo-
hamed. We were free to explore any religion, but amongst those who
called themselves New Age, there was definitely an undefined spiri-
tual confederacy. I’d grown up believing I was spiritually free and that
New Age was an alternative to religion. But it wasn’t until Sedona that
I realized the obvious truth—NEW AGE IS A RELIGION.
“Soylent Green is people!” I wanted to yell, feeling disillusioned
and alone in my dark knowledge.
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